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PRO ACTIVE<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n Translated by:\u00a0\u00a0HAI DUC TRAN<\/strong><\/p>\n Nhi\u1ec1u l\u1ea7n ch\u00fang ta kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 gi\u1ea3i th\u00edch \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c l\u00fd do xung \u0111\u1ed9t gia \u0111\u00ecnh, \u0111\u1eb7c bi\u1ec7t l\u00e0 khi c\u1ea3 hai ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u1ec1u\u00a0 t\u1ed1t v\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng v\u01b0\u1edbng v\u00e0o r\u01b0\u1ee3u,thu\u1ed1c, kh\u00f4ng v\u01b0\u1edbng chuy\u1ec7n b\u00ean ngo\u00e0i, ng\u01b0\u1eddi b\u00ean v\u1ee3\/ch\u1ed3ng, c\u1ea3 hai th\u1ef1c h\u00e0nh t\u00f4n gi\u00e1o m\u1ed9t c\u00e1ch chu\u1ea9n\u00a0 x\u00e1c, vv . C\u00e1c v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 li\u00ean quan t\u1edbi m\u1ed9t VAI TR\u00d2 XUNG \u0110\u1ed8T. \u0110i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00f3 x\u1ea3y ra th\u01b0\u1eddng xuy\u00ean h\u01a1n ch\u00fang ta\u00a0s\u1eb5n long th\u1eeba nh\u1eadn. (Th\u1eadm ch\u00ed v\u1edbi b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n ch\u00fang ta.).<\/p>\n Cho d\u00f9 ch\u00fang ta th\u00edch n\u00f3 hay kh\u00f4ng, c\u00f3 m\u1ed9t s\u1ed1 ti\u00eau chu\u1ea9n m\u00e0 ch\u00fang ta ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0m theo. Ti\u00eau chu\u1ea9n ch\u00fang ta\u00a0 mong \u0111\u1ee3i c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 v\u1ec1 c\u00e1 nh\u00e2n, gi\u1eefa c\u00e1c nh\u00e2n v\u1edbi nhau, v\u0103n ho\u00e1, truy\u1ec1n th\u1ed1ng, v\u00e0 ngh\u1ec1 nghi\u1ec7p. C\u0169ng c\u00f3 qu\u00e1 nhi\u1ec1u ti\u00eau chu\u1ea9n kh\u00e1c. Ng\u01b0\u1eddi ta mong ch\u00fang ta \u0111i theo m\u1ed9t s\u1ed1 c\u00e1ch th\u1ee9c c\u1ee5 th\u1ec3, h\u00e0nh x\u1eed theo m\u1ed9t s\u1ed1 c\u00e1ch c\u1ee5 th\u1ec3 ,theo m\u1ed9t s\u1ed1 ph\u01b0\u01a1ng th\u1ee9c c\u1ee5 th\u1ec3, \u0111i\u1ec1u l\u1ec7 v\u00e0 t\u1eadp qu\u00e1n. Ch\u00fang ta c\u0169ng \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c mong \u0111\u1ee3i l\u00e0m theo vai tr\u00f2 c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng hay ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef c\u1ee5 th\u1ec3 . N\u00f3i chung, c\u00e1c ti\u00eau chu\u1ea9n r\u1ea5t r\u1ed9ng v\u00e0 mu\u00f4n m\u1ea7u v\u00e0 s\u1ef1 \u0111a d\u1ea1ng\u00a0 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c ch\u1ea5p nh\u1eadn, nh\u01b0ng \u0111\u00f4i kh\u00ed c\u00f3 m\u1ed9t s\u1ed1 b\u01b0\u1edbc n\u1eb1m ngo\u00e0i c\u00e1c chu\u1ea9n m\u1ef1c m\u00e0 m\u1ecdi ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111ang b\u0103n kho\u0103n. M\u1ed9t s\u1ed1 \u0111i tr\u1ec7ch h\u01b0\u1edbng c\u1ee5 th\u1ec3 t\u1eeb nh\u1eefng chu\u1ea9n m\u1ef1c th\u00f4ng th\u01b0\u1eddng c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 l\u00e0m cho nhi\u1ec1u ng\u01b0\u1eddi b\u0103n khoan n\u00f3i chung, ho\u1eb7c th\u1eadm ch\u00ed cho nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi trong gia \u0111\u00ecnh, nh\u01b0 v\u1ee3 ch\u1ed3ng.<\/p>\n Ch\u00fang ta xem trong v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 \u0103n m\u1eb7c. N\u1ebfu m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng m\u1eb7c qu\u1ea7n t\u00e2y s\u1ebd coi l\u00e0 ho\u00e0n to\u00e0n b\u00ecnh th\u01b0\u1eddng. Qu\u1ea7n \u0111\u00f3 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 c\u00f3 nhi\u1ec1u m\u1ea7u s\u1eafc, nh\u01b0ng kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3\u00a0 ch\u1ea5p nh\u1eadn t\u1ea5t c\u1ea3 c\u00e1c m\u00e0u. B\u1ea1n xem ng\u01b0\u1eddi ta c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 ph\u1ea3n \u1ee9ng th\u1ebf n\u00e0o khi ch\u1ed3ng c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n khoe b\u1ed9\u00a0 qu\u1ea7n m\u00e0u h\u1ed3ng t\u1ea1i v\u0103n ph\u00f2ng. N\u1ebfu \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng m\u1eb7c v\u00e1y s\u1ebd t\u1ea1o ra s\u1ef1 \u1ed3n \u00e0o kinh kh\u1ee7ng. M\u1eb7t kh\u00e1c , ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 v\u1eadn v\u00e1y ho\u1eb7c \u0111\u1ea7m ho\u1eb7c b\u1ed9 sari trang ph\u1ee5c c\u1ee7a\u00a0 \u1ea4n \u0111\u1ed9)hay qu\u1ea7n v\u00e0 t\u1ea5t c\u1ea3 s\u1ebd \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c coi l\u00e0 ph\u00f9 h\u1ee3p v\u1edbi ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef.<\/p>\n B\u00e2y gi\u1edd ch\u00fang ta h\u00e3y xem tr\u01b0\u1eddng h\u1ee3p trong gia \u0111\u00ecnh. N\u1ebfu m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi ch\u1ed3ng ngh\u0129 r\u1eb1ng m\u00ecnh s\u1ebd \u1edf nh\u00e0 v\u00e0 ch\u0103m s\u00f3c con c\u00e1i, trong khi ng\u01b0\u1eddi v\u1ee3 \u0111i l\u00e0m. C\u01a1 h\u1ed9i\u00a0 x\u00edch m\u00edch\u00a0 ch\u1eafc ch\u1eafn t\u0103ng l\u00ean kh\u00f4ng s\u1edbm th\u00ec mu\u1ed9n. S\u1ef1 an h\u00f2a m\u00e0 c\u00e1c c\u1eb7p v\u1ee3 ch\u1ed3ng \u0111\u00f2i h\u1ecfi s\u1ebd\u00a0 s\u1edbm bi\u1ebfn m\u1ea5t. T\u1eeb s\u00e2u th\u1eb3m,t\u1eadn trong tr\u00e1i tim b\u1ea5t k\u1ef3 ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng n\u00e0o \u0111\u1ec1u\u00a0 c\u1ea7n bi\u1ebft r\u1eb1ng m\u00ecnh l\u00e0 tr\u1ee5 c\u1ed9t ch\u00ednh c\u1ee7a gia \u0111\u00ecnh. T\u1eeb s\u00e2u th\u1eb3m trong tr\u00e1i tim m\u1ed7i ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y r\u1eb1ng c\u00f4 kh\u00f4ng n\u00ean \u00f4m c\u00e1c\u00a0 tr\u00e1ch nhi\u1ec7m c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi tr\u1ee5 c\u1ed9t trong gia \u0111\u00ecnh. N\u1ebfu\u00a0 x\u1ea3y ra s\u1ef1 \u0111\u1ed1i ng\u01b0\u1ee3c v\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 l\u00fd do h\u1eefu h\u00ecnh n\u00e0o c\u00f3 gi\u00e1 tr\u1ecb, nh\u01b0\u00a0 \u1ed1m y\u1ebfu, b\u1ec7nh t\u1eadt, vv vai tr\u00f2\u00a0 xung \u0111\u1ed9t \u0111ang c\u00f3 d\u1ef1 tr\u00f9. M\u1ed9t s\u1ed1 ng\u01b0\u1eddi\u00a0 gi\u1ea3 v\u1edd r\u1eb1ng kh\u00f4ng s\u1edbm th\u00ec mu\u1ed9n s\u1ebd c\u00f3 nh\u1eefng \u0111i\u1ec1u kh\u00e1c th\u01b0\u1eddng v\u00e0 ph\u1edfn ph\u01a1.\u00a0 T\u00ecnh tr\u1ea1ng ph\u1edfn ph\u01a1 s\u1ebd b\u1ecb x\u00f3i m\u00f2n\u00a0 v\u00e0 sau \u0111\u00f3 vai tr\u00f2 xung \u0111\u1ed9t s\u1ebd \u0111\u1ef1\u01a1c l\u1eadp tr\u00ecnh. Khi m\u1ecdi th\u1ee9\u00a0 thay \u0111\u1ed5i, x\u00e3 h\u1ed9i c\u0169ng thay \u0111\u1ed5i v\u00e0 thay \u0111\u1ed5i\u00a0 nh\u1eefng h\u00ecnh th\u1ee9c vai tr\u00f2 xung \u0111\u1ed9t m\u1edbi c\u0169ng l\u1ed9 di\u1ec7n . Ch\u00fang tr\u1edf n\u00ean th\u01b0\u1eddng xuy\u00ean h\u01a1n. M\u1ed9t trong nh\u1eefng l\u0129nh v\u1ef1c nh\u01b0 v\u1eady l\u00e0 do s\u1ef1 ti\u1ebfn b\u1ed9 v\u1ec1 ngh\u1ec1 ghi\u1ec7p v\u00e0 h\u1ecdc v\u1ea5n c\u1ee7a c\u00f4 g\u00e1i v\u00e0 ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef ng\u00e0y nay. \u0110\u00e2y l\u00e0 th\u1eddi cao tr\u00e0o nh\u1ea5t c\u1ee7a s\u1ef1 ch\u1ec9nh s\u1eeda s\u1ef1 b\u1ea5t b\u00ecnh \u0111\u1eb3ng.\u00a0 B\u00ean c\u1ea1nh \u0111\u00f3, d\u00f9 sao h\u1ecdc t\u1eadp ho\u1eb7c th\u0103ng ti\u1ebfn ngh\u1ec1 nghi\u1ec7p cho c\u00e1c em g\u00e1i v\u00e0 ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0 x\u1ea5u , nh\u01b0ng ch\u1ec9 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 c\u00f3 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c s\u1ef1\u00a0 h\u00e0i h\u00f2a gi\u1eefa c\u00e1c h\u00ecnh t\u1ee9 gi\u00e1c sau:<\/p>\n 1)\u00a0 C\u00e1ch suy ngh\u0129 m\u1edbi\u00a0 v\u00e0 c\u01a1 h\u1ed9i b\u00ecnh \u0111\u1eb3ng chu\u1ea9n .<\/p>\n 2) C\u00e1ch suy ngh\u0129 c\u0169 v\u00e0 c\u00e1ch c\u00f4 l\u1eadp nh\u1eefng n\u0103m g\u1ea7n \u0111\u00e2y.<\/p>\n 3) B\u1ea3n ch\u1ea5t c\u01a1 b\u1ea3n c\u1ee7a nam v\u00e0 l\u1ef1a ch\u1ecdn \u01b0u ti\u00ean c\u1ee7a n\u1eef gi\u1edbi.<\/p>\n 4) Quan \u0111i\u1ec3m ri\u00eang, c\u00e1 t\u00ednh, nh\u1eefng k\u1ef3 v\u1ecdng v\u00e0 ham mu\u1ed1n.<\/p>\n Trong l\u0129nh v\u1ef1c h\u1ecdc t\u1eadp v\u00e0 th\u0103ng ti\u1ebfn ngh\u1ec1 nghi\u1ec7p c\u1ee7a c\u00f4 g\u00e1i v\u00e0 ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef c\u00f3 c\u01a1 h\u1ed9i c\u00f4ng b\u1eb1ng. H\u1ecd c\u0169ng c\u00f3\u00a0 kh\u1ea3 n\u0103ng\u00a0 nh\u01b0 \u0111\u1ed3ng nghi\u1ec7p nam. Nh\u01b0 v\u1eady,h\u1ecd c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 th\u1ef1c h\u00e0nh c\u00f9ng m\u1ed9t ngh\u1ec1 v\u00e0\u00a0 th\u0103ng ti\u1ebfn c\u00e0ng nhi\u1ec1u, kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 s\u1ef1 kh\u00e1c bi\u1ec7t trong thu nh\u1eadp. \u0110i\u1ec1u n\u00e0y c\u00f3 kh\u1ea3 n\u0103ng cho \u00edt nh\u1ea5t hai d\u1ea1ng vai tr\u00f2 g\u00e2y c\u0103ng th\u1eb3ng\u00a0 gi\u1eefa v\u1ee3 ch\u1ed3ng.<\/p>\n 1) C\u1ea3m gi\u00e1c c\u1ee7a\u00a0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng\u00a0 l\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c\u00a0 \u201ct\u00f4n tr\u1ecdng\u201d \u0111\u1ea7y \u0111\u1ee7. Ho\u1eb7c, \u00edt nh\u1ea5t\u00a0 b\u1eb1ng c\u00e1ch so s\u00e1nh v\u1edbi nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi c\u00f9ng \u0111\u1ecba v\u1ecb kh\u00e1c\u00a0 c\u00f3 \u0111\u1ee7 \u0111i\u1ec1u ki\u1ec7n t\u1ed1i thi\u1ec3u cho v\u1ee3,anh ta c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y m\u00ecnh kh\u00f4ng nh\u1eadn \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c \u0111\u1ee7 \u201cgi\u00e1 tr\u1ecb qu\u00fd tr\u1ecdng.\u201d V\u00ec v\u1eady, b\u00ed m\u1eadt, ho\u1eb7c \u00edt nh\u1ea5t l\u00e0 im l\u1eb7ng , \u0111\u00f3 l\u00e0 s\u1ef1 c\u0103ng th\u1eb3ng. \u0110i\u1ec1u c\u0103ng th\u1eb3ng n\u00e0y s\u1ebd s\u1edbm hay mu\u1ed9n \u1ea3nh h\u01b0\u1edfng c\u00e1 t\u00ednh c\u1ee7a anh ta.<\/p>\n 2) C\u00e1c b\u00e0 v\u1ee3 \u201cc\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y\u201d m\u00ecnh\u00a0 kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 kh\u0103 n\u0103ng k\u00edch th\u00edch s\u1ef1\u201dT\u00f4n k\u00ednh\u201d\u00a0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng m\u00e0 c\u00f4 \u0111\u00e3 l\u1eadp gia \u0111\u00ecnh,\u00a0 l\u1ea1i c\u00f3 c\u00e1c y\u1ebfu t\u1ed1 so s\u00e1nh. C\u00f4 c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y nh\u1eefng c\u00f4 b\u1ea1n\u00a0 kh\u00e1c c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh\u00a0 c\u00f3 h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac hi\u1ebfm hoi \u0111\u1ec3 t\u00f4n tr\u1ecdng ch\u1ed3ng c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd v\u00e0 bi\u1ebft h\u1ecd c\u00f3 m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi n\u00e0o \u0111\u00f3 \u0111\u1ec3\u00a0 \u201ct\u00f4n tr\u1ecdng.\u201d V\u00ec v\u1eady, c\u00f4 n\u00e0y c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y c\u00f3 m\u1ed9t c\u1ea3m gi\u00e1c b\u1ecb \u201ct\u01b0\u1edbc \u0111o\u1ea1t\u201d\u00a0V\u1edbi c\u1ea3m gi\u00e1c b\u1ecb t\u01b0\u1edbc \u0111o\u1ea1t n\u00e0y l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t c\u1ea3m gi\u00e1c thi\u1ebfu s\u1ef1 l\u00e3ng m\u1ea1n. Suy ngh\u0129 c\u1ee7a c\u00f4 kh\u00f4ng t\u1eadp trung v\u00e0o nh\u1eefng g\u00ec m\u00e0 c\u00f4 v\u00e0\u00a0 ch\u1ed3ng c\u1ee7a c\u00f4 \u0111ang c\u00f3 (v\u00e0 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 c\u00f3), nh\u01b0ng nh\u1eefng g\u00ec l\u00e0 thi\u1ebfu<\/strong>. M\u1ed9t ch\u00fat\u00a0 thi\u1ebfu \u0111\u00f3 th\u00f4i l\u00e0m c\u00f4\u00a0 \u0111au \u0111\u1edbn r\u1ea5t nhi\u1ec1u. V\u00ec v\u1eady, c\u00f4 \u1ea5y c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y m\u00ecnh b\u1ecb d\u1ed3n v\u00e0o ch\u00e2n t\u01b0\u1eddng gi\u1eefa hai l\u1ef1a ch\u1ecdn t\u1ed3i t\u1ec7, \u2013 ho\u1eb7c b\u1ecf vi\u1ec7c v\u00e0 c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y \u0111au kh\u1ed5 do thi\u1ebfu ngh\u1ec1 nghi\u1ec7p, ho\u1eb7c, gi\u1eef\u00a0 vi\u1ec7c l\u00e0m v\u00e0 c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y \u0111au kh\u1ed5 v\u00ec thi\u1ebfu s\u1ef1 l\u00e3ng m\u1ea1n.<\/p>\n Thay v\u00e0o \u0111\u00f3 l\u00e0 s\u1ef1 ngh\u00e8o kh\u1ed5.<\/p>\n – C\u00f4 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 hy v\u1ecdng, ho\u1eb7c ti\u1ec1n c\u00f4 ki\u1ebfm \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c, s\u1ebd cho ph\u00e9p c\u00f4 \u0111\u1ea1t \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c \u201cS\u1ef1 t\u00f4n tr\u1ecdng th\u1ecfa\u00a0 \u0111\u00e1ng\u201d trong th\u00e0nh t\u1ef1u s\u1ef1 nghi\u1ec7p v\u00e0 h\u1ecdc t\u1eadp c\u1ee7a con m\u00ecnh, m\u00e0 hy v\u1ecdng s\u1ebd v\u01b0\u1ee3t qua m\u1ee9c \u0111\u1ed9 th\u00e0nh t\u00edch c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh. V\u00e0 con c\u00e1i s\u1ebd t\u1ea1o ra \u0111\u1ef1\u01a1c c\u00e1i \u201cgi\u00e1 tr\u1ecb t\u00f4n tr\u1ecdng.\u201d<\/p>\n Ho\u1eb7c<\/p>\n – T\u00ecm ra nh\u1eefng \u0111i\u1ec1u kh\u00e1c \u0111\u1ec3 s\u00f9ng b\u00e1i.<\/p>\n Do v\u1eady, ng\u01b0\u1eddi ta ph\u1ea3i c\u00f3\u00a0 \u0111\u1ee7 th\u1eddi gian \u0111\u1ec3 xem x\u00e9t vi\u1ec7c n\u00e0y, v\u00e0 t\u00e1c \u0111\u1ed9ng k\u00e9o d\u00e0i h\u01a1n. V\u00e0 th\u1eadm ch\u00ed quan tr\u1ecdng h\u01a1n l\u00e0\u00a0 l\u00e0m th\u1ebf n\u00e0o h\u1ecd c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 \u0111\u01b0\u01a1ng \u0111\u1ea7u v\u1edbi s\u1ef1 Ch\u00eanh l\u1ec7ch.<\/p>\n M\u1ed9t trong nh\u1eefng t\u00ecnh hu\u1ed1ng \u0111\u00f3 d\u1eabn \u0111\u1ebfn xung \u0111\u1ed9t vai tr\u00f2 l\u00e0:<\/p>\n C\u00f3 r\u1ea5t nhi\u1ec1u l\u0129nh v\u1ef1c nh\u01b0 v\u1eady l\u00e0\u00a0 xung \u0111\u1ed9t vai tr\u00f2 trong h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n, v\u00e0 n\u00f3 kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 li\u1ec7t k\u00ea h\u1ebft, h\u00e3y th\u1ea3o lu\u1eadn m\u1ed9t m\u00ecnh v\u1ec1 b\u1ea5t c\u1ee9 m\u1ed9t trong s\u1ed1 ch\u00fang m\u1ed9t c\u00e1ch chi ti\u1ebft. Nh\u1eefng \u0111i\u1ec3m ch\u00ednh l\u00e0 \u0111\u1ec3 bi\u1ebft r\u1eb1ng xung \u0111\u1ed9t vai tr\u00f2 l\u00e0\u00a0 ngu\u1ed3n ti\u1ec1m n\u0103ng c\u1ee7a h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n c\u0103ng th\u1eb3ng Xung \u0111\u1ed9t vai tr\u00f2 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 b\u1eaft \u0111\u1ea7u t\u1ea1i b\u1ea5t k\u1ef3 \u0111i\u1ec3m n\u00e0o trong th\u1eddi gian t\u00f9y thu\u1ed9c v\u00e0o nh\u1eefng\u00a0 tham s\u1ed1 \u0111\u00e3 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c thay \u0111\u1ed5i, ho\u1eb7c t\u1ef1 m\u00ecnh ho\u1eb7c v\u1edbi v\u1ee3 \/ ch\u1ed3ng. D\u00f9 l\u00e0 thay \u0111\u1ed5i\u00a0 t\u1ed1t hay x\u1ea5u \u0111\u1ec3 t\u1ea1o ra xung \u0111\u1ed9t. S\u1ef1 th\u0103ng ti\u1ebfn c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c coi l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t thay \u0111\u1ed5i t\u1ed1t, tu\u1ed5i gi\u00e0, s\u1ee9c kh\u1ecfe ho\u1eb7c b\u1ecb b\u1ec7nh c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c coi l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t trong nh\u1eefng thay \u0111\u1ed5i t\u1ed3i t\u1ec7. Trong khi, s\u1ef1 thay \u0111\u1ed5i th\u00e1ch th\u1ee9c vai tr\u00f2 tr\u1ea1ng th\u00e1i c\u00e2n b\u1eb1ng , t\u1ef1 n\u00f3 kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 s\u1ee9c m\u1ea1nh , n\u1ebfu quan \u0111i\u1ec3m c\u00e1 nh\u00e2n \u0111\u1ef1\u01a1c c\u1ee7ng c\u1ed1, v\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u1ecbnh h\u01b0\u1edbng ti\u00eau c\u1ef1c ho\u1eb7c b\u1ecb \u0111\u1ed3i b\u1ea1i theo v\u1ebft ghen t\u1ef5 , \u0111e d\u1ecda, s\u1ee3 h\u00e3i vv .<\/p>\n Xung \u0111\u1ed9t vai tr\u00f2 th\u1eadm ch\u00ed c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 x\u1ea3y ra tr\u01b0\u1edbc khi k\u1ebft h\u00f4n . Ch\u00fang ta h\u00e3y xem x\u00e9t c\u00e1c giai \u0111o\u1ea1n. Nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi\u00a0 tr\u1ebb hi\u1ec7n \u0111\u1ea1i c\u00f3 h\u00e0ng t\u00e1 c\u00e1c\u00a0 em\u00a0 v\u00e0 ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef\u00a0 qua t\u1ea5t c\u1ea3 nh\u1eefng n\u0103n th\u00e1ng\u00a0 h\u1ecdc t\u1eadp\u00a0 v\u00e0 m\u00f4i tr\u01b0\u1eddng l\u00e0m vi\u1ec7c. H\u1ea7u h\u1ebft trong s\u1ed1 h\u1ecd c\u00f3 \u1ea3nh h\u01b0\u1edfng v\u00e0 kh\u1ea3 n\u0103ng b\u00ecnh \u0111\u1eb3ng nh\u01b0 \u0111\u1ed3ng nghi\u1ec7p nam gi\u1edbi. K\u1ebft qu\u1ea3 l\u00e0, t\u1eebng b\u01b0\u1edbc m\u1ed9t n\u1ec1n v\u0103n h\u00f3a b\u00ecnh \u0111\u1eb3ng \u0111\u1ef1\u01a1c h\u00ecnh th\u00e0nh. Ngay c\u1ea3 s\u1ef1 t\u00f4n tr\u1ecdng trong\u00a0 th\u1ebf gi\u1edbi l\u00e0m vi\u1ec7c, t\u00f4n tr\u1ecdng \u00fd ki\u1ebfn kh\u00e1c, ki\u1ebfn th\u1ee9c k\u1ef9 thu\u1eadt, k\u1ef9 n\u0103ng, hi\u1ec7u qu\u1ea3, \u0111\u1ed9 tin c\u1eady vv Ng\u01b0\u1eddi tr\u1ebb\u00a0 l\u1edbn l\u00ean trong x\u00e3 h\u1ed9i n\u00e0y, s\u1ebd c\u00f9ng m\u1ed9t ti\u00eau chu\u1ea9n v\u00e0 th\u1eadm ch\u00ed nh\u1ea5n\u00a0 v\u00e0o c\u00e1c l\u0129nh v\u1ef1c kh\u00e1c c\u1ee7a cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng. Ch\u00fang ta h\u00e3y xem thanh ni\u00ean c\u1ed1 g\u1eafng ti\u1ebfp c\u1eadn ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef tr\u1ebb nh\u01b0 th\u1ebf n\u00e0o nh\u00e9, trong khi anh ta \u0111ang t\u00ecm ki\u1ebfm m\u1ed9t c\u00f4 d\u00e2u cho m\u00ecnh.<\/p>\n Th\u00f4ng th\u01b0\u1eddng anh ta c\u00f3 ph\u01b0\u01a1ng ph\u00e1p ti\u1ebfp c\u1eadn \u0111\u1ed1i t\u01b0\u1ee3ng nh\u01b0:<\/p>\n B\u1ea1n c\u00f3 th\u00edch t\u00f4i kh\u00f4ng? (Anh ta c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c tr\u1ef1c ti\u1ebfp ho\u1eb7c th\u1eb3ng to\u1eb9t nh\u01b0 v\u1eady. Tuy nhi\u00ean,\u00a0 th\u1ef1c t\u1ebf th\u1eb3ng th\u1eafng c\u00f9ng v\u1edbi rung \u0111\u1ed9ng c\u0169ng c\u00f3 c\u00e2u tr\u1ea3 l\u1eddi.) B\u1ea1n c\u00f3 mu\u1ed1n s\u1ed1ng\u00a0 v\u1edbi t\u00f4i? (L\u01b0u \u00fd nh\u1eefng \u0111\u00e1nh gi\u00e1 cao s\u1ef1 l\u1ef1a ch\u1ecdn v\u0103n phong b\u00ecnh \u0111\u1eb3ng!) Ph\u1ea3n \u1ee9ng \u0111i\u1ec3n h\u00ecnh anh ta\u00a0 nh\u1eadn \u0111\u1ef1\u01a1c c\u00f3 v\u1ebb nh\u01b0 th\u1ebf n\u00e0y: \u201cT\u00f4i kh\u00f4ng bi\u1ebft li\u1ec7u\u00a0 t\u00f4i c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 s\u1ed1ng v\u1edbi anh kh\u00f4ng\u201d, (theo l\u00fd thuy\u1ebft-c\u00f3-nh\u01b0ng m\u00e0), \u201cC\u00f3 l\u1ebd, t\u00f4i n\u00ean suy ngh\u0129 v\u1ec1 n\u00f3.\u201d Tuy nhi\u00ean c\u00e1ch ti\u1ebfp c\u1eadn n\u00e0y r\u1ea5t b\u00ecnh \u0111\u1eb3ng, c\u1ea3 hai \u0111\u1ec1u c\u00f3 rung \u0111\u1ed9ng m\u01a1 h\u1ed3. Anh ta \u0111\u01b0a ra y\u00eau c\u1ea7u v\u00e0 c\u00f4 ta \u0111\u01b0a ra c\u00e1ch\u00a0 tr\u1ea3 l\u1eddi. C\u1ea3 hai c\u00f3 v\u1ebb c\u00f9ng \u0111\u01b0a ra th\u00f4ng \u0111i\u1ec7p ng\u1ea5m ng\u1ea7m r\u1eb1ng, ch\u1eb3ng sao h\u1ebft b\u1edfi\u00a0 th\u1ef1c s\u1ef1 t\u00f4i c\u00f3 quy\u1ec1n. Ngay c\u1ea3 khi c\u00f4 \u1ea5y tr\u1ea3 l\u1eddi, \u201cV\u00e2ng, t\u00f4i th\u00edch b\u1ea1n,\u201d Anh ta s\u1ebd v\u1eabn th\u00edch n\u00f3 nh\u01b0 s\u1ef1 m\u01a1 h\u1ed3. V\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 vai tr\u00f2 trong nh\u1eefng tr\u01b0\u1eddng h\u1ee3p nh\u01b0 v\u1eady l\u00e0 m\u1ed7i b\u00ean kh\u00f4ng nh\u1eadn th\u1ea5y s\u1ef1 khen ng\u1ee3i(h\u1ed3 h\u1edfi) t\u1eeb ng\u01b0\u1eddi kia. H\u1ecd c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y \u0111\u00f3 l\u00e0 hai vai tr\u00f2 T\u1ef1 c\u00f3. H\u1ecd kh\u00f4ng th\u1ef1c s\u1ef1 c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y r\u1eb1ng h\u1ecd c\u1ea7n ph\u1ea3i khen nhau, tr\u1eeb c\u00e1c l\u00fd do x\u00e3 h\u1ed9i. K\u1ebft qu\u1ea3 l\u00e0 cu\u1ed1i c\u00f9ng anh ta c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y c\u00f4 \u1ea5y kh\u00f4ng quan t\u00e2m v\u00e0 b\u0103n kho\u0103n v\u1edbi nh\u1eefng g\u00ec l\u00e0 sai v\u1edbi anh ta.Anh ta bi\u1ebft m\u00ecnh \u0111\u00e3 leo tr\u00ean chi\u1ebfc thang h\u1ecdc th\u1ee9c v\u00e0 ngh\u1ec1 nghi\u1ec7p cao h\u01a1n nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c \u0111\u00e3 l\u00e0m. B\u00ean c\u1ea1nh \u0111\u00f3, anh c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 \u0111\u00e1p \u1ee9ng\u00a0 cho ng\u01b0\u1eddi v\u1ee3\u00a0 t\u1ed1t h\u01a1n r\u1ea5t nhi\u1ec1u so v\u1edbi\u00a0 h\u1ea7u h\u1ebft nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng kh\u00e1c. M\u1eb7t kh\u00e1c, c\u00f4 c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y, trong tr\u01b0\u1eddng h\u1ee3p kh\u00e1c: \u201cVi\u1ec5n c\u1ea3nh c\u00f3 hy v\u1ecdng, nh\u01b0ng c\u00f2n thi\u1ebfu m\u1ed9t s\u1ed1 .\u201d C\u00f4 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 kh\u00f4ng th\u1eadt s\u1ef1 di\u1ec5n t\u1ea3 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c nh\u1eefng g\u00ec c\u00f4 \u1ea5y mu\u1ed1n n\u00f3i l\u00e0\u00a0 \u2018thi\u1ebfu\u2019.<\/p>\n S\u1ef1 suy s\u1ee5p: trong t\u00ecnh tr\u1ea1ng n\u00e0y kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i do\u00a0 qu\u00fd \u00f4ng, v\u00e0 c\u0169ng kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i \u0111i\u1ec1u g\u00ec \u0111\u00f3\u00a0 l\u00e0m cho ng\u01b0\u1eddi ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef tr\u1ebb n\u00e0y\u00a0 kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c\u00a0 b\u00e0y t\u1ecf \u00fd ki\u1ebfn trong s\u1ef1\u00a0 l\u1ef1a ch\u1ecdn\u00a0 c\u00f4ng b\u1eb1ng\u00a0 . Ph\u00eda m\u00ecnh, kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i v\u00ec c\u00f4 e ng\u1ea1i. B\u1ec1 ngo\u00e0i, anh ta th\u1ec3 hi\u1ec7n s\u1ef1 ti\u1ebfp c\u1eadn v\u1edbi s\u1ef1 b\u00ecnh \u0111\u1eb3ng cao v\u00e0 c\u00f4 \u0111\u00e3 ho\u00e0n to\u00e0n trung th\u1ef1c khi tr\u1ea3 l\u1eddi. V\u00ec v\u1eady, xung \u0111\u1ed9t vai tr\u00f2 do \u0111\u00e2u ? Nh\u1eefng m\u00e2u thu\u1eabn\u00a0 \u0111\u01a1n gi\u1ea3n\u00a0 l\u00e0\u00a0 v\u00ec ch\u1eb3ng \u0111i \u0111\u1ebfn \u0111\u00e2u . Ch\u1eb3ng n\u00f3i\u00a0 \u2018C\u00f3\u2019 v\u00e0 c\u0169ng kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0 \u2018Kh\u00f4ng\u2019 t\u00ecnh tr\u1ea1ng l\u00f2ng th\u00f2ng n\u00e0y\u00a0 d\u1eabn \u0111\u1ebfn \u00edt nh\u1ea5t hai \u0111i\u1ec1u\u00a0 th\u1ea5t v\u1ecdng c\u00f3 d\u1ea1ng nh\u01b0:<\/p>\n 1) Th\u1ea5t v\u1ecdng v\u00ec m\u1ea5t c\u00f4ng ti\u1ebfp c\u1eadn. (c\u00f3 kh\u1ea3 n\u0103ng d\u00f9ng m\u1ed9t trong r\u1ea5t nhi\u1ec1u ph\u01b0\u01a1ng ph\u00e1p ti\u1ebfp c\u1eadn kh\u00e1c nhau, h\u1ed9i \u0111\u1ee7 \u0111i\u1ec1u ki\u1ec7n v\u00e0 r\u1ea5t h\u1ea5p d\u1eabn ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef tr\u1ebb).<\/p>\n 2) Th\u1ea5t v\u1ecdng v\u00ec\u00a0 kh\u00f4ng bi\u1ebft cu\u1ed9c t\u00ecm ki\u1ebfm n\u00e0y s\u1ebd k\u00e9o d\u00e0i bao l\u00e2u v\u00e0 v\u1ec1 \u0111\u00e2u.<\/p>\n C\u00e2u h\u1ecfi l\u00e0: \u0110i\u1ec1u g\u00ec \u0111\u00e3 x\u1ea3y ra m\u1ed7i l\u1ea7n? C\u00e2u tr\u1ea3 l\u1eddi l\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng trong tr\u01b0\u1eddng h\u1ee3p n\u00e0y \u0111\u1ec3 \u00fd nhi\u1ec1u v\u00e0o l\u00fd tr\u00ed c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi n\u1eef h\u01a1n l\u00e0 t\u00e2m h\u1ed3n c\u00f4 ta. C\u00e1ch ti\u1ebfp c\u1eadn n\u00e0y \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c g\u1ecdi l\u00e0 \u201d ph\u01b0\u01a1ng ph\u00e1p ti\u1ebfp c\u1eadn giao d\u1ecbch c\u00f4ng b\u1eb1ng.\u201d Ph\u01b0\u01a1ng ph\u00e1p n\u00e0y\u00a0 c\u1ef1c k\u1ef3 ph\u00f9 h\u1ee3p trong kinh doanh v\u00e0 v\u1edbi c\u00e1c giao d\u1ecbch v\u1edbi th\u1ebf gi\u1edbi r\u1ed9ng l\u1edbn. Nh\u01b0ng \u0111i\u1ec1u n\u00e0y kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0\u00a0 t\u1ea5t c\u1ea3 nh\u1eefng g\u00ec ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef mong \u0111\u1ee3i ; c\u00f4 b\u1ecb\u00a0 thi\u1ebfu c\u00e1c c\u1ea5u th\u00e0nh l\u00e3ng m\u1ea1n. V\u00ec v\u1eady c\u00f4 ch\u1ec9 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 x\u1eed l\u00fd c\u00e1c c\u00e2u h\u1ecfi b\u1eb1ng l\u00fd tr\u00ed \u2013 c\u00f4 \u0111\u00e3 kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 m\u00e3 s\u1ed1 t\u1eeb v\u1ef1ng c\u1ea7n thi\u1ebft \u0111\u1ec3 g\u1eedi tin nh\u1eafn xu\u1ed1ng tim c\u1ee7a c\u00f4. T\u00ecnh y\u00eau con ng\u01b0\u1eddi t\u1ed1t \u0111\u1eb9p trong cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng c\u1ee7a c\u00f4 \u1edf t\u1ea1i tr\u00e1i tim. C\u00f4 kh\u00f4ng c\u1ea3m nh\u1eadn \u0111\u1ef1\u01a1c\u00a0 h\u01b0\u01a1ng th\u01a1m c\u1ee7a s\u1ef1 l\u00e3ng m\u1ea1n trong tr\u00e1i tim c\u00f4 v\u00e0 c\u00e2u tr\u1ea3 l\u1eddi c\u1ee7a c\u00f4 l\u00e0 T\u00f4i kh\u00f4ng bi\u1ebft, (v\u00ec c\u00f4 \u1ea5y th\u1eadt s\u1ef1 c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y c\u00f3 \u0111i\u1ec1u g\u00ec \u0111\u00f3 thi\u1ebfu v\u1eafng) c\u00f4 bi\u1ebft l\u00e0 thi\u1ebfu g\u00ec \u0111\u00f3 ngay c\u1ea3 khi c\u00f4 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 kh\u00f4ng bi\u1ebft \u0111\u1ea7y \u0111\u1ee7 \u0111\u00f3\u00a0 l\u00e0 c\u00e1i g\u00ec).<\/p>\n \u1ede \u0111\u00e2y, ch\u00fang ta th\u1ea5y m\u1ed9t t\u00ecnh hu\u1ed1ng c\u1ee7a m\u1ed9t ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef tr\u1ebb, c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 ho\u00e0n h\u1ea3o trong h\u1ecdc v\u1ea5n v\u00e0 th\u1ebf gi\u1edbi ngh\u1ec1 nghi\u1ec7p, nh\u01b0ng, cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng ri\u00eang t\u01b0 c\u1ee7a c\u00f4 v\u00e0 t\u00ecnh y\u00eau cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng c\u1ee7a c\u00f4 v\u1eabn c\u00f2n c\u00f3 m\u1ed9t tr\u1edf ng\u1ea1i v\u1edbi tr\u00e1i tim, v\u00e0 L\u00e3ng m\u1ea1n v\u1eabn l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t ch\u1ea5t r\u1ea5t quan tr\u1ecdng \u0111\u1ed1i v\u1edbi con ng\u01b0\u1eddi c\u00f4. Ch\u00fang ta c\u0169ng th\u1ea5y \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng c\u0169ng b\u1ecb thi\u1ebfu h\u1ee5t \u1edf \u0111i\u1ec3m n\u00e0y th\u1ebf n\u00e0o, kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i do c\u1ed1 t\u00ecnh sao nh\u00e3ng\u00a0 nh\u01b0ng do ch\u1eb3ng bi\u1ebft g\u00ec.<\/p>\n C\u00e2u h\u1ecfi l\u00e0: N\u1ebfu c\u1ea3 hai \u0111\u00e3 qua c\u00f9ng m\u1ed9t qu\u00e1 tr\u00ecnh h\u1ecdc t\u1eadp v\u00e0 ngh\u1ec1 nghi\u1ec7p, l\u00e0m sao m\u1ed9t k\u1ebb l\u1ea1i c\u00f3 nh\u1eefng c\u1ea5u th\u00e0nh l\u00e3ng m\u1ea1n v\u00e0 k\u1ebb kia l\u1ea1i kh\u00f4ng? C\u00e2u tr\u1ea3 l\u1eddi l\u00e0: S\u1ef1\u00a0 l\u00e3ng m\u1ea1n \u0111\u00f3 l\u00e0 c\u01a1 b\u1eb3n trong con ng\u01b0\u1eddi con g\u00e1i v\u00e0 ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef, trong khi \u0111\u00f3 \u1edf \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng\u00a0 l\u1ea1i thu th\u1eadp\u00a0 k\u1ef9 n\u0103ng. S\u1ef1 k\u00edch l\u1ec7 tu\u1ed5i th\u01a1 \u1ea5u\u00a0 kh\u00e1c nhau, v\u00ed d\u1ee5: Con g\u00e1i ch\u01a1i v\u1edbi b\u00fap b\u00ea,\u0111\u1ed3 ch\u01a1i mang t\u00ednh ch\u1ea5t thi\u1ebft b\u1ecb gia \u0111\u00ecnh, nh\u00e0 cho b\u00fap b\u00ea, v\u1edbi c\u00e1c lo\u1ea1i qu\u1ea7n \u00e1o c\u1ee5 th\u1ec3, m\u00e0u s\u1eafc con g\u00e1i. Con g\u00e1i nghi\u00eang v\u1ec1 vi\u1ec7c ch\u01a1i trong nh\u00e0; s\u00e1ng t\u1ea1o n\u00e0y th\u01b0\u1eddng qua c\u00e1c s\u1edf th\u00edch trong nh\u00e0, Con g\u00e1i c\u0169ng s\u1ebd c\u00f3 th\u00f3i quen \u0111\u1ecdc s\u00e1ch trong nh\u00e0 m\u1ed9t c\u00e1ch d\u1ec5 d\u00e0ng h\u01a1n. V\u00e0 con g\u00e1i th\u01b0\u1eddng xuy\u00ean c\u00f3 m\u1ed9t cu\u1ed1n s\u00e1ch c\u00f3 lu\u1ee3ng l\u00e3ng m\u1ea1n k\u00edch th\u00edch m\u01a1 m\u00e0ng , \u0111\u1ec3 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c coi l\u00e0 c\u00f3 gi\u00e1 tr\u1ecb.<\/p>\n M\u1eb7t kh\u00e1c con trai \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c khuy\u1ebfn kh\u00edch\u00a0 s\u00e1ng t\u1ea1o b\u00ean ngo\u00e0i. \u00cdt nh\u1ea5t nh\u01b0 v\u1eady anh ta s\u1ebd kh\u00f4ng ph\u00e1 ph\u00e1ch trong nh\u00e0. Ch\u00fang \u00edt \u0111\u1ecdc s\u00e1ch h\u01a1n v\u00e0 th\u1eadm ch\u00ed\u00a0 nh\u1eefng quy\u1ec3n s\u00e1ch \u0111\u00f3 to\u00e0n l\u00e0 nh\u1eefng c\u00e2u chuy\u1ec7n hoang d\u00e3 v\u1ec1 Cowboys, Hi\u1ec7p s\u1ef9, cu\u1ed9c chi\u1ebfn tranh, c\u00e1c \u0111\u1ed9ng v\u1eadt hoang d\u00e3, s\u00fang, m\u00e1y bay, vv S\u1ef1 s\u00e1ng t\u1ea1o c\u1ee7a ch\u00fang li\u00ean quan nhi\u1ec1u h\u01a1n t\u1edbi vi\u1ec7c x\u00e2y d\u1ef1ng , th\u01b0\u1eddng l\u00e0 \u1edf b\u00ean ngo\u00e0i, v\u00ec n\u1ebfu kh\u00f4ng nh\u00e0 s\u1ebd h\u1ed7n \u0111\u1ed9n. Ch\u00fang\u00a0 c\u0169ng ch\u01a1i tr\u00f2 ch\u01a1i c\u1ee7a con trai, c\u00e1c tr\u00f2 ch\u01a1i ngo\u00e0i tr\u1eddi v\u00e0 ph\u1ea3i gi\u1eef v\u1ecb tr\u00ed c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh v\u00e0 h\u00e3nh di\u1ec7n v\u1ec1 gi\u00e1 tr\u1ecb c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh trong \u0111\u00e1m b\u1ea1n b\u00e8, nh\u1eefng k\u1ebb \u0111\u00e3 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c \u0111\u1ed5 d\u1ea7u v\u00e0 \u0111\u1ed1t ch\u00e1y v\u1edbi nh\u1eefng c\u00e2u chuy\u1ec7n b\u1ecba \u0111\u1eb7t v\u1ec1\u00a0 s\u0103n b\u1eafn v\u00e0 c\u1ea3nh s\u00e1t v\u00e0 nh\u1eefng t\u00ean c\u01b0\u1edbp v\u00e0 c\u00e1c h\u00ecnh th\u1ee9c th\u1eed nghi\u1ec7m\u00a0 s\u1ee9c m\u1ea1nh kh\u00e1c. Ch\u00fang\u00a0 \u0111\u01a1n gi\u1ea3n l\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 th\u1eddi gian \u0111\u1ec3 \u0111\u1ec3 \u00fd t\u1edbi s\u1ef1 l\u00e3ng m\u1ea1n. N\u1ebfu anh \u0111\u00e3 c\u00f3 m\u1ed9t ch\u00fat ngh\u0129 v\u1ec1 s\u1ef1 l\u00e3ng m\u1ea1n,\u00a0 anh ta s\u1ebd ngh\u0129 v\u1ec1 s\u1ef1 coi khinh, nh\u1ea1o b\u00e1ng, hu\u00fdt s\u00e1o v\u00e0 g\u00e1n cho l\u00e0 \u1ebbo l\u1ea3.Th\u1eadt kh\u00f3 \u0111\u1ec3 b\u0103n kho\u0103n r\u1eb1ng kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 c\u1ea3m gi\u00e1c l\u00e3ng m\u1ea1n th\u1ef1c trong anh ta\u00a0 .Th\u1eb3ng th\u1eafn m\u00e0 n\u00f3i, m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e0n tr\u1ebb tr\u01b0\u1edfng th\u00e0nh c\u1ea7n m\u1ed9t\u00a0 cu\u1ed9c hu\u1ea5n luy\u1ec7n h\u1ee3p l\u00fd, n\u1ebfu anh ta, ngay c\u1ea3 d\u1ef1 ki\u1ebfn s\u1ebd nh\u1eadn th\u1ee9c nh\u1eefng k\u1ef3 v\u1ecdng gi\u00e1 tr\u1ecb l\u00e3ng m\u1ea1n ph\u01b0\u1edbc t\u1ea1p c\u1ee7a ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef .Th\u1eadt bu\u1ed3n v\u00ec kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 tr\u01b0\u1eddng h\u1ecdc n\u00e0o \u0111\u1ec3 h\u1ecd c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 t\u1ed5 ch\u1ee9c kh\u00f3a h\u1ecdc\u00a0 \u2018Woo-Manship\u2019 (t\u1ea1m d\u1ecbch ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng \u0111i chinh ph\u1ee5c). V\u00ec v\u1eady, anh ta c\u1ee9 th\u1ebf duy tr\u00ec l\u0129nh v\u1ef1c n\u00e0y trong cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng\u00a0 th\u01b0\u1eddng xuy\u00ean c\u1ee7a minh m\u1ed9t c\u00e1ch l\u01b0u lo\u00e1t. Nh\u1eadn th\u1ee9c v\u1ec1 l\u00e3ng m\u1ea1n kh\u00f4ng ch\u1ec9 c\u00f3 ngh\u0129a l\u00e0 hoa v\u00e0 n\u01b0\u1edbc hoa , l\u1eddi hay, \u00fd \u0111\u1eb9p, nh\u1eefng b\u1ea3n t\u00ecnh ca. N\u00f3 c\u0169ng c\u00f3 ngh\u0129a l\u00e0 s\u1ef1 \u1ed5n \u0111\u1ecbnh trong c\u1ea3 hai lo\u1ea1i, c\u0169ng nh\u01b0 t\u1ef1 n\u00f3. Tin c\u1eady, trung th\u00e0nh, ki\u00ean \u0111\u1ecbnh, quan \u0111i\u1ec3m\u00a0 r\u00f5 r\u00e0ng kh\u00f4ng ch\u1ec9 cho m\u00ecnh, nh\u01b0ng c\u00f4 ta. Ch\u1ea5t l\u01b0\u1ee3ng\u00a0 ph\u1ea3i \u0111i \u0111\u1ea7u, cam k\u1ebft ki\u00ean \u0111\u1ecbnh qua th\u1eddi \u0111i\u1ec3m t\u1ed1t v\u00e0 t\u1ed3i t\u1ec7, trong l\u00fac m\u1ea1nh kh\u1ecfe v\u00e0 b\u1ec7nh t\u1eadt, s\u1ef1 ch\u1ecbu \u0111\u1ef1ng c\u00e1 nh\u00e2n ti\u1ebfp t\u1ee5c cho \u0111\u1ebfn c\u00e1i ch\u1ebft chia l\u00eca h\u1ecd. \u0110\u00e2y ch\u00ednh l\u00e0 \u0111i\u1ec1u nh\u1eefng ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef tr\u1ebb \u0111ang t\u00ecm ki\u1ebfm ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng tr\u1ebb \u0111\u1ee7 t\u01b0 c\u00e1ch.<\/p>\n C\u00f4 ta \u0111ang t\u00ecm m\u1ed9t ai \u0111\u00f3 s\u1ebd n\u00f3i, \u201cAnh s\u1ebd c\u01b0\u1edbi em\u201d: Tr\u01b0\u1edbc ti\u00ean! \u2013 V\u00e0 c\u00e1c c\u00e2u h\u1ecfi: \u201cEm c\u00f3 c\u01b0\u1edbi anh kh\u00f4ng?\u201d Ch\u1ec9 l\u00e0 th\u1ee9 hai: \u0110i\u1ec1u g\u00ec\u00a0 \u0111\u00e3 \u0111\u1ec1 c\u1eadp\u00a0 \u0111\u1ebfn nh\u01b0 l\u00e0 th\u1ee9 nh\u1ea5t v\u00e0 th\u1ee9 hai l\u00e0 vai tr\u00f2 c\u1ee5 th\u1ec3, kh\u00f4ng ch\u1ec9 v\u00ec truy\u1ec1n th\u1ed1ng, nh\u01b0ng v\u00ec \u2018b\u1ea3n ch\u1ea5t c\u1ee5 th\u1ec3\u2019 nhi\u1ec1u h\u01a1n \u0111\u1ed1i v\u1edbi c\u00f4. \u0110\u00e1ng ti\u1ebfc l\u00e0 h\u1ea7u h\u1ebft c\u00e1c nam gi\u1edbi tr\u1ebb ng\u00e0y nay kh\u00f4ng bao gi\u1edd th\u1ec3 hi\u1ec7n r\u00f5 r\u00e0ng v\u1ec1 \u0111i\u1ec3m n\u00e0y. Trong khi v\u00e0i ng\u01b0\u1eddi may m\u1eafn c\u00f3 c\u00e1ch ti\u1ebfp c\u1eadn \u0111\u00fang, m\u1ed9t s\u1ed1 l\u1edbn \u0111\u00e3 c\u1ed1 g\u1eafng m\u1ed9t c\u00e1ch t\u00e0m t\u1ea1m. Nh\u1eefng \u0111i\u1ec1u h\u1ecd th\u01b0\u1eddng xuy\u00ean l\u00e0m nh\u1ea5t l\u00e0, truy\u1ec1n \u0111\u1ea1t nh\u1eefng c\u1ee5m t\u1eeb \u0111\u1ea3o ng\u01b0\u1ee3c tr\u1eadt t\u1ef1. trong nh\u1eefng t\u00ecnh hu\u1ed1ng nh\u01b0 v\u1eady \u0111\u1ec3\u00a0 nh\u1eefng ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef tr\u1ebb l\u1ea1i \u0111\u01b0a ra \u0111\u1ec1 xu\u1ea5t cho h\u1ecd. V\u00e0 hy v\u1ecdng, mong mu\u1ed1n c\u00f4 cho h\u1ecd c\u01a1 h\u1ed9i \u0111\u1ec3 y\u00eau c\u1ea7u cho d\u00f9 h\u1ecd c\u0169ng c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 n\u00f3i s\u1ef1 ch\u1ea5p thu\u1eadn c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd.<\/p>\n \u0110\u00e2y l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t v\u00ed d\u1ee5 \u0111i\u1ec3n h\u00ecnh \u0111\u1ec3 minh h\u1ecda s\u01b0\u00a0 thi\u1ebfu hi\u1ec3u bi\u1ebft c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi trai tr\u1ebb, ngay c\u1ea3 nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi c\u00f3 gi\u00e1o d\u1ee5c ! Anh ta thi\u1ebfu hi\u1ec3u bi\u1ebft v\u1ec1\u00a0 qu\u00e1 tr\u00ecnh t\u01b0 t\u01b0\u1edfng c\u01a1 b\u1ea3n\u00a0 c\u1ee7a tr\u00e1i tim ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef\u00a0 (v\u1ec1 v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 tr\u00e1i tim c\u1ee7a c\u00f4 \u0111\u1ebfn tr\u01b0\u1edbc v\u00e0 l\u00fd tr\u00ed \u0111\u1ebfn sau). Anh ta kh\u00f4ng nh\u1eadn ra r\u1eb1ng \u0111\u00e2u \u0111\u00f3 trong c\u00f4 \u0111ang khao kh\u00e1t, mu\u1ed1n \u0111\u1ea7u h\u00e0ng\u00a0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng m\u00e0 c\u00f4 y\u00eau th\u01b0\u01a1ng.<\/p>\n \u0110\u00f4i khi, l\u00e0 s\u1ef1 kinh ng\u1ea1c tuy\u1ec7t v\u1eddi th\u1ebf n\u00e0o v\u1ec1 nh\u1eefng l\u1eddi b\u00e0i h\u00e1t tr\u1eef t\u00ecnh mang v\u1ec1 nh\u00e0 m\u1ed9t ch\u00fat t\u00ecnh c\u1ea3m c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi kia. D\u00f9ng nh\u1eefng t\u1eeb nh\u01b0 th\u1ebf. \u201c. . Tr\u00e1i tim anh \u0111\u00e3 thu\u1ed9c v\u1ec1 em. . . V\u00e0 linh h\u1ed3n anh \u0111\u00e3 qu\u1ef3 g\u1ed1i. . . \u201cHo\u1eb7c.\u201d. . Anh \u1ea5y \u0111\u00e3 u\u1ed1ng h\u1ebft ly\u00a0 r\u01b0\u1ee3u vang v\u00e0 b\u1ecf c\u1ed1c, t\u00ecm ki\u1ebfm nh\u01b0\u1eddi t\u00ecnh c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh, b\u1ecf ch\u1ea1y tr\u00ean l\u01b0ng ng\u1ef1a. . . \u201d<\/p>\n M\u1eb7c d\u00f9, ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng \u0111\u00e3 vi\u1ebft ra nh\u1eefng l\u1eddi n\u00e0y hay l\u00e0 nh\u1eefng v\u1ea7n th\u01a1 th\u00ec ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng n\u00e0y th\u1eadt\u00a0 qu\u00fd hi\u1ebfm , ngo\u00e0i ki\u1ec3u d\u1ea1ng ch\u00ednh th\u1ed1ng.C\u00f4 g\u00e1i v\u00e0 ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 th\u1ea5y nh\u1eefng t\u1eeb kh\u00e1 say \u0111\u1eafm, trong khi c\u00e1c tr\u00e0ng trai v\u00e0 \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 \u0111\u01a1n gi\u1ea3n l\u1eafng nghe theo c\u00e1ch ng\u1eaft qu\u00e3ng. Ho\u1eb7c h\u1ecd c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 d\u00f9ng k\u1ef9 n\u0103ng\u00a0 c\u1ed1 g\u1eafng s\u1eed d\u1ee5ng c\u00e1c c\u1ee5m t\u1eeb l\u00e3ng m\u1ea1n nh\u01b0 l\u00e0 ch\u1ee7 \u0111\u1ec1 \u0111\u00f9a c\u1ee3t\u00a0 ti\u1ebfp theo c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd. \u1ede m\u1ee9c \u0111\u1ed9 n\u00e0o \u0111\u00f3 ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef mu\u1ed1n chi\u1ebfn \u0111\u1ea5u v\u00e0 chi\u1ebfn th\u1eb1ng. C\u00f4 c\u1ea3m nh\u1eadn \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c ng\u1eeb\u01a1i \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng trong m\u01a1 c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh, (m\u1ed9ng m\u01a1 l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t ph\u1ea7n ti\u1ec1n ngh\u1ec1 nghi\u1ec7p kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 ph\u1ee7 nh\u1eadn c\u1ee7a c\u00f4), c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 nh\u00e0o xu\u1ed1ng, \u0111\u1ebfn, xem v\u00e0 chinh ph\u1ee5c: v\u00e0 sau \u0111\u00f3 l\u00e0m cho c\u00f4 th\u00e0nh\u00a0 N\u1eef ho\u00e0ng c\u1ee7a tr\u00e1i tim m\u00ecnh. N\u00f3 mang \u0111\u1ebfn cho c\u00f4 m\u1ed9t c\u1ea3m gi\u00e1c c\u00f3 gi\u00e1 tr\u1ecb v\u00e0 t\u1ea7m quan tr\u1ecdng. C\u00f4 mu\u1ed1n tr\u1edf th\u00e0nh ng\u01b0\u1eddi y\u00eau c\u1ee7a anh ta, c\u00f4 mong m\u1ecfi anh th\u1ec3 hi\u1ec7n\u00a0 t\u00ednh ch\u1ea5t l\u00e3ng m\u1ea1n theo c\u00e1ch ch\u00ednh th\u1ee9c m\u1ed9t c\u00e1ch kh\u00f4ng m\u1ec7t m\u1ecfi \u201c, v\u00e0 sau \u0111\u00f3 h\u1ecd s\u1ed1ng an vui v\u1edbi nhau m\u00e3i m\u00e3i .\u201d R\u1ea5t ti\u1ebfc l\u00e0 ch\u1eb3ng tr\u00e0ng trai tr\u1ebb n\u00e0o c\u0169ng nh\u01b0 c\u00e1c \u00f4ng ch\u1ed3ng \u0111\u1ec1u kh\u00f4ng nh\u1eadn ra s\u1ef1 t\u1ed3n t\u1ea1i c\u1ee7a n\u00f3, Trong th\u1ebf gi\u1edbi c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 chuy\u1ec7n th\u1ea7n ti\u00ean hay th\u01a1 ph\u00fa . Anh ta \u0111\u1ec3 l\u1ea1i sau l\u01b0ng nh\u1eefng th\u1ee9 \u0111\u00f3 khi gi\u00e1o vi\u00ean c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh\u00a0 \u0111\u1ed5i t\u1eeb c\u00f4 gi\u00e1o sang th\u1ea7y gi\u00e1o .<\/p>\n M\u1ee9c \u0111\u1ed9 l\u1edbn, trung t\u00e2m\u00a0 th\u1ebf gi\u1edbi hi\u1ec7n t\u1ea1i c\u1ee7a anh ta l\u00e0 nh\u1eadn ra t\u00ednh c\u1ea1nh tranh, ti\u1ebfn b\u1ed9, v\u00e0 theo \u0111\u1ecbnh h\u01b0\u1edbng th\u0103ng ti\u1ebfn ngh\u1ec1 nghi\u1ec7p. \u0110\u1ed1i v\u1edbi anh ta \u0111\u1ec3 l\u1ea5y m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi v\u1ee3, anh ph\u1ea3i \u0111\u00e0o \u0111\u1ebdo trong c\u1ea3 m\u1ed9t danh s\u00e1ch d\u00e0i h\u00e0ng c\u00e2y s\u1ed1 , \u201cNh\u1eefng \u0111i\u1ec1u c\u1ea7n ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0m.\u201d Ch\u1eafc ch\u1eafn t\u1eadn trong tr\u00e1i tim m\u00ecnh, anh ta hy v\u1ecdng v\u00e0 mong\u00a0 s\u1ebd t\u00ecm th\u1ea5y t\u00ecnh y\u00eau, m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi v\u1ee3 y\u00eau, con c\u00e1i, ni\u1ec1m vui gia \u0111\u00ecnh\u00a0 vv . L\u00e3ng m\u1ea1n, kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0 l\u0129nh v\u1ef1c m\u00e0 anh ta lu\u00f4n ch\u0103m s\u00f3c. Ch\u1eafc ch\u1eafn, m\u1ed9t s\u1ed1 t\u01b0 t\u01b0\u1edfng c\u0169ng\u00a0 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c trao cho l\u0129nh v\u1ef1c n\u00e0y, gi\u1ed1ng nh\u01b0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi Eskimos c\u00f3 suy ngh\u0129 v\u1ec1 vi\u1ec7c tr\u1ed3ng c\u00e2y sung \u1edf B\u1eafc c\u1ef1c. L\u1ea7n kh\u00e1c, Nam gi\u1edbi\u00a0 th\u1ef1c s\u1ef1 l\u00e0m m\u1ed9t \u0111i\u1ec1u l\u00e3ng m\u1ea1n v\u1edbi\u00a0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi b\u1ea1n g\u00e1i c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd l\u00e0 \u0111\u1ebfn xem c\u00e1c nh\u00e0 m\u00e1y, n\u01a1i s\u1ea3n xu\u1ea5t to\u00e0n m\u00f3c s\u00e1t v\u00e0 r\u0103ng c\u01b0a . Anh ta\u00a0 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 kh\u00f4ng bao gi\u1edd quan t\u00e2m gi\u1ea3i th\u00edch nh\u1eefng th\u1ee9 n\u00e0y\u00a0\u00a0 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c s\u1eed d\u1ee5ng\u00a0 \u1edf \u0111\u00e2u v\u00e0 th\u1ebf n\u00e0o; Anh ta t\u01b0\u1edfng t\u01b0\u1ee3ng ch\u1eafc\u00a0 c\u00f4 g\u00e1i th\u00f4ng minh v\u00e0 l\u00e3ng m\u1ea1n kia\u00a0 \u0111\u01a1n gi\u1ea3n bi\u1ebft v\u1ec1 nh\u1eefng th\u1ee9 n\u00e0y. \u0110\u00e0n \u00f4ng l\u00e0m vi\u1ec7c v\u1edbi m\u1ed9t ph\u01b0\u01a1ng ph\u00e1p ti\u1ebfp c\u1eadn \u201cM\u1ecdi th\u1ee9 \u0111\u1ec1u \u1ed5n\u201d. \u2013 \u201cT\u00f4i \u0111\u00e3 \u0111\u01b0a ra nh\u1eefng vi\u1ec7c n\u00e0y \u2013 H\u1ecd ph\u1ea3i th\u1ef1c hi\u1ec7n \u2013<\/p>\n . \u201c\u0110\u00e2y l\u00e0 s\u1ef1 l\u00e3ng m\u1ea1n c\u1ee7a anh ta. \u201d c\u00f3 v\u1ee3, c\u00f3\u00a0 con c\u00e1i, c\u00f4ng vi\u1ec7c \u1ed5n \u0111\u1ecbnh, xe ho\u1ea1t \u0111\u1ed9ng t\u1ed1t, c\u00f3 th\u1ee9c \u0103n, kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 s\u1ef1 c\u1eb1n nh\u1eb1n \u2013 T\u1ea5t c\u1ea3 t\u1ed1t \u0111\u1eb9p. \u201c\u0110i\u1ec1u n\u00e0y ho\u00e0n to\u00e0n l\u00e0 s\u1ef1\u00a0 l\u00e3ng m\u1ea1n d\u00e0nh cho anh ta, b\u00e2y gi\u1edd anh ta c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 \u00edt nh\u1ea5t c\u0169ng tho\u1ea3i m\u00e1i\u00a0 th\u1ef1c hi\u1ec7n nh\u1eefng s\u1edf th\u00edch c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh\u00a0 v\u00e0 h\u00e3nh di\u1ec7n v\u1edbi b\u1ea1n th\u00e2n trong c\u00e1c tr\u1eadn \u0111\u1ea5u bong ti\u1ebfp theo. \u0110\u00f4i khi anh ta h\u01a1i may m\u1eafn khi t\u00ecnh c\u1edd\u00a0 v\u1ea5p v\u00e0o c\u00f4ng th\u1ee9c v\u1ec1\u00a0 s\u1ef1 l\u00e3ng m\u1ea1n. Anh ta c\u00f3 th\u1ec3\u00a0 th\u00f4ng minh ghi l\u1ea1i\u00a0 nh\u1eefng m\u1ea9u th\u00f4ng tin\u00a0 nh\u01b0: \u201cTh\u00e0nh c\u00f4ng c\u1ea7u \u0111\u01b0\u1eddng.\u201d C\u01a1 may l\u00e0 anh ta ch\u1eb3ng hi\u1ec3u\u00a0 ch\u00fat g\u00ec v\u1ec1 c\u00f4ng th\u1ee9c h\u00f3a h\u1ecdc c\u01a1 b\u1ea3n v\u1ec1 n\u00f3 (v\u00e0 c\u0169ng kh\u00f4ng quan t\u00e2m). Nh\u1eefng c\u00f4ng th\u1ee9c nh\u1ecf n\u00e0y ch\u00ednh l\u00e0 nh\u1eefng t\u1ea5m thi\u1ec7p \u0111\u1eb9p m\u1eaft c\u1ee7a ng\u00e0y L\u1ec5 T\u00ecnh Y\u00eau, S\u01a1c\u00f4la, hoa v\u00e0 nh\u1eefng th\u1ee9 l\u00e0m s\u1eb5n quen thu\u1ed9c. Nh\u1eefng vi\u1ec7c n\u00e0y thu\u1eddng t\u1ea1o ra\u00a0 b\u1edfi\u00a0 qu\u1ea3ng c\u00e1o, \u0111\u00e0m t\u1ebfu v\u0103n ph\u00f2ng , v\u00e0 th\u1eeba h\u01b0\u1edfng t\u1eeb m\u1eb9, c\u00e1c th\u00e0nh vi\u00ean kh\u00e1c trong gia \u0111\u00ecnh v\u00e0 s\u1ef1 nh\u1eafc nh\u1edf\u00a0 kh\u00e1c.Nh\u1eefng c\u00f4ng th\u1ee9c kh\u00e1c li\u00ean quan t\u1edbi\u00a0 \u2018b\u1ed9 nh\u1edb\u2019 nh\u01b0 ghi nh\u1edb ng\u00e0y sinh nh\u1eadt c\u1ee7a\u00a0v\u1ee3, k\u1ef7 ni\u1ec7m \u0111\u00e1m c\u01b0\u1edbi c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd vv R\u1ea5t hi\u1ec7u qu\u1ea3, nh\u01b0ng ch\u1eb3ng l\u00e3ng m\u1ea1n g\u00ec h\u01a1n nh\u01b0 vi\u1ec7c\u00a0 anh\u00a0 l\u01b0u \u00fd v\u1edbi th\u01b0 k\u00fd\u00a0 v\u00e0 nh\u1eafc anh ta khi n\u00e0o th\u00ec\u00a0 g\u1eedi hoa; thi\u1ec7p cho ai v\u00e0 th\u1ea5y r\u1eb1ng n\u00f3 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c th\u1ef1c hi\u1ec7n! anh ta n\u00f3i v\u1edbi c\u00f4 \u1ea5y\u00a0 \u0111\u00e1nh d\u1ea5u v\u00e0o k\u1ebf ho\u1ea1ch\u00a0 trong n\u0103m n\u1ebfu c\u1ea7n thi\u1ebft. . . Sau \u0111\u00f3 anh ta ng\u1ef1 tr\u00ean gh\u1ebf v\u00e0 c\u1ea3m nh\u1eadn t\u1ea5t c\u1ea3 m\u1ecdi th\u1ee9 tr\u00ean th\u1ebf gi\u1edbi hi\u1ec7n \u0111ang trong t\u1ea7m ki\u1ec3m so\u00e1t. S\u1ef1 kh\u00e1c bi\u1ec7t trong qu\u00e1 tr\u00ecnh suy ngh\u0129 l\u00e0 trong khi v\u1ee3 c\u1ee7a \u00f4ng \u0111ang mong \u0111\u1ee3i s\u1ef1 l\u00e3ng m\u1ea1n\u00a0 trong \u0111\u1eddi , anh ta\u00a0 l\u00e0 y\u1ebfu t\u1ed1 l\u1ea5p \u0111\u1ea7y\u00a0 m\u1ecdi l\u1ed7 h\u1ed5ng\u00a0 b\u1ea5t h\u1ea1nh \u0111ang r\u1ec9 ra. S\u1ef1 l\u00e3ng m\u1ea1n t\u1ebf nh\u1ecb nh\u1ecf n\u00e0y, l\u00f2ng y\u00eau th\u01b0\u01a1ng,ch\u00edn ch\u1eafn, ch\u0103m s\u00f3c vv, kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0 nhi\u1ec7m v\u1ee5 kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 v\u01b0\u1ee3t qua. H\u1ecd c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 h\u1ecdc \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c hi\u1ec7u qu\u1ea3 tuy\u1ec7t v\u1eddi, nh\u01b0ng ai s\u1ebd d\u1ea1y. V\u00e0 th\u1eadm ch\u00ed quan tr\u1ecdng h\u01a1n, \u2013 l\u00e0m th\u1ebf n\u00e0o? C\u00e2u tr\u1ea3 l\u1eddi \u0111\u1ea7u ti\u00ean ch\u00ednh l\u00e0 t\u1ef1 ng\u01b0\u1eddi\u00a0 v\u1ee3 l\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi c\u00f3 kh\u1ea3 n\u0103ng nh\u1ea5t s\u1ebd d\u1ea1y v\u1ec1 \u0111i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00f3 v\u00ec ch\u00ednh v\u1ee3 s\u1ebd l\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi th\u1ee3 may ch\u00ednh x\u00e1c nh\u1ea5t nh\u1eefng g\u00ec\u00a0 ph\u00f9 h\u1ee3p v\u1edbi m\u00ecnh.<\/p>\n V\u00e0 tr\u1ea3 l\u1eddi cho c\u00e2u h\u1ecfi\u00a0 th\u1ee9 hai l\u00e0, v\u1edbi t\u00ecnh y\u00eau, Thi\u00ean Ch\u00faa l\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi gi\u00fap \u0111\u1ee1 v\u00e0 h\u01b0\u1edbng d\u1eabn. Nh\u1eefng l\u1ed7i l\u1ea7m\u00a0 th\u01b0\u1eddng\u00a0 l\u00e0 n\u01a1i tr\u00fa ng\u1ee5 c\u1ee7a s\u1ef1 c\u1eb1n nh\u1eb1n v\u00e0 h\u00e1ch d\u1ecbch. c\u1ea3 hai m\u01b0u k\u1ebf v\u00e0 th\u1ee7 \u0111o\u1ea1n n\u00e0y \u0111\u1ec1u mang l\u1ea1i k\u1ebft qu\u1ea3 ti\u00eau c\u1ef1c. \u0110\u00f4i khi\u00a0 \u0111\u1ecdc s\u00e1ch c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 h\u1eefu \u00edch. \u0110\u00f4i khi Rose \u0111\u00e3 \u0111\u1ecdc th\u1ea5y r\u1eb1ng ng\u01b0\u1eddi ch\u1ed3ng t\u1ed1t ph\u1ea3i\u00a0 lu\u00f4n lu\u00f4n kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c qu\u00ean ng\u00e0y k\u1ec9 ni\u1ec7m \u0111\u00e1m c\u01b0\u1edbi, g\u1ea7n nh\u01b0 l\u00e0 c\u0103n b\u1ea3n\u00a0 h\u00e0ng n\u0103m. V\u00ec v\u1eady, c\u00f3 \u0111\u1ef1\u01a1c\u00a0 ki\u1ebfn th\u1ee9c n\u00e0y, c\u00f4 \u1ea5y \u0111\u00e3 l\u00e0m m\u1ed9t s\u1ed1 \u0111i\u1ec1u \u0111\u1ec3 ng\u0103n ch\u1eb7n b\u1ea5t k\u1ef3 r\u1ee7i ro n\u00e0o v\u1ec1 ng\u00e0y k\u1ef7 ni\u1ec7m\u00a0 \u0111\u00e1m c\u01b0\u1edbi c\u1ee7a ch\u00fang t\u00f4i. \u0110\u1ec3 t\u00f4i k\u1ec3 cho b\u1ea1n l\u00e0m th\u1ebf n\u00e0o v\u1ee3 t\u00f4i th\u00e0nh c\u00f4ng m\u1ed9t c\u00e1ch\u00a0 h\u00e2n hoan v\u00e0 \u0111\u1ea1t \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c nh\u1eefng k\u1ebft qu\u1ea3 \u0111\u00e1ng k\u1ec3 trong l\u0129nh v\u1ef1c n\u00e0y.<\/p>\n V\u00ec b\u1ea3n ch\u1ea5t y\u00eau th\u01b0\u01a1ng,\u00a0 khi t\u00f4i c\u00f2n \u0111ang\u00a0 n\u1eeda ng\u1ee7, c\u00f4 n\u00f3i th\u1ea7m nh\u1eb9 nh\u00e0ng , \u201cGreg, H\u00f4m nay l\u00e0 k\u1ef7 ni\u1ec7m \u0111\u00e1m c\u01b0\u1edbi c\u1ee7a ch\u00fang m\u00ecnh \u201d V\u00ec v\u1eady, em bi\u1ebft n\u00f3 ch\u00ednh l\u00e0 th\u1eddi \u0111i\u1ec3m kh\u1edfi \u0111\u1ed9ng\u00a0 c\u01a1 ch\u1ebf l\u00e3ng m\u1ea1n. V\u00e0 t\u00f4i c\u0169ng qua v\u00e0o ph\u00f2ng ng\u1ee7 c\u1ee7a con c\u00e1i v\u00e0 n\u00f3i v\u1edbi ch\u00fang r\u1eb1ng c\u00e1c con ch\u00fac \u201cCh\u00fac m\u1eebng k\u1ef7 ni\u1ec7m L\u1ec5 c\u01b0\u1edbi.\u201d V\u00e0 trong khi nh\u1eafm m\u1eaft\u00a0 nh\u1eefng n\u1ee5 h\u00f4n v\u00e0 l\u1edbi ch\u00e0o c\u1ee7a ch\u00fang nh\u01b0ng thay v\u00ec th\u1ebf ch\u00fang \u0111i qua v\u00e0 \u0111\u1ebfn ch\u00fac m\u1eb9 c\u1ee7a ch\u00fang. V\u1edbi nh\u1eefng b\u00e0i h\u00e1t \u1ed3n \u00e0o huy\u00ean n\u00e1o, qu\u1ef7 x\u1ee9, la h\u00e9t v\u00e0 ch\u00fang tuy\u00ean b\u1ed1 s\u1ef1 ki\u1ec7n trong ng\u00e0y. T\u1ea5t c\u1ea3 b\u1eaft \u0111\u1ea7u ch\u1ec9 v\u1edbi m\u1ed9t c\u00e2u nh\u1ecf b\u00e9. V\u00e0 r\u1eb1ng c\u00e2u \u0111\u00f3 nh\u01b0 ph\u00e9p m\u1ea7u cho c\u1ea3 ng\u00e0y h\u00f4m \u0111\u00f3. V\u00ed d\u1ee5 n\u00e0y ch\u1ec9 \u0111\u1ec3 n\u00f3i v\u1ec1 s\u1ef1 tinh t\u1ebf thay th\u1ebf m\u1ea1nh m\u1ebd so v\u1edbi\u00a0\u00a0 nh\u1eefng ng\u00e0y d\u00e0i ch\u00ea bai, phi\u1ec1n h\u00e0 v\u00e0 r\u1ed1i lo\u1ea1n. C\u00e1ch t\u1ebf nh\u1ecb ch\u00ednh l\u00e0 T\u00ccNH Y\u00caU.<\/p>\n <\/p>\n T\u1eeb khi ch\u00fang t\u00f4i ph\u00e1t hi\u1ec7n ra ch\u00fat m\u1eb9o n\u00e0y, Rose\u00a0 nh\u1eafc t\u00f4i m\u1ed7i n\u0103m v\u00e0o s\u00e1ng L\u1ec5 k\u1ef7 ni\u1ec7m c\u01b0\u1edbi c\u1ee7a ch\u00fang t\u00f4i r\u1eb1ng, h\u00f4m nay l\u00e0 k\u1ef7 ni\u1ec7m \u0111\u00e1m c\u01b0\u1edbi c\u1ee7a ch\u00fang m\u00ecnh. Sau \u0111\u00f3, t\u1ea5t c\u1ea3 s\u1ef1 vui v\u1ebb b\u1eaft \u0111\u1ea7u, v\u00e0 t\u00f4i k\u00eau m\u1ea5y con r\u1eb1ng c\u00e1c con n\u00ean ch\u00fac m\u1eebng k\u1ec9 ni\u1ec7m ng\u00e0y c\u01b0\u1edbi b\u1ed1 tr\u01b0\u1edbc ti\u00ean. Kh\u00f4ng bi\u1ebft l\u00e0m sao, t\u00f4i ngh\u0129 r\u1eb1ng ch\u00fang m\u1ea5t \u0111\u1ecbnh h\u01b0\u1edbng, v\u00ec ch\u00fang v\u1eabn \u00f4m h\u00f4n v\u00e0 ch\u00fac m\u1eebng m\u1eb9 n\u00f3 tr\u01b0\u1edbc ti\u00ean! Ngay c\u1ea3 con ch\u00f3 c\u0169ng b\u1ed1i r\u1ed1i v\u00e0 \u0111i \u0111\u1ebfn b\u00ean c\u1ea1nh gi\u01b0\u1eddng c\u00f4 \u0111\u1ea7u ti\u00ean. Trong m\u1ed9t ch\u1eebng m\u1ef1c n\u00e0o \u0111\u00f3, c\u00f4 \u1ea5y nh\u1eadn \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c \u201d S\u1ef1 th\u00fa v\u1ecb l\u00e3ng m\u1ea1n cho\u00a0 Ng\u00e0y c\u1ee7a c\u00f4\u00a0 v\u00e0 t\u00f4i nh\u1eadn \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c T\u1ea5t c\u1ea3 \u0111\u1ec1u t\u1ed1t \u0111\u1eb9p cho Ng\u00e0y c\u1ee7a t\u00f4i.\u201d<\/p>\n T\u00f4i tin r\u1eb1ng v\u1ee3 th\u1ef1c s\u1ef1 l\u00e0 th\u1ea7y l\u00e3ng m\u1ea1n hay nh\u1ea5t c\u1ee7a ch\u1ed3ng , nh\u01b0ng c\u00f4 \u1ea5y ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0m \u0111i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00f3 t\u1ed1t.<\/p>\n Nhi\u1ec1u n\u0103m tr\u01b0\u1edbc \u0111\u00e2y, trong khi t\u00f4i \u0111\u00e3 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c ti\u1ebfp th\u1ecb gi\u1ea3ng d\u1ea1y k\u1ef9 thu\u1eadt v\u1ec1 ki\u1ec3m so\u00e1t thi\u1ebft b\u1ecb k\u1ef9 thu\u1eadt, t\u00f4i \u0111\u00e3 vi\u1ebfng th\u0103m V\u0103n ph\u00f2ng Hi\u1ec7u Tr\u01b0\u1edfng tr\u01b0\u1eddng Cao \u0111\u1eb3ng, t\u00f4i th\u1ea5y c\u00f3 m\u1ea5y d\u00f2ng vi\u1ebft\u00a0 tr\u00ean t\u01b0\u1eddng. T\u00f4i ngh\u0129 \u0111\u00f3 l\u00e0 b\u1ed9 s\u01b0u t\u1eadp c\u00e1c c\u00e2u n\u00f3i\u00a0 l\u1ed9ng l\u1eaby \u0111\u1ec3 mang l\u1ea1i h\u1ee9ng th\u00fa v\u00e0 tr\u00ed tu\u1ec7. T\u00f4i c\u00f3 nhi\u1ec1u kinh nghi\u1ec7m tuy\u1ec7t v\u1eddi nu\u00f4i d\u1ea1y con c\u00e1i t\u00f4i v\u00e0 trong c\u00f4ng t\u00e1c gi\u1ea3ng d\u1ea1y ki\u1ec3m so\u00e1t c\u00f4ng ngh\u1ec7. T\u00f4i mu\u1ed1n chia s\u1ebb v\u1edbi c\u00e1c quy t\u1eafc h\u01b0\u1edbng d\u1eabn n\u00e0y v\u1edbi b\u1ea1n:<\/p>\n – M\u1ed9t gi\u00e1o vi\u00ean t\u1ed3i th\u00ec hay ph\u00e0n n\u00e0n<\/p>\n – M\u1ed9t gi\u00e1o vi\u00ean d\u1ea1y t\u1ed1t th\u00ec ch\u1ec9 d\u1ea1y th\u00f4i<\/p>\n \u2013 Tuy nhi\u00ean,\u00a0 gi\u00e1o vi\u00ean hay nh\u1ea5t lu\u00f4n truy\u1ec1n c\u1ea3m h\u1ee9ng.<\/p>\n Nguy\u00ean t\u1eafc n\u00e0y\u00a0 t\u1ed1t cho tr\u1ebb em, tr\u1ebb m\u1edbi bi\u1ebft \u0111i, h\u1ecdc sinh, sinh vi\u00ean t\u1ed1t nghi\u1ec7p \u0110\u1ea1i h\u1ecdc, c\u00e1c ch\u01b0\u01a1ng tr\u00ecnh \u0111\u00e0o t\u1ea1o trong nh\u00e0 m\u00e1y . N\u00f3 th\u1eadm ch\u00ed ch\u1ed3ng c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 l\u00e0m \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c, nh\u01b0ng gi\u00e1o vi\u00ean ch\u1ec9 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 l\u00e0m \u0111i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00f3 b\u1eb1ng t\u00ecnh y\u00eau.<\/p>\n M\u1ed9t s\u1ed1 l\u1ea7n, ch\u00fang t\u00f4i th\u1ea5y n\u1ea3n l\u00f2ng k\u1ec7 cho m\u1ecdi vi\u1ec7c. Ch\u00fang ta kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3\u00a0 tho\u1ea3i m\u00e1i ho\u1eb7c kh\u00f4ng t\u00ecm ra c\u00e2u tr\u1ea3 l\u1eddi cho\u00a0 chu\u1ed7i c\u00e1c c\u00e2u h\u1ecfi b\u1ea5t t\u1eadn, ch\u00fang ta \u0111\u00e3 v\u00e0 \u0111ang v\u00e0 s\u1ebd b\u1ecb ch\u1ea5t v\u1ea5n d\u00e0i d\u00e0i. Trong s\u1ef1 b\u1ed1i r\u1ed1i c\u1ee7a ch\u00fang ta, v\u00e0 thi\u1ebfu ki\u1ebfn th\u1ee9c v\u1ec1 cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng v\u00e0 h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n, ch\u00fang ta ra ngo\u00e0i v\u00e0 \u0111\u1ed5 l\u1ed7i cho ng\u01b0\u1eddi ph\u1ed1i ng\u1eabu nh\u01b0 l\u00e0 l\u00fd do c\u1ee7a tai h\u1ecda, \u0111en \u0111\u1ee7i\u00a0 v\u00e0 b\u1ea5t h\u1ea1nh c\u1ee7a ch\u00fang ta. Khi c\u1ea3m gi\u00e1c n\u00e0y \u1eadp \u0111\u1ebfn, r\u1ea5t \u0111\u00e1ng ghi nh\u1edb nh\u1eefng g\u00ec m\u00e0 Kinh th\u00e1nh \u0111\u00e3 n\u00f3i. \u0110\u00f3 l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t th\u00f4ng \u0111i\u1ec7p\u00a0 quan tr\u1ecdng Ch\u00faa Gi\u00easu ph\u00e1n:<\/p>\n <\/p>\n Gioan 16:33 <\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n \u201c<\/strong>Th\u1ea7y n\u00f3i v\u1edbi anh em nh\u1eefng \u0111i\u1ec1u \u1ea5y,\u0111\u1ec3 trong Th\u1ea7y anh em \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c b\u00ecnh an.Trong th\u1ebf gian,anh em s\u1ebd gian nan kh\u1ed1n kh\u00f3.Nh\u01b0ng can \u0111\u1ea3m l\u00ean!Th\u1ea7y \u0111\u00e3 th\u1eafng th\u1ebf gian”. <\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n Trong \u0111\u1eddi s\u1ed1ng n\u00e0y, ch\u00fang ta \u0111ang chia s\u1ebb nh\u1eefng n\u1ed7i \u0111au kh\u1ed5 c\u1ee7a ch\u00fang ta. N\u00f3 ch\u1eb3ng c\u00f3 g\u00ec \u0111\u1ec3\u00a0 l\u00e0m v\u1edbi b\u1ea1n\u00a0 \u0111\u1eddi m\u00ecnh r\u1eb1ng l\u00e0m hay kh\u00f4ng l\u00e0m\u00a0 “<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n John 16:33<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n \u201cTHESE THINGS I HAVE SPOKEN TO YOU,THAT IN ME YOU MAY HAVE PEACE.\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 IN THE WORLD YOU WILL HAVE TRIBULATION: BUT BE OF GOOD CHEER,\u00a0 I HAVE OVERCOME THE WORLD.\u201d\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 <\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n \u00a0<\/span><\/strong>nh\u01b0 th\u1ebf n\u00e0o\u201d ho\u1eb7c \u201cc\u00e1i g\u00ec\u201d. N\u1ed7i \u0111au kh\u1ed5 l\u00e0\u00a0 m\u1ed9t c\u00e1ch \u0111\u1ec3 ch\u00fang ta ki\u1ebfm \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c \u0110\u1ed3ng Ti\u1ec1n Th\u00e1nh Thi\u1ec7n. \u0110\u00e2y ch\u1ec9\u00a0 l\u00e0 ph\u01b0\u01a1ng ph\u00e1p b\u00ecnh th\u01b0\u1eddng m\u00e0 ch\u00fang ta ph\u1ea3i h\u1ed9i \u0111\u1ee7 \u0111i\u1ec1u ki\u1ec7n \u0111\u1ec3 nh\u1eadn ch\u00fat khoan dung c\u1ee7a Ch\u00faa \u0111\u1ec3 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 ti\u1ebfp c\u1eadn n\u1ee9\u01a1c Thi\u00ean \u0111\u00e0ng. N\u1ed7i \u0111au kh\u1ed5 ch\u1ec9 l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t t\u1eadp h\u1ee3p li\u00ean k\u1ebft m\u00e0 m\u1ecdi ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u1ec1u ph\u1ea3i l\u00e3nh nh\u1eadn, b\u1ea5t k\u1ec3 h\u1ecd l\u00e0 vua hay anh h\u1ec1; c\u00f3 \u0111\u1ea1o hay v\u00f4 th\u1ea7n; gi\u00e0u hay ngh\u00e8o, ng\u01b0\u1eddi nam hay n\u1eef, c\u00f3 h\u1ecdc ho\u1eb7c kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 h\u1ecdc; tr\u1ebb hay gi\u00e0 ho\u1eb7c b\u1ea5t c\u1ee9 s\u1ef1 kh\u00e1c n\u00e0o m\u00e0 ch\u00fang ta c\u00f3.\u00a0<\/span>N\u1ed7i \u0111au kh\u1ed5 l\u00e0 nh\u1eefng g\u00ec ch\u00fang ta s\u1ebd nh\u1eadn \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c m\u1ecdi l\u00fac , s\u1ef1 ch\u00e1n n\u1ea3n l\u00e0 s\u1ef1 ti\u1ebfp t\u1ee5c c\u1ee7a n\u00f3. T\u00ednh ki\u00ean nh\u1eabn l\u00e0 cu\u1ed9c chi\u1ebfn c\u1ee7a ch\u00fang ta. \u0110\u1ed9ng l\u1ef1c c\u1ee7a ch\u00fang ta l\u00e0 s\u1ef1\u00a0 tin t\u01b0\u1edfng v\u00e0o\u00a0 c\u00e1c l\u1eddi c\u1ee7a Ch\u00faa Gi\u00easu. \u201cNH\u01afNG L\u00c0 NH\u1eeeNG C\u00c2U CH\u00daC M\u1eeaNG T\u1ed0T \u0110\u1eb8P, T\u00d4I V\u01af\u1ee2T QUA C\u1ea2\u00a0 TH\u1ebe GI\u1edaI.\u201d<\/span><\/strong>\u00a0<\/span>Gi\u00e1o h\u1ed9i c\u0169ng nh\u01b0\u00a0 t\u1ea5t c\u1ea3 c\u00e1c t\u00f4n gi\u00e1o c\u00f3 nghi l\u1ec5 k\u1ebft h\u00f4n c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd, nh\u1eefng l\u1eddi h\u1ee9a h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n m\u00e0 c\u00f4 d\u00e2u v\u00e0 ch\u00fa r\u1ec3 H\u1ee9a v\u1edbi nhau. Nh\u1eefng l\u1eddi h\u1ee9a mang \u0111\u1eadm n\u00e9t gi\u00e1o l\u00fd \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c tuy\u00ean tr\u01b0\u1edbc m\u1eb7t\u00a0 Linh m\u1ee5c v\u00e0 nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi hi\u1ec7n di\u1ec7n.Nh\u1eefng l\u1eddi h\u1ee9a\u00a0 tuy\u1ec7t\u00a0 v\u1eddi n\u00e0y\u00a0 l\u1eadp ra\u00a0 kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u1ec3 th\u1ecfa l\u00f2ng mh\u1eefmg c\u1ea3m x\u00fac l\u00e3ng m\u1ea1n c\u1ee7a ch\u00fa r\u1ec3 v\u00e0 c\u00e1c l\u1eef kh\u00e1ch. V\u00e0 nh\u1eefng l\u1eddi n\u00e0y c\u0169ng kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 \u00fd d\u00e0nh\u00a0 \u0111\u1ec3 b\u1ed5 sung v\u00e0o \u201cxoay tr\u00f2n\u201d s\u1ef1 vui m\u1eebng.C\u00e1c Cha tinh th\u1ea7n,\u00a0 b\u1ea5t k\u1ec3 h\u1ecd theo t\u00f4n gi\u00e1o n\u00e0o, \u0111\u1ec1u nh\u1eadn th\u1ea5y h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t thi\u00ean h\u01b0\u1edbng , t\u01b0\u01a1ng t\u1ef1 nh\u01b0 vi\u1ec7c c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd khi l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi t\u00edn h\u1eefu s\u1ebd c\u00f3 s\u1ef1 chia s\u1ebb c\u00f4ng b\u1eb1ng xem x\u00e9t v\u00e0 tr\u1eafc nghi\u1ec7m.<\/span><\/p>\n V\u00e0 ma qu\u1ef7 s\u1ebd s\u00e0ng l\u1ecdc c\u1eb7p v\u1ee3 ch\u1ed3ng nh\u01b0 ch\u1ea5u tr\u01b0\u1edbc khi r\u01a1i xu\u1ed1ng s\u00e0n.\u00a0 S\u1ebd c\u00f3 Th\u1eddi vui v\u1ebb v\u00e0 nh\u1eefng \u0111i\u1ec1u n\u00e0y mang l\u1ea1i nh\u1eefng th\u1eed th\u00e1ch cho h\u1ecd v\u00e0 c\u0169ng s\u1ebd c\u00f3 l\u00fac t\u1ed3i t\u1ec7 s\u1ebd \u0111em \u0111\u1ebfn cho h\u1ecd nh\u1eefng \u0111i\u1ec1u kh\u00e1c v\u00e0 nh\u1eefng th\u00e1ch th\u1ee9c kh\u00e1c. S\u1ebd c\u00f3 s\u1ef1 Gi\u00e0u c\u00f3 v\u00e0 s\u1ef1 \u0110\u1ea3o ng\u01b0\u1ee3c s\u1ed1 ph\u1eadn, c\u1ea3 hai \u0111\u1ec1u mang l\u1ea1i th\u1eed th\u00e1ch. \u1ed0m \u0111au v\u00e0 b\u1ec7nh t\u1eadn c\u1ee7a ai \u0111\u00f3 c\u0169ng l\u00e0 s\u1ef1 th\u1eed th\u00e1ch. N\u1ed7i \u0111au kh\u1ed5 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 d\u00f9ng m\u1ecdi c\u00e1ch \u0111\u1ec3\u00a0 t\u00ecm \u0111\u1ebfn ch\u00fang ta. <\/span><\/p>\n Trong nhi\u1ec1u phong t\u1ee5c v\u00e0 truy\u1ec1n th\u1ed1ng v\u0103n h\u00f3a, H\u00f4n nh\u00e2n l\u00e0 h\u00e0nh \u0111\u1ed9ng \u201cKhoe khoang\u201d. C\u00f3 nhi\u1ec1u khi l\u00e0 nh\u1eefng b\u1eefa ti\u1ec7c linh \u0111\u00ecnh nh\u1ea5t, t\u1ed1n ph\u00ed nh\u1ea5t v\u00e0 c\u00f3 \u0111\u1ed3 u\u1ed1ng \u0111\u1eaft \u0111\u1ecf nh\u1ea5t, ti\u1ec7c t\u00f9ng\u00a0 vui nh\u1ed9n nh\u1ea5t.C\u00f3 \u0111\u00e1m c\u01b0\u1edbi mu\u1ed1n nh\u01b0 th\u1ec3 gi\u1ea3i tr\u00ed nh\u01b0 \u0111\u00f4i b\u1ed3 c\u00e2u nh\u1ecf quan tr\u1ecdng, v\u00e0 c\u00f3 \u0111\u1ed9i ng\u0169 v\u1eadn \u00e1o v\u00e0 \u0111eo g\u0103ng tay tr\u1eafng tinh, \u0111\u01b0a h\u1ecd ra tr\u01b0\u1edbc \u0111\u00e1m \u0111\u00f4ng b\u1eb1ng c\u00e1ch ph\u00f4 tr\u01b0\u01a1ng v\u00e0 t\u1ef1 \u0111\u1ec1 cao m\u00ecnh. C\u00e1c kh\u00e1ch m\u1eddi t\u1edbi chi\u00eam ng\u01b0\u1ee1ng khung c\u1ea3nh v\u00e0 ra v\u1ec1 b\u00e0n lu\u1eadn v\u1edbi nhau r\u1eb1ng \u0111\u00e1m c\u01b0\u1edbi n\u00e0o l\u00e0\u00a0 \u0111\u1eaft \u0111\u1ecf h\u01a1n, \u0111\u00e1m c\u01b0\u1edbi n\u00e0o c\u00f3 nhi\u1ec1u\u00a0 kh\u00e1c kh\u1ee9a h\u01a1n v\u00e0 ph\u1ee5c v\u1ee5 c\u00e1i\u00a0 g\u00ec, nh\u1eefng k\u1ebb kh\u00e1c b\u0103n kho\u0103n l\u00e0m th\u1ebf n\u00e0o m\u00e0 h\u1ecd duy tr\u00ec \u0111\u1ef1\u01a1c. To\u00e0n nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi tham gia d\u01b0\u1eddng nh\u01b0 \u0111\u00e3 qu\u00ean \u0111i tinh th\u1ea7n th\u1eadt s\u1ef1 c\u1ee7a b\u1eefa ti\u1ec7c trong ng\u00e0y c\u01b0\u1edbi l\u00e0\u00a0 \u0111\u1ec3 Ch\u00fac ph\u00fac\u00a0 \u0111\u00f4i\u00a0 v\u1ee3 ch\u1ed3ng m\u1edbi c\u01b0\u1edbi. N\u1ebfu ti\u1ec7c c\u01b0\u1edbi kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0 \u0111\u1ecba \u0111i\u1ec3m th\u00edch h\u1ee3p cho t\u1ea5t c\u1ea3 b\u1ea1n b\u00e8 th\u00ec Ch\u00fac ph\u00fac \u0111\u00f4i v\u1ee3 ch\u1ed3ng, to\u00e0n b\u1ed9 \u00fd t\u01b0\u1edfng ch\u1ec9 l\u00e0 s\u1ef1 vui nh\u1ed9n. \u0110\u1ed1i v\u1edbi s\u1ef1 vui nh\u1ed9n n\u00e0y, ng\u01b0\u1eddi ta chi ti\u00eau t\u1ea5t c\u1ea3 c\u00e1c lo\u1ea1i ti\u1ec1n s\u1ea1ch. <\/span><\/p>\n V\u00ec v\u1eady, \u0111\u00f4i khi c\u1eb7p v\u1ee3 ch\u1ed3ng c\u0169ng s\u1ebd t\u1eadp d\u01b0\u1ee3t l\u1eddi th\u1ec1 h\u1ee9a trong H\u00f4n l\u1ec5 c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd v\u00e0 hi\u1ec3u\u00a0 ra L\u1eddi c\u1ee7a Ch\u00faa v\u00e0 m\u00f3n qu\u00e0 c\u1ee7a Ng\u00e0i d\u00e0nh cho \u0111\u00f4i v\u1ee3 ch\u1ed3ng th\u1ebf n\u00e0o v\u00e0 l\u1eddi h\u1eefa\u00a0 c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd v\u1edbi nhau \u0111\u1ec3 g\u1eafn k\u1ebft nhau. M\u1eabu L\u1eddi h\u1ee9a t\u01b0\u01a1ng t\u1ef1\u00a0 li\u1ec7t k\u00ea d\u01b0\u1edbi \u0111\u00e2y nh\u01b0 sau:<\/span><\/p>\n Chu r\u1ec3 <\/span><\/p>\n Anh_____, h\u00e3y nh\u1eadn ______, l\u00e0m v\u1ee3 c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh \u0111\u1ec3 t\u00f4n tr\u1ecdng v\u00e0 y\u00eau th\u01b0\u01a1ng v\u1ee3 m\u00ecnh l\u00fac th\u1ecbnh v\u01b0\u1ee3ng c\u0169ng nh\u01b0 l\u00fac kh\u00f3 kh\u0103n, l\u00fac ho\u1ea1n n\u1ea1n c\u0169ng nh\u01b0 l\u00fac \u0111au y\u1ebfu v\u00e0 h\u1ee9a s\u1ebd chung th\u1ee7y v\u1edbi em \u0111\u1ec3 y\u00eau th\u01b0\u01a1ng v\u00e0 t\u00f4n tr\u1ecdng em su\u1ed1t \u0111\u1eddi. <\/span><\/p>\n C\u00f4 d\u00e2u h\u00e3y nh\u1eadn ______, l\u00e0m ch\u1ed3ng c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh \u0111\u1ec3 t\u00f4n tr\u1ecdng v\u00e0 y\u00eau th\u01b0\u01a1ng v\u1ee3 m\u00ecnh l\u00fac th\u1ecbnh v\u01b0\u1ee3ng c\u0169ng nh\u01b0 l\u00fac kh\u00f3 kh\u0103n, l\u00fac ho\u1ea1n n\u1ea1n c\u0169ng nh\u01b0 l\u00fac \u0111au y\u1ebfu v\u00e0 h\u1ee9a s\u1ebd chung th\u1ee7y v\u1edbi em \u0111\u1ec3 y\u00eau th\u01b0\u01a1ng v\u00e0 t\u00f4n tr\u1ecdng anh su\u1ed1t \u0111\u1eddi.<\/span><\/p>\n <\/p>\n .<\/p>\n ==============================<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n 28. \u00a0 ROLE PLAY CONFLICT<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n Many times we are not able to explain the reason for family conflict, especially when both people are good and with no vices like drinking, smoking, affairs on the side, in-laws; both are practicing their religion correctly, etc. The problem may involve a ROLE PLAY CONFLICT. It happens more often than we are willing to admit. (Even to our selves.)<\/span><\/p>\n Whether we like it or not, there are certain norms that we follow. Norms that are expected of us. These norms could be personal, interpersonal, cultural, traditional, and occupational. There are many other norms too. People expect us to dress up in certain ways, to behave in certain ways, to follow certain types of manners, codes and customs. We are also expected to follow specific man or woman roles. Generally the norms are broad and many varieties and variations are accepted, but the moment some one-steps outside the norm, people are disturbed. Certain deviations from accustomed norms would be disturbing for people in general, or even for people within the family, like husband and wife.<\/span><\/p>\n Let us take a case of attire. If a man were to wear trousers this would be considered as perfectly normal. He could have his trousers in varieties of colors, but not all colors would be acceptable. Just think what the reaction would be, if your husband showed up at your office wearing pink pants. If a man chooses to wear a skirt this would create uproar. A woman on the other hand could wear either a dress or a skirt or a sari or slacks and all of these would be considered to be in order for her, as a woman.<\/span><\/p>\n Now let us take the case of a family. If a husband thinks that he should be at home and look after the children while his wife goes out to work. The chances are that a friction is bound to rise up sooner or later in that family. The peace that the couple may claim will soon disappear. Deep down, in the heart of every man is the need<\/strong> to know that he is the main provider of the family. Deep down, every woman feels<\/strong> that she should not be loaded with the responsibility of being the main provider for the family. If the opposite should happen and no tangible reason is available, like ill- health, invalidity etc., Role Play conflicts are bound to brew. Some people may pretend that there is some novelty and euphoria. Sooner or later, the euphoria will wears out, and then role-play conflict is bound to sets in.<\/span><\/p>\n As things change, society also changes and with change newer forms of role-play conflicts emerge. They become more frequent. One such area is the academic and career advancements made by girls and ladies these days. It is the highest time that the inequality is rectified. Besides, academic or career advancement for girls and ladies is not bad in anyway, but simply that there is to be a harmonious bridge between the quadrangle of:<\/span><\/p>\n In the area of academic and career advancement girls and ladies have equal opportunities. They are just as capable as their male counterparts. So consequently they can practice the same profession and rise just as much, with no differences in earnings. This advancement has the potential for at least two kinds of role-play strains between husband and wife.<\/span><\/p>\n The substitutes are poor.<\/span><\/p>\n Or<\/span><\/p>\n Some of the situations that lead to Role-Play conflicts are:<\/span><\/p>\n There are many such areas of role play conflicts in marriage, and it is not possible to even list them all out, let alone discuss any one of them in them in detail. The main point is to know that Role-Play conflicts are a potential source of marriage strain.<\/span><\/p>\n Role-Play strife can start at any point of time depending on what parameter has changed either in self or with the spouse. Either good or bad changes have the potential to create strife. A promotion can be regarded as a good change, old age or ill health can be regarded as a bad one. While, change challenges the role-play equilibrium, it has no power by itself, if the individual out-looks are firm and not negatively oriented or tainted with traces of jealousy, threat, fear etc.<\/span><\/p>\n Role-Play mismatches can even happen before marriage. Let us look at the proposal stage. The modern young man has a rather large number of girls and ladies all through his school days and work environment. Most of them are as equally efficient and capable as their male counterparts. The result is that gradually a culture of equality sets in. Even a working- world respect. Respect for others opinions, technical knowledge, skills, efficiency, reliability etc. The young man who grows up in this society, takes the same norms and yard sticks even into other areas of his life. Let us see how this young man tries to approach a young lady, while he is on his search to find a bride:<\/span><\/p>\n Typically he approaches the subject like:<\/span><\/p>\n Do you like me? (He may not be so directly or bluntly. There is however, some factual directness along with the vibe to receive either answer.)<\/span><\/p>\n Would you like to settle down with me? (Note the highly equalitarian choice of words!)<\/span><\/p>\n The typical response he gets sounds like this:<\/span><\/p>\n \u201cI don\u2019t know whether I would like to settle down\u201d, (in theory-yes-but), \u201cPerhaps, I should think about it.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n Some how in this very equalitarian approach, both give the VIBES of being vague. Him for the way he asks and she from the way she replies. Both seem to send out unspoken messages like; it doesn’t really matter because I am self-sufficient anyway.<\/span><\/p>\n Even if she answered, \u201cYes, I like you,\u201d He will still interpret it as some how vague.<\/span><\/p>\n The Role-Play problem with such cases is that each one does not see A COMPLIMENT ROLE in the other. They feel it as two SELF CONTAINED ROLES. They do not really feel that they need to compliment each other except for social reasons.<\/span><\/p>\n The result is eventually he feels she is not interested and wonders what is wrong with him, anyway. He knows he has climbed the scholastic and career ladder further than most others have done. Besides, he can provide for a wife much better than most other men. She on the other hand, feels, another case of: \u201cThe prospect looked hopeful but some how some thing is missing.\u201d She cannot really describe what she means by \u2018missing\u2019.<\/span><\/p>\n The, fall through: in this situation is not as a result of not being a gentleman, nor has it anything to do with not giving the young lady a fair choice to her expression of self opinion. From her side it was not that she was just being coy. At face value the man was highly equalitarian in his approach and she was totally honest in her response. So where is the Role-Play conflict?<\/span><\/p>\n The conflict is simply that no results are produced<\/strong>. There is neither a ‘Yes\u2019 nor a ‘No\u2019 and this loose end situation leads to frustration of at least two kinds namely:<\/span><\/p>\n The question is: What happened each time? The answer is that the man in this case addressed the woman\u2019s rational mind not her heart. This approach is what is called as a \u201cfair transactional approach.\u201d This method is excellent in business and with dealing with the world at large. But this is not at all what the woman was expecting; she was missing the component of romance. Hence she could only process the question in her rational mind \u00ad she did not have the necessary code words to send the message down to her heart. The well being of her love life is in the heart. She has not felt the aura of romance in her heart and consequently her answer is, I don\u2019t know, (because she really feels something is missing; she knows something is missing even though she may not fully know what that something is).<\/span><\/p>\n Here we see a situation of a young woman perfectly able in the rational academic and career world, but, her private life and her love life still has a heart to contend with, and Romance is still a very important ingredient of her well being. We also see how the man is missing this point, not through willful neglect, but through gross ignorance.<\/span><\/p>\n The question is: If both have gone through the same academic and career process, how come one has the component of romance and the other has missed it out? The answer is:<\/span><\/p>\n That romance is still a fundamental part of a girl and woman, while in man it is an acquired skill.<\/span><\/p>\n The childhood stimulations are different, for example: Girls play with dolls, have toys which are miniature home equipment, dolls houses, clothes with specific, girl colors. She is more inclined to playing indoors; creativity is usually brought about through indoor hobbies, she also takes to indoor hobby of reading more easily. And her book often has a fair amount of romantic day dreaming stimulation, in order to be considered valuable.<\/span><\/p>\n The boy on the other hand is encouraged to be an out- door creature. At least that way he will not be creating a permanent havoc in the home. He consequently reads less and even those books are filled with wild stories about cowboys, knights, wars, wild animals, guns, planes, etc. His creativity is more charged with building things, usually outside because otherwise the house will become a mess. He also plays boy’s games, which are outdoor games and has to hold his grounds and prove his worth among a bunch of fellows, who have been fuelled and fired with tales of hunting and police and robbers and other forms of, test of strength: maneuvers. He simple has no time to even notice romance. If he has even a mild inclination to think about romance he will be met with scorn, ridicule, wolf whistles and be branded as a Sissy. It is hardly any wonder that the young man has no sense of true romance in him.<\/span><\/p>\n Quite frankly a young adult man need a fair amount of coaching, if he is even expected to be aware, of the infinitely complicated expectations of feminine romance values. Quite sadly there are no schools where they can go for a properly organized course in ‘Woo-Manship’. So he keeps on going through this area in his life frequently tripping over his own shoe laces.<\/span><\/p>\n Romantic awareness does not only mean flowers and perfumes, nice words and love songs. It also means stability both in kind, as well as in self. Trust, loyalty steadfastness, clarity of vision not only for self but for his lady as well. The qualities to lead, firmness of commitment through good times and bad, in health and in sickness, the personal stamina to go on till death do them part. This is what the young women look for in the eligible young man. She is looking for someone who will say, \u201cI will marry you\u201d: First! – And the question of: \u201cWill you marry me?\u201d is only second: What is mentioned as first and second is Role specific, not only because of traditions, but because it is even more \u2018nature specific\u2019 to her. Unfortunately most young men today are never made clear about this point. While a few men may fluke a correct approach, a large number hardly ever make a passable move. What they most often do is, communicate the phrases in the reverse order. Making the situation such that the young woman should propose to them. And hopefully, expect her to give them the chance to ask whether they also can voice their consent.<\/span><\/p>\n This is a typical example to illustrate the gross ignorance of young man, even the educated ones! He is ignorant of the basic thought processes of woman\u2019s heart (on these matters her heart comes first and her mind is secondary). He does not realize that some where in her is a yearning to, surrender to the man whom she loves.<\/span><\/p>\n Sometime it is amazing how well the lyrics of songs have brought home these little pieces of knowledge. Take the words like.\u201d . . My heart was captured. . . And my soul surrendered. . .\u201d Or.\u201d. . He quaffelled the wine and threw down the cup, grabbled his lady love and bolted away on horse back. . . \u201c<\/span><\/p>\n Even though, men wrote these words or poems, these men were rare creatures, way out of the mainstream species. Girls and women may find the words quite captivating, while boys and men may just listen in some disconnected way. Or they may skillfully try to use romantic phrases as subject matter for their next joke.<\/span><\/p>\n To some extent the lady wants to be fought over and won. She feels the young man of her dreams, (day dreaming is an undeniable part of her pre-occupation), would swoop down, come, see and conquer: and then make her, Queen of his heart. It gives her a sense of worth and importance. She wants to be his Sweetheart, she yearns for the touch of continuity of this romantic overture in the form of,\u201d and they lived happily ever after.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n Quite unfortunately neither the young man nor the husbands even realize that such thinking even exists. In his world there are no fairy tales or poetry. He left all those thing way back when his teachers changed from ladies to men. \u00ad To a large extent, his world center around the present. The reality of competitiveness, advancement, and career oriented climbing. To him acquiring a wife is a, milestone, which he must hack off on his long list of, \u201cThings To Be Done.\u201d Sure in his heart he hopes and expects he will find love, a loving wife, children, joys of family life etc. Romance, is not some area where much thought has been cultivated. Sure, some thought has been given to this area, much like the Eskimos may have also thought about growing fig trees on the North Pole. At other times, males may actually do some romantic things like take their girl friends to see factories, where spur and beveled gears can be manufactured. It may never cross his mind to explain where or how these items are used; he imagines every intelligent and romantic young lady simply knows these things. Men work with an \u201cALL\u2019S WELL\u201d approach. \u2013 \u201cI have set out to do these things \u2013 They are done \u2013 All\u2019s well \u2013 Hack it off the list.\u201d This is Romantic for him. \u201cWife is there, Children are there, job is OK, Car is working well, food is there, no nagging \u2013 All is well. \u201d This is totally romantic for him, now he can at least get on with his hobbies and have a face to show to his buddies at the next football match.<\/span><\/p>\n Sometimes he is mildly lucky in that he chances to stumble upon some recipes in romance. He may intelligently take note of pieces of information as, \u201cSuccess Bridges.\u201d The chances are, that he does not fully understand the basic chemistry of such recipes (nor does he care to). These little recipes are those spectacular displays of Valentine cards, chocolate hearts, flowers and other customer luring marketable. These drives are usually created by the advertisements, office talk, and remainders from his mother, other family members and other arenas of prompting. Other recipes are those connected with \u2018memory\u2019 like remembering the wife\u2019s birthday; their wedding anniversary etc. Quite efficiently, but rather unromantically he goes over to his secretary and tell her to remind him when to send flowers; cards to whom and to see that it is done! He tells her to mark it out in the year planner if necessary. . . He then settles down in his chair and feels everything in the world is now under control.<\/span><\/p>\n The difference in the thought processes is that while his wife was looking for the romance in her life, he was content to plug every hole from where unhappiness could seep in.<\/span><\/p>\n These little niceties of romance, lovingness, thoughtfulness, caring etc. , are not insurmountable tasks. They can be learned with amazing efficiency, but who will teach it. And even more important, – How? The answer to the first is, most probably the wife herself will need to teach it because then it would have an exact tailor made fit to fit her. And the answer to the second question is, with love; God’s help and guidance. The mistake often made is to resort to nagging and bossiness; both these tactics and maneuvers bring only negative results.<\/span><\/p>\n Some times reading books can be helpful. Some where Rose may have read that husbands, good as they always are, can forget wedding anniversaries, almost on an annual basis. So armed with this knowledge, she did some thing to prevent any mishaps on our wedding anniversaries. Let me just tell you how my wife achieved remarkable and joyful results in this area. Through being loving. While I was still half asleep, she sweetly whispered, \u201cGreg, Today is our wedding anniversary. \u201cSo I knew it was time to switch the Romantic mechanisms on. I also went over to the children\u2019s bedroom and told them that they were allowed to wish me, \u201cHappy Wedding Anniversary.\u201d And while I waited with my eyes closed for their kisses and greetings they sneaked past me and went rushing to wish their mother instead. With much pandemonium, whoops, yells and loud choruses they declared the event the whole day- long. It all started with just one small, tiny sentence. And that sentence worked like magic the whole day through. This example just goes to show that there are subtle, yet very powerful substitutes compared with day- long pouting, fretting and turmoil. The subtle way is LOVE. Since we discovered this little trick, Rose reminds me every year on the morning of our Wedding Anniversary that, today is our wedding anniversary. Then all the fun starts, and I yell at the children that they should congratulate ME on my wedding anniversary first. Somehow, I think they miss their orientation because they still kiss and congratulations her first! Even the dog gets confused and goes to her side of the bed first. In a way she gets her \u201cRomantic treats for the Day and I get my All\u2019s Well treat for the Day.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n I am convinced that the wife is really the husband\u2019s best teacher for romance, but she must do it well.<\/span><\/p>\n Many years ago, while I was in technical marketing of control engineering teaching equipment, I happened to visit the College Principal\u2019s Office, I saw the following inscription on the wall. I thought it was a splendid collection of words to bring out wisdom and inspiration. I had many wonderful experiences in bringing up my children and in teaching control technology. I would like to share this guideline rule with you:<\/span><\/p>\n \u00ad A bad teacher complains<\/span><\/p>\n \u00ad A good teacher teaches<\/span><\/p>\n \u00ad But the best teacher inspires<\/span><\/p>\n This rule is equally good for children, toddlers, school children, University graduates, in factory \u00ad training programs. It can even for work for husbands but the teacher can only do it with love.<\/span><\/p>\n Some times we get so frustrated the way thing are going on. We cannot find comfort or answers for the endless string of questions, we have been asking for the ever so long. In our confusion, and lack of knowledge on life and marriage, we go out and blame the spouse as the reason for all our woes, mis-fortune and unhappiness. When this feeling comes, it is worth remembering what the Bible has to say. It is such an important message that the words are from the Lord Jesus Christ Himself:<\/span><\/p>\n \u201cTHESE THINGS I HAVE SPOKEN TO YOU,THAT IN ME YOU MAY HAVE PEACE. IN THE WORLD YOU WILL HAVE TRIBULATION: BUT BE OF GOOD CHEER, I HAVE OVERCOME THE WORLD.\u201d <\/strong>John 16:33<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n \u201eDies habe ich zu euch gesagt, damit ihr in mir Frieden habt. In der Welt seid ihr in Bedr\u00e4ngnis; aber habt Mut: Ich habe die Welt besiegt.\u201c Johannes 16:33<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n In this life we are going to have our share of tribulations. It has nothing to do with \u201chow\u201d or \u201cwhat\u201d the spouse does or does not do. Tribulation is a way for us to earn DIVINE CURRENCY. This is the only common method we have to be eligible to avail of God\u2019s generosity to reach Heaven. Tribulation is the only universal component that every one has, regardless of whether they are king or clown; religious or irreligious; rich or poor; man or woman; educated or uneducated; young or old or whatever other differences we have. Tribulation is what WE WILL GET from time to time, Discouragement is its Follow-Up. PERSEVERANCE is our combat maneuver. Our DRIVE is CONFIDENCE in the words of the LORD JESUS. \u201c<\/span><\/strong>BUT BE OF GOOD CHEER, I HAVE OVERCOME THE WORLD.\u201d<\/strong><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n <\/p>\n In many customs and cultures, marriage is a kind of a \u201cSHOW OFF\u201d activity. A kind of way to have the grandest party, the costliest meals and expensive drinks, gala receptions. Some even want to have entertainment like importing doves, and have fellows in white gloves and tuxedos, release them into the air with pomp and showmanship. The Guests come to see a spectacle and go home to talk whose wedding was more expensive, and whose party had more guests and what ALL was served. Others were wondering how they should strain to keep up. The whole gambit of society seems to have forgotten the true spirit of the party at the marriage is to BLESS the newly wed couple. If the Wedding party is not based on providing a proper venue for all to come and BLESS the couple, the whole idea is a total farce. For this farce, people spend all kinds of good money.<\/span><\/p>\n So at some time a couple would do well to go over their Wedding Vows and see how the Lord\u2019s words and His gift of a spouse and their vows to each other fit together. A sample of the vows is listed below:<\/span><\/p>\n <\/p>\n I _____, take you ______, to be my wedded wife. To have and to hold, from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness or in health, to love and to cherish ’till death do us part. And hereto I pledge you my faithfulness.<\/span><\/p>\n I, _____, take you ______, to be my wedded husband. To have and to hold, from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, ’till death do us part. And hereto I pledge you my faithfulness.<\/span><\/p>\n ===============<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" PRO ACTIVE Translated by:\u00a0\u00a0HAI DUC TRAN Nhi\u1ec1u l\u1ea7n ch\u00fang ta kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 gi\u1ea3i th\u00edch \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c l\u00fd do xung \u0111\u1ed9t gia \u0111\u00ecnh, \u0111\u1eb7c bi\u1ec7t l\u00e0 khi c\u1ea3 hai ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u1ec1u\u00a0 t\u1ed1t v\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng v\u01b0\u1edbng v\u00e0o r\u01b0\u1ee3u,thu\u1ed1c, kh\u00f4ng v\u01b0\u1edbng chuy\u1ec7n b\u00ean…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"parent":0,"menu_order":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","template":"","meta":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.challengedtowin.com\/vi\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/pages\/404"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.challengedtowin.com\/vi\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/pages"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.challengedtowin.com\/vi\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/page"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.challengedtowin.com\/vi\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.challengedtowin.com\/vi\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=404"}],"version-history":[{"count":8,"href":"https:\/\/www.challengedtowin.com\/vi\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/pages\/404\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":867,"href":"https:\/\/www.challengedtowin.com\/vi\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/pages\/404\/revisions\/867"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.challengedtowin.com\/vi\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=404"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}\n
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The church as well as all religions have in their marriage ceremonies, the word of\u00a0<\/span>Marriage Vows which the bridegroom and bride PROMISE to each other. The vows all contain tenets of the promise which are made to each other in front of the priest and all present. These vows were not made to have a fancy set of words to tickle the romantic emotions of the bride and other female guests. Nor were the words intended to be a kind of an added \u201cSpin\u201d to the festivity. These Religious Fathers, regardless of the religions they followed, realized that marriage is a vocation, similar to theirs as religious people. It will have its fair share of tests and trials. And the devil will try to sift the couple like chaff before a thresher\u2019s floor. There will be Good Times and these bring their set of challenges and there will be Bad Times and those will bring other and different set of challenges. There will be Riches and Reverses of fortune both will bring challenges. Sickness and Health, either one has a challenge. Tribulations can use any of many methods to find us.<\/span><\/h4>\n
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