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H\u1ea7u h\u1ebft m\u1ecdi ng\u01b0\u1eddi th\u1ea5y s\u00e1ch n\u00f3i v\u1ec1 h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n ch\u1eb3ng th\u1ea5y th\u00fa v\u1ecb g\u00ec v\u00e0 c\u00f2n th\u1ea5y n\u00f3 y\u1ebfu \u1edbt. Ch\u1ee7 \u0111\u1ec1 n\u00e0y kh\u00f4ng ph\u00f9 h\u1ee3p v\u1edbi c\u00e1ch ngh\u0129 m\u1ea1nh m\u1ebd. Th\u1eb3ng th\u1eafn m\u00e0 n\u00f3i, t\u00f4i c\u0169ng thu\u1ed9c nh\u00f3m c\u00f3 t\u00ednh c\u00e1ch m\u1ea1nh m\u1ebd. Chi sau khi t\u00f4i g\u1eb7p nh\u1eefng tr\u1ee5c tr\u1eb7c, t\u00f4i quy\u1ebft \u0111\u1ecbnh h\u1ea1 th\u1ea5p m\u00ecnh xu\u1ed1ng. T\u00f4i \u00e1p d\u1ee5ng \u0111i\u1ec1u n\u00e0y t\u00edch c\u1ef1c nh\u01b0 m\u1ed9t sinh vi\u00ean, x\u00e1c \u0111\u1ecbnh \u0111\u1ec3 chi\u1ebfn th\u1eafng cu\u1ed9c h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n. Do v\u1eady, t\u00f4i \u0111\u00e3 l\u00e0m nh\u1eefng g\u00ec m\u00e0 t\u00f4i \u0111\u00e3 ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0m \u0111\u1ec3 \u0111\u1ea1t \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c s\u1ef1 hi\u1ec3u bi\u1ebft. Ch\u01b0\u01a1ng n\u00e0y d\u00e0nh cho nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng v\u1edbi nhau. \u0110\u00f4i khi t\u00f4i ph\u00e2n v\u00e2n li\u1ec7u ng\u01b0\u1eddi ta c\u00f3 mu\u1ed1n \u0111\u1ecdc cu\u1ed1n s\u00e1ch n\u00e0y b\u1eb1ng c\u00e1ch b\u1eaft \u0111\u1ea7u t\u1eeb ch\u01b0\u01a1ng n\u00e0y v\u00e0 sau \u0111\u00f3 m\u1edbi b\u1eaft \u0111\u1ea7u \u0111\u1ecdc t\u1eeb \u0111\u1ea7u cu\u1ed1n s\u00e1ch kh\u00f4ng? C\u00f3 th\u1ec3 ch\u01b0\u01a1ng n\u00e0y l\u00e0 \u0111i\u1ec3m m\u1edf \u0111\u1ea7u t\u1ed1t h\u01a1n \u0111\u1ed1i v\u1edbi m\u1ed9t s\u1ed1 ng\u01b0\u1eddi. Ch\u01b0\u01a1ng n\u00e0y c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 \u0111\u1ed9c l\u1eadp, kh\u00f4ng c\u1ea7n thi\u1ebft ph\u1ea3i \u0111\u1ecdc h\u1ebft nh\u1eefng ch\u01b0\u01a1ng kh\u00e1c tr\u01b0\u1edbc.<\/p>\n

M\u1ed9t th\u1ef1c t\u1ebf, \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng hi\u1ec3u r\u1ea5t \u00edt v\u1ec1 ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef, c\u00f3 ng\u01b0\u1eddi c\u00f2n mu\u1ed1n tranh lu\u1eadn v\u1ec1 \u0111i\u1ec1u n\u00e0y, nhi\u1ec1u ng\u01b0\u1eddi c\u00f3 khuynh h\u01b0\u1edbng n\u00f3i r\u1eb1ng n\u00f3 kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u00fang v\u00e0 v\u1ee3 h\u1ecd c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 n\u00f3i n\u00f3 ho\u00e0n to\u00e0n \u0111\u00fang, \u0111\u1eb7c bi\u1ec7t l\u00e0 nh\u1eefng b\u00e0 v\u1ee3 x\u1ea5p x\u1ec9 v\u1edbi ch\u1ed3ng m\u00ecnh. Th\u1ef1c t\u1ebf, ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng c\u01a1 b\u1ea3n hi\u1ec3u r\u1ea5t \u00edt v\u1ec1 nh\u1eefng suy ngh\u0129 c\u1ee7a ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef. Th\u1eadt ng\u1ea1c nhi\u00ean v\u00ec \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng c\u00f3 m\u1ed9t panen y\u00eau th\u00edch r\u1ed9ng t\u01b0\u01a1ng \u0111\u1ed1i. N\u00f3i chung, ngay t\u1eeb th\u1eddi h\u1ecdc sinh ch\u00fang ta c\u0169ng th\u1ea5y b\u00e9 g\u00e1i \u0111\u1ecdc d\u1ec5 d\u00e0ng h\u01a1n nh\u1eefng b\u00e9 trai, con trai t\u1ecf ra \u00edt c\u00f3 th\u1eddi gian d\u00e0nh cho vi\u1ec7c \u0111\u1ecdc, v\u00e0 ti\u1ebfp theo \u0111\u1ed9 tu\u1ed5i \u0111\u00f3 ch\u00fang th\u1ea5y hi\u1ec3u v\u1ec1 m\u1ee5c \u0111\u00edch r\u1ed3i th\u00ec ch\u00fang \u0111\u1ecdc v\u1edbi s\u1ef1 th\u00edch th\u00fa v\u00e0 quan t\u00e2m, th\u1ea3o lu\u1eadn v\u00e0 ng\u00e0y c\u00e0ng s\u00e3n s\u00e0ng ch\u1ecbu kh\u00f3 \u0111\u1ec3 \u0111\u1ecdc m\u1ecdi th\u1ee9. N\u00f3i c\u00e1ch kh\u00e1c n\u1ebfu ch\u00fang ta kh\u00f4ng th\u1ea5y m\u1ee5c \u0111\u00edch \u0111\u00e2u c\u1ea3, ch\u00fang ta s\u1ebd tr\u00e1nh xa vi\u1ec7c \u0111\u1ecdc ngay. Gi\u1ed1ng nh\u01b0 ta h\u1ecfi m\u1ed9t c\u1eadu h\u1ecdc sinh li\u1ec7u c\u1eadu ta c\u00f3 th\u00edch th\u00fa khi h\u1ecdc m\u1ed9t ng\u00f4n ng\u1eef th\u1ee9 hai \u1edf tr\u01b0\u1eddng.<\/p>\n

Nhi\u1ec1u c\u1eadu con trai v\u00e0 nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng c\u00f3 m\u1ed9t ngh\u1ecb l\u1ef1c kh\u00f4n xi\u1ebft \u0111\u1ec3 chinh ph\u1ee5c kho tang ki\u1ebfn th\u1ee9c r\u1ed9ng l\u1edbn h\u01a1n, \u0111\u00f3 l\u00e0 \u201cK\u1ebb \u0111i s\u0103n\u201d trong anh ta.<\/p>\n

V\u1edbi vai tr\u00f2 nguy\u00ean th\u1ee7y c\u1ee7a m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng, anh ta ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111i s\u0103n v\u00e0 ph\u1ea3i ra ra ngo\u00e0i ki\u1ebfm m\u1ed3i. C\u00f3 th\u1ec3 ki\u1ebfm th\u1ee9c \u0103n theo b\u1ea3n n\u0103ng, ki\u1ebfn th\u1ee9c t\u00ecm ki\u1ebfm c\u1ee7a anh ta \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c \u0111\u1ecbnh h\u01b0\u1edbng m\u1ee5c \u0111\u00edch r\u00f5 r\u00e0ng. Ng\u00e0y nay \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng kh\u00f4ng \u0111i s\u0103n l\u1ee3n l\u00f2i, tr\u00e2u b\u00f2 nh\u01b0ng anh ta v\u1eabn ph\u1ea3i ra \u0111i \u0111\u1ec3 s\u0103n nh\u1eefng \u0110\u00f4la quy\u1ec1n l\u1ef1c. M\u1ed9t s\u1ed1 t\u1edbi nh\u1eefng v\u0103n ph\u00f2ng, nh\u1eefng nh\u00e0 m\u00e1y v\u00e0 nh\u1eefng n\u01a1i l\u00e0m vi\u1ec7c kh\u00e1c. Vai tr\u00f2 nguy\u00ean th\u1ee7y c\u1ee7a nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi ph\u1ee5 n\u1ee9 nguy\u00ean th\u1ee7y l\u00e0 \u201cH\u00e1i l\u01b0\u1ee3m\u201d, h\u1ecd thu th\u1eadp v\u00e0 c\u1ea5t gi\u1eef nh\u1eefng g\u00ec m\u00e0 h\u1ecd c\u00f3, h\u1ecd coi s\u00f3c gia \u0111\u00ecnh, con c\u00e1i, cha m\u1eb9 gi\u00e0, th\u00fa nu\u00f4i, c\u00e2y c\u1ed1i v\u01b0\u1eddn t\u01b0\u1ee3c, ch\u1ee3 b\u00faa\u2026vv.<\/p>\n

M\u1eb7c d\u00f9 v\u1eady, k\u1ef7 nguy\u00ean n\u00e0y v\u00e0 x\u00e3 h\u1ed9i \u0111\u00e3 th\u1ec3 hi\u1ec7n s\u1ef1 ch\u1ea5p nh\u1eadn v\u1ec1 vi\u1ec7c \u0111\u1ea3o l\u1eabn vai tr\u00f2 c\u1ee7a \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng v\u00e0 \u0111\u00e0n b\u00e0, nh\u01b0ng n\u00f3 v\u1eabn c\u00f2n t\u1ed3n t\u1ea1i m\u1ed9t s\u1ed1 nh\u1eefng d\u01b0 \u00e2m v\u00e0 s\u1edf th\u00edch theo b\u1ea3n n\u0103ng.<\/p>\n

H\u00e3y \u0111\u1ec3 ch\u00fang t\u00f4i n\u00f3i ngo\u00e0i l\u1ec1 m\u1ed9t ch\u00fat v\u00e0 xem c\u00e1i g\u00ec \u0111\u00e3 \u1ea3nh h\u01b0\u1edfng t\u1edbi vi\u1ec7c \u0111em l\u1ea1i s\u1ef1 ch\u1ea5p nh\u1eadn \u0111\u1ea3o l\u1eabn vai tr\u00f2. M\u1ed9t y\u1ebfu t\u1ed1 ch\u00ednh v\u00e0o th\u1eddi \u0111i\u1ec3m n\u00e0y l\u00e0 hai cu\u1ed9c chi\u1ebfn tranh th\u1ebf gi\u1edbi. H\u1ea7u h\u1ebft nh\u1eefng k\u1ebb s\u1ed1ng trong \u0111\u1ea5t n\u01b0\u1edbc c\u00f3 t\u00ecnh tr\u1ea1ng chi\u1ebfn tranh th\u00ec \u0111\u1ec1u b\u1ecb g\u1ecdi \u0111i l\u00ednh. Do v\u1eady, t\u1ea5t c\u1ea3 nh\u1eefng c\u00f4ng vi\u1ec7c c\u1ee7a \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng \u0111\u1ec1u do ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef \u0111\u1ea3m nhi\u1ec7m. Sau chi\u1ebfn tranh, nh\u1eefng t\u00e0i s\u1ea3n c\u1ee7a gia \u0111\u00ecnh b\u1ecb h\u01b0 h\u1ea1i do \u0111\u00f3 ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef l\u1ea1i ph\u1ea3i ph\u1ee5 gi\u00fap.<\/p>\n

\u0110\u01b0\u1ee3c s\u1ef1 ch\u1ea5p thu\u1eadn th\u1ef1c s\u1ef1 cho ph\u00e9p ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef h\u1ecdc h\u00e0nh, khi h\u1ecd \u0111\u00e3 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c h\u1ecdc h\u00e0nh, h\u1ecd c\u00f3 ti\u1ec1m n\u0103ng \u0111\u1ec3 \u0111\u00f3ng g\u00f3p cho s\u1ee9c s\u1ea3n xu\u1ea5t c\u1ee7a gia \u0111\u00ecnh v\u00e0 qu\u1ed1c gia, nh\u1eefng \u0111i\u1ec1u n\u00e0y v\u00e0 nh\u1eefng y\u1ebfu t\u1ed1 kh\u00e1c \u0111\u00e3 g\u00f3p ph\u1ea7n v\u00e0o vi\u1ec7c thay \u0111\u1ed5i vai tr\u00f2 c\u1ee7a \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng v\u00e0 \u0111\u00e0n b\u00e0.<\/p>\n

Quay tr\u1edf l\u1ea1i ch\u1ee7 \u0111\u1ec1:<\/p>\n

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\u0110\u00e0n \u00f4ng d\u01b0\u1eddng nh\u01b0 th\u00edch th\u00fa v\u1ec1 nh\u1eefng th\u1ee9 nh\u00ecn b\u1ec1 ngo\u00e0i c\u00f3 v\u1ebb qu\u00e1 b\u00ecnh th\u01b0\u1eddng nh\u01b0 nh\u1eefng con \u1ed1c v\u00edt nho nh\u1ecf c\u1ee7a m\u00e1y vi t\u00ednh. Qua c\u00e1ch h\u1ecd th\u00edch bi\u1ebft hau h\u00e1u v\u1ec1 th\u00f4ng tin chi\u00eac m\u00e1y bay, rocket, b\u00f3ng \u0111\u00e1, camera, m\u00e1y vi t\u00ednh \u0111\u1ec3 th\u1ec3 hi\u1ec7n cho m\u1ecdi ng\u01b0\u1eddi ng\u1ea1c nhi\u00ean khi h\u1ecd thao t\u00e1c nh\u1eefng c\u1eed ch\u1ec9 th\u00edch th\u00fa c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd. Th\u1ec9nh tho\u1ea3ng h\u1ecd c\u00f2n th\u1ec3 hi\u1ec7n ni\u1ec1m \u0111am m\u00ea v\u00e0o c\u00e1c h\u00e0nh tinh, sao ch\u1ed5i \u0111\u1ec3 l\u00e0m b\u1ea1n ng\u1ea1c nhi\u00ean c\u00f3 kh\u00ed h\u1ecd c\u00f2n d\u1ef1 \u0111\u1ecbnh du ngo\u1ea1n t\u1edbi \u0111\u00f3 n\u1eefa. Nhi\u1ec1u khi s\u1ef1 \u0111am m\u00ea \u0111\u00e3 \u0111\u00e3 ph\u1ea3i tr\u1ea3 gi\u00e1. H\u1ecd \u0111\u00e3 sang t\u1ea1o, suy ngh\u0129, ph\u00e1t truy\u1ec1n, kh\u00e1m ph\u00e1 ra nhi\u1ec1u \u0111i\u1ec1u v\u00e0 ngay c\u1ea3 vi\u1ec7c \u0111i qua c\u00e1c t\u1ea7ng tr\u1eddi. Trong khi s\u1ef1 t\u00ecm t\u00f2i c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd v\u1ec1 ki\u1ebfn th\u1ee9c trong nhi\u1ec1u l\u0129nh v\u1ef1c l\u1ea1i \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c \u01b0u ti\u00ean , c\u00f2n vi\u1ec7c \u0111\u1ecdc c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd (v\u00e0 ki\u1ebfn th\u1ee9c) v\u1ec1 h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n, v\u1ec1 gia \u0111\u00ecnh v\u00e0 c\u00e1ch c\u01b0 x\u1eed c\u1ee7a ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef th\u00ec v\u1eafng m\u1eb7t \u0111\u1ebfn ng\u1ea1c nhi\u00ean. Khi ch\u00fang ta ra b\u00e0i ki\u1ec3m tra ch\u1ee7 \u0111\u1ec1 v\u1ec1 \u201cv\u1ee3\u201d v\u00e0 \u201cch\u1ee9c n\u0103ng l\u00e0m m\u1eb9\u201d th\u00ec ch\u1eafc ch\u1eafn th\u1ee9 h\u1ea1ng c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd ch\u1ec9 \u0111\u1ea1t \u0111i\u1ec3m Zer\u00f4. Nh\u1eefng \u01b0u ti\u00ean \u0111\u1ec3 ti\u1ebfp thu nh\u1eefng ki\u1ebfn th\u1ee9c n\u1ebfu \u201cnh\u1eefng ch\u1ee7 \u0111\u1ec1 ng\u01b0\u1eddi ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef th\u1eadt\u201d n\u00e0y th\u00ec ch\u1ec9 c\u00f3 n\u1eb1m ngo\u00e0i khu v\u1ef1c y\u00eau th\u00edch c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd m\u00e0 th\u00f4i. H\u1ecd s\u1eb5n sang th\u1ed5i ph\u00f9 nh\u01b0 c\u01a1n gi\u00f3 v\u00f4 t\u00ecnh.<\/p>\n

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Kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng kh\u00f4ng quan t\u00e2m, h\u1ecd c\u0169ng quan t\u00e2m nh\u01b0ng mu\u1ed1n \u0111\u01b0a \u0111\u1ebfn t\u1edbi s\u1ef1 quan t\u00e2m c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd l\u1ea1i l\u00e0 chuy\u1ec7n kh\u00e1c. \u0110\u00e0n \u00f4ng l\u00e0m vi\u1ec7c v\u1edbi t\u1ea5t c\u1ea3 nh\u1eefng g\u00ec \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c bi\u1ebft \u0111\u1ebfn nh\u01b0 l\u00e0 \u201cm\u1ecdi vi\u1ec7c \u0111\u1ec1u t\u1ed1t \u0111\u1eb9p c\u1ea3\u201d. N\u1ebfu v\u1ee3 \u1edf \u0111\u00f3, con c\u00e1i \u1edf \u0111\u00f3, th\u1ee9c \u0103n \u1edf \u0111\u00f3 th\u00ec \u201ct\u1ea5t c\u1ea3 t\u1ed1t \u0111\u1eb9p\u201d. H\u1ecd c\u00f3 xu h\u01b0\u1edbng c\u00f3 m\u1ed9t ki\u1ec3u v\u1ec1 to\u00e0n c\u1ea3nh th\u1ebf gi\u1edbi c\u1ed1 \u0111\u1ecbnh l\u00e0 \u201ct\u1ea5t c\u1ea3 t\u1ed1t \u0111\u1eb9p\u201d. Nh\u00e2n \u0111\u00e2y c\u00f3 m\u1ed9t v\u00ed d\u1ee5, n\u1ebfu nh\u01b0 con anh ta \u1edf tr\u01b0\u1eddng th\u00ec \u201ct\u1ea5t c\u1ea3 t\u1ed1t \u0111\u1eb9p\u201d, anh ta ch\u1eb3ng c\u1ea7n \u0111\u1ec3 \u00fd v\u1ec1 nh\u1eefng vi\u1ec7c \u1edf m\u1ee9c \u0111\u1ed9 gi\u1ed1ng nh\u01b0 qu\u1ea7n \u00e1o c\u1ee7a con \u0111\u00e3 chu\u1ea9n b\u1ecb hay b\u00e0i t\u1eadp v\u1ec1 nh\u00e0 \u0111\u00e3 l\u00e0m hay ch\u01b0a\u2026vv. V\u00ed d\u1ee5 kh\u00e1c: N\u1ebfu trong gia \u0111\u00ecnh c\u00f3 m\u1ed9t c\u00e1i b\u1ebfp, anh ta ngh\u0129 ch\u1eb3ng vi\u1ec7c g\u00ec ph\u1ea3i s\u1eed d\u1ee5ng t\u1edbi b\u1ed3n r\u1eeda b\u1ebfp v\u00e0 n\u00f3 ho\u00e0n to\u00e0n ng\u01b0\u1ee3c l\u1ea1i v\u1edbi suy ngh\u0129 c\u1ee7a anh ta. N\u00f3 c\u0169ng th\u1ef1c s\u1ef1 kh\u00f4ng x\u1ea3y ra chuy\u1ec7n g\u00ec v\u1edbi anh ta khi v\u1ee3 \u00edt h\u00e0o h\u1ee9ng v\u1ec1 vi\u1ec7c x\u00e2m ph\u1ea1m l\u00e3nh \u0111\u1ecba \u201cc\u1ee7a c\u00f4 ta\u201d. N\u1ebfu c\u00f4 ta kh\u00f4ng n\u00f3i g\u00ec th\u00ec \u201ct\u1ea5t c\u1ea3 t\u1ed1t \u0111\u1eb9p\u201d, c\u00f2n n\u1ebfu c\u00f4 ta l\u00ean ti\u1ebfng th\u00ec c\u00f4 ta s\u1ebd kh\u00f3a c\u00e1i l\u00f2ng s\u00fang \u201ct\u1ea5t c\u1ea3 t\u1ed1t \u0111\u1eb9p\u201d c\u1ee7a anh ta l\u1ea1i b\u1eb1ng ng\u00f4n ng\u1eef b\u00ecnh d\u00e2n l\u00e0 ch\u00ec chi\u1ebft anh ta. M\u1eb7t kh\u00e1c c\u00f3 m\u1ed9t s\u1ed1 ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e3 \u0111\u1ea1t \u0111\u1ebfn \u201cm\u1ee9c \u0111\u1ed9 \u0111\u1ed3ng c\u1ea3m\u201d (Xem ch\u01b0\u01a1ng 5). H\u1ecd l\u00e0 nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi v\u1eeba \u1ee7ng h\u1ed9 cho nh\u1eefng th\u1eed nghi\u1ec7m v\u1eeba tham gia th\u1eed nghi\u1ec7m. Ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 l\u00e0m \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c \u0111i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00f3, h\u1ecd c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 khai th\u00e1c \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c c\u1ea3 n\u00fai nh\u1eefng \u0111i\u1ec1u t\u1ed1t \u0111\u1eb9p t\u1eeb ch\u1ed3ng m\u00ecnh. Gi\u1ed1ng nh\u01b0 m\u1ed9t qu\u00fd b\u00e0 trong m\u1ed9t l\u1ea7n tr\u1ea3 l\u1eddi ph\u1ecfng v\u1ea5n ph\u00f3ng vi\u00ean h\u1ecfi: B\u00e0 ngh\u0129 th\u1ebf n\u00e0o v\u1ec1 nh\u00e0 m\u00e1y s\u1ea3n xu\u1ea5t \u00f4 t\u00f4 m\u1edbi c\u1ee7a ch\u1ed3ng b\u00e0 v\u1eeba \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c x\u00e2y d\u1ef1ng, v\u00e0 th\u1ef1c t\u1ebf s\u1ebd c\u00f3 r\u1ea5t nhi\u1ec1u \u00f4 t\u00f4 m\u1edbi \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c xu\u1ea5t x\u01b0\u1edfng h\u1eb1ng ng\u00e0y t\u1eeb nh\u00e0 m\u00e1y c\u1ee7a ch\u1ed3ng b\u00e0.<\/p>\n

B\u00e0 tr\u1ea3 l\u1eddi: \u201cT\u00f4i th\u1ef1c s\u1ef1 h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac v\u1ec1 n\u00f3. Tuy v\u1eady, t\u00f4i h\u00e0i long v\u00ec ch\u1ed3ng t\u00f4i s\u1ea3n xu\u1ea5t chi\u1ebfc xe \u0111\u1ea7u ti\u00ean t\u1eeb chi\u1ec7c s\u00e2n sau nh\u00e0 t\u00f4i\u2026\u201d c\u00f3 nhi\u1ec1u l\u1ea7n khi s\u00e2n sau \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c m\u1edf r\u1ed9ng \u0111\u1ee7 \u0111\u1ec3 l\u00e0m th\u00eam c\u00e1i b\u1ebfp b\u00e0n \u0103n, ph\u00f2ng \u0103n v\u00e0 nh\u1eefng khu v\u1ef1c kh\u00e1c trong ng\u00f4i nh\u00e0 (c\u00f3 l\u1ebd t\u1eeb kh\u00f4ng ch\u00ednh x\u00e1c). C\u00e2u tr\u1ea3 l\u1eddi nh\u01b0 v\u1eady \u0111\u00e3 l\u00e0m cho kh\u00f4ng bi\u1ebft bao nhi\u00eau ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i r\u01a1i l\u1ec7 v\u00ec s\u1ef1 ng\u01b0\u1ee1ng m\u1ed9. \u0110\u00e2y l\u00e0 \u201cs\u1ef1 hi\u1ec3u bi\u1ebft \u1edf m\u1ee9c \u0111\u1ed9 cao nh\u1ea5t\u201d. \u0110\u00e2y l\u00e0 m\u1eabu m\u1ef1c ho\u00e0n h\u1ea3o c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi v\u1ee3 tuy\u1ec7t v\u1eddi. Ng\u00e0y nay, c\u00f3 hang tr\u0103m ng\u00e0n c\u00f4ng vi\u1ec7c \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c t\u1ea1o ra h\u1eb1ng n\u0103m, n\u00f3 mang l\u1ea1i th\u1ef1c ph\u1ea9m cho s\u1ed1 ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u1ebfm xu\u1ec3. C\u00e1c trung t\u00e2m gi\u00e1o d\u1ee5c, trung t\u00e2m nghi\u00eam c\u1ee9u, b\u1ec7nh vi\u1ec7n v\u00e0 nh\u1eefng th\u1ee9 kh\u00e1c \u0111\u00e3 tr\u1edf th\u00e0nh hi\u1ec7n th\u1ef1c. T\u00e0i s\u1ea3n v\u1eabn c\u1ee9 ti\u1ebfp t\u1ee5c t\u0103ng h\u1eb1ng n\u0103m sau khi hai v\u1ee3 ch\u1ed3ng qua \u0111\u1eddi. C\u00f3 nhi\u1ec1u \u0111i\u1ec1u t\u1ed1t x\u1ea3y ra b\u1edfi c\u00f3 ng\u01b0\u1eddi v\u1ee3 h\u00e2n hoan cho ph\u00e9p c\u00f3 m\u1ed9t \u201c\u00fd t\u01b0\u1edfng\u201d g\u1ecdi chi\u1ebfc xe t\u1ea1o ra m\u1ed9t d\u00e1ng v\u1ebb chi\u1ebfc xe \u0111\u1ea7u ti\u00ean \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c t\u1ea1o ra t\u1eeb s\u00e2n sau, b\u1ebfp, ph\u00f2ng kh\u00e1ch \u201cc\u1ee7a b\u00e0\u201d. \u1ede nh\u00e0 \u00f4ng g\u1ecdi b\u00e0 l\u00e0 Callie. \u0110\u1ec3 l\u1ef1a ch\u1ecdn ng\u01b0\u1eddi, \u00f4ng \u1ea5y th\u01b0\u1eddng tham kh\u1ea3o b\u00e0 v\u1edbi t\u00ecnh c\u1ea3m v\u0129 \u0111\u1ea1i nh\u01b0 \u201cm\u1ed9t t\u00edn \u0111\u1ed3\u201d. M\u1ed9t s\u1ed1 ng\u01b0\u1eddi bi\u1ebft b\u00e0 nh\u01b0 b\u00e0 Clare Bryant Ford v\u00e0 th\u1ebf gi\u1edbi bao la \u0111\u00e3 bi\u1ebft b\u00e0 nh\u01b0 b\u00e0 Henry Ford. C\u00e2u chuy\u1ec7n n\u00e0y t\u00f4i bi\u1ebft t kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i do t\u00f4i \u0111\u1ecdc m\u00e0 t\u00f4i nghe qua m\u1ed9t s\u1ed1 ng\u01b0\u1eddi v\u1ee3 th\u00fa v\u1ecb th\u1ef1c hi\u1ec7n ph\u00e9p lo\u1ea1i suy nh\u1eefng l\u1eddi c\u1ee7a b\u00e0 Henry Ford t\u1eeb b\u1ea1n b\u00e8 c\u1ee7a b\u00e0. N\u00f3 l\u00e0m cho tr\u00e1i tim t\u00f4i vui s\u01b0\u1edbng v\u00f4 c\u00f9ng v\u00e0 n\u00f3 c\u00f3 t\u00e1c \u0111\u1ed9ng r\u1ea5t l\u1edbn tr\u00ean b\u1ed9 m\u00e1y ch\u00fang ta \u0111ang x\u00e2y d\u1ef1ng. T\u00f4i bi\u1ebft m\u1ed9t th\u1ef1c t\u1ebf r\u1eb1ng c\u00e1i b\u1ebfp, nh\u1eefng ph\u00f2ng kh\u00e1ch, ph\u00f2ng \u0103n g\u1ed3m nh\u1eefng \u0111\u1ed3 dung \u0111a d\u1ea1ng, m\u00e1i nh\u00e0, n\u1ec1n nh\u00e0, t\u1ea5t c\u1ea3 nh\u1eadp th\u00e0nh m\u1ed9t khu v\u1ef1c l\u00e0m vi\u1ec7c b\u1eeba b\u00e3i. Ng\u01b0\u1eddi m\u00e0 th\u1ef1c hi\u1ec7n k\u1ec3 l\u1ea1i c\u00e2u chuy\u1ec7n t\u01b0\u01a1ng t\u1ef1 n\u00e0y \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c bi\u1ebft nh\u01b0 th\u1ebf c\u1ee7a qu\u00fd b\u00e0 Gregory Fernandez.<\/p>\n

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Quay lai ch\u1ee7 \u0111\u1ec1:<\/p>\n

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Ng\u01b0\u1ee3c l\u1ea1i v\u1edbi c\u00e1c c\u00f4 g\u00e1i, nh\u1eefng ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef tr\u1ebb v\u00e0 c\u00e1c b\u00e0 n\u00f3i chung h\u1ecd \u0111\u1ecdc nhi\u1ec1u v\u1ec1 nh\u1eefng ch\u1ee7 \u0111\u1ec1 h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n n\u00e0y. Ngay c\u1ea3 khi nh\u00e0n r\u1ed7i, h\u1ecd t\u00ecm \u0111\u1ecdc nh\u1eefng t\u00e0i li\u1ec7u theo nh\u1eefng ch\u1ec9 d\u1eabn n\u00e0y. Do \u0111\u00f3, h\u1ecd mong \u0111\u1ee3i ng\u01b0\u1eddi ch\u1ed3ng c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh \u00edt nh\u1ea5t c\u0169ng ph\u1ea3i c\u00f3 v\u00e0i suy ngh\u0129 hay c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef h\u1ecd suy ngh\u0129 th\u1ebf n\u00e0o. Nh\u1eefng g\u00ec h\u1ecd mu\u1ed1n thay th\u1ebf th\u00ec ho\u00e0n to\u00e0n ng\u1ea1c nhi\u00ean. \u0110\u00e0n \u00f4ng ho\u1eb7c nh\u1eefng c\u1eadu b\u00e9 trai ho\u1eb7c n\u00e0y kia h\u1ecd nghe th\u1ea5y nh\u1eefng l\u1eddi \u0111\u1eb7c bi\u1ec7t nh\u01b0 \u201ct\u00f4i kh\u00f4ng bao gi\u1edd c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 hi\u1ec3u \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef\u201d \u201chi\u1ec7n th\u00e2n ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef l\u00e0 t\u1eeb h\u00e0nh tinh kh\u00e1c?\u201d \u201cph\u1ee5 n\u1eef c\u00f3 ch\u00fat kh\u1ea3 n\u0103ng n\u00e0o \u0111\u1ec3 suy ngh\u0129 kh\u00f4ng?\u201d L\u00fd do ch\u00ednh l\u00e0 do ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef v\u00e0 nam gi\u1edbi c\u00f3 c\u00e1ch suy ngh\u0129 kh\u00e1c nhau, m\u00e0 ch\u1eb3ng ph\u1ea3i nghi ng\u1edd g\u00ec v\u1ec1 \u0111i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00f3 n\u1eefa. C\u1ea3 hai \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c t\u1ea1o ra b\u1eb1ng nh\u1eefng x\u00fac c\u1ea3m kh\u00e1c nhau, nh\u1eefng kh\u00e1c bi\u1ebft \u0111\u00f3 c\u00e1c b\u1ea1n c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 th\u1ea5y \u1edf nh\u1eefng ch\u01b0\u01a1ng \u0111\u1ea7u. Ch\u01b0\u01a1ng n\u00e0y ch\u00fang t\u00f4i mu\u1ed1n th\u1eed v\u00e0 \u0111i s\u00e2u h\u01a1n v\u00e0o nh\u1eefng kh\u00e1c bi\u1ec7t n\u00e0y.<\/p>\n

Khi t\u00f4i ngh\u0129 v\u1ec1 nh\u1eefng kinh nghi\u1ec7m m\u00e0 t\u00f4i \u0111\u00e3 tr\u1ea3i qua, gi\u1edd \u0111\u00e2y ch\u00fang l\u00e0m t\u00f4i bu\u1ed3n c\u01b0\u1eddi, nh\u01b0ng v\u00e0o th\u1eddi \u0111i\u1ec3m \u0111\u00f3 c\u00f3 nhi\u1ec1u \u0111i\u1ec1u kh\u00e1c nhau, n\u00f3 t\u1eeb m\u1ee9c \u0111\u1ed9 t\u1eeb ng\u1ea1c nhi\u00ean t\u1edbi b\u1ef1c m\u00ecnh v\u00e0 sau \u0111\u00f3 l\u00e0 gi\u1eadn \u0111i\u00ean \u2013 \u0111\u00f4i khi \u0111\u1ed1i v\u1edbi t\u00f4i, \u0111\u00f4i khi cho v\u1ee3 t\u00f4i. V\u00ed d\u1ee5, nh\u1eefng th\u1ee9 thu\u1ed9c v\u1ec1 c\u01a1 kh\u00ed l\u00e0 c\u00f4ng vi\u1ec7c c\u1ee7a t\u00f4i v\u00e0 ti\u1ebfp x\u00fac \u0111\u1ebfn nh\u1eefng th\u1ee9 n\u00e0y l\u00e0 c\u00f4ng vi\u1ec7c h\u1eb1ng ng\u00e0y c\u1ee7a t\u00f4i. M\u1ed9t s\u1ed1 vi\u1ec7c t\u00f4i th\u1ef1c hi\u1ec7n \u1edf nh\u00e0.<\/p>\n

M\u1ed9t h\u00f4m v\u1ee3 b\u1ea3o t\u00f4i n\u1ed1i b\u00ecnh ga m\u1edbi v\u00e0o b\u1ebfp. T\u00f4i b\u1ea3o kh\u00f4ng bi\u1ebft n\u1ed1i n\u00f3 th\u1ebf n\u00e0o \u0111\u00e2u, th\u1ebf m\u00e0 v\u1ee3 kh\u00f4ng hi\u1ec3u \u0111i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00f3 v\u00e0 ra kh\u1ecfi nh\u00e0 m\u1ed9t c\u00e1ch b\u1ef1c m\u00ecnh. C\u00f4 \u1ea5y tin r\u1eb1ng t\u00f4i h\u1ee3m h\u0129nh v\u00e0 mu\u1ed1n ch\u1ecdc t\u1ee9c c\u00f4 \u1ea5y. Th\u1ef1c ra t\u00f4i ch\u01b0a bao gi\u1edd thay van ga. T\u00f4i kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c \u0111\u00e0o t\u1ea1o v\u1ec1 n\u00f3 trong kh\u00f3a h\u1ecdc c\u1ee7a t\u00f4i v\u00e0 t\u00f4i ch\u1eb3ng bao gi\u1edd ngh\u0129 v\u1ec1 vi\u1ec7c thay van ga c\u1ea3. V\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 n\u00e0y c\u00f2n l\u00e0m cho c\u00f4 \u1ea5y kh\u00f3 tin h\u01a1n v\u00ec th\u1ef1c t\u1ebf c\u00f4 \u1ea5y l\u00e0 chuy\u00ean gia c\u01a1 kh\u00ed c\u1ee7a gia \u0111\u00ecnh. Trong th\u1eddi gian c\u00f4 \u1ea5y nh\u1eadn ra r\u1eb1ng ch\u1eb3ng c\u00f3 s\u1ef1 \u0111\u00f9a c\u1ee3t hay t\u00ednh \u00e1c t\u00e2m n\u00e0o trong c\u00e1ch c\u01b0 x\u1eed c\u1ee7a t\u00f4i, nh\u01b0ng c\u1ee9 coi nh\u01b0 kh\u00f4ng th\u1ea5y g\u00ec. Sau n\u00e0y t\u00f4i m\u1edbi bi\u1ebft c\u00e2u chuy\u1ec7n \u0111\u00f3 t\u00ecnh c\u1edd qua m\u1eb9 t\u00f4i. V\u1edbi v\u00ed d\u1ee5 nh\u1ecf n\u00e0y, t\u00f4i mu\u1ed1n minh h\u1ecda r\u1eb1ng t\u00f4i l\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi v\u00f4 t\u00e2m bi\u1ebft ch\u1eebng n\u00e0o v\u1ec1 nh\u1eefng sinh ho\u1ea1t trong gia \u0111\u00ecnh, \u0111i\u1ec1u n\u00e0y l\u00e0m cho v\u1ee3 t\u00f4i ph\u1ea3i ng\u1ea1c nhi\u00ean. Ngay l\u1eadp t\u1ee9c t\u00f4i c\u0169ng qu\u00e1 ng\u1ea1c nhi\u00ean v\u00ec sao v\u1ee3 t\u00f4i l\u1ea1i ng\u1ea1c nhi\u00ean \u0111\u1ebfn v\u1eady v\u00ec t\u00f4i t\u1eeb h\u1ed3i 8 tu\u1ed5i r\u01b0\u1ee1i cho t\u1edbi ng\u00e0y t\u00f4i l\u1eadp gia \u0111\u00ecnh. T\u00f4i s\u1ed1ng \u1edf tr\u01b0\u1eddng n\u1ed9i tr\u00fa hay kh\u00e1ch s\u1ea1n v\u00e0 m\u1ecdi th\u1ee9 \u0111\u1ec1u s\u1eafp s\u1eb5n \u1edf ph\u00f2ng \u0103n, khi \u0103n xong t\u00f4i \u0111\u1ee9ng d\u1eady v\u00e0 \u0111i. Khi t\u00f4i v\u1ec1 nh\u00e0, m\u1eb9 t\u00f4i kh\u00f4ng y\u00eau c\u1ea7u t\u00f4i ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0m g\u00ec. Th\u1ef1c t\u1ebf b\u00e0 \u0111\u1ed1i \u0111\u00e3i v\u1edbi t\u00f4i khi t\u00f4i v\u1ec1 nh\u00e0 nh\u01b0 th\u1ec3 l\u00e0 c\u01a1 h\u1ed9i \u0111\u1ed9c nh\u1ea5t c\u1ee7a b\u00e0 \u0111\u1ec3 v\u1eadn \u0111\u1ed9ng c\u01a1 b\u1eafp trong b\u1ebfp. D\u00f9 sao \u0111i ch\u0103ng n\u1eefa t\u00f4i c\u0169ng ph\u1ea3i suy ngh\u0129 t\u1ea1i sao Rose l\u1ea1i ng\u1ea1c nhi\u00ean \u0111\u1ebfn v\u1eady. Do \u0111\u00f3, t\u00f4i \u0111\u00e3 b\u1eaft \u0111\u1ea7u ki\u1ec3m ch\u1ee9ng ch\u1ee7 \u0111\u1ec1 n\u00e0y t\u1eeb nh\u1eefng g\u00f3c c\u1ea1nh kh\u00e1c nhau. Kh\u00eda c\u1ea1nh th\u1ee9 nh\u1ea5t l\u00e0 t\u00f4n gi\u00e1o \u0111\u00f3 c\u0169ng l\u00e0 h\u01b0\u1edbng \u0111i ch\u00ednh c\u1ee7a cu\u1ed1n s\u00e1ch n\u00e0y. C\u00e2u chuy\u1ec7n \u0111\u1ea7y \u0111\u1ee7 nh\u01b0 th\u1ec3 l\u00e0m th\u1ebf n\u00e0o t\u00f4i c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 ki\u1ec3m nghi\u1ec7m \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c ch\u1ee7 \u0111\u1ec1 n\u00e0y t\u1eeb m\u1ed9t kh\u00eda c\u1ea1nh t\u00f4n gi\u00e1o th\u00ec ho\u00e0n to\u00e0n m\u1ed9t c\u00e1ch tr\u1ea3i nghi\u1ec7m; t\u00f4i \u0111\u00e3 m\u00f4 t\u1ea3 \u0111i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00f3 \u1edf trong nh\u1eefng ch\u01b0\u01a1ng kh\u00e1c- trong ph\u1ea7n m\u1edf r\u1ed9ng (prolog) v\u00e0 ph\u1ea7n k\u1ebft lu\u1eadn (epilog). G\u00f3c c\u1ea1nh kh\u00e1c l\u00e0 g\u00f3c c\u1ea1nh con ng\u01b0\u1eddi n\u00f3 li\u00ean quan t\u1edbi t\u00e2m l\u00fd h\u1ecdc, sinh l\u00fd h\u1ecdc v\u00e0 c\u00e1ch c\u01b0 x\u1eed . kh\u00eda c\u1ea1nh t\u00f4n gi\u00e1o gi\u00fap ch\u00fang ta \u0111\u1eb7t quan \u0111i\u1ec3m c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh v\u00e0o \u0111\u00fang s\u1ef1 ho\u00e0n h\u1ea3o c\u1ee7a Ch\u00faa v\u00e0 t\u1ea1o \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c m\u1ed9t m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 ch\u00ednh x\u00e1c v\u1edbi v\u1ee3 ch\u1ed3ng. G\u00f3c c\u1ea1nh con ng\u01b0\u1eddi gi\u00fap ta hi\u1ec3u \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n v\u00e0 nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c v\u00e0 m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 li\u00ean th\u00f4ng gi\u1eefa hai ng\u01b0\u1eddi. H\u00e3y \u0111\u1ec3 ch\u00fang t\u00f4i ki\u1ec3m tra l\u1ea1i quan \u0111i\u1ec3m y h\u1ecdc, t\u00e2m l\u00fd h\u1ecdc, h\u00e0nh vi h\u1ecdc.<\/p>\n

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  1. S\u1ef0 TI\u1ebeN \u0110\u1ed8NG<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

    Ng\u01b0\u1eddi v\u1ee3 c\u0169ng \u0111\u1ed3ng th\u1eddi l\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi m\u1eb9. Trong ng\u1eef c\u1ea3nh n\u00e0y th\u1eadt ch\u00ednh x\u00e1c khi \u0111\u01b0a di\u1ec7n m\u1ea1o n\u00e0y v\u00e0o \u0111\u1ec3 b\u00e0n t\u00ednh v\u00e0 n\u00f3i v\u00e0i \u0111i\u1ec1u v\u1ec1 vai tr\u00f2 n\u00e0y. K\u1ef9 n\u0103ng \u0111\u1ec3 tr\u1edf th\u00e0nh ng\u01b0\u1eddi v\u1ee3, ng\u01b0\u1eddi m\u1eb9 th\u1ef1c s\u1ef1 \u0111\u00e1ng ghi nh\u1edb (ch\u00fa \u00fd : l\u00e0 \u0111i\u1ec1u v\u00f4 c\u00f9ng quan tr\u1ecdng cho s\u1ee9c kh\u1ecfe v\u00e0 s\u1ee9c s\u1ed1ng c\u1ee7a x\u00e3 h\u1ed9i ch\u00fang ta. Th\u1eadt \u0111\u00e1ng ti\u1ebfc ph\u1ea3i ghi nh\u1eadn s\u1ef1 thi\u1ebfu t\u00f4n tr\u1ecdng v\u00e0 \u0111\u1ecba v\u1ecb m\u00e0 x\u00e3 h\u1ed9i ng\u00e0y nay d\u00e0nh cho \u201cnh\u1eefng b\u00e0 n\u1ed9i tr\u1ee3\u201d ngay c\u1ea3 v\u1edbi t\u01b0 c\u00e1ch \u201cnh\u1eefng b\u00e0 n\u1ed9i tr\u1ee3\u201d c\u0169ng th\u01b0\u1eddng \u0111\u1ed3ng ngh\u0129a v\u1edbi t\u1eeb: ch\u01b0a l\u00e0m tr\u00f2n nhi\u1ec7m v\u1ee5, l\u00e0m thu\u1ed9c c\u1ea5p, v\u00f4 ngh\u0129a. Ch\u00fang ta \u0111\u00e3 m\u1eafc ph\u1ea3i m\u1ed9t sai l\u1ea7m l\u00e0 l\u00e0m gi\u1ea3m gi\u00e1 tr\u1ecb c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi n\u1ed9i tr\u1ee3. M\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi ch\u1ed3ng v\u00e0 c\u00f4ng vi\u1ec7c c\u1ee7a anh ta \u00e1p \u0111\u1eb7t t\u00e2m tr\u1ea1ng th\u1ea5t v\u1ecdng v\u00e0 c\u0103ng th\u1eb3ng l\u00ean ng\u01b0\u1eddi v\u1ee3. Ch\u00fang ta ph\u1ea3i nh\u00ecn nh\u1eadn th\u1ef1c t\u1ebf s\u1ef1 th\u1eadt n\u00e0y. Ngo\u00e0i vi\u1ec7c coi b\u1ecdn tr\u1ebb l\u00e0 c\u00f4ng vi\u1ec7c m\u1ec7t l\u1eed v\u00e0 l\u00e0m ph\u00e1t c\u00e1u, ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef c\u0169ng th\u01b0\u1eddng ch\u1ea1m tr\u00e1n v\u1edbi nhi\u1ec1u v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 v\u00e0 \u00e1p l\u1ef1c m\u00e0 n\u00f3 \u00edt g\u1eb7p h\u01a1n \u1edf \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng. S\u1ef1 c\u00f4 \u0111\u01a1n \u1edf ng\u01b0\u1eddi tr\u01b0\u1edfng th\u00e0nh th\u01b0\u1eddng ph\u1ed5 bi\u1ebfn trong ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef ph\u1ea3i \u1edf nh\u00e0, th\u01b0\u1eddng th\u00ec c\u00f4 ta c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y khao kh\u00e1t s\u00e2u v\u00e0 dai d\u1eb3ng, mu\u1ed1n \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c li\u00ean h\u1ec7 v\u1edbi ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c. C\u00f4 ta ao \u01b0\u1edbc \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c c\u01b0\u1eddi to h\u01a1n v\u00e0 t\u00ecnh y\u00eau l\u00e3ng m\u1ea1n trong nh\u1eefng ng\u00e0y c\u00f4 c\u00f2n tr\u1ebb. Nhi\u1ec1u ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef mong m\u1ecfi nh\u1eefng \u0111i\u1ec1u c\u1ea5p thi\u1ebft n\u00e0y, c\u1ed1 g\u1eafng v\u01b0\u01a1n tay ra v\u00e0 truy\u1ec1n \u0111\u1ea1t \u0111i\u1ec1u n\u00e0y v\u1edbi ch\u1ed3ng \u0111\u1ec3 hy v\u1ecdng r\u1eb1ng ch\u1ed3ng m\u00ecnh c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 b\u00f9 \u0111\u1eafp nh\u1eefng \u0111i\u1ec1u c\u00f2n thi\u1ebfu. C\u00f4 ta li\u1ec1u m\u1ea1ng khi\u1ebfn ch\u1ed3ng m\u00ecnh hi\u1ec3u \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c s\u1ef1 khao kh\u00e1t v\u00e0 t\u00e2m tr\u1ea1ng th\u1ea5t v\u1ecdng c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh. Nh\u01b0ng d\u01b0\u1eddng nh\u01b0 c\u00f4 ta c\u0169ng kh\u00f4ng l\u00f4i cu\u1ed1n \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c s\u1ef1 quan t\u00e2m c\u1ee7a ch\u1ed3ng m\u00ecnh. Nh\u1eefng n\u1ed7 l\u1ef1c c\u1ee7a c\u00f4 thay v\u00ec l\u00f4i cu\u1ed1n s\u1ef1 th\u00f4ng c\u1ea3m v\u00e0 gi\u00fap \u0111\u1ee1 th\u00ec l\u1ea1i \u0111\u01b0a ra l\u1eddi gi\u1ea3i th\u00edch nh\u01b0 l\u00e0: \u0111ang r\u1ea7y la, c\u1eb1n nh\u1eb1n, s\u1ef1 t\u1ef1 than hay s\u1ef1 ch\u1ed1ng \u0111\u1ed1i. Khi \u0111i\u1ec1u n\u00e0y x\u1ea3y ra, h\u1ea7u h\u1ebft \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng kh\u00f4ng h\u00f2a \u0111\u1ed3ng ho\u1eb7c l\u00e0 h\u1ecd kh\u00f4ng nghe ho\u1eb7c b\u1ecf \u0111i ch\u01a1i hay ph\u1ea3n \u1ee9ng m\u1ed9t c\u00e1ch c\u1ef1 tuy\u1ec7t. C\u00e1ch c\u01b0 x\u1eed n\u00e0y d\u01b0\u1eddng nh\u01b0 mu\u1ed1n truy\u1ec1n m\u1ed9t th\u00f4ng \u0111i\u1ec7p \u201c c\u00f3 v\u00e2n \u0111\u1ec1 g\u00ec m\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e0n b\u00e0\u201d n\u00e0y \u201cm\u1eafc ph\u1ea3i?\u201d Ch\u1eafc ch\u1eafn m\u1ee5c \u0111\u00edch c\u1ee7a ch\u01b0\u01a1ng n\u00e0y kh\u00f4ng ch\u1ec9 tr\u00edch gay g\u1eaft c\u00e1nh \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng, n\u00f3 di\u1ec5n \u0111\u1ea1t m\u00f4 t\u1ea3 ng\u01b0\u1eddi ch\u1ed3ng v\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi b\u1ed1 v\u1edbi nh\u1eefng t\u1eeb nh\u01b0 v\u1eady. M\u1ed9t s\u1ed1 t\u1eeb \u0111\u1ec3 bi\u1ec3u l\u1ed9 nh\u01b0 \u201cm\u1ed9t th\u1eb1ng ng\u1ed1c, ng\u01b0\u1eddi tin m\u00f9 qu\u00e1ng, k\u1ebb l\u1ee3i d\u1ee5ng, k\u1ebb gh\u00e9t \u0111\u00e0n b\u00e0, k\u1ebb cu\u1ed3ng t\u00edn b\u00f3ng \u0111\u00e1, ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111i\u00ean v\u1ec1 b\u00f3ng \u0111\u00e1, ng\u01b0\u1eddi cho m\u00ecnh l\u00e0 tr\u00ean h\u1ebft\u201d. M\u1ed9t s\u1ed1 ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef n\u00f3i nh\u01b0 v\u1eady nghe nh\u01b0 th\u1ec3 \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng c\u00f2n th\u1ea5p h\u01a1n b\u00e3i ph\u00e2n. Trong khi \u0111\u00f3 \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng c\u00f3 c\u1ea3m gi\u00e1c kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 tranh c\u00e3i \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c. T\u1ed1t nh\u1ea5t l\u00e0 \u0111\u1ec3 h\u1ecd ra m\u1ed9t b\u00ean. Ch\u1ec9 coi n\u1ed7i kh\u1ed5 c\u1ef1c \u0111\u00f3 nh\u01b0 nh\u1eefng k\u1ef9 n\u0103ng v\u00e0 s\u1ef1 hu\u1ea5n luy\u1ec7n, s\u1ef1 nh\u1eabn n\u1ea1i. T\u1ea5t nhi\u00ean c\u00e1i ki\u1ec3u bu\u1ed9c t\u1ed9i n\u00e0y r\u00f5 r\u00e0ng l\u00e0 c\u01b0\u1eddng \u0111i\u1ec7u. T\u00f3m l\u1ea1i c\u00f3 ng\u01b0\u1eddi ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef n\u00e0o mu\u1ed1n \u0111\u00e2m \u0111\u1ea7u v\u00e0o cu\u1ed9c h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n nh\u01b0 trong ch\u01b0\u01a1ng ph\u1ea7n \u0111\u1ea7u. M\u1eb7t kh\u00e1c th\u1ef1c s\u1ef1 c\u00f3 qu\u00e1 nhi\u1ec1u \u00f4ng th\u1ef1c s\u1ef1 kh\u00f4ng hi\u1ec3u t\u00ecnh c\u1ea3m c\u1ea7n thi\u1ebft c\u1ee7a v\u1ee3 m\u00ecnh. H\u1ecd s\u1ed1ng trong m\u1ed9t th\u1ebf gi\u1edbi kh\u00e1c bi\u1ec7t, bao quanh b\u1edfi nh\u1eefng th\u1ea5t v\u1ecdng c\u00f3 d\u01b0 c\u1ee7a ch\u00ednh h\u1ecd. Nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng c\u0169ng kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 kh\u1ea3 n\u0103ng t\u1ef1 \u0111\u1eb7t m\u00ecnh v\u00e0o trong c\u00e1ch ngh\u0129 c\u1ee7a v\u1ee3 m\u00ecnh \u0111\u1ec3 nh\u1eadn ra v\u00e0 c\u1ea3m nh\u1eadn \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c c\u00e1ch v\u1ee3 m\u00ecnh ngh\u0129 hay h\u1ecd qu\u00e1 b\u1eadn t\u00e2m v\u1edbi c\u00f4ng vi\u1ec7c c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh ho\u1eb7c h\u1ecd \u0111\u01a1n gi\u1ea3n kh\u00f4ng nghe. Kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u1ebfm x\u1ec9a \u0111\u1ebfn l\u00fd do \u0111\u00f3, th\u1ef1c t\u1ebf v\u1eabn c\u00f2n nh\u1eefng d\u01b0 \u00e2m m\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef c\u00f3 nh\u1eefng nhu c\u1ea7u m\u00e0 \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng kh\u00f4ng d\u1ec5 g\u00ec hi\u1ec3u th\u1ea5u \u0111\u00e1o. M\u1ee5c \u0111\u00edch v\u00e0 \u00fd \u0111\u1ecbnh c\u1ee7a ch\u01b0\u01a1ng n\u00e0y l\u00e0 \u0111\u1ec3 r\u1ecdi s\u00e1ng cho nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng v\u00e0 cung c\u1ea5p s\u1ef1 hi\u1ec3u bi\u1ebft s\u00e2u s\u1eafc theo c\u00e1ch n\u00e0y, \u0111\u00e2y c\u0169ng l\u00e0 \u0111\u1ed9ng c\u01a1 th\u00fac \u0111\u1ea9y \u0111\u1ec3 vi\u1ebft ra nh\u1eefng trang n\u00e0y. V\u00ec t\u00f4i c\u00f3 r\u1ea5t \u00edt ki\u1ebfn th\u1ee9c v\u00e0 do v\u1eady \u0111\u00e3 m\u1eafc nhi\u1ec1u sai l\u1ea7m. T\u00f4i mu\u1ed1n hi\u1ebfn t\u1eb7ng ch\u01b0\u01a1ng n\u00e0y m\u1ed9t c\u00e1ch \u0111\u1eb7c bi\u1ec7t t\u1edbi ng\u01b0\u1eddi v\u1ee3\u00a0ROSE MARIE.<\/strong><\/p>\n

    Ch\u01b0\u01a1ng n\u00e0y kh\u00f4ng ch\u1ec9 d\u00e0nh cho c\u00e1c \u00f4ng; n\u00f3 thi\u1ebft k\u1ebf c\u0169ng \u0111\u1ec3 cho qu\u00fd b\u00e0 \u0111\u1ecdc. Theo \u0111\u00f3 ch\u00fang ta ph\u1ea3i \u0111\u1ed1i m\u1eb7t v\u1edbi th\u1ef1c t\u1ebf v\u00e0 trong s\u1ed1 \u0111\u00f3 nhi\u1ec1u b\u00e0 v\u1ee3 \u0111\u1ecdc nh\u1eefng cu\u1ed1n s\u00e1ch nh\u01b0 v\u1eady h\u01a1n l\u00e0 c\u00e1c \u00f4ng ch\u1ed3ng.<\/p>\n

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      M\u1ed9t s\u1ed1 m\u1ee5c ti\u00eau c\u1ee7a ch\u01b0\u01a1ng n\u00e0y l\u00e0:<\/p>\n

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      1. Gi\u00fap ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef tr\u00ecnh b\u00e0y nh\u1eefng y\u00eau c\u1ea7u v\u1edbi ch\u1ed3ng.<\/li>\n
      2. Hi\u1ec3u \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c c\u1ea3m x\u00fac ri\u00eang.<\/li>\n
      3. C\u1ed5 v\u0169 th\u1ef1c thi l\u00e0m tr\u1ecdn h\u01a1n ch\u1ee9c n\u0103ng l\u00e0m m\u1eb9.<\/li>\n
      4. Hi\u1ec3u \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c s\u1ef1 bu\u1ed3n r\u1ea7u v\u00e0 c\u00e1ch gi\u1ea3i quy\u1ebft v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1.<\/li>\n
      5. Hi\u1ec3u \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c s\u1ef1 b\u1ef1c m\u00ecnh h\u1eb1ng ng\u00e0y x\u1ea3y ra.<\/li>\n
      6. Th\u00fac \u0111\u1ea9y l\u00f2ng t\u1ef1 tr\u1ecdng.<\/li>\n
      7. Hi\u1ec3u c\u00e1ch l\u00e0m h\u1ed3i sinh t\u00ecnh y\u00eau l\u00e3ng m\u1ea1n.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

        Nghe nh\u01b0 c\u00f3 v\u1ebb nhi\u1ec1u tham v\u1ecdng; tuy nhi\u00ean n\u00f3 s\u1ebd d\u1ec5 d\u00e0ng h\u01a1n \u0111\u1ec3 b\u1eafn tr\u00fang \u0111\u00edch \u0111i\u1ec3m. Ch\u00fang ta h\u00e3y b\u1eaft \u0111\u1ea7u m\u1ed9t cu\u1ed9c th\u1ea3o lu\u1eadn v\u1ec1 ngu\u1ed3n g\u1ed1c c\u1ee7a s\u1ef1 bu\u1ed3n r\u1ea7u c\u1ee7a ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef.<\/p>\n

        S\u1ef1 bu\u1ed3n r\u1ea7u \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c kinh nghi\u1ec7m qua nh\u1eefng c\u00e1ch sau:<\/p>\n

        L\u1ed7i th\u1ea5t v\u1ecdng; s\u1ef1 ch\u00e1n n\u1ea3n (n\u1ea3n l\u00f2ng), kh\u00f4ng can thi\u1ec7p, kh\u00f4ng tin c\u1eady, s\u1ef1 ng\u00e3 l\u00f2ng, s\u1ef1 l\u00e0m tan \u1ea3o m\u1ed9ng. C\u1ea3 \u0111\u00e0n b\u00e0 c\u0169ng nh\u01b0 \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng s\u1ebd b\u1ecb ch\u00e1n n\u1ea3n, nh\u01b0ng c\u00f3 nh\u1eefng ghi nh\u1eadn kh\u00e1c nhau gi\u1eefa h\u1ecd:<\/p>\n

        S\u1ef1 bu\u1ed3n r\u1ea7u trong \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng c\u00f3 h\u01b0\u1edbng kh\u1ee7ng ho\u1ea3ng, n\u00f3 s\u1ebd d\u1ea7n \u0111\u1ebfn b\u1edfi m\u1ed9t cu\u1ed9c kh\u1ee7ng ho\u1ea3ng nh\u01b0 s\u1ef1 kinh doanh th\u1ea5t b\u1ea1i; \u0111au y\u1ebfu, thay \u0111\u1ed5i c\u00e1c ho\u1ea1t \u0111\u1ed9ng trong cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng..v.v\u2026m\u1ec7t m\u1ecfi. V\u1edbi ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef, nguy\u00ean nh\u00e2n \u0111em l\u1ea1i s\u1ef1 bu\u1ed3n r\u1ea7u kh\u00f4ng r\u00f5 r\u00e0ng; chung th\u1ee7y, h\u1ea7u nh\u01b0 kh\u00f4ng x\u00e1c \u0111\u1ecbnh \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c. T\u00e1c \u0111\u1ed9ng c\u1ee7a s\u1ef1 bu\u1ed3n r\u1ea7u nh\u1ecf n\u1ebfu ch\u00fang ta hi\u1ec3u \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c tr\u1ea1ng th\u00e1i t\u00ecnh c\u1ea3m. M\u1ecdi ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u1ec1u c\u00f3 m\u1ed9t chu k\u1ef3 tr\u1ea1ng th\u00e1i t\u00ecnh c\u1ea3m. N\u00f3 g\u1ed3m c\u00f3 tr\u1ea1ng th\u00e1i cao \u0111i theo b\u1edfi tr\u1ea1ng th\u00e1i th\u1ea5p nh\u00ecn gi\u1ed1ng nh\u01b0 n\u00e0y:<\/p>\n

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        (If)\u00a0 N\u1ebfu ta v\u1ebd m\u1ed9t m\u1ed1c \u0111o l\u01b0\u1eddng gi\u1ed1ng nh\u01b0 bi\u1ec3u \u0111\u1ed3 ph\u00eda d\u01b0\u1edbi, ta k\u1ebb m\u1ed9t \u0111\u01b0\u1eddng th\u1eb3ng, s\u1ebd th\u1ea5y \u0111i\u1ec3m trung b\u00ecnh.<\/span><\/p>\n

        \u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

        Khu v\u1ef1c cao th\u1ea5p c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 t\u01b0\u01a1ng \u0111\u01b0\u01a1ng nhau v\u1ec1 bi\u00ean \u0111\u1ed9 v\u00e0 t\u1ea7n s\u1ed1. Bi\u00ean \u0111\u1ed9 v\u00e0 t\u1ea7n s\u1ed1 kh\u00e1c nhau \u0111\u1ed1i v\u1edbi t\u1eebng ng\u01b0\u1eddi.<\/span><\/p>\n

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        Ng\u01b0\u1eddi c\u00f3 bi\u00ean \u0111\u1ed9 th\u1ea5p th\u00ec ti\u1ebfp nh\u1eadn tin t\u1ed1t v\u00e0 tin x\u1ea5u \u1edf tr\u1ea1ng th\u00e1i b\u00ecnh t\u0129nh nh\u01b0 nhau. H\u1ecd c\u0169ng kh\u00f4ng qu\u00e1 b\u1ecb k\u00edch \u0111\u1ed9ng v\u1ec1 b\u1ea5t k\u1ef3 \u0111i\u1ec1u g\u00ec. H\u1ecd s\u1ebd l\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi ch\u1eadm hi\u1ec3u h\u01a1n. Tr\u00e1i l\u1ea1i, ng\u01b0\u1eddi c\u00f3 bi\u00ean \u0111\u1ed9 cao c\u00f3 d\u1ea5u hi\u1ec7u bi\u1ec3u l\u1ed9 s\u1ef1 vui m\u1eebng nh\u01b0ng c\u0169ng t\u01b0\u01a1ng t\u1ef1 nh\u01b0 v\u1eady l\u00fac c\u00f3 bi\u1ec3u \u0111\u1ea1t s\u1ef1 bu\u1ed3n r\u1ea7u h\u1ecd gi\u1ed1ng nh\u01b0 m\u1ed9t con \u0111\u1ed3 ch\u01a1i YO-YO (lo\u1ea1i \u0111\u1ed3 ch\u01a1i k\u00e9o l\u00ean, xu\u1ed1ng) d\u1ec5 x\u00fac \u0111\u1ed9ng.<\/span><\/p>\n

        Kh\u00f4ng ch\u00fa \u00fd \u0111\u1ebfn c\u00e1c bi\u1ec3u \u0111\u1ed3, t\u1ea7n s\u1ed1 thay \u0111\u1ed5i c\u1ecf th\u1ec3 kh\u00e1c trong c\u00f9ng lo\u1ea1i, v\u00ed d\u1ee5 nh\u01b0::<\/span><\/p>\n

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        Bi\u00ean \u0111\u1ed9 th\u1ea5p v\u1edbi tr\u1ea1ng th\u00e1i thay \u0111\u1ed5i ch\u1eadm\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Bi\u00ean \u0111\u1ed9 th\u1ea5p v\u1edbi tr\u1ea1ng th\u00e1i thay \u0111\u1ed5i t\u1ea7n s\u1ed1<\/span><\/p>\n

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        BI\u1ec2U \u0110\u1ed2 CAO V\u1edaI TR\u1ea0NG TH\u00c1I THAY \u0110\u1ed4I CH\u1eacM \u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0BI\u00caN \u0110\u1ed8 CAO V\u1edaI TR\u1ea0NG TH\u00c1I THAY \u0110\u1ed4I T\u1ea6N S\u1ed0.<\/p>\n

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        Trong nh\u1eefng gi\u1edbi h\u1ea1n, \u0111\u01b0\u1eddng cong t\u00ednh c\u00e1ch c\u1ee7a nhi\u1ec1u ki\u1ec3u ng\u01b0\u1eddi th\u00ec kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 g\u1eafn cho c\u00e1i t\u00ean l\u00e0 \u201ct\u1ed1t hay x\u1ea5u\u201d. Ch\u00fang ch\u1ec9 l\u00e0 tr\u1ea1ng th\u00e1i kh\u00e1c nhau gi\u1eefa ng\u01b0\u1eddi n\u00e0y v\u1edbi ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c m\u00e0 th\u00f4i.<\/p>\n

        Do \u0111\u00f3 t\u1ea1i sao ch\u00fang ta c\u00f3 \u0111a d\u1ea1ng ki\u1ec3u ng\u01b0\u1eddi gi\u1ed1ng nh\u01b0 t\u00f4i \u0111\u00e3 \u0111\u1ec1 c\u1eadp l\u00fac tr\u01b0\u1edbc. Trong nh\u1eefng gi\u1edb h\u1ea1n h\u1ee3p l\u00fd, t\u1ea5t c\u1ea3 c\u00e1c tr\u1ea1ng th\u00e1i c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 coi l\u00e0 b\u00ecnh th\u01b0\u1eddng. \u0110i\u1ec1u quan t\u00e2m l\u00e0 l\u00e0m th\u1ebf n\u00e0o nh\u1eefng ki\u1ec3u ng\u01b0\u1eddi n\u00e0y \u1ea3nh h\u01b0\u1edfng \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c \u0111\u1ebfn nhau. Ch\u1eb3ng c\u00f2n nghi ng\u1edd g\u00ec, ch\u00fang ta c\u0169ng mu\u1ed1n m\u1ed9t s\u1ed1 tr\u1ea1ng th\u00e1i \u0111\u01b0\u1eddng cong s\u1ebd l\u00e0 l\u00fd t\u01b0\u1edfng \u0111\u1ed1i v\u1edbi v\u1ee3 ch\u1ed3ng, c\u00f3 l\u1ebd nh\u1eefng tr\u1ea1ng th\u00e1i \u0111\u01b0\u1eddng cong kh\u00e1c l\u1ea1i d\u00e0nh cho nh\u1eefng nhi\u1ec7m v\u1ee5 kh\u00e1c. B\u00ecnh th\u01b0\u1eddng ch\u00fang ta \u01b0\u1edbc \u0111\u1ecbnh l\u01b0\u1ee3ng ng\u01b0\u1eddi v\u00e0 c\u1ed1 g\u1eafng chia nh\u1eefng gi\u00e1 tr\u1ecb li\u00ean quan t\u1edbi nh\u1eefng ho\u1ea1t \u0111\u1ed9ng c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd, \u0111\u1eb7c bi\u1ec7t khi n\u00f3 li\u00ean quan t\u1edbi ch\u00fang ta . V\u00e0 d\u1eabu v\u1eady, nh\u1eefng \u0111\u01b0\u1eddng cong t\u00ednh c\u00e1ch c\u0169ng r\u1ea5t th\u00fa v\u1ecb, th\u1eadt ng\u1edb ng\u1ea9n \u0111\u1ec3 c\u1ed1 v\u00e0 l\u00e0m cho ng\u01b0\u1eddi ta h\u1ee3p v\u00e0 ch\u1ecdn b\u1ea1n ch\u1ec9 d\u1ef1a tr\u00ean nh\u1eefng \u0111\u01b0\u1eddng cong c\u01a1 b\u1ea3n n\u00e0y. M\u1ed9t \u0111i\u1ec1u l\u00e0 m\u1ed7i \u0111\u01b0\u1eddng cong c\u1ee7a m\u1ed7i ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u1ec1u kh\u00e1c nhau, n\u00f3 gi\u1ed1ng nh\u01b0 d\u1ea5u v\u00e2n tay c\u1ee7a con ng\u01b0\u1eddi. B\u00ean c\u1ea1nh \u0111\u00f3 c\u00f3 s\u1ef1 t\u00e1n t\u1ee5ng c\u00f3 l\u1ee3i. N\u1ebfu nh\u1eefng tr\u1ea1ng th\u00e1i kh\u00e1c nhau c\u00f3 gi\u00e1 tr\u1ecb v\u1edbi nh\u1eefng tr\u1ea1ng th\u00e1i \u0111\u01b0\u1eddng cong kh\u00e1c nhau, s\u1ebd l\u00e0 l\u1ee3i th\u1ebf khi nh\u1eb1m v\u00e0o m\u1ed9t t\u00ecnh hu\u1ed1ng t\u1eeb hai g\u00f3c c\u1ea1nh kh\u00e1c nhau. Tr\u00f2 gian tr\u00e1 th\u00ec kh\u00f4ng ph\u00f9 h\u1ee3p v\u1edbi nh\u1eefng \u0111\u01b0\u1eddng cong, nh\u01b0ng \u0111\u1ec3 hi\u1ec3u \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c ch\u00fang, th\u1eadt quan tr\u1ecdng \u0111\u1ec3 hi\u1ec3u \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n c\u0169ng nh\u01b0 hi\u1ec3u \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c b\u1ea1n \u0111\u1eddi. M\u1ee5c \u0111\u00edch l\u00e0 \u0111\u1ea3m b\u1ea3o ch\u1eafc ch\u1eafn r\u1eb1ng hai t\u00ednh c\u00e1ch ph\u1ea3i h\u1ecdc c\u00e1ch \u0111i\u1ec1u ch\u1ec9nh xem x\u00e9t x\u00fac c\u1ea3m c\u1ee7a nhau \u201cl\u00ean v\u00e0 xu\u1ed1ng\u201d m\u1ed9t ph\u1ea7n nguy\u00ean nh\u00e2n th\u00e0nh c\u00f4ng c\u1ee7a t\u00f4i ph\u1ee5 thu\u1ed9c v\u00e0o t\u1eeb n\u00e0y, \u201cs\u1ef1 \u0111i\u1ec1u ch\u1ec9nh v\u00e0 xem x\u00e9t\u201d. Ph\u1ea7n kh\u00e1c ph\u1ee5 thu\u1ed9c v\u00e0 c\u1ea3 hai ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u1ed3ng nh\u1ea5t l\u00f2ng c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd v\u1edbi \u00fd mu\u1ed1n c\u1ee7a Ch\u00faa. Sau h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0 k\u1ebft h\u1ee3p gi\u1eefa hai b\u00ean m\u00e0 l\u00e0 3 b\u00ean Ch\u00faa \u2013 ch\u1ed3ng \u2013 v\u1ee3.<\/p>\n

        C\u00f3 ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111ang m\u00f4 t\u1ea3 tr\u1ea1ng th\u00e1i trong khi c\u00f3 bu\u1ed5i h\u00f2a nh\u1ea1c giao h\u01b0\u1edfng, tr\u01b0\u1edbc m\u1eb7t anh ta l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng r\u1ea5t hi\u1ec3u v\u1ec1 \u00e2m nh\u1ea1c. trong n\u1eeda \u0111o\u1ea1n \u0111\u1ea7u ti\u00ean c\u1ee7a bu\u1ed5i h\u00f2a nh\u1ea1c \u00f4ng ta c\u1ef1c k\u1ef3 sung s\u01b0\u1edbng v\u1edbi m\u1ed7i kh\u00fac nh\u1ea1c. \u00d4ng ta \u00f4m ng\u1ef1c m\u00ecnh l\u1eafc l\u01b0, khi k\u1ebft th\u00fac kh\u00fac nh\u1ea1c \u00f4ng ta nh\u1ecfm l\u00ean v\u00e0 v\u1ed7 tay t\u00e1n th\u01b0\u1edfng. N\u00f3 l\u00e0 c\u00e1ch gi\u1ea3i tr\u00ed m\u1ed9t m\u00ecnh, ch\u1ec9 xem \u00f4ng ta sau khi gi\u1ea3i lao, tuy v\u1eady khi thay \u0111\u1ed5i lo\u1ea1i nh\u1ea1c th\u00ec \u00f4ng ta d\u01b0\u1eddng nh\u01b0 ph\u1eabn l\u1ed9, m\u1ecdi th\u1ee9 tr\u1edf n\u00ean v\u1eeba sai l\u1ea1i v\u1eeba nhi\u1ec1u l\u1ed7i, \u00f4ng ta l\u1ea1i th\u1ec9nh tho\u1ea3ng n\u1ed5i \u0111\u00f3a. V\u00e0 cu\u1ed1i c\u00f9ng \u00f4ng ta nh\u1ea3y l\u00ean v\u00e0 \u0111u ra kh\u1ecfi h\u1ed9i tr\u01b0\u1eddng khi bu\u1ed5i li\u00ean hoan h\u00f2a nh\u1ea1c v\u1eabn \u0111ang bi\u1ec3u di\u1ec5n. Ng\u01b0\u1eddi n\u00e0y c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 minh h\u1ecda cho ng\u01b0\u1eddi c\u00f3 bi\u00ean \u0111\u1ed9 cao.<\/p>\n

        L\u00fd do t\u1ea1i sao t\u00f4i ch\u1ecdn vi\u1ebft v\u1ec1 nh\u1eefng ki\u1ec3u \u0111\u01b0\u1eddng cong l\u00e0 vi bi\u1ebft r\u1eb1ng t\u1ea5t c\u1ea3 ch\u00fang ta \u0111\u1ec1u c\u00f3 \u201cc\u00e1i cao theo sau l\u00e0 th\u1ea5p\u201d do \u0111\u00f3 ch\u00fang ta bi\u1ebft \u0111i\u1ec1u n\u00e0y v\u00e0 ch\u00fang ta c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 ch\u1ebf ng\u1ef1 \u201cc\u00e1i cao\u201d v\u00e0 \u201cth\u1ea5p\u201d t\u1ed1t h\u01a1n.<\/p>\n

        Ch\u00fang ta c\u0169ng c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 ph\u00e1n \u0111o\u00e1n khi s\u1ef1 thay \u0111\u1ed5i c\u00f3 kh\u1ea3 n\u0103ng soi r\u1ecdi v\u00e0 ch\u00fang ta s\u1ebd kh\u00f4ng b\u1ecb ng\u1ea1c nhi\u00ean. Ch\u00fang ta c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 h\u1ecdc \u0111\u1ec3 \u0111i\u1ec1u ch\u1ec9nh nh\u1ecbp c\u1ea3m x\u00fac c\u1ee7a ta v\u00e0 nh\u1ecbp c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n \u0111\u1eddi. V\u00ed d\u1ee5, m\u1ed9t c\u1eb7p v\u1ee3 ch\u1ed3ng mua m\u1ed9t ng\u00f4i nh\u00e0 v\u00e0 h\u1ecd th\u1ef1c s\u1ef1 b\u1ecb x\u00fac \u0111\u1ed9ng v\u1edbi ng\u00f4i nh\u00e0 m\u1edbi c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd, h\u1ecd \u0111i quanh c\u00e1c ph\u00f2ng v\u00e0 d\u1ef1 \u0111\u1ecbnh, m\u01b0\u1eddng t\u01b0\u1ee3ng, m\u01a1 m\u00e0ng v\u1ec1 vi\u1ec7c h\u1ecd s\u1ebd \u0111\u1eb7t c\u00e1i g\u00ec v\u00e0o ph\u00f2ng v\u00e0 ch\u00fang ph\u1ea3i \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c s\u1eafp x\u1ebfp th\u1ebf n\u00e0o\u2026c\u1ea3 hai \u0111ang trong tr\u1ea1ng th\u00e1i \u201ccao\u201d. May thay c\u1ea3 hai \u0111\u1ec1u bi\u1ebft \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c nh\u1ecbp cong c\u1ee7a c\u1ea3m x\u00fac, m\u1ed9t ng\u00e0y anh ch\u1ed3ng n\u00f3i v\u1edbi v\u1ee3, em y\u00eau, ch\u00fang ta \u0111ang hoan h\u1ec9 trong th\u1eddi gian t\u01b0\u01a1ng \u0111\u1ed1i l\u00e2u r\u1ed3i. T\u00e2m tr\u1ea1ng c\u1ee7a ch\u00fang ta bu\u1ed9c ph\u1ea3i h\u1ea1 xu\u1ed1ng, khi \u0111i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00f3 x\u1ea3y ra, ch\u00fang ta s\u1ebd ch\u1ec9 \u201c\u0111\u01b0\u1eddng th\u1ea5p\u201d v\u00e0 bi\u1ebft r\u1eb1ng \u0111\u00f4i khi c\u00e1i \u201cth\u1ea5p\u201d s\u1ebd c\u00f3 l\u1ea7n \u0111\u01b0a l\u00ean cao. \u0110\u00fang v\u1eady, th\u1ea5p x\u1ea3y ra theo c\u00e1ch kh\u00f3 th\u1ec3 tr\u00e1nh \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c v\u00e0 theo chu k\u1ef3. Khi c\u00e1i th\u1ea5p \u0111\u1ebfn, n\u00f3 kh\u00f4ng l\u00e0m cho ng\u1ea1c nhi\u00ean nh\u01b0ng ph\u1ea3i chu\u1ea9n b\u1ecb cho n\u00f3. Ch\u00fang ta ph\u1ea3i nh\u1eadn th\u1ee9c \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c r\u1eb1ng \u201cth\u1ea5p\u201d s\u1ebd \u0111\u1ebfn chu k\u1ef3 t\u0103ng \u0111\u1ebfn m\u1ed9t chu k\u1ef3 \u201ccao\u201d v\u00ec \u0111i\u1ec1u n\u00e0y r\u1ea5t quan tr\u1ecdng n\u00eau t\u00f4i c\u1ed1 g\u1eafng ghi th\u00e0nh t\u1eebng kho\u1ea3n v\u1ec1 k\u1ebft qu\u1ea3 c\u1ee7a \u0111\u01b0\u1eddng cong.<\/p>\n

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        1. \u0110\u1ec3 t\u1ef1 hi\u1ec3u.<\/li>\n
        2. \u0110\u1ec3 hi\u1ec3u b\u1ea1n \u0111\u1eddi<\/li>\n
        3. \u0110\u1ec3 l\u00e0m cho kh\u1ea3 n\u0103ng m\u1ed9t c\u01a1 s\u1edf th\u1ec3 hi\u1ec7n s\u1ef1 suy x\u00e9t v\u00e0 s\u1ef1 \u0111i\u1ec1u ch\u1ec9nh.<\/li>\n
        4. \u0110\u1ec3 c\u00f3 kh\u1ea3 n\u0103ng d\u1ef1 \u0111o\u00e1n v\u00e0 \u0111\u1ed1i ph\u00f3 v\u1edbi c\u00e1i \u201cth\u1ea5p\u201d.<\/li>\n
        5. \u0110\u1ec3 mong \u0111\u1ee3i v\u00e0 h\u01b0\u1edfng v\u1ec1 c\u00e1i \u201ccao\u201d.<\/li>\n
        6. \u0110\u1ec3 tr\u00e1nh nh\u1eefng phi\u1ec1n h\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng c\u1ea7n thi\u1ebft v\u00e0 vi\u1ec7c \u0111\u1ed5 l\u1ed7i cho ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c. Khi trong c\u00e1c c\u1ea3nh ng\u1ed9, ch\u1ec9 c\u00f3 l\u00fd do duy nh\u1ea5t l\u00e0 x\u00fac c\u1ea3m. C\u00e1c nh\u00e0 t\u00e2m l\u00fd h\u1ecdc kh\u00f4ng quan t\u00e2m qu\u00e1 m\u1ee9c v\u1ec1 bi\u00ean \u0111\u1ed9 hay t\u1ea7n su\u1ea5t n\u1ebfu h\u1ecd trong gi\u1edbi h\u1ea1n h\u1ee3p l\u00fd, \u0111i\u1ec1u n\u00e0y h\u1ecd c\u1ea3m gi\u00e1c duy nh\u1ea5t m\u1ed9t v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 l\u00e0 s\u1ef1 \u0111i\u1ec1u ti\u1ebft v\u00e0 suy x\u00e9t. Nh\u1eefng g\u00ec c\u00e1c nh\u00e0 t\u00e2m l\u00fd lo l\u1eafng l\u00e0 th\u1eddi gian chu k\u1ef3 c\u1ea3m x\u00fac b\u1ecb x\u00e1o l\u1ed9n. V\u00ed d\u1ee5 n\u00f3 chi\u1ebfm qu\u00e1 l\u1edbn th\u1eddi gian c\u1ee7a c\u00e1i \u201ccao\u201d v\u00e0 c\u00e1i \u201cth\u1ea5p\u201d gi\u1ed1ng nh\u01b0 c\u00e1i\u00a0bi\u1ec3u \u0111\u1ed3 sau:<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

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          Prolonged Low\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Prolonged High<\/p>\n

          T\u00ecnh tr\u1ea1ng n\u00e0y kh\u00f4ng thay \u0111\u1ed5i, l\u00e0 v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 ph\u1ea3i quan t\u00e2m n\u1ebfu ng\u01b0\u1eddi ta duy tr\u00ec s\u1ef1 k\u00e9o d\u00e0i c\u00e1i \u201ccao\u201d th\u00ec th\u01b0\u1eddng kh\u00f4ng qu\u1ea5y r\u1ea7y ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c, ng\u01b0\u1eddi ta c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 th\u00e2n thi\u1ebft v\u1edbi s\u1ef1 vui m\u1eebng c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh, v\u00e0 ch\u1eafc ch\u1eafn h\u1ea7u nh\u01b0 h\u1ecfi nh\u1eefng c\u00e2u h\u1ecfi nh\u01b0 \u201cb\u00ed m\u1eadt v\u1ec1 h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac c\u1ee7a anh l\u00e0 g\u00ec?\u201d c\u00f3 l\u1ebd ghen t\u1ecb v\u1edbi anh. C\u00e2u h\u1ecfi th\u1ef1c s\u1ef1 l\u00e0 c\u00f3 ph\u1ea3i anh ta \u0111\u00e3 h\u1ecdc c\u00e1ch duy tr\u00ec m\u1ed9t quan \u0111i\u1ec3m r\u00f5 r\u00e0ng cho m\u1ecdi t\u00ecnh hu\u1ed1ng \u201chay it nh\u1ea5t c\u0169ng cho nhi\u1ec1u thay \u0111\u1ed5i trong cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng\u201d n\u1ebfu \u0111\u00f3 l\u00e0 \u201cquan \u0111i\u1ec3m\u201d \u0111\u00e3 gi\u1eef t\u00e2m tr\u1ea1ng c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd \u1edf m\u1ee9c cao th\u00ec ch\u00fang ta n\u00ean h\u1ecdc h\u1ecd.<\/p>\n

          Nh\u1eefng g\u00ec th\u01b0\u1eddng qu\u1ea5y r\u1ea7y ch\u00ednh l\u00e0 s\u1ef1 k\u00e9o d\u00e0i c\u1ee7a c\u00e1i \u201cth\u1ea5p\u201d v\u00e0 n\u1ebfu ng\u01b0\u1eddi ta kh\u00f4ng t\u1ef1 tho\u00e1t ra kh\u1ecfi c\u00e1i \u201cth\u1ea5p\u201d th\u00ec s\u1ebd l\u00e0m cho h\u1ecd b\u1ea5t an. \u0110i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00f3 n\u1ebfu ai ph\u1ea3i ti\u1ebfp x\u00fac v\u1edbi ng\u01b0\u1eddi n\u00e0y s\u1ebd c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y c\u0103ng th\u1eb3ng. S\u1ef1 k\u00e9o d\u00e0i c\u00e1i th\u1ea5p s\u1ebd d\u1eabn t\u1edbi t\u00ecnh tr\u1ea1ng nh\u01b0: suy nh\u01b0\u1ee3c, bu\u1ed3n r\u1ea7u, l\u00e0m cho ch\u00e1n n\u1ea3n, m\u1ea5t cam \u0111\u1ea3m ho\u1eb7c s\u1ebd tuy\u1ec7t v\u1ecdng, t\u1ef1 t\u1eed- c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 \u0111\u1ea1t t\u1edbi m\u1ed9t tr\u1ea1ng th\u00e1i th\u0103ng b\u1eb1ng \u1edf \u0111\u00e2u \u0111\u00f3 d\u1ecdc theo \u0111\u01b0\u1eddng d\u1ed1c. B\u1ea5t c\u1ee9 th\u1ee9 g\u00ec l\u00e0 l\u00fd do cho s\u1ef1 k\u00e9o d\u00e0i c\u00e1i th\u1ea5p, n\u00f3 ti\u1ec1m t\u00e0ng d\u1eabn t\u1edbi s\u1ef1 t\u1ef1 v\u1eabn v\u00e0 s\u1ef1 gi\u00fap \u0111\u1ee1 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 tr\u1edf n\u00ean c\u1ea7n thi\u1ebft. Ngo\u00e0i s\u1ef1 gi\u00fap \u0111\u1ee1 t\u00f4i ngh\u0129 s\u1ef1 c\u1ea7u nguy\u1ec7n, l\u1ec5 ban ph\u01b0\u1edbc, gi\u00e3y b\u00e0y t\u00e2m s\u1ef1 v\u1edbi b\u1ea1n b\u00e8, l\u1eddi ch\u1ec9 b\u1ea3o, \u0111\u1ed9ng vi\u00ean, s\u1ef1 trau d\u1ed3i ki\u1ebfn th\u1ee9c cho m\u00ecnh v\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c, s\u1ef1 m\u1edf mang quan \u0111i\u1ec3m, h\u00e0n g\u1eafn tinh th\u1ea7n. Ch\u1ec9 c\u00f3 \u0111i\u1ec1u ki\u1ec7n thu\u1ed1c men tuy\u1ec7t h\u1ea3o v\u00e0 k\u1ef9 thu\u1eadt y t\u1ebf, gi\u1ed1ng nh\u01b0 t\u00e2m th\u1ea7n h\u1ecdc \u0111i\u1ec1u tr\u1ecb thu\u1ed1c t\u1edbi h\u1ec7 th\u1ea7n kinh. \u0110\u1ec1u \u0111\u1ebfn ch\u1eebng m\u1ef1c c\u00f3 th\u1ec3, h\u1ea7u h\u1ebft h\u1ecd kh\u00f4ng c\u1ea7n dung \u0111\u1ebfn bi\u1ec7n ph\u00e1p n\u00e0y \u1edf giai \u0111o\u1ea1n \u0111\u1ea7u. H\u1ecd ch\u1ec9 c\u1ea7n \u201cthay \u0111\u1ed5i quan \u0111i\u1ec3m\u201d \u0111\u1ec3 c\u1ea3i thi\u1ec7n c\u00e1ch nh\u00ecn v\u00e0 s\u1ef1 s\u00e1ng su\u1ed1t. H\u1ecd c\u1ea7n ph\u1ea3i t\u1ef1 ch\u00f4n v\u00f9i \u201cc\u00e1i t\u00f4i \u00edch k\u1ef7\u201d \u0111i. Bi\u1ec7n ph\u00e1p k\u1ef9 thu\u1eadt y h\u1ecdc n\u00f3i chung c\u00f3 khuynh h\u01b0\u1edbng l\u00e0m \u1ea3nh h\u01b0\u1edfng \u0111\u1ebfn th\u1ec3 x\u00e1c v\u00e0 th\u1ea7n kinh v\u00e0 bu\u1ed9c con ng\u01b0\u1eddi ph\u1ee5 thu\u1ed9c v\u00e0o thu\u1ed1c men v\u00e0 bi\u1ec7n ph\u00e1p \u0111i\u1ec1u tr\u1ecb. Tri\u1ec7u ch\u1ee9ng trong qu\u00e1 tr\u00ecnh cai nghi\u1ec7n c\u00f3 m\u1ed9t s\u1ed1 y\u1ebfu t\u1ed1 ph\u1ee5 m\u00e0 b\u1ec7nh nh\u00e2n ph\u1ea3i \u0111\u1ed1i m\u1eb7t. N\u00f3 \u0111\u1ec3 l\u1ea1i tr\u00ean b\u1ec7nh nh\u00e2n nh\u1eefng v\u1ebft \u0111\u1ed1m, nh\u1eefng v\u1ebft n\u00e0y r\u1ea5t kh\u00f3 x\u00f3a b\u1ecf. B\u00ean c\u1ea1nh \u0111\u00f3 l\u00e0 r\u1ea5t t\u1ed1n k\u00e9m, h\u1ecd li\u1ec7u \u0111\u1ec3 cho con ng\u01b0\u1eddi ki\u1ec7t s\u1ee9c m\u00e3i m\u00e3i. Tr\u00e1nh c\u00e0ng xa c\u00e0ng t\u1ed1t c\u00e1c thu\u1ed1c ch\u1eefa t\u00e2m th\u1ea7n. V\u00ec n\u1ebfu n\u1eb1m trong tay c\u1ee7a k\u1ebb c\u00f3 ngh\u1ec1 nghi\u1ec7p c\u1ea9u th\u1ea3 v\u00e0 v\u00f4 \u0111\u1ea1o \u0111\u1ee9c th\u00ec h\u1ecd \u0111i\u1ec1u tr\u1ecb giam gi\u1eef b\u1ec7nh nh\u00e2n nh\u01b0 \u201cnh\u1eefng con l\u1ee3n guiny\u201d. B\u1edfi \u0111i\u1ec1u hi\u1ec3n nhi\u00ean th\u00f4i, n\u00f3 c\u00f3 quy\u1ec1n th\u1eed nghi\u1ec7m v\u1edbi b\u1ec7nh nh\u00e2n. N\u1ebfu n\u00f3 th\u1ea5t b\u1ea1i th\u00ec ngh\u1ec1 nghi\u1ec7p c\u1ee7a \u00f4ng ta kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i ch\u1ecbu tr\u00e1ch nhi\u1ec7m v\u1ec1 sai l\u1ea7m \u0111\u00f3. D\u0129 nhi\u00ean ch\u00fang ta kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 ch\u1ea1y t\u1edbi t\u1ea5t c\u1ea3 c\u00e1c b\u00e1c s\u0129 h\u1ecfi li\u1ec7u h\u1ecd c\u00f3 \u0111i\u1ec1u tr\u1ecb \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c hay kh\u00f4ng v\u00e0 hi\u1ec3n nhi\u00ean \u00f4ng ta s\u1ebd th\u1ec1 b\u1eb1ng danh d\u1ef1 ngh\u1ec1 nghi\u1ec7p c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh. X\u00e9t cho c\u00f9ng n\u00f3 l\u00e0 v\u1eady th\u00ec s\u1ef1 c\u1ea7u nguy\u1ec7n l\u00e0 gi\u1ea3i ph\u00e1p s\u1ed1 m\u1ed9t. X\u00e9t cho c\u00f9ng n\u00f3 l\u00e0 k\u1ebf sinh nhai c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi ta m\u00e0. H\u1ebft th\u1ea3y nh\u1eefng c\u00e2u h\u1ecfi nh\u01b0 v\u1eady th\u00ec s\u1ef1 c\u1ea7u nguy\u1ec7n l\u00e0 gi\u1ea3i ph\u00e1p s\u1ed1 m\u1ed9t. V\u00e0 s\u1ef1 c\u1ea7u nguy\u1ec7n mong mu\u1ed1n tha thi\u1ebft d\u00e2ng l\u00ean Ch\u00faa nh\u1eefng phi\u1ec1n mu\u1ed9i c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh. Ch\u00fang ta ph\u1ea3i nh\u1eadn th\u1ee9c \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c r\u1eb1ng c\u00f3 l\u1ebd Ch\u00faa kh\u00f4ng quan s\u00e1t c\u01a1n \u0111au \u0111\u1ec3 c\u1ea5t n\u00f3 \u0111i ngay l\u1eadp t\u1ee9c v\u00e0 Ch\u00faa c\u0169ng mu\u1ed1n ch\u00fang ta \u0111\u1ee3i. Kh\u00f4ng c\u00f2n nghi ng\u1edd g\u00ec n\u1eefa v\u00ec Ch\u00faa c\u00f3 l\u00fd do ri\u00eang c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh. Cho d\u00f9 v\u1eady ch\u00fang ta c\u0169ng kh\u00f4ng hi\u1ec3u \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c nh\u1eefng l\u00fd do \u0111\u00f3. Trong khi ch\u1edd \u0111\u1ee3i ch\u00fang ta l\u1ea1i m\u1ea1o hi\u1ec3m tr\u00fat l\u1ea5y nh\u1eefng lo l\u1eafng h\u1ed1t ho\u1ea3ng b\u1ed3n ch\u1ed3n, v\u00e0 ch\u00fang ta l\u1ea1i \u00f4m l\u1ea5y nh\u1eefng \u0111au kh\u1ed5 \u0111\u1ec3 ch\u1ea1y kh\u1ecfi Ch\u00faa \u0111\u1ec3 t\u1ef1 gi\u1ea3i quy\u1ebft. \u0110\u00e2y l\u00e0 nh\u1eefng sai l\u1ea7m c\u1ee7a con ng\u01b0\u1eddi m\u00e0 ch\u00fang ta hay m\u1eafc ph\u1ea3i; Ch\u00fang ta ph\u1ea3i nh\u1eadn bi\u1ebft \u0111\u1ec3 c\u00f3 \u0111\u1ee9c tin n\u01a1i Ch\u00faa.<\/p>\n

          Trong khi ta c\u00f3 ni\u1ec1m tin v\u00e0 \u0111\u1ee9c tin n\u01a1i Ch\u00faa, ch\u00fang ta n\u00ean l\u00e0m h\u1ebft s\u1ee9c m\u00ecnh cho c\u00e1 nh\u00e2n n\u00e0y. V\u00ed d\u1ee5 ch\u00fang ta c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 \u0111\u1ed9ng vi\u00ean h\u1ecd tr\u1edf th\u00e0nh b\u1ea1n b\u00e8, gi\u00fap \u0111\u1ee1 t\u1eadp trung (v\u00e0 duy tr\u00ec t\u1eadp trung \u0111\u00f3 v\u00e0o Ch\u00faa, khi h\u1ecd \u0111ang \u0111au bu\u1ed3n). H\u1ecd m\u00e0 kh\u1ecfe kho\u1eafn nh\u01b0 th\u1ebf n\u00e0y th\u00ec vi\u1ec7c \u0111\u1ecbnh h\u01b0\u1edbng v\u00e0o Ch\u00faa kh\u00f4ng d\u1ec5 d\u00e0ng g\u00ec. V\u00ec l\u00fd do n\u00e0y ch\u00fang ta ph\u1ea3i \u00e2n c\u1ea7n, ph\u1ea3i \u0111\u1ed3ng c\u1ea3m v\u00e0 am hi\u1ec3u, c\u00f3 \u00edch. Gi\u00fap h\u1ecd \u0111\u1ec3 x\u00e2y d\u1ef1ng m\u1ed9t quan \u0111i\u1ec3m; n\u00f3i c\u00e1ch kh\u00e1c s\u1ef1 \u00e2n c\u1ea7n v\u00e0 \u0111\u1ed3ng c\u1ea3m s\u1ebd l\u00e0m cho h\u1ecd t\u1ef1 th\u01b0\u01a1ng l\u1ea5y b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n. Gi\u00fap h\u1ecd b\u1eb1ng nh\u1eefng hi\u1ec3u bi\u1ebft. D\u00f9 l\u00e0 t\u00f4i c\u00f3 khuy\u00ean kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u00fang ph\u01b0\u01a1ng ph\u00e1p ch\u1eefa t\u00e2m th\u1ea7n h\u1ecdc th\u00ec c\u00f3 nh\u1eefng lo\u1ea1i thu\u1ed1c kh\u00e1c t\u00f4i s\u1ebd \u0111\u1ec1 c\u1eadp h\u01a1n n\u1eefa, thu\u1ed1c \u0111\u00f3 th\u1ef1c s\u1ef1 c\u1ea7n thi\u1ebft \u0111\u1ec3 b\u1ed5 sung th\u00eam v\u00e0o nh\u1eefng nhu c\u1ea7u c\u1ee7a c\u01a1 th\u1ec3. Ch\u00fang ta h\u00e3y lu\u00f4n nh\u1edb r\u1eb1ng gi\u1ed1ng nh\u01b0 nh\u1eefng y h\u1ecdc kh\u00e1c v\u00e0 c\u1ea3 y h\u1ecdc n\u1eefa l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t t\u00e0i n\u0103ng m\u00e0 Ch\u00faa ban t\u1eb7ng. N\u1ebfu c\u00f3 s\u1ef1 nghi ng\u1edd g\u00ec th\u00ec h\u00e3y d\u00e2ng nh\u1eefng s\u1ef1 nghi ng\u1edd \u0111\u00f3 trong l\u00f2i c\u1ea7u nguy\u1ec7n v\u1edbi Ch\u00faa. Ch\u00fang t\u00f4i c\u0169ng m\u1edf \u201c\u0111\u01b0\u1eddng d\u00e2y n\u00f3ng\u201d t\u1edbi Ch\u00faa.<\/p>\n

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          1. Nh\u1eefng nguy\u00ean nh\u00e2n g\u00ec khi\u1ebfn ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef bu\u1ed3n r\u1ea7u.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

            N\u1ebfu ch\u00fang ta ph\u00e2n lo\u1ea1i nh\u1eefng nguy\u00ean nh\u00e2n bu\u1ed3n r\u1ea7u c\u1ee7a ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef, ch\u00fang ta s\u1ebd nh\u1eadn th\u1ea5y nh\u1eefng nguy\u00ean nh\u00e2n sau:<\/p>\n

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            1. T\u1ef1 ti.<\/li>\n
            2. S\u1ef1 m\u1ec7t m\u1ecfi v\u00e0 \u00e1p l\u1ef1c th\u1eddi gian.<\/li>\n
            3. S\u1ef1 c\u00f4 \u0111\u01a1n, s\u1ef1 h\u01b0u qu\u1ea1nh, n\u1ed7i bu\u1ed3n t\u1ebb.<\/li>\n
            4. Thi\u1ebfu v\u1eafng t\u00ecnh y\u00eau l\u00e3ng m\u1ea1n.<\/li>\n
            5. Nh\u1eefng v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 v\u1ec1 t\u00e0i ch\u00ednh.<\/li>\n
            6. Nh\u1eefng v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 v\u1ec1 t\u00ecnh d\u1ee5c trong h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n.<\/li>\n
            7. Nh\u1eefng v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 v\u1ec1 kinh nguy\u1ec7t v\u00e0 t\u00e2m l\u00fd.<\/li>\n
            8. V\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 v\u1ec1 con c\u00e1i.<\/li>\n
            9. V\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 v\u1ec1 lu\u1eadt ph\u00e1p.<\/li>\n
            10. V\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 v\u1ec1 tu\u1ed5i t\u00e1c.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

              M\u1ecdi cu\u1ed9c h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n v\u00e0 m\u1ecdi \u0111\u00f4i v\u1ee3 ch\u1ed3ng c\u01b0\u1edbi nhau s\u1ebd b\u1ecb \u1ea3nh h\u01b0\u1edfng v\u00ec v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 r\u00f5 r\u00e0ng, s\u1ef1 \u1ea3nh h\u01b0\u1edfng v\u00e0 nh\u1eefng nh\u00e2n t\u1ed1 g\u00e2y ra nh\u1eefng v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 \u0111\u00f3 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 kh\u00e1c nhau, ch\u00fang ph\u1ee5 thu\u1ed9c v\u00e0o t\u1eebng c\u1eb7p v\u1ee3 ch\u1ed3ng, ch\u00fang c\u0169ng c\u00f3 \u1ea3nh h\u01b0\u1edfng kh\u00e1c nhau v\u1ec1 th\u1eddi \u0111i\u1ec3m kh\u00e1c nhau trong cu\u1ed9c \u0111\u1eddi c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd. C\u00e1c b\u00e0 v\u1ee3 g\u1eb7p ph\u1ea3i nh\u1eefng nguy\u00ean nh\u00e2n \u0111\u1ec1 c\u1eadp \u1edf tr\u00ean\u00a0 c\u00f2n ph\u1ee5 thu\u1ed9c v\u00e0o ho\u00e0n c\u1ea3nh khi h\u1ecd ph\u00e1t hi\u1ec7n ra \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c. Nh\u01b0 m\u1ed9t \u00e1p d\u1ee5ng, b\u00e0 v\u1ee3 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 x\u1ebfp v\u00e0o m\u1ed9t nguy\u00ean nh\u00e2n theo tr\u00ecnh t\u1ef1 quan tr\u1ecdng c\u1ee7a ch\u00fang, ch\u1ec9 \u0111\u1ecbnh s\u1ed1 m\u1ed9t l\u00e0 v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 phi\u1ec1n h\u00e0 nh\u1ea5t. C\u00f4 ta c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 \u0111\u1ee9ng \u0111\u01a1n \u0111\u1ed9c. Ng\u01b0\u1eddi ch\u1ed3ng c\u0169ng x\u1ebfp v\u00e0o m\u1ed9t nguy\u00ean nh\u00e2n \u0111\u00f3 nh\u01b0ng c\u00e1ch m\u00e0 anh ta bi\u1ebft, anh ta c\u0169ng c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 th\u1ef1c hi\u1ec7n \u0111i\u1ec1u n\u00e0y \u0111\u1ed9c l\u1eadp. Sau \u0111\u00f3 h\u1ecd so s\u00e1nh c\u1ea5p b\u1eadc v\u1ec1 nh\u1eefng v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd. \u00c1p d\u1ee5ng ki\u1ec3u n\u00e0y,kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 c\u00e2u tr\u1ea3 l\u1eddi \u0111\u00fang v\u00e0 sai. Vi\u1ec7c \u1ea5p d\u1ee5ng n\u00e0y nh\u1eb1m cung c\u1ea5p cho m\u1ed7i ng\u01b0\u1eddi bi\u1ebft c\u00e1ch \u0111\u00e1nh gi\u00e1 t\u00ecnh h\u00ecnh k\u1ebft qu\u1ea3 mang l\u1ea1i s\u1ef1 ph\u1ee5c v\u1ee5 c\u1ee7a c\u1eb7p v\u1ee3 ch\u1ed3ng.<\/p>\n

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              1. V\u1ee3 ch\u1ed3ng c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 so s\u00e1nh m\u1ee9c \u0111i\u1ec3m n\u00f3 t\u01b0\u01a1ng \u0111\u01b0\u01a1ng.<\/li>\n
              2. H\u1ecd c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 c\u00f3 m\u1ed9t cu\u1ed9c tranh lu\u1eadn \u0111\u1ed3ng \u00fd ngh\u0129a v\u1ec1 t\u1ec9 l\u1ec7 m\u00e0 h\u1ecd \u0111\u00e1nh gi\u00e1 kh\u00e1c nhau. Xin h\u00e3y \u00e1p d\u1ee5ng \u0111i\u1ec1u n\u00e0y tr\u01b0\u1edbc khi \u0111\u1ecdc th\u00eam, h\u00e3y \u0111\u1ec3 ch\u00fang t\u00f4i \u00e1p d\u1ee5ng m\u1ed9t nguy\u00ean nh\u00e2n \u0111\u00f3.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

                C.1 T\u1ef1 ty<\/p>\n

                Theo m\u1ed9t c\u00e1ch kh\u00e1c nhau v\u00e0 nh\u1eefng l\u00fd do kh\u00e1c nhau l\u00f2ng t\u1ef1 ti c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 coi l\u00e0 v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 s\u1ed1 m\u1ed9t. Ngay c\u1ea3 trong nh\u1eefng cu\u1ed9c h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n nh\u00ecn b\u1ec1 ngo\u00e0i h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac v\u00e0 l\u00e0nh m\u1ea1nh. Ngay c\u1ea3 trong s\u1ed1 nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi tr\u1ebb gia gi\u00e1o c\u0169ng c\u1ea3m gi\u00e1c v\u1ec1 s\u1ef1 th\u1ea5p k\u00e9m h\u01a1n v\u00e0 thi\u1ebfu t\u1ef1 tin m\u1ed9t c\u00e1ch nghi\u00eam tr\u1ecdng v\u00e0 ch\u00fang \u0111\u1ec3 l\u1ea1i nh\u1eefng v\u1ebft th\u01b0\u01a1ng l\u00f2ng t\u1ed3i t\u1ec7 nh\u1ea5t. H\u1ea7u h\u1ebft nh\u1eefng v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 tr\u00ean \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c nh\u1eadn di\u1ec7n sau 5 ph\u00fat \u0111\u1ed1i v\u1edbi nh\u00e0 t\u01b0 v\u1ea5n h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n. Nh\u1eefng g\u00ec d\u1ec5 th\u1ea5y l\u00e0 c\u1ea3m gi\u00e1c kh\u00f4ng kh\u1ecfa \u0111\u00e1ng v\u00e0 thi\u1ebfu t\u1ef1 tin v\u00e0o b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n hay ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c; m\u1ed9t c\u1ea3m gi\u00e1c v\u00f4 d\u1ee5ng, t\u1ea1o th\u00e0nh c\u00e1ch ngh\u0129 v\u00e0 \u0111\u1ed1i v\u1edbi h\u00e0ng tri\u1ec7u ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef, n\u00f3 l\u00e0 c\u00e1ch tuy\u1ec7t v\u1ecdng. S\u1ef1 n\u1ed7 l\u1ef1c l\u1edbn v\u00e0 c\u1ea3m gi\u00e1c c\u00e1 nh\u00e2n c\u00f3 c\u1ea3m gi\u00e1c thua k\u00e9m th\u00ec h\u1ecd nh\u00ecn m\u1ecdi th\u1ee9 gi\u1ed1ng nh\u01b0\u2026c\u00f4 ta t\u1ef1 h\u1ecfi t\u1ea1i sao kh\u00f4ng ai g\u1ecdi \u0111i\u1ec7n tho\u1ea1i\u2026b\u0103n kho\u0103n sao c\u00f4 ta kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 ng\u01b0\u1eddi b\u1ea1n th\u1ef1c s\u1ef1, b\u1ea1n c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 b\u00e0y t\u1ecf h\u1ebft t\u00e2m can v\u1edbi lo\u1ea1i ng\u01b0\u1eddi n\u00e0o\u2026h\u1ecd ngh\u0129 th\u1ebf n\u00e0o v\u1ec1 m\u00ecnh n\u1ebfu h\u1ecd bi\u1ebft v\u1ec1 \u0111\u1eddi th\u1ef1c c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh, c\u1ea3m gi\u00e1c lo \u00e2u s\u1ee3 h\u00e3i khi c\u00f4 ta n\u00f3i chuy\u1ec7n v\u1edbi nh\u00f3m \u0111\u1ed3ng nghi\u1ec7p, v\u00e0 c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y nh\u01b0 k\u1ebb ng\u1edb ng\u1ea9n khi v\u1ec1 nh\u00e0 \u2026b\u0103n kho\u0103n t\u1ea1i sao m\u1ecdi ng\u01b0\u1eddi c\u00f3 t\u00e0i n\u0103ng h\u01a1n m\u00ecnh\u2026c\u00f3 c\u1ea3m gi\u00e1c ngh\u0129 r\u1eb1ng c\u00f4 ta x\u1ea5u x\u00ed v\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng h\u1ea5p d\u1eabn v\u1ec1 gi\u1edbi t\u00ednh. \u0110\u00f3 l\u00e0 c\u1ea3m gi\u00e1c thi\u1ebfu t\u1ef1 tin, n\u00f3 l\u00e0m cho c\u00f4 ta th\u00fa nh\u1eadn r\u1eb1ng c\u00f4 ta thi\u1ebfu kh\u1ea3 n\u0103ng l\u00e0m v\u1ee3 v\u00e0 l\u00e0m m\u1eb9. N\u00f3 kh\u00f4ng \u01b0a b\u1ea5t k\u00ec th\u1ee9 g\u00ec c\u1ee7a b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n m\u00ecnh m\u00e0 mu\u1ed1n tr\u1edf th\u00e0nh m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c. N\u00f3 c\u00f3 c\u1ea3m gi\u00e1c t\u1ed3i t\u1ec7 v\u00e0 c\u00f4 \u0111\u01a1n, n\u00f3 n\u1eb1m tr\u00ean gi\u01b0\u1eddng thao th\u1ee9c trong khi c\u1ea3 nh\u00e0 \u0111\u00e3 ng\u1ee7 v\u00e0 c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y tr\u1ed1ng v\u1eafng v\u00e0 khao kh\u00e1t m\u1ed9t t\u00ecnh y\u00eau v\u00f4 \u0111i\u1ec1u ki\u1ec7n\u2026n\u00f3 l\u00e0 s\u1ef1 t\u1ee7i th\u00e2n kinh kh\u1ee7ng\u2026n\u00f3 t\u1ef1 \u0111\u01b0a tay ra trong \u0111\u00eam t\u1ed1i \u0111\u1ec3 lau nh\u1eefng gi\u1ecdt n\u01b0\u1edbc m\u1eaft t\u1eeb kh\u00f3e m\u1eaft \u2026 bu\u1ed3n r\u1ea7u.<\/p>\n

                Ch\u00fang ta kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c ngh\u0129\u00a0 bu\u1ed3n r\u1ea7u ch\u1ec9 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c d\u00e0nh ri\u00eang cho ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef, nhi\u1ec1u ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng c\u0169ng c\u00f3 c\u1ea3m gi\u00e1c b\u1ea5t an v\u00e0 v\u00f4 d\u1ee5ng, m\u1ea5t vi\u1ec7c, v\u1ec1 h\u01b0u, \u0111au \u1ed1m\u2026c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 gi\u00e2y ra c\u1ea3m gi\u00e1c t\u1ef1 ti l\u00e0 m\u1ed1i \u0111e d\u1ecda s\u1ef1 h\u00f2a h\u1ee3p c\u1ee7a gia \u0111\u00ecnh. V\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 n\u00e0y \u1ea3nh h\u01b0\u1edfng \u0111\u1ebfn con c\u00e1i, nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi tr\u1ebb, nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi trong \u0111\u1ed9 tu\u1ed5i l\u00e0m vi\u1ec7c, ng\u01b0\u1eddi gi\u00e0; ng\u01b0\u1eddi trong m\u1ecdi t\u1ea7ng l\u1edbp trong x\u00e3 h\u1ed9i, ch\u1ee7ng t\u1ed9c v\u00e0 nh\u00f3m d\u00e2n t\u1ed9c, n\u00f3 \u1ea3nh h\u01b0\u1edfng v\u00e0 nh\u1ea5n s\u00e2u b\u1ea5t k\u1ec3 ai c\u00f3 c\u1ea3m gi\u00e1c bu\u1ed3n r\u1ea7u trong con m\u1eaft c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c. M\u1ed9t ph\u1ea7n l\u1edbn \u00fd ni\u1ec7m c\u1ee7a ch\u00fang ta \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c x\u00e2y d\u1ef1ng l\u00ean nh\u1eefng g\u00ec m\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c ngh\u0129 v\u1ec1 ch\u00fang ta. Hai v\u00ed d\u1ee5 m\u00f4 t\u1ea3 d\u01b0\u1edbi \u0111\u00e2y minh h\u1ecda m\u1ed9t quan \u0111i\u1ec3m l\u00e0 ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef v\u00e0 nam gi\u1edbi c\u00f3 c\u1ea3m gi\u00e1c kh\u00e1c nhau. Ch\u00fang c\u00f3 \u0111i\u1ec1u ki\u1ec7n kh\u00e1c nhau. \u0110\u00f3 l\u00e0 s\u1ef1 t\u1ed5ng h\u1ee3p; kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 m\u1ed9t ngo\u1ea1i l\u1ec7 n\u00e0o ngo\u00e0i quy lu\u1eadt.<\/p>\n

                \u0110\u00e0n \u00f4ng c\u00f3 xu h\u01b0\u1edbng \u0111\u1eb7c \u0111i\u1ec3m t\u1ed1t h\u01a1n v\u1ec1 l\u00e3nh v\u1ef1c logic to\u00e1n tr\u1eebu t\u01b0\u1ee3ng v\u00e0 l\u1eadp lu\u1eadn. Ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef th\u00ec ng\u01b0\u1ee3c l\u1ea1i, h\u1ecd c\u00f3 xu h\u01b0\u1edbng ho\u1ea1t \u0111\u1ed9ng tr\u00ed \u00f3c h\u01a1n ho\u1ea1t \u0111\u1ed9ng ch\u00e2n tay, cho d\u00f9 c\u1ea3 hai ph\u1ea9m ch\u1ea5t \u0111\u1ec1u l\u00e0 \u0111i\u1ec1u ao \u01b0\u1edbc cao. Tuy nhi\u00ean v\u1edbi ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef \u0111i\u1ec1u ng\u01b0\u1ee3c l\u1ea1i c\u00f3 v\u1ebb \u0111\u00fang, c\u00e1i b\u1ebfp chi\u1ebfm v\u1ecb tr\u00ed cao h\u01a1n tr\u00ed tu\u1ec7 trong su\u1ed1t cu\u1ed9c \u0111\u1eddi. Quan \u0111i\u1ec3m c\u1ee7a nh\u00e0 t\u00e2m l\u00fd h\u1ecdc v\u1ec1 v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 n\u00e0y th\u1eadt th\u00fa v\u1ecb. H\u1ecd ngh\u0129 ng\u01b0\u1eddi ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef b\u00ecnh th\u01b0\u1eddng th\u00edch c\u00e1i \u0111\u1eb9p h\u01a1n tr\u00ed tu\u1ec7, v\u00ec h\u1ecd nh\u1eadn bi\u1ebft theo b\u1ea3n n\u0103ng. Ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng b\u00ecnh th\u01b0\u1eddng c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 \u201cnh\u00ecn\u201d t\u1ed1t h\u01a1n l\u00e0 anh ta ngh\u0129, khi \u0111\u1ec1 c\u1eadp t\u1edbi ch\u1ee7 \u0111\u1ec1 n\u00e0y (nghe bu\u1ed3n c\u01b0\u1eddi! ch\u1ec9 sau v\u00e0i c\u00e2u tr\u01b0\u1edbc th\u00f4i t\u00f4i \u0111\u00e3 n\u00f3i r\u1eb1ng \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng th\u00edch nh\u1eefng v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 theo logic\u2026-Tuy v\u1eady theo quan \u0111i\u1ec3m n\u00e0y l\u1ea1i ho\u00e0n to\u00e0n kh\u00e1c nhau. Khi b\u1ea1n \u0111\u1ecdc h\u1ebft ch\u01b0\u01a1ng n\u00e0y b\u1ea1n s\u1ebd th\u1ea5y r\u1eb1ng v\u1ec1 \u0111\u1ec1 t\u00e0i n\u00e0y ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng t\u1ea1o d\u1ef1ng \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c m\u1ed9t th\u1ecb gi\u00e1c tuy\u1ec7t v\u1eddi). Trong th\u00e2m t\u00e2m ng\u01b0\u1eddi ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef h\u1ecd \u0111\u01a1n gi\u1ea3n bi\u1ebft r\u1eb1ng c\u00e1i \u0111\u1eb9p s\u1ebd mang l\u1ea1i cho c\u00f4 ta nhi\u1ec1u l\u1ee3i \u00edch h\u01a1n tr\u00ed tu\u1ec7. C\u00f4 ta c\u0169ng bi\u1ebft r\u1eb1ng theo b\u1ea3n n\u0103ng c\u0169ng ng\u01b0\u1ee3ng ng\u00f9ng tr\u00e1nh xa nh\u1eefng ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef th\u00f4ng minh. N\u1ebfu h\u1ecd kh\u00f4ng ng\u01b0\u1ee3ng ng\u00f9ng v\u1edbi h\u1ecd th\u00ec h\u1ecd \u0111\u00e3 \u0111\u1ed1i x\u1eed nh\u01b0 th\u1ebf v\u1edbi \u0111\u1ed3ng nghi\u1ec7p (nh\u01b0ng kh\u00f4ng th\u00e2n thi\u1ec7n) trong th\u1ef1c t\u1ebf, thi\u1ebfu t\u1ef1 tin trong s\u1ed1 c\u00e1c ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 t\u00ecm th\u1ea5y b\u1eb1ng h\u00e0ng ng\u00e0n l\u00fd do. H\u1ea7u h\u1ebft\u00a0 li\u00ean quan \u0111\u1ebfn cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng gia \u0111\u00ecnh l\u00fac \u0111\u1ea7u b\u1eb1ng c\u00e1ch n\u00e0y hay c\u00e1ch kh\u00e1c. Khi tr\u01b0\u1edfng th\u00e0nh ng\u01b0\u1eddi ta c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c y\u00eau m\u1ebfn hay bu\u1ed3n r\u1ea7u khi c\u00f2n l\u00e0 \u0111\u1ee9a tr\u1ebb s\u1ebd kh\u00f4ng bao gi\u1edd qu\u00ean \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c nh\u1eefng tr\u1ea3i nghi\u1ec7m \u0111\u00f3. Gi\u1ed1ng nh\u01b0 c\u00e1i l\u01b0\u1ee1i lu\u00f4n lu\u00f4n l\u00eca t\u1edbi h\u1ed1 r\u0103ng \u0111\u00e3 b\u1ecb nh\u1ed5. Tr\u00ed \u00f3c con ng\u01b0\u1eddi lu\u00f4n l\u1ee5c l\u1ecdi kh\u00f4ng ng\u1eebng v\u00e0 m\u00f2 m\u1eabm nh\u1eefng b\u1eb1ng ch\u1ee9ng th\u00edch \u0111\u00e1ng c\u1ee7a ch\u00ednh n\u00f3. S\u1ef1 th\u1ea5p k\u00e9m c\u1ee7a th\u1eddi ni\u00ean thi\u1ebfu n\u00e0y t\u1ef1 \u0111\u1eb7t n\u00f3 v\u00e0o b\u1ed9 m\u00e1y t\u00e2m th\u1ea7n trong h\u00e0ng th\u1eadp k\u1ec9 t\u1edbi. V\u1ebft \u0111au v\u1ec1 s\u1ef1 th\u1ea5p k\u00e9m s\u1ebd m\u00e3nh li\u1ec7t \u0111\u1ebfn m\u1ee9c kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 tin \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c, tuy\u1ec7t \u0111\u1ed1i \u0111\u00f2i h\u1ecfi s\u1ef1 t\u1eadp trung c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi ch\u1ecbu \u0111au \u0111\u1edbn. Theo \u0111\u00f3, c\u1ee9 ng\u00e0y l\u1ea1i ng\u00e0y n\u00f3 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c th\u00fac \u0111\u1ea9y b\u1edfi \u201cc\u00e1i t\u1ed1i\u201d nhi\u00eau h\u01a1n l\u00e0 b\u1eb1ng nh\u1eefng y\u1ebfu t\u1ed1 kh\u00e1c trong kinh nghi\u1ec7m c\u1ee7a con ng\u01b0\u1eddi. N\u00f3 bao g\u1ed3m c\u1ea3 kh\u1ea3 n\u0103ng t\u00ecnh d\u1ee5c. Ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y m\u00ecnh th\u1ea5p k\u00e9m v\u00e0 t\u00ecm ki\u1ebfm s\u1ef1 gi\u00fap \u0111\u1ee1 \u0111\u1ec3 gi\u1ea3i quy\u1ebft n\u00f3.<\/p>\n

                Hai c\u00e2u tr\u1ea3 l\u1eddi th\u00f4ng d\u1ee5ng nh\u1ea5t hi\u1ec7n nay n\u1eb1m \u1edf gi\u1edbi h\u1ea1n c\u1ee7a chu\u1ed7i \u0111\u1ed1i x\u1eed ng\u01b0\u1ee3c. \u0110\u1ed9c gi\u1ea3 ph\u00e1i n\u1eef c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 t\u00ecm ki\u1ebfm \u0111\u00fang v\u1ebft ch\u00e2n c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd qua s\u1ef1 m\u00f4 t\u1ea3 c\u1ee7a hai tr\u1ea1ng th\u00e1i t\u00ednh c\u00e1ch kh\u00e1c nhau sau:<\/p>\n

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                • S\u1ef1 r\u00fat lui.<\/li>\n
                • S\u1ef1 \u0111\u1ea5u tranh.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n
                    \n
                  1. S\u1ef1 r\u00fat lui.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

                    Trong tr\u01b0\u1eddng h\u1ee3p n\u00e0y ng\u01b0\u1eddi ta c\u00f3 xu h\u01b0\u1edbng r\u00fat lui khi n\u01a1i \u1ea5y l\u00e0m h\u1ecd s\u1ee3 ho\u1eb7c b\u1ecb nh\u1ea1o b\u00e1ng ho\u1eb7c d\u1ec5 m\u1eafc sai l\u1ea7m. Ph\u1ea7n \u0111au \u0111\u1edbn khi r\u00fat lui ch\u00ednh l\u00e0 s\u1ef1 t\u1ee7i th\u00e2n lu\u00f4n lu\u00f4n \u0111\u1ed3ng h\u00e0nh. S\u1ef1 \u0111au \u0111\u1edbn t\u1ed9t c\u00f9ng c\u1ee7a c\u00e1 nh\u00e2n ch\u00ednh l\u00e0 \u0111\u00f4i b\u1ea1n trung ki\u00ean c\u1ee7a l\u1ed1i s\u1ed1ng n\u00e0y.<\/p>\n

                    T\u1edbi t\u1eadn trong t\u00e2m tr\u00ed nh\u1eefng l\u1eddi ph\u00ea b\u00ecnh gi\u1ed1ng nh\u01b0: \u201cT\u00f4i bi\u1ebft anh s\u1ebd l\u00e0m l\u1ed9n x\u1ed9n m\u00e0\u201d \u201cAnh ch\u1eb3ng l\u00e0m g\u00ec \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c vi\u1ec7c gi l\u00ean h\u1ed3n c\u1ea3\u201d \u201cAnh kh\u00f4ng bi\u1ebft n\u00f3 s\u1ebd thi\u00eau ch\u00e1y anh kh\u00f4ng h\u1ea3?\u201d \u201cV\u00e0 t\u1ea1i sao, t\u1ea1i sao\u201d ngay c\u1ea3 b\u1ea1n b\u00e8 c\u1ee7a nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi n\u00e0y h\u1ecd t\u1ef1 than c\u0169ng l\u1ef1a ch\u1ecdn \u0111\u1ec3 \u00fd nguy\u1ec7n c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c x\u1ee9ng v\u1edbi nh\u1eefng th\u1ea3m k\u1ecbch cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng h\u00e0ng ng\u00e0y c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd. S\u1ef1 t\u1ef1 than th\u01b0\u1eddng \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c c\u1ed9ng th\u00eam v\u00e0 c\u00f3 \u0111\u1ed9 l\u00e2y lan cao, n\u00f3 lan r\u1ed9ng v\u00e0 nhanh trong gia \u0111\u00ecnh, h\u00e0ng x\u00f3m hay trong c\u1ed9ng \u0111o\u00e0n gi\u00e1o x\u1ee9. N\u00f3 \u0111ang ki\u1ec7t s\u1ee9c, n\u00f3 l\u00e0m cho n\u1ea1n nh\u00e2n m\u1ec7t m\u1ecfi, l\u00e0m m\u1ea5t m\u1ee5c \u0111\u00edch, bu\u1ed3n ch\u00e1n, kh\u1ed5 s\u1edf. V\u1edbi s\u1ef1 leo thang c\u1ee7a s\u1ef1 t\u1ef1 than, ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef tr\u1edf n\u00ean bu\u1ed3n r\u1ea7u, sau \u0111\u00f3 d\u1ea7n d\u1ea7n tr\u1edf th\u00e0nh k\u1ec3 c\u0103m th\u00f9. N\u1ebfu kh\u00f4ng can thi\u1ec7p ch\u1eefa tr\u1ecb, n\u00f3 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 d\u1eabn t\u1edbi t\u1ef1 v\u1eabn.<\/p>\n

                    N\u00f3i chung s\u1ef1 r\u00fat lui c\u0169ng kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0 qu\u00e1 th\u00e0nh c\u00f4ng \u0111\u1ec3 \u0111\u1ea1t t\u1edbi c\u1ea3m gi\u00e1c th\u1ea5p k\u00e9m. N\u00f3 g\u00e2y ra c\u0103ng th\u1eb3ng v\u00e0 \u00edt nh\u1ea5t l\u00e0 t\u00e1c \u0111\u1ed9ng t\u1edbi nh\u1eefng \u201cc\u00e1i t\u00f4i\u201d ph\u00f2ng th\u1ee7. Trong th\u1ef1c t\u1ebf n\u00f3 kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i to\u00e0n l\u00e0 ph\u00f2ng th\u1ee7 theo h\u00e0ng th\u1ebf k\u1ef7, tuy v\u1eady s\u1ef1 r\u00fat lui l\u00e0 h\u00ecnh th\u00e1i c\u00e1 nh\u00e2n ph\u1ed5 bi\u1ebfn nh\u1ea5t trong gi\u1edbi ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef.<\/p>\n

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                    1. Cu\u1ed9c chi\u1ebfn<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

                      Trong khi s\u1ef1 r\u00fat lui \u0111\u00e3 tr\u1edf th\u00e0nh phong c\u00e1ch c\u1ee7a nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi h\u1ecd c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y m\u00ecnh th\u1ea5p k\u00e9m, c\u00f2n s\u1ef1 t\u1ee9c gi\u1eadn l\u1ea1i l\u00e0 s\u1ef1 \u0111\u1ea3o l\u1ed9n lung tung c\u1ee7a n\u00f3. M\u1ecdi ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u1ec3 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c trang b\u1ecb cho m\u00ecnh m\u1ed9t c\u00e1i r\u00ecu s\u1eafc \u0111\u1ec3 tin r\u1eb1ng n\u00f3 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 \u0111\u00e1nh b\u1ea5t ng\u1edd b\u1ea5t k\u1ef3 k\u1ebb \u0111\u00e0n \u00e1p n\u00e0o. K\u1ebb n\u00e0y \u0111i\u00ean kh\u00f9ng v\u1edbi k\u1ebb kia v\u00e0 khi ch\u00fang \u1edf c\u00f9ng nhau, m\u1ed9t x\u00e3 h\u1ed9i qu\u1eb1n qu\u1ea1i trong b\u1ea1o l\u1ef1c. Th\u1eadm ch\u00ed th\u1ebf gi\u1edbi phim \u1ea3nh c\u00f2n t\u00f4 \u0111i\u1ec3m ch\u00fang. C\u00f3 nh\u1eefng h\u00ecnh th\u00e1i kh\u00e1c nh\u01b0ng s\u1ef1 r\u00fat lui v\u00e0 s\u1ef1 \u0111\u1ea5u tranh l\u00e0 hai h\u00ecnh th\u00e1i ph\u1ed5 bi\u1ebfn. C\u1ea3 hai \u0111\u1ec1u n\u1eb1m r\u1ea5t xa \u0111i\u1ec3m cu\u1ed1i c\u1ee7a quang ph\u1ed5. Ch\u00fang c\u00f2n c\u00e1ch r\u1ea5t xa \u0111i\u1ec3m \u0111\u1ebfn c\u1ee7a ch\u00fang \u0111\u1ec3 \u0111\u1ea1t t\u1edbi v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1. N\u00f3 c\u0169ng kh\u00f4ng l\u00e0nh m\u1ea1nh. N\u1ed9i tr\u1ee3 l\u00e0 chung t\u00e2m c\u1ee7a gia \u0111\u00ecnh, n\u1ebfu c\u00f4 ta s\u1eed d\u1ee5ng \u0111\u1ebfn c\u1ea3 m\u01b0u m\u1eb9o v\u1edbi c\u1ea3 gia \u0111\u00ecnh th\u00ec n\u00f3 nh\u1ea5n ch\u00ecm trong b\u1ea7u kh\u00f4ng kh\u00ed u s\u1ea7u. Nhanh hay ch\u1eadm c\u00f4 ta c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 b\u1eb1ng c\u00e1ch n\u00e0y hay c\u00e1ch kh\u00e1c, c\u00f4 ta s\u1ebd chia n\u00f3 th\u00e0nh ng\u0103n nh\u01b0 m\u1ed9t v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 v\u00f4 v\u1ecdng; m\u1ed9t k\u1ebb g\u00e2y phi\u1ec1n h\u00e0; ai \u0111\u00f3 ch\u1ec9 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c bu\u00f4ng l\u1ecfng l\u00fac n\u00e0y hay l\u00fac kh\u00e1c- nh\u01b0ng kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i m\u1ecdi l\u00fac. Trong tr\u01b0\u1eddng h\u1ee3p kh\u00e1c ng\u01b0\u1eddi ta c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 ch\u1ec9 \u0111\u1ee3i v\u1ec1 nh\u00e0 mu\u1ed9n hay tr\u00e1nh xa s\u1ef1 hi\u1ec7n di\u1ec7n c\u1ee7a c\u00f4 ta, hay \u0111\u1ee3i khi c\u00f3 c\u01a1 h\u1ed9i ng\u00f4i nh\u00e0 b\u1ecf tr\u1ed1ng. Gi\u1ed1ng nh\u01b0 tr\u1ebb v\u1ecb th\u00e0nh ni\u00ean. K\u1ebft qu\u1ea3 th\u1ef1c l\u00e0 \u1edf ch\u1ed7, c\u00f4 ta \u0111\u00e3 s\u1eed d\u1ee5ng nhi\u1ec1u n\u0103ng l\u01b0\u1ee3ng v\u00e0 n\u1ed7 l\u1ef1c v\u1ec1 \u0111i\u1ec1u n\u00e0y h\u1ecd g\u1ecdi l\u00e0 t\u1ef1 than, nh\u01b0ng c\u00f4 ta \u0111\u00e3 \u0111\u1ea1t \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c \u0111i\u1ec1u g\u00ec? Kh\u00f4ng c\u00e1i g\u00ec c\u1ea3, tuy\u1ec7t \u0111\u1ed1i kh\u00f4ng th\u1ee9 g\u00ec! Ngo\u1ea1i tr\u1eeb th\u1ecdc m\u1ed9t c\u00e1i m\u0169i dao v\u00e0o ch\u00ednh gia \u0111\u00ecnh c\u00f4 ta. S\u1ef1 to\u1ea1i nguy\u1ec7n cay \u0111\u1ed9c m\u00e0 c\u00f4 ta \u0111\u1ea1t \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c ch\u00ednh l\u00e0 th\u1eddi gian v\u00e0 sau \u0111\u00f3 n\u00f3 s\u1ebd quay tr\u1edf l\u1ea1i v\u1edbi m\u1ed9t c\u1ea3m gi\u00e1c \u0111au kh\u1ed5 v\u1ec1 t\u1ed9i l\u1ed7i v\u00e0 v\u00f4 gi\u00e1 tr\u1ecb.<\/p>\n

                      C\u00e2u tr\u1ea3 l\u1eddi t\u1ed1t nh\u1ea5t cho l\u00f2ng t\u1ef1 tr\u1ecdng l\u00e0:<\/p>\n

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                      1. Ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef ph\u1ea3i ch\u1ea5p nh\u1eadn s\u1ef1 th\u1eadt l\u00e0 h\u1ecd \u0111\u00e3 t\u1ea1o d\u1ef1ng h\u1ecd. Ch\u00faa c\u00f3 l\u00fd do c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh v\u1ec1 nh\u1eefng n\u00e9t ti\u00eau bi\u1ec3u n\u00e0y. Ngay c\u1ea3 ch\u00ednh ch\u00fang ta kh\u00f4ng nh\u1eadn ra v\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng hi\u1ec3u nh\u1eefng l\u00fd do n\u00e0y. Ch\u00faa kh\u00f4ng bao gi\u1edd t\u1ea1o ra nh\u1eefng \u0111i\u1ec1u ng\u1edb ng\u1ea9n. Ch\u00fang ta ph\u1ea3i ph\u00f3 th\u00e1c v\u00e0o s\u1ef1 th\u00f4ng th\u00e1i c\u1ee7a Ch\u00faa.<\/li>\n
                      2. Ch\u00faa t\u1ea1o d\u1ef1ng ng\u01b0\u1eddi ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef v\u1edbi m\u1ed9t vai tr\u00f2, ph\u1ea9m gi\u00e1 v\u00e0 th\u00e2n ph\u1eadn r\u1ea5t quan tr\u1ecdng v\u00e0 \u0111\u00e2y l\u00e0 t\u00e0i s\u1ea3n v\u0129 \u0111\u1ea1i nh\u1ea5t c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd. C\u00f3 nhi\u1ec1u ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef ho\u1ea1t \u0111\u1ed9ng x\u00e3 h\u1ed9i, tho\u1ea3i m\u00e1i vui t\u00ednh, c\u00f3 \u1ea3nh h\u01b0\u1edfng t\u1edbi nh\u1eefng ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef kh\u00e1c m\u00e0 th\u1ea5y m\u00ecnh c\u00f3 ph\u1ea7n th\u1ea5p k\u00e9m h\u01a1n. H\u1ecd l\u00e0 nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi c\u00f3 c\u1ea3m t\u01b0\u1edfng r\u1eb1ng m\u1ecdi th\u1ee9 t\u1ed1t \u0111\u1eb9p theo c\u1ea3m gi\u00e1c c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd. Nh\u01b0ng ch\u00ednh trong gia \u0111\u00ecnh h\u1ecd, h\u1ecd l\u1ea1i kh\u00f4ng t\u00ecm ra \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c c\u00e1ch bi\u1ec3u \u0111\u1ea1t b\u1eb1ng c\u00e1ch n\u00e0y hay c\u00e1ch kh\u00e1c. M\u1eb7c d\u00f9 v\u1eady, \u0111i\u1ec3m thi\u1ebfu t\u1ef1 tin s\u1ebd l\u1ea1i l\u1ed9 di\u1ec7n r\u1ea5t nhanh trong khi t\u00e2m s\u1ef1 nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi t\u01b0 v\u1ea5n h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n v\u1eabn duy tr\u00ec nh\u01b0 m\u1ed9t s\u1ef1 b\u00ed m\u1eadt tuy\u1ec7t \u0111\u1ed1i v\u1edbi nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi ngo\u00e0i cu\u1ed9c. Tuy nhi\u00ean nh\u1eefng b\u00e0 v\u1ee3 mong mu\u1ed1n nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi ch\u1ed3ng hi\u1ec3u \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd. \u0110\u1ec3 th\u1eed nghi\u1ec7m m\u1ed9t ph\u1ea1m vi kh\u00e1c. Nh\u00ecn chung ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef th\u00edch l\u00e0m t\u00ecnh trong b\u00f3ng t\u1ed1i h\u01a1n, nh\u01b0ng \u0111i\u1ec1u n\u00e0y c\u00f2n tr\u1ea7m tr\u1ecdng h\u01a1n khi ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef b\u1ecb \u0111au kh\u1ed5 b\u1edfi t\u00ecnh tr\u1ea1ng thi\u1ebfu t\u1ef1 tin. Ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef c\u0169ng nh\u1ea1y c\u1ea3m h\u01a1n v\u1ec1 m\u1eb7t n\u00e0y. \u1ede b\u1ea5t k\u1ef3 \u0111\u00e2u th\u00ec \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng \u201cc\u00f3 h\u01b0\u1edbng nh\u00ecn\u201d nhi\u00eau h\u01a1n v\u00e0 v\u00ec th\u1ebf th\u00edch l\u00e0m t\u00ecnh \u1edf n\u01a1i c\u00f3 \u00e1nh s\u00e1ng. \u0110\u00e2y l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t th\u1eed nghi\u1ec7m \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c ti\u1ebfn h\u00e0nh tr\u00ean to\u00e0n th\u1ebf gi\u1edbi. Ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c t\u00f4n tr\u1ecdng cao v\u1ec1 s\u1eafc \u0111\u1eb9p c\u01a1 th\u1ec3 c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh th\u00ec th\u00edch h\u1ee3p v\u1edbi \u01b0\u1edbc mu\u1ed1n c\u1ee7a ch\u1ed3ng d\u1ec5 d\u00e0ng h\u01a1n. \u0110i\u1ec3m n\u00e0y c\u0169ng t\u01b0\u01a1ng \u0111\u01b0\u01a1ng v\u1edbi \u0111i\u1ec1u m\u00e0 t\u00f4i \u0111\u00e3 \u0111\u1ec1 c\u1eadp tr\u01b0\u1edbc khi m\u00f4 t\u1ea3 v\u1ec1 c\u00e1i \u0111\u1eb9p v\u00e0 s\u1ef1 th\u00f4ng minh v\u1ec1 s\u1edf th\u00edch gi\u1eefa \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng v\u00e0 \u0111\u00e0n b\u00e0, do b\u1ea3n n\u0103ng ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef bi\u1ebft r\u1eb1ng \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng c\u00f3 xu h\u01b0\u1edbng \u201cnh\u00ecn\u201d, h\u1ecd th\u00edch nh\u00ecn h\u01a1n. \u0110i\u1ec1u n\u00e0y ch\u00ednh l\u00e0 l\u00fd do t\u1ea1i sao ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef th\u00edch s\u1eafc \u0111\u1eb9p h\u01a1n l\u00e0 tr\u00ed tu\u1ec7. Kh\u00f4ng quan t\u00e2m \u0111\u1ebfn b\u1ea5t k\u1ef3 ng\u01b0\u1eddi hi\u1ec7n \u0111\u1ea1i n\u00e0o ngh\u0129 th\u1ebf n\u00e0o v\u1ec1 h\u1ecd. V\u1eabn c\u00f2n m\u1ed9t ch\u00fat b\u1ea3n n\u0103ng \u201cd\u1ef1 tr\u1eef\u201d trong c\u1ea3 \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng v\u00e0 \u0111\u00e0n b\u00e0. C\u00f3 nhi\u1ec1u l\u1ea7n hay nhi\u1ec1u t\u00ecnh hu\u1ed1ng trong \u0111\u1eddi khi ta ph\u1ea3i gi\u00fap \u0111\u1ee1 ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c m\u00e0 h\u1ecd ph\u1ea3i \u0111\u1ed1i m\u1eb7t v\u1edbi v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 li\u00ean quan t\u1edbi s\u1ef1 thi\u1ebfu t\u1ef1 tin. Ch\u00fang ta ph\u1ea3i c\u1ea3 an \u1ee7i l\u1eabn \u0111\u1ed9ng vi\u00ean ng\u01b0\u1eddi nh\u01b0 v\u1eady.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

                        D\u01b0\u1edbi \u0111\u00e2y l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t trong s\u1ed1 l\u1eddi khuy\u00ean v\u1ec1 v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 r\u1ea5t nh\u1eady c\u1ea3m n\u00e0y:<\/p>\n

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                        1. B\u1ea1n ph\u1ea3i th\u1ef1c hi\u1ec7n l\u1eddi khuy\u00ean nh\u01b0 c\u00e1ch con nh\u00edm l\u00e0m t\u00ecnh \u2013 r\u1ea5t r\u1ea5t c\u1ea9n th\u1eadn.<\/li>\n
                        2. Ph\u1ea3i d\u00e0nh quy\u1ec1n b\u00ecnh ph\u1ea9m \u2013 d\u00f9 l\u00e0: l\u1eddi khuy\u00ean ph\u00e1 v\u1ee1 s\u1ef1 t\u1ef1 nhi\u00ean.<\/li>\n
                        3. Tr\u01b0\u1edbc khi b\u1ea1n \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c cho ph\u00e9p s\u1eeda ch\u1eefa l\u00f2ng t\u1ef1 tr\u1ecdng c\u1ee7a m\u1ed9t c\u00e1 nh\u00e2n kh\u00e1c, tr\u01b0\u1edbc ti\u00ean b\u1ea1n b\u1eaft bu\u1ed9c ph\u1ea3i ch\u1ee9ng t\u1ecf s\u1ef1 k\u00ednh tr\u1ecdng c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n v\u1edbi anh \u1ea5y hay v\u1edbi ng\u01b0\u1eddi m\u00e0 b\u1ea1n mu\u1ed1n gi\u00fap \u0111\u1ee1.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

                          \u0110i\u1ec1u n\u00e0y ph\u1ea3i \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c th\u1ef1c hi\u1ec7n qua m\u00f4i tr\u01b0\u1eddng c\u1ee7a t\u00ecnh y\u00eau, s\u1ef1 \u00e2n c\u1ea7n, s\u1ef1 \u1ea5m \u00e1p t\u00ecnh ng\u01b0\u1eddi. Khi m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 tin t\u01b0\u1edfng \u0111\u00e3 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c ho\u00e0n t\u1ea5t m\u1ed9t c\u00e1ch c\u1ea9n th\u1eadn, b\u1ea1n s\u1ebd c\u00f3 quy\u1ec1n th\u1ea3o lu\u1eadn v\u1ec1 m\u1ed9t ch\u1ee7 \u0111\u1ec1 v\u1ec1 m\u1ed1i \u0111e d\u1ecda ti\u1ec1m tang. Ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00f3ng vai tr\u00f2 ph\u1ee5 c\u01a1 b\u1ea3n n\u00e0y ch\u1ec9 \u0111\u1ea1o ch\u1ed1ng l\u1ea1i nh\u1eefng c\u00e1i m\u00e0 hi\u1ec7n nay ng\u01b0\u1eddi ta \u0111ang th\u1ef1c hi\u1ec7n. Ph\u1ea3i l\u01b0u \u00fd nhi\u1ec1u v\u1ec1 c\u00e1i m\u00e0 g\u1ecdi l\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi c\u1ed1 v\u1ea5n, n\u00f3i nh\u1eefng \u0111i\u1ec1u v\u00e0 ngh\u0129 r\u1eb1ng nh\u1eefng \u0111i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00f3 l\u00e0 ch\u00e2n th\u1eadt. Nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi n\u00e0y t\u01b0\u1edfng t\u01b0\u1ee3ng b\u1eb1ng c\u00e1ch b\u01b0\u1edbc v\u00e0o nh\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi ta v\u00e0 n\u00f3i \u201cnh\u00e0 c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n b\u1eeba b\u1ed9n qu\u00e1\u201d qu\u1ea3 \u0111\u00fang nh\u01b0 v\u1eady ng\u00f4i nh\u00e0 r\u1ea5t b\u1eeba b\u1ed9n v\u00e0 \u0111i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00f3 l\u00e0 th\u1eadt, ho\u1eb7c n\u00f3i \u201c\u00f4i b\u1ea1n \u01a1i k\u00eca, k\u1ec3 t\u1eeb l\u1ea7n cu\u1ed1i c\u00f9ng t\u00f4i nh\u00ecn th\u1ea5y b\u1ea1n, sao\u00a0 c\u00f3 nhi\u1ec1u n\u1ebfp nh\u0103n tr\u00ean m\u1eb7t v\u1eady\u201d c\u00e1ch n\u00e0y h\u1ecd th\u1ef1c s\u1ef1 ngh\u0129 h\u1ecd l\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi b\u1ed9c tr\u1ef1c v\u00e0 \u0111\u00fang v\u00ec n\u00f3 l\u00e0 s\u1ef1 th\u1eadt. Ch\u00e2n th\u00e0nh? Ch\u1eafc r\u1ed3i nh\u1eefng c\u00e1i gi\u00e1 n\u00e0o ph\u1ea3i tr\u1ea3 cho s\u1ef1 ch\u00e2n th\u00e0nh \u0111i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00f3 kh\u00f4ng quan tr\u1ecdng g\u00ec \u0111\u1ed1i v\u1edbi \u0111\u1ed9c gi\u1ea3 c\u00f3 tr\u00e1i tim, nh\u01b0ng l\u00e0 h\u00ecnh th\u00e1i t\u00e0n nh\u1eabn v\u1edbi k\u1ebb \u00edch k\u1ef7.<\/p>\n

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                          1. \u0110i\u1ec1u t\u1ed1t nh\u1ea5t l\u00e0 \u0111\u01b0a ra b\u1ea5t k\u1ef3 l\u1eddi g\u1ee3i \u00fd n\u00e0o theo li\u1ec1u l\u01b0\u1ee3ng r\u1ea5t nh\u1ecf.<\/li>\n
                          2. Ch\u00fang ta ph\u1ea3i lu\u00f4n nh\u1edb r\u1eb1ng t\u1ea5t c\u1ea3 m\u1ecdi l\u00fac ai \u0111\u00f3, n\u01a1i n\u00e0o \u0111\u00f3, c\u0169ng \u01b0\u1edbc mong th\u00e1o g\u1ee1 m\u1ed9t s\u1ed1 l\u1ed7i l\u1ea7m c\u1ee7a ch\u00fang ta-t\u1ea5t c\u1ea3 ch\u00fang ta \u0111\u1ec1u c\u00f3 l\u1ed7i l\u1ea7m.<\/li>\n
                          3. S\u1ef1 m\u1ec7t m\u1ecfi v\u00e0 \u00e1p l\u1ef1c th\u1eddi gian<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

                            Nhi\u1ec1u ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef \u0111\u1eb7t \u0111i\u1ec3m n\u00e0y l\u00ean l\u00e0m l\u00fd do chung th\u1ee9 hai li\u00ean quan \u0111\u1ebfn s\u1ef1 bu\u1ed3n r\u1ea7u. Theo c\u00e1ch n\u00e0y hay c\u00e1ch kh\u00e1c con ng\u01b0\u1eddi tr\u00ean c\u00f5i \u0111\u1eddi n\u00e0y ph\u1ea3i \u0111\u1ed1i m\u1eb7t v\u1edbi s\u1ef1 m\u1ec7t m\u1ecfi v\u00e0 \u00e1p l\u1ef1c th\u1eddi gian. Ch\u00fang ta d\u01b0\u1eddng nh\u01b0 \u0111\u00e3 t\u1ea1o ra c\u00e1ch s\u1ed1ng ch\u1ea1y \u0111ua qua ng\u00e0y v\u00e0 l\u00e0m \u0111\u00eam ngo\u00e0i gi\u1edd. Ngay c\u1ea3 s\u1ef1 ngh\u1ec9 ng\u01a1i \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c \u0111\u00e1nh d\u1ea5u v\u1edbi t\u1ed1c \u0111\u1ed9 qu\u00e1 nhanh, con ng\u01b0\u1eddi tr\u1edf n\u00ean chi\u1ebfm gi\u1eef nhi\u1ec1u h\u01a1n v\u00e0 \u0111ang t\u0103ng t\u1ed1c xa h\u01a1n, nhanh h\u01a1n xu\u1ed1ng con \u0111\u01b0\u1eddng m\u1ec7t m\u1ecfi. N\u00f3 kh\u00f4ng ch\u1ec9 l\u00e0 nh\u1eefng ho\u1ea1t \u0111\u1ed9ng v\u1ec1 th\u1ec3 x\u00e1c nh\u01b0ng c\u0169ng l\u00e0 nh\u1eefng ho\u1ea1t \u0111\u1ed9ng tinh th\u1ea7n. Ch\u00fang ta bi\u1ebft nh\u01b0 \u201cm\u1ed9t danh s\u00e1ch ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0m\u201d n\u00f3 l\u00e0m cho \u0111\u1ea7u \u00f3c xoay t\u00edt v\u00e0 xoay tr\u00f2n. Ch\u00fang ta c\u00f3 m\u1ed9t b\u1ea3n danh m\u1ee5c v\u1ec1 nh\u1eefng vi\u1ec7c ph\u1ea3i ch\u00fa \u00fd \u0111\u1ebfn. Do v\u1eady ch\u00fang ta r\u1ea5t b\u1eadn b\u1ecbu, m\u1ecdi ng\u01b0\u1eddi c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 th\u1ea5y \u0111i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00f3. Nh\u01b0ng ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0m g\u00ec v\u1edbi nh\u1eefng bu\u1ed1n r\u1ea7u? Ch\u1ec9 \u0111i\u1ec1u n\u00e0y th\u00f4i m\u1ecdi ngh\u0129a v\u1ee5 ch\u00fang ta n\u00e9 tr\u00e1nh s\u1ebd tr\u1edf th\u00e0nh ngu\u1ed3n g\u1ed1c c\u1ee7a t\u1ed9i l\u1ed7i. Khi c\u00f3 nhi\u1ec1u s\u1ef1 b\u1eadn t\u00e2m h\u01a1n th\u00ec ch\u00fang ta c\u00f3 th\u1ec3\u00a0 \u0111i\u1ec1u ch\u1ec9nh l\u00f2ng t\u1ef1 tr\u1ecdng, ch\u00fang ta tr\u1edf n\u00ean c\u00f3 h\u1ea1i h\u01a1n nhi\u1ec1u do sai l\u1ea7m c\u1ee7a ch\u00fang ta. Ch\u00fang ta b\u1eaft \u0111\u1ea7u t\u1ef1 h\u1ecfi\u00a0 nh\u01b0: \u201cT\u00f4i th\u1ef1c s\u1ef1 l\u00e0 b\u1eadc ph\u1ee5 huynh t\u1ed3i sao?\u201d \u201cT\u00f4i qu\u00e1 m\u1ec7t m\u1ecfi \u0111\u1ec3 tr\u1edf th\u00e0nh ng\u01b0\u1eddi v\u1ee3 t\u1ed1t sao?\u201d \u201cT\u00f4i l\u00e0 k\u1ebb ph\u00e1 r\u1ed1i gia \u0111\u00ecnh v\u00e0 l\u00e0m x\u00e1o l\u1ed9n sao?\u201d \u201cT\u00f4i kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 th\u1eddi gian hay kh\u1ea3 n\u0103ng \u0111\u1ec3 k\u1ebft th\u00e2n v\u1edbi nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi b\u1ea1n th\u1ef1c s\u1ef1 sao?\u201d<\/p>\n

                            Vince Lanbarti c\u1ef1u hu\u1ea5n luy\u1ec7n vi\u00ean b\u00f3ng \u0111\u00e1 ng\u01b0\u1eddi M\u1ef9 v\u0129 \u0111\u1ea1i \u0111\u00e3 c\u00f3 l\u1ea7n n\u00f3i v\u1edbi \u0111\u1ed9i c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh r\u1eb1ng: \u201cS\u1ef1 m\u1ec7t m\u1ecfi l\u00e0m cho ch\u00fang ta kh\u00f4ng c\u00f2n nh\u00fat nh\u00e1t.\u201d \u00d4ng ta \u0111\u00fang sao! C\u01a1 th\u1ec3 suy nh\u01b0\u1ee3c l\u00e0m ch\u00fang ta c\u00f3 \u00edt kh\u1ea3 n\u0103ng h\u01a1n \u0111\u1ec3 \u0111\u1ed1i m\u1eb7t v\u1edbi s\u1ef1 \u1ed3n \u00e0o con tr\u1ebb, ti\u1ebfng \u1ed3n c\u1ee7a m\u00e1y gi\u1eb7t, ngay c\u1ea3 nh\u1eefng s\u1ef1 ch\u1ecdc t\u1ee9c nho nh\u1ecf c\u0169ng kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 ch\u1ecbu \u0111\u1ef1ng n\u1ed5i. N\u00f3 c\u0169ng gi\u1ed1ng nh\u01b0 \u0111i\u1ec1u ng\u01b0\u1eddi ta n\u00f3i; \u201cKhi b\u1ea1n m\u1ec7t m\u1ecfi b\u1ea1n b\u1ecb t\u1ea5n c\u00f4ng b\u1edfi \u00fd ngh\u0129 r\u1eb1ng b\u1ea1n \u0111\u00e3 chi\u1ebfn th\u1eafng t\u1eeb l\u00e2u r\u1ed3i.\u201d C\u00f3 l\u1ebd \u0111i\u1ec1u gi\u1ea3i th\u00edch n\u00e0y l\u00fd gi\u1ea3i v\u00ec sao ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef v\u00e0 \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng\u00a0 l\u00e0m vi\u1ec7c qu\u00e1 s\u1ee9c kinh kh\u1ee7ng tr\u1edf n\u00ean nh\u00fat nh\u00e1t. H\u1ecd kh\u00f3c nhai nh\u1ea3i th\u00edch th\u00fa c\u1eafn ng\u01b0\u1eddi m\u00ecnh y\u00eau qu\u00fd nh\u1ea5t.\u00a0 S\u1ef1 m\u1ec7t m\u1ecfi v\u00e0 \u00e1p l\u1ef1c th\u1eddi gian s\u1ebd g\u00e2y ra m\u1ed9t s\u1ef1 c\u0103ng th\u1eb3ng, t\u1ea1i sao ch\u00fang ta t\u1ef1 cho ph\u00e9p m\u00ecnh tr\u1edf n\u00ean b\u1eadn r\u1ed9n nh\u01b0 v\u1eady? \u2013B\u1edfi v\u00ec m\u1ecdi ng\u01b0\u1eddi ngh\u0129 s\u1ef1 h\u01b0ng ph\u1ea5n n\u00e0y l\u00e0 nh\u1ea5t th\u1eddi. Ch\u00fang ta n\u1eafm \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c c\u00e2u th\u00e0nh ng\u1eef nh\u01b0 \u201ckhi c\u00f4ng vi\u1ec7c \u0111\u00e3 \u1ed5n \u0111\u1ecbnh t\u00f4i s\u1ebd c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 l\u00e0m ch\u1eadm \u0111i.\u201d \u201cKhi t\u00f4i tr\u1ea3 h\u1ebft ti\u1ec1n nh\u00e0, t\u00f4i kh\u00f4ng c\u1ea7n ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0m vi\u1ec7c c\u1ef1c nh\u1ecdc nh\u01b0 v\u1eady n\u1eefa\u201d\u2026Nh\u1eefng c\u00e1i g\u1ecdi l\u00e0 giai \u0111o\u1ea1n t\u1ea1m th\u1eddi s\u1ebd l\u1ea1i k\u1ebf ti\u1ebfp nh\u1eefng giai \u0111o\u1ea1n t\u1ea1m th\u1eddi kh\u00e1c v\u00e0 cu\u1ed1i c\u00f9ng th\u00ec ch\u00fang ta \u0111\u00e3 t\u1ea1o ra m\u1ed9t c\u00e1ch s\u1ed1ng d\u00e0i h\u1ea1n nh\u01b0 v\u00e2y. Ch\u1eb3ng ai c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 \u201cCh\u1ea1y v\u00f2ng tr\u00f2n\u201d nhanh h\u01a1n m\u1ed9t b\u00e0 m\u1eb9 c\u00f3 nhi\u1ec1u \u0111\u1ee9a con ch\u01b0a \u0111\u1ebfn tu\u1ed5i \u0111i h\u1ecdc, kh\u00f4ng ch\u1ec9 b\u00e0 ta ph\u1ea3i t\u0103ng l\u00ean \u0111\u1ed9t ng\u1ed9t t\u1eeb s\u00e1ng t\u1edbi t\u1ed1i, nh\u01b0ng ph\u1ea3i kinh qua m\u1ed9t lo\u1ea1i stress c\u1ea3m x\u00fac kh\u00e1c th\u01b0\u1eddng n\u1eefa. C\u00f3 nhi\u1ec1u y\u1ebfu t\u1ed1 b\u1eaft b\u00e0 ta ti\u1ebfp t\u1ee5c v\u1eadn \u0111\u1ed9ng v\u1ec1 tinh th\u1ea7n. N\u00f3 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 li\u00ean t\u1ee5c tu\u00f4n ra nh\u1eefng l\u1eddi v\u00e0 nh\u1eefng t\u1eeb l\u1eb7p \u0111i l\u1eb7p l\u1ea1i v\u00f4 t\u1eadn m\u00e0 nh\u1eefng \u0111\u1ee9a tr\u1ebb x\u1ea3 l\u00e1ng n\u00f3i ra, d\u01b0\u1eddng nh\u01b0 kh\u00f4ng m\u1ec7t m\u1ecfi; Ho\u1eb7c c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 l\u00e0 th\u00e1i \u0111\u1ed9 hi\u1ec7n t\u1ea1i c\u1ee7a ch\u00fang m\u00e0 ch\u00fang ch\u1ea5p nh\u1eadn nh\u01b0 nhu c\u1ea7u hi\u1ec7n t\u1ea1i c\u1ee7a ch\u00fang m\u00e0 ch\u00fang ch\u1ea5p nh\u1eadn nh\u01b0 nhu c\u1ea7u c\u01a1 b\u1ea3n. Nh\u1eefng \u0111\u1ee9a tr\u1ebb \u0111\u01b0\u1edbi 15 tu\u1ed5i c\u00f3 b\u1ed9 n\u00e3o gi\u1ed1ng nh\u01b0 mi\u1ebfng b\u1ecdt bi\u1ec3n ch\u01b0a b\u00e3o h\u00f2a. Nh\u1eefng b\u1ed9 n\u00e3o n\u00e0y h\u00e1o h\u1ee9c mu\u1ed1n th\u1ea9m th\u1ea5u b\u1ea5t k\u1ef3 ki\u1ebfn th\u1ee9c hay th\u00f4ng tin n\u00e0o. Do v\u1eady, th\u1eadt b\u00ecnh th\u01b0\u1eddng khi con tr\u1ebb c\u00f3 m\u1ed9t d\u00e3y nh\u1eefng c\u00e2u h\u1ecfi. S\u1ef1 th\u1eadt l\u00e0 \u1edf ch\u1ed7 n\u00f3 c\u00f3 kh\u1ea3 n\u0103ng n\u00f3i v\u1edbi m\u1ed9t \u0111\u1ee9a tr\u1ebb v\u1ec1 m\u00f4m to\u00e1n cao h\u01a1n, ti\u1ebfng Anh cao h\u01a1n, thuy\u1ebft t\u01b0\u01a1ng \u0111\u1ed1i c\u1ee7a Einstein hay d\u1ea1y ch\u00fang \u00e2m nh\u1ea1c hay ch\u01a1i c\u1edd. S\u1ef1 ki\u1ec1m ch\u1ebf l\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 trong t\u00e2m tr\u00ed tr\u1ebb, n\u00f3 ch\u1ec9 c\u00f3 \u1edf trong t\u00e2m tr\u00ed ng\u01b0\u1eddi tr\u01b0\u1edfng th\u00e0nh m\u00e0 d\u01b0\u1eddng nh\u01b0 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c ph\u1ed5 bi\u1ebfn b\u1eb1ng c\u1ea3m gi\u00e1c \u201cn\u1ebfu t\u00f4i kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 hi\u1ec3u n\u00f3 th\u00ec \u0111\u1ee9a tr\u1ebb nh\u1ecf hi\u1ec3u sao \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c?\u201d C\u00f3 th\u1ec3 l\u00e0 s\u1ef1 th\u1eadt, ng\u01b0\u1eddi tr\u01b0\u1edfng th\u00e0nh c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 hi\u1ec3u \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c ch\u1ee7 \u0111\u1ec1 c\u1ee7a c\u00e2u h\u1ecfi b\u1edfi v\u00ec h\u1ecd c\u00f3 nh\u1eefng \u01b0u ti\u00ean kh\u00e1c trong cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng. Nh\u1eefng \u0111i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00f3 c\u0169ng kh\u00f4ng thay \u0111\u1ed5i \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c th\u1ef1c t\u1ebf l\u00e0 \u0111\u1ee9a \u0111\u1ee9a tr\u1ebb c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c d\u1ea1y v\u1ec1 nh\u1eefng \u0111i\u1ec1u xa r\u1ed9ng h\u01a1n ch\u00fang \u0111ang mu\u1ed1n th\u01b0\u1edfng cho ch\u00fang l\u1eddi khen. M\u1ed9t y\u1ebfu t\u1ed1 quan tr\u1ecdng nh\u1ea5t l\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi l\u1edbn c\u00f3 \u0111\u1ee9c t\u00ednh ki\u00ean nh\u1eabn, y\u00eau tr\u1ebb, y\u00eau nh\u1eefng ch\u1ee7 \u0111\u1ec1 v\u00e0 th\u1eddi gian. Th\u1eddi gian v\u00e0 ki\u00ean nh\u1eabn l\u00e0 c\u1ea7n thi\u1ebft v\u00ec tr\u1ebb kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 nhi\u1ec1u ki\u1ebfn th\u1ee9c s\u01a1 \u0111\u1eb3ng m\u00e0 nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi tr\u01b0\u1edfng th\u00e0nh c\u00f3 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c. M\u00e0 c\u0169ng v\u00ec qu\u00e3ng th\u1eddi gian t\u1eadp trung c\u1ee7a ch\u00fang c\u00f2n k\u00e9m, ch\u00fang c\u1ea7n ph\u1ea3i hi\u1ec3u \u0111\u1ec1 t\u00e0i nh\u01b0 m\u1ed9t kinh nghi\u1ec7m vui nh\u1ed9n gi\u1ed1ng nh\u01b0 m\u1ed9t h\u00ecnh th\u1ee9c kh\u00e1c c\u1ee7a \u201cth\u1eddi gian k\u1ec3 chuy\u1ec7n\u201d \u0111i\u1ec1u t\u1ed3i t\u1ec7 h\u01a1n c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 x\u1ea3y ra l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi l\u1edbn kh\u00e1c \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c \u0111\u1ee9a tr\u1ebb k\u00ednh tr\u1ecdng b\u01b0\u1edbc v\u00e0o ph\u00f2ng v\u00e0 n\u00f3i v\u00e0i \u0111i\u1ec1u nh\u01b0 \u201c\u0111i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00f3 qu\u00e1 kh\u1ea3 n\u0103ng c\u1ee7a ch\u00e1u\u201d nh\u1eefng c\u00e1 nh\u00e2n b\u1ea5t l\u1ee3i \u0111\u00f3 \u0111\u00e3 mang s\u1ef1 h\u1ea1n ch\u1ebf cho \u0111\u1ee9a tr\u1ebb. C\u00e1ch t\u1ed3i t\u1ec7 nh\u1ea5t l\u00e0 ph\u1ea3i xem x\u00e9t vi\u1ec7c n\u00f3i chuy\u1ec7n ri\u00eang r\u1ebd nh\u01b0 m\u1ed9t v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 c\u1ee7a cu\u1ed9c th\u1ea3o lu\u1eadn th\u1ef1c t\u1ebf gi\u1eefa b\u1ed1 v\u00e0 em b\u00e9. N\u1ebfu vi\u1ec7c t\u00e1ch ly c\u1ea7n ph\u1ea3i d\u1eebng l\u1ea1i \u0111\u1ec3 \u0103n t\u1ed1i. V\u00ed d\u1ee5 \u201c\u0110\u00e3 \u0111\u1ebfn gi\u1edd \u0103n t\u1ed1i, ch\u00fang ta h\u00e3y n\u00f3i v\u00e0o l\u00fac kh\u00e1c\u201d. Quan \u0111i\u1ec3m n\u00e0y mang l\u1ea1i \u1ea5n t\u01b0\u1ee3ng l\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 \u0111i\u1ec1u g\u00ec sai v\u1edbi m\u1ed9t t\u00e2m tr\u00ed \u0111\u00f2i h\u1ecfi c\u0169ng nh\u01b0 m\u1ed9t c\u1ea3m gi\u00e1c \u01b0u ti\u00ean gi\u1ed1ng nh\u01b0 \u0111\u1ebfn gi\u1edd \u0111\u1ec3 l\u00e0m cho th\u1ee9 kh\u00e1c \u0103n kh\u1edbp v\u1edbi r\u00e3nh th\u1eddi gian-gi\u1ed1ng nh\u01b0 b\u1eefa \u0103n t\u1ed1i. Nhi\u1ec1u b\u00e0 m\u1eb9 n\u00f3i \u201ckhi con ng\u1ee7 t\u00f4i c\u0169ng t\u1ea1o c\u01a1 h\u1ed9i cho ng\u1ee7\u201d nh\u01b0ng trong h\u1ea7u h\u1ebft c\u00e1c tr\u01b0\u1eddng h\u1ee3p \u0111\u1ee9a tr\u1ebb n\u00e0y ng\u1ee7 c\u00f2n \u0111\u00faa tr\u1ebb kia th\u1ee9c v\u00e0 y\u00eau c\u1ea7u m\u1eb9 ch\u00fang v\u1ed7 v\u1ec1. B\u00ecnh th\u01b0\u1eddng th\u00ec \u0111\u1ee9a tr\u1ebb c\u00f2n th\u1ee9c n\u00f3 \u0111\u1ec3 \u00fd m\u1ed9t ph\u1ea7n v\u00e0o \u0111\u1ee9a kh\u00e1c nh\u01b0ng gi\u1edd n\u00f3 to\u00e0n t\u00e2m ch\u00fa \u00fd v\u00e0o m\u1eb9 ch\u00fang v\u00e0 mong mu\u1ed1n \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c m\u1eb9 tham gia quan t\u00e2m \u0111\u1ea7y \u0111\u1ee7. Ng\u01b0\u1eddi n\u00e0o th\u00f4ng th\u1ea1o v\u1ec1 nh\u1eefng h\u00ecnh th\u00e1i m\u1ec7t m\u1ecfi c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi m\u1eb9 th\u00ec \u0111\u1ec1u c\u00f3 quan \u0111i\u1ec3m r\u1eb1ng m\u1ee9c \u0111\u1ed9 n\u0103ng l\u01b0\u1ee3ng c\u1ee7a ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef b\u1ecb xu\u1ed1ng th\u1ea5p nh\u1ea5t v\u00e0o gi\u1eefa m\u1ed9t v\u00e0 hai. Th\u1eadt tuy\u1ec7t, n\u1ebfu ch\u1ed3ng m\u00ecnh bi\u1ebft \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c \u0111i\u1ec1u n\u00e0y. Trong th\u1ebf gi\u1edbi cu\u1ed3ng nhi\u1ec7t n\u00e0y c\u1ee7a ch\u00fang ta, ch\u00fang \u0111a \u0111\u00e3 tr\u1ef1c ti\u1ebfp hay gi\u00e1n ti\u1ebfp truy\u1ec1n cho con tr\u1ebb c\u00e1i c\u1ea3m gi\u00e1c \u201cv\u1ed9i v\u00e0ng\u201d \u00f4ng b\u00e0 l\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111i\u1ec1m t\u0129nh v\u00f4 c\u00f9ng c\u00f3 \u1ea3nh h\u01b0\u1edfng t\u1edbi con tr\u1ebb v\u00ec h\u1ecd c\u00f3 th\u1eddi gian v\u00e0 ti\u1ec1n b\u1ea1c. H\u1ecd c\u00f3 \u0111\u1ee7 th\u1eddi gian \u0111\u1ec3 tr\u1ea3 l\u1eddi t\u1ea5t c\u1ea3 nh\u1eefng c\u00e2u h\u1ecfi c\u1ee7a ch\u00fang. C\u00f3 th\u1eddi gian \u0111\u1ec3 \u0111i d\u1ea1o v\u00e0 quan s\u00e1t nh\u1eefng th\u1ee9 nh\u01b0 s\u00e2u b\u01b0\u1edbm, l\u00e1 c\u00e2y\u2026t\u1ea1i sao ph\u1ea3i nh\u1eafc nh\u1edf nh\u1eefng ph\u1ee5 huynh t\u00e2n ti\u1ebfn ph\u1ea3i ch\u00fa \u00fd \u0111\u1ebfn nhu c\u1ea7u c\u1ee7a tr\u1ebb, \u0111\u00f3 kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0 s\u1ef1 t\u1ef1 nhi\u00ean v\u00e0 di\u1ec5n c\u1ea3m v\u1ec1 t\u00ecnh y\u00eau v\u00e0 s\u1ef1 lo \u00e2u sao? \u0110\u00fang n\u00f3 l\u00e0 v\u1eady, nh\u01b0ng c\u00e1c b\u00e0 m\u1eb9 v\u00e0 c\u00e1c \u00f4ng b\u1ed1 l\u1ea1i c\u00f3 v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 v\u1ec1 ch\u00ednh h\u1ecd. H\u1ecd b\u1ecb \u0111\u1ea9y v\u00e0o c\u00e1i gi\u1edbi h\u1ea1n v\u1ec1 kh\u1ea3 n\u0103ng ch\u1ecbu \u0111\u1ef1ng c\u1ee7a ch\u00ednh h\u1ecd b\u1edfi \u00e1p l\u1ef1c th\u1eddi gian. B\u1ed1 th\u00ec c\u00f3 hai c\u00f4ng vi\u1ec7c (hay nhi\u1ec1u h\u01a1n) ng\u01b0\u1eddi v\u1ee3 b\u1eadn b\u1ef1u v\u1edbi c\u00f4ng vi\u1ec7c c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh, h\u1ecd sinh ra m\u1ec7t m\u1ecfi v\u00e0 m\u1ec7t m\u1ecfi, s\u1ea3n sinh ra c\u00e1u b\u1eb3n v\u00e0 c\u00e1u b\u1eb3n sinh ra s\u1ef1 th\u1edd \u01a1 v\u00e0 nh\u1eefng \u0111\u1ee9a tr\u1ebb s\u1ebd hi\u1ec3u s\u1ef1 th\u1edd \u01a1 nh\u01b0 th\u1ebf l\u00e0 s\u1ef1 thi\u1ebfu y\u00eau m\u1ebfn th\u1ef1c s\u1ef1 v\u00e0 s\u1ef1 qu\u00fd m\u1ebfn ri\u00eang t\u01b0. V\u00ec l\u00fd do \u0111\u00f3 v\u00e0\u00a0 ch\u00ednh l\u00e0 \u0111i\u1ec3m m\u00e0 l\u00f2ng t\u1ef1 ti b\u1eaft \u0111\u1ea7u ph\u00e1t sinh. D\u00f9 sao ch\u0103ng n\u1eefa v\u1ed9i v\u00e3 l\u00e0m g\u00ec? B\u1ea1n kh\u00f4ng bi\u1ebft l\u00e0 con ban s\u1ebd l\u1edbn r\u1ea5t nhanh v\u00e0 b\u1ea1n s\u1ebd ch\u1eb3ng c\u00f3 g\u00ec ngo\u00e0i k\u00fd \u1ee9c l\u00e0 m\u01a1 v\u1ec1 nh\u1eefng n\u0103m th\u00e1ng nh\u1eefng \u0111\u1ee9a tr\u1ebb c\u1ea7n s\u1ef1 quan t\u00e2m c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n sao? Nh\u1eefng b\u00e0 v\u1ee3 th\u01b0\u1eddng mu\u1ed1n \u00f4ng ch\u1ed3ng c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 hi\u1ec3u \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c s\u1ef1 bu\u1ed3n r\u1ea7u c\u1ee7a ph\u00e1i n\u1eef li\u00ean quan \u0111\u1ebfn s\u1ef1 h\u1ed1i h\u1ea3 v\u00e0 s\u1ef1 v\u1ed9i v\u00e0ng. Ng\u01b0\u1eddi ta n\u00f3i n\u1ebfu ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef c\u00f3 3 \u0111i\u1ec1u \u01b0\u1edbc th\u00ec h\u1ecd c\u00f3 chi\u1ec1u h\u01b0\u1edbng nh\u01b0 sau:<\/p>\n

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                            1. V\u1edbi m\u1ed9t s\u1ed1 l\u00fd do l\u1ea1 th\u01b0\u1eddng, con ng\u01b0\u1eddi v\u00e0 ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef n\u00f3i ri\u00eang ch\u1ecbu \u0111\u1ef1ng stress v\u00e0 \u00e1p l\u1ef1c d\u1ec5 d\u00e0ng h\u01a1n n\u1ebfu c\u00f3 \u00edt nh\u1ea5t m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c bi\u1ebft r\u1eb1ng h\u1ecd \u0111ang ch\u1ecbu \u0111\u1ef1ng n\u00f3. Cho d\u00f9 ng\u01b0\u1eddi ch\u1ed3ng kh\u00f4ng l\u00e0m \u0111i\u1ec1u g\u00ec \u0111\u1ec3 thay \u0111\u1ed5i t\u00ecnh h\u00ecnh, \u0111\u01a1n gi\u1ea3n l\u00e0 s\u1ef1 quan t\u00e2m \u0111\u1ebfn c\u00f4ng vi\u1ec7c c\u1ee7a v\u1ee3, t\u1ea1o ra m\u1ed9t th\u1ebf gi\u1edbi kh\u00e1c. N\u1ebfu \u0111i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00f3 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c k\u1ebft h\u1ee3p v\u1edbi vi\u1ec7c c\u1ea3m ph\u1ee5c m\u00e0 c\u00f4 ta \u0111\u00e3 l\u00e0m \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c h\u00f4m nay th\u00ec l\u00e0m cho s\u1ef1 vi\u1ec7c tr\u1edf n\u00ean d\u1ec5 d\u00e0ng h\u01a1n \u0111\u1ec3 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 ti\u1ebfp t\u1ee5c giao ph\u00f3 b\u1ed5n ph\u1eadn v\u00e0o ng\u00e0y mai. Thay cho vi\u1ec7c th\u01b0\u1eddng x\u1ea3y ra tr\u00e1i ng\u01b0\u1ee3c nhau c\u00f3 nh\u1eefng c\u00e2u h\u1ecfi v\u00f4 t\u01b0 c\u1ee7a \u00f4ng ch\u1ed3ng khi\u1ebfn b\u00e0 v\u1ee3 b\u1ef1c m\u00ecnh nh\u01b0: \u201cEm y\u00eau em \u0111\u00e3 l\u00e0m g\u00ec c\u1ea3 ng\u00e0y nay?\u201d c\u00e2u h\u1ecfi n\u00e0y s\u1ebd c\u00f3 h\u00e0m \u00fd ng\u01b0\u1eddi b\u00ean c\u1ea1nh \u1edf \u0111\u00e2y v\u00e0 th\u1ee9c d\u1eady mu\u1ed9n v\u00e0 xem ti vi v\u00e0 u\u1ed1ng c\u1ea1n c\u1ed1c c\u00e0 ph\u00ea v\u00e0 g\u1ecdi \u0111i\u1ec7n tho\u1ea1i cho b\u1ea1n b\u00e8 \u0111\u00e2y \u0111\u00f3. Em c\u00f2n l\u00e0m g\u00ec kh\u00e1c n\u1eefa kh\u00f4ng. C\u00f3 nhi\u1ec1u h\u00e0m \u00fd trong c\u00e2u h\u1ecfi n\u00e0y; n\u00f3 l\u00e0 (gi\u1ed1ng nh\u01b0 nh\u1eefng c\u00e2u h\u1ecfi kh\u00e1c) c\u00f3 \u00fd t\u1ed1t v\u00e0 v\u00f4 t\u01b0. \u0110\u1ed1i v\u1edbi h\u1ea7u h\u1ebft \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng n\u00f3 d\u00e0nh cho s\u1ef1 ch\u00e0o \u0111\u00f3n \u0111on \u0111\u1ea3 khi anh ta v\u1ec1. \u0110\u00f3 l\u00e0 c\u00e1ch n\u00f3i c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi ch\u1ed3ng, \u201cCh\u00e0o! Em c\u00f3 kh\u1ecfe kh\u00f4ng. M\u1ecdi vi\u1ec7c th\u1ebf n\u00e0o\u201d c\u0169ng gi\u1ed1ng nh\u1eefng g\u00ec anh ta n\u00f3i \u1edf n\u01a1i n\u00e0o kh\u00e1c th\u00f4i. N\u00f3 l\u00e0 th\u00f3i quen ch\u00e0o h\u1ecfi anh ta kh\u00f4ng mu\u1ed1n bi\u1ebft ch\u00ednh x\u00e1c ng\u01b0\u1eddi v\u1ee3 s\u1eed d\u1ee5ng th\u1eddi gian nh\u01b0 th\u1ebf n\u00e0o. Tuy nhi\u00ean l\u00e0 c\u00e2u h\u1ecfi kh\u00f4ng l\u01b0u t\u00e2m v\u00e0 v\u00f4 t\u01b0 b\u1edfi c\u00f3 nhi\u1ec1u vi\u1ec7c \u0111\u00e3 l\u00e0m, n\u00f3 hi\u1ec3n nhi\u00ean l\u00e0 nh\u1eefng \u0111\u1ee9a tr\u1ebb \u0111\u00e3 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c cho \u0103n, t\u1eafm nhi\u1ec1u l\u1ea7n; nh\u00e0 c\u1eeda s\u1ea1ch s\u1ebd g\u1ecdn g\u00e0ng; nhi\u1ec1u vi\u1ec7c v\u1eb7t v\u00e3nh trong gia \u0111\u00ecnh \u0111\u00e3 l\u00e0m xong, th\u1ee9c \u0103n \u0111\u00e3 chu\u1ea9n b\u1ecb\u2026<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

                              Tuy v\u1eady th\u1eadt l\u00e0 sai khi b\u00e0 v\u1ee3 l\u1ea1i ch\u1eedi th\u1ec1 v\u1ec1 nh\u1eefng c\u00e2u h\u1ecfi c\u1ee7a ch\u1ed3ng ho\u1eb7c h\u00e0nh \u0111\u1ed9ng v\u00f4 l\u1ec5 ho\u1eb7c l\u00e0m b\u1eb1ng c\u00e1ch n\u00e0y hay c\u00e1ch kh\u00e1c \u0111\u1ec3 nh\u01b0 th\u1ec3 h\u1ea5t m\u1ed9t g\u00e1o n\u01b0\u1edbc l\u1ea1nh v\u00e0o m\u1eb7t ch\u1ed3ng ngay khi ch\u1ed3ng b\u01b0\u1edbc ch\u00e2n v\u00e0o nh\u00e0. C\u00f3 m\u1ed9t c\u00e1ch t\u1ed1t \u0111\u1ec3 x\u1eed l\u00fd v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 n\u00e0y l\u00e0 n\u00f3i v\u1edbi anh \u1ea5y m\u1ed9t c\u00e1ch nh\u1eb9 nh\u00e0ng r\u1eb1ng m\u00ecnh th\u00edch ch\u1ed3ng ch\u00e0o m\u00ecnh nh\u01b0 th\u1ebf n\u00e0o (\u0111i\u1ec1u n\u00e0y c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 hi\u1ec3n nhi\u00ean v\u1edbi b\u1ea1n nh\u01b0ng ch\u1eafc ch\u1eafn kh\u00f4ng r\u00f5 r\u00e0ng \u0111\u1ed1i v\u1edbi anh ta) do v\u1eady b\u1ea1n ph\u1ea3i n\u00f3i v\u1edbi anh \u1ea5y khi anh \u1ea5y v\u1ec1 nh\u00e0, th\u00ec ph\u1ea3i ch\u00e0o th\u1ebf n\u00e0o th\u00ec b\u1ea1n m\u1edbi vui. Gi\u1ed1ng nh\u01b0 nhi\u1ec1u \u0111i\u1ec1u m\u1edbi m\u1ebb, anh ta c\u1ea7n c\u00f3 th\u1eddi gian \u0111\u1ec3 t\u1eadp t\u00e0nh nh\u1eefng th\u00f3i quen ch\u00e0o h\u1ecfi m\u00e0 b\u1ea1n y\u00eau c\u1ea7u. Do v\u1eady h\u00e3y gi\u00fap anh ta d\u1ea7n d\u1ea7n \u0111\u1ec3 \u0111i v\u00e0o n\u1ebfp s\u1ed1ng c\u1ee7a ch\u00ednh m\u00ecnh. V\u00e0 b\u1ea1n s\u1ebd h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac v\u00e0 anh ta s\u1ebd \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c khuy\u1ebfn kh\u00edch \u0111\u1ec3 l\u00e0m \u0111i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00f3 m\u1ed9t c\u00e1ch t\u1ef1 nhi\u00ean th\u01b0\u1eddng xuy\u00ean h\u01a1n. Nh\u1eefng c\u00e2u h\u1ecfi l\u00e0m b\u1ef1c m\u00ecnh x\u01b0a kia d\u1ea7n d\u1ea7n \u0111i v\u00e0o d\u0129 v\u00e3ng, \u0111\u00f3 kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0 c\u00e1ch x\u00e2y d\u1ef1ng t\u1ed1t \u0111\u1eb9p h\u01a1n l\u00e0 g\u00ecn d\u1eef sao? Th\u1eadt l\u00e0 hay khi nh\u1edb m\u1ed9t c\u00e2u n\u00f3i c\u1ed5 x\u01b0a: \u201cKhi b\u1ea1n m\u1ec9m c\u01b0\u1eddi th\u00ec c\u1ea3 th\u1ebf gi\u1edbi m\u1ec9m c\u01b0\u1eddi v\u1edbi b\u1ea1n. Khi b\u1ea1n gi\u1eadn d\u1eef th\u00ec c\u1ea3 th\u1ebf gi\u1edbi gi\u1eadn gi\u1eef b\u1ea1n.\u201d<\/p>\n

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                              C\u00f3 nhi\u1ec1u ng\u01b0\u1eddi c\u00f3 r\u1ea5t nhi\u1ec1u c\u00e1i g\u1ecdi l\u00e0 nh\u1eefng c\u00e2u h\u1ecfi th\u00e2n thi\u1ec7n c\u00f3 \u00fd ngh\u0129a v\u1edbi t\u1ea5t c\u1ea3 c\u00e1c c\u1ea3m x\u00fac t\u1ed1t \u0111\u1eb9p ph\u00f9 h\u1ee3p v\u1edbi ng\u01b0\u1eddi n\u00e0y v\u00e0 ch\u1eafc ch\u1eafn c\u1ef1 tuy\u1ec7t v\u1edbi ng\u01b0\u1eddi kia. V\u00ed d\u1ee5: C\u00e1c b\u00e0 v\u1ee3 bi\u1ebft ch\u1ed3ng m\u00ecnh c\u00f3 v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 v\u1ec1 c\u00e1 nh\u00e2n, v\u1ec1 c\u00f4ng vi\u1ec7c, hay h\u1ecfi nh\u01b0: \u201cC\u00f4ng vi\u1ec7c c\u1ee7a anh h\u00f4m nay th\u1ebf n\u00e0o?\u201d c\u00e2u h\u1ecfi ch\u00e0n \u0111\u1ea7y s\u1ef1 quan t\u00e2m \u00e2u y\u1ebfm. Nh\u1eefng c\u00e2u h\u1ecfi nh\u01b0 v\u1eady c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 \u0111\u01b0a anh ta l\u00ean m\u1eb7t tr\u0103ng. T\u1ea1i sao? C\u00f3 \u0111i\u1ec1u g\u00ec xay ra \u01b0? Ch\u1ec9 v\u00ec anh ta m\u1edbi v\u1ec1 nh\u00e0, gia \u0111\u00ecnh l\u00e0 n\u01a1i \u1ea9n d\u1eadt \u0111\u1ec3 v\u01a1i \u0111i nh\u1eefng v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 c\u1ee7a anh ta, n\u01a1i \u0111\u00e2y anh ta l\u1ea5y l\u1ea1i s\u1ee9c m\u1ea1nh; n\u01a1i m\u00e0 l\u00e0m cho \u0111\u1ea7u \u00f3c thoat kh\u1ecfi nh\u1eefng v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh. C\u00e2u h\u1ecfi \u0111\u00e3 g\u1ee3i l\u1ea1i v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 c\u1ee7a anh ta. N\u00f3 c\u0169ng g\u00f3p ph\u1ea7n t\u00e1c \u0111\u1ed9ng l\u00e0m cho anh ta ngh\u0129 v\u1ec1 n\u01a1i l\u00e0m vi\u1ec7c v\u00e0 n\u00f3 t\u1ef1 \u0111\u1ed9ng th\u00fac \u00e9p anh ta v\u1eadt l\u1ed9n v\u1edbi n\u00f3. V\u00e0 l\u1ea1i t\u1eeb kh\u1eafp n\u01a1i, m\u1ecdi th\u1ee9 ngay \u1edf \u0111\u00e2y, n\u01a1i m\u00e0 \u0111\u00e3 t\u1eebng l\u00e0 n\u01a1i \u201cngh\u1ec9 ng\u01a1i\u201d c\u1ee7a anh ta, n\u01a1i \u1ea9n d\u1eadt c\u1ee7a anh ta tr\u1edf th\u00e0nh n\u01a1i r\u1ed1i tinh beng. Anh ta nh\u1ea5t \u0111\u1ecbnh s\u1ebd ph\u1ea3n \u1ee9ng l\u1ea1i m\u1ed9t c\u00e1ch kh\u00f4ng vui v\u1ebb ho\u1eb7c v\u1edbi ng\u01b0\u1eddi h\u1ecfi anh ta c\u00e2u \u0111\u00f3. C\u00f3 \u00fd ngh\u0129a g\u00ec khi m\u1ed9t c\u00e2u h\u1ecfi hay mang l\u1ea1i k\u1ebft qu\u1ea3 ti\u00eau c\u1ef1c v\u00e0 l\u00e0m c\u1ea3 hai kh\u00f4ng vui M\u1ed9t trong nh\u1eefng h\u00ecnh th\u00e1i d\u1ec5 nh\u1eadn th\u1ea5y nh\u1ea5t \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c g\u1ecdi l\u00e0 \u201cnh\u1eefng c\u00e2u h\u1ecfi thi\u1ec7n ch\u00ed\u201d m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u1eb7t ra\u00a0 c\u00e2u h\u1ecfi h\u1ecfi m\u00e3i v\u1ec1 k\u1ebb nghe th\u00ec c\u1ee9 t\u1ea5n c\u00f4ng v\u00e0 t\u00e2n c\u00f4ng. T\u1ea1i sao \u0111i\u1ec1u n\u00e0y l\u1ea1i x\u1ea3y ra? B\u1edfi c\u00e2u h\u1ecfi th\u00ec qu\u00e1 v\u00f4 t\u01b0 v\u00e0 thi\u1ec7n ch\u00ed. Ch\u1ecb\/anh \u1ea5y kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 kh\u1ea3 n\u0103ng hi\u1ec3u th\u1ea5u r\u1eb1ng n\u00f3i b\u1ea5t c\u1ee9 \u0111i\u1ec1u g\u00ec \u0111\u1ec1u kh\u00f4ng th\u00edch h\u1ee3p. N\u00f3 tr\u1edf th\u00e0nh m\u1ed9t v\u00f2ng tu\u1ea7n ho\u00e0n v\u00ec c\u00e1 nh\u00e2n kh\u00e1c s\u1ebd b\u1ecb x\u00fac ph\u1ea1m v\u00ec nh\u1eefng c\u00e2u h\u1ecfi ch\u00e2n th\u00e0nh. C\u00e1ch duy nh\u1ea5t \u0111\u1ec3 ph\u00e1 v\u1ee1 th\u00f3i quen \u0111\u00f3 l\u00e0 n\u00f3i v\u1edbi c\u00f4\/anh ta r\u1eb1ng m\u00ecnh kh\u00f4ng th\u00edch \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c h\u1ecfi nh\u1eefng c\u00e2u h\u1ecfi nh\u01b0 v\u1eady. N\u1ebfu b\u1ea1n c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y v\u1ec1 n\u00f3 nh\u01b0 th\u1ebf n\u00e0o t\u1ee9c l\u00e0 b\u1ea1n n\u00ean x\u00f3a b\u1ecf tr\u1ea1ng th\u00e1i \u0111\u00f3 b\u1eb1ng c\u00e1ch n\u00f3i v\u1edbi h\u1ecd r\u1eb1ng b\u1ea1n kh\u00f4ng th\u00edch nh\u1eefng c\u00e2u h\u1ecfi nh\u01b0 th\u1ebf v\u00e0 b\u1ea1n n\u00ean b\u00e0y t\u1ecf c\u1ea3m gi\u00e1c c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh v\u1ec1 nh\u1eefng c\u00e2u h\u1ecfi nh\u01b0 v\u1eady. B\u00e0y t\u1ecf b\u1eb1ng c\u1ea3 m\u1ed9t t\u00ecnh y\u00eau \u0111\u1ec3 ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c nh\u1eadn ra b\u1ea1n \u0111\u00e3 c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y th\u1ebf n\u00e0o. M\u1eb7t kh\u00e1c n\u1ebfu m\u1ed9t \u0111\u1ed3ng nghi\u1ec7p h\u1ecfi nh\u01b0 v\u1eady th\u00ec th\u1ef1c hi\u1ec7n r\u1ea5t kh\u00f3 v\u00ec \u0111\u1ed3ng nghi\u1ec7p \u0111ang hi\u1ec7n di\u1ec7n trong t\u00e2m tr\u00ed v\u00e0 l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t ph\u1ea7n c\u1ee7a v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 \u201cgi\u1ea3i quy\u1ebft v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1\u201d. Tuy nhi\u00ean v\u1ee3 l\u1ea1i l\u00e0 \u1edf m\u1ed9t \u0111\u1ed9i ho\u00e0n to\u00e0n kh\u00e1c. Trong t\u00e2m tr\u00ed anh ta, v\u1ee3 ch\u00ednh l\u00e0 \u0111\u1ed9i \u1ee7ng h\u1ed9 anh ta nhi\u1ec1u h\u01a1n, v\u1ee3 \u0111\u1ee9ng v\u1ec1 ph\u00eda \u201c\u0111\u1ed9i an \u1ee7i\u201d v\u1ee3 l\u00e0 ph\u1ea7n quy tr\u00ecnh l\u00e0m t\u01b0\u01a1i l\u1ea1i c\u1ee7a anh ta. C\u00f4 ta ch\u00ednh l\u00e0 n\u01a1i ngh\u1ec9 ng\u01a1i, l\u00e0 n\u01a1i anh ta c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 t\u1eadp h\u1ee3p l\u1ea1i, c\u1ea5u tr\u00fac l\u1ea1i, n\u01a1i ti\u1ebfp th\u00eam sinh l\u1ef1c v\u00e0 \u0111em l\u1ea1i chi\u1ebfn th\u1eafng. V\u1edbi s\u1ef1 mong \u0111\u1ee3i n\u00e0y h\u1ea7u nh\u01b0 kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 g\u00ec l\u00e0m l\u1ea1 v\u00ec c\u00e2u h\u1ecfi thi\u1ec7n ch\u00ed \u0111em l\u1ea1i \u201ck\u1ebft qu\u1ea3 ng\u01b0\u1ee3c v\u1edbi s\u1ef1 mong \u0111\u1ee3i\u201d m\u1ed9t \u0111i\u1ec1u kh\u00e1c n\u1eefa c\u0169ng l\u00e0m b\u1ef1c m\u00ecnh, c\u0169ng \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c g\u1ecdi l\u00e0 nh\u1eefng c\u00e2u h\u1ecfi thi\u1ec7n<\/u> ch\u00ed, \u0111\u00f3 l\u00e0 h\u1ecfi ch\u1ed3ng ngay nh\u1eefng ph\u00fat ch\u1ed3ng v\u1ec1 t\u1edbi nh\u00e0, hay \u0111\u00fang l\u00fac anh ta v\u1eeba ng\u1ed3i xu\u1ed1ng hay ch\u1ec9 v\u1eeba cho mi\u1ebfng c\u01a1m v\u00e0o mi\u1ec7ng. N\u00e9t ti\u00eau bi\u1ec3u n\u00e0y r\u1ea5t ph\u1ed5 bi\u1ebfn v\u00e0 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c \u1ea3nh h\u01b0\u1edfng t\u1edbi nhi\u1ec1u ng\u01b0\u1eddi; n\u00f3 v\u01b0\u1ee3t qua c\u1ea3 ph\u1ea1m vi qu\u1ed1c gia, v\u01b0\u1ee3t qua m\u1ed1c th\u1eddi gian, b\u1ea5t ch\u1ea5p ngay c\u1ea3 h\u00e0ng th\u1ebf k\u1ef7. \u0110i\u1ec1u n\u00e0y l\u00e0m ng\u01b0\u1eddi ta ch\u00e1n kh\u00f4ng mu\u1ed1n v\u1ec1 nh\u00e0. Anh ta b\u1eaft \u0111\u1ea7u c\u00f3 c\u1ea3m gi\u00e1c t\u1ed1t h\u01a1n l\u00e0 gh\u00e9 v\u00e0o nh\u00e0 h\u00e0ng l\u00e0m c\u1ed1c c\u00e0 ph\u00ea, th\u01b0 gi\u00e3n v\u00e0 sau \u0111\u00f3 ch\u1ec9 vi\u1ec7c v\u1ec1 th\u1eb3ng nh\u00e0. Hay thay v\u00ec v\u1ec1 th\u1eb3ng nh\u00e0, anh ta t\u1ea1t xe v\u1ec1 \u0111\u00e2u \u0111\u00f3 hay b\u00e3i \u0111\u00f5 xe ch\u1ec9 \u0111\u1ec3 th\u01b0 gi\u00e3n cho \u0111\u1ee1 c\u0103ng th\u1eb3ng, \u0103n qua loa, u\u1ed1ng c\u00e0 ph\u00ea v\u00e0 anh ta t\u1ef1 th\u01b0 gi\u00e3n, anh ta c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y \u201cgi\u1edd m\u00ecnh ph\u1ea3i v\u1ec1 nh\u00e0 v\u00e0 l\u1ea1i m\u1ed9t l\u1ea7n n\u1eefa t\u1eeb gi\u1edd nh\u01b0 nh\u00e0 c\u00f3 ma\u201d. N\u1ebfu anh ta th\u1ef1c hi\u1ec7n b\u1ea5t k\u1ef3 \u0111i\u1ec1u g\u00ec trong nh\u1eefng \u0111i\u1ec1u n\u00e0y \u0111\u00f3 l\u00e0 d\u1ea5u hi\u1ec7u r\u00f5 r\u00e0ng r\u1eb1ng vi\u1ec7c ch\u00e0o \u0111\u00f3n khi anh ta v\u1ec1 nh\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng \u0111em l\u1ea1i s\u1ef1 vui th\u00edch cho m\u00ecnh. \u0110\u00e2y l\u00e0 l\u00fd do t\u1ea1i sao anh ta c\u1ea7n th\u01b0 gi\u00e3n \u1edf n\u01a1i kh\u00e1c. N\u1ebfu \u0111i\u1ec1u n\u00e0y x\u1ea3y ra, \u0111\u00f3 l\u00e0 d\u1ea5u hi\u1ec7u th\u1ef1c s\u1ef1.Do v\u1eady, b\u1ea1n \u0111\u1eddi ph\u1ea3i hi\u1ec3u h\u01a1n v\u1ec1 nhu c\u1ea7u c\u1ee7a anh ta. Ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef th\u01b0\u1eddng\u00a0 r\u1ea5t ng\u1ea1c nhi\u00ean khi nh\u1eadn ra \u0111i\u1ec1u n\u00e0y, h\u1ecd ph\u1ea3n \u1ee9ng r\u1ea5t v\u00f4 t\u01b0 v\u1edbi c\u00e2u nh\u01b0: \u201cEm kh\u00f4ng bi\u1ebft \u0111i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00f3, anh n\u00ean n\u00f3i v\u1edbi em nh\u1eefng c\u00e2u h\u1ecfi \u0111\u00f3 \u0111\u00e3 l\u00e0m anh bu\u1ed3n phi\u1ec1n. Em \u0111\u00e3 r\u1ea5t lo l\u1eafng anh bi\u1ebft kh\u00f4ng?\u201d c\u00f3 c\u1ea3 chu\u1ed7i s\u1ef1 ki\u1ec7n thi\u1ec7n ch\u00ed. V\u00ed d\u1ee5: Anh ta \u0111\u00e3 kh\u00f4ng n\u00f3i v\u1edbi v\u1ee3 v\u00e0 c\u00f4 ta kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 \u00fd\u00a0 l\u00e0 \u0111\u00e3 l\u00e0m anh ta bu\u1ed3n, c\u00f4 ta lo l\u1eafng th\u1ef1c s\u1ef1. \u0110i\u1ec1u n\u00e0y cho ta bi\u1ebft m\u1ed9t \u0111i\u1ec3m quan tr\u1ecdng l\u00e0 c\u1ea3 v\u1ee3 l\u1eabn ch\u1ed3ng c\u1ea7n ph\u1ea3i hi\u1ec3u \u0111i\u1ec1u n\u00e0y. Trong c\u01a1n kh\u1ee7ng ho\u1ea3ng t\u1edbi khi ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng c\u1ea5u th\u00e0nh n\u00ean v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1, anh ta s\u1ebd kh\u00f4ng n\u00f3i g\u00ec. N\u00f3i c\u00e1ch kh\u00e1c ng\u01b0\u1eddi ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef c\u1ed1 g\u1eafng t\u00ecm ki\u1ebfm s\u1ef1 khu\u00e2y kh\u1ecfa v\u00e0 n\u00f3i chuy\u1ec7n l\u00e0 ch\u1ee7 y\u1ebfu v\u00ec c\u00f4 ta c\u1ed1 n\u00f3i v\u1ec1 v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 theo m\u1ed9t khu\u00f4n m\u1eabu. Trong t\u00ecnh tr\u1ea1ng t\u1ef1 l\u1ef1c \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c hay b\u1edfi s\u1ef1 thi\u1ebfu v\u1eafng c\u00e1ch gi\u1ea3i quy\u1ebft ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef n\u00f3i chuy\u1ec7n v\u1ec1 v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 n\u00e0y \u0111\u00f4i khi n\u00f3i to v\u00e0 k\u00e8m theo nh\u1eefng gi\u1ecdt n\u01b0\u1edbc m\u1eaft. G\u1ed1c r\u1ec5 c\u1ee7a c\u00e1ch h\u00e0nh x\u1eed n\u00e0y \u0111\u00e3 c\u00f3 t\u1eeb l\u00e2u \u0111\u1eddi. L\u00e0 th\u1ef1c t\u1ebf b\u1ea3n n\u0103ng, \u0111\u00f3 l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t trong nh\u1eefng l\u00fd do ch\u00ednh t\u1ea1i sao nh\u1eefng c\u1eadu con trai ph\u1ea3i m\u1ea5t th\u00eam th\u1eddi gian \u0111\u1ec3 n\u00f3i chuy\u1ec7n. C\u00f3 m\u1ed9t c\u00e1ch c\u1ed1 g\u1eafng t\u00ecm hi\u1ec3u c\u00f3 kh\u1ea3 n\u0103ng v\u00ec \u201cc\u1ea5u tr\u00fac t\u01b0 t\u01b0\u1edfng\u201d c\u00f3 v\u1ebb nh\u01b0 l\u00e0 \u201cth\u1ebf n\u00e0o\u201d \u0111\u1ec3 n\u00f3i ra t\u01b0 t\u01b0\u1edfng. \u0110\u00f3 kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0 \u201cv\u1ed1n t\u1eeb\u201d; \u0111\u00f3 l\u00e0 c\u00e2u h\u1ecfi v\u1ec1 \u0111\u01b0a t\u01b0 t\u01b0\u1edfng v\u00e0o \u201cc\u1ea5u tr\u00fac ch\u1ea5p nh\u1eadn\u201d trong t\u01b0 t\u01b0\u1edfng m\u1ed9t l\u1ea7n \u0111\u00e3 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c tho\u1ea3i m\u00e1i th\u00ec anh ta s\u1ebd s\u1eb5n l\u00f2ng n\u00f3i chuy\u1ec7n. N\u1ebfu ng\u01b0\u1eddi l\u1edbn quanh anh ta m\u00e0 th\u1ec3 hi\u1ec7n s\u1ef1 nhi\u1ec7t t\u00ecnh, t\u00e1n d\u01b0\u01a1ng v\u00e0 khuy\u1ebfn kh\u00edch anh ta th\u00ec anh ta \u0111ang tr\u00ean con \u0111\u01b0\u1eddng chuy\u00ean n\u00f3i chuy\u1ec7n. V\u1edbi m\u1ed9t c\u00f4 g\u00e1i gi\u00e2y ph\u00fat m\u00e0 \u00fd ngh\u0129 n\u1ea3y sinh trong \u0111\u1ea7u th\u00ec ch\u00fang ta nh\u1eadn th\u1ea5y ngay c\u00e1i l\u01b0\u1ee1i c\u1ee7a c\u00f4 ta v\u00e0 n\u00f3 l\u00ean \u0111\u01b0\u1eddng. C\u00f4 ta s\u1ebd ph\u00e1t tri\u1ec3n th\u00e0nh th\u1ea1o h\u01a1n b\u1eb1ng c\u00e1ch th\u1ef1c h\u00e0nh, anh ta chi sau khi c\u00f3 kh\u1ea3 n\u0103ng sau khi ph\u00e2n t\u00edch c\u00e1i \u201cl\u00e0m th\u1ebf n\u00e0o \u0111\u1ec3 c\u1ea5u tr\u00fac n\u00f3\u201d do v\u1eady ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng mu\u1ed1n ph\u00e1 v\u1ee1 c\u00e1i v\u00f2ng tr\u00f2n b\u1ef1c m\u00ecnh th\u00ec ph\u1ea3i n\u00f3i v\u1edbi c\u00f4 \u1ea5y r\u1eb1ng th\u1eddi \u0111i\u1ec3m \u0111\u1eb7t ra c\u00e2u h\u1ecfi \u0111ang l\u00e0m b\u1ea1n bu\u1ed3n r\u1ea7u. N\u00f3i v\u1edbi c\u00f4 \u1ea5y b\u1eb1ng c\u1ea3 t\u00ecnh y\u00eau m\u1ebfn \u0111\u1ec3 c\u00f4 ta bi\u1ebft m\u00ecnh th\u00edch c\u00e1i g\u00ec. Ng\u01b0\u1eddi v\u1ee3 s\u1eb5n s\u00e0ng l\u00e0m m\u1ecdi th\u1ee9 \u0111\u1ec3 kh\u00f4i ph\u1ee5c l\u1ea1i s\u1ef1 vui v\u1ebb tr\u1edf l\u1ea1i c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi ch\u1ed3ng. R\u00fat cu\u1ed9c s\u1ef1 v\u1eafng m\u1eb7t c\u1ee7a vi\u1ec7c v\u1ec1 nh\u00e0 m\u1ed9t c\u00e1ch thanh th\u1ea3n s\u1ebd \u0111\u01b0a ng\u01b0\u1eddi ch\u1ed3ng \u0111\u1ebfn ch\u1ed7 o\u00e1n h\u1eadn. S\u1ea3n ph\u1ea9m ph\u1ee5 theo c\u1ee7a s\u1ef1 o\u00e1n h\u1eadn ch\u00ednh l\u00e0 u\u1ed1ng, v\u00e0o ti\u1ec7m r\u01b0\u1ee3u, g\u00e1i g\u00fa hay t\u00ecm ki\u1ebfm s\u1ef1 an \u1ee7i v\u1edbi k\u1ebb kh\u00e1c nh\u01b0 m\u1ed9t ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef \u201chi\u1ec3u bi\u1ebft h\u01a1n\u201d. C\u00f3 m\u1ed9t c\u00e1ch n\u1ebfu c\u00e1ch th\u1ee9c c\u01b0 x\u1eed n\u00e0y kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c ch\u00fa tr\u1ecdng th\u00ec v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 l\u1ea1i t\u00e1i di\u1ec5n trong v\u0169 \u0111\u00e0i l\u00e0m m\u1eb9 trong cu\u1ed9c \u0111\u1eddi c\u1ee7a c\u00f4 ta. N\u00f3 c\u0169ng \u0111\u1ed3ng ngh\u0129a v\u1edbi s\u1ef1 kh\u00f3 ch\u1ecbu c\u1ee7a con trai m\u00ecnh.<\/p>\n

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                              1. H\u1ea7u h\u1ebft ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef s\u1ebd \u0111\u1ed3ng \u00fd r\u1eb1ng nhi\u1ec7m v\u1ee5 h\u00e0ng ng\u00e0y qu\u1ea3n l\u00fd gia \u0111\u00ecnh l\u00e0 l\u00e0m \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c; c\u00f3 h\u00e0ng \u0111\u1ed1ng vi\u1ec7c v\u1eb7t trong nh\u00e0 l\u00e0m g\u00e3y c\u1ea3 l\u01b0ng v\u00e0 h\u1ecd c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y c\u0103ng th\u1eb3ng v\u00ec kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 \u201cb\u1eaft k\u1ecbp\u201d c\u00f4ng vi\u1ec7c, \u0111\u00f3 l\u00e0 nh\u1eefng g\u00ec l\u00e0m cho h\u1ecd th\u1ea5t v\u1ecdng. H\u1ecd c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y t\u1ed1t h\u01a1n nhi\u1ec1u khi h\u1ecd nh\u1eadn ra c\u00f4ng vi\u1ec7c \u0111\u1ea1t \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c v\u00e0o cu\u1ed1i c\u1ee7a m\u1ed7i ng\u00e0y h\u01a1n l\u00e0 c\u00f3 c\u1ea3m gi\u00e1c kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u1ea1t \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c g\u00ec trong ng\u00e0y. C\u00f3 nhi\u1ec1u l\u00fd do h\u01a1n \u0111\u1ec3 cho ta th\u1ea5y ph\u1ea5n kh\u1edfi l\u00e0 khi ta c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y v\u1eeba ho\u00e0n th\u00e0nh \u0111i\u1ec1u m\u00e0 ta \u0111\u00e3 quy\u1ebft t\u00e2m. Nhi\u1ec1u b\u00e0 v\u1ee3 r\u1ea5t t\u1ef1 h\u00e0o c\u00f3 m\u1ed9t ng\u00f4i nh\u00e0 s\u1ea1ch s\u1ebd v\u1edbi b\u1ea5t k\u1ef3 gi\u00e1 n\u00e0o.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

                                Nh\u01b0ng \u0111i\u1ec1u g\u00ec s\u1ebd x\u1ea3y ra n\u1ebfu c\u00f4 ta b\u1ecb th\u1ea5t b\u1ea1i v\u00e0 b\u1ef1c t\u1ee9c khi m\u1ee5c \u0111\u00edch kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u1ea1t \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c? T\u1ea5t c\u1ea3 c\u00e1c \u00f4ng ch\u1ed3ng th\u00edch m\u1ed9t ng\u00f4i nh\u00e0 h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac \u0111\u1ec3 tr\u00fa ng\u1ee5 h\u01a1n l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t b\u1ea3o t\u00e0ng. \u0110\u00f3 l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t th\u1ef1c t\u1ebf d\u00f9 l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t s\u1ed1 \u00f4ng ch\u1ed3ng th\u00edch m\u1ecdi th\u1ee9 g\u1ecdn g\u00e0ng l\u00e0 s\u1ef1 th\u1eadt. N\u1ebfu h\u1ecd ph\u1ea3i ch\u1ecdn m\u1ed9t trong nh\u1eefng \u0111i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00f3, h\u1ecd s\u1ebd ch\u1ecdn kh\u00f4ng g\u00ec ngo\u00e0i ng\u00f4i nh\u00e0 h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac. Ngay c\u1ea3 khi m\u1ed9t s\u1ed1 ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef n\u00f3i r\u1eb1ng ch\u1ed3ng t\u00f4i mu\u1ed1n m\u1ecdi th\u1ee9 g\u1ecdn g\u00e0ng v\u00e0 \u0111\u1eb9p \u0111\u1ebd. Th\u00e0nh th\u1ef1c m\u00e0 n\u00f3i theo chi\u1ec1u h\u01b0\u1edbng nh\u1eadn \u0111\u1ecbnh tr\u00ean th\u00ec ch\u1ed3ng c\u1ee7a c\u00f4 mu\u1ed1n m\u1ecdi th\u1ee9 g\u1ecdn g\u00e0ng nh\u01b0ng c\u00f4 l\u1ea1i mu\u1ed1n m\u1ecdi th\u1ee9 \u0111\u1eb9p \u0111\u1ebd. Th\u1eadt kh\u00f3 cho c\u00e1c b\u00e0 v\u1ee3 \u0111\u1ec3 gi\u1ea3m t\u1ed1i thi\u1ec3u ch\u1ea5t l\u01b0\u1ee3ng. \u0110i\u1ec1u n\u00e0y l\u00fd gi\u1ea3i t\u1ea1i sao ng\u01b0\u1eddi v\u1ee3 t\u1ef1 h\u00e0o v\u1edbi c\u00f4ng vi\u1ec7c \u1edf nh\u00e0 ngang b\u1eb1ng v\u1edbi ch\u1ed3ng m\u00ecnh t\u1ef1 h\u00e0o v\u1edbi c\u00f4ng vi\u1ec7c c\u1ee7a ch\u1ed3ng. Do v\u1eady c\u00f4 ta mu\u1ed1n th\u1ef1c hi\u1ec7n t\u1ed1t c\u00f4ng vi\u1ec7c, c\u00f4 ta mu\u1ed1n \u0111em h\u1ebft kh\u1ea3 n\u0103ng tuy\u1ec7t v\u1eddi c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh. C\u00e1c \u00f4ng ch\u1ed3ng ph\u1ea3i nh\u1eadn ra nhu c\u1ea7u n\u00e0y c\u1ee7a v\u1ee3 v\u00e0 gi\u00fap h\u1ecd \u0111\u1ea1t \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c s\u1ef1 th\u1ecfa hi\u1ec7p t\u1ed1t nh\u1ea5t c\u00f3 th\u1ec3.<\/p>\n

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                                1. C\u00e1c \u00f4ng ch\u1ed3ng v\u00e0 nh\u1eefng b\u00e0 v\u1ee3 n\u00ean ti\u1ebfp t\u1ee5c c\u1ea3nh gi\u00e1c v\u1edbi b\u1ec7nh qu\u00e1 t\u1eadn t\u00e2m, th\u1ec9nh tho\u1ea3ng ch\u00fang ta c\u0169ng c\u1ea7n ph\u00ed th\u1eddi gian m\u1ed9t ch\u00fat. \u0110\u00e2y l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t s\u1ed1 \u0111i\u1ec1u ch\u00fang ta \u0111\u00e3 qu\u00ean m\u1ea5t, ch\u00fang ta c\u1ed1 g\u1eafng thay th\u1ebf m\u1ecdi h\u00e0nh \u0111\u1ed9ng theo t\u1eebng ph\u00fat m\u00e0 ch\u00fang ta c\u00f3 s\u1eb5n. Ch\u00fang ta c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 ngay c\u1ea3 \u0111\u00e3 \u0111i t\u1edbi ch\u1eebng l\u1ea5p \u0111\u1ea7y th\u1eddi gian danh cho con c\u00e1i b\u1eb1ng nh\u1eefng ch\u01b0\u01a1ng tr\u00ecnh n\u00e0y ch\u01b0\u01a1ng tr\u00ecnh kia. Ch\u00fang c\u1ea7n th\u1eddi gian ch\u1eb3ng \u0111\u1ec3 l\u00e0m g\u00ec. Trong giai \u0111o\u1ea1n n\u00e0y ch\u00fang ta kh\u00f4ng ch\u1ec9 ngh\u1ec9 ng\u01a1i v\u00e0 h\u1ed3i ph\u1ee5c l\u1ea1i s\u1ee9c m\u1ea1nh v\u1ec1 th\u1ec3 ch\u1ea5t v\u00e0 tinh th\u1ea7n m\u1edbi nh\u01b0ng l\u1ea1i l\u00e0 th\u1eddi gian ch\u00fang ta suy ngh\u0129 v\u00e0 ch\u1ec9 tr\u00edch. Ph\u1ea7n v\u0129 \u0111\u1ea1i c\u1ee7a s\u1ef1 ti\u1ebfn b\u1ed9 c\u1ee7a ch\u00fang ta \u0111\u00e3 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c \u0111\u1ecbnh h\u00ecnh l\u00e0 s\u1ef1 suy x\u00e9t v\u00e0 ch\u1ec9 tr\u00edch. S\u1ef1 suy x\u00e9t v\u00e0 ch\u1ec9 tr\u00edch n\u00f3 \u0111\u00e3 \u0111\u1eb7t cho \u00f3c s\u00e1ng t\u1ea1o l\u00e0 s\u1ef1 v\u1eadn \u0111\u1ed9ng tr\u1eebu t\u01b0\u1ee3ng v\u00e0 logic c\u1ee7a tr\u00ed \u00f3c. N\u00f3 c\u0169ng l\u00e0 th\u1eddi \u0111i\u1ec3m \u0111\u1ec3 cho nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi tr\u1ebb tr\u01b0\u1edfng th\u00e0nh\u00a0 nh\u01b0 nh\u1eefng ngh\u1ec7 s\u1ef9, nh\u1eefng ki\u1ebfn tr\u00fac s\u01b0 v\u1ec1 cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd. Th\u1ef1c t\u1ebf \u0111\u1ec3 t\u1ef1 h\u1ecdc h\u1ecfi b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n v\u00e0 h\u1ecdc t\u1eeb nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c (tr\u01b0\u1eddng h\u1ecdc c\u00f3 gi\u1edbi h\u1ea1n c\u1ee7a n\u00f3), \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng\u00a0 l\u00e0m vi\u1ec7c v\u1eb7t v\u00e3nh trong gara, c\u00f2n ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef c\u1ea7n th\u1eddi gian \u0111\u1ec3 nh\u1ed5 l\u00f4ng m\u00e0y, u\u1ed1n t\u00f3c v\u00e0 l\u1ea1i l\u00e0m nh\u1eefng th\u1ee9 c\u1ee7a con c\u00e1i. Nh\u1eefng th\u1ee9 n\u00e0y th\u01b0\u1eddng l\u00e0m cho nh\u1eefng c\u1ea3m gi\u00e1c y\u00ean t\u00e2m cho c\u01a1 th\u1ec3 v\u00e0 t\u00e2m tr\u00ed, ch\u00fang ta ph\u1ea3i h\u1ecdc \u0111\u1ec3 l\u00e0m nh\u1eefng g\u00ec nh\u1eefng b\u00e9 trai l\u00e0m tr\u00ean to\u00e0n th\u1ebf gi\u1edbi \u0111\u00f3 l\u00e0 d\u00e1ng \u0111i nh\u1eb9 nh\u00e0ng v\u00e0 \u0111\u00e1 nh\u1eefng vi\u00ean s\u1ecfi. Nh\u1eefng g\u00ec ch\u00fang ta nh\u1eadn th\u1ea5y ng\u00e0y nay l\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 tin \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c. X\u00e3 h\u1ed9i ch\u00fang ta ng\u00e0y nay ngh\u0129 r\u1eb1ng th\u01b0 gi\u00e3n v\u00e0 ngh\u1ec9 ng\u01a1i g\u1eafn li\u1ec1n v\u1edbi m\u1ed9t chuy\u1ebfn ngh\u1ec9 h\u00e8 v\u00e0 \u0111i du l\u1ecbch c\u00e1ch xa h\u00e0ng ngh\u00ecn d\u1eb7m. Li\u1ec7u ch\u00fang c\u00f3 th\u1ef1c s\u1ef1 th\u00e0nh c\u00f4ng \u1edf \u0111i\u1ec3m n\u00e0y kh\u00f4ng? \u0110i\u1ec1u n\u00e0y \u0111\u00e1ng ng\u1edd l\u1eafm b\u1edfi ch\u00fang ta th\u01b0\u1eddng th\u1ea5y ng\u01b0\u1eddi ta n\u00f3i: \u201c\u0110\u00e3 c\u00f3 qu\u00e1 nhi\u1ec1u nh\u1eefng th\u1ee9 ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0m n\u00f3 cu\u1ed3ng nhi\u1ec7t l\u00e0m sao, v\u00e0 m\u1ecdi th\u1ee9 m\u1edbi m\u1ebb v\u00e0 kh\u00e1c bi\u1ec7t l\u00e0m sao. Ng\u00e0y \u0111\u1ea7u ti\u00ean t\u00f4i ngh\u1ec9 ng\u01a1i ch\u00ednh l\u00e0 ngay \u0111\u1ea7u ti\u00ean t\u00f4i ph\u1ea3i tr\u1edf l\u1ea1i v\u0103n ph\u00f2ng\u201d. L\u1eddi n\u00f3i tr\u00ean nghe c\u00f3 v\u1ebb bu\u1ed3n c\u01b0\u1eddi nh\u01b0ng n\u00f3 l\u1ea1i r\u1ea5t \u0111\u00fang. B\u1ea5t k\u00ec khi n\u00e0o m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi v\u1ee3 t\u1ec9nh ng\u1ed9 bi\u1ebft gi\u00e3i b\u00e0y t\u00e2m s\u1ef1 v\u1edbi ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c. H\u1ecd s\u1ebd \u0111\u1ec1 xu\u1ea5t b\u1ea5t bi\u1ebfn c\u00f9ng c\u00e1ch gi\u1ea3i quy\u1ebft c\u00f9ng v\u1edbi t\u00ecnh tr\u1ea1ng t\u1ef1 ti c\u1ee7a c\u00f4 ta l\u00e0: \u201cKi\u1ebfm m\u1ed9t c\u00f4ng vi\u1ec7c; -c\u00f3 m\u1ed9t s\u1ef1 nghi\u1ec7p; b\u1ea1n c\u00f3 c\u00e1i g\u00ec l\u00e0 t\u1ef1 m\u00ecnh kh\u00f4ng?\u201d C\u00f3 nhi\u1ec1u l\u1ea7n khi c\u00e1c b\u00e0 v\u1ee3 \u0111i l\u00e0m v\u00ec c\u0103ng th\u1eb3ng v\u00ec t\u00ecnh h\u00ecnh t\u00e0i ch\u00ednh nh\u01b0ng \u0111\u1ec3 thuy\u1ebft ph\u1ee5c \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c kh\u00e1i ni\u1ec7m chung r\u1eb1ng m\u1ecdi th\u1ee9 ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef kh\u00f4ng l\u00e0m vi\u1ec7c th\u00ec \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c g\u1ecdi l\u00e0 chung th\u1ee7y v\u00e0 d\u0169ng c\u1ea3m l\u00e0 l\u1eddi n\u00f3i l\u00e1o v\u00e0 h\u1eadu qu\u1ea3 th\u1eadt tai \u00e1c.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

                                  C3. S\u1ef1 h\u01b0u qu\u1ea1nh; c\u00f4 \u0111\u1ed9c; bu\u1ed3n t\u1ebb v\u00e0 s\u1ef1 thi\u1ebfu v\u1eafng t\u00ecnh y\u00eau l\u00e3ng m\u1ea1n trong h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n.<\/p>\n

                                  N\u1ed7i tuy\u1ec7t v\u1ecdng k\u1ebft h\u1ee3p v\u1edbi s\u1ef1 h\u01b0u qu\u1ea1nh, c\u00f4 \u0111\u1ed9c, bu\u1ed3n ch\u00e1n n\u00f3 li\u00ean quan m\u1eadt thi\u1ebft v\u1edbi s\u1ef1 v\u1eafng m\u1eb7t c\u1ee7a t\u00ecnh y\u00eau l\u00e3ng m\u1ea1n trong h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n. Trong khi t\u01b0 v\u1ea5n nhi\u1ec1u qu\u00fd b\u00e0 \u0111\u00e3 ph\u00e1t bi\u1ec3u r\u1ea5t \u1ea5n t\u01b0\u1ee3ng:<\/p>\n

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                                  1. \u201cT\u00f4i kh\u00f4ng th\u00edch b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n m\u00ecnh\u201d<\/li>\n
                                  2. \u201cT\u00f4i kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 m\u1ed9t m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 c\u00f3 \u00fd ngh\u0129a n\u00e0o trong gia \u0111\u00ecnh\u201d<\/li>\n
                                  3. \u201cT\u00f4i kh\u00f4ng g\u1ea7n g\u0169i \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c v\u1edbi ng\u01b0\u1eddi m\u00e0 t\u00f4i y\u00eau\u201d<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

                                    V\u1edbi 3 d\u1ea1ng m\u1ee5c n\u00e0y (ph\u1ea1m tr\u00f9) d\u01b0\u1eddng nh\u01b0 bao h\u00e0m to\u00e0n th\u1ebf gi\u1edbi. Nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi v\u1ee3 tr\u1ebb h\u1ea5p d\u1eabn v\u00e0 nh\u1eefng b\u00e0 m\u1eb9 n\u00e0y t\u1ef1 than m\u00ecnh \u0111ang c\u00e1ch ly kh\u1ecfi nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c tr\u00ean tr\u1ea7n gian! V\u00e0 \u0111i\u1ec1u n\u00e0y d\u01b0\u01a1ng nh\u01b0 l\u00e0 ngu\u1ed3n g\u1ed1c to l\u1edbn nh\u1ea5t v\u1ec1 s\u1ef1 b\u1ea5t m\u00e3n c\u1ee7a ph\u00e1i n\u1eef.<\/p>\n

                                    Nh\u1eefng c\u1ea3m gi\u00e1c v\u1ec1 s\u1ef1 t\u1ef1 \u0111\u00e1nh gi\u00e1 v\u00e0 t\u1ef1 ch\u1ea5p nh\u1eadn. N\u00f3 cung c\u1ea5p n\u1ec1n t\u1ea3ng cho nh\u00e2n c\u00e1ch l\u00e0nh m\u1ea1nh, n\u00f3 ch\u1ec9 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 c\u00f3 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c t\u1eeb nguy\u00ean th\u1ee7y (n\u00f3 kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 mua hay s\u1ea3n xu\u1ea5t \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c). L\u00f2ng t\u1ef1 tr\u1ecdng ch\u1ec9 c\u00f3 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c t\u1eeb nh\u1eefng g\u00ec ch\u00fang ta l\u0129nh h\u1ed9i \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c do s\u1ef1 \u0111\u00e1nh gi\u00e1 c\u1ee7a ch\u00ednh ta trong con m\u1eaft c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c, n\u00f3 l\u00e0 \u0111i\u1ec1u duy nh\u1ea5t khi ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c t\u00f4n tr\u1ecdng ch\u00fang ta v\u00e0 r\u1eb1ng ch\u00fang ta t\u1ef1 t\u00f4n tr\u1ecdng b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n. Ch\u1ec9 khi ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c nh\u1eadn th\u1ea5y ta tho\u1ea3i m\u00e1i, \u0111\u00e1ng ao \u01b0\u1edbc, c\u00f3 gi\u00e1 tr\u1ecb r\u1eb1ng ch\u00fang ta ch\u1ecbu ch\u1ea5p nh\u1eadn b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n trong ch\u00ednh c\u00e1i t\u00f4i c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh. Ch\u00fang ta ph\u1ee5 thu\u1ed9c v\u00e0o ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c h\u00e0ng ng\u00e0y v\u1ec1 s\u1ef1 nu\u00f4i d\u01b0\u1ee1ng x\u00fac c\u1ea3m c\u1ee7a ch\u00fang ta. Ng\u01b0\u1eddi n\u00e0o b\u1ecb t\u01b0\u1edbc \u0111i s\u1ef1 giao thi\u1ec7p n\u00e0y n\u0103m n\u00e0y qua n\u0103m kh\u00e1c kh\u00ec ch\u1eafc ch\u1eafn s\u1ebd tr\u1ea3i qua nh\u1eefng c\u1ea3m gi\u00e1c v\u1ec1 t\u00ednh x\u1ea5u, v\u00e0 \u0111\u1ee9a con \u0111\u1ebb c\u1ee7a n\u00f3 ch\u00ednh l\u00e0 ch\u00e1n n\u1ea3n v\u00e0 th\u1ea5t v\u1ecdng s\u00e2u xa.<\/p>\n

                                    C\u00e2u h\u1ecfi \u0111\u1eb7t ra l\u00e0 tai sao ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef l\u1ea1i t\u1ef1 cho ph\u00e9p m\u00ecnh c\u00f4 l\u1eadp v\u1edbi t\u00ecnh b\u1ea1n h\u1eefu v\u00e0 \u0111o\u00e0n th\u1ec3 \u0111\u1ea7y \u00fd ngh\u0129a b\u00ean ngo\u00e0i gia \u0111\u00ecnh c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd. T\u1ea1i sao c\u00e1ch c\u01b0 x\u1eed t\u1ef1 nhi\u00ean c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd d\u01b0\u1eddng nh\u01b0 l\u00e0 \u0111\u01b0a h\u1ecd \u0111\u1ebfn t\u00ecnh tr\u1ea1ng c\u00f4 \u0111\u01a1n h\u01a1n v\u00e0 thi\u1ebfu v\u1eafng c\u1ea3m x\u00fac.C\u00e1c chuy\u00ean gia tin r\u1eb1ng c\u00f3 \u00edt nh\u1ea5t 7 \u0111i\u1ec1u gi\u1ea3i th\u00edch cho s\u1ef1 c\u00f4 l\u1eadp c\u1ee7a ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef ng\u00e0y nay, b\u00ean c\u1ea1nh 7 \u0111i\u1ec1u l\u00fd gi\u1ea3i n\u00e0y c\u0169ng c\u00f2n c\u00f3 r\u1ea5t nhi\u1ec1u \u0111i\u1ec1u l\u00fd gi\u1ea3i b\u1ed5 \u00edch kh\u00e1c n\u1eefa.<\/p>\n

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                                    1. Tr\u1ebb nh\u1ecf b\u1ecb t\u00e1ch bi\u1ec7t kh\u1ecfi b\u00e0 m\u1eb9 n\u00f3 nh\u01b0 s\u1ef1 b\u1ef1c m\u00ecnh khi ph\u1ea3i g\u00f3i c\u00e1i v\u00f5ng, t\u00e3 l\u00f3t v\u00e0 t\u1ea5t c\u1ea3 c\u00e1c th\u1ee9 c\u1ea7n thi\u1ebft ph\u00f2ng ng\u1eeba ch\u1ec9 \u0111\u1ec3 \u0111i th\u0103m m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi b\u1ea1n. Nh\u1eefng b\u00e0 m\u1eb9 t\u1ef1 h\u1ecfi li\u1ec7u n\u00f3 c\u00f3 \u0111\u00e1ng \u0111\u1ec3 l\u00e0m th\u1ebf kh\u00f4ng. V\u00e0 ngay c\u1ea3 sau \u0111\u00f3 nh\u1eefng \u0111\u1ee9a tr\u1ebb kh\u00f4ng t\u1ef1 ch\u01a1i v\u00e0 ch\u00fang mu\u1ed1n m\u1eb9 ch\u00fang c\u00f9ng tham gia v\u00e0o d\u1ecbp n\u00e0y v\u00e0 n\u1ebfu nh\u1eefng \u0111\u1ee9a tr\u1ebb kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 m\u1ed9t k\u1ef7 lu\u1eadt t\u1ed1t th\u00ec m\u1eb9 c\u1ee7a ch\u00fang c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y ng\u01b0\u1ee3ng ng\u00f9ng khi ph\u1ea3i \u0111\u01b0a ch\u00fang \u0111\u1ebfn n\u01a1i n\u00e0o \u0111\u00f3 hay th\u0103m b\u1ea1n c\u0169. Do \u0111\u00f3 vi\u1ec7c th\u0103m vi\u1ebfng tr\u1edf n\u00ean hi\u1ebfm hoi ch\u1ec9 \u0111\u01a1n gi\u1ea3n l\u00e0 b\u00e0 m\u1eb9 kh\u00f4ng ch\u1ecbu \u0111\u1ef1ng \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c \u0111\u1ee9a con h\u1ed7n x\u01b0\u1ee3c c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh. \u0110\u00e2y ch\u00ednh l\u00e0 l\u00fd do t\u1ea1i sao c\u00e1c b\u00e0 m\u1eb9 c\u00f3 con trong giai \u0111o\u1ea1n tr\u01b0\u1edbc tu\u1ed5i \u0111i h\u1ecdc th\u01b0\u1eddng t\u1eeb ch\u1ed1i v\u00e0 \u1edf nh\u00e0 v\u00e0 c\u1ee9 th\u1ebf th\u00e1ng n\u00e0y qua th\u00e1ng kh\u00e1c v\u1edbi v\u00e0i ng\u01b0\u1eddi. C\u00f3 m\u1ed9t l\u1ea7n m\u00e0 nh\u1eefng b\u00e0 m\u1eb9 n\u00e0y c\u00f3 c\u01a1 h\u1ed9i r\u1eddi kh\u1ecfi ng\u00f4i nh\u00e0 c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh \u0111\u00f3 l\u00e0 c\u01a1 quan ch\u1ed3ng m\u00ecnh t\u1ed5 ch\u1ee9c b\u1eefa ti\u1ec7c, nh\u01b0ng c\u00f4 ta \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c ch\u1ed3ng t\u1ef1 \u0111\u1eb7t m\u00ecnh ng\u1ed3i c\u1ea1nh gi\u00e1m \u0111\u1ed1c \u0111i\u1ec1u h\u00e0nh. C\u00f4 ta tr\u1edf n\u00ean r\u1ea5t c\u0103ng th\u1eb3ng khi l\u1ea1i n\u00f3i v\u1ec1 cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng th\u1ef1c c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi l\u1edbn. C\u00f4 ta s\u1ee3 r\u1eb1ng m\u00ecnh c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 v\u00f4 t\u00ecnh quay tr\u1edf l\u1ea1i n\u00f3i chuy\u1ec7n v\u1ec1 con c\u00e1i trong khi \u0111\u00eam ti\u1ec7c \u0111ang di\u1ec5n ra. Tuy nhi\u00ean \u0111\u1ec3 l\u00e0m c\u00f4 \u1ea5y ng\u1ea1c nhi\u00ean, c\u00f4 \u1ea5y chuy\u1ec7n tr\u00f2 kh\u00f4ng h\u1ec1 sai s\u00f3t g\u00ec trong su\u1ed1t b\u1eefa ti\u1ec7c, c\u00f4 ta n\u00f3i v\u1ec1 nh\u1eefng s\u1ef1 ki\u1ec7n v\u1ec1 th\u1ebf gi\u1edbi v\u00e0 t\u00ecnh h\u00ecnh ch\u00ednh tr\u1ecb hi\u1ec7n nay. M\u1ecdi vi\u1ec7c nh\u01b0 \u0111ang ti\u1ebfn tri\u1ec3n t\u1ed1t \u0111\u1eb9p khi b\u1ea5t th\u00ecnh l\u00ecnh c\u00f4 ta m\u1ea5t h\u1ebft cam \u0111\u1ea3m khi nh\u1eadn ra r\u1eb1ng trong su\u1ed1t qu\u00e1 tr\u00ecnh n\u00f3i chuy\u1ec7n c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh c\u00f4 \u1ea5y \u0111\u00e3 k\u00e9o c\u1eb1m anh ta v\u1ec1 ph\u00eda m\u00ecnh \u0111\u1ec3 anh \u1ea5y l\u1eafng nghe. \u0110\u00e2y c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 l\u00e0 nh\u1eefng g\u00ec \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c g\u1ecdi l\u00e0 c\u00f4ng vi\u1ec7c m\u1ea1o hi\u1ec3m c\u1ee7a b\u00e0 n\u1ed9i ch\u1ee3. M\u1ed9t v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 th\u01b0\u1eddng h\u01a1n n\u1eefa v\u1edbi ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef \u0111ang trong th\u1eddi k\u1ef3 c\u00f3 con nh\u1ecf \u1edf ch\u1ed7 h\u1ecd th\u01b0\u1eddng d\u00f9ng nh\u1eefng t\u1eeb ng\u1eef sai v\u00e0 sau \u0111\u00f3 l\u1ea1i ng\u01b0\u1ee3ng v\u1edbi \u0111i\u1ec1u m\u00ecnh n\u00f3i ra.<\/li>\n
                                    2. D\u00f9 l\u00e0 nh\u1eefng ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef \u201cti\u00ean ti\u1ebfn\u201d c\u0169ng s\u1ebd \u0111\u1ecf m\u1eb7t \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c nh\u1eadn x\u00e9t chung r\u1eb1ng ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef ho\u00e0n to\u00e0n c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 h\u1eb1n h\u1ecdc v\u1edbi nhau. Ch\u00fang ta c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 b\u1eaft g\u1eb7p \u0111i\u1ec1u n\u00e0y \u1edf n\u01a1i l\u00e0m vi\u1ec7c, hay b\u1ea5t k\u1ef3 n\u01a1i \u0111\u00e2u h\u1ecd \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c \u0111\u1eb7t v\u00e0o v\u1edbi nhau. Kh\u00f4ng s\u1edbm th\u00ec mu\u1ed9n s\u1ebd x\u1ea3y ra va ch\u1ea1m hay chuy\u1ec7n kh\u00e1c. C\u00f3 m\u1ed9t lo\u1ea1i o\u00e1n h\u1eadn r\u1ea5t t\u1ef1 nhi\u00ean v\u1edbi h\u1ecd. Nh\u01b0 m\u1ed9t \u00f4ng ch\u1ee7 c\u00e1u ti\u1ebft \u0111\u00e3 c\u00f3 l\u1ea7n n\u00f3i r\u1eb1ng: \u201c\u0110\u1ecbch th\u1ee7 c\u1ee7a t\u00f4i c\u00f3 t\u00e0i \u0111\u1eb7c bi\u1ec7t c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 g\u00e2y ra nhi\u1ec1u r\u1eafc r\u1ed1i trong m\u1ed9t bu\u1ed5i tr\u01b0a h\u01a1n l\u00e0 t\u00f4i ph\u1ea3i g\u1ee1 r\u1ed1i su\u1ed1t c\u1ea3 tu\u1ea7n.\u201d H\u1ecd c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 t\u1ea1o ra s\u1ef1 phi\u1ec1n mu\u1ed9n v\u1ec1 h\u1ea7u h\u1ebft m\u1ecdi th\u1ee9.V\u00e0o m\u1ed9t ng\u00e0y c\u1ea3 v\u0103n ph\u00f2ng \u0111ang trong tr\u1ea1ng th\u00e1i n\u00f3ng b\u1ecfng b\u1edfi ch\u1ea5t kh\u1eed m\u00f9i c\u00e1 nh\u00e2n v\u00e0 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 n\u00f3 b\u1ecb x\u1ecbt ra hay ch\u1ea3y ra. R\u00f5 r\u00e0ng kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 m\u1ed9t chi ti\u1ebft th\u1eadt s\u1ef1 quan tr\u1ecdng n\u00e0o l\u00e0m l\u00fd do duy nh\u1ea5t \u0111\u1ec3 \u0111\u00e1nh nhau; c\u00f3 m\u1ed9t \u0111i\u1ec1u g\u00ec \u0111\u00f3 mang t\u00ednh c\u00e1 nh\u00e2n \u0111\u1ed1i v\u1edbi s\u1ef1 c\u00e3i v\u00e3 v\u00e0 om s\u00f2m c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd. N\u1ebfu l\u00e0 ch\u1ea5t kh\u1eed m\u00f9i, c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 l\u00e0 ch\u1ea5t g\u00ec kh\u00e1c hay th\u1ee9 kh\u00e1c. V\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 r\u1ea5t quan tr\u1ecdng v\u00e0 th\u1ef1c s\u1ef1 v\u1edbi h\u1ecd v\u00e0 trong b\u00ecnh di\u1ec7n s\u1ef1 \u0111i\u1ec1u ti\u1ebft (hay tr\u00f2 ti\u00eau khi\u1ec3n) l\u00e0 t\u01b0\u01a1ng \u0111\u1ed1i v\u1edbi \u00f4ng ch\u1ee7 c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd. Gi\u1ed1ng nh\u01b0 s\u1ef1 \u0111ua tranh v\u00e0 s\u1ef1 ng\u1edd v\u1ef1c ch\u00ednh l\u00e0 \u0111\u1ea1i di\u1ec7n trong s\u1ed1 c\u00e1c b\u00e0 n\u1ed9i tr\u1ee3. C\u00f3 nhi\u1ec1u ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef \u0111\u01a1n gi\u1ea3n l\u00e0 h\u1ecd kh\u00f4ng ch\u1ecbu \u0111\u1ef1ng \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c v\u1edbi ng\u01b0\u1eddi ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef kh\u00e1c! \u0110i\u1ec1u n\u00e0y kh\u00f4ng bi\u1ebft r\u00f5, v\u00ed d\u1ee5 c\u00f3 l\u1ea7n t\u00f4i \u0111i ngang qua m\u1ed9t t\u1ea5m qu\u1ea3ng c\u00e1o, n\u01a1i gi\u00e1o x\u1ee9 th\u00f4ng b\u00e1o: c\u00f2n khuy\u1ebft m\u1ed9t M\u1ee5c s\u01b0: Kh\u00f4ng ch\u1ec9 h\u1ed9i \u0111\u1ee7 nh\u1eefng n\u0103ng l\u1ef1c v\u00e0 ph\u1ea9m ch\u1ea5t c\u1ee7a c\u00e1 nh\u00e2n \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c quy \u0111\u1ecbnh cho m\u1ed9t M\u1ee5c s\u01b0 m\u00e0 c\u00f2n h\u1ed9i \u0111\u1ee7 nh\u1eefng ph\u1ea9m ch\u1ea5t c\u00e1 nh\u00e2n c\u1ee7a v\u1ee3 m\u00ecnh\u2026trong s\u1ed1 nh\u1eefng ti\u00eau chu\u1ea9n c\u00f3 m\u1ed9t \u0111i\u1ec3m \u0111\u1ecdc l\u00e0\u2026v\u1ee3 c\u1ee7a m\u1ee5c s\u01b0 ph\u1ea3i c\u00f3 kh\u1ea3 n\u0103ng s\u1ed1ng h\u00f2a h\u1ee3p v\u1edbi nh\u1eefng ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef kh\u00e1c\u2026\u0111\u1ed1i v\u1edbi ng\u01b0\u1eddi n\u00e0y hay ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c \u0111i\u1ec1u n\u00e0y c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 xem nh\u01b0 tr\u00f2 c\u01b0\u1eddi nh\u01b0ng n\u1ebfu suy ngh\u0129 c\u1ea9n th\u1eadn \u0111i\u1ec1u n\u00e0y ch\u00fang ta s\u1ebd c\u00f3 m\u1ed9t cha x\u1ee9 v\u1edbi s\u1ed1 \u0111i\u1ec3m cao nh\u1ea5t. X\u1ee9 n\u00e0y d\u0129 nhi\u00ean \u0111\u00e3 hi\u1ec3u r\u1eb1ng h\u1ecd c\u1ea7n m\u1ed9t M\u1ee5c s\u01b0 n\u1ed9i tr\u00fa v\u00e0 r\u1eb1ng nh\u00e2n c\u00e1ch m\u1ed9t M\u1ee5c s\u01b0 r\u1ea5t quan tr\u1ecdng v\u1edbi \u0111\u1eddi s\u1ed1ng t\u00e2m linh c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd. H\u1ecd c\u0169ng hi\u1ec3u r\u1eb1ng l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t m\u1ee5c s\u01b0 th\u00ec v\u1ee3 (v\u00e0 con c\u00e1i) c\u1ee7a \u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t ph\u1ea7n c\u1ee7a \u0111\u1ed9i v\u00e0 \u0111i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00f3 h\u1ecd c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 c\u00f3 ch\u1ee9c n\u0103ng cung c\u1ea5p v\u00e0 c\u1ea3i thi\u1ec7n nh\u1eefng n\u1ed7 l\u1ef1c c\u1ee7a \u00f4ng. C\u00f4ng vi\u1ec7c c\u1ee7a m\u1ed9t m\u1ee5c s\u01b0 m\u1edf r\u1ed9ng xa h\u01a1n ngo\u00e0i vi\u1ec7c \u0111i\u1ec1u h\u00e0nh cho l\u1ec5 \u1edf v\u00e0i nh\u00e0 th\u1edd v\u00e0 theo th\u1ec3 l\u1ec7 h\u00e0ng ng\u00e0y \u0111i nh\u01b0 con thoi qua c\u00e1c tr\u01b0\u1eddng h\u1ecdc, b\u1ec7nh vi\u1ec7n, nh\u00e0 t\u00ecnh th\u01b0\u01a1ng v\u00e0 c\u00e1c cu\u1ed9c h\u1ecdp h\u1ed9i \u0111\u1ed3ng gi\u00e1o x\u1ee9. \u00d4ng c\u00f2n ph\u1ea3i b\u1ed5 sung th\u00eam c\u00f4ng vi\u1ec7c c\u1ee7a m\u1ee5c v\u1ee5 v\u1edbi ch\u1ee9c n\u0103ng nh\u01b0 l\u1ec5 r\u1eeda t\u1ed9i, l\u1ec5 c\u01b0\u1edbi, l\u1ec5 mai t\u00e1ng. Tr\u00ean c\u1ea3 nh\u1eefng \u0111i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00f3 \u201cth\u00f4ng hi\u1ec3u v\u1ec1 c\u00f4ng vi\u1ec7c\u201d l\u00e0 v\u00f4 b\u1edd, th\u01b0\u1eddng l\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng nh\u00ecn th\u1ea5y nh\u01b0 d\u1ecbch v\u1ee5 gi\u00fap \u0111\u1ee1, khuy\u00ean b\u1ea3o, t\u01b0 v\u1ea5n trong ho\u00e0n c\u1ea3nh nhu c\u1ea7u c\u1ea7n gi\u00fap \u0111\u1ee1. T\u1ea5t c\u1ea3 nh\u1eefng t\u00ecnh c\u1ea3nh t\u00fang thi\u1ebfu n\u00e0y l\u00e0 v\u00f4 song; s\u1ef1 quan t\u00e2m ri\u00eang bi\u1ec7t l\u00e0 c\u1ea7n thi\u1ebft; th\u01b0\u1eddng th\u00ec ph\u1ee9c t\u1ea1p v\u00e0 theo \u0111u\u1ed5i li\u00ean t\u1ee5c v\u00e0 c\u1ea7n thi\u1ebft v\u00e0 l\u00fac n\u00e0o c\u0169ng v\u1eady h\u1ecd c\u1ea7n r\u1ea5t nhi\u1ec1u th\u1eddi gian. Ng\u01b0\u1eddi v\u1ee3 t\u1ed1t l\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi gi\u00fap \u0111\u1ee1 m\u1ea1nh m\u1ebd cho gi\u00e1o \u0111o\u00e0n n\u1ebfu c\u00f4 ta gi\u00fap \u0111\u1ec3 v\u01b0\u1ee3t qua t\u00ecnh hu\u1ed1ng kh\u00f3 kh\u0103n. \u0110\u1eb7c bi\u1ec7t l\u00e0 \u1edf nh\u1eefng n\u01a1i l\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi ta th\u00edch n\u00f3i chuy\u1ec7n v\u1edbi ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef h\u01a1n l\u00e0 n\u00f3i chuy\u1ec7n v\u1edbi m\u1ee5c s\u01b0. Kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i n\u00f3i chuy\u1ec7n v\u1ec1 v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 r\u1eafc r\u1ed1i m\u00e0 c\u00f2n v\u1ec1 picnic; li\u00ean quan \u0111\u1ebfn h\u1ecdp m\u1eb7t; ti\u1ec7c c\u1ee7a con c\u00e1i;\u00a0 \u0111o\u00e0n hay c\u00e1c d\u1ef1 \u00e1n c\u1ee7a gi\u00e1o x\u1ee9, H\u1ed9i h\u1ecdp c\u00e1c b\u00e0, g\u1eb7p m\u1eb7t c\u00e1c b\u1eadc cao ni\u00ean. Nh\u1eefng ho\u1ea1t\u00a0\u0111\u1ed9ng n\u00e0y ph\u1ee5\u00a0 n\u1eef\u00a0li\u00ean quan\u00a0 th\u00ec\u00a0h\u0103ng h\u00e1i h\u01a1n. B\u1edfi v\u1eady th\u1ef1c ch\u1ea5t v\u1ee3\u00a0c\u1ee7a m\u1ee5c s\u01b0\u00a0ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0\u00a0ng\u01b0\u1eddi c\u00f3\u00a0 kh\u1ea3\u00a0n\u0103ng s\u1ed1ng h\u00f2a\u00a0\u0111\u1ed3ng (v\u1edbi nhi\u1ec1u ph\u1ee5\u00a0 n\u1eef\u00a0kh\u00e1c). C\u0169ng \u00edt nh\u1eefng c\u00e1 nh\u00e2n g\u00e2y g\u1ed5 h\u01a1n do c\u1ea3nh b\u00e1o nghi\u00eam kh\u1eafc c\u1ee7a c\u00f4ng ty do ng\u01b0\u1eddi n\u1eef \u0111\u1ee9ng \u0111\u1ea7u. Nh\u1eefng ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef nh\u01b0 v\u1eady s\u1ebd kh\u00f4ng bao gi\u1edd thi\u1ebft \u0111\u00e3i nh\u1eefng c\u00f4 g\u00e1i; tr\u01b0\u1edbc khi k\u1ebft th\u00fac t\u00e1ch tr\u00e0 c\u00f4 ta \u0111\u00e3 lau s\u1ea1ch s\u1ebd ph\u00eda trong ng\u00f4i nh\u00e0 v\u00e0 ngo\u00e0i v\u01b0\u1eddn v\u00e0 t\u1ea5t c\u1ea3 m\u1ecdi th\u1ee9. H\u1ecd s\u1ebd th\u1ea5y\u00a0 m\u1ed9t c\u00e1i b\u00e1nh th\u00eam ph\u1ea7n \u0111\u1eb7c bi\u1ec7t v\u00e0 ngon tuy\u1ec7t h\u1ea3o d\u00f9 n\u00f3 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c l\u00e0m ho\u1eb7c mua, th\u00edch l\u00e0m ra n\u00f3 h\u01a1n v\u00e0 nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi c\u00f3 ng\u00f4i nh\u00e0 \u0111\u1eb9p h\u01a1n nh\u00e0 c\u1ee7a c\u00f4 ta s\u1ebd kh\u00f4ng bao gi\u1edd \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c m\u1eddi \u0111\u1ebfn n\u01a1i \u1edf xo\u00e0ng x\u0129nh c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh. V\u00e0 nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi m\u00e0 ch\u1ed3ng c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd c\u00f3 v\u1ecb tr\u00ed cao h\u01a1n, \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c tr\u1ea3 l\u01b0\u01a1ng cao h\u01a1n th\u00ec th\u01b0\u1eddng ph\u1eabn n\u1ed9 s\u00e2u s\u1eafc b\u1edfi nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi ph\u1ea3i v\u1eadt l\u1ed9n \u0111\u1ec3 tr\u1ea3 ti\u1ec1n thu\u00ea nh\u00e0 m\u1ed7i th\u00e1ng. T\u00f3m l\u1ea1i ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef th\u01b0\u1eddng ch\u1ed1ng l\u1ea1i nhi\u1ec1u ng\u01b0\u1eddi. Nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi n\u00e0y c\u1ea7n \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c t\u00f4n tr\u1ecdng v\u00e0 ch\u1ea5p nh\u1eadn l\u1eabn nhau, k\u1ebft qu\u1ea3 l\u00e0 s\u1ef1 c\u00f4 \u0111\u01a1n v\u00e0 bu\u1ed3n t\u1ebb.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n
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                                      1. C\u1ea3m gi\u00e1c t\u1ef1 ti trong s\u1ed1 h\u1ecd d\u01b0\u1eddng nh\u01b0 ph\u1ea3i c\u00e1ch l\u00fd nhau. \u0110i\u1ec1u ng\u01b0\u1ee3c l\u1ea1i l\u1ea1i ch\u1ee9ng th\u1ef1c r\u1eb1ng c\u00e0ng c\u00e1ch bi\u1ec7t th\u00ec c\u00e0ng t\u0103ng s\u1ef1 th\u1ea5p k\u00e9m. Hai \u0111i\u1ec1u ki\u1ec7n n\u00e0y \u1ea3nh h\u01b0\u1edfng l\u1eabn nhau trong m\u1ed9t v\u00f2ng lu\u1ea9n qu\u1ea9n, s\u1ef1 gi\u1ea3m d\u1ea7n bao gi\u1edd c\u0169ng d\u1eabn \u0111\u1ebfn s\u1ef1 c\u00f4 \u0111\u01a1n v\u00e0 tuy\u1ec7t v\u1ecdng. Ng\u01b0\u1eddi ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi b\u1ea1n th\u1ef1c s\u1ef1 th\u00ec c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y thua k\u00e9m khi t\u1ea1o l\u1eadp m\u1ed9t m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 x\u00e3 h\u1ed9i m\u1edbi v\u00e0 vi\u1ec7c thi\u1ebfu kh\u1ea3 n\u0103ng k\u1ebft b\u1ea1n s\u1ebd l\u00e0m cho c\u00f4 ta c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y m\u00ecnh th\u1ea5p k\u00e9m h\u01a1n. Ng\u01b0\u1eddi n\u1ed9i tr\u1ee3 trong t\u00ecnh tr\u1ea1ng gay go n\u00e0y th\u01b0\u1eddng l\u00e0 \u1ee9ng c\u1eed vi\u00ean xu\u1ea5t s\u1eafc c\u1ee7a ch\u1ee9ng nghi\u1ec7n r\u01b0\u1ee3u b\u00ed m\u1eadt, hay l\u1ea1m d\u1ee5ng ch\u1ea5t g\u00e2y nghi\u1ec7n hay c\u1ea3 s\u1ef1 t\u1ef1 s\u00e1t \u2013 c\u00f4 ta m\u1ea5t h\u1ebft hy v\u1ecdng v\u1ec1 vi\u1ec7c giao ti\u1ebfp \u0111\u1ea7y \u0111\u1ee7 \u00fd ngh\u0129a v\u1edbi ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c. V\u00e0o l\u00fac n\u00e0y c\u00e1ch c\u01b0 x\u1eed c\u1ee7a c\u00f4 ta th\u01b0\u1eddng b\u1ecb hi\u1ec3u sai b\u1edfi nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi ngang h\u00e0ng v\u1edbi c\u00f4 ta nh\u01b0 kh\u00f4ng mu\u00f4n h\u00f2a m\u00ecnh v\u1edbi ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c; l\u1ea1nh nh\u1ea1t, xa l\u00e1nh hay t\u1ef1 ph\u1ee5.<\/li>\n
                                      2. Ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef th\u01b0\u1eddng \u00edt th\u00e0nh c\u00f4ng trong vi\u1ec7c t\u00ecm th\u1ea5y \u0111i\u1ec1u th\u00fa v\u1ecb v\u00e0 c\u00e1c ho\u1ea1t \u0111\u1ed9ng b\u00ean ngo\u00e0i t\u01b0\u01a1ng \u0111\u01b0\u01a1ng nh\u01b0 nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng. \u0110\u00e0n \u00f4ng th\u01b0\u1eddng y\u00eau \u0111\u1eb7c th\u00f9 nh\u1eefng s\u1ef1 ki\u1ec7n th\u1ec3 thao v\u00e0 b\u1ecb l\u00f4i cu\u1ed1n m\u1ed9t c\u00e1ch cu\u1ed3ng nhi\u1ec7t v\u00e0o \u0111\u1ed9i \u01b0a th\u00edch c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd. C\u00f2n ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef th\u00ec kh\u00f4ng. \u0110\u00e0n \u00f4ng th\u00edch \u0111i s\u0103n, c\u00e2u c\u00e1, th\u00edch \u0111i l\u1eb7n l\u1ed9i v\u00e0o nh\u1eefng n\u01a1i hoang d\u00e3. Ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef \u1edf nh\u00e0 v\u00e0 \u0111\u1ee3i h\u1ecd tr\u1edf v\u1ec1. \u0110\u00e0n \u00f4ng th\u00edch bowling, ch\u01a1i golf, b\u00f3ng ch\u00e0y v.v. Ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef ch\u1ec9 xem v\u00e0 ng\u00e1p ngo\u00e0i \u0111\u01b0\u1eddng bi\u00ean. \u0110\u00e0n \u00f4ng th\u00edch x\u00e2y d\u1ef1ng v\u00e0 l\u1eafp r\u00e1p c\u00e1c th\u1ee9 v\u00e0o v\u1edbi nhau v\u00e0 l\u00e0m vi\u1ec7c trong gara c\u00f2n ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef th\u00ec v\u1eabn \u1edf trong nh\u00e0 v\u00e0 r\u1eeda b\u00e1t \u0111\u0129a. \u0110\u00e0n \u00f4ng t\u00ecm th\u1ea5y s\u1ef1 ti\u00eau khi\u1ec3n n\u01a1i thuy\u1ec1n bu\u1ed3m v\u00e0 \u0111ua xe v\u00e0 m\u1ecdi th\u1ee9 c\u01a1 h\u1ecdc. Ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef th\u00ec ch\u00e1n ng\u1ea5y v\u1edbi nh\u1eefng th\u1ee9 \u0111\u00f3, ch\u1eb3ng c\u00f3 ngh\u0129a l\u00fd g\u00ec. Gi\u1edd th\u00ec hi\u1ec3n nhi\u00ean c\u00f3 s\u1ef1 t\u1ed5ng qu\u00e1t h\u00f3a m\u00e0 c\u00f3 nh\u1eefng ngo\u1ea1i l\u1ec7 v\u00f4 s\u1ed1. Nh\u01b0ng th\u1ef1c t\u1ebf v\u1eabn c\u00f2n l\u1ea1i l\u00e0 \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng th\u01b0\u1eddng thi\u1ebfu th\u1eddi gian \u0111\u1ec3 \u0111u\u1ed5i b\u1eaft nh\u1eefng th\u00fa vui \u0111a d\u1ea1ng c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd, trong khi \u0111\u00f3 v\u1ee3 c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 kh\u00f3 kh\u0103n \u0111\u1ec3 t\u00ecm th\u1ea5y s\u1ef1 h\u0103ng say cho b\u1ea5t k\u00ec th\u1ee9 g\u00ec. T\u00f4i nghi ng\u1edd r\u1eb1ng \u1ea3nh h\u01b0\u1edfng v\u1ec1 v\u0103n h\u00f3a \u0111\u00e3 kh\u1eafc khi v\u00e0o th\u1eddi th\u01a1 \u1ea5u t\u00ednh ti\u00eau c\u1ef1c c\u1ee7a c\u00e1c b\u00e9 g\u00e1i l\u00e0m si\u1ebft l\u1ea1i l\u0129nh v\u1ef1c vui th\u00fa c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd. V\u1edbi b\u1ea5t k\u00ec l\u00fd do g\u00ec th\u00ec th\u1ebf gi\u1edbi ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef lu\u00f4n ch\u1eadt h\u1eb9p h\u01a1n th\u1ebf gi\u1edbi c\u1ee7a \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng. B\u1eb1ng ch\u1ee9ng \u0111i\u1ec1u n\u00e0y h\u00e3y nghe \u0111o\u1ea1n h\u1ed9i tho\u1ea1i c\u1ee7a ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef nh\u01b0 cu\u1ed9c \u0111\u1ed1i \u0111\u1ea7u v\u1edbi \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng. T\u1ea1i cu\u1ed9c h\u1ed9i t\u1ee5 x\u00e3 h\u1ed9i k\u1ebf ti\u1ebfp c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n. S\u1ef1 th\u1ea3o lu\u1eadn c\u1ee7a ph\u00e1i n\u1eef c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 l\u00e0 trung t\u00e2m v\u1ec1 con c\u00e1i, m\u1ef9 ph\u1ea9m hay c\u00e1ch c\u01b0 x\u1eed c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c. \u0110\u00e0n \u00f4ng s\u1ebd n\u00f3i v\u1ec1 nh\u1eefng ch\u1ee7 \u0111\u1ec1 \u0111a d\u1ea1ng h\u01a1n nhi\u1ec1u. N\u00f3 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 l\u00e0m kinh ng\u1ea1c, bu\u1ed3n ch\u00e1n \u0111\u00f3 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 x\u1ebfp v\u00e0o lo\u1ea1i nh\u1eefng nguy\u00ean nh\u00e2n cao c\u1ee7a s\u1ef1 t\u1ef1 h\u1ea1 th\u1ea5p m\u00ecnh trong \u0111\u00e1m ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef.<\/li>\n
                                      3. S\u1ef1 m\u1ec7t m\u1ecfi v\u00e0 \u00e1p l\u1ef1c v\u1ec1 th\u1eddi gian \u0111\u00e3 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c th\u1ea3o lu\u1eadn \u1edf m\u1ee5c C1 c\u0169ng \u0111\u00e3 th\u1ecfa m\u00e3n v\u1ec1 vi\u1ec7c c\u00e1c b\u00e0 m\u1eb9 xa c\u00e1ch con m\u00ecnh. \u0110i\u1ec1u \u0111\u01a1n gi\u1ea3n l\u00e0 h\u1ecd kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u1ee7 th\u1eddi gian v\u00e0 n\u0103ng l\u01b0\u1ee3ng \u0111\u1ec3 m\u1edf c\u00e1nh c\u1eeda ra th\u1ebf gi\u1edbi b\u00ean ngo\u00e0i.<\/li>\n
                                      4. Nh\u1eefng gi\u1edbi h\u1ea1n t\u00e0i ch\u00ednh l\u00e0 nh\u00e2n t\u1ed1 h\u1ea1n ch\u1ebf cho ng\u01b0\u1eddi n\u1ed9i tr\u1ee3 \u2013 \u0111i\u1ec1u n\u00e0y s\u1ebd \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c th\u1ea3o lu\u1eadn chi ti\u1ebft.<\/li>\n
                                      5. S\u1ef1 s\u1eafp x\u1ebfp nh\u1ea7m l\u1eabn v\u1ec1 m\u1eb7t th\u1eddi gian s\u1ebd tr\u1edf n\u00ean l\u00e3ng man. V\u00ec m\u1ee5c \u0111\u00edch minh h\u1ecda t\u00f4i s\u1ebd s\u1eed d\u1ee5ng t\u1eeb ng\u1eef \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c ch\u1ecdn loc. B\u1ea1n s\u1ebd th\u1ea5y l\u00fd do v\u00e0 l\u1eddi gi\u1ea3i th\u00edch \u1edf cu\u1ed1i \u0111i\u1ec3m n\u00e0y.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

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                                        T\u00ecnh hu\u1ed1ng: Khi ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng v\u1ec1\u00a0nh\u00e0\u00a0t\u00ecm n\u01a1i ngh\u1ec9\u00a0ng\u01a1i, n\u01a1i\u00a0 \u0111\u1ec3 th\u01b0\u00a0gi\u00e3n sau m\u1ed9t th\u1eddi gian lao \u0111\u1ed9ng c\u0103ng th\u1eb3ng, n\u01a1i\u00a0\u0111\u1ec3 t\u00ecm th\u1ea5y t\u00ecnh y\u00eau th\u01b0\u01a1ng. N\u00f3i chung, theo c\u00e1ch n\u00e0y,\u00a0\u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng kh\u00f4ng bao gi\u1edd\u00a0b\u00e0y t\u1ecf nh\u1eefng mong mu\u1ed1n c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh b\u1eb1ng l\u1eddi, ngay c\u1ea3 v\u1edbi b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n ch\u00ednh h\u1ecd. \u0110\u1ed1i v\u1edbi h\u1ecd th\u00ec \u0111i\u1ec1u n\u00e0y l\u00e0 \u0111\u01b0\u01a1ng nhi\u00ean v\u00e0 h\u1ecd kh\u00f4ng c\u1ea7n suy ngh\u0129 \u0111\u1ec3 gi\u1ea3i th\u00edch cho ch\u00ednh h\u1ecd. Tuy nhi\u00ean, h\u1ecd c\u0169ng r\u1ea5t nh\u1ea1y c\u1ea3m. \u0110\u1ec3 hi\u1ec3u r\u1eb1ng c\u00e1i \u201ct\u1ea5t c\u1ea3 t\u1ed1t \u0111\u1eb9p\u201d c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd nh\u01b0 b\u1ecb qu\u1ea5y r\u1ea7y. V\u00e0 t\u1ef1 ph\u1ea3i th\u1ef1c hi\u1ec7n \u0111i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00f3. \u0110\u00f4i khi b\u1eb1ng c\u00e1ch \u0111i ra kh\u1ecfi ph\u00f2ng l\u1ea5y c\u00e1i g\u00ec \u0111\u00f3 \u0111\u1ec3 l\u00e0m, \u0111\u00f4i khi l\u1ea1i c\u00e0u nh\u00e0u.N\u00f3i r\u00f5 th\u00eam v\u1ec1 \u0111i\u1ec3m n\u00e0y. Ch\u00fang ta h\u00e3y th\u1eed m\u1ed9t th\u1eed nghi\u1ec7m v\u1ec1 t\u00ednh hu\u1ed1ng n\u00e0y. M\u1ed9t \u00f4ng \u0111\u00e3 s\u1eafp x\u1ebfp r\u1ea5t k\u1ef9 l\u01b0\u1ee1ng v\u1ec1 vi\u1ec7c xem tivi, \u00f4ng hi\u1ebfm khi xem l\u1eafm. \u00d4ng xem ch\u01b0\u01a1ng tr\u00ecnh y\u00eau th\u00edch c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh, m\u00e0 ch\u01b0\u01a1ng tr\u00ecnh n\u00e0y ch\u1ec9 kho\u1ea3ng 30 ph\u00fat m\u1ed9t l\u1ea7n m\u1ed9t tu\u1ea7n. V\u00e0o \u0111\u00fang th\u1eddi \u0111i\u1ec3m n\u00e0y th\u00ec b\u00e0 v\u1ee3 l\u1ea1i quy\u1ebft \u0111\u1ecbnh h\u00fat b\u1ee5i, b\u00e0 c\u00f2n b\u1eadt m\u00e1y kh\u1eed m\u00f9i \u1edf ph\u00f2ng k\u1ebf b\u00ean ph\u00f2ng \u00f4ng \u0111ang xem tivi. B\u00e0 ngh\u0129 m\u1ecdi vi\u1ec7c c\u1ea7n ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0m l\u00e0 \u0111\u00fang, b\u00e0 c\u00f2n ch\u1ed9p l\u1ea5y m\u1ed9t c\u00e2u \u201cvi\u1ec7c d\u1ecdn d\u1eb9p \u1edf nh\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng bao gi\u1edd k\u1ebft th\u00fac\u201d. \u0110i\u1ec1u n\u00e0y \u0111\u00e3 l\u00e0m cho \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng ngh\u0129 l\u1ea9n th\u1ea9n, ngay c\u1ea3 ch\u1eb3ng ngh\u0129 n\u01a1i n\u00e0o, anh ta ngh\u0129 \u201cc\u00f4 ta c\u00f3 9,5 gi\u1edd \u0111\u1ec3 l\u00e0m nh\u1eefng c\u00f4ng vi\u1ec7c \u1ed3n \u00e0o \u0111\u00f3 khi m\u00ecnh v\u1eafng nh\u00e0; nh\u01b0ng kh\u00f4ng, c\u00f4 ta l\u1ea1i l\u00e0m vi\u1ec7c n\u00e0y khi m\u00ecnh \u1edf nh\u00e0 \u0111\u1ec3 ngh\u1ec9 ng\u01a1i\u201d. \u201c\u0111\u00e2y l\u00e0 c\u00e1ch c\u00f4 ta mu\u1ed1n n\u00f3i v\u1edbi m\u00ecnh r\u1eb1ng c\u00f4 ta ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0m vi\u1ec7c, l\u00e0m vi\u1ec7c v\u00e0 l\u00e0m vi\u1ec7c\u2026\u201d C\u00f3 ngh\u0129a \u00f4ng ta mong \u0111\u1ee3i m\u1ed9t \u201cc\u00f4 v\u1ee3 \u0111\u00e1ng y\u00eau\u201d khi v\u1ec1 nh\u00e0, anh ta mong \u0111\u1ee3i m\u1ed9t \u2018c\u00f4 h\u1ea7u g\u00e1i\u2019 quanh m\u00ecnh. \u0110\u00e2y l\u00e0 quan \u0111i\u1ec3m sai l\u1ea7m c\u1ee7a \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng, thay v\u00ec \u0111i ra v\u1edbi v\u1ee3, l\u00e0m cho v\u1ee3 x\u00fac \u0111\u1ed9ng v\u00e0 d\u1eabn v\u1ee3 ra gh\u1ebf ng\u1ed3i v\u00e0 n\u00f3i r\u1eb1ng \u201c\u0111\u1eebng b\u1eadn t\u00e2m t\u1edbi nh\u1eefng vi\u1ec7c \u0111\u00f3 em y\u00eau, ng\u1ed3i ngh\u1ec9 ng\u01a1i v\u1edbi anh. C\u00f2n nh\u1eefng th\u1ee9 \u0111\u00f3 c\u1ee9 \u0111\u1ec3 \u0111\u1ebfn ng\u00e0y mai l\u00e0m c\u0169ng \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c m\u00e0\u201d. Thay v\u00ec n\u00f3i nh\u1eefng l\u1eddi ng\u1ecdt ng\u00e0o nh\u01b0 v\u1eady anh ta l\u1ea1i ngu d\u1ed1t c\u1ee9 c\u00e2m nh\u01b0 h\u1ebfn (kh\u00f4ng giao thi\u1ec7p) v\u00e0 h\u00ecnh th\u00e0nh nh\u1eefng chi\u1ebfn l\u01b0\u1ee3c sai l\u1ea7m.<\/p>\n

                                        C\u00f2n nh\u1eefng \u0111i\u1ec1u kh\u00e1c n\u1eefa l\u00e0: v\u1ee3\u00a0c\u0169ng c\u00f3\u00a0th\u1ec3\u00a0kh\u00f4ng hi\u1ec3u\u00a0\u0111\u1ea7y \u0111\u1ee7 v\u1ec1\u00a0s\u1ef1\u00a0thi\u1ebfu khoan dung c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi ch\u1ed3ng v\u1ec1\u00a0nh\u1eefng ti\u1ebfng \u1ed3n\u00a0\u00e0o nh\u01b0\u00a0m\u00e1y h\u00fat b\u1ee5i, m\u00e1y kh\u1eed\u00a0m\u00f9i trong b\u1ebfp hay nh\u1eefng v\u1eadt d\u1ee5ng kh\u00e1c trong gia \u0111\u00ecnh. N\u00f3i c\u00e1ch kh\u00e1c c\u00f4 ta bi\u1ebft ch\u1ed3ng m\u00ecnh l\u00e0m vi\u1ec7c trong nh\u00e0 m\u00e1y hay n\u01a1i n\u00e0o kh\u00e1c v\u1edbi nh\u1eefng m\u00e1y m\u00f3c \u1ed3n \u00e0o h\u01a1n nhi\u1ec1u. Do \u0111\u00f3, c\u00f4 ta ng\u1ea1c nhi\u00ean, c\u00e1i l\u00e0m anh ta b\u1ef1c m\u00ecnh c\u01a1 ch\u1ee9? T\u00f4i ch\u1eafc? C\u00f3 th\u1ec3 c\u00f4 ta ngh\u0129 \u201cl\u1ea1i mang c\u00e1i b\u1ed9 m\u1eb7t cau c\u00f3, c\u1ea7n ph\u1ea3i c\u00f3 th\u1eddi gian \u0111\u1ec3 cho anh ta l\u1ea1i tr\u1edf n\u00ean c\u00f3 t\u00ecnh ng\u01b0\u1eddi\u201d. C\u00e2u tr\u1ea3 l\u1eddi th\u1eadt \u0111\u01a1n gi\u1ea3n: nh\u1eefng \u00e2m thanh anh ta nghe trong nh\u00e0 m\u00e1y hay n\u01a1i l\u00e0m vi\u1ec7c c\u1ee7a anh ta kh\u00f4ng h\u1ec1 g\u00ec v\u00e0 nh\u1eefng ti\u1ebfng \u0111\u1ec1u \u0111\u1ec1u tr\u1edf th\u00e0nh \u0111\u1ed3ng ngh\u0129a trong t\u00e2m tr\u00ed anh ta, v\u1edbi m\u1ed9t c\u1ea3m gi\u00e1c kh\u1ecfe kho\u1eafn, thu nh\u1eadp, nh\u1eefng l\u1ee3i \u00edch y t\u1ebf, k\u1ebf ho\u1ea1ch ngh\u1ec9 h\u01b0u, ti\u1ec1n th\u01b0\u1edfng k\u1ef3 ngh\u1ec9, chia s\u1ebb l\u1ee3i t\u1ee9c, ngh\u1ec1 nghi\u1ec7p, th\u0103ng ti\u1ebfn, s\u1ef1 ph\u00e1t tri\u1ec3n, c\u1ea3i thi\u1ec7n c\u00e1 nh\u00e2n m\u00ecnh v\u00e0 c\u00f3 c\u1ea3 gia \u0111\u00ecnh anh ta, kh\u1ea3 n\u0103ng gi\u00e1o d\u1ee5c con c\u00e1i, n\u0103ng l\u1ef1c ph\u00eda tr\u01b0\u1edbc, \u0111\u1ea3m b\u1ea3o c\u00f4ng vi\u1ec7c v\u00e0 nhi\u1ec1u th\u1ee9 kh\u00e1c. T\u00f3m l\u1ea1i, \u0111\u00e2y l\u00e0 \u00e2m thanh c\u1ee7a \u00e2m nh\u1ea1c, n\u00f3 l\u00e0 \u00e2m thanh c\u1ee7a \u201cm\u1ecdi th\u1ee9 \u0111\u1ec1u t\u1ed1t \u0111\u1eb9p\u201d. \u00c2m thanh c\u1ee7a m\u00e1y h\u00fat b\u1ee5i v\u00e0 m\u00e1y kh\u1eed m\u00f9i \u0111\u00e3 tr\u00e1i ng\u01b0\u1ee3c ho\u00e0n to\u00e0n v\u1edbi nh\u1eefng \u00e2m thanh kia.. \u0111\u00e2y.. c\u0169ng l\u00e0 minh ch\u1ee9ng th\u00edch \u0111\u00e1ng m\u1ed9t b\u00e0 v\u1ee3 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 hi\u1ec3u th\u1ea5u \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c quan \u0111i\u1ec3m c\u1ee7a ch\u1ed3ng t\u1ed1t h\u01a1n v\u00e0 hi\u1ec3u t\u1ea1i sao nh\u1eefng ti\u1ebfng \u1ed3n \u00e0o trong nh\u00e0 m\u00e1y l\u1ea1i b\u00ecnh th\u01b0\u1eddng v\u1edbi anh ta. C\u00f4 ta c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 ngay th\u1ed1ng tr\u1ecb m\u1ed9t th\u1ef1c t\u1ebf r\u1eb1ng anh ta h\u00e3nh di\u1ec7n v\u1ec1 c\u00f4ng vi\u1ec7c, nh\u1eefng thi\u1ebft k\u1ebf c\u1ee7a anh ta, nh\u1eefng m\u1ea1ch di\u1ec7n c\u1ee7a anh ta, v\u00e0 nh\u1eefng \u00e2m thanh m\u00e0 n\u00f3 l\u00e0m cho chi\u1ebfc ph\u1ea3n l\u1ef1c c\u1ee7a anh bay. C\u0169ng nh\u01b0 v\u1eady, c\u00f4 ta c\u0169ng c\u00f3 c\u1ea3m gi\u00e1c ki\u00eau h\u00e3nh v\u1ec1 nh\u00e0 c\u1eeda c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh. Nh\u00e0 c\u1eeda l\u00e0 n\u01a1i c\u00f4 ta c\u00f3 c\u1ea3m gi\u00e1c ho\u00e0n th\u00e0nh c\u00f4ng vi\u1ec7c. Nh\u1eefng \u00e2m thanh c\u1ee7a m\u00e1y kh\u1eed m\u00f9i l\u00e0 \u00e2m thanh c\u1ee7a nh\u1eefng b\u1eefa \u0103n c\u1ee7a c\u00f4 tr\u1edf n\u00ean c\u00f3 h\u01b0\u01a1ng v\u1ecb h\u01a1n, d\u00e0nh cho ch\u1ed3ng v\u00e0 con c\u1ee7a c\u00f4. \u00c2m thanh c\u1ee7a m\u00e1y h\u00fat b\u1ee5i l\u00e0 \u00e2m thanh l\u00e0m cho ng\u00f4i nh\u00e0 c\u1ee7a c\u00f4 ta \u201cg\u1ecdn g\u00e0ng\u201d. \u0110\u00f3 l\u00e0 \u00e2m thanh l\u00e0m cho chi\u1ebfc ph\u1ea3n l\u1ef1c c\u1ee7a c\u00f4 bay. \u0110\u00e0n \u00f4ng hi\u1ec3u \u00fd r\u1ea5t nhanh. H\u1ecd kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u1ea7n \u0111\u1ed9n \u0111\u00e2u. Anh ta n\u00f3i l\u1ea9m b\u1ea9m v\u00e0i \u0111i\u1ec1u v\u1ec1 c\u00e1i xe oto v\u00e0 l\u1ea1i ti\u1ebfp t\u1ee5c vi\u1ec7c kinh doanh c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh. Do v\u1eady n\u00f3 kh\u00f4ng ho\u1ea1t \u0111\u1ed9ng. C\u00e1ch \u0111\u1ec3 l\u00e0m cho quan \u0111i\u1ec3m n\u00e0y qua \u0111i l\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi v\u1ee3 ph\u1ea3i c\u1ea7m tay anh \u1ea5y v\u00e0 qu\u00e0ng qua vai m\u00ecnh v\u00e0 n\u00f3i v\u1edbi anh \u1ea5y r\u1eb1ng m\u00ecnh mu\u1ed1n tr\u1edf th\u00e0nh ng\u01b0\u1eddi v\u1ee3 t\u1ed1t c\u1ee7a anh \u1ea5y, th\u00e0nh ng\u01b0\u1eddi m\u1eb9 hi\u1ec1n, l\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi n\u1ed9i tr\u1ee3 gi\u1ecfi v\u00e0 ng\u00f4i nh\u00e0 c\u1ee7a c\u00f4 l\u00e0 n\u01a1i m\u1ecdi th\u1ee9 \u0111\u1ec1u ho\u00e0n m\u1ef9. N\u1ebfu\u00a0 l\u1eddi n\u00f3i m\u00e0 ch\u1ec9 n\u00f3i v\u1ec1 ch\u1ee7 \u0111\u1ec1 n\u00e0y th\u00f4i, n\u00f3 s\u1ebd nhanh ch\u00f3ng nghe t\u1eeb tai n\u00e0y xuy\u00ean qua tai kia , r\u1ea5t nhanh. Anh ta \u0111\u00e3 nghe nh\u1eefng ki\u1ec3u g\u1ee3i \u00fd n\u00e0y \u0111\u1ea7y t\u1ea1i h\u00e0ng gi\u1edd m\u1ed7i ng\u00e0y r\u1ed3i. \u0110\u1ec3 kh\u00f4ng b\u1ecb ng\u1edb ng\u1ea9n, anh ta ph\u00e1t tri\u1ec3n m\u01b0u k\u1ebf theo b\u1ea3n n\u0103ng: \u201cnghe tai n\u00e0y sang tai kia, nhanh\u201d. Th\u1ef1c t\u1ebf n\u00f3 l\u00e0 \u0111i\u1ec1u ch\u1ee7 y\u1ebfu m\u00e0 anh ta b\u1ecb \u1ea3nh h\u01b0\u1edfng v\u1ec1 n\u00f3, \u0111i\u1ec1u g\u00ec \u0111\u00e3 l\u00e0m cho v\u1ee3 con t\u00e1ch r\u1eddi l\u00e0: \u201cnh\u00e2n t\u1ed1 x\u00fac gi\u00e1c\u201d. Nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c th\u1ef1c s\u1ef1 kh\u00f4ng l\u00e0m \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c \u0111i\u1ec1u n\u00e0y. Nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c ch\u1ec9 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 d\u00f9ng \u201cl\u1eddi n\u00f3i\u201d nh\u01b0ng v\u1ee3 v\u00e0 con c\u00e1i c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 d\u00f9ng s\u1ef1 k\u1ebft h\u1ee3p c\u00f3 s\u1ee9c m\u1ea1nh h\u01a1n v\u1ec1 \u201cl\u1eddi n\u00f3i v\u00e0 x\u00fac gi\u00e1c\u201d. \u0110\u00e2y l\u00e0 \u0111i\u1ec3m kh\u00e1c nhau. \u0110\u00e2y c\u0169ng l\u00e0 y\u1ebfu t\u1ed1 hi\u1ec7u qu\u1ea3. Con c\u00e1i ch\u1ec9 bi\u1ebft c\u00e1ch th\u1ef1c hi\u1ec7n n\u00f3 v\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi l\u1edbn \u0111\u00f4i khi ph\u1ea3i l\u1ea5y l\u1ea1i nh\u1eefng c\u00e1i k\u1ef9 n\u0103ng \u201c\u0111\u00e1nh m\u1ea5t\u201d n\u00e0y.<\/p>\n

                                        Gi\u1edd\u00a0\u0111\u00e2y c\u00f3 m\u1ed9t quan \u0111i\u1ec3m kh\u00e1c: Ng\u00e0y l\u1ea1i ng\u00e0y, khi ra kh\u1ecfi nh\u00e0,\u00a0 anh ta s\u1ebd t\u1ef1 l\u00e0m cho m\u00ecnh giao thi\u1ec7p v\u1edbi nhi\u1ec1u ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef kh\u00e1c. H\u1ecd l\u00e0 nh\u1eefng ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef \u1edf kh\u1eafp m\u1ecdi n\u01a1i, trong n\u01a1i l\u00e0m vi\u1ec7c c\u1ee7a anh ta, trong qu\u00e1n c\u00e0 ph\u00ea, v\u00e0 nh\u1eefng t\u1ee5 \u0111i\u1ec3m ch\u00ednh kh\u00e1c n\u1eefa. Nh\u1eefng ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef n\u00e0y c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 h\u1ea5p d\u1eabn, duy\u00ean d\u00e1ng, v\u00e0 c\u00f3 t\u1ea5t c\u1ea3 nh\u1eefng thu\u1ed9c t\u00ednh mong \u01b0\u1edbc kh\u00e1c. Trong t\u00e2m tr\u00ed c\u1ee7a anh ta, tuy nhi\u00ean, anh ta \u00fd th\u1ee9c \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c, \u0111\u00f3 l\u00e0 nh\u1eefng \u0111\u1ed3ng nghi\u1ec7p, h\u1ecd c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 l\u00e0 \u201cnh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi b\u1ea1n c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 s\u1ebd \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c gi\u1edbi thi\u1ec7u v\u1edbi cha m\u1eb9 anh ta, t\u1edbi v\u1ee3 hay con c\u00e1i c\u1ee7a anh ta m\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng b\u1ecb v\u01b0\u01a1ng v\u1ea5n ch\u00fat g\u00ec v\u1ec1 t\u1ed9i l\u1ed7i\u201d. \u0110\u00e2y l\u00e0 nh\u1eefng \u0111i\u1ec1u c\u00e0ng tr\u00e1nh xa c\u00e0ng t\u1ed1t,kh\u00f4ng h\u01a1n n\u1eefa. Khi \u0111\u00e2y l\u00e0 l\u00f2ng trung th\u00e0nh c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi ch\u1ed3ng, th\u00ec nh\u1eefng nhu c\u1ea7u l\u00e3ng m\u1ea1n c\u1ee7a anh ta ch\u1ec9 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 \u0111\u1eb7t v\u00e0o m\u1ed9t n\u01a1i m\u00e0 th\u00f4i, ch\u00ednh l\u00e0 v\u1ee3 c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh. \u0110\u00e2y kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u1ee7 l\u00fd do \u0111\u1ec3 cho ng\u01b0\u1eddi v\u1ee3 \u201ct\u1eaft c\u00e1i c\u00f4ng vi\u1ec7c nh\u00e0 c\u1ee7a\u201d \u0111i v\u00e0 b\u1eadt c\u00e1i \u201cng\u01b0\u1eddi v\u1ee3 y\u00eau d\u1ea5u l\u00ean\u201d hay sao? S\u1ef1 th\u1eadt c\u1ee7a v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 l\u00e0 t\u1ea5t c\u1ea3 \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng th\u00edch \u201cng\u01b0\u1eddi v\u1ee3 y\u00eau d\u1ea5u\u201d h\u01a1n l\u00e0 \u201cm\u1ed9t h\u1ea7u g\u00e1i\u201d. Th\u1ef1c s\u1ef1, n\u1ebfu s\u1ef1 l\u00e3ng m\u1ea1n th\u1ef1c s\u1ef1 quan tr\u1ecdng v\u1edbi h\u1ecd, c\u00f4 ta c\u1ea7n ph\u1ea3i t\u1ef1 ki\u1ec3m tra b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n khi anh \u1ea5y quanh m\u00ecnh, c\u00f4 ta n\u00ean l\u00e0 \u201cv\u1ee3\u201d hay l\u00e0 \u201ch\u1ea7u g\u00e1i\u201d? Gi\u1edd \u0111\u00e2y c\u00e1c b\u00e0 v\u1ee3 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 ngh\u0129 anh ta ch\u1eafc\u00a0 l\u00e3ng m\u1ea1n h\u01a1n, trong th\u00e2m t\u00e2m anh ta ch\u1eb3ng c\u00f3 c\u00e2u h\u1ecfi n\u00e0o v\u1ec1 \u0111i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00f3 c\u1ea3. Nh\u1eefng g\u00ec sai l\u1ea7m \u0111\u1ed1i v\u1edbi b\u1ec1 ngo\u00e0i l\u00e0 \u201c bi\u1ec3u hi\u1ec7n\u201d ch\u1eb3ng c\u00f3 l\u1edbp b\u1ed3i d\u01b0\u1ee1ng gi\u00e1o d\u1ee5c n\u00e0o v\u1ec1 ch\u1ee7 \u0111\u1ec1 n\u00e0y c\u1ea3. C\u00e1c con trai \u0111\u00e3 ch\u1eafc ch\u1eafn ch\u1eb3ng h\u1ee9ng kh\u1edfi v\u1edbi cu\u1ed9c n\u00f3i chuy\u00ean c\u1ee7a m\u1eb9 ch\u00fang v\u1ec1 \u0111\u1ec1 t\u00e0i n\u00e0y. Nhi\u1ec1u n\u1ec1n v\u0103n h\u00f3a \u0111\u00e3 ph\u1edbt l\u1edd \u201ckh\u00eda c\u1ea1nh\u201d m\u1ed9t c\u00e1ch \u0111\u1ea7y \u0111\u1ee7: th\u1ef1c t\u1ebf h\u1ecd c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 ra v\u1ebb k\u1ec3 c\u1ea3 bi\u1ec3u hi\u1ec7n kh\u00eda c\u1ea1nh trong\u00a0 b\u1ed1i c\u1ea3nh v\u0103n h\u00f3a. V\u00e0i quy\u1ec3n s\u00e1ch b\u00e0n v\u1ec1 ch\u1ee7 \u0111\u1ec1: \u201cl\u00e0m th\u1ebf n\u00e0o \u0111\u1ec3 l\u00e3ng m\u1ea1n \u2013 cho \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng\u201d t\u1ea5t c\u1ea3 c\u00e1c trang \u0111\u1ec1u \u0111\u1ec3 tr\u1eafng.<\/p>\n

                                        Khi t\u00f4i b\u1eaft\u00a0\u0111\u1ea7u ch\u01b0\u01a1ng 7, t\u00f4i\u00a0\u0111\u00e3 n\u00f3i v\u1ec1\u00a0s\u1ef1\u00a0minh h\u1ecda. T\u00f4i s\u1ebd\u00a0s\u1eed\u00a0d\u1ee5ng nh\u1eefng t\u1eeb\u00a0ng\u1eef\u00a0\u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c l\u1ef1a ch\u1ecdn ch\u00ednh x\u00e1c. T\u00f4i d\u00f9ng t\u1eeb\u00a0\u201c\u0111\u1ea7y t\u1edb\u00a0g\u00e1i\u201d,\u00a0 \u201cb\u1ed9\u00a0m\u1eb7t cau c\u00f3\u201d. R\u1ea5t d\u1ec5 d\u00e0ng cho ch\u00fang ta th\u1ea5u t\u00f3m \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c nh\u1eefng \u0111i\u1ec1u n\u00e0y v\u00e0 nh\u1eefng t\u1eeb th\u00f4ng d\u1ee5ng ch\u00fang ta c\u0169ng c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 b\u1ecb l\u00f4i cu\u1ed1n. \u0110\u1ec3 \u00e1p d\u1ee5ng, n\u1ebfu ch\u00fang ta kh\u00f4ng g\u1ea1t b\u1ecf \u00fd ngh\u0129 \u0111\u00fang \u0111\u1eafn ra ngo\u00e0i th\u00ec ch\u00fang ng\u1ef1 tr\u1ecb trong \u0111\u1ea7u ch\u00fang ta. N\u00f3 b\u1eaft \u0111\u1ea7u t\u1ef1 ph\u00e1t tri\u1ec3n trong tr\u00ed \u00f3c c\u1ee7a ch\u00fang v\u00e0 ch\u00fang t\u0103ng c\u01b0\u1eddng s\u1ef1 b\u00e0y t\u1ecf gi\u1ed1ng nh\u01b0 \u201cng\u01b0\u1eddi h\u1ea7u g\u00e1i\u201d, \u201cb\u1ed9 m\u1eb7t cau c\u00f3\u201d\u2026 n\u00f3 x\u1ea3y ra kh\u00f4ng c\u1ea7n nh\u1eefng n\u1ed7 l\u1ef1c c\u1ee7a ch\u00fang ta. Kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 nh\u1eadn th\u1ea5y nh\u1eefng quan ni\u1ec7m c\u1ee7a ch\u00fang ta. Ch\u00fang ta b\u1eaft \u0111\u1ea7u nh\u1eadn th\u1ea5y c\u00e0ng ng\u00e0y c\u00e0ng \u00edt \u201ctr\u00e1i tim ng\u1ecdt ng\u00e0o\u201d c\u1ee7a \u201cch\u1ed3ng\u201d v\u00e0 c\u00e0ng ng\u00e0y c\u00e0ng th\u1ea5y \u201cb\u1ed9 m\u1eb7t cau c\u00f3\u201d h\u01a1n, r\u1ed1t cu\u1ed9c ch\u00fang ta b\u1eaft \u0111\u1ea7u ngh\u0129 \u00edt \u0111\u1eb1m th\u1eafm h\u01a1n v\u00e0 k\u1ebft qu\u1ea3 t\u1ea5t y\u1ebfu l\u00e0 c\u01b0 x\u1eed \u00edt \u0111\u1eb1m th\u1eafm h\u01a1n, cu\u1ed9c \u0111\u1ea5u \u201cb\u00f3ng b\u00e0n\u201d t\u1ed3i t\u1ec7 \u0111\u00e3 \u0111\u1ea9y s\u1ef1 \u0111\u1eb1m th\u1eafm c\u00e0ng ng\u00e0y c\u00e0ng ra xa h\u01a1n. \u0110i\u1ec1u n\u00e0y c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 tr\u1edf th\u00e0nh 1 quy lu\u1eadt x\u1ea5u v\u1ec1 \u201cth\u00ec th\u1ea7m v\u1edbi t\u00e2m tr\u00ed\u201d. V\u1ee3 ch\u1ed3ng c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 gi\u00fap nhau nh\u01b0ng v\u1ee3 ch\u1ed3ng kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 ph\u00e1 v\u1ee1 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c n\u00f3. V\u1ee3 ch\u1ed3ng c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 c\u1ea7u nguy\u1ec7n, b\u1ea1n c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 t\u1ef1 ph\u00e1 v\u1ee1 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c n\u00f3 qua s\u1ee9c m\u1ea1nh c\u1ee7a Ch\u00faa. Ph\u00e9p h\u00f3a gi\u1ea3i l\u00e0 ngu\u1ed3n \u01a1n hu\u1ec7 quy\u1ec1n l\u1ef1c nh\u1ea5t \u0111\u1ec3 ph\u00e1 v\u1ee1 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c xi\u1ec1ng x\u00edch. Do v\u1eady, c\u00e1c qu\u00fd b\u00e0, v\u1edbi s\u1ef1 ch\u1ee7 \u00fd, ch\u1ec9 c\u00f3 s\u1ef1 ti\u1ebfn c\u1eed duy nh\u1ea5t l\u00e0 \u201cn\u1ebfu b\u1ea1n mu\u1ed1n l\u00e3ng m\u1ea1n, b\u1ea1n ph\u1ea3i l\u00e3ng m\u1ea1n v\u1edbi b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n m\u00ecnh\u201d.<\/p>\n

                                        C.4. NH\u1eeeNG X\u00daC C\u1ea2M KH\u00c1C NHAU GI\u1eeeA \u0110\u00c0N \u00d4NG V\u00c0 \u0110\u00c0N B\u00c0.<\/p>\n

                                        Trong khi \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng v\u00e0\u00a0 \u0111\u00e0n b\u00e0\u00a0\u0111\u1ec1u c\u00f3\u00a0chung mong mu\u1ed1n v\u1ec1\u00a0gi\u00e1\u00a0 tr\u1ecb\u00a0b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n v\u00e0\u00a0thu\u1ed9c quy\u1ec1n s\u1edf\u00a0h\u1eefu c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh, vi\u1ec7c th\u1ecfa m\u00e3n nh\u1eefng nhu c\u1ea7u n\u00e0y \u0111\u1ed1i v\u1edbi h\u1ecd l\u00e0 ho\u00e0n to\u00e0n kh\u00e1c nhau. \u0110\u00e0n \u00f4ng b\u1eaft ngu\u1ed3n t\u1eeb \u00fd th\u1ee9c v\u1ec1 gi\u00e1 tr\u1ecb c\u0103n b\u1ea3n c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh qua s\u1ef1 n\u1ed5i ti\u1ebfng m\u00e0 anh ta c\u00f3 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c t\u1eeb c\u00f4ng vi\u1ec7c v\u00e0 ngh\u1ec1 nghi\u1ec7p. Anh ta t\u00ecm th\u1ea5y c\u1ea3m gi\u00e1c h\u00e0i l\u00f2ng t\u1eeb nh\u1eefng th\u00e0nh c\u00f4ng trong c\u00f4ng vi\u1ec7c kinh doanh, tr\u1edf n\u00ean \u0111\u1ed9c l\u1eadp v\u1ec1 t\u00e0i ch\u00ednh, anh ta \u0111\u00e3 ph\u00e1t tri\u1ec3n k\u0129 n\u0103ng v\u00e0 ngh\u1ec1 nghi\u1ec7p \u1edf m\u1ee9c \u0111\u00e1ng kh\u00e2m ph\u1ee5c, qu\u1ea3n l\u00fd nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c, tr\u1edf th\u00e0nh \u201cs\u1ebfp\u201d \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c qu\u00fd m\u1ebfn v\u00e0 \u0111\u00e1nh gi\u00e1 cao c\u1ee7a c\u00e1c b\u1ec7nh nh\u00e2n, kh\u00e1ch h\u00e0ng hay \u0111\u00e1m th\u01b0\u01a1ng gia. Ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng n\u00e0y th\u00e0nh c\u00f4ng tr\u00ean nh\u1eefng l\u00e3nh v\u1ef1c n\u00e0y ho\u00e0n to\u00e0n kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ee5 thu\u1ed9c v\u00e0o v\u1ee3 anh ta. Nh\u01b0 th\u1ec3 l\u00e0 t\u1ea5m l\u00e1 ch\u1eafn c\u0103n b\u1ea3n c\u1ee7a anh ta ch\u1ed1ng l\u1ea1i c\u1ea3m gi\u00e1c h\u00e8n k\u00e9m.<\/p>\n

                                        Ch\u1eafc ch\u1eafn c\u00f4\u00a0 ta \u0111\u00f3ng m\u1ed9t vai tr\u00f2 quan tr\u1ecdng nh\u01b0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi b\u1ea7u b\u1ea1n v\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi t\u00ecnh c\u1ee7a anh ta, nh\u01b0ng c\u00f4 ta kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0 y\u1ebfu t\u1ed1 c\u1ea7n thi\u1ebft cho l\u00f2ng t\u1ef1 tr\u1ecdng ng\u00e0y n\u00e0y qua ng\u00e0y kh\u00e1c c\u1ee7a anh ta. T\u00f3m l\u1ea1i ng\u01b0\u1eddi n\u1ed9i tr\u1ee3 b\u1eaft \u0111\u1ea7u gi\u1ea3i quy\u1ebft v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh t\u1eeb vi\u1ec5n c\u1ea3nh ho\u00e0n to\u00e0n kh\u00e1c. C\u00f4 ta kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 ph\u01b0\u01a1ng ti\u1ec7n \u0111\u1ec3 ti\u1ebfp c\u1eadn nh\u1eefng ngu\u1ed3n \u201ckh\u00e1c\u201d v\u1ec1 l\u00f2ng t\u1ef1 tr\u1ecdng th\u00f4ng th\u01b0\u1eddng s\u1eb5n c\u00f3 \u1edf ng\u01b0\u1eddi ch\u1ed3ng c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh. \u0110\u00e2y l\u00e0 l\u00ed do t\u1ea1i sao c\u00f4 ta tr\u1edf n\u00ean ph\u1ea3i d\u1ef1a v\u00e0o ch\u1ed3ng m\u00ecnh h\u01a1n v\u1ec1 vi\u1ec7c th\u1ef1c hi\u1ec7n nh\u1eefng \u01b0\u1edbc mu\u1ed1n n\u00e0y. \u0110\u1ec3 \u0111\u01a1n gi\u1ea3n qu\u00e1 m\u1ee9c t\u00ecnh h\u00ecnh, \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng t\u00ecm th\u1ea5y l\u00f2ng t\u1ef1 tr\u1ecdng t\u1eeb vi\u1ec7c \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c t\u00f4n tr\u1ecdng \u2013 ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y m\u00ecnh c\u00f3 gi\u00e1 tr\u1ecb khi h\u1ecd y\u00eau nhau. Vi\u1ec7c tr\u00ecnh b\u00e0y n\u00e0y l\u00e0 t\u00ednh c\u00e1ch kh\u00e1c bi\u1ec7t c\u00e1 nh\u00e2n quan tr\u1ecdng nh\u1ea5t gi\u1eefa c\u00e1c gi\u1edbi. \u0110\u00e0n \u00f4ng c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 h\u00e0i l\u00f2ng v\u1edbi\u00a0 ki\u1ec3u c\u1ed9ng t\u00e1c trong h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n \u2013 th\u1ee9c \u0103n, \u0111\u1eb7c \u00e2n gi\u1edbi d\u1ee5c v\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 s\u1ef1 r\u1ea7y la n\u00e0o c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 l\u00e0m h\u00e0i l\u00f2ng anh ta. Y\u1ebfu t\u1ed1 l\u00e3ng m\u1ea1n th\u00ec tuy\u1ec7t, nh\u01b0ng kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0 y\u1ebfu t\u1ed1 ch\u00ednh, tuy v\u1eady b\u1ed9 m\u1eb7t quan h\u1ec7 n\u00e0y \u0111\u1ea9y v\u1ee3 anh ta v\u00e0o t\u00e2m tr\u1ea1ng ho\u00e0n to\u00e0n th\u1ea5t v\u1ecdng. C\u00f4 ta c\u1ea7n \u0111i\u1ec1u g\u00ec \u0111\u00f3 c\u00f3 \u00fd ngh\u0129a h\u01a1n, nhi\u1ec1u ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef th\u01b0\u1eddng ao \u01b0\u1edbc m\u00ecnh tr\u1edf th\u00e0nh\u00a0 tr\u00e1i tim ng\u1ecdt ng\u00e0o \u0111\u1eb7c bi\u1ec7t v\u1edbi ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh. H\u1ecd mu\u1ed1n \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c t\u00f4n tr\u1ecdng, v\u00e0 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c y\u00eau th\u01b0\u01a1ng, \u0110\u00e2y l\u00e0 l\u00fd do t\u1ea1i sao ng\u01b0\u1eddi n\u1ed9i tr\u1ee3 th\u01b0\u1eddng ngh\u0129 v\u1ec1 ch\u1ed3ng m\u00ecnh v\u00e0 thi\u1ebft tha mong \u0111\u1ee3i ch\u1ed3ng m\u00ecnh v\u1ec1. N\u00f3 c\u0169ng gi\u1ea3i th\u00edch t\u1ea1i sao k\u1ec9 ni\u1ec7m l\u1ec5 c\u01b0\u1edbi c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd l\u1ea1i quan tr\u1ecdng v\u1edbi c\u00f4 ta \u0111\u1ebfn th\u1ebf v\u00e0 t\u1ea1i sao anh ta l\u1ea1i b\u1ecb \u0111\u00e1nh b\u1ea1i ho\u00e0n to\u00e0n khi qu\u00ean m\u1ea5t ng\u00e0y \u0111\u00f3. N\u00f3 c\u0169ng l\u00fd gi\u1ea3i t\u1ea1i sao c\u00f4 ta li\u00ean t\u1ee5c n\u1eafm l\u1ea5y anh ta l\u00f4i anh ta ra kh\u1ecfi m\u00e0n h\u00ecnh tivi v\u00e0 \u0111\u1ed3ng b\u00e0o. N\u00f3 l\u00fd gi\u1ea3i t\u1ea1i sao s\u1ef1 v\u1eafng m\u1eb7t c\u1ee7a l\u00e3ng m\u1ea1n \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c \u0111\u00e1nh gi\u00e1 l\u00e0 t\u1ed3i t\u1ec7 h\u01a1n v\u1edbi ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef v\u00e0 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c coi nh\u1eb9 h\u01a1n \u0111\u1ed1i v\u1edbi \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng.<\/p>\n

                                        H\u00e3y \u0111\u1ed1i m\u1eb7t v\u1edbi th\u1ef1c t\u1ebf cho d\u00f9 cu\u1ed1n s\u00e1ch n\u00e0y do \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng vi\u1ebft, nh\u01b0ng th\u1ef1c ra ch\u1ec9 c\u00f3 kho\u1ea3ng 20% \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng th\u00edch \u0111\u1ecdc n\u00f3 m\u00e0 th\u00f4i. Ng\u01b0\u1eddi ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef th\u01b0\u1eddng c\u1ed1 g\u1eafng x\u00e2y d\u1ef1ng (vun \u0111\u1eafp) l\u1ea1i m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 (v\u00e0 l\u00e0m l\u1ea1i). C\u1ea3nh kh\u1ed1n kh\u00f3 c\u1ee7a ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef l\u00e0 ch\u1ed3ng m\u00ecnh \u201cch\u1eafc l\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng l\u00e0m\u201d l\u00e0 r\u1ea5t th\u1ef1c. V\u00e0i m\u00e1ch n\u01b0\u1edbc v\u00ec s\u1ef1 c\u1ea7n thi\u1ebft khi n\u00e0o c\u00f4 ta ph\u1ea3i chuy\u1ec3n c\u1ea3m x\u00fac c\u1ee7a c\u00f4\u00a0 t\u1edbi ch\u1ed3ng sau khi suy ngh\u0129 ch\u00edn ch\u1eafn v\u1ec1 r\u00e0o c\u1ea3n ng\u00f4n t\u1eeb trong giao ti\u1ebfp \u0111\u00f3 kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0 nh\u1eefng g\u00ec t\u00f4i h\u00e0m \u00fd. C\u00e1ch n\u00e0y kh\u00f4ng t\u1ea1o ra s\u1ef1 c\u00e0u nh\u00e0u v\u00e0 c\u1eb1n nh\u1eb1n s\u1ebd d\u1eebng cu\u1ed9c giao ti\u1ebfp v\u1edbi m\u1ed9t hi\u1ec7u l\u1ef1c kinh ng\u1ea1c. S\u1ef1 giao ti\u1ebfp th\u01b0\u1eddng ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0 v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 c\u1ee7a th\u1eddi gian, ho\u00e0n c\u1ea3nh th\u00e1i \u0111\u1ed9, vi\u1ec7c s\u1eed d\u1ee5ng th\u00edch h\u1ee3p 3 y\u1ebfu t\u1ed1 n\u00e0y kh\u00f4ng ch\u1ec9 gi\u00fap b\u1ea1n tr\u00e1nh \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c s\u1ef1 c\u1eb1n nh\u1eb1n nh\u01b0ng tr\u01b0\u1edbc h\u1ebft anh ta s\u1ebd nghe b\u1ea1n v\u00e0 sau \u0111\u00f3 ph\u1ea3i suy ngh\u0129 k\u0129 nh\u1eefng g\u00ec b\u1ea1n \u0111ang n\u00f3i. \u0110\u00e2y l\u00e0 m\u1ee5c \u0111\u00edch th\u1ef1c c\u1ee7a giao ti\u1ebfp, c\u00f3 l\u1ee3i g\u00ec khi b\u1ea1n n\u00f3i nh\u1eefng l\u1eddi t\u1ed1t \u0111\u1eb9p m\u00e0 anh ta kh\u00f4ng s\u1eb5n l\u00f2ng nghe b\u1ea1n? C\u00f3 \u00edch g\u00ec khi b\u1ea1n c\u00f3 l\u1eddi khuy\u00ean hay nh\u01b0ng anh ta kh\u00f4ng s\u1eb5n s\u00e0ng suy ngh\u0129 th\u1ea5u \u0111\u00e1o v\u1ec1 ch\u00fang? \u0110\u00f4i khi b\u1ea1n ph\u1ea3i nh\u1edb r\u1eb1ng b\u1ea1n \u0111ang ph\u1ea3i c\u1ed1 g\u1eafng m\u1ed9t m\u00ecnh \u0111\u00f3 \u2013 c\u00f2n ch\u1ed3ng th\u00ec \u0111ang \u1edf trong th\u00e0nh tr\u00ec c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh, anh ta mu\u1ed1n b\u00ecnh an v\u00e0 ngh\u1ec9 ng\u01a1i v\u00e0 anh ta \u0111\u00e3 k\u00e9o c\u1ea7u l\u00ean kh\u00f4ng cho ai qu\u1ea5y r\u1ea7y m\u00ecnh n\u1eefa. Nh\u1eefng c\u1ed1 g\u1eafng c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n gi\u1ed1ng nh\u01b0 l\u1eddi \u0111e d\u1ecda \u0111\u1ebfn s\u1ef1 b\u00ecnh an trong t\u00e2m tr\u00ed c\u1ee7a anh ta, do v\u1eady anh ta b\u1ecbt tai v\u00e0 anh ta chuy\u1ec3n b\u1ed9 \u00f3c c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh sang\u00a0 t\u1ea7n s\u1ed1 kh\u00e1c. T\u1ea5t c\u1ea3 \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng kh\u00f4ng s\u1edbm th\u00ec mu\u1ed9n c\u0169ng s\u1ebd ph\u00e1t huy\u00a0 kh\u1ea3 n\u0103ng \u0111\u1eb7c bi\u1ec7t chuy\u1ec3n s\u00f3ng khi v\u1ee3 b\u1eaft \u0111\u1ea7u c\u00e0u nh\u00e0u. Do v\u1eady, s\u1ef1 l\u0129nh h\u1ed9i v\u00e0 s\u1eb5n l\u00f2ng c\u1ee7a anh ta s\u1ebd t\u01b0\u01a1ng x\u1ee9ng v\u1edbi th\u00e0nh c\u00f4ng c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n. N\u1ebfu b\u1ea1n th\u00e0nh c\u00f4ng, b\u1ea1n s\u1ebd c\u00f3 th\u00eam thu\u1eadn l\u1ee3i l\u00e0 anh ta s\u1ebd t\u00ecm ki\u1ebfm th\u00f4ng giao c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n h\u01a1n n\u1eefa. Do \u0111\u00f3 h\u00e3y ti\u1ebfn t\u1edbi th\u1ef1c hi\u1ec7n \u0111i\u1ec1u n\u00e0y.<\/p>\n

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                                        1. TH\u1edcI GIAN.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

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                                          H\u00e3y ch\u1ecdn gi\u00e2y ph\u00fat n\u00e0o\u00a0\u0111\u00f3 khi ch\u1ed3ng m\u00ecnh th\u1ea5y\u00a0\u0111\u1eb7c \u0111i\u1ec3m d\u1ec5\u00a0sai khi\u1ebfn h\u01a1n v\u00e0\u00a0vui v\u1ebb\u00a0h\u01a1n. \u0110i\u1ec1u n\u00e0y b\u1ea1n ph\u1ea3i nh\u1eadn ra n\u00f3 c\u00f3 s\u1ef1 kh\u00e1c nhau v\u00e0 \u0111\u1ed9c nh\u1ea5t v\u1edbi m\u1ed7i \u00f4ng ch\u1ed3ng, 1 trong nh\u1eefng c\u00e1ch \u0111\u1ec3 nh\u1eadn ra \u201ckhi n\u00e0o\u201d l\u00e0 do s\u1ef1 quan s\u00e1t 2 ph\u1ea3n \u1ee9ng sau:<\/p>\n

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                                          1. N\u1ebfu trong 1 th\u1eddi gian nh\u1ea5t\u00a0\u0111\u1ecbnh v\u00e0\u00a0th\u1eddi\u00a0\u0111i\u1ec3m nh\u1ea5t\u00a0\u0111\u1ecbnh v\u00e0\u00a0g\u00e2y ra c\u00e0u nh\u00e0u\u00a0\u2013\u00a0sau \u0111\u00f3. \u0110\u00e2y s\u1ebd\u00a0 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c coi l\u00e0\u00a0kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3\u00a0thi\u1ec7n ch\u00ed, l\u1ea5y c\u00e1i ph\u1ea3n \u1ee9ng n\u00e0y nh\u01b0 l\u00e0 1 manh m\u1ed1i c\u00f3 gi\u00e1 tr\u1ecb.<\/li>\n
                                          2. Ng\u01b0\u1ee3c l\u1ea1i v\u00e0o th\u1eddi gian v\u00e0 \u0111\u1ecba \u0111i\u1ec3m kh\u00e1c t\u1ea1o ra \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c \u0111\u00e1p tr\u1ea3 s\u1ef1 thu\u1eadn l\u1ee3i. B\u1ea1n h\u00e3y s\u1eafp x\u1ebfp v\u00e0 gi\u1ea3i quy\u1ebft v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1. N\u1ebfu b\u1ea1n t\u1ea5n c\u00f4ng \u0111\u00fang th\u1eddi \u0111i\u1ec3m nh\u1eefng kh\u00fac m\u1eafc v\u1edbi anh ta th\u00ec \u0111\u00e2y l\u00e0 l\u00fd do ch\u00ednh \u0111\u00e1ng \u0111\u1ec3 vui v\u1ebb, r\u1ea5t vui v\u1ebb l\u00e0 \u0111\u1eb1ng kh\u00e1c. Ch\u00fang ta c\u1ea7n nh\u1eefng gi\u00e2y ph\u00fat vui v\u1ebb n\u00e0y \u0111\u1ec3 c\u1ee7ng c\u1ed1 v\u00e0 khuy\u1ebfn kh\u00edch ch\u00fang ta \u0111\u1eebng qu\u00ean ng\u01b0\u1eddi ch\u1ed3ng c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh nh\u00e9, h\u00e3y \u0111\u1ec3 s\u1ef1 vui m\u1eebng b\u00f3p ngh\u1eb9t anh ta! \u2013 anh ta c\u0169ng ph\u1ea3i c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y vui v\u1ebb \u0111\u1ec3 c\u00f2n s\u1ebd t\u1ed1t v\u1edbi b\u1ea1n h\u01a1n n\u1eefa. T\u1ea1o cho c\u1ea3 2 c\u00f3 kh\u1ea3 n\u0103ng ch\u1ecbu \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c \u0111\u1ec3 m\u00e0 ti\u1ebfp t\u1ee5c v\u00e0 c\u1ea3i thi\u1ec7n m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 gi\u1eefa v\u1ee3 v\u00e0 ch\u1ed3ng. Kh\u1ea3 n\u0103ng d\u1eabn t\u1edbi th\u00e0nh c\u00f4ng n\u00e0y ch\u00ednh l\u00e0 s\u1ef1 th\u00f4ng minh c\u1ee7a Ch\u00faa \u0111\u00e3 \u0111\u1eb7t s\u1eb5n trong m\u1ed7i ng\u01b0\u1eddi ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

                                            Trang b\u1ecb\u00a0ki\u1ebfn th\u1ee9c\u00a0\u0111\u1ec3\u00a0\u0111\u1ea1t t\u1edbi th\u00e0nh c\u00f4ng, n\u00f3\u00a0n\u1eb1m trong t\u1ea7m v\u1edbi c\u1ee7a c\u00e1c b\u00e0\u00a0v\u1ee3. B\u1ea1n c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 \u0111em h\u1ebft s\u1ee9c m\u00ecnh ra b\u1eb1ng c\u1ea3 tr\u00e1i tim v\u00e0 t\u00e2m h\u1ed3n \u0111\u1ec3 \u0111\u01b0a anh \u1ea5y v\u1ec1 v\u1edbi m\u00ecnh. D\u1ea7n d\u1ea7n anh \u1ea5y s\u1ebd chuy\u1ec3n t\u1ea7n s\u00f3ng v\u1ec1 v\u1edbi m\u00ecnh.<\/p>\n

                                            \u00dd ngh\u0129 t\u1eadn trong th\u00e2m t\u00e2m c\u1ee7a anh \u1ea5y ch\u00ednh l\u00e0 kh\u00e9p k\u00edn l\u1ea1i trong t\u01b0 t\u01b0\u1edfng v\u00e0\u00a0 \u0111\u00f3ng c\u1eeda ph\u00e1o \u0111\u00e0i l\u1ea1i; nh\u01b0\u00a0\u0111\u00e3 t\u1eebng nh\u01b0 th\u1ebf, anh \u1ea5y s\u1ebd h\u1ea1 chi\u1ebfc c\u1ea7u \u0111\u00f3 xu\u1ed1ng th\u1ea5p h\u01a1n, c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 ch\u1ec9 1 t\u00ed, h\u00e3y cho anh \u1ea5y th\u1eddi gian, \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng th\u01b0\u1eddng c\u1ee9ng nh\u1eafc trong suy ngh\u0129. H\u1ecd kh\u00f4ng \u01b0\u01a1ng ng\u1ea1nh nh\u01b0ng ch\u1ec9 kh\u00f4ng m\u1ec1m d\u1ebbo th\u00f4i. \u0110\u00e2y l\u00e0 y\u1ebfu t\u1ed1 l\u00e0m cho kh\u1ea3 n\u0103ng h\u1ecd gi\u1eef nguy\u00ean 1 c\u00f4ng vi\u1ec7c trong nh\u1eefng kh\u00f3 kh\u0103n c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd v\u00e0 ngay c\u1ea3 trong th\u1ebf gi\u1edbi ngh\u1ec1 nghi\u1ec7p \u0111\u1ea7y th\u1eed th\u00e1ch. N\u1ebfu \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 kh\u1ea3 n\u0103ng c\u1ee9ng nh\u1eafc, khi g\u1eb7p kh\u00f3 kh\u0103n ng\u01b0\u1eddi ch\u1ed3ng s\u1ebd kh\u00f3c khi v\u1ec1 \u0111\u1ebfn nh\u00e0 v\u00e0 s\u1ebd t\u1eeb ch\u1ed1i \u0111\u1ed1i m\u1eb7t v\u1edbi vi\u1ec7c \u0111\u00f3 h\u00e0ng ng\u00e0y. Th\u1ef1c t\u1ebf r\u1eb1ng anh ta b\u1eaft \u0111\u1ea7u nghe m\u00ecnh \u0111\u00e3 l\u00e0 1 th\u00e0nh c\u00f4ng v\u00f4 c\u00f9ng to l\u1edbn, gi\u1edd \u0111\u00e2y b\u1ea1n ch\u1ec9 vi\u1ec7c x\u00e2y \u0111\u1eafp n\u00f3 m\u00e0 th\u00f4i.<\/p>\n

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                                            1. H\u00e3y n\u00f3i ngh\u1eb9\u00a0 nh\u00e0ng v\u1edbi anh \u1ea5y r\u1eb1ng b\u1ea1n\u00a0\u0111ang mu\u1ed1n t\u00ecm hi\u1ec3u\u00a0 \u0111\u1ec3 hi\u1ec3u\u00a0\u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c anh \u1ea5y h\u01a1n v\u00e0\u00a0\u0111ang c\u1ed1\u00a0g\u1eafng nh\u1eadn ra khi n\u00e0o anh \u1ea5y\u00a0\u00edt b\u1ef1c m\u00ecnh nh\u1ea5t\u00a0\u0111\u1ec3 b\u1ea1n c\u00f3\u00a0th\u1ec3\u00a0n\u00f3i v\u1ec1\u00a0nh\u1eefng ch\u1ee7\u00a0\u0111\u1ec1 kh\u00f3\u00a0 kh\u0103n. Anh \u1ea5y s\u1ebd\u00a0th\u1ea5y m\u00ecnh \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c tang l\u00ean trong n\u1eeda \u0111\u1ea7u c\u1ee7a c\u00e2u chuy\u1ec7n v\u00e0 anh \u1ea5y s\u1ebd nhanh ch\u00f3ng n\u00f3i v\u1edbi b\u1ea1n l\u00e0 anh \u1ea5y lu\u00f4n b\u1ecb b\u1ef1c m\u00ecnh khi b\u1ea1n mu\u1ed1n g\u1ea1 g\u1eabm anh \u1ea5y n\u00f3i v\u1ec1 ch\u1ee7 \u0111\u1ec1 kh\u00f3 kh\u0103n (b\u1ee9c x\u00fac). N\u1ebfu b\u1ea1n n\u1edf n\u1ee5 c\u01b0\u1eddi t\u01b0\u01a1i t\u1eafn, anh \u1ea5y s\u1ebd m\u1edf \u0111\u01b0\u1eddng cho b\u1ea1n ngay.<\/li>\n
                                            2. Sau khi b\u1ea1n \u0111\u00e3 \u0111\u1ea1t m\u1ed9t s\u1ed1 th\u00e0nh c\u00f4ng, khuy\u1ebfn kh\u00edch anh \u1ea5y; n\u00f3i v\u1edbi anh \u1ea5y \u201cem th\u1ea5y r\u1ea5t vui khi ch\u00fang ta n\u00f3i v\u1ec1 ch\u1ee7 \u0111\u1ec1 kh\u00f3 kh\u0103n \u1ea5y\u2026 Em th\u1ea5y r\u1ea5t h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac khi th\u1ea5y anh th\u1ec3 hi\u1eb9n r\u1ea5t h\u00e0o h\u1ee9ng.. Em th\u00e0nh th\u1eadt c\u1ea3m \u01a1n anh khi anh l\u00e0m cho em c\u00f3 c\u1ea3m gi\u00e1c tho\u1ea3i m\u00e1i h\u01a1n\u201d. Ngay c\u1ea3 ch\u00fang ta ch\u01b0a gi\u1ea3i quy\u1ebft \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c m\u1ecdi th\u1ee9 nh\u01b0ng s\u1ef1 kh\u1edfi \u0111\u1ea7u n\u00e0y r\u1ea5t \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c khuy\u1ebfn kh\u00edch.<\/li>\n
                                            3. B\u1ea1n c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 h\u1ecfi anh \u1ea5y \u201cN\u1ebfu \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c, ch\u00fang ta s\u1ebd ch\u1ecdn \u0111\u00fang th\u1eddi \u0111i\u1ec3m v\u00e0 \u0111\u1ecba \u0111i\u1ec3m nh\u01b0 l\u1ea7n tr\u01b0\u1edbc \u0111\u1ec3 ch\u00fang ta c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 n\u00f3i v\u1ec1 nh\u1eefng ch\u1ee7 \u0111\u1ec1 kh\u00f3 kh\u0103n n\u00e0y \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c kh\u00f4ng anh?\u201d. M\u1ed9t c\u00e2u h\u1ecfi chung chung s\u1ebd \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c anh \u0111\u00e1p l\u1ea1i c\u0169ng trung th\u1ef1c v\u00e0 t\u00f4n tr\u1ecdng nh\u01b0 v\u1eady.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

                                              C\u00f9ng c\u00e2u h\u1ecfi trung th\u1ef1c nh\u01b0\u00a0n\u00e0y s\u1ebd\u00a0l\u00e0m anh \u1ea5y h\u1ea1\u00a0th\u1ea5p\u00a0 \u201cchi\u1ebfc c\u1ea7u\u201d\u00a0xu\u1ed1ng th\u1ea5p h\u01a1n m\u1ed9t ch\u00fat n\u1eefa. C\u00f9ng l\u00fac\u00a0\u0111\u00f3, b\u1ea1n c\u0169ng \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c coi nh\u01b0\u00a0\u0111ang d\u1ea7n d\u1ea7n ti\u1ebfn v\u00e0o\u00a0\u201cph\u00e1o\u00a0\u0111\u00e0i c\u1ee7a anh \u1ea5y\u201d. B\u1ea1n s\u1ebd\u00a0 d\u1ea7n d\u1ea7n g\u1ee1\u00a0b\u1ecf \u201cdanh s\u00e1ch k\u1ebb x\u00e2m nh\u1eadp\u201d, v\u00e0 s\u1ebd \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c \u0111\u1eb7t v\u00e0o \u201cdanh m\u1ee5c nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c m\u1eddi\u201d.<\/p>\n

                                              R\u1ed1t cu\u1ed9c, h\u00ecnh \u1ea3nh nh\u01b0\u00a0v\u1eady s\u1ebd\u00a0tr\u1edf\u00a0th\u00e0nh \u201cb\u1ea7u b\u1ea1n\u201d\u00a0c\u00f3\u00a0 \u00fd\u00a0ngh\u0129a b\u00ecnh an v\u00e0\u00a0t\u1ed1t\u00a0\u0111\u1eb9p c\u1ee7a anh \u1ea5y.<\/p>\n

                                              Nhi\u1ec1u ph\u1ee5\u00a0n\u1eef\u00a0 ngh\u0129\u00a0r\u1eb1ng chi\u1ebfc nh\u1eabn c\u01b0\u1edbi \u0111\u00e3 t\u1ef1\u00a0\u0111\u1ed9ng \u0111\u01b0a h\u1ecd\u00a0tr\u1edf\u00a0th\u00e0nh h\u00ecnh \u1ea3nh \u0111\u00f3. Th\u1ef1c s\u1ef1 chi\u1ebfc nh\u1eabn c\u01b0\u1edbi ch\u1ec9 \u0111em l\u1ea1i cho h\u1ecd \u0111\u1eb7c quy\u1ec1n \u0111\u1ec3 \u201cc\u1ed1 g\u1eafng\u201d v\u00e0 \u201ct\u1ea1o d\u1ef1ng\u201d h\u00ecnh \u1ea3nh \u0111\u00f3 th\u00f4i. V\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 n\u00e0y s\u1ebd tr\u1edf n\u00ean th\u00e1ch th\u1ee9c h\u01a1n \u0111\u1ed1i v\u1edbi nh\u1eefng v\u1ee3 ch\u1ed3ng ch\u1ec9 c\u00f3 m\u1ed9t con duy nh\u1ea5t. Nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng n\u00e0y s\u1ed1ng nh\u01b0 nh\u1eefng k\u1ebb \u201clang thang c\u00f4 \u0111\u01a1n, h\u1ecd ch\u1eb3ng c\u00f3 ai \u0111\u1ec3 cho n\u00f3 l\u1ecdt v\u00e0o cu\u1ed9c \u0111\u1eddi c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd c\u1ea3. V\u00ec v\u1eady, h\u1ecd kh\u00f4ng bi\u1ebft \u0111i\u1ec1u g\u00ec \u0111\u1ec3 cho ph\u00e9p con ng\u01b0\u1eddi th\u00e2m nh\u1eadp v\u00e0o n\u01a1i s\u00e2u th\u1eb3m c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd. Nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi n\u00e0y c\u0169ng \u0111\u00e3 l\u1edbn l\u00ean trong nh\u1eefng ng\u00f4i tr\u01b0\u1eddng n\u1ed9i tr\u00fa v\u00e0 kh\u00e1ch s\u1ea1n, h\u1ecd x\u00e2y d\u1ef1ng nh\u1eefng h\u00e0o r\u00e0o ng\u0103n c\u00e1ch ch\u1eafc ch\u1eafn h\u01a1n. Nh\u01b0 m\u1ed9t s\u1ed1 ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef c\u00f3 m\u1ed9t s\u1ed1 k\u0129 n\u0103ng b\u1ea9m sinh \u0111\u1ec3 chi\u1ebfm l\u1ea5y tr\u00e1i tim ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng, nh\u01b0 m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi v\u1ee3, b\u1ea1n c\u00f3 gi\u1ea5y ph\u00e9p \u0111\u1ec3 tr\u1edf n\u00ean \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c ch\u1ea5p nh\u1eadn \u0111i v\u00e0o \u201cph\u00e1o \u0111\u00e0i\u201d c\u1ee7a anh \u1ea5y, b\u1ea1n \u0111ang \u0111\u1ea5u tranh m\u00e3nh li\u1ec7t v\u1edbi th\u1ebf gi\u1edbi b\u00ean ngo\u00e0i, gi\u1ea3i quy\u1ebft t\u1ea5t c\u1ea3 nh\u1eefng sai l\u1ea7m, v\u00e0 ph\u1ea3i ng\u0103n ch\u1eb7n kh\u00f4ng cho \u0111\u1ed1i ph\u01b0\u01a1ng can thi\u1ec7p v\u00e0o h\u01b0 k\u1ebb g\u00e2y r\u1eafc r\u1ed1i. Gi\u1edd \u0111\u00e2y, b\u1ea1n \u0111\u00e3 \u0111\u1ea1t \u0111\u1ebfn giai \u0111o\u1ea1n c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 ti\u1ebfn v\u00e0o ph\u00e1o \u0111\u00e0i c\u1ee7a anh \u1ea5y v\u1edbi ni\u1ec1m vinh d\u1ef1.<\/p>\n

                                              Xin nh\u1edb\u00a0cho r\u1eb1ng b\u1ea1n m\u1edbi ch\u1ec9\u00a0ti\u1ebfn v\u00e0o trong ph\u00e1o\u00a0\u0111\u00e0i c\u1ee7a anh \u1ea5y th\u00f4i\u00a0\u0111\u00f3. Trong ph\u00e1o\u00a0\u0111\u00e0i, b\u1ea1n\u00a0ph\u1ea3i t\u00ecm ra \u201canh \u1ea5y\u201d. C\u00f3 nhi\u1ec1u m\u00ea cung trong l\u00e2u \u0111\u00e0i n\u00e0y, n\u00f3 \u0111\u00e3 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c h\u00ecnh th\u00e0nh qua nhi\u1ec1u n\u0103m th\u00e1ng, qua nh\u1eefng tr\u1ea3i nghi\u1ec7m gi\u00e1o d\u1ee5c, tr\u01b0\u1eddng h\u1ecdc v\u00e0 nh\u1eefng \u00e1p l\u1ef1c th\u1eddi gian v\u00e0 nh\u1eefng y\u1ebfu t\u1ed1 \u1ea3nh h\u01b0\u1edfng kh\u00e1c. B\u1ea1n ph\u1ea3i t\u00ecm ra \u201canh \u1ea5y\u201d t\u1eeb th\u1eddi \u0111i\u1ec3m n\u00e0y tr\u1edf \u0111i, b\u1ea1n kh\u00f4ng c\u00f2n ph\u1ea3i \u0111i m\u1ed9t m\u00ecnh n\u1eefa, gi\u1edd b\u1ea1n c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 y\u00ean t\u00e2m. Anh \u1ea5y \u201cth\u1ebf n\u00e0o\u201d, \u201ckhi n\u00e0o\u201d v\u00e0 \u201cc\u00e1ch t\u1ed1t nh\u1ea5t\u201d. \u0110\u1ec3 truy\u1ec1n \u0111\u1ea1t t\u1edbi anh \u1ea5y, b\u1ea1n s\u1ebd ph\u1ea3i c\u00f3 m\u1ed9t k\u1ebf ho\u1ea1ch chi ti\u1ebft v\u1ec1 s\u1ef1 th\u00e0nh c\u00f4ng t\u1eeb nh\u1eefng ngu\u1ed3n th\u00f4ng tin \u0111\u00e1ng tin c\u1eady. C\u00f2n vi\u1ec7c g\u00ec kh\u00e1c n\u1eefa m\u00e0 c\u00e1c b\u00e0 v\u1ee3 mong mu\u1ed1n? \u0110i\u1ec1u g\u00ec l\u00e0 quan tr\u1ecdng l\u1ea1i ph\u1ee5 thu\u1ed9c v\u00e0o ch\u00ednh quan \u0111i\u1ec3m c\u1ee7a ch\u00fang ta.<\/p>\n

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                                              1. Vi\u1ec7c th\u1ecfa lu\u1eadn c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n kh\u00f4ng n\u00ean\u00a0\u0111\u1eb7t\u00a0\u201cb\u1ea3n th\u00e2n b\u1ea1n m\u00e0\u00a0 ph\u1ea3i tr\u00ean anh \u1ea5y\u201d. Sau h\u1ebft, b\u1ea1n mu\u1ed1n nh\u1eadn th\u1ea5y khi n\u00e0o b\u1ea1n c\u00f3\u00a0th\u1ec3\u00a0ti\u1ebfp c\u1eadn anh \u1ea5y t\u1ed1t nh\u1ea5t.<\/li>\n
                                              2. V\u01b0\u1ee3t tr\u00ean c\u1ea3 m\u1ecdi s\u1ef1 nghi ng\u1edd, b\u1ea1n s\u1ebd m\u1eafc nhi\u1ec1u sai l\u1ea7m \u0111\u1ec3 t\u00ecm ra t\u1edbi \u0111i\u1ec3m th\u00edch h\u1ee3p V\u00e0 sau \u0111\u00f3, b\u1ea1n ngh\u0129 b\u1ea1n \u0111\u00e3 t\u00ecm ra, b\u1ea1n c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 th\u1ea5y r\u1eb1ng n\u00f3 th\u1ef1c s\u1ef1 kh\u00f4ng thu\u1eadn l\u1ee3i. D\u1ea5u hi\u1ec7u nh\u1ea7m l\u1eabn \u0111\u00f3 kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0 \u0111i\u1ec1u ng\u1edb ng\u1ea9n, ch\u00fang l\u00e0 nh\u1eefng d\u1ea5u hi\u1ec7u c\u00f3 gi\u00e1 tr\u1ecb, n\u00f3 n\u00f3i v\u1edbi b\u1ea1n r\u1eb1ng v\u00e0o l\u00fac n\u00e0o v\u00e0 v\u00e0o \u0111\u1ecba \u0111i\u1ec3m n\u00e0o s\u1ebd \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c lo\u1ea1i b\u1ecf ra kh\u1ecfi danh s\u00e1ch kh\u1ea3 d\u0129 nh\u1ea5t . B\u1ea1n \u0111ang nh\u1eadn ra nhi\u1ec1u h\u01a1n con \u0111\u01b0\u1eddng ph\u1ee9c t\u1ea1p c\u1ee7a ch\u1ed3ng m\u00ecnh. \u0110\u00f3 l\u00e0 con \u0111\u01b0\u1eddng \u0111\u1ed3ng d\u1ea1ng \u0111\u1ec3 quan s\u00e1t do c\u00e1c nh\u00e0 khoa h\u1ecdc nghi\u00ean c\u1ee9u \u2013 c\u00e1i \u0111\u1ea7u l\u1ea1nh l\u00f9ng; quy\u1ebft ch\u00ed \u0111\u1ec3 t\u00ecm v\u00e0 t\u00ednh ki\u00ean tr\u00ec ch\u00ednh l\u00e0 ch\u00eca kh\u00f3a d\u1eabn t\u1edbi th\u00e0nh c\u00f4ng.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

                                                N\u1ebfu ta nh\u00ecn l\u1ea1i nh\u01b0\u00a0\u0111\u1ec1 xu\u1ea5t m\u00e0\u00a0t\u00f4i\u00a0\u0111\u00e3\u00a0\u0111\u1ec1 c\u1eadp\u00a0 \u0111\u1ea7u ti\u00ean, s\u1ebd th\u1ea5y: \u201cth\u1eddi\u00a0\u0111i\u1ec3m\u201d\u00a0v\u00e0\u00a0sau \u0111\u00f3 h\u1ecfi anh \u1ea5y khi n\u00e0o\u00a0ph\u00f9\u00a0h\u1ee3p. Th\u1ef1c hi\u1ec7n n\u00f3\u00a0 theo tr\u00ecnh t\u1ef1\u00a0ng\u01b0\u1ee3c l\u1ea1i th\u01b0\u1eddng \u00a0kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3\u00a0 s\u1ef1\u00a0gi\u00fap s\u1ee9c v\u00ec\u00a0\u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng s\u1ebd t\u1ea1o ra cu\u1ed9c g\u1eb7p g\u1ee1 \u1edf \u0111\u00e2u \u0111\u00f3 theo l\u1ecbch tr\u00ecnh c\u1ee7a anh \u1ea5y. N\u00f3 th\u01b0\u1eddng l\u00e0 \u0111o\u1ea1n ti\u1ebft hay c\u1ee7a ngh\u1ec7 thu\u1eadt g\u1eb7p m\u1eb7t ph\u00f9 h\u1ee3p v\u1edbi khung th\u1eddi gian (ch\u00fang ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0 v\u1eady, n\u1ebfu h\u1ecd th\u00e0nh c\u00f4ng trong th\u1ebf gi\u1edbi kinh doanh cu\u1ed3ng nhi\u1ec7t). Anh \u1ea5y s\u1ebd c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y \u0111\u01a1n gi\u1ea3n l\u00e0 d\u00e0nh cho b\u1ea1n m\u1ed9t l\u1ecbch tr\u00ecnh \u2013 anh \u1ea5y s\u1ebd cho b\u1ea1n m\u1ed9t th\u1eddi gian g\u1ea5p g\u00e1p, \u0111\u00f4i ph\u00fat th\u1eadt b\u1ea5t ti\u1ec7n vf\u1edbi b\u1ea1n \u0111\u1ec3 b\u1ea1n c\u1edfi m\u1edf tr\u00e1i tim m\u00ecnh m\u1ed9t c\u00e1ch tho\u1ea3i m\u00e1i, v\u00e0 anh \u1ea5y s\u1ebd ng\u1ed3i su\u1ed1t cu\u1ed9c g\u1eb7p g\u1ee1 v\u1edbi t\u00e2m tr\u1ea1ng kh\u00f4ng ki\u00ean nh\u1eabn. Hay c\u00e1ch kh\u00e1c, anh ta s\u1ebd d\u00e0nh cho b\u1ea1n m\u1ed9t kho\u1ea3ng th\u1eddi gian t\u1ea1i th\u1eddi \u0111i\u1ec3m m\u00e0 anh \u1ea5y \u0111\u00e3 \u0111i\u1ec1u ch\u1ec9nh tho\u00e1t kh\u1ecfi vi\u1ec7c tham d\u1ef1 ho\u1ea1t \u0111\u1ed9ng tinh th\u1ea7n. \u0110\u00fang th\u1eadt, anh \u1ea5y s\u1ebd t\u1ea1o cho b\u1ea1n m\u1ed9t \u1ea5n t\u01b0\u1ee3ng l\u00e0 ch\u1eb3ng c\u00f3 g\u00ec \u0111\u1ec3 th\u1ea3o lu\u1eadn. Anh \u1ea5y ch\u1ec9 mu\u1ed1n t\u1ea5t c\u1ea3 c\u00e1c \u0111i\u1ec3m \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c ghi th\u00e0nh t\u1eebng kho\u1ea3n v\u00e0 tr\u00ecnh ra m\u1ed9t c\u00e1ch ch\u00ednh x\u00e1c v\u00e0 th\u00f4ng minh \u0111\u1ec3 anh \u1ea5y c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 l\u1ecdc ra m\u1ed7i \u0111i\u1ec3m v\u1edbi m\u1ed9t c\u00e2u l\u00e0 \u201cc\u00f3\u201d, \u201ckh\u00f4ng\u201d \u201cc\u00f3 l\u1ebd\u201d hay \u201ct\u00ed n\u1eefa\u201d. Thi\u1ebfu minh b\u1ea1ch hay thi\u1ebfu t\u00ednh ch\u1eb7t ch\u1ebd trong c\u00e1ch th\u1ec3 hi\u1ec7n s\u1ebd l\u00e0m anh \u1ea5y ph\u00e1t c\u00e1u. Ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef, b\u1eb1ng c\u00e1ch t\u1ef1 nhi\u00ean, h\u1ecd d\u1ec5 d\u00e0ng h\u01a1n trong vi\u1ec7c th\u00edch nghi v\u1edbi nh\u1eefng t\u00ecnh hu\u1ed1ng \u0111\u1eb7c bi\u1ec7t, c\u00f2n \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng th\u00ec kh\u00f4ng. H\u1ecd th\u1eadt kh\u00f4 c\u1ee9ng, ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef th\u01b0\u1eddng c\u00f3 xu h\u01b0\u1edbng ph\u1ea3n \u1ee9ng v\u1edbi t\u00ecnh hu\u1ed1ng theo c\u0103n b\u1ea3n l\u00e0 \u1eb3t\u1edbc m\u1eaft\u201d. \u0110\u00e0n \u00f4ng c\u1ed1 c\u1ea5u tr\u00fac n\u00f3 th\u00e0nh khung th\u1eddi gian. \u0110\u00e0n \u00f4ng th\u00edch \u0111\u01b0a ch\u00fang v\u00e0o th\u00f3i quen h\u00e0ng ng\u00e0y. \u0110\u01b0\u1ee3c ti\u1ebfp gi\u00e1p ranh gi\u1edbi v\u1edbi th\u1eddi \u0111i\u1ec3m v\u00e0 \u0111\u1ecba \u0111i\u1ec3m. \u0110\u00f3 l\u00e0 l\u00fd do l\u00e0m th\u1ebf n\u00e0o kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 g\u00ec hay nh\u1eefng t\u00ecnh hu\u1ed1ng \u0111\u1eb7c bi\u1ec7t \u1edf \u0111\u00f3 nhi\u1ec1u trong s\u1ed1 nh\u1eefng v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 \u0111\u1eb7c bi\u1ec7t n\u00e0y y\u00eau c\u1ea7u nh\u1eefng gi\u1ea3i ph\u00e1p s\u00e2u r\u1ed9ng v\u00e0 s\u1ef1 t\u1ef1 v\u1ea5n l\u01b0\u01a1ng t\u00e2m. Anh ta s\u1edbm mu\u1ed9n g\u00ec th\u00ec c\u0169ng h\u1ecdc c\u00e1ch ch\u1ea5p nh\u1eadn k\u0129 thu\u1eadt \u201cth\u1ebf n\u00e0o v\u00e0 khi n\u00e0o\u201d.<\/p>\n

                                                Nh\u1eefng v\u00ed\u00a0d\u1ee5\u00a0 sau s\u1ebd\u00a0gi\u00fap minh h\u1ecda cho ph\u1ea3n\u00a0\u1ee9ng \u201cTr\u01b0\u1edbc m\u1eaft\u201d v\u00e0\u00a0h\u00ecnh th\u00e1i\u00a0\u201ckhi n\u00e0o v\u00e0\u00a0 th\u1ebf\u00a0n\u00e0o\u201d<\/p>\n

                                                N\u1ebfu ng\u01b0\u1eddi v\u1ee3\u00a0 kh\u00f4ng gi\u1ea3i t\u1ecfa s\u1ef1\u00a0gi\u1eadn d\u1eef, nh\u1eefng th\u1ea5t v\u1ecdng v\u00e0\u00a0 nh\u1eefng than phi\u1ec1n c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh v\u00e0o tai ch\u1ed3ng m\u00ecnh ngay khi anh \u1ea5y v\u1ec1 nh\u00e0, \u0111i\u1ec1u n\u00e0y s\u1ebd l\u00e0 ki\u1ec3u ph\u1ea3n \u1ee9ng \u201cthi\u1ec3n c\u1eadn\u201d c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi l\u1edbn. (kh\u00f4ng may, \u0111i\u1ec1u n\u00e0y r\u1ea5t hay x\u1ea3y ra). Nh\u01b0ng \u0111\u00e2y d\u1ee9t kho\u00e1t kh\u00f4ng \u0103n kh\u1edbp v\u1edbi c\u00e1ch ngh\u0129 \u201cth\u1ebf n\u00e0o v\u00e0 khi n\u00e0o\u201d c\u1ee7a anh \u1ea5y. Kh\u00f4ng ai mu\u1ed1n c\u00f3 s\u1ef1 ng\u1ea1c nhi\u00ean kh\u00f3 ch\u1ecbu n\u00e0o, v\u00e0 \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng n\u00f3i ri\u00eang s\u1ebd c\u00f3 ph\u1ea3n \u1ee9ng c\u00e1u k\u1ec9nh v\u00e0 n\u00f4n n\u00f3ng. \u0110\u00f3 t\u1ea1i sao ph\u1ea3i c\u00f3 c\u00e1ch x\u1eed l\u00fd c\u1ef1c k\u00ec kh\u00e9o l\u00e9o \u0111\u1ec3 c\u00f3 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c m\u1ed9t ng\u00e0y v\u00e0 th\u1eddi \u0111i\u1ec3m s\u1eafp x\u1ebfp ri\u00eang bi\u1ec7t cho nh\u1eefng v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 kh\u00f3 kh\u0103n, v\u00ed d\u1ee5 nh\u01b0: th\u1ee9 ba v\u00e0o kho\u1ea3ng t\u1eeb 20h \u0111\u1ebfn 21h.<\/p>\n

                                                Nghe c\u00f3\u00a0v\u1ebb\u00a0 ng\u1edb\u00a0ng\u1ea9n, nh\u01b0ng \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c coi l\u00e0\u00a0thu\u1eadn l\u1ee3i. \u0110\u00e2y l\u00e0 ph\u01b0\u01a1ng ph\u00e1p ti\u1ebfp c\u1eadn nh\u01b0ng sau \u0111\u00f3 \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng l\u1ea1i c\u00f3 th\u00e0nh c\u00f4ng l\u00e0 nh\u1edd ch\u1ee7 y\u1ebfu v\u00e0o nh\u1eefng ph\u01b0\u01a1ng th\u1ee9c. Ph\u01b0\u01a1ng th\u1ee9c l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t trong nh\u1eefng th\u00e0nh ph\u1ea7n r\u1ea5t quan tr\u1ecdng trong m\u1ed9t d\u1ef1 \u0111\u1ecbnh. Ch\u00fang ta \u0111\u1ec1u \u0111\u1ed3ng \u00fd r\u1eb1ng ph\u01b0\u01a1ng ph\u00e1p l\u00e0 c\u1ea7n thi\u1ebft. N\u1ebfu c\u00e1i \u0111\u1eadp \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c x\u00e2y d\u1ef1ng hay chi\u1ebfc m\u00e1y bay \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c ch\u1ebf t\u1ea1o hay b\u1ea5t k\u00ec k\u1ebf ho\u1ea1ch n\u00e0o kh\u00e1c v\u1ec1 v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 \u0111\u00f3. H\u00f4n nh\u00e2n c\u0169ng l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t k\u1ebf ho\u1ea1ch! N\u00f3 c\u1ea7n \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c quan t\u00e2m li\u00ean t\u1ee5c, kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 ph\u01b0\u01a1ng ph\u00e1p, nh\u1eefng \u00fd ch\u1ee3t n\u1ea3y ra v\u00e0 nh\u1eefng t\u01b0\u1edfng t\u01b0\u1ee3ng s\u1ebd chi\u1ebfm l\u0129nh. V\u00e0 \u0111i\u1ec1u n\u00e0y ch\u1eafc ch\u1eafn s\u1ebd kh\u00f4ng chu\u1ea9n x\u00e1c cho s\u1ef1 k\u1ebft h\u1ee3p quan tr\u1ecdng v\u00e0 ph\u1ee9c t\u1ea1p b\u1eb1ng cu\u1ed9c h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n. Sau h\u1ebft ch\u00fang ta ch\u1eb3ng gi\u1ed1ng g\u00ec n\u00f3 n\u1ebfu d\u00f2ng suy ngh\u0129 c\u1ee7a ch\u00fang ta t\u1eeb ch\u1ed1i m\u1ed9t ph\u01b0\u01a1ng ph\u00e1p bi\u1ec3u \u0111\u1ed3 th\u1eddi gian v\u00e0 l\u00e0m vi\u1ec7c theo \u00fd ngh\u0129 ch\u1ee3t n\u1ea3y sinh v\u00e0 t\u01b0\u1edfng t\u01b0\u1ee3ng. Do v\u1eady, ph\u01b0\u01a1ng ph\u00e1p t\u1ea1o ra th\u00e0nh c\u00f4ng \u0111\u1ec3 x\u00e2y d\u1ef1ng v\u00e0 \u0111i\u1ec1u h\u00e0nh cu\u1ed9c h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n. N\u00f3 c\u0169ng tr\u1edf n\u00ean m\u1ed9t c\u00e1ch t\u1ef1 nhi\u00ean h\u01a1n \u0111\u1ec3 h\u1ea5p d\u1eabn c\u00e1ch ngh\u0129 \u201cth\u1ebf n\u00e0o v\u00e0 khi n\u00e0o\u201d c\u1ee7a anh \u1ea5y. Do v\u1eady, h\u00e3y b\u1ed1 tr\u00ed m\u1ed9t ng\u00e0y, m\u1ed9t th\u1eddi gian v\u00e0 m\u1ed9t \u0111\u1ecba \u0111i\u1ec3m. N\u1ebfu kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 g\u00ec \u0111\u1ec3 th\u1ea3o lu\u1eadn. B\u1ea1n kh\u00f4ng c\u1ea7n ph\u1ea3i ph\u1ecba ra b\u1ea5t k\u00ec \u0111i\u1ec1u g\u00ec m\u00e0 ch\u1ec9 d\u00e0nh\u00a0 th\u1eddi gian cho vi\u1ec7c kh\u00e1c.<\/p>\n

                                                \u0110i\u1ec3m quan tr\u1ecdng kh\u00e1c l\u00e0 cung c\u1ea5p cho b\u1ea1n \u0111\u1eddi nh\u1eefng ch\u1ee7\u00a0\u0111\u1ec1 m\u00e0 b\u1ea1n \u0111\u00e3 c\u00f3 d\u1ef1\u00a0\u0111\u1ecbnh trong \u0111\u1ea7u. M\u1ee5c \u0111\u00edch l\u00e0 s\u1ef1 ng\u1ea1c nhi\u00ean kh\u00f3 ch\u1ecbu kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i \u0111\u1ed1i m\u1eb7t trong khi th\u1ea3o lu\u1eadn, c\u00e1i ng\u1ea1c nhi\u00ean n\u00e0y\u00a0 t\u1ef1 nhi\u00ean t\u1ef1 \u0111\u1ed9ng kh\u1edfi \u0111\u1ed9ng c\u00e1i ph\u1ecfng th\u1ee7 c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi ta nh\u01b0 m\u1ed9t c\u1ed7 m\u00e1y (ch\u00fang ta \u0111\u00e3 n\u00f3i v\u1ec1 n\u00f3). Ph\u1ea3n \u1ee9ng \u0111\u1ea7u ti\u00ean l\u00e0 t\u00f4i ph\u1ea3i t\u1ef1 ph\u00f2ng th\u1ee7, th\u1ee9 hai l\u00e0 t\u1ea1o ra kho\u1ea3ng c\u00e1ch c\u00e0ng xa c\u00e0ng t\u1ed1t, v\u00e0 \u0111i\u1ec1u n\u00e0y s\u1ebd ho\u1eb7c l\u00e0 k\u00e9o d\u00e0i th\u1eddi gian ho\u1eb7c l\u00e0 \u0111\u00f3ng c\u1eeda l\u1ea1i. Gi\u00e2y ph\u00fat n\u00e0y l\u00e0 b\u1eadt c\u00f4ng t\u1eafc ph\u00f2ng th\u1ee7 v\u00e0 b\u1ed9 m\u00e1y ph\u00f2ng th\u1ee7 n\u00e0y ch\u1ec9 \u0111\u1ecbnh r\u1eb1ng y\u1ebfu t\u1ed1 t\u1ea5n c\u00f4ng kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0 nh\u1eefng v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 m\u00e0 l\u00e0 \u201cb\u1ea1n\u201d. Cu\u1ed9c \u0111\u1ed1i tho\u1ea1i n\u00e0y b\u1ecb t\u1ed5n th\u01b0\u01a1ng l\u00e0m sao.<\/p>\n

                                                Trong th\u1ebf\u00a0gi\u1edbi th\u01b0\u01a1ng m\u1ea1i, ch\u00fang ta kh\u00f4ng h\u00e0i l\u00f2ng khi \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c m\u1eddi\u00a0 \u0111i h\u1ecdp m\u00e0\u00a0kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c\u00a0cung c\u1ea5p nh\u1eefng m\u1eabu n\u1ed9i dung c\u1ee7a ngh\u1ecb s\u1ef1. Ch\u00fang ta mu\u1ed1n chu\u1ea9n b\u1ecb \u0111\u1ec3 \u0111\u01b0a ra nh\u1eefng tr\u00ecnh b\u00e0y v\u00e0 s\u1ef1 chu\u1ea9n b\u1ecb t\u1ed1t nh\u1ea5t cho ch\u00fang ta, \u0111\u00fang kh\u00f4ng? M\u1ed9t trong nh\u1eefng l\u00fd do c\u0103n b\u1ea3n t\u1ea1i sao nh\u1eefng k\u0129 n\u0103ng n\u00e0y kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c th\u1ef1c hi\u1ec7n do hai v\u1ee3 ch\u1ed3ng l\u00e0 v\u00ec m\u1ed9t s\u1ed1 c\u1ea3m gi\u00e1c h\u1ea1n ch\u1ebf sai l\u1ea7m v\u1ec1 kh\u00e1i ni\u1ec7m t\u1ef1 do. N\u1ebfu h\u1ecd d\u1eebng l\u1ea1i v\u00e0 suy ngh\u0129 r\u1eb1ng h\u1ecd v\u1eabn \u0111ang t\u1ef1 do, h\u1ecd ch\u1ec9 vi\u1ec7c t\u1ed5 ch\u1ee9c c\u00e1i t\u1ef1 do c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh. \u0110\u00f3 l\u00e0 do s\u1ef1 bi\u1ec3u hi\u1ec7n c\u1ee7a t\u1ef1 do, t\u1ef1 do t\u1eeb c\u00e1i ng\u1ea1c nhi\u00ean, t\u1ef1 do \u0111\u1ec3 c\u1ea3i thi\u1ec7n m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd.<\/p>\n

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                                                1. S\u1eaeP X\u1ebeP<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

                                                  S\u1eafp x\u1ebfp c\u0169ng quan tr\u1ecdng, \u0111i\u1ec1u n\u00e0y may m\u00e0\u00a0kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u00f2i h\u1ecfi nhi\u1ec1u v\u1ec1\u00a0 s\u1ef1\u00a0quan s\u00e1t v\u00e0\u00a0kh\u1ea3\u00a0n\u0103ng tr\u1ef1c gi\u00e1c nhi\u1ec1u nh\u01b0\u00a0 nh\u1eefng y\u00eau c\u1ea7u c\u1ee7a\u00a0\u201cth\u1eddi gian\u201d. H\u1ecfi anh \u1ea5y m\u1ed9t c\u00e1ch tr\u00ecu m\u1ebfn r\u1eb1ng anh \u1ea5y th\u00edch th\u1ea3o lu\u1eadn nh\u1eefng ch\u1ee7\u00a0 \u0111\u1ec1 ph\u1ee9c t\u1ea1p n\u00e0y\u00a0\u1edf\u00a0\u0111\u00e2u, n\u1ebfu c\u1ea3\u00a0hai \u0111\u1ed3ng \u00fd n\u01a1i g\u1eb7p m\u1eb7t l\u1ea1i l\u00e0 \u0111i\u1ec1u d\u1ec5 d\u00e0ng.<\/p>\n

                                                  S\u1eafp x\u1ebfp quan tr\u1ecdng l\u00e0\u00a0v\u00ec\u00a0c\u1ea3\u00a0hai c\u1ea7n\u00a0\u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c t\u1ef1\u00a0do b\u00e0n lu\u1eadn m\u00e0\u00a0kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3\u00a0s\u1ef1\u00a0ng\u1eaft l\u1eddi n\u00e0o v\u00e0\u00a0 kh\u00f4ng b\u1ecb\u00a0nghe l\u1ecfm. V\u00e0\u00a0n\u00f3\u00a0c\u00f2n r\u1ea5t quan tr\u1ecdng \u0111\u1ed1i v\u1edbi s\u1ef1\u00a0tr\u00edch d\u1eabn c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi th\u1ee9\u00a0ba.<\/p>\n

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                                                  1. Th\u00e1i \u0111\u1ed9<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

                                                    Th\u00e1i\u00a0\u0111\u1ed9 l\u00e0\u00a0 c\u1ef1c k\u00ec\u00a0quan tr\u1ecdng r\u1eb1ng ch\u1ed3ng b\u1ea1n kh\u00f4ng ngh\u0129\u00a0cu\u1ed9c n\u00f3i chuy\u1ec7n\u00a0c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n nh\u01b0 cu\u1ed9c t\u1ea5n c\u00f4ng c\u00e1 nh\u00e2n. Gi\u1ed1ng nh\u01b0 t\u00f4i \u0111\u00e3 n\u00f3i \u1edf \u0111\u1ea7u, t\u1ea5t c\u1ea3 ch\u00fang ta \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c trang b\u1ecb c\u00e1i ph\u00f2ng v\u1ec7 v\u1ec1 x\u00fac c\u1ea3m r\u1eb1ng n\u00f3 s\u1ebd d\u01b0\u01a1ng th\u1ebf \u0111\u1ec3 c\u1ee9u tho\u00e1t ch\u00fang ta khi ch\u00fang ta b\u1ecb l\u00e0m m\u1ea5t thanh danh. \u0110\u1eebng b\u1ea5m n\u00fat c\u00e1i m\u00e1y ph\u00f2ng th\u1ee7 \u0111\u00f3. Thay v\u00ec th\u1ebf, th\u00e1i \u0111\u1ed9 c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n n\u00ean \u0111\u1ea7m \u1ea5m, y\u00eau ki\u1ec1u v\u00e0 gi\u00fap s\u1ee9c ch\u1eebng n\u00e0o c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 t\u00f9y theo t\u00ecnh h\u00ecnh. H\u00e3y \u0111\u1ec3 cho ng\u01b0\u1eddi ta bi\u1ebft r\u1eb1ng b\u1ea1n \u0111ang c\u1ed1 g\u1eafng th\u1ec3 hi\u1ec7n r\u00f5 s\u1ef1 c\u1ea7n v\u00e0 nh\u1eefng mong mu\u1ed1n c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n ch\u1ee9 kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i s\u1ef1 th\u1ecfa \u0111\u00e1ng v\u00e0 s\u1ef1 thi\u1ebfu s\u00f3t c\u1ee7a anh \u1ea5y.<\/p>\n

                                                    Xa h\u01a1n n\u1eefa, b\u1ea1n n\u00ean l\u01b0u t\u00e2m\u00a0\u0111\u1ebfn tr\u1ea1ng th\u00e1i t\u00ecnh c\u1ea3m c\u1ee7a anh \u1ea5y. H\u00e3y d\u1eebng cu\u1ed9c n\u00f3i chuy\u1ec7n l\u1ea1i n\u1ebfu anh \u1ea5y b\u1ecb c\u0103ng th\u1eb3ng b\u1ea5t th\u01b0\u1eddng hay b\u1ecb c\u1eafn r\u1ee9t t\u1ee9c th\u1eddi do nh\u1eefng s\u1ef1 ki\u1ec7n. M\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi v\u1ee3 th\u00e0nh c\u00f4ng l\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi bi\u1ebft th\u1ec3 hi\u1ec7n cho ch\u1ed3ng m\u00ecnh bi\u1ebft nh\u1eefng mong \u01b0\u1edbc v\u00e0 nhu c\u1ea7u c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh. Trong khi l\u1ea1i \u0111\u00e1p \u1ee9ng t\u1ed1t nh\u1ea5t nh\u1eefng nhu c\u1ea7u c\u1ee7a ch\u1ed3ng m\u00ecnh. C\u00f3 m\u1ed9t s\u1ef1 th\u1eadt hi\u1ec3n nhi\u00ean \u0111\u00f3 l\u00e0 s\u1ef1 li\u00ean quan \u0111\u1eb7c bi\u1ec7t t\u1edbi v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 l\u00e3ng m\u1ea1n v\u00e0 \u1ea3nh h\u01b0\u1edfng ch\u1eafc ch\u1eafn h\u1ea7u nh\u01b0 t\u1edbi \u0111\u1eddi s\u1ed1ng t\u00ecnh y\u00eau c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n n\u1eefa.<\/p>\n

                                                    \u201cCh\u00fang ta h\u00e3nh di\u1ec7n khi g\u1eb7p may (di\u1ec5m ph\u00fac), ch\u00fang ta m\u1ea5t th\u1ec3 di\u1ec7n l\u00e0 v\u00ec\u00a0 b\u1ecb sa l\u1ea7y! Ch\u00fang ta tham lam v\u01b0\u1ee3t qua kh\u1ea3 n\u0103ng c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh; ch\u00fang ta coi khinh \u0111i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00f3 khi n\u00f3 tr\u1edf th\u00e0nh c\u1ee7a c\u1ea3i l\u00e2u d\u00e0i\u201d.C\u00f3 nhi\u1ec1u h\u1ed9i ch\u1ee9ng trong m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 c\u1ee7a cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng. T\u00f4i s\u1ebd \u0111\u1ec1 c\u1eadp ch\u1ec9 m\u1ed9t\u00a0 ch\u00fat th\u00f4i.<\/p>\n

                                                    T\u00f4i s\u1ebd\u00a0kh\u00f4ng th\u1ea3o lu\u1eadn chi ti\u1ebft h\u1ed9i ch\u1ee9ng \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c lu\u1eadn gi\u1ea3i nh\u01b0 th\u1ebf n\u00e0o b\u1edfi m\u1ed7i lu\u1eadn ch\u1ee9ng l\u1ea1i c\u00f3 nhi\u1ec1u s\u1eafc th\u00e1i v\u00e0 m\u00e0u s\u1eafc. S\u1eafc th\u00e1i v\u00e0 m\u00e0u s\u1eafc l\u00e0 \u0111\u1ed9c nh\u1ea5t v\u00f4 nh\u1ecb v\u00e0 kh\u00e1c nhau v\u1edbi m\u1ed7i c\u1eb7p v\u1ee3 ch\u1ed3ng. Do v\u1eady, lu\u1eadn gi\u1ea3i v\u1ec1 h\u1ed9i ch\u1ee9ng s\u1ebd y\u00eau c\u1ea7u ph\u01b0\u01a1ng ph\u00e1p \u0111\u1ed9c nh\u1ea5t v\u00e0 kh\u00e1c nhau. \u0110\u00e2y l\u00e0 l\u00e3nh v\u1ef1c c\u00f3 \u1ea3nh h\u01b0\u1edfng m\u1ea1nh m\u1ebd t\u1edbi nhau v\u1ec1 m\u1eb7t t\u00ecnh c\u1ea3m. T\u00f4i ch\u1ec9 mu\u1ed1n \u0111\u1ec1 c\u1eadp v\u00e0i \u0111i\u1ec3m trong s\u1ed1 \u0111\u00f3 \u0111\u1ec3 ng\u01b0\u1eddi ta nh\u1eadn th\u1ee9c \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c c\u00e1ch s\u1ed1ng v\u00e0 c\u00e1ch t\u1ed5 ch\u1ee9c c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd. \u00cdt nh\u1ea5t l\u00e0 nh\u1eefng g\u00ec \u0111ang x\u1ea3y ra trong \u0111\u1eddi s\u1ed1ng h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n v\u00e0 b\u1ea1n \u0111\u1eddi c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd.<\/p>\n

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                                                    1. C\u00c1I B\u1eaaY C\u1ee6A H\u1ed8I CH\u1ee8NG<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

                                                      N\u00f3\u00a0xu\u1ea5t hi\u1ec7n gi\u1ed1ng nh\u01b0\u00a0\u201ct\u00f4i kh\u00f4ng c\u00f2n tr\u1ebb\u201d\u00a0\u201ct\u00f4i mu\u1ed1n chung s\u1ed1ng ph\u1ea7n c\u00f2n l\u1ea1i cu\u1ed9c\u00a0\u0111\u1eddi t\u00f4i v\u1edbi ng\u01b0\u1eddi n\u00e0y kh\u00f4ng\u201d?<\/p>\n

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                                                      1. \u201cH\u1ed8I CH\u1ee8NG Y\u00caU T\u00d4I \u2013 Y\u00caU C\u1ea2 CON CH\u00d3 C\u1ee6A T\u00d4I\u201d.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

                                                        N\u00f3i chung ph\u1ee5\u00a0n\u1eef\u00a0 c\u00f3\u00a0khuynh h\u01b0\u1edbng l\u00fan s\u00e2u v\u00e0o h\u1ed9i ch\u1ee9ng n\u00e0y d\u1ec5\u00a0 d\u00e0ng v\u00e0\u00a0m\u1ea1nh m\u1ebd\u00a0h\u01a1n, n\u00f3 ho\u1ea1t \u0111\u1ed9ng \u0111\u1ebfn m\u1ee9c \u0111\u1ed9 n\u00e0o \u0111\u00f3 gi\u1ed1ng nh\u01b0, v\u00ed d\u1ee5: N\u1ebfu nh\u01b0 c\u00f3 v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 g\u00ec x\u1ea3y ra v\u1edbi \u0111\u1eb1ng n\u1ed9i\/ngo\u1ea1i. B\u1ea1n \u0111\u1eddi c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 nh\u1eadn ra l\u00fd do \u0111\u1ec3 duy tr\u00ec m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 t\u1ed1t \u0111\u1eb9p v\u1edbi v\u1ee3 m\u00ecnh nh\u01b0ng anh \u1ea5y ch\u1ec9 quan t\u00e2m m\u1ed9t \u00edt hay ch\u1eb3ng quan t\u00e2m g\u00ec \u0111\u1ebfn ng\u01b0\u1eddi nh\u00e0 v\u1ee3. Anh \u1ea5y \u0111\u01a1n gi\u1ea3n ch\u1ea5p nh\u1eadn quan \u0111i\u1ec3m l\u00e0 t\u00f4i c\u01b0\u1edbi v\u1ee3. Do v\u1eady t\u00f4i t\u1ed1t v\u1edbi c\u00f4 ch\u1ee9 kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 hi\u1ec7n \u0111i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00f3 v\u1edbi v\u1ee3. V\u1ee3 anh \u1ea5y ch\u1ea5p nh\u1eadn t\u00ecnh y\u00eau c\u1ee7a ch\u1ed3ng d\u00e0nh cho m\u00ecnh nh\u01b0 c\u00e1ch hi\u1ec3u \u0111\u00fang \u0111\u1eafn v\u00e0 c\u00f4 ta kh\u00f4ng xung \u0111\u1ed9t v\u1edbi \u0111i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00f3. C\u00f4 ta c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 ngay c\u1ea3 c\u1ea3m \u01a1n v\u00ec r\u1eb1ng m\u00ecnh kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0 \u0111\u1ed1i t\u01b0\u1ee3ng c\u1ee7a s\u1ef1 b\u1ea5t \u0111\u1ed3ng. Nh\u01b0ng c\u00f4 ta kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 ch\u1ecbu \u0111\u1ef1ng th\u1ef1c t\u1ebf r\u1eb1ng ch\u1ed3ng m\u00ecnh l\u1ea1i kh\u00f4ng y\u00eau hay th\u1ec3 hi\u1ec7n s\u1ef1 quan t\u00e2m \u0111\u1ea7y \u0111\u1ee7 t\u1edbi \u0111\u1eb1ng ngo\u1ea1i.<\/p>\n

                                                        S\u1ef1\u00a0kh\u00f4ng nhi\u1ec7t t\u00ecnh v\u00e0\u00a0th\u00e1i\u00a0\u0111\u1ed9 xa l\u00e1nh hay s\u1ef1\u00a0th\u1edd\u00a0\u01a1\u00a0 c\u1ee7a anh \u1ea5y\u00a0\u0111\u00e3\u00a0\u0111\u01b0a c\u00f4\u00a0ta \u0111\u1ebfn s\u1ef1\u00a0gi\u1eadn d\u1eef. C\u00f4\u00a0ta th\u01b0\u1eddng b\u1eaft b\u1ebb \u201cAnh \u0111\u00e3 kh\u00f4ng ch\u00e0o ng\u01b0\u1eddi h\u1ecd h\u00e0ng nh\u00e0 em h\u00f4m qua\u201d. \u201cAnh kh\u00f4ng nh\u1eadn x\u00e9t g\u00ec v\u1ec1 chi\u1ebfc v\u00e1y m\u1edbi c\u1ee7a m\u1eb9 em..\u201d<\/p>\n

                                                        Nh\u1eefng l\u00fd\u00a0do kh\u00f4ng c\u1ea7n ch\u1ec9\u00a0l\u00e0\u00a0ng\u01b0\u1eddi h\u1ecd\u00a0h\u00e0ng hay \u0111\u1eb1ng n\u1ed9i\/ngo\u1ea1i, n\u00f3\u00a0c\u00f3\u00a0th\u1ec3\u00a0l\u00e0\u00a0b\u1ea1n b\u00e8,\u00a0\u0111\u1ea5t n\u01b0\u1edbc hay t\u00f4n gi\u00e1o, ngh\u1ec1\u00a0nghi\u1ec7p. N\u00f3\u00a0kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0 s\u1ef1 kh\u00e1i qu\u00e1t v\u1ec1 qu\u00ea h\u01b0\u01a1ng hay t\u00f4n gi\u00e1o. Stress l\u00e0 nh\u1eefng g\u00ec c\u00f4 ta ngh\u0129 ra hay h\u00e0m \u00fd ch\u1eb3ng h\u1ea1n nh\u01b0 \u201cc\u1ee7a t\u00f4i\u201d v\u00ed d\u1ee5 anh trai c\u1ee7a t\u00f4i.
                                                        \nIII. H\u1ed8I CH\u1ee8NG C\u00c1I T\u00d4I- \u2018C\u1ee6A T\u00d4I\u2019<\/p>\n

                                                        \u0110\u00e0n \u00f4ng c\u00f3 khuynh h\u01b0\u1edbng h\u01b0\u1edbng t\u1edbi c\u00e1i ph\u1ea7n \u201ct\u00f4i\u201d c\u1ee7a h\u1ed9i ch\u1ee9ng, nh\u01b0ng ng\u01b0\u1ee3c l\u1ea1i ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef c\u00f3 khuynh h\u01b0\u1edbng h\u01b0\u1edbng t\u1edbi c\u00e1i di\u1ec7n m\u1ea1o \u201cc\u1ee7a t\u00f4i\u201d c\u1ee7a h\u1ed9i ch\u1ee9ng h\u01a1n. C\u1ea3 \u201ct\u00f4i\u201d v\u00e0 \u201cc\u1ee7a t\u00f4i\u201d c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 l\u00e0 d\u1ea5u v\u1ebft m\u1edf r\u1ed9ng c\u1ee7a \u201cc\u00e1i t\u00f4i\u201d \u2013 b\u1ea3n ng\u00e3. \u0110i\u1ec3n h\u00ecnh, ph\u00e1i nam qu\u1ea3 quy\u1ebft nghe th\u1ebf n\u00e0y: \u201cB\u1edfi \u2018t\u00f4i\u2019 m\u00e0 anh c\u00f3 nh\u1eefng th\u1ee9 n\u00e0y\u201d \u201cb\u1edfi t\u00f4i m\u00e0 c\u00f4 kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c ra ngo\u00e0i l\u00e0m vi\u1ec7c\u201d. \u0110i\u1ec3n h\u00ecnh c\u00e1i qu\u1ea3 quy\u1ebft c\u1ee7a ph\u00e1i n\u1eef l\u00e0: \u201cDo l\u1eddi c\u1ea7u h\u00f4n\u00a0c\u1ee7a t\u00f4i<\/strong>\u00a0m\u00e0 anh c\u00f3 nh\u01b0 ng\u00e0y h\u00f4m nay\u201d \u201cAnh c\u00f3 nh\u01b0 ng\u00e0y h\u00f4m nay l\u00e0 do b\u1ed1\u00a0c\u1ee7a t\u00f4i<\/strong>\u00a0gi\u00fap anh\u201d \u201cn\u1ebfu kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0 b\u1ea1n\u00a0c\u1ee7a t\u00f4i<\/strong>\u00a0th\u00ec cu\u1ed9c giao d\u1ecbch n\u00e0y s\u1ebd kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c su\u00f4n s\u1ebb nh\u01b0 v\u1eady\u201d.<\/p>\n

                                                        Ph\u1ea3i nh\u1eadn\u00a0th\u1ea5y r\u1eb1ng, c\u00f4 ta c\u0169ng c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 n\u00f3i \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c v\u00ec \u201ct\u00f4i\u201d nh\u01b0ng c\u00f4 ta c\u00f3 khuynh h\u01b0\u1edbng t\u1ef1 nhi\u00ean h\u01a1n \u0111\u1ec3 \u0111\u1ebfn c\u00e1i \u0111i\u1ec3m \u0111\u1ebfn l\u00e0 \u201cc\u1ee7a t\u00f4i\u201d<\/p>\n

                                                        Ph\u00e1i nam v\u1edbi\u00a0\u201cc\u00e1i t\u00f4i\u201d\u00a0c\u1ee7a anh ta c\u00f3\u00a0khuynh h\u01b0\u1edbng \u0111\u1ea1t t\u1edbi ch\u1ee7\u00a0 ngh\u0129a c\u00e1\u00a0nh\u00e2n\u00a0\u2013\u00a0anh ta t\u1ef1\u00a0nhi\u00ean thi\u00ean v\u1ec1\u00a0 s\u1ef1\u00a0quy\u1ebft\u00a0\u0111o\u00e1n, ph\u1ee5\u00a0n\u1eef\u00a0c\u1ea7u vi\u1ec7n\u00a0 t\u1edbi \u201cc\u1ee7a t\u00f4i\u201d nh\u01b0 l\u00e0 h\u00ecnh th\u1ee9c c\u1ee7a s\u1ef1 tr\u1ee3 gi\u00fap \u2013 nhu c\u1ea7u t\u1ef1 nhi\u00ean c\u1ee7a c\u00f4 ta l\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u1ee7ng h\u1ed9.<\/p>\n

                                                        C\u1ea3\u00a0\u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng v\u00e0\u00a0 \u0111\u00e0n b\u00e0\u00a0\u0111\u1ec1u c\u00f3\u00a0c\u1ed1t c\u0103n b\u1ea3n l\u00e0\u00a0\u201cc\u00e1i t\u00f4i\u201d\u00a0 \u2013\u00a0n\u00f3\u00a0gi\u1ed1ng nh\u01b0:\u00a0\u201ct\u00f4i l\u00e0m vi\u1ec7c c\u1ea3\u00a0ng\u00e0y\u201d\u00a0 \u201cT\u00f4i\u00a0\u0111ang l\u00e0m vi\u1ec7c n\u1ed9i tr\u1ee3\u201d\u00a0\u201cT\u00f4i tr\u00f4ng nom b\u1ecdn tr\u1ebb\u201d\u2026<\/p>\n

                                                        \u0110\u00fang l\u00e0 t\u1eeb th\u1eddi k\u00ec \u0111\u1ea7u v\u00e0i tr\u00f2 c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng s\u01a1 khai l\u00e0 s\u0103n b\u1eafn, h\u1ecd mang v\u1ec1 nh\u00e0 nh\u1eefng con th\u00fa, v\u00ed d\u1ee5 nh\u01b0 con hu\u01a1u (th\u1ef1c ph\u1ea9m). Nh\u01b0ng m\u1ed9t khi anh ta \u0111\u00e3 v\u1ec1 \u0111\u1ebfn nh\u00e0 anh ta n\u00e9m ph\u1ecbch n\u00f3 \u1edf \u0111\u00f3, c\u00f2n l\u1ea1i c\u00f4ng vi\u1ec7c c\u1ee7a v\u1ee3 mu\u1ed1n ra sao th\u00ec ra. T\u1eeb \u0111\u00f3, n\u00f3 tr\u1edf th\u00e0nh c\u00f4ng vi\u1ec7c c\u1ee7a v\u1ee3 v\u00e0 v\u00ec l\u1ebd \u0111\u00f3 m\u00e0, ch\u1ed3ng \u2018c\u1ee7a t\u00f4i\u2019 \u0111\u00e3 mang con hu\u01a1u v\u1ec1 nh\u00e0, \u0111\u1ec3 nu\u00f4i nh\u1eefng \u0111\u1ee9a con \u2018c\u1ee7a t\u00f4i\u2019 v\u00e0 \u2018t\u00f4i\u2019\u2026 m\u1ecdi th\u1ee9 kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0 x\u1ea5u \u0111\u1ed1i v\u1edbi m\u1ed1i li\u00ean h\u1ec7 \u2018t\u00f4i \u2013 c\u1ee7a t\u00f4i\u2019. N\u1ebfu c\u00f4 ta th\u1ec3 hi\u1ec7n s\u1ef1 kh\u00e2m ph\u1ee5c th\u1ef1c s\u1ef1, anh \u1ea5y s\u1ebd \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c trang b\u1ecb th\u00eam c\u00e1i c\u1ef1a \u0111\u1ec3 leo l\u00ean \u0111\u1ec9nh cao h\u01a1n, b\u01a1i ra bi\u1ec3n r\u1ed9ng h\u01a1n v\u00e0 mang v\u1ec1 nh\u00e0 nh\u1eefng con m\u1ed3i s\u0103n \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c to h\u01a1n. Theo c\u00e1ch c\u1ee7a \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng hi\u1ec7n \u0111\u1ea1i th\u00ec kh\u00f4ng kh\u00e1c g\u00ec anh ta. N\u1ebfu anh ta c\u00f3 chuy\u1ec3n \u0111i c\u00f4ng t\u00e1c anh ta c\u00f3 khuynh h\u01b0\u1edbng mang v\u1ec1 cho v\u1ee3 nh\u1eefng \u0111\u1ed3 l\u01b0u ni\u1ec7m t\u1eeb nh\u1eefng n\u01a1i kh\u00e1c nhau. Gi\u1ed1ng nh\u01b0 nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi s\u01a1 khai, k\u1ebft th\u00fac nhi\u1ec7m v\u1ee5 cu\u1ed1i c\u00f9ng c\u1ee7a anh ta l\u00e0 n\u00e9m n\u00f3 v\u00e0o nh\u00e0. Sau \u0111\u00f3 l\u00e0 nhi\u1ec7m v\u1ee5 c\u1ee7a v\u1ee3 ph\u1ea3i t\u00ecm ra n\u01a1i n\u00e0o \u0111\u00f3 \u0111\u1ec3 c\u1eaft n\u00f3, c\u00f3 l\u1ebd ph\u1ea3i s\u1eafp x\u1ebfp l\u1ea1i nh\u1eefng \u0111\u1ed3 v\u1eadt \u0111\u1ec3 n\u00f3 c\u00f3\u00a0 ch\u1ed7 \u0111\u1ee9ng.<\/p>\n

                                                        C\u00e1i\u00a0\u201ct\u00f4i\u201d c\u00f3\u00a0m\u1ed9t gi\u1edbi h\u1ea1n, n\u01a1i m\u00e0\u00a0ranh gi\u1edbi r\u1ea5t r\u00f5\u00a0 r\u00e0ng, hay c\u00e1i thu \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c thay s\u1ef1 chinh ph\u1ee5c.<\/p>\n

                                                        C\u00e1i\u00a0\u201cc\u1ee7a t\u00f4i\u201d\u00a0 n\u00f3i c\u00e1ch kh\u00e1c n\u00f3\u00a0l\u00e0\u00a0m\u1ed1c r\u1ed9ng l\u1edbn n\u00f3\u00a0gi\u1ed1ng nh\u01b0\u00a0c\u00e1i ch\u0103n bao ph\u1ee7\u00a0h\u1ebft m\u1ecdi th\u1ee9, t\u1ea5t c\u1ea3\u00a0 nh\u1eefng g\u00ec\u00a0n\u00f3\u00a0c\u00f3\u00a0th\u1ec3\u00a0\u0111\u1ea3m nh\u1eadn, bao g\u1ed3m c\u1ea3\u00a0s\u1ef1\u00a0th\u00e0nh c\u00f4ng, th\u0103ng ti\u1ebfn, th\u00e0nh c\u00f4ng trong kinh doanh c\u1ee7a anh ta\u2026\u00a0C\u00f4\u00a0ta ch\u1eb3ng b\u1eadn t\u00e2m t\u1edbi c\u00e1i h\u00e3nh di\u1ec7n \u2018c\u00e1i t\u00f4i\u2019 nh\u1ecf x\u00edu c\u1ee7a anh ta, c\u00f4 ta c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 che \u0111i b\u1eb1ng c\u00e1i \u2018c\u1ee7a t\u00f4i\u2019 c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh. Sau \u0111\u00e2y l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t s\u1ed1 v\u00ed d\u1ee5 \u0111i\u1ec3n h\u00ecnh: \u201cs\u1ef1 th\u0103ng ti\u1ebfn c\u1ee7a ch\u1ed3ng t\u00f4i\u201d \u201ck\u1ebft qu\u1ea3 h\u1ecdc t\u1eadp tuy\u1ec7t v\u1edbi c\u1ee7a con t\u00f4i\u201d.<\/p>\n

                                                        \u201cc\u00e1i t\u00f4i\u201d c\u0169ng c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 h\u00e3nh di\u1ec7n. Nh\u01b0ng c\u00e1i c\u1ee7a t\u00f4i l\u00e0 s\u1ef1 ghen t\u1ef5, chi\u1ebfm h\u1eefu v\u00e0 r\u1ea5t \u00edch k\u1ec9, n\u1ebfu b\u1ecb \u0111e d\u1ecda; ch\u1eb3ng c\u00f3 cu\u1ed9c xung \u0111\u1ed9t n\u00e0o n\u1ebfu anh ta t\u1ef1 cho ph\u00e9p m\u00ecnh h\u01b0\u1edfng th\u1ee5 \u201cc\u00e1i t\u00f4i\u201d c\u1ee7a anh ta v\u1edbi \u0111i\u1ec1u ki\u1ec7n c\u00f4 ta c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 che \u0111\u1eady n\u00f3 b\u1eb1ng c\u00e1i \u201cc\u1ee7a t\u00f4i\u201d c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh. Trong h\u1ea7u h\u1ebft c\u00e1c tr\u01b0\u1eddng h\u1ee3p n\u01a1i m\u00e0 chi\u1ec1u h\u01b0\u1edbng c\u00f3 vai tr\u00f2 quan tr\u1ecdng, gi\u1ed1ng nh\u01b0 ph\u00e1i nam \u0111i\u1ec3n h\u00ecnh \u2018c\u00e1i t\u00f4i\u2019 hay c\u00e1i \u0111i\u1ec3n h\u00ecnh ph\u00e1i n\u1eef l\u00e0 \u2018c\u1ee7a t\u00f4i\u2019. Kh\u00f4ng xung \u0111\u1ed9t n\u1ebfu m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi l\u00e0m ph\u00f9 h\u1ee3p v\u1edbi vai tr\u00f2 c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh. N\u00f3 ngay l\u1eadp t\u1ee9c b\u1ecb x\u00e2m ph\u1ea1m v\u00e0 x\u00fac ph\u1ea1m. V\u00ed d\u1ee5 n\u1ebfu v\u1ee3 b\u1eaft \u0111\u1ea7u n\u00f3i: \u201cb\u1edfi v\u00ec \u2018t\u00f4i\u2019 m\u00e0 anh c\u00f3 vi\u1ec7c. Do \u2018t\u00f4i\u2019 l\u00e0 \u00e1o c\u1ee7a anh n\u00ean anh nh\u00ecn b\u1ea3nh bao. Ngay c\u1ea3 kh\u00f4ng nh\u1eadn ra l\u00fd do t\u1ea1i sao. Do b\u1ea3n n\u0103ng, anh ta c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y b\u1ef1c m\u00ecnh. C\u00f3 th\u1ec3 anh ta kh\u00f4ng nh\u1eadn ra t\u1eeb \u2018t\u00f4i\u2019 nh\u01b0ng anh ta bi\u1ebft c\u00e1i g\u00ec \u0111\u00f3 nghe kh\u00f4ng chu\u1ea9n \u0111\u1ed1i v\u1edbi b\u1ea3n ch\u1ea5t t\u00ecnh c\u1ea3m c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh. C\u00f9ng c\u00e1ch \u0111\u00f3, n\u1ebfu \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng \u0111\u00f3: ti\u1ec1n c\u1ee7a t\u00f4i\u2026 nh\u00e0 c\u1ee7a t\u00f4i\u2026 nh\u00e0 m\u00e1y c\u1ee7a t\u00f4i\u2026 theo b\u1ea3n n\u0103ng c\u00f4 ta s\u1ebd b\u1ef1c m\u00ecnh. N\u00f3i c\u00e1ch kh\u00e1c, n\u1ebfu anh ta n\u00f3i ng\u00f4i nh\u00e0 n\u00e0y do t\u00f4i x\u00e2y d\u1ef1ng.. hay \u201ct\u00f4i x\u00e2y d\u1ef1ng l\u00ean nh\u00e0 m\u00e1y\u201d\u2026 \u0111i\u1ec1u n\u00e0y \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c ch\u1ea5p nh\u1eadn h\u01a1n.<\/p>\n

                                                        Theo \u00a0t\u00ecnh h\u00ecnh \u0111\u1eb7c bi\u1ec7t\u00a0c\u00f4 ta cho ph\u00e9p ch\u1ed3ng t\u1ef1 do s\u1eed d\u1ee5ng m\u1ed9t s\u1ed1 \u201cc\u1ee7a t\u00f4i\u201d; \u0111i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00f3 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c hi\u1ec3u l\u00e0 t\u00ecnh hu\u1ed1ng \u201cc\u1ee7a t\u00f4i-c\u1ee7a t\u00f4i\u201d v\u00ed d\u1ee5:<\/p>\n

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                                                        1. \u0110\u1ed1i v\u1edbi m\u1ed9t s\u1ed1 th\u1ef1c kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0 d\u1ea5u hi\u1ec7u ch\u00ednh \u0111\u1eb7c bi\u1ec7t v\u1edbi c\u00e1i b\u1ea3n ng\u00e3 c\u1ee7a c\u00f4 ta. Gi\u1ed1ng nh\u01b0 anh ta c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 n\u00f3i v\u1edbi \u00fd l\u00e0: \u201cc\u00e1i dao c\u1ea1o c\u1ee7a t\u00f4i\u201d b\u00ean c\u1ea1nh \u0111\u00f3 n\u00f3 kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0 m\u1ed1i \u0111e d\u1ecda t\u1edbi c\u00e1i b\u1ea3n ng\u00e3 c\u1ee7a c\u00f4 ta. C\u00e1i dao c\u1ea1o m\u1edbi, trong con m\u1eaft c\u1ee7a c\u00f4 ta th\u00ec n\u00f3 l\u00e0m cho ch\u1ed3ng \u2018c\u1ee7a t\u00f4i\u2019 nh\u00ecn \u0111\u1eb9p \u0111\u1ebd.<\/li>\n
                                                        2. Anh ta cho ph\u00e9p s\u1eed d\u1ee5ng \u2018c\u1ee7a t\u00f4i\u2019 n\u1ebfu c\u00f4 ta c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 che \u0111\u1eady n\u00f3 b\u1eb1ng ch\u00ednh c\u00e1i \u2018c\u1ee7a t\u00f4i\u2019 c\u1ee7a anh ta. Anh ta \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c ph\u00e9p t\u1ef1 nhi\u00ean n\u00f3i: \u201c\u00f4ng ch\u1ee7 c\u1ee7a t\u00f4i r\u1ea5t h\u00e0i l\u00f2ng v\u1edbi b\u00e1o c\u00e1o c\u1ee7a t\u00f4i\u201d. \u0110i\u1ec1u n\u00e0y c\u00f4 ta c\u00f3 quan \u0111i\u1ec3m \u0111\u01a1n gi\u1ea3n l\u00e0 \u2018c\u1ee7a t\u00f4i\u2019 l\u00e0 \u00f4ng ch\u1ee7 c\u1ee7a ch\u1ed3ng. Trong tr\u01b0\u1eddng h\u1ee3p n\u00e0y c\u00f4 ta \u0111\u01a1n gi\u1ea3n l\u00e0 m\u1edf r\u1ed9ng c\u00e1i \u2018ch\u0103n\u2019 c\u1ee7a t\u00f4i t\u1edbi c\u1ea3 \u00f4ng ch\u1ee7 c\u1ee7a ch\u1ed3ng.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

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                                                          \u0110\u00e2y l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t trong nh\u1eefng l\u00fd do ch\u00ednh khi\u1ebfn cho s\u1ef1 xung \u0111\u1ed9t gi\u1eefa m\u1eb9 ch\u1ed3ng v\u00e0 n\u00e0ng d\u00e2u x\u1ea3y ra. C\u1ea3 hai \u0111\u1ec1u mu\u1ed1n \u201cc\u00e1i ch\u0103n c\u1ee7a t\u00f4i\u2019 bao ph\u1ee7 l\u00ean ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng v\u00e0 ch\u00fang ta c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 kh\u00f4ng qu\u00ean c\u00e1i \u2018c\u1ee7a t\u00f4i\u2019 l\u00e0 chi\u1ebfm h\u1eefu v\u00e0 ghen t\u1ef5, v\u00e0 ph\u1ea3n \u1ee9ng t\u1ed3i t\u1ec7 n\u1ebfu c\u00f3 s\u1ef1 \u0111e d\u1ecda b\u1eb1ng s\u1ef1 x\u00e2m l\u1ea5n. Ti\u1ebfn tr\u00ecnh ph\u1ea3n \u1ee9ng c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 x\u1ea3y ra thay th\u1ebf to\u00e0n b\u1ed9 b\u1eb1ng nh\u1eefng th\u1ee9 gi\u1ed1ng nh\u01b0; c\u0103m gh\u00e9t, b\u1ef1c b\u1ed9i, s\u1ef1 ch\u00e1n n\u1ea3n, n\u1ed7i th\u1ea5t v\u1ecdng, t\u00e2m tr\u1ea1ng v\u1ee1 m\u1ed9ng, \u0111\u00e1nh nhau, l\u1ea1nh nh\u1ea1t, \u00e1c t\u00e2m, \u00edch k\u1ec9, s\u1ef1 ph\u00e1 h\u1ee7y\u2026 b\u00e0 m\u1eb9 ph\u1ee7 \u201cc\u00e1i ch\u0103n\u201d c\u1ee7a t\u00f4i l\u00ean con trai l\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 nghi ng\u1edd. Gi\u1edd \u0111\u00e2y c\u00f4 v\u1ee3 l\u1ea1i ti\u1ebfp t\u1ee5c b\u1ea3n k\u1ecbch v\u00e0 \u0111ang c\u1ed1 th\u00e1o b\u1ecf \u201cc\u00e1i ch\u0103n\u201d \u0111\u00f3 \u0111i \u0111\u1ec3 c\u00f4 ta c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 m\u1edf r\u1ed9ng \u201cc\u00e1i ch\u0103n\u201d c\u1ee7a t\u00f4i c\u1ee7a ch\u00ednh c\u00f4 ta, \u0111\u00e2y l\u00e0 l\u00fd do t\u1ea1i sao hai ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e0n b\u00e0 gianh \u0111ua chi\u1ebfm l\u1ea5y c\u00f9ng m\u1ed9t nh\u00e2n v\u1eadt, n\u00f3 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 s\u1eed d\u1ee5ng ng\u00f4n t\u1eeb khi c\u00e3i v\u00e3: \u201canh \u1ea5y l\u00e0 ch\u1ed3ng c\u1ee7a t\u00f4i\u2026\u201d v\u00e0 m\u1eb9 ch\u1ed3ng kh\u00e1ng l\u1ea1i nh\u01b0: \u201c\u0111\u00fang r\u1ed3i, nh\u01b0ng ai l\u00e0 ch\u1ed3ng m\u00e0y tr\u01b0\u1edbc khi m\u00e0y l\u1eadp gia \u0111\u00ecnh? N\u00f3 l\u00e0 con trai tao\u201d.<\/p>\n

                                                          \u0110\u00e2y l\u00fd gi\u1ea3i t\u1ea1i sao ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef l\u00e0 ch\u1ee7 th\u1ec3; \u0111\u1eb7c bi\u1ec7t khi m\u1ed9t s\u1ed1 ng\u01b0\u1eddi hay\u00a0 th\u1ee9 g\u00ec d\u00ednh l\u00edu \u0111\u1ebfn l\u00e0 c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd theo \u0111\u01b0\u1eddng h\u01b0\u1edbng kh\u00e1c. Ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng th\u00ec t\u1eadp trung v\u00e0o \u0111i\u1ec3m kh\u00e1c ho\u00e0n to\u00e0n, anh ta \u0111\u1ee9ng ngo\u00e0i cu\u1ed9c; v\u1ec1 vi\u1ec7c \u0111\u00f3 anh ta c\u00f3 \u00fd thi\u00ean v\u1ec1 m\u1eb7t kh\u00e1ch th\u1ec3 h\u01a1n.<\/p>\n

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                                                          1. H\u1ed8I CH\u1ee8NG LU\u1eacT L\u1ec6 HAY S\u1ef0 \u0110\u1ed4 N\u00c1T.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

                                                            T\u1ea5t c\u1ea3\u00a0c\u00e1c h\u1ed9i ch\u1ee9ng \u0111\u1ec1u l\u00e0\u00a0\u0111i\u1ec1u t\u1ed3i t\u1ec7\u00a0cho h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n v\u00e0\u00a0 h\u1ea7u h\u1ebft c\u00e1c h\u1ed9i ch\u1ee9ng kh\u00f4ng hi\u1ec3u t\u1ea1i sao m\u00e0 n\u00f3 l\u1ea1i xen l\u1eabn \u00edt nh\u1ea5t th\u00ec c\u0169ng \u1edf trong m\u1ed9t s\u1ed1 ph\u1ea1m vi c\u1ee7a m\u1ed9t h\u1ed9i ch\u1ee9ng kh\u00e1c.<\/p>\n

                                                            \u201ch\u1ed9i ch\u1ee9ng quy\u1ec1n l\u1ef1c hay \u0111\u1ed5 n\u00e1t\u201d \u00a0\u0111\u1eb7c bi\u1ec7t nguy hi\u1ec3m b\u1edfi ti\u1ec1m t\u00e0ng s\u1ef1\u00a0\u0111\u1ed5 v\u1ee1 nh\u01b0\u00a0\u0111\u00e3 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c ng\u1ee5\u00a0\u00fd. N\u00f3 ph\u00e1t tri\u1ec3n nh\u01b0 th\u1ebf n\u00e0y n\u1ebfu nh\u1eefng y\u00eau c\u1ea7u kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c t\u00e1n th\u00e0nh th\u00ec k\u1ebb y\u00eau c\u1ea7u s\u1ebd n\u00f3i nh\u1eefng \u0111i\u1ec1u \u0111\u1ea1i lo\u1ea1i nh\u01b0: \u201cc\u1ee9 \u0111\u1ee3i \u0111\u1ea5y, v\u00e0 t\u00f4i s\u1ebd cho anh th\u1ea5y t\u00f4i s\u1ebd l\u00e0m g\u00ec\u2026 t\u00f4i s\u1ebd ch\u1ee9ng ki\u1ebfn s\u1ef1 th\u1ea5t b\u1ea1i trong kinh doanh c\u1ee7a anh ta. T\u00f4i s\u1ebd th\u1ea5y anh g\u1eb7p s\u1ef1 phi\u1ec1n h\u00e0..\u201d Ch\u00fa \u00fd, t\u00f4i d\u00f9ng t\u1eeb y\u00eau c\u1ea7u, ng\u01b0\u1eddi ta c\u1ef1c k\u00ec b\u1ea5p b\u00eanh (d\u1ec5 s\u1ee3 h\u00e3i, d\u1ec5 giao \u0111\u1ed9ng) th\u01b0\u1eddng d\u00f9ng quen nh\u01b0 nh\u1eefng h\u1ed9i ch\u1ee9ng ho\u1eb7c ghen tu\u00f4ng \u00edch k\u1ec9 hay hi\u1ec3m \u0111\u1ed9c hay s\u1ef1 ph\u00e1 ho\u1ea1i, hay qu\u00e1 th\u1ea5t v\u1ecdng. H\u1ecd l\u00e0 nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi th\u01b0\u1eddng c\u00f3 t\u00e2m tr\u1ea1ng \u0111\u00f2i h\u1ecfi qu\u00e1 cao. H\u1ecd nh\u00ecn nh\u1eadn qu\u00e1 xa v\u1ec1 nh\u1eefng quan \u0111i\u1ec3m c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c, hay s\u1eb5n l\u00f2ng nh\u00ecn nh\u1eadn m\u1ecdi th\u1ee9 b\u1eb1ng quan \u0111i\u1ec3m qu\u00e1 s\u1ee9c t\u01b0\u1edfng t\u01b0\u1ee3ng c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd \u2018thi\u1ec3n c\u1eadn\u2019 l\u00e0 hi\u1ec7n t\u01b0\u1ee3ng d\u1ec5 nh\u00ecn th\u1ea5y nh\u1ea5t. C\u00e1i t\u00f4i ch\u1eb3ng \u0111\u1ec3 ch\u1ed7 n\u00e0o cho s\u1ef1 ph\u00e1n quy\u1ebft t\u1ed1t \u0111\u1eb9p h\u01a1n.<\/p>\n

                                                            \u00cdt nh\u1ea5t h\u1ed9i ch\u00fang n\u00e0y l\u00e0 m\u1ed1i nguy hi\u1ec3m g\u1ea5p \u0111\u00f4i.<\/p>\n

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                                                            1. N\u1ebfu y\u00eau c\u1ea7u kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 hay s\u1ebd kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c ch\u1ea5p nh\u1eadn v\u00e0 anh ta\/c\u00f4 ta kh\u00f4ng ch\u1ecbu \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c \u00e1p l\u1ef1c, anh\/c\u00f4 s\u1ebd b\u1ecb th\u1ea5t v\u1ecdng v\u00e0 s\u1ef1 ti\u00eau tan c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 l\u00e0 k\u1ebft qu\u1ea3 c\u1ee7a s\u1ef1 thi\u1ebfu thi\u1ec7n ch\u00ed.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

                                                              R\u00fat cu\u1ed9c, c\u1ea3\u00a0 2 \u0111\u1ec1u c\u00f3\u00a0th\u1ec3\u00a0b\u1ecb\u00a0th\u1ea5t b\u1ea1i b\u1edfi con ng\u01b0\u1eddi c\u00f3\u00a0k\u0129\u00a0n\u0103ng \u0111i\u1ec1u khi\u1ec3n m\u1ecdi vi\u1ec7c th\u00ec\u00a0b\u1ecb\u00a0 thi\u1ec7t h\u1ea1i kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3\u00a0s\u1eeda ch\u1eefa\u00a0\u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c v\u00e0 k\u1ebb kh\u00e1c kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 k\u0129 n\u0103ng hay kh\u1ea3 n\u0103ng \u0111\u1ec3 l\u00e0m \u0111i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00f3. H\u1ea7u h\u1ebft nh\u1eefng k\u1ebb ch\u1ee7 m\u01b0u \u0111\u01b0a ra nh\u1eefng y\u00eau c\u1ea7u nh\u01b0 l\u00e0 \u2018h\u1ed9i ch\u1ee9ng quy\u1ec1n l\u1ef1c\u2019 th\u00ec t\u1ef1 b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n h\u1ecd kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 kh\u1ea3 n\u0103ng kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 quy\u1ec1n l\u1ef1c, n\u00f3 ch\u1ec9 bi\u1ec3u l\u1ed9 c\u00e1i t\u00f4i mu\u1ed1n di theo h\u01b0\u1edbng c\u1ee7a n\u00f3 m\u00e0 th\u00f4i.<\/p>\n

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                                                              1. C\u00e1ch n\u00e0y c\u0169ng c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 x\u1ea3y ra l\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c y\u00eau c\u1ea7u c\u00f3 t\u00e2m l\u00fd m\u1ea1nh hay th\u00e0nh c\u00f4ng \u0111\u1ebfn m\u1ee9c anh\/ch\u1ecb ta s\u1ebd ch\u1eb3ng c\u1ea7n m\u1ea3y may ch\u1ea5p nh\u1eadn nh\u1eefng \u0111\u00f2i h\u1ecfi. Trong tr\u01b0\u1eddng h\u1ee3p n\u00e0y, ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u01b0a ra y\u00eau c\u1ea7u b\u00ed m\u1eadt h\u1ebft t\u00e1c d\u1ee5ng. S\u1ef1 leo thang c\u00e0ng ti\u1ebfn xa h\u01a1n, n\u1ebfu c\u00f3 s\u1ef1 ph\u00f3 th\u00e1c th\u00ec s\u1ef1 an \u1ee7i v\u00e0 nh\u1eefng \u0111\u1ed1m than h\u1ed3ng c\u00f2n l\u1ea1i s\u1ebd \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c chuy\u1ec3n sang m\u1ed9t n\u01a1i kh\u00e1c, nguy\u00ean nh\u00e2n kh\u00e1c, hay th\u1ee9 kh\u00e1c.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

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                                                                C\u1ea3\u00a0A hay B ch\u1eb3ng c\u00e1i n\u00e0o t\u00f4t h\u01a1n nhau b\u1edfi cu\u1ed1i c\u00f9ng th\u00ec\u00a0c\u1ea3\u00a0hai \u0111\u1ec1u d\u1eabn t\u1edbi\u00a0\u0111\u1ed5 v\u1ee1\u00a0tr\u1eeb\u00a0khi thi\u1ebft l\u1eadp\u00a0 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c m\u1ed9t c\u00e1i nh\u00ecn ch\u00ednh x\u00e1c v\u00e0\u00a0th\u00edch \u0111\u00e0ng.<\/p>\n

                                                                Ngay c\u1ea3 khi m\u1ed9t l\u1ea7n \u0111\u00e3 thi\u1ebft l\u1eadp \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c m\u1ed9t quan \u0111i\u1ec3m th\u00edch \u0111\u00e1ng, n\u00f3 c\u0169ng v\u1eabn l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t nhi\u1ec7m v\u1ee5 c\u1ef1c k\u00ec kh\u00f3 kh\u0103n \u0111\u1ec3 l\u1ea5y l\u1ea1i s\u1ef1 tin t\u01b0\u1edfng c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi b\u1ea1n \u0111\u1eddi. \u00cdt nh\u1ea5t l\u00e0 hai \u0111i\u1ec1u kh\u00f3 kh\u0103n \u0111\u1ec3 l\u1ea5y l\u1ea1i s\u1ef1 tin t\u01b0\u1edfng.<\/p>\n

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                                                                1. Ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00f3 kh\u00f4ng ch\u1eafc c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 tin v\u00e0o m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c kh\u00f4ng?<\/li>\n
                                                                2. Nhi\u1ec1u ng\u01b0\u1eddi kia \u0111\u01a1n gi\u1ea3n l\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng mu\u1ed1n tin. H\u1ecd \u0111\u00f3ng c\u1eeda l\u1ea1i v\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng s\u1eb5n l\u00f2ng m\u1edf c\u1eeda. H\u1ecd c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 r\u1ea5t th\u00e2n thi\u00ean, h\u1ecd c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 r\u1ea5t hay gi\u00fap \u0111\u1ee1 ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c. C\u00f3 khi v\u1ee3 ch\u1ed3ng hay ai \u0111\u00f3 \u0111\u1ec1 ngh\u1ecb \u2018h\u00e3y quay l\u1ea1i \u0111i\u2019 h\u1ecd m\u1eb7c k\u1ec7 v\u00e0 b\u1ecf \u0111i, h\u1ecd kh\u00f4ng c\u00e3i v\u00e3, kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u00e1nh nhau, kh\u00f4ng gi\u1ea3i th\u00edch kh\u00f4ng cho l\u00fd do, h\u1ecd kh\u00f4ng nghe. H\u1ea7u h\u1ebft b\u1ecdn h\u1ecd n\u00f3i \u2018t\u00f4i \u0111i \u0111\u00e2y, t\u1ea1m bi\u1ec7t\u2019<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

                                                                  Hai \u0111i\u1ec3m n\u00e0y\u00a0\u0111\u00e3 ch\u1ec9\u00a0ra s\u1ef1\u00a0kh\u00e1c nhau gi\u1eefa nam v\u00e0\u00a0n\u1eef.\u00a0\u0110i\u1ec3m (a) \u0111\u1eb7c tr\u01b0ng c\u1ee7a ph\u00e1i n\u1eef\u00a0v\u00e0\u00a0\u0111i\u1ec3m (b). \u0111\u1eb7c n\u00e9t ti\u00eau bi\u1ec3u c\u1ee7a ph\u00e1i nam, v\u00e0o nh\u1eefng d\u1ecbp kh\u00e1c nhau t\u00f4i\u00a0 \u0111\u01b0a ra nh\u1eefng kh\u00e1c bi\u1ec7t n\u00e0y v\u1edbi nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c nhau. V\u00ed d\u1ee5, t\u00f4i \u0111\u00e3 bi\u1ebft m\u1ed9t gia \u0111\u00ecnh n\u00e0y r\u1ea5t r\u00f5 trong nhi\u1ec1u n\u0103m, t\u00f4i bi\u1ebft m\u1ecdi ng\u01b0\u1eddi trong gia \u0111\u00ecnh \u0111\u00f3 \u2013 b\u1ed1 m\u1eb9 m\u1ed9t phe, nh\u1eefng anh trai v\u00e0 em g\u00e1i v\u00e0 m\u1ed9t h\u00e0ng ng\u0169 ch\u1ec9nh t\u1ec1 c\u1ee7a nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi h\u1ecd h\u00e0ng c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd v\u00e0 nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi b\u1ea1n. H\u1ecd \u0111\u00e3 li d\u1ecb sau khi t\u00f4i tr\u1edf l\u1ea1i \u1ea4n \u0110\u1ed9, sau \u0111\u00f3 nh\u00e2n d\u1ecbp chuy\u1ec3n c\u00f4ng t\u00e1c t\u00f4i \u0111\u00e3 g\u1eb7p l\u1ea1i h\u1ecd. Khi t\u00f4i n\u00f3i chuy\u1ec7n v\u1edbi c\u00f4 \u1ea5y, c\u00f4 \u1ea5y k\u1ec3: anh \u1ea5y l\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi h\u1eefu \u00edch nh\u1ea5t, c\u00f4 \u1ea5y c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 \u0111\u00e1nh th\u1ee9c anh \u1ea5y d\u1eady b\u1ea5t k\u00ec khi n\u00e0o n\u1ebfu xe c\u1ee7a c\u00f4 b\u1ecb h\u1ecfng. Anh \u1ea5y n\u1eb1m d\u01b0\u1edbi g\u1ea7m xe, d\u01b0\u1edbi capo v\u00e0 b\u1ea5t k\u00ec \u0111\u00e2u anh \u1ea5y c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 \u0111i mua ph\u1ee5 ki\u1ec7n v\u00e0 \u0111\u1ea3m b\u1ea3o cho xe c\u1ee7a t\u00f4i l\u1ea1i ho\u1ea1t \u0111\u1ed9ng, anh \u1ea5y kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi s\u1eeda ch\u1eefa hay ng\u01b0\u1eddi s\u1eeda xe. Anh ch\u1ec9 bi\u1ebft l\u00e0m nh\u1eefng g\u00ec m\u00e0 anh bi\u1ebft c\u0169ng gi\u1ed1ng nh\u01b0 nh\u1eefng t\u00ecnh hu\u1ed1ng kh\u00e1c m\u00e0 th\u00f4i. K\u0129 thu\u1eadt hay kh\u00f4ng k\u0129 thu\u1eadt khi m\u1ecdi vi\u1ec7c ho\u00e0n t\u1ea5t anh \u0111\u01a1n gi\u1ea3n ch\u1ec9 n\u00f3i \u201cc\u1ee9 b\u1ea3o anh n\u1ebfu c\u00f3 g\u00ec tr\u1ee5c tr\u1eb7c\u201d. Anh \u1ea5y ch\u1eb3ng bao gi\u1edd \u0111i ra qu\u00e1n u\u1ed1ng caf\u00e9, tr\u00e0 hay th\u1ee9 g\u00ec kh\u00e1c. Ngay c\u1ea3 ch\u1eb3ng c\u1ea7n r\u1eeda tay. Khi c\u00f4 mang c\u00e1i g\u00ec \u0111\u00f3 t\u1edbi n\u01a1i anh \u0111ang l\u00e0m vi\u1ec7c, anh \u1ea5y \u0103n t\u1ea1i \u0111\u00f3, nhai t\u00f3p t\u00e9p b\u1ea5t k\u00ec th\u1ee9 g\u00ec c\u00f4 mang \u0111\u1ebfn nh\u01b0 th\u1ec3 l\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi ph\u1ea3i c\u00f3 nhi\u1ec7m v\u1ee5 nh\u01b0 v\u1eady. C\u00f3 l\u1ea7n t\u00f4i g\u1ee3i \u00fd b\u1ea3o anh \u0111\u1ebfn g\u1ea7n v\u00e0 n\u00f3i chuy\u1ec7n phi\u1ebfm m\u1ed9t t\u00ed, anh \u1ea5y s\u1eb5n s\u00e0ng \u0111i ngay. Th\u1ef1c t\u1ebf \u0111\u1ebfn \u0111\u00f3 m\u1ed9t l\u1ea7n ch\u1ec9 \u0111\u1ec3 th\u1eed v\u00e0 gi\u1eef anh \u1ea5y l\u1ea1i l\u00e2u h\u01a1n m\u1ed9t ch\u00fat, c\u00f4 \u1ea5y \u0111\u00e3 ph\u1ea3i c\u1ed1 \u00fd kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u01b0a ra ch\u1ee7 \u0111\u1ec1 n\u00e0y, nh\u01b0ng c\u00e0ng n\u00f3i th\u00ec m\u1ecdi vi\u1ec7c l\u1ea1i tr\u1edf n\u00ean r\u00f5 r\u00e0ng nh\u01b0ng kh\u00f4ng s\u1ee3\u00a0 n\u00f3i v\u1ec1 cu\u1ed9c h\u1eb9n g\u1eb7p.<\/p>\n

                                                                  T\u00f4i c\u0169ng g\u1eb7p anh \u1ea5y; ch\u00fang t\u00f4i l\u1ea1i nh\u01b0\u00a0nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi b\u1ea1n c\u00f9ng l\u1edbp. Th\u1eadt d\u1ec5\u00a0d\u00e0ng khi n\u00f3i chuy\u1ec7n v\u1edbi anh \u1ea5y. N\u00f3\u00a0nh\u01b0\u00a0 th\u1ec3\u00a0ch\u00fang t\u00f4i ch\u01b0a bao gi\u1edd\u00a0xa nhau. Ch\u00fang t\u00f4i c\u00f9ng \u0111i tr\u00ean m\u1ed9t chi\u1ebfc xe trong khi \u0111\u00f3 t\u00f4i \u0111\u01b0a ra ch\u1ee7 \u0111\u1ec1 r\u00e0ng h\u1ecd n\u00ean quay l\u1ea1i v\u1edbi nhau, anh \u1ea5y kh\u00f4ng t\u1ecf ra \u0111i\u1ec1u g\u00ec, ho\u00e0n to\u00e0n th\u1eb3ng th\u1eafn. T\u00f4i \u0111\u00e3 m\u1ea5t anh \u1ea5y. Anh \u1ea5y \u0111i \u0111\u00e2u t\u00f4i kh\u00f4ng bi\u1ebft nh\u01b0ng th\u00e2n x\u00e1c anh \u1ea5y th\u00ec tr\u00ean xe, ch\u1ec9 m\u1ed9t \u0111\u1ec1 ngh\u1ecb nh\u01b0 v\u1eady th\u00f4i \u0111\u00e3 \u0111\u01b0a anh \u1ea5y t\u1edbi v\u1ef1c th\u1eb3m c\u1ea3m x\u00fac gi\u1ed1ng nh\u01b0 \u2018h\u1ed1 \u0111en\u2019 n\u01a1i m\u00e0 m\u1ecdi th\u1ee9 \u0111\u1ec1u tan bi\u1ebfn kh\u00f4ng c\u00f2n t\u0103m h\u01a1i. D\u1ea7n d\u1ea7n n\u00f3i v\u1ec1 nh\u1eefng chuy\u1ec7n kh\u00e1c c\u0169ng nh\u01b0 h\u1ecfi anh \u1ea5y v\u1ec1 nh\u1eefng v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 k\u1ef9 thu\u1eadt v\u00e0 d\u1ef1 \u0111\u1ecbnh c\u1ee7a t\u00f4i \u0111i Ch\u00e2u \u00e2u, t\u00f4i c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 \u0111\u01b0a anh \u1ea5y v\u1ec1 tr\u1ea1ng th\u00e1i ban \u0111\u1ea7u. Nh\u01b0 th\u1ec3 anh \u1ea5y \u0111ang ch\u1eafc ch\u1eafn ngh\u0129 r\u1eb1ng: \u201ctr\u1ea1ng th\u00e1i t\u1ef1 do \u0111\u00e3 r\u00f5 r\u00e0ng\u201d tr\u01b0\u1edbc khi m\u1ea1o hi\u1ec3m quay l\u1ea1i. N\u1ebfu c\u00f3 m\u1ed9t \u0111\u1ec1 ngh\u1ecb g\u1ee3i \u00fd quay l\u1ea1i ch\u1ee7 \u0111\u1ec1 \u201cquay l\u1ea1i\u201d c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd th\u00ec n\u00f3 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 \u0111\u1ea9y anh \u1ea5y v\u00e0o c\u01a1n l\u1ed1c xo\u00e1y. Trong khi ch\u00fang t\u00f4i \u0111ang b\u1ecb giam gi\u1eef trong xe, ch\u00fang t\u00f4i ph\u00f3ng v\u00e0o xa l\u1ed9 v\u1edbi t\u1ed1c \u0111\u1ed9 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 kh\u00f4ng b\u1ecb gi\u1edbi h\u1ea1n.<\/p>\n

                                                                  Quan \u0111i\u1ec3m\u00a0\u1edf\u00a0 \u0111\u00e2y l\u00e0\u00a0t\u00ecnh c\u1ea3m ph\u1ee9c t\u1ea1p\u00a0\u2013\u00a0r\u1ea5t ph\u1ee9c t\u1ea1p.<\/p>\n

                                                                  Kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i v\u1ea5n\u00a0 \u0111\u1ec1\u00a0\u1edf\u00a0\u0111\u00e2y l\u00e0\u00a0nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng l\u1ed7\u00a0 m\u00e3ng, kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3\u00a0t\u00e2m h\u1ed3n kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3\u00a0c\u1ea3m x\u00fac. H\u1ecd\u00a0 c\u0169ng c\u00f3\u00a0kh\u1ea3\u00a0n\u0103ng t\u00ecnh c\u1ea3m m\u00e3nh li\u1ec7t nh\u01b0\u00a0nh\u1eefng ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef. S\u1ef1 kh\u00e1c bi\u1ec7t l\u00e0 h\u1ecd kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 hi\u1ec7n n\u00f3 th\u01b0\u1eddng xuy\u00ean nh\u01b0 ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef. N\u1ebfu m\u1ed9t ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef kh\u00f3c n\u01a1i c\u00f4ng c\u1ed9ng, ch\u1eb3ng ai ch\u00ea bai c\u00f4 ta c\u1ea3. Th\u1ef1c ra ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef kh\u00f3c cho nhi\u1ec1u l\u00fd do v\u00e0 n\u00f3 th\u01b0\u1eddng xuy\u00ean h\u01a1n so v\u1edbi \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng. \u0110\u00e0n \u00f4ng t\u1eeb th\u1eddi ni\u00ean thi\u1ebfu \u0111\u00e3 kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c kh\u00f3c. N\u1ebfu h\u1ecd kh\u00f3c th\u00ec s\u1eb5n s\u00e0ng c\u00f3 c\u00e1i m\u00e1c l\u00e0 \u201cm\u00edt \u01b0\u1edbt\u201d, \u201c\u00f5ng \u1eb9o\u201d v\u00e0 nh\u1eefng \u0111i\u1ec1u kh\u00e1c n\u1eefa. X\u00e3 h\u1ed9i n\u00f3i chung l\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng cho h\u1ecd kh\u00f3c. Th\u1ef1c ra s\u1ef1 so s\u00e1nh c\u0103n b\u1ea3n c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 l\u00e0 l\u00fd do \u0111\u1ec3 kh\u1eb3ng \u0111\u1ecbnh r\u1eb1ng \u201cph\u1ee5 n\u1eef c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 kh\u00f3c v\u00ec b\u1ea5t c\u1ee9 \u0111i\u1ec1u g\u00ec, nh\u01b0ng n\u1ebfu \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng m\u00e0 kh\u00f3c \u2013 s\u1ef1 \u0111au \u0111\u1edbn s\u1ebd l\u00e0m cho ch\u00fang c\u00e0ng \u0111au \u0111\u1edbn h\u01a1n\u201d. \u0110i\u1ec1u n\u00e0y c\u00f2n t\u1ed3i t\u1ec7 h\u01a1n n\u1ebfu kh\u00f3c \u1edf gi\u1eefa c\u00f4ng ch\u00fang. Th\u1ef1c t\u1ebf c\u00e1i \u0111au \u0111\u1edbn \u0111\u1ea5y \u0111\u1ebfn m\u1ee9c t\u1ed9t c\u00f9ng gi\u00e1ng xu\u1ed1ng \u0111\u1ea7u ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng s\u1ebd t\u1ea1o ra t\u00ecnh hu\u1ed1ng \u201cgi\u1eadt ra\u201d th\u01b0\u1eddng l\u00e0 \u201cs\u1ef1 che \u0111\u1eady\u201d s\u1ebd l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t v\u1ee5 tai n\u1ea1n hay \u201ckho\u1ea3ng tr\u1eafng\u201d trong b\u00e0i thi. M\u1ecdi th\u1ee9 \u0111\u1ec1u b\u1ecf tr\u1ed1ng. Ch\u1ec9 gi\u1ed1ng nh\u01b0 s\u1ef1 l\u00e3ng qu\u00ean v\u00e0 \u0111\u1ec3 tr\u00e1nh v\u01b0\u1ee3t qua s\u1ef1 t\u01b0\u1edfng t\u01b0\u1ee3ng. Nh\u1eefng gi\u1ecdt bu\u1ed3n c\u0169ng v\u01b0\u1ee3t qua t\u1ea7m suy ngh\u0129. Nh\u1eefng gi\u1ecdt n\u01b0\u1edbc m\u1eaft \u0111\u00e3 v\u01b0\u1ee3t qu\u00e1 xa c\u00e1i ng\u0103n c\u00e1ch t\u00ecnh c\u1ea3m n\u01a1i m\u00e0 ch\u1eb3ng c\u00f3 gi\u1ecdt n\u01b0\u1edbc m\u1eaft n\u00e0o c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 mang l\u1ea1i s\u1ef1 gi\u1ea3i tho\u00e1t. Chi\u1ec1u s\u00e2u c\u1ee7a c\u1ea3m x\u00fac n\u00e0y t\u01b0\u01a1ng \u0111\u1ed3ng v\u1edbi \u2018c\u00e1i \u0111au \u0111\u1edbn\u2019 khi ng\u01b0\u1eddi y\u00eau b\u1ecb ch\u1ebft. \u201cC\u00e1i \u0111au \u0111\u1edbn\u201d v\u00e0 \u201ch\u1ed1i ti\u1ebfc\u201d l\u00e0 hai \u0111i\u1ec1u kh\u00f4ng gi\u1ed1ng nhau. Ch\u00fang ch\u1ec9 c\u00f3 c\u00f9ng h\u01b0\u1edbng nh\u01b0ng m\u1ee9c \u0111\u1ed9 l\u1ea1i kh\u00e1c xa nhau. V\u00ed d\u1ee5, t\u00f4i r\u1ea5t ti\u1ebfc, t\u00f4i b\u1ecb c\u1ea3m l\u1ea1nh v\u00e0 \u0111ang b\u1ecb ch\u1ea3y n\u01b0\u1edbc m\u0169i, trong th\u00e2m t\u00e2m t\u00f4i bi\u1ebft r\u1eb1ng m\u1ed9t ng\u00e0y kia t\u00f4i s\u1ebd \u1ed5n. Do \u0111\u00f3, \u0111i\u1ec1u b\u1ea5t ti\u1ec7n n\u00e0y t\u00f4i s\u1ebd \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c gi\u1ea3i tho\u00e1t trong nay mai. Hay m\u1ed9t qu\u00fd b\u00e0 th\u01b0\u01a1ng ti\u00eac v\u00ec con c\u1ee7a b\u00e0 s\u1ebd \u0111i h\u1ecdc \u1edf n\u01b0\u1edbc kh\u00e1c. Trong th\u00e2m t\u00e2m b\u00e0 bi\u1ebft, trong t\u00e1m th\u00e1ng n\u1eefa k\u00ec ngh\u1ec9 ch\u00ednh th\u1ee9c s\u1ebd t\u1edbi v\u00e0 con b\u00e0 s\u1ebd v\u1ec1 nh\u00e0. B\u00e0 \u1ea5y s\u1ebd t\u00ecm ra c\u00e1ch \u0111\u1ec3 t\u1ef1 an \u1ee7i m\u00ecnh b\u1eb1ng c\u00e1ch th\u1ef1c t\u1ebf r\u1eb1ng con trai c\u1ee7a b\u00e0 \u0111ang l\u1edbn l\u00ean trong t\u00ednh c\u00e1ch v\u00e0 thu\u1eadn v\u1ec1 thuy\u1ebft c\u1ee7a anh \u1ea5y. C\u00f3 th\u1ec3 b\u00e0 \u1ea5y b\u1eadn b\u1ecbu v\u1edbi b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n v\u1ec1 vi\u1ec7c s\u1eeda so\u1ea1n l\u1ea1i c\u0103n ph\u00f2ng c\u1ee7a c\u1eadu con trai \u0111\u1ec1 l\u00e0m cho n\u00f3 h\u1ea5p d\u1eabn h\u01a1n. N\u1ed7i \u0111au bu\u1ed3n, n\u00f3i m\u1ed9t c\u00e1ch kh\u00e1c,n\u00f3 c\u00f3 y\u1ebfu t\u1ed1 cu\u1ed1i c\u00f9ng trong \u0111\u00f3.Khi m\u1ed9t t\u00ecnh y\u00eau c\u1ee7a ai \u0111\u00f3 ch\u1ebft, \u0111\u00f3 l\u00e0 th\u1ee9 c\u00f2n l\u1ea1i c\u1ee7a cu\u1ed9c \u0111\u1eddi c\u1ee7a ch\u00fang ta tr\u00ean tr\u00e1i \u0111\u1ea5t n\u00e0y. Ch\u00fang ta l\u00e0 nh\u1eefng Kit\u00f4 h\u1eefu, ch\u00fang ta tin r\u1eb1ng ch\u00fang ta s\u1ebd l\u1ea1i g\u1eb7p nhau tr\u00ean thi\u00ean \u0111\u00e0ng, nh\u01b0ng \u0111\u1ed1i v\u1edbi nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00f4ng Kit\u00f4 c\u00f2n l\u1ea1i tr\u00ean tr\u00e1i \u0111\u1ea5t n\u00e0y, ch\u00fang ta ch\u1eb3ng nh\u00ecn th\u1ea5y ng\u01b0\u1eddi n\u00e0y n\u1eefa.<\/p>\n

                                                                  Khi con ng\u01b0\u1eddi li d\u1ecb\u00a0 v\u00e0\u00a0c\u00f3\u00a0l\u1ebd\u00a0t\u00e1i h\u00f4n, c\u00f3\u00a0nh\u1eefng th\u00e0nh ph\u1ea7n c\u1ee7a\u00a0\u201cn\u1ed7i\u00a0\u0111au kh\u1ed5\u201d k\u1ebft h\u1ee3p l\u1ea1i. N\u00f3\u00a0gi\u1ed1ng nh\u01b0\u00a0\u0111i\u1ec1u kh\u00f4ng tr\u1edf\u00a0l\u1ea1i. Vi\u1ec7c t\u00e1i h\u00f4n c\u1ee7a nh\u1eefng v\u1ee3 ch\u1ed3ng \u0111\u00e3 g\u1eafn c\u00e1i \u0111\u1ecbnh m\u1ec7nh kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 b\u00e3i b\u1ecf \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c v\u00e0 gia c\u1ed1 n\u00f3 b\u1eb1ng m\u1ed9t v\u0103n b\u1ea3n lu\u1eadt. B\u1ea5t ch\u1ea5p nh\u1eefng g\u00ec m\u00e0 con ng\u01b0\u1eddi c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 gi\u1ea3 v\u1edd n\u00f3i, th\u1ef1c t\u1ebf l\u00e0 \u1edf ch\u1ed7 c\u1ea3 hai ch\u1ebft m\u1ed9t ch\u00fat kh\u00f4ng m\u00f4 t\u1ea3 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c, x\u00fac \u0111\u1ed9ng kh\u00f4ng n\u00f3i l\u00ean nh\u01b0ng m\u1ed9t ph\u1ea7n c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n b\u1ecb m\u1ea5t \u0111i m\u00e3i m\u00e3i. Ch\u1eb3ng c\u00f3 n\u01a1i \u0111\u00e2u c\u00f3 quan \u0111i\u1ec3m n\u00e0y \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c \u0111\u1ea1t s\u00fac t\u00edch v\u00e0 ch\u00ednh x\u00e1c h\u01a1n trong Kinh th\u00e1nh.<\/p>\n

                                                                  \u201cV\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e3 ph\u00e1n: V\u00ec th\u1ebf, ng\u01b0\u1eddi ta s\u1ebd l\u00eca cha m\u1eb9 m\u00e0 g\u1eafn b\u00f3 v\u1edbi v\u1ee3 m\u00ecnh, v\u00e0 c\u1ea3 hai s\u1ebd th\u00e0nh m\u1ed9t x\u01b0\u01a1ng m\u1ed9t th\u1ecbt\u201d. Mathew 19:5. \u00a0<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

                                                                  \u201c\u2026AND THE TWO SHALL BECOME ONE FLESH.\u201d \u00a0\u00a0\u00a0Mathew 19:5<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

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                                                                  Ch\u1eb3ng c\u00f3\u00a0l\u1eddi n\u00e0o c\u1ee7a c\u00e1c Th\u00e1nh hay c\u00e1c T\u00f4ng \u0111\u1ed3, ch\u1ec9 c\u00f3 l\u1eddi c\u1ee7a ch\u00ednh Ch\u00faa Gi\u00easu.<\/p>\n

                                                                  Hai ng\u01b0\u1eddi k\u1ebft h\u1ee3p th\u00e0nh m\u1ed9t. N\u00f3\u00a0l\u00e0\u00a0\u0111i\u1ec1u th\u00fa\u00a0v\u1ecb\u00a0ghi nh\u1eadn s\u1ef1\u00a0l\u1ef1a ch\u1ecdn c\u1ee7a nh\u1eefng l\u1eddi n\u00f3i Ch\u00faa Gi\u00easu \u0111\u00e3 kh\u00f4ng n\u00f3i h\u1ecd\u00a0l\u00e0\u00a0c\u00f9ng th\u1ecbt hay \u0111\u00f3 l\u00e0\u00a0c\u00f9ng lo\u1ea1i hay ngay c\u1ea3\u00a0v\u1ea5n\u00a0\u0111\u1ec1 n\u00e0y thu\u1ed9c v\u1ec1\u00a0m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c. Ch\u00faa\u00a0\u0111\u00e3 d\u00f9ng t\u1eeb th\u00e2n th\u1ec3 (Flesh), \u0111\u00f3 l\u00e0 xu\u01a1ng th\u1ecbt S\u1ed0NG<\/p>\n

                                                                  . Ch\u00fang ta l\u00e0 \u201cm\u1ed9t\u201d (one) v\u1edbi v\u00f3c d\u00e1ng hai ng\u01b0\u1eddi. Ch\u00faa t\u1ea5t nhi\u00ean l\u00e0 s\u1ef1 hi\u1ec7n di\u1ec7n c\u1ee7a \u201cOmni\u201d. \u1ede m\u1ee9c \u0111\u1ed9 quen thu\u1ed9c n\u00e0o \u0111\u00f3, cho d\u00f9 kh\u00f4ng ho\u00e0n to\u00e0n gi\u1ed1ng nh\u01b0 ph\u00e9p ngo\u1ea1i suy, c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 l\u00e0 nh\u1eefng con m\u1eaft. Con ng\u01b0\u1eddi c\u00f3 \u0111\u00f4i m\u1eaft, nh\u01b0ng m\u1ed3m ch\u1ec9 c\u00f3 m\u1ed9t.<\/p>\n

                                                                  H\u00f4n nh\u00e2n l\u00e0\u00a0s\u1ef1\u00a0 giao ph\u00f3, l\u00e0\u00a0m\u1ed9t s\u1ef1\u00a0giao ph\u00f3\u00a0r\u1ea5t s\u00e2u s\u1eafc. C\u1ea7n\u00a0 m\u1ee9c\u00a0\u0111\u1ed9 ch\u00edn ch\u1eafn cao ch\u1ec9\u00a0\u0111\u1ec3 c\u00f3\u00a0m\u1ed9t cu\u1ed9c h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n t\u1ed1t h\u1ee3p l\u00fd\u00a0. V\u00ec th\u1ebf, t\u1ea1i sao theo b\u1ea3n n\u0103ng b\u1ea5t k\u00ec\u00a0x\u00e3\u00a0h\u1ed9i, t\u00f4n gi\u00e1o, qu\u1ed1c gia n\u00e0o; b\u1ea5t k\u00ec\u00a0k\u1ec9\u00a0nguy\u00ean n\u00e0o c\u0169ng mong \u0111\u1ee3i con ng\u01b0\u1eddi c\u00f3 nh\u1eefng quy \u0111\u1ecbnh v\u1ec1 \u0111\u1ed9 tu\u1ed5i t\u1ed1i thi\u1ebfu cho vi\u1ec7c\u00a0 l\u1eadp gia \u0111\u00ecnh. M\u1ecdi ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u1ed3ng \u00fd r\u1eb1ng \u0111\u1ed9 tu\u1ed5i t\u1ed1i thi\u1ec3u ph\u1ea3i qua \u0111\u1ed9 tu\u1ed5i ch\u00edn mu\u1ed3i\u00a0 ph\u00e1t tri\u1ec3n v\u1ec1 th\u1ec3 ch\u1ea5t v\u00e0 tr\u00ed tu\u1ec7.<\/p>\n

                                                                  B\u1eadt kh\u00f3c kh\u00f4ng gi\u1ed1ng t\u00ecnh hu\u1ed1ng khi ng\u01b0\u1eddi y\u00eau b\u1ecb ch\u1ebft, m\u1ed9t s\u1ed1 ng\u01b0\u1eddi y\u00eau kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 kh\u00f3c. Nh\u1eefng gi\u1ecdt n\u01b0\u1edbc m\u1eaft ch\u1ec9 tu\u00f4n ch\u1ea3y sau \u0111\u00f3. \u0110i\u1ec1u n\u00e0y x\u1ea3y ra b\u1edfi m\u1ed9t t\u00e2m l\u00fd \u201cch\u1ebft l\u1eb7ng \u0111i\u201d. \u0110\u00e2y l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t c\u1eed ch\u1ec9 r\u1ea5t nh\u00e2n t\u1eeb m\u00e0 m\u1ed9t s\u1ed1 ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e3 tr\u1ea3i qua. \u0110\u1eb7c bi\u1ec7t l\u00e0 nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi h\u1ecd \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c giao ph\u00f3 hay t\u1ef1 b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n h\u1ecd th\u1ea5y x\u00fac \u0111\u1ed9ng m\u1ea1nh khi nh\u1eadn th\u1ea5y m\u1ecdi th\u1ee9 \u0111\u1ec1u \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c quan t\u00e2m. \u0110\u00f3 l\u00e0 th\u1eddi k\u00ec m\u00e0 c\u00e1i kh\u00f4 hanh, c\u00e1i \u0111au bu\u1ed3n v\u00e0 nh\u1eefng y\u1ebfu t\u1ed1 kh\u00e1c ch\u1ec9 l\u00e0 nh\u1eefng ch\u00e1y kh\u00ea (put on the back burned). \u0110\u1ec3 cho ng\u01b0\u1eddi ta hay m\u1ecdi ng\u01b0\u1eddi c\u00f3 th\u1eddi gian\u00a0 ho\u00e0n t\u1ea5t c\u00f4ng vi\u1ec7c. M\u1ed9t l\u1ea7n m\u1ecdi vi\u1ec7c ph\u1ea3i \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c ho\u00e0n t\u1ea5t v\u00e0 nh\u1eefng tr\u00e1ch nhi\u1ec7m c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd c\u0169ng ho\u00e0n t\u1ea5t, v\u00e0 t\u1ef1 b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n h\u1ecd l\u00e0m gi\u1ea3m \u0111i nh\u1eefng \u201cngh\u0129a v\u1ee5\u201d c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh. \u0110\u00f3 l\u00e0 l\u00fac h\u1ecd c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 cho ph\u00e9p c\u00e1i \u0111au kh\u1ed5 x\u00e2m nh\u1eadp v\u00e0o cu\u1ed9c \u0111\u1eddi h\u1ecd.<\/p>\n

                                                                  Theo c\u00f9ng m\u1ed9t c\u00e1ch, cho d\u00f9\u00a0kh\u00f4ng ho\u00e0n to\u00e0n gi\u1ed1ng ch\u00ednh x\u00e1c nh\u01b0\u00a0 ng\u1ea5t cho\u00e1ng. Ng\u1ea5t cho\u00e1ng l\u00e0 s\u1ef1 k\u1ebft h\u1ee3p ki\u1ec3u\u00a0 th\u00e2n th\u1ec3 l\u00e0 th\u00e2n th\u1ec3 \u2013 tr\u00ed \u00f3c \u2013 tr\u00e1i tim v\u00e0 linh h\u1ed3n. C\u00f3 r\u1ea5t nhi\u1ec1u l\u00ed do cho vi\u1ec7c ng\u1ea5t \u0111i. N\u00f3 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 d\u00f9ng s\u00e1ch y h\u1ecdc m\u00e0 gi\u1ea3i th\u00edch cho hi\u1ec7n t\u01b0\u1ee3ng n\u00e0y. M\u1ee5c \u0111\u00edch \u0111\u1ec1 c\u1eadp \u1edf \u0111\u00e2y ch\u1ec9 l\u00e0 th\u1eed nghi\u1ec7m m\u1ed9t ph\u1ea7n nh\u1ecf c\u1ee7a hi\u1ec7n t\u01b0\u1ee3ng trong b\u1ed1i c\u1ea3nh n\u00e0y th\u00f4i. V\u00ed d\u1ee5, s\u1ef1 ng\u1ea5t \u0111i \u0111\u1ebfn b\u1edfi m\u1ed9t y\u1ebfu t\u1ed1 l\u00e0 b\u1ecb s\u1ed1c, ng\u01b0\u1eddi ta nh\u00ecn th\u1ea5y m\u1ed9t v\u00e0i \u0111i\u1ec1u g\u00e2y s\u1ed1c kinh kh\u1ee7ng nh\u01b0 m\u1ed9t v\u1ee5 tai n\u1ea1n ch\u1eb3ng h\u1ea1n. Hay nghe th\u1ea5y tin x\u1ea5u nh\u01b0 l\u00e0 c\u00e1i ch\u1ebft c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi g\u1ea7n g\u0169i. H\u00e0nh \u0111\u1ed9ng ng\u1ea5t cho\u00e1ng nh\u01b0 l\u00e0 c\u00e1ch b\u1ea3o v\u1ec7 t\u1ef1 nhi\u00ean khi ng\u01b0\u1eddi ta n\u00f3i r\u1eb1ng \u201c\u0111\u1ee7 r\u1ed3i, b\u1ea1n kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i nh\u00ecn th\u1ea5y n\u00f3 th\u00eam n\u1eefa, b\u1ea1n \u0111\u00e3 nh\u00ecn \u0111\u1ee7 r\u1ed3i. Hay b\u1ea1n kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i nghe th\u00eam \u0111i\u1ec1u g\u00ec n\u1eefa\u201d. S\u1ef1 ng\u1ea5t cho\u00e1ng t\u1ef1 n\u00f3 l\u00e0m cho ng\u01b0\u1eddi ta l\u0103n \u0111\u00f9ng ra (knock down), do \u0111\u00f3 th\u00e2n th\u1ec3 b\u1ecb n\u0103n ngang ra. Con tim kh\u00f4ng b\u1ecb ch\u1ebft hay ng\u1eebng \u0111\u1eadp bao gi\u1edd, ch\u1eebng n\u00e0o m\u00e0 ch\u00fang ta c\u00f2n s\u1ed1ng. \u0110i\u1ec1u duy nh\u1ea5t c\u00f2n l\u1ea1i l\u00e0 ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0m h\u00f4 h\u1ea5p (c\u1eed \u0111\u1ed9ng tay theo nh\u1ecbp l\u00ean xu\u1ed1ng) khi ch\u00fang ta n\u1eb1m xu\u1ed1ng hay ng\u1ee7 v\u1edbi t\u01b0 th\u1ebf th\u1eb3ng c\u0103ng nh\u01b0 khi ta \u0111\u1ee9ng. S\u1ef1 ch\u1ea1y v\u00e0 th\u1ec3 thao l\u00e0 v\u00ed d\u1ee5 v\u1ec1 vi\u1ec7c \u0111\u1eb7t nh\u1ecbp tim v\u00e0o m\u1ed9t cu\u1ed9c \u0111i nhanh h\u01a1n ch\u1eb3ng c\u00f2n nghi ng\u1edd g\u00ec khi t\u1ea5t c\u1ea3 nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi s\u1ed1ng c\u00f3 m\u1ed9t ch\u1ec9 s\u1ed1 v\u1ec1 nh\u1eefng ki\u1ec3u c\u1ee7a kh\u1ea3 n\u0103ng t\u1ed3n t\u1ea1i c\u1ea7n thi\u1ebft.<\/p>\n

                                                                  Quay tr\u1edf\u00a0l\u1ea1i v\u1edbi\u00a0 \u201cH\u1ed9i ch\u1ee9ng quy t\u1eafc v\u00e0\u00a0s\u1ef1\u00a0\u0111\u1ed5 v\u1ee1\u201d<\/p>\n

                                                                  Ng\u01b0\u1eddi ta t\u1ef1\u00a0l\u00e0m vi\u1ec7c trong l\u0129nh v\u1ef1c kinh doanh m\u1edbi.Nh\u1ecf hay c\u00f4ng vi\u1ec7c kinh doanh nh\u1ecf t\u00ed \u0111\u1eb7c bi\u1ec7t d\u1ec5 b\u1ecb t\u1ea5n c\u00f4ng do nh\u1eefng t\u00e1c \u0111\u1ed9ng c\u00f3 h\u1ea1i c\u1ee7a h\u1ed9i ch\u1ee9ng n\u00e0y. Ch\u00fang b\u1ecb t\u1ea5n c\u00f4ng v\u00ec ch\u00fang ch\u1ec9 c\u00f3 m\u1ed9t m\u00ecnh, v\u00e0 ch\u1ed3ng\/v\u1ee3 c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd th\u01b0\u1eddng ch\u1ec9 l\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c m\u00e0 h\u1ecd s\u1eb5n s\u00e0ng d\u1ef1a v\u00e0o. Con \u0111\u01b0\u1eddng c\u1ee7a m\u1ed9t ch\u1ee7 doanh nghi\u1ec7p m\u1edbi l\u00e0 con \u0111\u01b0\u1eddng r\u1ea5t c\u00f4 \u0111\u01a1n, v\u1edbi s\u1ed1 ti\u1ec1n \u00edt \u1ecfi, v\u1edbi m\u1ed9t ch\u00fat kinh nghi\u1ec7m \u00edt \u1ecfi, kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 ch\u1ed7 \u0111\u1ee9ng tr\u00ean th\u1ecb tr\u01b0\u1eddng, v\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 danh t\u00ednh (th\u00e0nh t\u00edch). \u0110i\u1ec1u duy nh\u1ea5t h\u1ecd c\u00f3 l\u00e0 nh\u1eefng gi\u1ea5c m\u01a1. Nh\u1eefng gi\u1ea5c m\u01a1 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 tr\u1edf th\u00e0nh nh\u1eefng m\u00f3n, t\u1ea5t c\u1ea3 nh\u1eefng m\u00f3n c\u1ee5 th\u1ec3. Do \u0111\u00f3, c\u00f3 nh\u1eefng r\u1ee7i ro v\u00e0 s\u1ef1 th\u1ea5t b\u1ea1i trong nh\u1eefng bi\u1ec7n ph\u00e1p d\u01b0 th\u1eeba. Nh\u01b0ng b\u00e0 v\u1ee3 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t ngu\u1ed3n c\u1ed5 v\u0169 v\u00e0 khuy\u1ebfn kh\u00edch kinh kh\u1ee7ng ho\u1eb7c h\u1ecd c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t ph\u1ea7n c\u1ee7a s\u1ef1 c\u0103ng th\u1eb3ng (stress).<\/p>\n

                                                                  T\u1ea5t c\u1ea3\u00a0nh\u1eefng b\u00e0\u00a0 v\u1ee3\u00a0\u0111\u1ec1u kh\u1edfi s\u1ef1\u00a0t\u00edch c\u1ef1c trong nh\u1eefng gi\u1ea5c m\u01a1 c\u1ee7a ch\u1ed3ng m\u00ecnh, v\u00e0 h\u1ecd s\u1eb5n s\u00e0ng \u1ee7ng h\u1ed9 h\u1ecd (ch\u1ed3ng) qua s\u1ef1 trung th\u00e0nh. N\u00f3i ra l\u00e0 s\u1ef1 bu\u1ed3n t\u1ebb b\u1ea5t bi\u1ebfn c\u1ee7a vi\u1ec7c c\u00f3 r\u1ea5t \u00edt ti\u1ec1n, thi\u1ebfu\u00a0 th\u00e0nh c\u00f4ng thuy\u1ebft ph\u1ee5c trong m\u1ed9t kho\u1ea3ng th\u1eddi gian d\u00e0i. Trong kh\u1ea3 n\u0103ng c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 \u0111\u1ea3m b\u1ea3o c\u00f3 m\u1ed9t ch\u1ed7 \u0111\u1ee9ng tr\u00ean th\u01b0\u01a1ng tr\u01b0\u1eddng, s\u1ed1ng b\u00ean b\u1edd r\u1ee7i ro, s\u1ed1ng v\u1edbi s\u1ef1 th\u1ea5t b\u1ea1i nh\u01b0 l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t y\u1ebfu t\u1ed1 b\u1ea5t bi\u1ebfn m\u1ed7i ng\u00e0y v\u00e0 nhi\u1ec1u v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 kh\u00e1c l\u00e0m cho v\u1ee3 g\u1ee5c xu\u1ed1ng (wear a wife down), s\u1ebd g\u00e2y stress cho c\u00f4 ta, stress cho anh ta. Th\u1ef1c t\u1ebf l\u00e0 \u1edf ch\u1ed7, ng\u01b0\u1eddi ch\u1ee7 doanh nghi\u1ec7p l\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi ti\u00ean phong. C\u00f3 nh\u1eefng th\u00e1ch \u0111\u1ed1 c\u1ee7a m\u1ecdi\u00a0 ph\u1ee9c t\u1ea1p, v\u1ed1n v\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi c\u00f3 th\u1ebf l\u1ef1c c\u1ee7a th\u1ebf gi\u1edbi kinh doanh t\u1ea5t c\u1ea3 \u0111\u1ec1u \u0111\u00e3 qua con \u0111\u01b0\u1eddng kh\u00f3 kh\u0103n n\u00e0y.<\/p>\n

                                                                  Trong khi ch\u00fang ta n\u00f3i v\u1ec1\u00a0 ch\u1ee7\u00a0\u0111\u1ec1 c\u1ea3m x\u00fac h\u00e3y\u00a0\u0111\u1ec3 ch\u00fang t\u00f4i xem nh\u1eefng g\u00ec\u00a0m\u00e0\u00a0nghi\u00ean c\u1ee9u t\u00e2m l\u00fd\u00a0ph\u1ea3i n\u00f3i v\u1ec1\u00a0 stress.<\/p>\n

                                                                  Nh\u1eefng t\u00ecnh tr\u1ea1ng c\u0103ng th\u1eb3ng nh\u1ea5t trong cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c li\u1ec7t k\u00ea nh\u01b0 sau:<\/p>\n

                                                                  Th\u1ee9\u00a0t\u1ef1\u00a0tr\u1ea1ng th\u00e1i c\u1ee7a cu\u1ed9c\u00a0\u0111\u1eddi:<\/p>\n

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                                                                  1. C\u00e1i ch\u1ebft c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n \u0111\u1eddi<\/li>\n
                                                                  2. Ly h\u00f4n<\/li>\n
                                                                  3. Ly th\u00e2n<\/li>\n
                                                                  4. K\u1ebft \u00e1n t\u00f9<\/li>\n
                                                                  5. C\u00e1i ch\u1ebft c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi th\u00e2n trong gia \u0111\u00ecnh<\/li>\n
                                                                  6. S\u1ef1 t\u1ed5n th\u01b0\u01a1ng c\u00e1 nh\u00e2n hay s\u1ef1 \u1ed1m \u0111au<\/li>\n
                                                                  7. H\u00f4n nh\u00e2n<\/li>\n
                                                                  8. S\u1ef1 gi\u1ea3m b\u1edbt vi\u1ec7c l\u00e0m<\/li>\n
                                                                  9. T\u00e1i h\u00f4n<\/li>\n
                                                                  10. V\u1ec1 h\u01b0u<\/li>\n
                                                                  11. S\u1ef1 thay \u0111\u1ed5i t\u00ecnh tr\u1ea1ng s\u1ee9c kh\u1ecfe c\u1ee7a m\u1ed9t th\u00e0nh vi\u00ean trong gia \u0111\u00ecnh<\/li>\n
                                                                  12. S\u1ef1 mang thai<\/li>\n
                                                                  13. Nh\u1eefng kh\u00f3 kh\u0103n v\u1ec1 gi\u1edbi t\u00ednh (sinh con)<\/li>\n
                                                                  14. S\u1ef1 xu\u1ea5t hi\u1ec7n c\u1ee7a m\u1ed9t th\u00e0nh vi\u00ean gia \u0111\u00ecnh m\u1edbi<\/li>\n
                                                                  15. C\u00f4ng vi\u1ec7c m\u1edbi<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

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                                                                    Ti\u1ebfn s\u0129\u00a0T. Holmes v\u00e0\u00a0 ti\u1ebfn s\u0129\u00a0R.H Rahne ti\u1ebfn h\u00e0nh nghi\u00ean c\u1ee9u n\u00e0y v\u00e0\u00a0ph\u00e1t\u00a0 h\u00e0nh n\u00f3 d\u01b0\u1edbi ti\u00eau \u0111\u1ec1 t\u00ednh tr\u01b0\u1edfng th\u00e0nh hi\u1ec7n \u0111\u1ea1i.<\/p>\n

                                                                    Khi ch\u00fang ta n\u00f3i v\u1ec1\u00a0 stress v\u00e0\u00a0x\u00fac c\u1ea3m, \u00a0c\u00f3\u00a0s\u1ef1\u00a0giao \u0111\u1ed9ng gi\u1eefa con tim v\u00e0\u00a0kh\u1ed1i\u00a0\u00f3c.<\/p>\n

                                                                    \u0110\u1ec3 hi\u1ec3u m\u1ee9c \u0111\u1ed9 stress x\u00fac c\u1ea3m, ch\u00fang ta c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 th\u1eed nghi\u1ec7m m\u1ed9t tr\u01b0\u1eddng h\u1ee3p, nh\u01b0ng tr\u01b0\u1edbc h\u1ebft h\u00e3y \u0111\u1ec3 ch\u00fang t\u00f4i gi\u1ea3i th\u00edch hai thu\u1eadt ng\u1eef:<\/p>\n

                                                                    Lu\u1eadn c\u1ee9: Lu\u1eadn c\u1ee9\u00a0 c\u00f3\u00a0th\u1ec3\u00a0t\u01b0\u01a1ng \u0111\u01b0\u01a1ng v\u1edbi nh\u1eefng g\u00ec\u00a0ch\u00fang ta c\u00f3\u00a0th\u1ec3\u00a0xem x\u00e9t, b\u00ecnh th\u01b0\u1eddng. B\u1ed1i c\u1ea3nh n\u00e0y ph\u1ea3i k\u1ec3\u00a0\u0111\u1ebfn nh\u1eefng y\u1ebfu t\u1ed1\u00a0\u0111a d\u1ea1ng nh\u01b0\u00a0tu\u1ed5i; lai l\u1ecbch; t\u00ecnh tr\u1ea1ng ch\u00ednh tr\u1ecb; t\u00ecnh tr\u1ea1ng kinh t\u1ebf\u2026 Lu\u1eadn c\u1ee9\u00a0c\u00f3\u00a0th\u1ec3\u00a0\u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c d\u00f9ng \u0111\u1ec3 truy\u1ec1n t\u1ea3i hai lo\u1ea1i \u00fd ki\u1ebfn (tham kh\u1ea3o).<\/p>\n

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                                                                    1. Ki\u1ec3u c\u1ea5p \u0111\u1ed9 0 (zero) t\u1eeb \u0111\u00f3 l\u1ea5y ra nh\u1eefng \u00fd ki\u1ebfn<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

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                                                                      1. Tr\u00ean m\u1ee9c tinh to\u00e1n n\u00e0y v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 coi nh\u01b0 t\u00edch c\u1ef1c v\u00e0 d\u01b0\u1edbi m\u1ed1c t\u00ednh to\u00e1n (\u0111\u00e1nh gi\u00e1 th\u1ea5p), v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 coi nh\u01b0 l\u00e0 ti\u00eau c\u1ef1c. C\u00e1c nh\u00e0 to\u00e1n h\u1ecdc, c\u00e1c k\u0129 s\u01b0 v\u00e0 nhi\u1ec1u ng\u01b0\u1eddi c\u00f3 chuy\u00ean ng\u00e0nh kh\u00e1c s\u1eed d\u1ee5ng bi\u1ec3u ch\u01b0ng giao di\u1ec7n \u0111\u1ed3 h\u1ecda ph\u1ee9c t\u1ea1p v\u1edbi h\u01a1n m\u1ed9t s\u1ed1 l\u01b0\u1ee3ng \u0111\u00e3 cho.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

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                                                                        S\u1ef1\u00a0b\u00f9\u00a0\u0111\u1eafp: c\u01b0\u1eddng \u0111\u1ed9 b\u00f9\u00a0\u0111\u1eafp v\u1ec1\u00a0x\u00fac c\u1ea3m\u00a0\u0111\u00e3\u00a0\u0111\u01b0a ch\u00fang ta ra bao xa t\u1eeb\u00a0d\u1eef\u00a0ki\u1ec7n tr\u00ean\u00a0\u0111i\u1ec3m t\u1ec9\u00a0 l\u1ec7\u00a0t\u00f9y\u00a0\u00fd.<\/p>\n

                                                                        C\u1ea3\u00a0hai d\u1eef\u00a0ki\u1ec7n v\u00e0\u00a0s\u1ef1\u00a0b\u00f9\u00a0\u0111\u1eafp \u0111\u1ec1u l\u00e0\u00a0t\u00f9y\u00a0\u00fd, ch\u00fang t\u00f4i c\u00f3\u00a0th\u1ec3\u00a0\u1ea5n\u00a0\u0111\u1ecbnh m\u1ed9t ch\u1ec9\u00a0s\u1ed1 c\u00f3 gi\u00e1 tr\u1ecb nh\u01b0ng c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 x\u00e1c \u0111\u1ecbnh s\u1ed1 l\u01b0\u1ee3ng ch\u00fang t\u00f4i kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 \u0111o \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c n\u00f3. Tuy v\u1eady ch\u00fang t\u00f4i c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 so s\u00e1nh m\u1ee9c \u0111\u1ed9 n\u00e0y v\u1edbi nh\u1eefng s\u1ef1 ki\u1ec7n kh\u00e1c v\u00e0 \u0111\u01b0a ra t\u1ef7 l\u1ec7.<\/p>\n

                                                                        \u0110\u1ed1i v\u1edbi l\u1ee3i \u00edch (m\u1ee5c \u0111\u00edch) c\u1ee7a minh h\u1ecda h\u00e3y \u0111\u1ec3 ch\u00fang t\u00f4i l\u1ea5y m\u1ed9t d\u00e3y nh\u1eefng s\u1ef1 ki\u1ec7n trong cu\u1ed9c \u0111\u1eddi Jack trong m\u1ed9t qu\u00e3ng th\u1eddi gian l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t th\u00e1ng. \u0110i\u1ec3m t\u1ec9 l\u1ec7 t\u1eeb 1 t\u1edbi 5 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c s\u1eed d\u1ee5ng n\u01a1i c\u00f3 \u0111i\u1ec3m s\u1ed1 l\u00e0 bi\u1ec3u th\u1ecb \u00edt c\u0103ng th\u1eb3ng nh\u1ea5t v\u00e0 \u0111i\u1ec3m 5 l\u00e0 c\u0103ng th\u1eb3ng nh\u1ea5t.<\/p>\n

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                                                                        Intensity<\/p>\n

                                                                        Event No.\u00a0 \u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0Event\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 experienced<\/p>\n

                                                                        By Jack<\/p>\n

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                                                                        1. Got a promotion in the office \u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 4<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

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                                                                          1. \u00a0\u00a0Son got admission into college \u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 \u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a05<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

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                                                                            1. Car got scraped during parking \u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 \u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a02<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

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                                                                              1. Dog got fever \u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 1<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

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                                                                                1. Won $ 1,000,000 \u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 \u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a05<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

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                                                                                  1. Project fell through\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 \u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 3<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

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                                                                                    C\u01b0\u1eddng \u0111\u1ed9<\/p>\n

                                                                                    S\u1ed1\u00a0s\u1ef1\u00a0ki\u1ec7n c\u1ee7a Jack\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0S\u1ef1 ki\u1ec7n\u00a0\u00a0Kinh nghi\u1ec7m<\/p>\n

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                                                                                    1. Nh\u1eadn \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c s\u1ef1 th\u0103ng ti\u1ebfn \u1edf c\u01a1 quan\u00a0\u00a0\u00a04<\/li>\n
                                                                                    2. Con trai c\u00f3\u00a0gi\u1ea5y nh\u1eadp\u00a0\u0111\u1ea1i h\u1ecdc\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a05<\/li>\n
                                                                                    3. Xe b\u1ecb\u00a0x\u01b0\u1edbc khi \u0111\u1ed7 xe\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a02<\/li>\n
                                                                                    4. Con ch\u00f3\u00a0b\u1ecb\u00a0s\u1ed1t\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a01<\/li>\n
                                                                                    5. Th\u1eafng 10.000.00 \u0111\u00f4 la\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a05<\/li>\n
                                                                                    6. D\u1ef1 \u00e1n b\u1ecb th\u1ea5t b\u1ea1i\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a03<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

                                                                                      Bi\u1ec3u\u00a0\u0111\u1ed3 c\u1ea3m x\u00fac c\u00f3\u00a0th\u1ec3\u00a0l\u00e0\u00a0th\u1ebf\u00a0n\u00e0y:<\/strong><\/p>\n

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                                                                                      X\u00fac c\u1ea3m l\u00e0\u00a0 t\u1eeb\u00a0 tr\u00e1i tim<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

                                                                                      Nh\u1eefng x\u00fac c\u1ea3m th\u1ec3\u00a0 hi\u1ec7n c\u01b0\u1eddng \u0111\u1ed9 n\u00f3 cho ban X\u00daC C\u1ea2M, c\u01b0\u1eddng \u0111\u1ed9 c\u1ee7a x\u00fac c\u1ea3m n\u00e0y cho b\u1ea1n m\u1ed9t \u00fd ki\u1ebfn v\u1ec1 x\u00fac c\u1ea3m c\u1ee7a Jack c\u00e1ch bao xa \u0111\u1ed1i v\u1edbi c\u1ea3m gi\u00e1c b\u00ecnh th\u01b0\u1eddng m\u00e0 b\u1ea1n ch\u1ec9 \u0111\u1ecbnh. Kh\u00f4ng t\u1ed1t \u2013 kh\u00f4ng t\u1ed3i hay m\u1ed9t d\u1eef li\u1ec7u.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                      C\u00e2u h\u1ecfi d\u00f9\u00a0s\u1ef1\u00a0 b\u00f9\u00a0\u0111\u1eafp l\u00e0\u00a0t\u1ed1t v\u00e0\u00a0c\u00f3\u00a0th\u1ec3\u00a0g\u1ee3i l\u00ean\u00a0 \u0111i\u1ec1u h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac hay kh\u00f4ng ho\u1eb7c c\u00e1i t\u1ed3i t\u1ec7 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 g\u1ee3i l\u00ean c\u00e1i bu\u1ed3n hay kh\u00f4ng n\u00f3 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c quy\u1ebft \u0111\u1ecbnh b\u1eb1ng kh\u1ed1i \u00f3c. C\u00f3\u00a0 s\u1ef1 ti\u1ebfp t\u1ee5c \u1ea3nh h\u01b0\u1edfng l\u1eabn nhau gi\u1eefa con tim v\u00e0 kh\u1ed1i \u00f3c. N\u1ebfu ch\u00fang ta \u0111\u00fac kh\u1ed1i \u00f3c v\u00e0o \u0111\u1ec3 suy x\u00e9t th\u00ec bi\u1ec3u \u0111\u1ed3 tr\u00ean s\u1ebd l\u00e0 th\u1ebf n\u00e0y:<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                      Bi\u1ec3u\u00a0\u0111\u1ed3 x\u00fac c\u1ea3m c\u1ee7a kh\u1ed1i \u00f3c.<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

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                                                                                      Bi\u1ec3u\u00a0\u0111\u1ed3 c\u01b0\u1eddng \u0111\u1ed9 x\u00fac c\u1ea3m c\u1ee7a Jack trong th\u00e1ng<\/p>\n

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                                                                                      C.5 NH\u1eeeNG KH\u00d3 KH\u0102N V\u1ec0 T\u00c0I CH\u00cdNH<\/p>\n

                                                                                      Nhi\u1ec1u cu\u1ed9c h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n g\u1eb7p nhi\u1ec1u phi\u1ec1n mu\u1ed9n b\u1edfi nh\u1eefng kh\u00f3 kh\u0103n v\u1ec1 t\u00e0i ch\u00ednh. N\u00f3 kh\u00f4ng ch\u1ec9 l\u1edbn lao b\u1edfi ti\u1ec1n ki\u1ebfm \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c \u00edt nh\u01b0ng c\u0169ng b\u1edfi:<\/p>\n

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                                                                                      1. Nhi\u1ec1u ng\u01b0\u1eddi b\u1ea5t m\u00e3n cho d\u00f9 h\u1ecd \u0111\u00e3 c\u00f3 \u0111\u1ee7; cho d\u00f9 ng\u01b0\u1eddi ta sung t\u00fac hay ngay c\u1ea3 h\u1ecd gi\u00e0u c\u00f3.<\/li>\n
                                                                                      2. Nhi\u1ec1u ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00f4ng bi\u1ebft l\u00e0m th\u1ebf n\u00e0o \u0111\u1ec3 s\u1ed1ng trong ti\u1ec1n b\u1ea1c c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd. Nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c ch\u1ec9 mu\u1ed1n c\u00f3 nh\u1eefng g\u00ec m\u00e0 Jones c\u00f3. Nh\u1eadn th\u1ea5y m\u1ed9t ch\u00fat l\u00e0 tr\u01b0\u1edbc khi h\u1ecd c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 b\u1eaft k\u1ecbp \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c nh\u01b0 Jones, Jones c\u00f3 nhi\u1ec1u ti\u1ec1n (refinance) v\u00e0 thu nh\u1eadp \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c nhi\u1ec1u h\u01a1n v\u00e0 nh\u1eefng th\u1ee9 t\u1ed1t h\u01a1n.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

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                                                                                        C\u00e1i\u00a0\u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c li\u1ec7t ra nh\u01b0\u00a0(A) th\u00ec\u00a0kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0\u00a0m\u1ed9t v\u1ea5n\u00a0\u0111\u1ec1 t\u00e0i ch\u00ednh th\u1ef1c s\u1ef1; n\u00f3\u00a0\u0111\u00fang h\u01a1n l\u00e0\u00a0m\u1ed9t v\u1ea5n\u00a0 \u0111\u1ec1 quan \u0111i\u1ec3m.<\/p>\n

                                                                                        L\u00fd\u00a0do ch\u00ednh \u0111\u1ed5i v\u1edbi (B) c\u0169ng l\u00e0\u00a0m\u1ed9t v\u1ea5n\u00a0\u0111\u1ec1 quan \u0111i\u1ec3m, nh\u01b0ng v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 n\u00e0y c\u1ed1 g\u1eafng \u0111\u1ea1t \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c c\u00e1i r\u1ee7i ro c\u1ee7a con ng\u01b0\u1eddi l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t n\u00f4 l\u1ec7 cho nh\u1eefng nh\u00e0 t\u00e0i ch\u00ednh. V\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 th\u01b0\u1eddng l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t s\u1ef1 pha tr\u1ed9n c\u1ee7a:<\/p>\n

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                                                                                        1. Kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 kh\u1ea3 n\u0103ng ki\u1ebfm ti\u1ec1n.<\/li>\n
                                                                                        2. V\u00e0 c\u00f3 qu\u00e1 nhi\u1ec1u nh\u1eefng c\u00e2u h\u1ecfi v\u1ec1 nhu c\u1ea7u thanh th\u1ebf.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

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                                                                                          R\u00f5\u00a0r\u00e0ng\u00a0c\u00f3\u00a0 m\u1ed9t chu\u1ed7i nh\u1eefng tr\u01b0\u1eddng h\u1ee3p th\u1ef1c t\u1ebf gi\u1ed1ng nh\u01b0 \u0111au \u1ed1m, gi\u1ea3m chi ti\u00eau, kinh doanh b\u1ecb suy tho\u00e1i, v\u00e0 c\u00e1i ch\u1ebft c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi tr\u1ee5 c\u1ed9t, chi\u1ebfn tranh\u2026 t\u1ea5t c\u1ea3 nh\u1eefng l\u00fd do n\u00e0y c\u1ea7n nh\u1eefng ch\u1ec9 d\u1eabn \u0111\u1eb7c bi\u1ec7t b\u1edfi n\u00f3 kh\u00f4ng ch\u1ec9 ph\u1ea3i \u0111\u1ed1i ph\u00f3 v\u1edbi nh\u1eefng l\u00fd do m\u00e0 c\u00f2n v\u1edbi b\u1ea5t k\u00ec bi\u1ec7n ph\u00e1p g\u00ec l\u00e0 c\u1ea7n thi\u1ebft \u0111\u1ec3 l\u00e0m gi\u1ea3m b\u1edbt v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1. M\u1ed7i tr\u01b0\u1eddng h\u1ee3p \u0111\u1ec1u c\u00f3 \u0111\u1eb7c t\u00ednh kh\u00e1c nhau v\u00e0 \u0111\u1eb7c tr\u01b0ng.<\/p>\n

                                                                                          Nh\u1eefng v\u1ea5n\u00a0\u0111\u1ec1 v\u1ec1\u00a0 t\u00e0i ch\u00ednh t\u01b0\u01a1ng \u0111\u1ed1i d\u1ec5\u00a0d\u00e0ng cho c\u1eb7p v\u1ee3\u00a0ch\u1ed3ng nh\u1eadn ra. M\u1ed9t s\u1ed1\u00a0s\u00e1ch vi\u1ebft v\u1ec1\u00a0ch\u1ee7\u00a0 \u0111\u1ec1 n\u00e0y. Nh\u1eefng \u0111\u1ec1 su\u1ea5t h\u1eefu\u00a0\u00edch v\u00e0\u00a0s\u1ef1\u00a0 h\u01b0\u1edbng d\u1eabn t\u01b0\u01a1ng \u0111\u1ed1i d\u1ec5\u00a0 th\u1ef1c hi\u1ec7n\u00a0(\u0111\u1ea1t \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c).<\/p>\n

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                                                                                          1. V\u1ea4N\u00a0 \u0110\u1ec0 GI\u1edcI T\u00cdNG TRONG H\u00d4N NH\u00c2N<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

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                                                                                            Nhi\u1ec1u s\u00e1ch vi\u1ebft v\u1ec1\u00a0ch\u1ee7\u00a0\u0111\u1ec1 n\u00e0y nh\u01b0ng \u0111\u1ec3 h\u00f2a h\u1ee3p v\u1edbi ch\u1ee7\u00a0 \u0111\u1ec1 c\u1ee7a cu\u1ed1n s\u00e1ch n\u00e0y t\u00f4i s\u1ebd\u00a0ch\u1ec9\u00a0\u0111\u1ec1 c\u1eadp t\u1edbi v\u1ea5n\u00a0\u0111\u1ec1 m\u00e0\u00a0nh\u1eefng ph\u1ee5\u00a0n\u1eef\u00a0\u01b0\u1edbc ao nh\u1ea5t r\u1eb1ng ch\u1ed3ng m\u00ecnh s\u1ebd\u00a0hi\u1ec3u.<\/p>\n

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                                                                                            1. S\u1ef1 ch\u1ec9 tr\u00edch kh\u00e1c nhau gi\u1eefa \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng v\u00e0 \u0111\u00e0n b\u00e0. Cho d\u00f9 nh\u1eefng n\u1ed7 l\u1ef1c v\u1ec1 b\u00ecnh \u0111\u1eb3ng c\u01a1 b\u1ea3n c\u1ee7a ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef, ng\u01b0\u1eddi hung h\u1ed3n (v\u00e0 \u0111\u00f2i m\u1ed9t c\u00e1c \u0111i\u00ean r\u1ed3) r\u1eb1ng ch\u1ec9 c\u00f3 s\u1ef1 kh\u00e1c bi\u1ec7t gi\u1eefa c\u00e1c gi\u1edbi l\u00e0 v\u1ec1 ph\u01b0\u01a1ng di\u1ec7n m\u00f4i tr\u01b0\u1eddng v\u00e0 ph\u01b0\u01a1ng di\u1ec7n v\u0103n h\u00f3a. S\u1ef1 th\u1eadt l\u00e0: ph\u00e1i nam v\u00e0 ph\u00e1i n\u1eef kh\u00e1c nhau v\u1ec1 sinh-h\u00f3a, v\u1ec1 ph\u01b0\u01a1ng di\u1ec7n gi\u1ea3i ph\u1eabu v\u00e0 v\u1ec1 ph\u01b0\u01a1ng di\u1ec7n t\u00ecnh c\u1ea3m. H\u1ecd, th\u1ef1c t\u1ebf kh\u00e1c bi\u1ec7t tr\u00ean m\u1ecdi m\u1eb7t g\u1ecdi l\u00e0 th\u00e2n th\u1ec3 b\u1edfi \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng v\u00e0 \u0111\u00e0n b\u00e0 mang trong m\u00ecnh nh\u1eefng h\u00ecnh th\u00e1i nhi\u1ec5m s\u1eafc th\u1ec3 kh\u00e1c nhau. C\u00f3\u00a0 b\u1eb1ng ch\u1ee9ng c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 xem x\u00e9t \u0111\u1ec3 ch\u1ec9 ra r\u1eb1ng khu v\u1ef1c d\u01b0\u1edbi \u0111\u1ed3i \u0111\u1eb7t \u1edf v\u1ecb tr\u00ed ch\u1ec9 tr\u00ean tuy\u1ebfn y\u00ean trong n\u00e3o gi\u1eefa, n\u00f3 l\u00e0\u201dd\u00e2y\u201d \u0111\u1ed9c nh\u1ea5t cho m\u1ed7i gi\u1edbi. Do v\u1eady, v\u00f9ng n\u00e3o \u0111i\u1ec1u khi\u1ec3n th\u00e2n nhi\u1ec7t, \u0111\u00f3i kh\u00e1t\u2026 (\u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c bi\u1ebft nh\u01b0 chi\u1ebfc gh\u1ebf cho b\u1ec1 m\u1eb7t ph\u00e2n gi\u1edbi c\u1ea3m x\u00fac gi\u1eefa \u201ctr\u00ed \u00f3c\u201d v\u00e0 \u201ccon tim\u201d. N\u00f3 cung c\u1ea5p cho ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef m\u1ed9t tr\u1ea1ng th\u00e1i t\u00e2m l\u00fd kh\u00e1c bi\u1ec7t h\u01a1n nhi\u1ec1u so v\u1edbi tr\u1ea1ng th\u00e1i t\u00e2m l\u00fd c\u1ee7a \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng. H\u01a1n th\u1ebf n\u1eefa, ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef th\u00e8m mu\u1ed1n sinh l\u00fd c\u00f3 khuynh h\u01b0\u1edbng h\u01a1i m\u1ed9t ch\u00fat v\u1ec1 tu\u1ea7n ho\u00e0n t\u01b0\u01a1ng quan v\u1edbi l\u1ecbch kinh nguy\u1ec7t. Nh\u01b0ng ng\u01b0\u1ee3c l\u1ea1i th\u00ec \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng th\u00ec x\u1ebfp xo\u1eafn (kh\u00f4ng v\u00f2ng).<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

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                                                                                              Tr\u01b0\u1edbc ti\u00ean\u00a0\u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c g\u00e2y h\u1ee9ng th\u00fa c\u01a1 b\u1ea3n b\u1edfi s\u1ef1 k\u00edch th\u00edch th\u1ecb gi\u00e1c, h\u1ecd b\u1ecb k\u00edch th\u00edch b\u1edfi vi\u1ec7c kh\u1ecfa th\u00e2n c\u1ee7a ph\u00e1i n\u1eef hay ngh\u0129 l\u1edd m\u1edd v\u1ec1 kh\u1ecfa th\u00e2n. Ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef th\u00ec ng\u01b0\u1ee3c l\u1ea1i. H\u1ecd \u00edt \u0111\u1ecbnh h\u01b0\u1edbng b\u1eb1ng th\u1ecb gi\u00e1c \u00edt h\u01a1n nhi\u1ec1u so v\u1edbi \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng. Ch\u1eafc ch\u1eafn h\u1ecd b\u1ecb cu\u1ed1n h\u00fat b\u1edfi nh\u1eefng th\u00e2n h\u00ecnh c\u01a1 b\u1eafp \u1ea5n t\u01b0\u1ee3ng, nh\u01b0ng nh\u1eefng b\u1ed9 m\u00e1y t\u00e2m l\u00fd t\u00ecnh d\u1ee5c c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd l\u1ea1i kh\u00f4ng g\u00e2y ra m\u1ed9t c\u00e1ch \u0111\u1eb7c tr\u01b0ng b\u1edfi nh\u1eefng g\u00ec h\u1ecd nh\u00ecn th\u1ea5y; ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef b\u1ecb k\u00edch th\u00edch c\u0103n b\u1ea3n b\u1edfi x\u00fac gi\u00e1c. Do \u0111\u00f3, ch\u00fang ta ch\u1ea1m tr\u00e1n v\u1edbi c\u1ea3m gi\u00e1c \u0111\u1ea7u ti\u00ean v\u1ec1 s\u1ef1 b\u1ea5t \u0111\u1ed3ng tr\u00ean gi\u01b0\u1eddng. Anh ta mu\u1ed1n c\u00f4 ph\u1ea3i xu\u1ea5t hi\u1ec7n kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 qu\u1ea7n \u00e1o trong ph\u00f2ng s\u00e1ng tr\u01b0ng v\u00e0 c\u00f4 ta th\u00ec mu\u1ed1n anh ta quan t\u00e2m m\u00ecnh trong b\u00f3ng t\u1ed1i. Th\u1ee9 hai l\u00e0 (v\u00e0 quan tr\u1ecdng h\u01a1n) \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng kh\u00f4ng ph\u00e2n bi\u1ec7t \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c m\u1ed9t c\u00e1 nh\u00e2n s\u1ed1ng trong m\u1ed9t th\u00e2n th\u1ec3 h\u1ed3i h\u1ed9p. \u0110\u00e0n \u00f4ng\u00a0 xu\u1ed1ng ph\u1ed1 v\u00e0 b\u1ecb k\u00edch th\u00edch b\u1edfi m\u1ed9t ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef an v\u1eadn thi\u1ebfu v\u1ea3i \u0111i ngang quanh ta m\u1ed9t c\u00e1ch l\u1edd m\u1edd, ngay c\u1ea3 anh ta kh\u00f4ng bi\u1ebft g\u00ec v\u1ec1 c\u00e1 nh\u00e2n c\u00f4 ta hay gi\u00e1 tr\u1ecb hay nh\u1eefng kh\u1ea3 n\u0103ng v\u1ec1 t\u00e2m th\u1ea7n. T\u1ef1 th\u00e2n th\u1ec3 c\u00f4 ta thu h\u00fat anh ta. Nh\u01b0 th\u1ec3 anh ta c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 tr\u1edf n\u00ean h\u1ee9ng th\u00fa ngang b\u1eb1ng qua b\u1ee9c \u1ea3nh kh\u1ecfa th\u00e2n hi\u1ec7n \u0111\u1ea1i kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 ngu\u1ed3n g\u1ed1c v\u1edbi vi\u1ec7c anh ta c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 \u0111\u1ed1i di\u1ec7n v\u1edbi ng\u01b0\u1eddi n\u00e0o \u0111\u00f3 anh ta y\u00eau.Th\u1ef1c ch\u1ea5t s\u1ee9c m\u1ea1nh sinh h\u1ecdc tuy\u1ec7t \u0111\u1ed1i v\u1ec1 \u01b0\u1edbc mu\u1ed1n sinh l\u00fd trong \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng b\u1ecb thu h\u00fat b\u1edfi\u00a0 th\u00e2n th\u1ec3 ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef. Do \u0111\u00f3 m\u1edbi c\u00f3 v\u00e0i c\u0103n c\u1ee9 \u0111\u1ec3 ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef ph\u00e0n n\u00e0n r\u1eb1ng h\u1ecd b\u1ecb \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng nh\u00ecn soi m\u00f3i\u00a0 (nh\u1eefng v\u1eadt th\u1ec3 t\u00ecnh d\u1ee5c). L\u1eddi gi\u1ea3i th\u00edch n\u00e0y gi\u1ea3i th\u00edch t\u1ea1i sao ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef l\u00e0m \u0111\u0129 cho \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng v\u1edbi s\u1ed1 l\u01b0\u1ee3ng l\u1edbn (wide margin) v\u00e0 t\u1ea1i sao m\u1ed9t s\u1ed1 ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef l\u1ea1i b\u1ecb \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng c\u01b0\u1ee1ng hi\u1ebfp. C\u0169ng gi\u1ea3i th\u00edch t\u1ea1i sao trong ph\u00f2ng ch\u1eadt c\u1ee9ng to\u00e0n nh\u1eefng \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng gi\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng c\u00f2n r\u0103ng c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 chi ra s\u1ed1 \u0111\u00f4ng xem m\u00e0n tr\u00ecnh di\u1ec5n tho\u00e1t y v\u0169 . N\u00f3 ph\u1ea3n chi\u1ebfu l\u1ea1i th\u1ef1c t\u1ebf r\u1eb1ng l\u00f2ng t\u1ef1 tr\u1ecdng c\u1ee7a gi\u1ed1ng \u0111\u1ef1c \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c th\u00fac \u0111\u1ea9y do m\u1ed9t \u01b0\u1edbc mu\u1ed1n \u201cchi\u1ebfm \u0111o\u1ea1t \u0111\u00e0n b\u00e0\u201d h\u01a1n l\u00e0 vi\u1ec7c tr\u1edf th\u00e0nh \u0111\u1ed1i t\u01b0\u1ee3ng trong t\u00ecnh y\u00eau l\u00e3ng m\u1ea1n c\u1ee7a c\u00f4 ta. \u0110\u00e2y kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0 nh\u1eefng t\u00ednh l\u00e0m cho th\u1ecfa m\u00e3n h\u01b0 danh c\u1ee7a sinh l\u00fd \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng, nh\u01b0ng ch\u00fang c\u0169ng l\u00e0 t\u00e0i li\u1ec7u t\u1ed1t cho chuy\u00ean m\u00f4n. T\u1ea5t c\u1ea3 nh\u1eefng y\u1ebfu t\u1ed1 n\u00e0y c\u00f3 g\u1ed1c r\u1ec5 t\u1eeb s\u1ef1 kh\u00e1c nhau c\u0103n b\u1ea3n trong ham mu\u1ed1n t\u00ecnh d\u1ee5c c\u1ee7a ph\u00e1i nam v\u00e0 ph\u00e1i n\u1eef.<\/p>\n

                                                                                              Ph\u1ee5\u00a0n\u1eef\u00a0th\u00ec\u00a0 bi\u1ebft suy x\u00e9t nhi\u1ec1u h\u01a1n v\u1ec1\u00a0t\u1ea7m quan tr\u1ecdng sinh l\u00fd\u00a0 c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd. M\u1ed9t b\u1ee9c\u00a0\u1ea3nh th\u01b0\u1eddng \u00a0\u00edt th\u00fa\u00a0 v\u1ecb\u00a0h\u01a1n\u00a0\u0111\u1ed1i v\u1edbi h\u1ecd,\u00a0\u01b0\u1edbc mu\u1ed1n c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd\u00a0 th\u01b0\u1eddng t\u1eadp trung v\u00e0o m\u1ed9t c\u00e1\u00a0nh\u00e2n\u00a0\u0111i\u1ec3n h\u00ecnh ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c h\u1ecd kh\u00e2m ph\u1ee5c v\u00e0 t\u00f4n tr\u1ecdng. M\u1ed9t ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef b\u1ecb k\u00edch th\u00edch b\u1edfi to\u00e1t ra ch\u00fat l\u00e3ng m\u1ea1n t\u1eeb ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng c\u1ee7a c\u00f4 ta, v\u00e0 b\u1edfi t\u00ednh c\u00e1ch v\u00e0 nh\u00e2n c\u00e1ch c\u1ee7a anh ta. C\u00f4 ta ch\u1ecbu nh\u01b0\u1eddng cho ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng\u00a0 h\u1ea5p d\u1eabn \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c t\u00ecnh c\u1ea3m v\u00e0 th\u00e2n th\u1ec3 c\u1ee7a c\u00f4 ta. T\u00ecnh d\u1ee5c \u0111\u1ed1i v\u1edbi \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng l\u00e0 \u0111i\u1ec1u ti\u1ebfn v\u1ec1 th\u1ec3 x\u00e1c h\u01a1n, v\u00e0 \u0111\u1ed1i v\u1edbi ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef th\u00ec thi\u00ean v\u1ec1 nh\u1eefng tr\u1ea3i nghi\u1ec7m t\u00ecnh c\u1ea3m s\u00e2u \u0111\u1eadm.<\/p>\n

                                                                                              M\u1ed9t v\u1ea5n\u00a0\u0111\u1ec1 trong h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n c\u00f3\u00a0th\u1ec3\u00a0n\u1ea3y sinh b\u1edfi ph\u1ee5\u00a0n\u1eef\u00a0 kh\u00f4ng c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y ch\u1eafc ch\u1eafn g\u1ea7n g\u0169i v\u1edbi ch\u1ed3ng m\u00ecnh. Ngay l\u1eadp t\u1ee9c, khi ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng \u0111i l\u00e0m v\u1ec1\u00a0trong t\u00e2m tr\u1ea1ng x\u1ea5u, l\u00e0m vi\u1ec7c li\u00ean t\u1ee5c tr\u00ean b\u00e0n l\u00e0m vi\u1ec7c c\u1ee7a anh ta, b\u1ecf \u0103n v\u1edbi m\u1ed1i \u01b0u tu trong \u0111\u1ea7u, xem b\u1ea3n tin cu\u1ed1i c\u00f9ng trong im l\u1eb7ng v\u00e0 cu\u1ed1i c\u00f9ng l\u00e0 \u0111i ng\u1ee7 kh\u00f4ng n\u00f3i l\u1eddi n\u00e0o. Gi\u00e2y ph\u00fat anh ta nh\u00ecn th\u1ea5y v\u1ee3 m\u00ecnh trong b\u1ed9 qu\u1ea7n \u00e1o ng\u1ee7, n\u00f3 c\u0169ng \u0111\u1ee7 \u0111\u1ec3 cho anh ta b\u1ecb k\u00edch th\u00edch s\u1ef1 ham mu\u1ed1n t\u00ecnh d\u1ee5c c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh. Th\u1ef1c t\u1ebf l\u00e0 anh ta v\u00e0 v\u1ee3 c\u1ee7a anh ta kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 gi\u00e2y ph\u00fat \u00eam \u0111\u1ec1m, to\u00e0n b\u1ed9 bu\u1ed5i t\u1ed1i kh\u00f4ng ki\u1ec1m ch\u1ebf \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c s\u1ef1 ham mu\u1ed1n t\u00ecnh d\u1ee5c \u0111\u00e1ng k\u1ec3 c\u1ee7a anh ta, nh\u01b0ng v\u1ee3 c\u1ee7a anh ta th\u00ec kh\u00f4ng d\u1ec5 d\u00e0ng \u0111\u1ed9ng \u0111\u1eady. C\u00f4 ta ch\u1edd \u0111\u1ee3i anh ta c\u1ea3 ng\u00e0y v\u00e0 khi anh ta v\u1ec1 nh\u00e0\u00a0 c\u00f2n ch\u00e0o c\u00f4 m\u1ed9t c\u00e1ch kh\u00f3 kh\u0103n, c\u00f4 \u0111\u00e3 c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y th\u1ea5t v\u1ecdng v\u00e0 t\u1eeb ch\u1ed1i s\u1ef1 ti\u1ebfp t\u1ee5c l\u1ea1nh nh\u1ea1t v\u00e0 \u01b0u t\u01b0 c\u1ee7a c\u00f4 ta \u0111\u00e3 kh\u00f3a ch\u1eb7t nh\u1eefng ham mu\u1ed1n c\u1ee7a c\u00f4 ta l\u1ea1i. \u0110\u00e2y l\u00e0 l\u00fd do t\u1ea1i sao c\u00f4 ta c\u00f3 l\u1ebd nh\u1eadn ra l\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 \u0111\u00e1p l\u1ea1i anh ta l\u00fac \u0111\u00eam. \u0110\u1ec3 xem x\u00e9t xa h\u01a1n m\u1ed9t ch\u00fat, v\u1eafng b\u00f3ng c\u1ee7a s\u1ef1 g\u1ea7n g\u0169i, c\u00f4 ta c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y nh\u01b0 m\u1ed9t g\u00e1i \u0111i\u1ebfm. Kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 kh\u1ea3 n\u0103ng gi\u1ea3i th\u00edch v\u1ec1 s\u1ef1 v\u1ee1 m\u1ed9ng n\u00e0y, t\u00f4i tin c\u00f3 m\u1ed9t t\u00e2m tr\u1ea1ng lo \u00e2u ti\u1ebfp t\u1ee5c x\u1ea3y ra v\u1edbi ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef.<\/p>\n

                                                                                              KHUYNH H\u01af\u1edaNG THAY \u0110\u1ed4I TRONG HAM MU\u1ed0N.<\/p>\n

                                                                                              \u0110\u00e0n \u00f4ng v\u00e0 \u0111\u00e0n b\u00e0 c\u0169ng kh\u00e1c nhau \u0111\u1eb7c bi\u1ec7t trong s\u1ef1 bi\u1ec3u l\u1ed9 v\u1ec1 ham mu\u1ed1n t\u00ecnh d\u1ee5c c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd. C\u00e1c nh\u00e0 nghi\u00ean c\u1ee9u d\u01b0\u1eddng nh\u01b0 \u0111\u00e3 ch\u1ec9 ra r\u1eb1ng \u0111i\u1ec1u quan t\u00e2m th\u00edch th\u00fa v\u00e0 kho\u00e1i l\u1ea1c t\u1ea1i th\u1eddi \u0111i\u1ec3m c\u1ef1c kho\u00e1i \u1edf ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef v\u00e0 s\u1ef1 xu\u1ea5t tinh \u1edf \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng th\u00ec gi\u1ed1ng nhau cho c\u1ea3 hai gi\u1edbi t\u00ednh, m\u1eb7c d\u00f9 con \u0111\u01b0\u1eddng d\u1eabn t\u1edbi s\u1ef1 h\u01b0ng ph\u1ea5n\u00a0 \u0111i b\u1eb1ng nh\u1eefng con \u0111\u01b0\u1eddng kh\u00e1c nhau. H\u1ea7u h\u1ebft m\u1ecdi \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 tr\u1edf n\u00ean h\u01b0ng ph\u1ea5n nhanh h\u01a1n ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef. \u0110\u00e0n \u00f4ng c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 \u0111\u1ea1t \u0111\u1ebfn t\u1ed9t \u0111i\u1ec3m tr\u01b0\u1edbc khi b\u1ea1n \u0111\u1eddi m\u1edbi ngh\u0129 ra b\u1eefa t\u1ed1i \u0103n g\u00ec hay ng\u00e0y mai con m\u00ecnh s\u1ebd v\u1eadn g\u00ec t\u1edbi l\u1edbp. M\u1ed9t k\u1ebb th\u00f4ng th\u00e1i ph\u1ea3i nh\u1eadn ra r\u1eb1ng ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e0n b\u00e0 n\u00e0y r\u1ea5t \u1ef3 v\u00e0 ph\u1ea3i \u0111\u01b0a v\u1ee3 anh ta d\u1eabn t\u1edbi nh\u1ecbp c\u1ee7a ch\u00ednh c\u00f4 ta.<\/p>\n

                                                                                              N\u00f3\u00a0c\u0169ng hi\u1ec3n nhi\u00ean r\u1eb1ng ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng gi\u1ea3i t\u1ecfa c\u01a1n\u00a0\u0111\u00f3i t\u00ecnh d\u1ee5c ki\u00ean\u00a0\u0111\u1ecbnh h\u01a1n ph\u1ee5\u00a0n\u1eef\u00a0l\u00e0m. Nhi\u1ec1u ph\u1ee5\u00a0 n\u1eef\u00a0ph\u1ea3i ng\u1ea1c nhi\u00ean sao m\u00e0\u00a0ch\u1ed3ng h\u1ecd\u00a0l\u1ea1i c\u00f3 ham mu\u1ed1n giao c\u1ea5u m\u1ed9t c\u00e1ch \u0111\u1ec1u \u0111\u1eb7n nh\u01b0 v\u1eady. Trong v\u00ed d\u1ee5 n\u00e0y c\u00f3 m\u1ed9t v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 l\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi ch\u1ed3ng mong mu\u1ed1n nh\u1eefng b\u00e0 v\u1ee3\u00a0 hi\u1ec3u h\u1ecd. Khi s\u1ef1 h\u01b0\u1edfng \u1ee9ng t\u00ecnh d\u1ee5c b\u1ecb ng\u0103n c\u1ea3n, ph\u00e1i nam r\u00fat ra \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c m\u1ed9t kinh nghi\u1ec7m v\u1ec1 \u00e1p l\u1ef1c sinh l\u00fd m\u00e0 n\u00f3 \u0111\u00f2i h\u1ecfi gi\u1ea3i t\u1ecfa. Tuy\u1ebfn ch\u1ee9a tinh d\u1ecbch d\u1ea7n d\u1ea7n h\u1ebft ch\u1ed7 ch\u1ee9a; khi n\u00f3 \u0111\u1ea1t t\u1edbi m\u1ee9c c\u1ef1c \u0111\u1ea1i, ho\u00f3c m\u00f4n t\u00e1c d\u1ee5ng l\u00e0m cho \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng nh\u1ea1y v\u1edbi s\u1ef1 k\u00edch th\u00edch t\u00ecnh d\u1ee5c. Nh\u01b0ng ng\u01b0\u1ee3c l\u1ea1i, m\u1ed9t ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef c\u00e1 bi\u1ec7t c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 c\u00f3 ch\u00fat th\u00edch th\u00fa anh ta khi anh ta \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c h\u00e0i l\u00f2ng, anh ta c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 b\u1ecb g\u1ee3i t\u00ecnh ch\u1ec9\u00a0 trong b\u1ed9 d\u1ea1ng c\u1ee7a c\u00f4 ta khi anh ta trong t\u00ecnh tr\u1ea1ng b\u1ecb t\u01b0\u1edbc \u0111o\u1ea1t. M\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi v\u1ee3 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 nh\u1eadn th\u1ea5y kh\u00f3 kh\u0103n \u0111\u1ec3 nh\u1eadn th\u1ee9c th\u1ea5u \u0111\u00e1o c\u1ea3 \u0111\u1ed1ng nh\u1eefng v\u1ebb b\u1ec1 ngo\u00e0i th\u00e8m mu\u1ed1n t\u00ecnh d\u1ee5c c\u1ee7a ch\u1ed3ng c\u00f4 ta. Tr\u1eeb khi\u00a0 nhu c\u1ea7u c\u1ee7a c\u00f4 ta \u00edt kh\u1ea9n c\u1ea5p v\u00e0 c\u1ea5p b\u00e1ch h\u01a1n. Do \u0111\u00f3 c\u00f4 ta c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 nh\u1eadn th\u1ea5y r\u1eb1ng s\u1ee9c m\u1ea1nh h\u00f3a sinh r\u00f5 r\u00e0ng khi\u1ebfn \u01b0\u1edbc mu\u1ed1n c\u1ee7a anh ta trong th\u00e2n th\u1ec3 anh ta, v\u00e0 n\u1ebfu c\u00f4 ta y\u00eau anh ta, c\u00f4 ta s\u1ebd t\u00ecm t\u1edbi s\u1ef1 tho\u1ea3i m\u00e1i \u0111\u00f3 nh\u01b0 th\u1ec3 nh\u1eefng \u0111i\u1ec1u \u0111\u1ea7y \u00fd ngh\u0129a v\u00e0 c\u00e0ng \u0111\u1ec1u \u0111\u1eb7n c\u00e0ng t\u1ed1t.<\/p>\n

                                                                                              C\u00e2u h\u1ecfi v\u1ec1\u00a0s\u1ef1\u00a0 \u0111a d\u1ea1ng trong ham mu\u1ed1n t\u00ecnh d\u1ee5c kh\u00e1c nhau gi\u1eefa \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng v\u00e0 \u0111\u00e0n b\u00e0, s\u1ef1 kh\u00e1c nhau qu\u00e1 l\u1edbn x\u1ea3y ra \u1edf ph\u1ea1m vi c\u1ee7a \u0111\u00e0n b\u00e0 t\u1eeb th\u1ea5p \u2013 r\u1ee5t r\u00e8 \u2013 trung b\u00ecnh \u2013 h\u1ee9ng kh\u1edfi \u2013 cao tr\u00e0o. N\u00f3 \u0111\u00f2i h\u1ecfi nhi\u1ec1u s\u1ef1 nh\u1ea1y c\u1ea3m \u0111\u1ec3 hi\u1ec3u tr\u01b0\u1edbc h\u1ebft \u0111i\u1ec1u n\u00e0y, v\u00e0 sau \u0111\u00f3 gi\u00fap h\u1ecd ti\u1ebfn t\u1edbi m\u1ed9t tr\u1ea3i nghi\u1ec7m tho\u1ea3i m\u00e1i. \u0110\u00e2y l\u00e0 \u0111\u1ecba th\u1ebf \u0111\u1eb7c bi\u1ec7t l\u1ea1c l\u00f5ng cho \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng b\u1edfi\u00a0 \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng\u00a0 kh\u00f4ng t\u1ea1o d\u1ef1ng l\u00ean v\u1edbi s\u1ef1 \u0111a d\u1ea1ng r\u1ed9ng l\u1edbn nh\u01b0 v\u1eady.<\/p>\n

                                                                                              Ch\u00fang ta ph\u1ea3i nh\u1eadn th\u1ee9c\u00a0 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c r\u1eb1ng m\u1ed9t b\u00e0\u00a0v\u1ee3\u00a0c\u00f3\u00a0th\u1ec3\u00a0th\u01b0\u1eddng xuy\u00ean c\u00f3\u00a0nh\u1eefng kh\u00f3\u00a0kh\u0103n trong vi\u1ec7c\u00a0\u0111\u00f3ng ba vai tr\u00f2\u00a0\u0111\u1eb7c tr\u01b0ng trong b\u1ed5n ph\u1eadn c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh. Th\u1eadm ch\u00ed c\u00f4 ta ph\u1ea3i g\u00e1nh m\u1ed9t \u201cc\u00e1i tr\u00f2ng ba v\u00f2ng\u201d trong su\u1ed1t th\u1eddi gian. C\u00f4 ta ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi v\u1ee3, ng\u01b0\u1eddi m\u1eb9, b\u00e0 ch\u1ee7, m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi v\u1ee3 y\u00eau qu\u00fd l\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi ch\u0103m lo cho gia \u0111\u00ecnh v\u00e0 ch\u0103m s\u00f3c con c\u00e1i kh\u00f4ng ch\u1eafc \u0111\u00e3 gi\u1ed1ng nh\u01b0 m\u1ed9t b\u00e0 ch\u1ee7 c\u00f3 s\u1ee9c quy\u1ebfn r\u0169 \u0111\u1ec3 l\u00f4i k\u00e9o ch\u1ed3ng c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh tr\u00ean gi\u01b0\u1eddng. T\u01b0\u01a1ng t\u1ef1 nh\u01b0 v\u1eady, nh\u1eefng y\u00eau c\u1ea7u c\u1ee7a b\u00e0 m\u1eb9 t\u1ea1i nh\u1eefng th\u1eddi \u0111i\u1ec3m kh\u00f4ng ph\u00f9 h\u1ee3p v\u1edbi vi\u1ec7c thay th\u1ebf vai tr\u00f2 c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi v\u1ee3, b\u00e0 ch\u1ee7. D\u1eabu r\u1eb1ng nh\u1eefng b\u1ed5n ph\u1eadn n\u00e0y d\u01b0\u1eddng nh\u01b0\u00a0 m\u00e2u thu\u1eabn, ng\u01b0\u1eddi v\u1ee3 th\u01b0\u1eddng b\u1ecb \u0111\u00f2i h\u1ecfi ph\u1ea3i c\u1eafm d\u00e2y n\u00f3i t\u1eeb ng\u01b0\u1eddi n\u00e0y t\u1edbi ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c v\u1edbi d\u1ea5u hi\u1ec7u ng\u1eafn. Ch\u1ed3ng c\u00f4 ta c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 gi\u00fap c\u00f4 b\u1eb1ng c\u00e1ch l\u00e0m cho c\u00f4 ta tho\u00e1t kh\u1ecfi tr\u00e1ch nhi\u1ec7m m\u1ed9t b\u00e0 v\u1ee3 v\u00e0 b\u00e0 m\u1eb9 khi \u0111\u1ebfn th\u1eddi \u0111i\u1ec3m c\u00f4 ta tr\u1edf th\u00e0nh b\u00e0 ch\u1ee7 c\u1ee7a anh ta.<\/p>\n

                                                                                              Th\u00e2n th\u1ec3\u00a0m\u1ec7t l\u1eed\u00a0 \u0111\u00f3ng m\u1ed9t ph\u1ea7n quan tr\u1ecdng trong kh\u1ea3\u00a0n\u0103ng c\u1ee7a ph\u1ee5\u00a0 n\u1eef\u00a0(hay kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 kh\u1ea3 n\u0103ng) \u0111\u1ec3 \u0111\u00e1p l\u1ea1i v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 sinh l\u00fd. M\u1ed9t b\u00e0 m\u1eb9 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 ho\u00e0n to\u00e0n d\u1ec5 d\u00e0ng c\u00f3 24h\/ng\u00e0y khi c\u00f4 ta c\u00f3 m\u1ed9t \u0111\u1ee9a tr\u1ebb nh\u1ecf (hay nh\u1eefng \u0111\u1ee9a tr\u1ebb). Khi c\u00f4 ta \u0111\u1ed5 xu\u1ed1ng gi\u01b0\u1eddng, t\u00ecnh d\u1ee5c c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 \u0111\u1ea1i di\u1ec7n cho b\u1ed5n ph\u1eadn h\u01a1n l\u00e0 s\u1ef1 vui th\u00edch. N\u00f3 l\u00e0 m\u1ee5c cu\u1ed1i c\u00f9ng trong danh m\u1ee5c \u201cl\u1eadp danh m\u1ee5c cho ng\u00e0y\u201d. Nh\u1eefng m\u1ed1i li\u00ean h\u1ec7 sinh l\u00fd c\u00f3 \u00fd ngh\u0129a n\u00f3 t\u1eadn d\u1ee5ng m\u1ed9t l\u01b0\u1ee3ng l\u1edbn n\u0103ng l\u01b0\u1ee3ng c\u1ee7a c\u01a1 th\u1ec3 v\u00e0 n\u00f3 b\u1ecb c\u1ea3n tr\u1edf nghi\u1ec7m tr\u1ecdng khi nh\u1eefng ngu\u1ed3n n\u0103ng l\u01b0\u1ee3ng n\u00e0y v\u1eeba b\u1ecb ti\u00eau hao.<\/p>\n

                                                                                              C\u00f3\u00a0m\u1ed9t s\u1ef1\u00a0li\u00ean h\u1ec7\u00a0m\u1ea1nh m\u1ebd\u00a0gi\u1eefa t\u1ef1\u00a0\u0111\u00e1nh gi\u00e1\u00a0v\u1ec1\u00a0 gi\u00e1\u00a0tr\u1ecb\u00a0v\u00e0\u00a0kh\u1ea3 n\u0103ng \u0111\u00e1p l\u1ea1i s\u1ef1 k\u00edch th\u00edch t\u00ecnh d\u1ee5c. B\u1ea5t k\u00ec s\u1ef1 gi\u1ec5u c\u1ee3t ngay c\u1ea3 \u0111\u00f9a gi\u1ed1ng nh\u01b0 c\u1ee1 ng\u1ef1c hay m\u00f4ng s\u1ebd l\u00e0m c\u00f4 ta t\u1ef1 nh\u1eadn x\u00e9t v\u1ec1 b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n v\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng tho\u1ea3i m\u00e1i v\u00e0 b\u1ea5t k\u00ec s\u1ef1 v\u00f4 l\u1ec5 m\u00e0 anh ta t\u1ecf th\u00e1i \u0111\u1ed9 cho c\u00f4 ta nh\u01b0 m\u1ed9t c\u00e1 nh\u00e2n th\u00ec h\u1ea7u nh\u01b0 ch\u1eafc ch\u1eafn l\u00e0m n\u1ea3y sinh trong m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 th\u00e2n th\u1ec3 c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd.<\/p>\n

                                                                                              Kh\u00e1i ni\u1ec7m v\u1ec1\u00a0s\u1ef1\u00a0 kh\u00f4ng am hi\u1ec3u d\u01b0\u1eddng nh\u01b0\u00a0\u00a0\u0111\u1ec3 g\u1ee3i\u00a0\u00fd\u00a0 r\u1eb1ng h\u1ea7u h\u1ebft nh\u1eefng tr\u1ee5c tr\u1eb7c trong h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n l\u00e0\u00a0do nh\u1eefng kh\u00f3\u00a0kh\u0103n trong t\u00ecnh d\u1ee5c nh\u01b0ng th\u1ef1c s\u1ef1\u00a0ng\u01b0\u1ee3c l\u1ea1i m\u1edbi \u00a0\u0111\u00fang, nh\u1eefng tr\u1ee5c tr\u1eb7c v\u1ec1\u00a0t\u00ecnh d\u1ee5c nguy\u00ean nh\u00e2n \u00a0do nh\u1eefng kh\u00f3 kh\u0103n trong h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n. Ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef c\u00f3 s\u1ee9c l\u1ef1c th\u1ec3 tr\u1ea1ng v\u0129 \u0111\u1ea1i h\u01a1n, c\u00f3 l\u1ebd b\u1edfi do nhi\u1ec5m s\u1eafc th\u1ec3 kh\u00e1c nhau. B\u00ecnh th\u01b0\u1eddng th\u00ec c\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng k\u00e9o d\u00e0i h\u01a1n \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng t\u1eeb 3 \u0111\u1ebfn 6 n\u0103m. Gi\u1edbi t\u00ednh kh\u00e1c bi\u1ec7t \u1edf vi\u1ec7c trao \u0111\u1ed5i ch\u1ea5t c\u0103n b\u1ea3n c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd \u2013 trao \u0111\u1ed5i ch\u1ea5t c\u1ee7a ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef th\u01b0\u1eddng th\u00ec th\u1ea5p h\u01a1n nhi\u1ec1u so v\u1edbi vi\u1ec7c trao \u0111\u1ed5i ch\u1ea5t c\u1ee7a \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng. H\u1ecd kh\u00e1c nhau \u1edf c\u1ea5u tr\u00fac x\u01b0\u01a1ng: ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef c\u00f3 ph\u1ea7n \u0111\u1ea7u ng\u1eafn h\u01a1n, khu\u00f4n m\u1eb7t r\u1ed9ng h\u01a1n, l\u1eb9m c\u1eb1m nh\u00f4 ra, ch\u00e2n ng\u1eafn h\u01a1n, th\u00e2n d\u00e0i h\u01a1n. Ng\u00f3n tay \u0111\u1ea7u ti\u00ean c\u1ee7a ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef th\u01b0\u1eddng d\u00e0i h\u01a1n ng\u00f3n th\u1ee9 ba. V\u1edbi \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng th\u00ec ng\u01b0\u1ee3c l\u1ea1i m\u1edbi \u0111\u00fang. R\u0103ng c\u1ee7a con trai r\u1ed1t cu\u1ed9c th\u00ec d\u00e0i h\u01a1n r\u0103ng c\u1ee7a con g\u00e1i. Ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef c\u00f3 d\u1ea1 d\u00e0y, th\u1eadn, gan v\u00e0 ru\u1ed9t th\u1eeba d\u00e0i h\u01a1n, hai l\u00e0 ph\u1ed5i th\u00ec nh\u1ecf h\u01a1n.<\/p>\n

                                                                                              Trong ch\u1ee9c n\u0103ng th\u00ec\u00a0 ph\u1ee5\u00a0n\u1eef\u00a0c\u00f3\u00a0v\u00e0i khu v\u1ef1c r\u1ea5t quan tr\u1ecdng m\u00e0\u00a0 \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng b\u1ecb\u00a0thi\u1ebfu\u00a0\u2013\u00a0c\u00f3\u00a0kinh nguy\u1ec7t, c\u00f3\u00a0 b\u1ea7u v\u00e0\u00a0s\u1ef1\u00a0ti\u1ebft s\u1eefa. T\u1ea5t c\u1ea3 nh\u1eefng \u0111i\u1ec1u n\u00e0y \u0111\u1ec1u \u1ea3nh h\u01b0\u1edfng t\u1edbi c\u00e1ch c\u01b0 x\u1eed v\u00e0 nh\u1eefng c\u1ea3m x\u00fac. Ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef c\u00f3 nhi\u1ec1u ho\u00f3c m\u00f4n v\u00e0 kh\u00e1c h\u01a1n so v\u1edbi \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng. Tuy\u1ebfn gi\u1ed1ng nhau nh\u01b0ng h\u00e0nh s\u1ef1 l\u1ea1i kh\u00e1c nhau \u1edf hai gi\u1edbi t\u00ednh, do \u0111\u00f3 tuy\u1ebfn gi\u00e1p c\u1ee7a ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef d\u00e0i h\u01a1n v\u00e0 linh l\u1ee3i h\u01a1n \u2013 n\u00f3 m\u1edf r\u1ed9ng khi mang thai v\u00e0 c\u0169ng trong khi c\u00f3 kinh nguy\u1ec7t n\u00f3 l\u00e0m cho ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef thi\u00ean v\u1ec1 b\u01b0\u1edbu c\u1ed5 h\u01a1n, t\u1ea1o ra kh\u1ea3 n\u0103ng kh\u00e1ng c\u1ea3m l\u1ea1nh, \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c li\u00ean k\u1ebft t\u1ea1o th\u00e0nh l\u00e0n da m\u1ecbn m\u00e0ng, li\u00ean quan t\u1edbi vi\u1ec7c kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 l\u00f4ng l\u00e1 tr\u00ean ng\u01b0\u1eddi. N\u00f3 c\u0169ng gi\u1ea3i th\u00edch cho vi\u1ec7c con g\u00e1i c\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00fac kh\u00edch d\u1ec5 d\u00e0ng h\u01a1n. M\u00e1u c\u1ee7a ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef ch\u1ee9a \u0111\u1ef1ng nhi\u1ec1u n\u01b0\u1edbc h\u01a1n, \u00edt h\u01a1n 70% h\u1ed3ng c\u1ea7u. T\u1eeb vi\u1ec7c \u0111\u00f3 \u0111\u1ec3 cung c\u1ea5p oxi cho t\u1ebf b\u00e0o c\u01a1 th\u1ec3, c\u00f4 ta c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y nhanh m\u1ec7t h\u01a1n, c\u00f3 thi\u00ean h\u01b0\u1edbng y\u1ebfu \u1edbt. Kh\u1ea3 n\u0103ng th\u1ec3 ch\u1ea5t c\u1ee7a c\u00f4 ta tuy v\u1eady nh\u01b0ng l\u1ea1i ho\u00e0n to\u00e0n l\u00e0 v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 l\u00e2u d\u00e0i (s\u1ed1ng l\u00e2u). Khi m\u1ed9t ng\u00e0y l\u00e0m vi\u1ec7c \u1edf c\u00e1c nh\u00e0 m\u00e1y c\u1ee7a Anh qu\u1ed1c, d\u01b0\u1edbi nh\u1eefng \u0111i\u1ec1u ki\u1ec7n th\u1eddi chi\u1ebfn tranh ph\u1ea3i t\u0103ng gi\u1edd l\u00e0m vi\u1ec7c t\u1eeb m\u1ed9t gi\u1edd t\u1edbi m\u1ed9t hai ti\u1ebfng. Tai n\u1ea1n x\u1ea3y ra \u0111\u1ed1i v\u1edbi ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t 50% c\u00f2n nam gi\u1edbi th\u00ec kh\u00f4ng. V\u1ec1 s\u1ee9c m\u1ea1nh th\u00fa v\u1eadt th\u00ec \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng cao h\u01a1n 50% \u0111\u1ed1i v\u1edbi ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef, nh\u1ecbp \u0111\u1eadp c\u1ee7a ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef \u0111\u1eadp nhanh h\u01a1n (80. \u0110\u00e0n \u00f4ng l\u00e0 72). Huy\u1ebft \u00e1p th\u1ea5p h\u01a1n m\u1ed9t \u0111i\u1ec3m so v\u1edbi \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng v\u00e0 thay \u0111\u1ed5i t\u1eebng ph\u00fat (kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u1ec1u); nh\u01b0ng ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef l\u1ea1i \u00edt c\u00f3 xu h\u01b0\u1edbng b\u1ecb huy\u1ebft \u00e1p cao \u2013 \u00edt nh\u1ea5t cho t\u1edbi sau khi m\u00e3n kinh. C\u00f4ng su\u1ea5t dung t\u00edch v\u1ec1 l\u1ef1c th\u1edf c\u1ee7a c\u00f4 ta th\u1ea5p h\u01a1n v\u1edbi t\u1ec9 l\u1ec7 7:10. C\u00f4 ta ch\u1ecbu \u0111\u1ef1ng \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c nhi\u1ec7t \u0111\u1ed9 cao t\u1ed1t h\u01a1n l\u00e0 \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng; s\u1ef1 trao \u0111\u1ed5i ch\u1ea5t c\u1ee7a c\u00f4 ta di\u1ec5n ra ch\u1eadm ch\u1ea1p h\u01a1n.<\/p>\n

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                                                                                              C.7. V\u1ea5n\u00a0\u0111\u1ec1 kinh nguy\u1ec7t v\u00e0\u00a0sinh l\u00fd<\/p>\n

                                                                                              Nh\u1eefng v\u1ea5n\u00a0\u0111\u1ec1 kinh nguy\u1ec7t l\u00e0m cho m\u1ed9t s\u1ed1\u00a0ph\u1ee5\u00a0n\u1eef\u00a0x\u1ea5u h\u01a1n v\u1ec1\u00a0 th\u1ec3\u00a0ch\u1ea5t v\u00e0\u00a0t\u00ecnh c\u1ea3m. \u0110i\u1ec1u n\u00e0y c\u00f3\u00a0th\u1ec3\u00a0 x\u1ea3y ra b\u1ea5t th\u00ecnh l\u00ecnh v\u00e0\u00a0cho t\u1edbi t\u1eadn khi \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c ch\u1eefa tr\u1ecb\u00a0h\u1ee3p l\u00fd. L\u1eddi khuy\u00ean duy nh\u1ea5t l\u00e0\u00a0h\u00e3y\u00a0\u0111\u1ebfn b\u00e1c s\u1ef9, b\u1edfi \u00a0l\u1eddi chu\u1ea9n\u00a0\u0111o\u00e1n chuy\u00ean nghi\u1ec7p ch\u1eefa tr\u1ecb \u0111\u00fang l\u00e0 ph\u01b0\u01a1ng k\u1ebf duy nh\u1ea5t. Th\u1eb3ng th\u1eafn m\u00e0 n\u00f3i b\u1ea1n c\u1ea7n m\u1ed9t b\u00e1c s\u1ef9 l\u00e0 chuy\u00ean gia v\u1ec1 l\u0129nh v\u1ef1c \u0111\u00f3, b\u1edfi nh\u1eefng th\u1eed nghi\u1ec7m t\u1ea7m th\u01b0\u1eddng kh\u00f4ng b\u1ed9c l\u1ed9 s\u1ef1 r\u1ed1i lo\u1ea1n v\u00e0 l\u1eddi nh\u1eadn \u0111\u1ecbnh \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c th\u00f4ng b\u00e1o l\u00e0 \u201cb\u1ea1n \u1ed5n\u201d, \u201ct\u1ef1 tin \u2013 xem cu\u1ed9c \u0111\u1eddi c\u00f2n nhi\u1ec1u \u0111i\u1ec1u t\u1ed1t \u0111\u1eb9p v\u00e0 cu\u1ed9c h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n n\u1eefa ch\u1ee9\u201d, h\u00e3y ngh\u0129 v\u1ec1 nh\u1eefng \u0111\u1ee9a con \u0111\u1eb9p \u0111\u1ebd c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh \u2026\u201d. N\u00f3 kh\u00f4ng ch\u1ec9 v\u1eady v\u00e0 l\u00e0 c\u00e1ch nh\u00ecn nh\u1eadn quan \u0111i\u1ec3m s\u1ed1ng, n\u00f3 l\u00e0 v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 y h\u1ecdc th\u1ef1c s\u1ef1 m\u00e0 \u0111ang \u0111\u01b0a c\u00f4 ta (gia \u0111\u00ecnh c\u00f4 ta) xu\u1ed1ng h\u1ecfa ng\u1ee5c. T\u1ee5t c\u00e2n, t\u1ed5n th\u01b0\u01a1ng, nh\u1eefng c\u1ea3m gi\u00e1c hoang t\u01b0\u1edfng, ch\u00e1n n\u1ea3n tuy\u1ec7t v\u1ecdng v\u00e0 ph\u1ea3n \u1ee9ng ng\u01b0\u1ee3c l\u1ea1i v\u1edbi c\u00e1c thu\u1ed1c an th\u1ea7n th\u00ec kh\u00f4ng ch\u1ec9 l\u00e0 v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 quan \u0111i\u1ec3m. B\u00ean c\u1ea1nh chuy\u00ean gia c\u00f3 ki\u1ebfn th\u1ee9c y h\u1ecdc, b\u00e1c s\u1ef9 c\u00f2n ph\u1ea3i c\u00f3 l\u01b0\u1ee3ng ki\u1ebfn th\u1ee9c hi\u1ec3u bi\u1ebft r\u1ed9ng. V\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 l\u00e0 \u1edf ch\u1ed7 ph\u1ea3i t\u00ecm cho ra m\u1ed9t th\u1ea7y thu\u1ed1c ph\u1ee5 khoa gi\u1ecfi. Th\u00f4ng th\u01b0\u1eddng k\u00edch th\u00edch t\u1ed1 (hooc m\u00f4n) g\u00e2y ra stress th\u00ec r\u1ea5t kh\u00f3 \u0111\u1ec3 x\u00e1c \u0111\u1ecbnh. Ch\u00fang c\u0169ng c\u00f3 xu h\u01b0\u1edbng l\u00e0 thay \u0111\u1ed5i v\u1edbi nhi\u1ec1u l\u00fd do m\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng g\u00e2y ra m\u1ed9t c\u00e1ch ch\u00ednh \u0111\u00e1ng b\u1edfi l\u00fd do m\u00f4i tr\u01b0\u1eddng. M\u1ed9t trong nh\u1eefng c\u0103n b\u1ea3n c\u1ee7a con ng\u01b0\u1eddi t\u1ef1 nhi\u00ean l\u00e0 \u0111\u1ec3 ch\u1ec9 \u0111\u1ecbnh m\u1ed9t l\u00fd do cho nh\u1eefng hi\u1ec7n t\u01b0\u1ee3ng m\u00e0 hi\u1ec7n t\u01b0\u1ee3ng l\u1ea1i kh\u00f4ng r\u00f5 r\u00e0ng. C\u00e1ch nh\u00ecn v\u1ec1 tr\u01b0\u1eddng h\u1ee3p n\u00e0y l\u00e0 ho\u1eb7c quy l\u1ed7i cho ai \u0111\u00f3 hay th\u1ee9 g\u00ec \u0111\u00f3 hay ngay b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n ch\u1ee7 th\u1ec3. Tr\u1ee5c tr\u1eb7c v\u1ec1 hooc m\u00f4n ho\u00e0n to\u00e0n d\u1ec5 d\u00e0ng r\u01a1i v\u00e0o ph\u1ea1m tr\u00f9 r\u1ed1i lo\u1ea1n kh\u00f4ng b\u1ecb ph\u00e1t hi\u1ec7n. M\u1ed9t l\u1eddi c\u1ef1c \u0111oan c\u1ea3nh b\u00e1o n\u00ean \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c \u0111\u1ec1 c\u1eadp \u1edf \u0111\u00e2y: M\u1ed9t lo\u1ea1i thu\u1ed1c \u0111\u1eb7c bi\u1ec7t \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c t\u00ecm ra, n\u00f3 c\u0169ng ph\u00f9 h\u1ee3p v\u1edbi m\u1ed9t tr\u01b0\u1eddng h\u1ee3p \u0111\u1eb7c bi\u1ec7t; \u0110\u00fang v\u1eady, c\u00f9ng m\u1ed9t \u0111\u01a1n thu\u1ed1c cho m\u1ed9t ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef kh\u00e1c v\u1edbi tri\u1ec7u ch\u1ee9ng x\u00e1c \u0111\u1ecbnh b\u1ec1 ngo\u00e0i c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 t\u1ea1o ra nh\u1eefng ph\u1ea3n \u1ee9ng ho\u00e0n to\u00e0n kh\u00e1c nhau.<\/p>\n

                                                                                              C\u00f3\u00a0 m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7\u00a0 gi\u1eefa m\u1ee9c\u00a0\u0111\u1ed9 estrogen (sinh l\u00fd\u00a0c\u1ee7a ph\u1ee5\u00a0n\u1eef) v\u00e0\u00a0s\u1ef1\u00a0\u1ed5n\u00a0\u0111\u1ecbnh c\u1ea3m x\u00fac trong ph\u1ee5\u00a0n\u1eef. C\u0169ng th\u1eadt ng\u1ea1c nhi\u00ean, bao nhi\u00eau l\u00e0\u00a0b\u00e1c s\u1ef9\u00a0 y khoa, \u0111\u1eb7c bi\u1ec7t nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi n\u01a1i h\u1ecd\u00a0l\u00e0m vi\u1ec7c l\u1ea1i kh\u00f4ng d\u00ednh d\u00e1ng g\u00ec\u00a0t\u1edbi ph\u1ee5\u00a0khoa. B\u1eb1ng ch\u1ee9ng 22 b\u1ec7nh (\u1ed1m nh\u1eb9) r\u00f5 r\u00e0ng c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c hi\u1ec3u do thi\u1ebfu estrogen. M\u1eb7c d\u00f9 v\u00e0i ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef c\u00f3 kinh nghi\u1ec7m v\u1ec1 n\u00f3 r\u1ed3i.<\/p>\n

                                                                                              Tri\u1ec7u ch\u1ee9ng t\u00ecnh c\u1ea3m<\/p>\n

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                                                                                              1. Th\u1ea5t v\u1ecdng t\u1ed9t b\u1eb7c, c\u00f3\u00a0l\u1ebd\u00a0gi\u1eef\u00a0l\u00e2u h\u00e0ng m\u1ea5y th\u00e1ng kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c gi\u1ea3i t\u1ecfa.<\/li>\n
                                                                                              2. C\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y\u00a0\u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c t\u00f4n tr\u1ecdng \u00edt c\u1ef1c\u00a0\u0111\u1ed9, mang l\u1ea1i c\u1ea3m gi\u00e1c ho\u00e0n to\u00e0n v\u00f4\u00a0gi\u00e1\u00a0tr\u1ecb\u00a0v\u00e0 thi\u1ebfu th\u00fa v\u1ecb trong cu\u1ed9c \u0111\u1eddi.<\/li>\n
                                                                                              3. S\u1ef1\u00a0ch\u1ecbu\u00a0\u0111\u1ef1ng l\u1ed7i th\u1ea5t v\u1ecdng th\u1ea5p v\u00f4\u00a0c\u00f9ng, g\u00f3p ph\u1ea7n l\u00e0m t\u0103ng th\u00eam t\u00ednh c\u00e1u k\u1ec9nh v\u00e0\u00a0l\u1ecdc t\u00ecnh c\u1ea3m.<\/li>\n
                                                                                              4. S\u1ef1\u00a0\u0111\u00e1p l\u1ea1i t\u00ecnh c\u1ea3m kh\u00f4ng th\u1ecfa\u00a0\u0111\u00e1ng s\u1ebd\u00a0t\u1ea1o ra n\u01b0\u1edbc m\u1eaft khi m\u00e0\u00a0nh\u1eefng vi\u1ec7c kh\u00f4ng bu\u1ed3n v\u00e0\u00a0phi\u1ec1n mu\u1ed9n trong khi t\u01b0\u01a1ng \u0111\u1ed1i vui v\u1ebb.<\/li>\n
                                                                                              5. Ch\u1ecbu\u00a0\u0111\u1ef1ng \u00a0\u1ed3n\u00a0\u00e0o k\u00e9m. Ngay c\u1ea3\u00a0ti\u1ebfng \u0111\u00e0i hay s\u1ef1\u00a0h\u01b0\u1edfng \u1ee9ng th\u00f4ng th\u01b0\u1eddng c\u1ee7a nh\u1eefng \u0111\u1ee9a tr\u1ebb\u00a0 c\u0169ng c\u00f3\u00a0th\u1ec3\u00a0l\u00e0m ph\u00e1t c\u00e1u kh\u1ee7ng khi\u1ebfp. Vi\u1ec7c g\u1ecdi tr\u1ecdng t\u00e0i l\u00e0\u00a0chuy\u1ec7n th\u00f4ng th\u01b0\u1eddng.<\/li>\n
                                                                                              6. Y\u00eau c\u1ea7u c\u1ea7n thi\u1ebft t\u01b0\u1eddng t\u1eadn v\u1ec1\u00a0b\u1eb1ng ch\u1ee9ng c\u1ee7a t\u00ecnh y\u00eau v\u00e0\u00a0s\u1ef1\u00a0 v\u1eafng m\u1eb7t c\u1ee7a\u00a0h\u1ecd, s\u1ef1 nghi ng\u1edd v\u1ec1 m\u1ed9t \u0111\u1ed1i th\u1ee7 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 s\u1ea5n v\u00e0o ch\u1ed3ng.<\/li>\n
                                                                                              7. Can thi\u1ec7p v\u00e0o gi\u1ea5c ng\u1ee7.<\/li>\n
                                                                                              8. Kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3\u00a0kh\u1ea3\u00a0 n\u0103ng t\u1eadp trung v\u00e0\u00a0kh\u00f3\u00a0kh\u0103n trong vi\u1ec7c nh\u1edb\u00a0l\u1ea1i.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

                                                                                                Tri\u1ec7u ch\u1ee9ng t\u1ef1\u00a0nhi\u00ean (th\u00e2n th\u1ec3)<\/p>\n

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                                                                                                1. R\u1ed1i lo\u1ea1n ti\u00eau h\u00f3a, g\u00e2y phi\u1ec1n ph\u1ee9c v\u1ec1\u00a0ti\u00eau h\u00f3a v\u00e0\u00a0th\u00e8m \u0103n.<\/li>\n
                                                                                                2. \u201c\u0110\u1ecf\u00a0b\u1eebng\u201d\u00a0 ch\u1ea3y nhi\u1ec1u ph\u00e2n trong c\u01a1 th\u1ec3 trong v\u00e0i gi\u00e2y.<\/li>\n
                                                                                                3. Ch\u00f3ng m\u1eb7t (hoa m\u1eaft).<\/li>\n
                                                                                                4. T\u00e1o b\u00f3n<\/li>\n
                                                                                                5. Run s\u1ee3<\/li>\n
                                                                                                6. Ch\u00e2n tay ng\u1ee9a ran v\u00e0\u00a0 \u201c\u0111i ng\u1ee7\u201d<\/li>\n
                                                                                                7. Kh\u00f4 da, \u0111\u1eb7c bi\u1ec7t nh\u1eefng v\u1ebft\u00a0\u0111\u1ed1m r\u00f5 r\u00e0ng \u1edf\u00a0nhi\u1ec1u n\u01a1i v\u00e0\u00a0m\u1ea5t\u00a0 \u0111\u00e0n h\u1ed3i.<\/li>\n
                                                                                                8. Kh\u00f4\u00a0m\u00e0ng nh\u1ea7y, \u0111\u1eb7c bi\u1ec7t\u00a0\u1edf\u00a0\u00e2m\u00a0\u0111\u1ea1o, l\u00e0m cho vi\u1ec7c giao h\u1ee3p b\u1ecb\u00a0\u0111au.<\/li>\n
                                                                                                9. Gi\u1ea3m m\u1ea1nh v\u1ec1\u00a0 d\u1ee5c t\u00ednh (th\u00e8m mu\u1ed1n quan h\u1ec7).<\/li>\n
                                                                                                10. \u0110au nhi\u1ec1u v\u00f9ng c\u1ee7a c\u01a1\u00a0th\u1ec3, thay \u0111\u1ed5i t\u1eeb\u00a0ch\u1ed7\u00a0n\u00e0y t\u1edbi ch\u1ed7\u00a0 kh\u00e1c (ch\u1ee9ng \u0111au d\u00e2y th\u1ea7n kinh, \u0111au c\u01a1,\u00a0\u0111au kh\u1edbp.)<\/li>\n
                                                                                                11. Tachicardia (T\u0103ng nhanh hay \u0111\u01b0a nh\u1ecbp tim v\u00e0\u00a0\u0111\u1eadp nhanh)<\/li>\n
                                                                                                12. \u0110au tim.<\/li>\n
                                                                                                13. C\u00f3\u00a0qu\u1ea7ng t\u1ed1i, \u0111en \u1edf\u00a0quanh m\u1eaft. \u0110\u00e2y l\u00e0 d\u1ea5u hi\u1ec7u m\u00e0 c\u00e1c b\u00e1c s\u1ef9 nh\u1eadn bi\u1ebft c\u00f3 l\u1ee3i nh\u1ea5t cho vi\u1ec7c chu\u1ea9n \u0111o\u00e1n ban \u0111\u1ea7u.<\/li>\n
                                                                                                14. Gi\u1ea3m c\u00e2n<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

                                                                                                  (\u0110\u1ed9 ch\u00ednh x\u00e1c c\u1ee7a nh\u1eefng tri\u1ec7u ch\u1ee9ng n\u00e0y\u00a0\u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c x\u00e1c\u00a0\u0111\u1ecbnh d\u1ef1a theo m\u1ed9t ti\u1ebfn tr\u00ecnh chuy\u00ean m\u00f4n do Ayerst Laboratories, gi\u00e1o s\u01b0\u00a0c\u1ee7a tr\u01b0\u1eddng \u0111\u1ea1i h\u1ecdc NY Obsteetrics and Gynecology).<\/p>\n

                                                                                                  C\u1ea3nh ng\u1ed9\u00a0c\u1ee7a t\u00ecnh h\u00ecnh l\u00e0\u00a0 ngay c\u1ea3\u00a0ch\u1ed3ng v\u00e0\u00a0con c\u00e1i hay ngay c\u1ea3\u00a0gia \u0111\u00ecnh m\u1edf\u00a0r\u1ed9ng t\u1ecf\u00a0ra \u1ee7ng h\u1ed9, h\u1ecd\u00a0kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3, kh\u1ea3\u00a0n\u0103ng gi\u00fap\u00a0\u0111\u1ee1 ch\u1ec9\u00a0 b\u1eb1ng nh\u1eefng c\u1ed1\u00a0g\u1eafng t\u1ed1t b\u1ee5ng \u00a0\u2013\u00a0 hooc m\u00f4n m\u1ea5t c\u00e2n b\u1eb1ng \u00a0kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3\u00a0l\u00e0m\u00a0\u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c b\u1eb1ng s\u1ef1\u00a0th\u00f4ng c\u1ea3m gi\u00fap \u0111\u1ee1 hay l\u00f2ng t\u1ed1t.<\/p>\n

                                                                                                  Trong m\u1ee5c C.4. Ch\u00fang t\u00f4i\u00a0 \u0111\u00e3 t\u00ecnh c\u1edd\u00a0g\u1eb7p l\u1ea1i m\u1ed9t s\u1ed1\u00a0h\u1ed9i ch\u1ee9ng h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n\u00a0\u0111i\u1ec3n h\u00ecnh. Gi\u1edd\u00a0ch\u00fang t\u00f4i s\u1ebd\u00a0th\u1ea3o lu\u1eadn v\u1ec1\u00a0nh\u1eefng h\u1ed9i ch\u1ee9ng l\u00e3nh \u0111\u1ea1m \u0111\u1eb7c ch\u01b0ng.<\/p>\n

                                                                                                  \u201cTri\u1ec7u ch\u1ee9ng th\u1ea5t v\u1ecdng\u201d<\/p>\n

                                                                                                  C\u00e1c b\u1ec7nh nh\u00e2n c\u00f3\u00a0 xu h\u01b0\u1edbng r\u1ee7\u00a0tay xu\u1ed1ng c\u00f3\u00a0d\u1ea5u hi\u1ec7u r\u1eb1ng t\u00f4i kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 ti\u1ebfp t\u1ee5c th\u00eam \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c n\u1eefa, n\u1ebfu c\u00f3 ai h\u1ecfi v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 l\u00e0 \u1edf ch\u1ed7 n\u00e0o, th\u00ec c\u00f4 ta ch\u1eafc ch\u1eafn n\u00f3i r\u1eb1ng \u201ckh\u1eafp m\u00ecnh m\u1ea9y\u201d. N\u1ebfu c\u00f4 ta \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c h\u1ecfi v\u1ec1 nh\u1eefng v\u00f9ng r\u00f5 r\u00e0ng nh\u01b0 l\u00e0: \u201cN\u1ebfu h\u1ecfi b\u1ee5ng c\u00f4 c\u00f3 c\u1ea3m gi\u00e1c ch\u01b0\u1edbng l\u00ean kh\u00f4ng, c\u00f4 ta s\u1ebd tr\u1ea3 l\u1eddi: \u201c\u0111\u00fang\u201d. N\u1ebfu h\u1ecfi c\u00f4 b\u1ecb chu\u1ed9t r\u00fat \u1edf b\u00e0n ch\u00e2n ph\u1ea3i kh\u00f4ng, c\u00f4 \u1ea5y th\u01b0a: \u201cv\u00e2ng\u201d. C\u00f4 ta l\u00e0m cho b\u1ea1n c\u00f3 c\u1ea3m t\u01b0\u1edfng m\u1ecdi th\u1ee9 \u0111\u1ec1u t\u1ed3i t\u1ec7 v\u1edbi c\u00f4 ta. C\u00e1i ki\u1ec3u, \u201cAnh n\u00f3i g\u00ec. T\u00f4i n\u00f3i v\u00e2y\u201d (you name it, I have it\u201d. Khi g\u1eb7p tr\u01b0\u1eddng h\u1ee3p b\u1ec7nh nh\u00e2n nh\u01b0 v\u1eady y t\u00e1 b\u1ecb c\u00e1u \u0111i\u00ean\u00a0 v\u00ec lu\u00f4n nh\u1eadn \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c c\u00e2u tr\u1ea3 l\u1eddi l\u00e0 \u201c\u0111\u00fang\u201d, do v\u1eady cu\u1ed1i c\u00f9ng th\u00ec c\u00f4 ta h\u1ecfi \u201cr\u0103ng c\u1ee7a c\u00f4 ng\u1ee9a \u00e0?\u201d \u0111\u1ec3 c\u00f4 ta s\u1ed1c, b\u1ec7nh nh\u00e2n tr\u1ea3 l\u1eddi \u201c\u0111\u00fang\u201d. C\u00e2u tr\u1ea3 l\u1eddi nh\u01b0 v\u1eady kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0 ng\u1edb ng\u1ea9n m\u00e0 l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t tri\u1ec7u ch\u1ee9ng.<\/p>\n

                                                                                                  H\u1ea7u h\u1ebft nh\u1eefng \u0111i\u1ec3m\u00a0 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c\u00a0\u0111\u1ec1 c\u1eadp\u00a0\u1edf\u00a0tr\u00ean\u00a0\u0111\u1ec1u c\u00f3\u00a0li\u00ean h\u1ec7\u00a0nhi\u1ec1u h\u01a1n t\u1edbi ph\u1ee5\u00a0n\u1eef\u00a0trong khi m\u00e3n kinh b\u1edfi s\u1ef1 thay \u0111\u1ed5i m\u1ee9c \u0111\u1ed9 estrogen (sinh l\u00fd). H\u00e3y \u0111\u1ec3 ch\u00fang t\u00f4i th\u1ea3o lu\u1eadn v\u1ec1 nh\u1eefng v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 c\u1ea3m x\u00fac th\u00f4ng th\u01b0\u1eddng v\u1ec1 nh\u1eefng ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef tr\u1ebb \u0111ang trong th\u1eddi k\u1ef3 kinh nguy\u1ec7t.<\/p>\n

                                                                                                  Tr\u01b0\u1edbc ti\u00ean, t\u00f4i mu\u1ed1n nh\u1ea5n m\u1ea1nh m\u1ed9t th\u1ef1c t\u1ebf\u00a0do m\u1ed9t s\u1ed1\u00a0ph\u1ee5\u00a0n\u1eef\u00a0 \u0111\u00e3 hi\u1ec3u. L\u00f2ng t\u1ef1\u00a0tr\u1ecdng \u00a0li\u00ean quan tr\u1ef1c ti\u1ebfp t\u1edbi m\u1ee9c \u0111\u1ed9 estrogen; qua \u0111\u00f3, c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 \u0111o\u00e1n \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c s\u1ef1 giao \u0111\u1ed9ng qua 28 ng\u00e0y.<\/p>\n

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                                                                                                  – Estrogen<\/p>\n

                                                                                                  Progesterone<\/p>\n

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                                                                                                  \u2013 Hooc m\u00f4n duy tr\u00ec\u00a0thai<\/p>\n

                                                                                                  M\u1ee9c\u00a0\u0111\u1ed9 hooc m\u00f4n b\u00ecnh th\u01b0\u1eddng v\u00e0\u00a0t\u00ednh kh\u00ed. M\u1ee5c\u00a0\u0111\u00edch c\u1ee7a bi\u1ec3u\u00a0 \u0111\u1ed3 n\u00e0y ch\u1ec9\u00a0\u0111\u1ec3 l\u00f4i cu\u1ed1n s\u1ef1\u00a0ch\u00fa\u00a0\u00fd\u00a0 t\u1edbi nh\u1eefng kh\u1ea3 n\u0103ng s\u1eed d\u1ee5ng bi\u1ec3u \u0111\u1ed3 minh h\u1ecda.<\/p>\n

                                                                                                  T\u00e2m t\u00ecnh thay \u0111\u1ed5i \u0111\u1ed1i v\u1edbi nh\u1eefng m\u1ee9c\u00a0\u0111\u1ed9 hooc m\u00f4n th\u1ea5t th\u01b0\u1eddng. Ph\u1ee5\u00a0 n\u1eef\u00a0c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y l\u00f2ng t\u1ef1\u00a0tr\u1ecdng v\u0129\u00a0\u0111\u1ea1i nh\u1ea5t, v\u00e0\u00a0th\u1ea5y s\u1ef1\u00a0lo l\u1eafng v\u00e0\u00a0s\u1ef1\u00a0th\u00f9\u00a0\u0111\u1ecbch \u00edt nh\u1ea5t khi \u1edf\u00a0k\u1ef3\u00a0gi\u1eefa. N\u00f3\u00a0c\u0169ng l\u00e0\u00a0th\u1eddi gian l\u1ea1c quan c\u1ea3m x\u00fac v\u0129\u00a0\u0111\u1ea1i nh\u1ea5t v\u00e0\u00a0t\u1ef1\u00a0 tin nh\u1ea5t. M\u1ed9t hooc m\u00f4n kh\u00e1c, hooc m\u00f4n duy tr\u00ec mang thai \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c t\u1ea1o ra trong th\u1eddi k\u1ef3 th\u1ee9 hai c\u1ee7a k\u1ef3 kinh, k\u00e8m theo n\u00f3 l\u00e0 vi\u1ec7c t\u0103ng s\u1ef1 c\u0103ng th\u1eb3ng, s\u1ef1 lo l\u1eafng v\u00e0 t\u00ednh hung h\u0103ng. Cu\u1ed1i c\u00f9ng, hai hooc m\u00f4n gi\u1ea3m trong th\u1eddi k\u1ef3 ti\u1ec1n kinh nguy\u1ec7t. Gi\u1ea3m t\u00e2m tr\u1ea1ng l\u1ea1i xu\u1ed1ng \u0111\u1ebfn \u0111i\u1ec3m th\u1ea5p nh\u1ea5t. \u0110\u00e2y l\u00e0 \u0111i\u1ec1u ch\u00ednh x\u00e1c \u0111\u1ed1i v\u1edbi nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi lo\u1ea1n th\u1ea7n kinh ch\u1ee9c n\u0103ng, ng\u01b0\u1eddi b\u1ecb b\u1ec7nh t\u00e2m th\u1ea7n v\u00e0 nh\u1eefng ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef gi\u1ed1ng nh\u01b0 b\u00ecnh th\u01b0\u1eddng. Th\u1eddi k\u1ef3 ti\u1ec1n kinh nguy\u1ec7t n\u00f3 li\u00ean \u0111\u1edbi t\u1edbi c\u1ea3m gi\u00e1c v\u00f4 v\u1ecdng, lo l\u1eafng, th\u00f9 \u0111\u1ecbch v\u00e0 s\u1ef1 ao \u01b0\u1edbc v\u1ec1 t\u00ecnh y\u00eau. Th\u1ea7n kinh c\u0103ng th\u1eb3ng n\u00e0y v\u00e0 t\u00ednh d\u1ec5 c\u00e1u k\u1ec9nh nh\u01b0ng s\u1ef1 ch\u00e1n n\u1ea3n th\u01b0\u1eddng \u0111i c\u00f9ng v\u1edbi s\u1ef1 khuay kh\u1ecfa v\u00e0 n\u1ea5n n\u00e1 t\u1edbi khi m\u1ee9c \u0111\u1ed9 estrogen t\u0103ng l\u00ean.<\/p>\n

                                                                                                  Tr\u00ean bi\u1ec3u\u00a0\u0111\u1ed3\u00a0 \u0111\u1eb7c tr\u01b0ng gi\u1ed1ng nh\u01b0\u00a0bi\u1ec3u\u00a0\u0111\u1ed3 tr\u00ean, c\u00e1c nh\u00e0\u00a0 chuy\u00ean m\u00f4n c\u00f3\u00a0th\u1ec3\u00a0th\u00eam v\u00e0o nhi\u1ec1u m\u1ea3ng th\u00f4ng tin kh\u00e1c nhau nh\u01b0 l\u00e0 \u201c\u0111\u01b0\u1eddng cong t\u00e2m tr\u1ea1ng\u201d. V\u1edbi c\u00e1ch n\u00e0y n\u00f3 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 t\u1ea1o ra m\u1ed9t ph\u01b0\u01a1ng th\u1ee9c qua \u0111\u00f3 m\u1ed9t s\u1ed1 chi\u1ec1u h\u01b0\u1edbng c\u1ee7a t\u00e2m tr\u1ea1ng c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c d\u1ef1 \u0111o\u00e1n. T\u01b0\u01a1ng t\u1ef1 nh\u01b0 nh\u1eefng \u0111\u01b0\u1eddng cong cho nh\u1eefng th\u1ef1c th\u1ec3 kh\u00e1c \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c b\u1ed5 sung \u0111\u1ec3 t\u1ea1o ra m\u1ed9t ki\u1ec3u d\u1ef1 t\u00ednh kh\u00e1c nh\u01b0 l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t \u0111\u01b0\u1eddng cong \u0111\u1ec3 gi\u00fap \u0111\u1ee1 nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111ang c\u00f3 k\u1ebf ho\u1ea1ch \u0111\u1ec3 sinh m\u1ed9t \u0111\u1ee9a con hay kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 k\u1ebf ho\u1ea1ch.<\/p>\n

                                                                                                  \u0110\u1ed1i v\u1edbi nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00f3 h\u1ecd\u00a0\u0111ang h\u0103ng h\u00e1i gi\u1ea3i quy\u1ebft v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd. M\u1ed9t l\u1eddi khuy\u00ean\u00a0 l\u00e0 n\u00ean t\u1ea1o ra s\u1ef1 quan s\u00e1t v\u00e0\u00a0 \u0111\u1ed3 th\u1ecb, nh\u1eefng gi\u00e1 tr\u1ecb tr\u00ean m\u1ed9t bi\u1ec3u \u0111\u1ed3 c\u1ee7a \u0111\u00fang h\u1ecd. Sau h\u1ebft, chu k\u1ef3 28 ng\u00e0y c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 thay \u0111\u1ed5i t\u00f9y theo t\u1eebng ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef. C\u0169ng nh\u01b0 v\u1eady, m\u1ee9c thay \u0111\u1ed5i t\u00e2m tr\u1ea1ng c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c th\u00eam v\u00e0o. Sau khi th\u1ef1c hi\u1ec7n bi\u1ec3u \u0111\u1ed3 n\u00e0y trong v\u00e0i th\u00e1ng, b\u1ea1n c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 t\u1ef1 m\u00ecnh d\u1ef1 \u0111o\u00e1n \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c h\u00ecnh th\u00e1i. N\u1ebfu c\u00f3 \u0111i\u1ec1u g\u00ec thay \u0111\u1ed5i (bi\u1ebfn thi\u00ean) nh\u1eefng bi\u1ec3u \u0111\u1ed3 n\u00e0y c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c d\u00f9ng \u0111\u1ec3 t\u1ef1 b\u1ea1n gi\u1ea3i th\u00edch \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c m\u1ed9t c\u00e1ch chuy\u00ean nghi\u1ec7p h\u01a1n v\u1ec1 vi\u1ec7c \u0111\u1ec1 xu\u1ea5t m\u1ed9t ph\u01b0\u01a1ng th\u1ee9c nhanh h\u01a1n v\u00e0 t\u1ed1t h\u01a1n b\u1edfi c\u00e1c th\u00f4ng s\u1ed1 trong tay.<\/p>\n

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                                                                                                  Th\u00f4ng tin cung c\u1ea5p\u00a0 \u1edf\u00a0tr\u00ean c\u00f3\u00a0th\u1ec3\u00a0r\u1ea5t c\u00f3\u00a0gi\u00e1\u00a0tr\u1ecb\u00a0 \u0111\u1ed1i v\u1edbi m\u1ed9t ph\u1ee5\u00a0n\u1eef\u00a0mu\u1ed1n hi\u1ec3u b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n m\u00ecnh v\u00e0 t\u00e1c \u0111\u1ed9ng t\u1edbi nh\u1eefng c\u1ea3m x\u00fac c\u1ee7a c\u00f4 ta. \u0110i\u1ec1u quan tr\u1ecdng nh\u1ea5t l\u00e0 c\u00f4 ta c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 gi\u1ea3i th\u00edch \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c nh\u1eefng c\u1ea3m gi\u00e1c c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh. N\u1ebfu c\u00f4 ta c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 nh\u1edb \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c r\u1eb1ng l\u1ed7i th\u1ea5t v\u1ecdng v\u00e0 c\u1ea3m gi\u00e1c v\u00f4 d\u1ee5ng l\u00e0 do hooc m\u00f4n th\u00fac \u0111\u1ea9y v\u00e0 ch\u1eb3ng c\u00f3 \u0111i\u1ec1u g\u00ec l\u00e0m thay \u0111\u1ed5i \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c th\u1ef1c t\u1ebf \u0111\u00f3. C\u00f4 ta c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 ch\u1ed1ng l\u1ea1i \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c s\u1ef1 \u0111\u1ed5 nh\u00e0o v\u1ec1 t\u00e2m l\u00fd m\u1ed9t c\u00e1ch d\u1ec5 d\u00e0ng. C\u00f4 ta n\u00ean t\u1ef1 th\u01b0\u1edfng cho m\u00ecnh m\u1ed9t ch\u00fat s\u1ee9c s\u1ed1ng m\u1edbi n\u00f3i nh\u01b0: M\u1eb7c d\u00f9 t\u00f4i c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y ch\u01b0a \u0111\u1ee7 v\u00e0 thua k\u00e9m, t\u00f4i t\u1eeb ch\u1ed1i \u0111\u1ec3 tin v\u00e0o \u0111i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00f3. V\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 th\u1ef1c s\u1ef1 c\u1ee7a t\u00f4i l\u00e0 t\u1ef1 nhi\u00ean, kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0 c\u1ea3m x\u00fac v\u00e0 n\u00f3 s\u1ebd c\u1ea3i thi\u1ec7n! Ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef ch\u1eafc ch\u1eafn mong mu\u1ed1n ch\u1ed3ng c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd hi\u1ec3u \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c nh\u1eefng y\u1ebfu t\u1ed1 t\u00e2m l\u00fd n\u00e0y, t\u00e2m l\u00fd n\u00e0y \u0111\u00f3ng m\u1ed9t vai tr\u00f2 r\u1ea5t quan tr\u1ecdng trong con ng\u01b0\u1eddi ph\u00e1i n\u1eef. Tr\u1ee5c tr\u1eb7c l\u00e0 \u1edf ch\u1ed7 nh\u1eefng \u0111i\u1ec1u t\u1ef1 nhi\u00ean \u0111\u00f3 kh\u00f4ng bao gi\u1edd \u0111\u01b0a ra th\u1ea3o lu\u1eadn v\u1edbi con trai hay \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng. \u0110i\u1ec1u n\u00e0y kh\u00f3 hi\u1ec3u h\u01a1n n\u1eefa v\u1ec1 b\u1ed9 m\u00e1y n\u1ed9i t\u1ea1i (n\u1ed9i t\u00e2m) c\u1ee7a ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef th\u00ec hi\u1ebfm khi \u0111i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00f3 ch\u1eafc ch\u1eafn l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 t\u00f2 m\u00f2 c\u1ee7a \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng \u2013 do v\u1eady anh ta kh\u00f4ng d\u1ec5 \u0111i t\u00ecm ki\u1ebfm nh\u1eefng ki\u1ebfn th\u1ee9c v\u1ec1 nh\u1eefng ch\u1ee7 \u0111\u1ec1 n\u00e0y \u0111\u00e2u. N\u00f3i c\u00e1ch kh\u00e1c, l\u00e0 s\u1ef1 kh\u00f3 hi\u1ec3u v\u1ec1 khoa h\u1ecdc, thi\u00ean v\u0103n h\u1ecdc\u2026vv c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 \u0111\u01b0a anh ta t\u00ecm hi\u1ec3u ngang d\u1ecdc kh\u1eafp ch\u1ee7 \u0111\u1ec1.<\/p>\n

                                                                                                  Anh ta\u00a0 kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3\u00a0 giai \u0111o\u1ea1n\u00a0\u0111\u00f3\u00a0\u0111\u00e2u. Th\u1eadt kh\u00f3\u00a0cho anh ta hi\u1ec3u th\u1ea5u\u00a0\u0111\u00e1o \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c nh\u1eefng c\u1ea3m gi\u00e1c ch\u1ee9\u01a1ng b\u1ee5ng, u\u1ec3\u00a0 o\u1ea3i l\u00e0\u00a0\u0111\u1ed9ng c\u01a1\u00a0th\u00fac\u00a0\u0111\u1ea9y t\u1edbi nh\u1eefng c\u00e2u tr\u1ea3\u00a0l\u1eddi\u00a0\u0111\u1ed9p ch\u00e1t v\u00e0\u00a0c\u00e1u k\u1ec9nh c\u1ee7a v\u1ee3 m\u00ecnh. Th\u1eadt\u00a0 h\u1eefu \u00edch n\u1ebfu ng\u01b0\u1eddi ch\u1ed3ng b\u1eb1ng c\u00e1ch n\u00e0y hay c\u00e1ch kh\u00e1c \u0111\u1ec3 bi\u1ebft \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c ch\u1ee7 \u0111\u1ec1 n\u00e0y v\u00e0 c\u0169ng h\u1ecdc bi\u1ebft tr\u01b0\u1edbc \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c th\u1eddi k\u1ef3 kinh nguy\u1ec7t c\u1ee7a v\u1ee3 m\u00ecnh \u0111\u1ec3 nh\u1eadn ra s\u1ef1 thay \u0111\u1ed5i v\u1ec1 x\u00fac c\u1ea3m lu\u00f4n \u0111i k\u00e8m theo th\u1eddi k\u1ef3 n\u00e0y. \u0110i\u1ec1u \u0111\u1eb7c bi\u1ec7t quan tr\u1ecdng l\u00e0 n\u00f3 s\u1ebd r\u1ea5t c\u1ea7n thi\u1ebft cho t\u00ecnh tr\u1ea1ng b\u1ec7n t\u1eadt v\u00e0 d\u1ec5 b\u1ecb x\u00fac \u0111\u1ed9ng trong th\u1eddi k\u1ef3 n\u00e0y, ngay c\u1ea3 khi c\u00f4 ta c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c \u0111\u00e1ng y\u00eau l\u1eafm. Anh ta n\u00ean tr\u00e1nh b\u00e0n lu\u1eadn nh\u1eefng v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 v\u1ec1 t\u00e0i ch\u00ednh hay nh\u1eefng ch\u1ee7 \u0111\u1ec1 g\u00e2y ch\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ed9ng kh\u00e1c t\u1edbi khi c\u01a1n b\u00e3o n\u1ed9i t\u00e2m qua \u0111i. M\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi ch\u1ed3ng bi\u1ebft th\u00f4ng c\u1ea3m v\u00e0 hi\u1ec3u bi\u1ebft c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 l\u00e0m h\u00e0i l\u00f2ng nh\u1eefng kh\u00e1t khao v\u1ec1 t\u00ecnh y\u00eau, ai \u0111\u00f3 bi\u1ebft quan t\u00e2m v\u00e0 hi\u1ec3u \u0111\u1ea7y \u0111\u1ee7 h\u1ed7 tr\u1ee3 v\u1ee3 m\u00ecnh trong nh\u1eefng ng\u00e0y chu k\u1ef3 c\u0103ng th\u1eb3ng.<\/p>\n

                                                                                                  N\u00f3i v\u1ec1\u00a0k\u1ef9\u00a0thu\u1eadt th\u00ec\u00a0nhi\u1ec1u s\u1ea3n c\u01a1\u00a0kh\u00ed\u00a0c\u0169ng c\u00f3\u00a0nh\u1eefng g\u00ec\u00a0 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c bi\u1ebft\u00a0\u0111\u1ebfn th\u00f4ng th\u01b0\u1eddng nh\u01b0\u00a0\u201c\u0111\u01b0\u1eddng cong t\u00ednh c\u00e1ch\u201d. Nh\u1eefng \u0111\u01b0\u1eddng cong n\u00e0y \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c l\u1eadp d\u1ef1a tr\u00ean nh\u1eefng k\u1ebft qu\u1ea3 quan s\u00e1t \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c. Nh\u1eefng bi\u1ec3u \u0111\u1ed3 n\u00e0y gi\u00fap \u0111\u1ec3 x\u00e1c \u0111\u1ecbnh t\u00ednh ch\u1ea5t h\u00e0nh x\u1eed ch\u1ea5p nh\u1eadn \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c c\u1ee7a s\u1ea3n ph\u1ea9m t\u1ea1i nh\u1eefng th\u1eddi \u0111i\u1ec3m s\u1eed d\u1ee5ng. Nh\u1eefng s\u1ea3n ph\u1ea9m th\u00f4ng th\u01b0\u1eddng nh\u1ea5t \u0111\u1ec1u c\u00f3 m\u1ed9t khu\u00f4n m\u1eabu c\u1ed1 \u0111\u1ecbnh hay khu\u00f4n m\u1eabu logic r\u00f5 r\u00e0ng. Theo nghi\u00ean c\u1ee9u c\u1ee7a \u201ctr\u00ed tu\u1ec7 nh\u00e2n t\u1ea1o\u201d l\u00e0 b\u01b0\u1edbc b\u1ed5 sung v\u00e0o logic c\u1ed1 \u0111\u1ecbnh \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c g\u1ecdi l\u00e0 logic fuzzy (xo\u1eafn). H\u00e0ng tri\u1ec7u \u0111\u00f4 la \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c r\u00f3t v\u00e0o m\u1ed7i n\u0103m \u0111\u1ec3 nghi\u00ean c\u1ee9u c\u00f4ng tr\u00ecnh logic fuzzy s\u1ebd \u0111u\u1ed5i theo s\u1ef1 t\u0103ng tr\u01b0\u1edfng t\u1ed9t b\u1eadc v\u1ec1 s\u1ea3n ph\u1ea9m c\u1ee7a ng\u00e0y mai. M\u1ed9t s\u1ed1 c\u00f4ng ty m\u00e1y gi\u1eb7t c\u00f4ng b\u1ed1 s\u1ebd s\u1eed d\u1ee5ng n\u00f3 trong nh\u1eefng ch\u01b0\u01a1ng tr\u00ecnh gi\u1eb7t qu\u1ea7n \u00e1o gia \u0111\u00ecnh. Gi\u1eb7t qu\u1ea7n \u00e1o gia \u0111\u00ecnh c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 th\u01b0\u1eddng ch\u1ee9a \u0111\u1ef1ng nhi\u1ec1u lo\u1ea1i v\u1ea3i kh\u00e1c nhau nh\u01b0: cotton, len, linen\u2026vv. N\u1ebfu ng\u01b0\u1eddi ta mu\u1ed1n gi\u1eb7t ch\u00fang t\u00e1ch ri\u00eang th\u00ec ch\u1ecdn \u0111\u01a1n gi\u1ea3n n\u00f3 s\u1ebd th\u1ef1c hi\u1ec7n ngay. N\u1ebfu n\u00f3i c\u00e1ch kh\u00e1c c\u00f4ng ty mu\u1ed1n \u0111\u1ec1 xu\u1ea5t m\u1ed9t model cao h\u01a1n h\u1ecd c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 \u0111\u1ec1 ngh\u1ecb m\u1ed9t m\u00e1y tr\u1ed9n theo kh\u1ed1i v\u1edbi t\u00ednh n\u0103ng th\u00f4ng minh ti\u00ean ti\u1ebfn h\u01a1n \u0111\u1ec3 \u0111\u01b0a s\u1ef1 ph\u1ecfng \u0111o\u00e1n ra kh\u1ecfi ti\u1ebfn tr\u00ecnh gi\u1eb7t. Quy\u1ebft \u0111\u1ecbnh n\u00e0y c\u0169ng gi\u1ed1ng nh\u01b0 nh\u1eefng g\u00ec ng\u01b0\u1eddi n\u1ed9i tr\u1ee3 \u0111\u00e3 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 l\u00e0m n\u1ebfu c\u00f4 ta ph\u1ea3i gi\u1eb7t m\u1ed9t \u0111\u1ed1ng qu\u1ea7n \u00e1o h\u1ed7n \u0111\u1ed9n. N\u1ea5u m\u1ed9t b\u1eefa \u0103n c\u0169ng bao g\u1ed3m m\u1ed9t l\u01b0\u1ee3ng ph\u00f9 h\u1ee3p v\u1ec1 logic fuzzy trong d\u1eef li\u1ec7u c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi v\u1ee3 khi c\u00f4 ta bi\u1ebft r\u1eb1ng ai s\u1ebd \u0111\u1ebfn \u0103n b\u1eefa t\u1ed1i. C\u0169ng gi\u1ed1ng nh\u01b0 n\u1ea5u m\u00f3n \u0103n cho v\u1ecb kh\u00e1ch kh\u00e1c nhau c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 l\u00e0 th\u1eddi gian ph\u1ea3i kh\u00e1c nhau. V\u00ed d\u1ee5: Cho \u00edt h\u00e0nh th\u00f4i khi b\u1ed1 v\u1ee3 \u0111\u1ebfn, cho th\u00eam mu\u1ed1i khi m\u1eb9 m\u00ecnh \u0111\u1ebfn; d\u1ecbu d\u00e0ng h\u01a1n v\u1edbi ch\u1ed3ng v\u00e0 th\u00eam d\u1ea5m cho b\u00e1c..vv. M\u1ed9t s\u1ed1 quy\u1ebft \u0111\u1ecbnh \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c \u0111\u01b0a ra ch\u00fang kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 m\u00f4 t\u1ea3 ch\u00ednh x\u00e1c \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c, ch\u00fang ch\u1ec9 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c th\u1ef1c hi\u1ec7n \u0111\u00f4i khi b\u1eb1ng c\u00e1ch n\u00e0y \u0111\u00f4i khi l\u1ea1i b\u1eb1ng c\u00e1ch kh\u00e1c. \u0110\u00e2y c\u0169ng l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t lo\u1ea1i logic fuzzy. Do v\u1eady, \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i c\u1ed1 g\u1eafng v\u00e0 hi\u1ec3u, nh\u1eefng \u0111i\u1ec1u n\u00e0y c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 l\u00e0 \u0111\u01b0\u1eddng cong t\u00ednh c\u00e1ch v\u00e0 logic fuzzy ngay c\u1ea3 trong l\u0129nh v\u1ef1c h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n, l\u0129nh v\u1ef1c c\u00e1c b\u00e0 v\u1ee3 v\u00e0 khuynh h\u01b0\u1edbng t\u00ednh t\u00ecnh. Sau c\u00f9ng, nh\u1eefng h\u1ec7 th\u1ed1ng k\u1ef9 thu\u1eadt c\u1ee7a ch\u00fang ta kh\u00f4ng th\u1ef1c s\u1ef1 b\u1ecba ra, ch\u00fang \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c b\u1eaft ngu\u1ed3n t\u1eeb quan s\u00e1t t\u1ef1 nhi\u00ean. K\u1ef9 thu\u1eadt c\u00f3 m\u1ed9t c\u00f4ng tr\u00ecnh \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c g\u1ecdi l\u00e0 Bionics. K\u1ebb th\u00fac \u0111\u1ea9y ch\u00ednh c\u1ee7a n\u00f3 \u0111\u00e3 quan s\u00e1t hi\u1ec7n t\u01b0\u1ee3ng t\u1ef1 nhi\u00ean v\u00e0 chuy\u00ean suy lu\u1eadn ra \u0111\u1ec3 l\u00e0m ra nh\u1eefng s\u1ea3n ph\u1ea9m k\u1ef9 thu\u1eadt.<\/p>\n

                                                                                                  Trong khi ch\u00fang ta n\u00f3i v\u1ec1\u00a0 ch\u1ee7\u00a0\u0111\u1ec1 n\u00e0y, th\u1ec9nh tho\u1ea3n ch\u00fang ta nghe th\u1ea5y nh\u1eefng c\u00e2u h\u1ecfi li\u1ec7u c\u00f3 m\u1ed9t s\u1ef1 so s\u00e1nh v\u1ec1 \u201cm\u00e3n kinh nam\u201d.<\/p>\n

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                                                                                                  \u0110\u00e2y l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t c\u00e2u h\u1ecfi c\u00f3 ng\u1ee5\u00a0\u00fd t\u1ef1 nhi\u00ean m\u1ea1nh m\u1ebd n\u00f3 bao ph\u1ee7 s\u1ef1 th\u1eadt. C\u00e2u h\u1ecfi n\u00e0y \u0111\u00e3 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c v\u1eadn \u0111\u1ed9ng do phong tr\u00e0o ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef. H\u1ecd b\u00e0y t\u1ecf r\u00f5 r\u00e0ng s\u1ee3 h\u00e3i r\u1eb1ng s\u1ef1 m\u00e3n kinh c\u1ee7a ph\u00e1i n\u1eef s\u1ebd\u00a0\u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c d\u00f9ng nh\u01b0 m\u1ed9t l\u00fd do \u0111\u1ec3 t\u1eeb ch\u1ed1i v\u1ecb tr\u00ed l\u00e3nh \u0111\u1ea1o t\u1eeb ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef trung ni\u00ean. Trong khi \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng kinh qua m\u1ed9t m\u1ee9c \u0111\u1ed9 thay \u0111\u1ed5i m\u00e0 n\u00f3 \u0111\u00f4i khi \u0111\u00e3 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c nh\u1eafc \u0111\u1ebfn nh\u01b0 s\u1ef1 m\u00e3n kinh, r\u1ea5t kh\u00e1c trong c\u0103n nguy\u00ean \u0111\u1ed9c \u0111\u00e1o m\u00e0 n\u00f3 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c tr\u1ea3i nghi\u1ec7m do ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef. \u0110\u1ed1i v\u1edbi \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng, nh\u1eefng thay \u0111\u1ed5i kh\u00f4ng li\u00ean quan t\u1edbi s\u1ef1 thay th\u1ebf hooc m\u00f4n nh\u01b0ng l\u1ea1i li\u00ean quan nhi\u1ec1u h\u01a1n t\u1edbi t\u00e2m l\u00fd t\u1ef1 nhi\u00ean. Th\u1eadt kh\u00f3 cho \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i \u0111\u1ed1i m\u1eb7t v\u1edbi th\u1ef1c t\u1ebf r\u1eb1ng anh ta s\u1ebd kh\u00f4ng bao gi\u1edd \u0111\u1ea1t \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c m\u1ee5c ti\u00eau trong ngh\u1ec1 nghi\u1ec7p m\u00e0 anh ta \u0111\u00e3 t\u1ef1 m\u00ecnh \u0111\u1eb7t ra. Tu\u1ed5i tr\u1ebb c\u1ee7a anh ta bi\u1ebfn m\u1ea5t r\u1ea5t nhanh\u2026\u0111\u00f3 t\u1ea1i sao gi\u1ea5c m\u01a1 quy\u1ec1n l\u1ef1c \u0111\u1ea7u \u0111\u1eddi v\u00e0 danh ti\u1ebfng c\u1ee7a anh ta s\u1ebd ch\u1eb3ng bao gi\u1edd bi\u1ebfn th\u00e0nh s\u1ef1 th\u1eadt. M\u1ed9t s\u1ed1 \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng h\u1ecd th\u00e0nh c\u00f4ng \u00edt h\u01a1n\u00a0 nh\u1eefng g\u00ec m\u00e0 h\u1ecd \u0111\u00e3 hy v\u1ecdng th\u00ec b\u1ecb t\u00e0n ph\u00e1 do th\u1ea5y r\u00f5 r\u1eb1ng cu\u1ed9c \u0111\u1eddi \u0111ang t\u1ee5\u00f4t kh\u1ecfi h\u1ecd. \u0110\u00e2y l\u00e0 c\u0103n b\u1ea3n c\u1ee7a th\u1eddi m\u00e3n kinh c\u1ee7a gi\u1ed1ng \u0111\u1ef1c.<\/p>\n

                                                                                                  M\u1ed9t s\u1ed1\u00a0c\u00e1\u00a0nh\u00e2n (l\u1eadp d\u1ecb)\u00a0\u0111\u00e1p l\u1ea1i n\u00f3\u00a0b\u1eb1ng c\u00e1ch t\u00ecm ki\u1ebfm giao thi\u1ec7p v\u1edbi m\u1ed9t ph\u1ee5\u00a0n\u1eef\u00a0tr\u1ebb\u00a0\u0111\u1ec3 ch\u1ee9ng minh vi\u1ec7c v\u1eabn c\u00f2n nam t\u00ednh c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd; c\u00f4ng vi\u1ec7c kh\u00e1c n\u1eb7ng nh\u1ecdc h\u01a1n v\u00e0\u00a0l\u00e2u d\u00e0i h\u01a1n\u00a0\u0111\u1ec3 chi\u1ebfn th\u1eafng c\u00e1i m\u00e0\u00a0 ch\u1eafc ch\u1eafn s\u1ebd\u00a0x\u1ea3y ra (quen thu\u1ed9c); nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c tr\u1edf\u00a0th\u00e0nh nghi\u1ec7n r\u01b0\u1ee3u; k\u1ebb kh\u00e1c r\u01a1i v\u00e0o th\u1eddi k\u1ef3 \u1ea5n t\u01b0\u1ee3ng s\u00e2u s\u1eafc v\u1ec1 s\u1ef1 bu\u1ed3n ch\u00e1n.<\/p>\n

                                                                                                  Nh\u01b0ng ngay c\u1ea3\u00a0khi s\u1ef1\u00a0 \u1ea3nh h\u01b0\u1edfng m\u1eb7t t\u00ecnh c\u1ea3m l\u00e0\u00a0t\u1ed9t\u00a0\u0111\u1ec9nh, n\u00f3\u00a0 th\u01b0\u1eddng b\u1ecb\u00a0th\u00fac\u00a0\u0111\u1ea9y do s\u1ef1\u00a0\u01b0\u1edbc l\u01b0\u1ee3ng c\u1ee7a\u00a0 \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng v\u1ec1\u00a0th\u1ec3\u00a0gi\u1edbi b\u00ean ngo\u00e0i c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh. Nh\u1eefng \u1ea3nh h\u01b0\u1edfng gi\u1ed1ng nh\u01b0\u00a0th\u1ebf\u00a0n\u00e0y c\u0169ng k\u00edch \u0111\u1ed9ng m\u1ed9t ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef nh\u01b0ng c\u00f4 ta c\u00f3 m\u1ed9t s\u1ef1 r\u1ed1i lo\u1ea1n hooc m\u00f4n b\u1ed5 sung l\u00e0m suy y\u1ebfu d\u1ea7n d\u1ea7n s\u1ef1 an to\u00e0n t\u1eeb trong th\u00e2m t\u00e2m c\u1ee7a c\u00f4 ta. Nh\u1eefng \u0111i\u1ec1u kh\u00e1c c\u0169ng t\u01b0\u01a1ng \u0111\u01b0\u01a1ng, tr\u1ea1ng th\u00e1i kh\u00e1c nhau c\u1ee7a \u0111\u00e0n b\u00e0 th\u00ec kh\u00f3 kh\u0103n h\u01a1n \u0111i\u1ec1u \u0111\u1ec3 t\u1ed3n t\u1ea1i, m\u1ed9t c\u00e1ch \u0111\u1eb7t bi\u1ec7t n\u1ebfu n\u00f3 kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c ch\u1eefa tr\u1ecb.<\/p>\n

                                                                                                  Th\u1ec9nh tho\u1ea3n c\u00f3\u00a0c\u00e2u h\u1ecfi l\u00e0\u00a0t\u1ea1i sao m\u1ed9t s\u1ed1\u00a0ph\u1ee5\u00a0n\u1eef\u00a0th\u1ef1c hi\u1ec7n n\u00f3\u00a0qua th\u1eddi m\u00e3n kinh kh\u00f4ng c\u1ea7n Estrogen sinh ngo\u00e0i. Kh\u00f4ng ai bi\u1ebft ch\u00ednh x\u00e1c estrogen l\u00e0m gi \u0111\u1ed1i v\u1edbi b\u1ed9\u00a0 m\u00e1y th\u1ea7n kinh ph\u1ee5\u00a0n\u1eef. V\u00e0o th\u1eddi\u00a0\u0111i\u1ec3m n\u00e0y c\u00e1c b\u00e1c s\u1ef9\u00a0th\u1ef1c s\u1ef1\u00a0bi\u1ebft qu\u00e1\u00a0\u00edt v\u1ec1\u00a0h\u00f3a ch\u1ea5t c\u1ee7a b\u1ed9 n\u00e3o v\u00e0 s\u1ef1 thay th\u1ebf m\u00e0 r\u1ea5t c\u1ea7n thi\u1ebft cho ch\u1ee9c n\u0103ng \u0111\u00edch th\u1ef1c c\u1ee7a n\u00f3. H\u01b0\u1edbng d\u1eabn duy nh\u1ea5t cho \u0111i\u1ec1u tr\u1ecb l\u00e0 c\u00e1c tri\u1ec7u ch\u1ee9ng v\u00e0 d\u1ea5u hi\u1ec7u l\u00e2m s\u00e0ng m\u00e0 b\u00e1c s\u1ef9 quan s\u00e1t th\u1ea5y. Tr\u1ea3 l\u1eddi cho c\u00e2u h\u1ecfi v\u1ec1 vi\u1ec7c \u0111\u00f3, n\u00f3 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 l\u00e0 nh\u01b0 th\u1ebf, bu\u1ed3ng tr\u1ee9ng hay tuy\u1ebfn th\u01b0\u1ee3ng th\u1eadn b\u1ed1c ra \u0111\u1ee7 estrogen \u0111\u1ec3 l\u00e0m th\u1ecfa m\u00e3n nhu c\u1ea7u gi\u1ea3m b\u1edbt nh\u1eefng c\u00e1 nh\u00e2n d\u1ec5 b\u1ecb t\u1ed5n th\u01b0\u01a1ng. Ng\u1eabu nhi\u00ean, \u0111\u00e0n b\u00e0 l\u00e0 th\u00e0nh vi\u00ean duy nh\u1ea5t c\u1ee7a v\u01b0\u01a1ng qu\u1ed1c \u0111\u1ed9ng v\u1eadt v\u01b0\u1ee3t qua \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c kh\u1ea3 n\u0103ng sinh s\u1ea3n c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh. Nh\u1eefng lo\u00e0i kh\u00e1c ch\u1ebft khi kh\u1ea3 n\u0103ng c\u1ee7a ch\u00fang ph\u1ea3i mang nh\u1eefng \u0111\u1ee9a tr\u1ebb \u0111\u00e3 ch\u1ebft. Ban ph\u00e1t \u0111\u1eb7c bi\u1ec7t th\u00eam \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c 20 \u2013 20 n\u0103m cho ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 l\u00e0 \u0111i\u1ec1u \u00fd ngh\u0129a v\u00e0 m\u00e3n nguy\u1ec7n nh\u1ea5t trong cu\u1ed9c \u0111\u1eddi. N\u1ebfu th\u00e2n th\u1ec3 c\u1ee7a c\u00f4 ta \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c di tu v\u00e0 quan \u0111i\u1ec3m \u0111\u00fang \u0111\u1eafn c\u1ee7a c\u00f4 ta \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c c\u1ed1 v\u00f5. Quan \u0111i\u1ec3m \u0111\u00fang \u0111\u1eafn kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c \u1ee7ng h\u1ecd b\u1eb1ng nh\u1eefng c\u1ed1 g\u1eafng v\u1ec1 tr\u00ed tu\u1ec7 m\u00e0 th\u00f4i, n\u00f3 bao g\u1ed3m tr\u00ed tu\u1ec7, t\u00e2m h\u1ed3n, linh h\u1ed3n. \u0110\u00f3 t\u1ea1i sao l\u1eddi c\u1ea7u nguy\u1ec7n l\u1ea1i c\u00f3 t\u1ea7m quan tr\u1ecdng nhi\u1ec1u kh\u00f4ng k\u00e9m g\u00ec th\u1ef1c hi\u1ec7n hi\u1ec7u qu\u1ea3 vi\u1ec7c khuy\u1ebfn kh\u00edch tinh th\u1ea7n v\u00e0 t\u00ecnh y\u00eau. D\u01b0\u1edbi g\u00f3c \u0111\u1ed9 khuy\u1ebfn kh\u00edch tinh th\u1ea7n t\u00f4i kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 \u00fd l\u00e0 \u201cnh\u1eefng ch\u01b0\u01a1ng tr\u00ecnh d\u00e0i t\u1eadp n\u00f3i v\u1ec1 cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng th\u01b0\u1eddng ng\u00e0y tr\u00ean tivi\u201d hay c\u1ea3 ti\u1ebfng \u0111\u1ed3ng h\u1ed3 tr\u01b0\u1edbc tivi. T\u00f4i n\u00f3i c\u00f3 ngh\u0129a l\u00e0 bao g\u1ed3m c\u1ed9ng \u0111\u1ed3ng, c\u00e1c ho\u1ea1t \u0111\u1ed9ng x\u00e3 h\u1ed9i, nh\u1eefng quy\u1ec3n s\u00e1ch hay, nh\u1eefng b\u1ed9 phim hay, tham gia c\u00e1c kh\u00f3a c\u00f3 ch\u1ee7 \u0111\u1ec1 h\u1ea5p d\u1eabn, nh\u1eefng s\u1edf th\u00edch ri\u00eang, vui v\u1ebb v\u1edbi c\u00e1c ch\u00e1u v\u00e0 c\u00e1c ho\u1ea1t \u0111\u1ed9ng c\u00f3 m\u1ee5c \u0111\u00edch c\u00f3 gi\u00e1 tr\u1ecb cao.<\/p>\n

                                                                                                  H\u1ea7u h\u1ebft \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng th\u1ea5y ch\u1eb3ng v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 g\u00ec s\u1ef1 th\u00f4ng c\u1ea3m v\u00e0 m\u1ee5c \u0111\u00edch t\u1ed1t b\u1ecb c\u1ea3n tr\u1edf th\u1ebf n\u00e0o do c\u00e1ch c\u01b0 x\u1eed c\u1ee7a c\u00e1c b\u00e0 v\u1ee3 c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd. \u0110\u00f3 l\u00e0 khi c\u00e1c b\u00e0 v\u1ee3 c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd \u0111ang tr\u1ea3i qua c\u0103ng th\u1eb3ng t\u1edbi k\u1ef3 ti\u1ec1n kinh nguy\u1ec7t v\u00e0 tr\u1edf n\u00ean c\u00e1u k\u1ec9nh v\u00e0 n\u00f3ng t\u00ednh, h\u1ecd c\u1ed1 g\u1eafng t\u1ef1 an \u1ee7i m\u00ecnh v\u00e0 n\u00f3i v\u1edbi h\u1ecd r\u1eb1ng m\u1ecdi th\u1ee9 s\u1ebd nhanh ch\u00f3ng \u1ed5n th\u00f4i v\u00e0 n\u00f3 kh\u00f4ng t\u1ed3i t\u1ec7 nh\u01b0 ta th\u1ea5y \u0111\u00e2u. \u0110i\u1ec1u n\u00e0y c\u00f3 xu h\u01b0\u1edbng l\u00e0m cho v\u1ee3 c\u00e0ng \u0111i\u00ean ti\u1ebft h\u01a1n v\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng ch\u1ecbu \u0111\u1ef1ng \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c. Ng\u01b0\u1eddi ch\u1ed3ng t\u1ed9i nghi\u1ec7p c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y nh\u01b0 l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t th\u1eb1ng ng\u1ed1c ngay c\u1ea3 \u0111ang c\u1ed1 g\u1eafng l\u00e0m cho hi\u1ec3u nhau v\u00e0 t\u1eed t\u1ebf. L\u00fd do t\u1ea1i sao \u0111i\u1ec1u n\u00e0y l\u1ea1i \u0111\u01b0a \u0111\u1ebfn th\u1ea5t b\u1ea1i th\u00ea th\u1ea3m nh\u01b0 v\u1eady, \u0111\u00e1ng th\u01b0\u01a1ng l\u00e0 \u1edf ch\u1ed7 nhu c\u1ea7u c\u00f4 ta trong giai \u0111o\u1ea1n n\u00e0y th\u00ec kh\u00e1c th\u01b0\u1eddng. C\u00f4 ta kh\u00f4ng tr\u00f4ng \u0111\u1ee3i m\u1ed9t s\u1ef1 gi\u1ea3i th\u00edch c\u00e1i g\u00ec x\u1ea3y ra trong giai \u0111o\u1ea1n ti\u1ec1n kinh nguy\u1ec7t. C\u00f4 ta \u0111\u00e3 c\u00f3 nh\u01b0ng giai \u0111o\u1ea1n nh\u01b0 n\u00e0y tr\u01b0\u1edbc khi c\u00f4 \u1ea5y l\u1eadp gia \u0111\u00ecnh r\u1ed3i. V\u00e0 anh ta d\u1eabu l\u00e0 ai l\u1ea1i \u0111\u01b0a ra nh\u1eefng l\u1eddi gi\u1ea3i th\u00edch. Bao nhi\u00eau l\u1ea7n anh ta \u0111\u00e3 ph\u1ea3i n\u00f3i. C\u00f4 ta kh\u00f4ng mong \u0111\u1ee3i s\u1ef1 an \u1ee7i g\u00ec c\u1ea3. Nh\u1eefng g\u00ec c\u00f4 ta th\u1ef1c s\u1ef1 \u0111ang mong \u0111\u1ee3i ch\u00ednh l\u00e0 s\u1ef1 hi\u1ec3u bi\u1ebft v\u00e0 trong m\u1ed9t s\u1ed1 v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c s\u1ef1 \u0111\u1ed3ng t\u00ecnh. Anh ta \u0111\u00e3 kh\u00f4ng g\u1eafn k\u1ebft nh\u1eefng g\u00ec \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c hi\u1ec3u v\u1ec1 ch\u1ee7 \u0111\u1ec1 n\u00e0y. N\u1ebfu anh ta kh\u00f4ng hi\u1ec3u th\u1ef1c s\u1ef1 nh\u1eefng g\u00ec \u0111ang di\u1ec5n ra, l\u00e0m th\u1ebf n\u00e0o \u0111\u1ec3 anh ta ch\u1ea5p thu\u1eadn? Bi\u1ec7n ph\u00e1p c\u1ee9u ch\u1eefa \u0111\u01a1n gi\u1ea3n nh\u01b0 th\u01b0\u1eddng l\u00e0 ch\u1ec9 vi\u1ec7c n\u00f3i v\u1edbi anh ta r\u1eb1ng anh ta c\u1ea7n m\u1ed9t c\u00e1ch ti\u1ebfp c\u1eadn kh\u00e1c. \u0110\u00e2y l\u00e0 \u0111i\u1ec1u ch\u00ednh x\u00e1c c\u00f4 ta kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 n\u00f3i cho anh ta \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c. C\u00f4 ta c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 l\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi r\u1ea5t c\u00f3 kh\u1ea3 n\u0103ng trong vi\u1ec7c gi\u1ea3i th\u00edch nh\u1eefng l\u1eddi khuy\u00ean v\u1edbi ng\u01b0\u1eddi trong vi\u1ec7c gi\u1ea3i th\u00edch nh\u1eefng l\u1eddi khuy\u00ean v\u1edbi\u00a0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c ngay c\u1ea3 v\u1edbi m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c gi\u1edbi. C\u00f4 ta c\u00f3 kh\u1ea3 n\u0103ng t\u01b0 v\u1ea5n cho m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng kh\u00e1c v\u1ec1 v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 c\u01b0 x\u1eed c\u1ee7a v\u1ee3 anh ta. Nh\u01b0ng c\u00f4 ta kh\u00f4ng l\u00e0m \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c vi\u1ec7c \u0111\u00f3 v\u1edbi ch\u1ed3ng c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh. N\u00f3 \u0111\u00f4i khi c\u0169ng gi\u1ed1ng nh\u01b0 gi\u1ea3ng v\u1ec1 gi\u00e1o d\u1ee5c gi\u1edbi t\u00ednh cho tr\u1ebb em. N\u1ebfu l\u1edbp h\u1ecdc c\u00f3 nh\u1eefng \u0111\u1ee9a tr\u1ebb kh\u00e1c th\u00ec m\u1ecdi vi\u1ec7c ti\u1ebfn h\u00e0nh b\u00ecnh th\u01b0\u1eddng kh\u00f4ng sao. N\u1ebfu c\u00f3 con c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n h\u1ecdc trong l\u1edbp \u0111\u00f3, th\u1eadt l\u00e0 kh\u00f3 cho c\u1ea3 gi\u00e1o vi\u00ean v\u00e0 con c\u1ee7a c\u00f4 ta. V\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 n\u00e0y c\u00f2n ph\u1ee9c t\u1ea1p h\u01a1n khi \u0111\u1ee9a tr\u1ebb l\u1ea1i l\u00e0 con trai m\u00ecnh. Tuy nhi\u00ean, s\u1eafc th\u00e1i th\u00ec kh\u00e1c nhau. Trong tr\u01b0\u1eddng h\u1ee3p ch\u1ee7 tr\u00ec m\u1ed9t l\u1edbp h\u1ecdc m\u00e0 c\u00f3 con m\u00ecnh trong \u0111\u00f3 n\u00f3 l\u00e0m cho ta kh\u00f4ng tho\u1ea3i m\u00e1i v\u00e0 b\u1ed1i r\u1ed1i \u2013 v\u1ec1 ph\u00eda m\u00ecnh c\u0169ng nh\u01b0 v\u1ec1 ph\u00eda con b\u1ea1n s\u1ebd c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y th\u1ebf n\u00e0o. C\u00e2u h\u1ecfi v\u1ec1 ph\u00eda tr\u1ea3 l\u1eddi c\u1ee7a b\u00e0i h\u1ecdc l\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng thu\u1eadn ti\u1ec7n \u0111\u1ec3 n\u00f3i c\u1eb7n k\u1ebd. Trong tr\u01b0\u1eddng h\u1ee3p c\u1ee7a ch\u1ed3ng c\u0169ng v\u1eady, c\u00f4 ta c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y b\u1ecb m\u1ea5t t\u00e1c d\u1ee5ng v\u00e0 b\u1ecb l\u00e0m ph\u00e1t c\u00e1u, \u201ct\u00f4i ph\u1ea3i n\u00f3i cho anh ta nh\u1eefng \u0111i\u1ec1u n\u00e0y sao\u201d. C\u00f4 ta c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y b\u1ea5t l\u1ef1c b\u1edfi v\u00ec c\u00f4 ta bi\u1ebft anh ta th\u1ef1c s\u1ef1 kh\u00f4ng bi\u1ebft v\u00e0 c\u00f4 ta kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 t\u1ef1 m\u00ecnh kh\u01a1i m\u00e0o c\u00e2u chuy\u1ec7n.<\/p>\n

                                                                                                  H\u01a1n th\u1ebf n\u1eefa c\u00f4 ta kh\u00f4ng cho l\u00e0 anh ta b\u1ecb ng\u1edb ng\u1ea9n m\u00e0 c\u00f3 nh\u01b0 th\u1ebf \u0111i n\u1eefa th\u00ec c\u00f4 ta c\u0169ng kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 trao \u0111\u1ed5i v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 n\u00e0y v\u1edbi anh ta \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c. V\u00e0 c\u1ee9 th\u1ebf \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng lu\u00f4n gi\u1eef nh\u1eefng ph\u01b0\u01a1ng th\u1ee9c sai l\u1ea7m c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh v\u00e0 c\u00f4 ta th\u00ec lu\u00f4n gi\u1eef s\u1ef1 th\u1ea5t v\u1ecdng v\u1ec1 ph\u01b0\u01a1ng th\u1ee9c v\u00f4 v\u1ecdng c\u1ee7a anh ta. T\u00ecnh hu\u1ed1ng n\u00e0y gi\u1ed1ng nh\u01b0 c\u00e1i c\u00e1ch m\u00e0 ta th\u1ea5y \u0111o\u1ea1n tr\u01b0\u1edbc n\u00f3i v\u1ec1 m\u1ed9t \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng c\u00f3 l\u1ea7n th\u1ea5t v\u1ecdng trong c\u00f4ng vi\u1ec7c. Anh ta \u0111i l\u00e0m v\u1ec1 kh\u00f4ng h\u1ec1 mu\u1ed1n ai h\u1ecfi v\u1ec1 c\u00f4ng vi\u1ec7c c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh h\u00f4m nay ra sao. V\u1edbi l\u00f2ng quan t\u00e2m c\u1ee7a v\u1ee3, ng\u00e0y nay qua ng\u00e0y kh\u00e1c c\u00f4 ta \u0111\u1ec1u h\u1ecfi c\u00f9ng m\u1ed9t c\u00e2u h\u1ecfi, v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 l\u00e0 anh ta kh\u00f4ng n\u00f3i th\u1eb3ng v\u1edbi c\u00f4 ta r\u1eb1ng \u201c\u0111\u1eebng h\u1ecfi t\u00f4i nh\u1eefng c\u00e2u nh\u01b0 v\u1eady n\u1eefa. B\u1edfi n\u00f3 l\u00e0m t\u00f4i li\u00ean t\u01b0\u1edfng t\u1edbi c\u00e1i n\u01a1i l\u00e0m vi\u1ec7c \u0111\u00f3.\u201d V\u1ea3 l\u1ea1i anh ta bi\u1ebft r\u1eb1ng s\u1ef1 quan t\u00e2m c\u1ee7a c\u00f4 ta l\u00e0 t\u1eeb t\u1ea5m l\u00f2ng. Cho d\u00f9 v\u1eady anh ta kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 b\u1ed9c b\u1ea1ch v\u1edbi c\u00f4 \u1ea5y v\u1ec1 c\u1ea3m gi\u00e1c c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh. Anh ta s\u1ebd c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 gi\u1ea3i th\u00edch v\u1edbi ng\u01b0\u1eddi v\u1ee3 c\u1ee7a \u0111\u1ed3ng nghi\u1ec7p c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh th\u00ec r\u1ea5t hi\u1ec7u qu\u1ea3. Nh\u01b0ng v\u1edbi v\u1ee3 c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh, quan \u0111i\u1ec3m c\u1ee7a anh ta l\u00e0 \u201cT\u00f4i ph\u1ea3i gi\u1ea3i th\u00edch t\u1ea1i sao t\u00f4i b\u1ef1c m\u00ecnh v\u00ec c\u00e2u h\u1ecfi c\u1ee7a c\u00f4 ta sao?\u201d Th\u1eb3ng th\u1eafn ra anh ta ch\u1ec9 v\u1eeba m\u1edbi gi\u1ea3i tho\u00e1t kh\u1ecfi n\u01a1i l\u00e0m vi\u1ec7c, \u0111\u1ec3 m\u00e0 anh ta c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 c\u00f3 m\u1ed9t ch\u00fat b\u00ecnh an. Gi\u1edd th\u00ec c\u00f4 ta l\u1ea1i \u0111\u01b0a anh ta quay l\u1ea1i n\u01a1i \u0111\u00f3. Do v\u1eady thay v\u00ec gi\u1ea3i th\u00edch anh ta g\u1ea7m g\u1eeb. Ch\u1eb3ng c\u00f3 vi\u1ec7c g\u00ec n\u00f3i v\u1edbi v\u1ee3; s\u1ef1 th\u1ea5t v\u1ecdng v\u00e0 c\u1ea5u g\u1eaft c\u1ee7a anh ta ho\u00e0n to\u00e0n l\u00e0 v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 kh\u00e1c.<\/p>\n

                                                                                                  Quay tr\u1edf l\u1ea1i ph\u1ea3n \u1ee9ng c\u1ee7a v\u1ee3 v\u00e0 s\u1ef1 ng\u1ea1c nhi\u00ean c\u1ee7a ch\u1ed3ng:<\/p>\n

                                                                                                  Tr\u01b0\u1edbc h\u1ebft, c\u00f4 ta kh\u00f4ng nh\u1eadn ra r\u1eb1ng s\u1ef1 th\u1ea5t v\u1ecdng c\u1ee7a c\u00f4 ta li\u00ean \u0111\u1edbi t\u1edbi l\u1ecbch hooc m\u00f4n c\u1ee7a c\u00f4 ta.<\/p>\n

                                                                                                  Th\u1ee9 hai l\u00e0, c\u1ed1 g\u1eafng \u0111\u1ec3 an \u1ee7i c\u00f4 ta ch\u1ec9 l\u00e0 nguy\u00ean nh\u00e2n l\u00e0m th\u1ea5t v\u1ecdng nhi\u1ec1u h\u01a1n v\u00e0 l\u00e0m cho c\u00f4 ta c\u1ed1 ch\u1ee9ng t\u1ecf r\u1eb1ng th\u1eadt kh\u1ee7ng khi\u1ebfp l\u00e0m sao trong cu\u1ed9c \u0111\u1eddi c\u00f4 ta. Nhi\u1ec1u \u0111\u1ebfn m\u1ee9c c\u00f4 ta h\u1ea7u nh\u01b0 b\u1ecb x\u00fac ph\u1ea1m t\u1edbi ph\u1ea9m gi\u00e1 do ch\u1ed3ng (hay ai \u0111\u00f3 v\u00ec v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 \u0111\u00f3) l\u00e0 c\u00f3 th\u1eadt. \u0110i\u1ec1u c\u1ea7n thi\u1ebft c\u1ee7a c\u00f4 ta kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0 \u0111i\u1ec1u c\u00f4 ta \u0111ang t\u00ecm ki\u1ebfm, \u201cnh\u1eefng c\u00e2u tr\u1ea3 l\u1eddi\u201d, c\u00f4 ta c\u1ea7n l\u00e0 \u201cs\u1ef1 b\u1ea3o \u0111\u1ea3m\u201d, \u0111\u00f3 l\u00e0 \u0111i\u1ec1u \u00edt nh\u1ea5t m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi s\u1ed1ng tr\u00ean tr\u00e1i \u0111\u1ea5t n\u00e0y c\u0169ng hi\u1ec3u c\u00f4 ta \u0111ang c\u1ea7n \u0111i\u1ec1u g\u00ec. C\u00f4 ta mu\u1ed1n ch\u1ed3ng ph\u1ea3i hi\u1ec3u \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c n\u00f3 kh\u00f3 kh\u0103n th\u1ebf n\u00e0o. L\u00e0m ngu\u00f4i ngoai nh\u1eefng l\u1eddi nh\u1eadn x\u00e9t \u0111\u1ec3 cho suy y\u1ebfu nhu c\u1ea7u n\u00e0y; \u0111\u01b0a c\u00f4 ta t\u1edbi vi\u1ec7c th\u1eeba nh\u1eadn r\u1eb1ng c\u00f4 ta \u0111ang ph\u1ea3i ch\u1ecbu \u0111au \u0111\u1edbn nhi\u1ec1u h\u01a1n l\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi ch\u1ed3ng ngh\u0129. M\u1ed9t \u201ckh\u00f4ng kh\u00ed ch\u1ea5p nh\u1eadn\u201d trong t\u00ecnh hu\u1ed1ng n\u00e0y l\u00e0 c\u1ea7n thi\u1ebft h\u01a1n nhi\u1ec1u so v\u1edbi c\u00e1i \u201cl\u1eddi gi\u1ea3i th\u00edch\u201d. Vi\u1ec7c gi\u00fap \u0111\u1ee1 l\u00e0 \u0111\u1ec3 cho c\u00f4 ta c\u00f3 m\u1ed9t b\u1ea7u kh\u00f4ng kh\u00ed trong \u0111\u00f3 co ta c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 x\u1ea3 100% s\u1ef1 th\u1ea5t v\u1ecdng c\u1ee7a c\u00f4 ta ra ngo\u00e0i.<\/p>\n

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                                                                                                  1. R\u1eafc r\u1ed1i v\u1edbi con c\u00e1i<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

                                                                                                    C\u00f3 con c\u00e1i, c\u1ea3 \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng l\u1eabn ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef \u0111\u1ec1u c\u1ea7n. Ch\u1eb3ng c\u00f3 c\u00e2u h\u1ecfi n\u00e0o v\u1ec1 vai tr\u00f2 khu\u00f4n m\u1eabu n\u00e0o \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c \u0111\u1eb7t ra. Trong khi m\u1ed9t vai tr\u00f2 khu\u00f4n m\u1eabu gi\u00fap cho tr\u1ebb ph\u00e1t tri\u1ec3n v\u00e0 khu\u00f4n m\u1eabu kh\u00e1c gi\u00fap cho tr\u1ebb hi\u1ec3u bi\u1ebft. M\u1ed7i gi\u1edbi ph\u1ea3i th\u1ef1c hi\u1ec7n s\u1ef1 ph\u00e2n chia \u0111\u1ec3 ph\u00e1t tri\u1ec3n nh\u1eefng tr\u00ed n\u00e3o nh\u1ecf b\u00e9 c\u1ee7a con c\u00e1i. V\u00e0 b\u00e0 m\u1eb9\u00a0 bi\u1ebft r\u1eb1ng m\u00ecnh kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c chu\u1ea9n b\u1ecb \u0111\u1ec3 \u0111\u1ea3m nhi\u1ec7m c\u1ea3 hai vai tr\u00f2. Ch\u1eb3ng c\u00f3 g\u00ec ph\u1ea3i nghi ng\u1edd v\u1ec1 \u0111i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00f3, nu\u00f4i d\u1ea1y con c\u00e1i nh\u01b0 m\u1ed9t \u201c b\u1ed1 m\u1eb9 \u0111\u01a1n l\u1ebb\u201d d\u00f9 c\u00f3 l\u1eadp gia \u0111\u00ecnh hay kh\u00f4ng th\u00ec c\u0169ng l\u00e0 c\u00f4ng vi\u1ec7c \u0111\u01a1n c\u00f4i nh\u1ea5t tr\u00ean th\u1ebf gi\u1edbi n\u00e0y. \u0110\u00fang th\u1ebf, th\u1eadt\u00a0 ng\u1ea1c nhi\u00ean v\u1ec1 xung \u0111\u1ed9t th\u01b0\u1eddng xuy\u00ean \u1edf ng\u01b0\u1eddi n\u00e0y hay ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c (ph\u1ee5 huynh) \u0111\u00f2i h\u1ecfi \u00edch k\u1ec9 v\u1ec1\u00a0 tr\u00f4ng nom con c\u00e1i. Nh\u1eefng tr\u1ea1ng c\u0103ng th\u1eb3ng n\u00e0y l\u00e0m hi\u1ec7n di\u1ec7n trong \u0111\u1ee9a con b\u1eb1ng nhi\u1ec1u c\u00e1ch kh\u00e1c nhau, l\u00e0 nguy\u00ean nh\u00e2n c\u1ee7a nhi\u1ec1u ki\u1ec3u r\u1eafc r\u1ed1i \u1edf nh\u1eefng m\u1ee9c \u0111\u1ed9 kh\u00e1c nhau \u1edf tu\u1ed5i ni\u00ean thi\u1ebfu v\u00e0 tu\u1ed5i tr\u01b0\u1edfng th\u00e0nh sau n\u00e0y. T\u00ednh c\u00e1ch t\u1ed1t c\u1ee7a cha m\u1eb9 l\u00e0 \u0111i\u1ec1u quan tr\u1ecdng s\u1ed1ng c\u00f2n cho con c\u00e1i. B\u00ean c\u1ea1nh nh\u1eefng \u1ea3nh h\u01b0\u1edfng v\u1ec1 m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 c\u0103ng th\u1eb3ng c\u1ee7a cha m\u1eb9, c\u00f2n c\u00f3 nh\u1eefng y\u1ebfu t\u1ed1 kinh t\u1ebf x\u00e3 h\u1ed9i kh\u00e1c nhau, v\u00ed d\u1ee5 nh\u01b0 \u00f4ng ch\u1ed3ng ph\u1ea3i \u0111\u1ed1i m\u1eb7t v\u1edbi nh\u1eefng v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 l\u00e0m vi\u1ec7c nhi\u1ec1u gi\u1edd n\u00f3 c\u01b0\u1edbp \u0111i th\u1eddi gian \u0103n c\u01a1m t\u1ed1i c\u00f9ng gia \u0111\u00ecnh; kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u1ee7 th\u1eddi gian cho cu\u1ed1i tu\u1ea7n b\u1edfi v\u00ec thi\u1ebfu n\u01a1i \u0111i; gi\u1ea3i tr\u00ed, kh\u1ea3 n\u0103ng ti\u1ebfp x\u00fac\u2026v.v. C\u00e1c \u00f4ng b\u1ed1 hi\u1ebfm khi c\u00f3 \u0111\u1ee7 th\u1eddi gian ngay c\u1ea3 cho nh\u1eefng t\u00ecnh hu\u1ed1ng h\u1ee3p l\u00fd. Nh\u1eefng r\u1eafc r\u1ed1i c\u1ee7a c\u00e1i b\u1ea3n t\u00ednh n\u00e0y \u0111ang tr\u1edf n\u00ean r\u1ed9ng r\u00e3i v\u00e0 th\u00f4ng d\u1ee5ng.<\/p>\n

                                                                                                    B\u1ea3n ch\u1ea5t c\u1ee7a v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 c\u00f3 nhi\u1ec1u h\u00ecnh th\u1ee9c kh\u00e1c nhau n\u00f3 ph\u1ee5 thu\u1ed9c v\u00e0o t\u1eebng \u0111\u1ed9 tu\u1ed5i c\u1ee7a tr\u1ebb; t\u00ecnh h\u00ecnh m\u00f4i tr\u01b0\u1eddng s\u1ed1ng; \u0111\u1ecba b\u00e0n; l\u01b0\u1ee3ng ti\u1ec1n ch\u00fang c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 c\u00f3 hay kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3.<\/p>\n

                                                                                                    Th\u1eddi gian d\u00e0nh cho con c\u00e1i l\u00e0 th\u1eddi gian \u0111\u1ea7u t\u01b0 t\u1ed1t cho c\u1ea3 b\u1ea1n v\u00e0 con c\u00e1i tr\u00ean c\u1ea3 nh\u1eefng gi\u00e1 tr\u1ecb. Theo \u00fd th\u1ee9c gi\u00e1 tr\u1ecb c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi l\u1edbn ch\u00fang ta th\u00ec th\u01b0\u1eddng c\u1ed1 g\u1eafng l\u00e0m ch\u00fang tuy\u1ec7t h\u1ea3o trong m\u1ed9t s\u1ed1 h\u00e0nh \u0111\u1ed9ng n\u00e0y hay h\u00e0nh \u0111\u1ed9ng kh\u00e1c.<\/p>\n

                                                                                                    Trong khi \u0111\u00e2y l\u00e0 th\u1eddi gian t\u1ed1t ch\u1ec9 \u0111\u1ec3 \u0111i quanh qu\u1ea9n v\u1edbi ch\u00fang v\u00e0 \u201c\u0111\u00e1 nh\u1eefng vi\u00ean \u0111\u00e1\u201d v\u1edbi ch\u00fang th\u00ec c\u00f3 \u00edch l\u1ee3i h\u01a1n nhi\u1ec1u, b\u1edfi c\u00f3 \u201cth\u1eddi gian\u201d b\u1ed9c l\u1ed9. Ch\u00fang c\u1ea7n \u0111i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00f3. N\u00f3 c\u00f3 t\u00e1c \u0111\u1ed9ng gh\u00ea g\u1edbm v\u00e0o qu\u00e3ng \u0111\u1eddi c\u00f2n l\u1ea1i c\u1ee7a ch\u00fang.<\/p>\n

                                                                                                    Do v\u1eady c\u00f3 c\u00e2u n\u00f3i \u201c l\u00e0 gi\u00e2y ph\u00fat c\u00f3 l\u1ebd l\u00e0 c\u00f4ng vi\u1ec7c \u0111\u1ea7u t\u01b0 gi\u00e0u c\u00f3 nh\u1ea5t b\u1ea1n \u0111\u00e3 d\u00e0nh cho cu\u1ed9c \u0111\u1eddi con c\u00e1i m\u00ecnh\u201d. \u0110\u00e2y l\u00e0 n\u01a1i \u0111\u1ec3 ph\u00e1t tri\u1ec3n \u00f3c s\u00e1ng t\u1ea1o v\u00e0 c\u00e1i \u0111\u1ed9c \u0111\u00e1o. Con c\u00e1i th\u01b0\u1eddng kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 h\u1ee9ng th\u00fa v\u1edbi b\u1ea5t k\u1ef3 ho\u1ea1t \u0111\u1ed9ng n\u00e0o l\u00e2u; do v\u1eady s\u1ef1 thay \u0111\u1ed5i th\u01b0\u1eddng xuy\u00ean l\u00e0 c\u1ea7n thi\u1ebft, n\u1ebfu kh\u00f4ng th\u00ec ch\u00fang s\u1ebd ch\u00e1n v\u00e0 m\u1ea5t h\u1ee9ng th\u00fa. Con c\u00e1i b\u1ea1n s\u1ebd \u1edf v\u1edbi b\u1ea1n ch\u1ec9 v\u00e0i n\u0103m ng\u1eafn ng\u1ee7i v\u00e0 tr\u00e1ch nhi\u1ec7m tr\u00ean vai b\u1ea1n s\u1ebd ch\u1eb3ng c\u00f3 g\u00ec ngo\u00e0i nh\u1eefng c\u01a1n xo\u00e1y k\u00fd \u1ee9c. H\u00e3y th\u01b0\u1edfng th\u1ee9c t\u1eebng ph\u00fat trong nh\u1eefng ng\u00e0y n\u00e0y \u0111i, ngay c\u1ea3 nh\u1eefng l\u00fac kh\u00f3 kh\u0103n v\u00e0 h\u01b0\u1edfng c\u00e1i c\u1ea3m gi\u00e1c h\u00e0i l\u00f2ng khi b\u1ea1n l\u00e0m \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c m\u1ed9t c\u00f4ng vi\u1ec7c th\u1ef1c ch\u1ea5t c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n, \u0111\u00fang kh\u00f4ng.<\/p>\n

                                                                                                    Ly h\u00f4n hay ly th\u00e2n l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t t\u1ed5n th\u01b0\u01a1ng kinh kh\u1ee7ng cho \u0111\u1ee9a tr\u1ebb, ch\u00fang th\u01b0\u1eddng h\u1ecdc c\u00e1ch \u0111\u1ed1i m\u1eb7t v\u1edbi t\u00ecnh hu\u1ed1ng c\u1ee7a ch\u00fang b\u1eb1ng c\u00e1ch n\u00e0y hay c\u00e1ch kh\u00e1c, nh\u01b0ng nh\u1eefng va \u0111\u1eadp v\u1ec1 t\u00ecnh c\u1ea3m th\u00ec kh\u00f4ng bao gi\u1edd ho\u00e0n to\u00e0n qu\u00ean \u0111i \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c. M\u1ed9t ng\u00e0y t\u00f4i c\u00f3 m\u1ed9t v\u1ecb kh\u00e1ch t\u1edbi vi\u1ebfng th\u0103m v\u0103n ph\u00f2ng. Anh ta l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng tranh lu\u1eadn th\u1eb3ng th\u1eafn ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e3 th\u1ef1c hi\u1ec7n nhi\u1ec7m v\u1ee5 trong \u0111\u1eddi m\u00ecnh l\u00e0 gi\u00fap ng\u01b0\u1eddi tr\u1ebb tr\u00e1nh h\u00fat thu\u1ed1c,\u00a0 u\u1ed1ng r\u01b0\u1ee3u v\u00e0 ma t\u00fay. Trong s\u1ed1 nh\u1eefng quan \u0111i\u1ec3m ch\u00fang t\u00f4i th\u1ea3o lu\u1eadn, c\u00f3 m\u1ed9t l\u0129nh v\u1ef1c li\u00ean quan t\u1edbi m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 gi\u1eefa ph\u1ee5 huynh v\u00e0 con c\u00e1i. Anh ta ch\u1ec9 cho t\u00f4i c\u00f3 hai m\u01b0\u01a1i \u0111i\u1ec3m li\u00ean h\u1ec7 \u0111\u1eb9p \u0111\u1ebd. Cha m\u1eb9 \u0111\u00f3ng m\u1ed9t vai tr\u00f2 quan tr\u1ecdng nh\u1ea5t trong cu\u1ed9c \u0111\u1eddi con c\u00e1i h\u1ecd.\u00a0 T\u00f4i h\u00e2n h\u1ea1nh \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c chia s\u1ebb hai m\u01b0\u01a1i quan \u0111i\u1ec3m n\u00e0y v\u1edbi c\u00e1c b\u1ea1n:<\/p>\n

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                                                                                                    1. \u0110\u1eebng bao gi\u1edd n\u00f3i \u201ckh\u00f4ng, kh\u00f4ng n\u00f3i t\u1ea1i sao\u201d \u2013 nh\u01b0ng h\u00e3y gi\u00fap con t\u1ef1 hi\u1ec3u \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n v\u00e0 x\u00e2y d\u1ef1ng l\u00f2ng t\u1ef1 tr\u1ecdng c\u1ee7a n\u00f3.<\/li>\n
                                                                                                    2. \u0110\u1eebng bu\u1ed9c ch\u00fang ph\u1ea3i h\u00e0nh \u0111\u1ed9ng ngoan ng\u00f5an nh\u01b0ng khuy\u1ebfn kh\u00edch con th\u1ef1c h\u00e0nh nh\u1eefng g\u00ec m\u00e0 b\u1ea1n d\u1ea1y b\u1ea3o.<\/li>\n
                                                                                                    3. \u0110\u1eebng c\u1ee9ng r\u1eafn qu\u00e1 v\u1edbi con v\u00e0 k\u00ecm k\u1eb9p c\u00e1 nh\u00e2n con nh\u01b0ng cho con t\u1ef1 do \u0111\u1ec3 h\u1ecdc nh\u1eefng sai l\u1ea7m c\u1ee7a con.<\/li>\n
                                                                                                    4. \u0110\u1eebng che ch\u1edf kh\u00f4ng h\u1ee3p l\u00fd v\u00e0 b\u1ea3o v\u1ec7 con t\u1eeb nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c nh\u01b0ng khuy\u1ebfn kh\u00edch con chi\u1ebfn \u0111\u1ea5u v\u1edbi ch\u00ednh con chi\u00ean c\u1ee7a con.<\/li>\n
                                                                                                    5. \u0110\u1eebng nu\u00f4ng chi\u1ec1u con v\u00e0 l\u00e0m cho con m\u1ea5t tr\u00ed ti\u1ebfn th\u1ee7 (\u00fd tr\u00ed y\u1ebfu \u1edbt) nh\u01b0ng h\u00e3y cho con bi\u1ebft c\u00e1i y\u1ebfu du\u1ed1i c\u1ee7a con v\u00e0 \u0111\u1ed1i m\u1eb7t v\u1edbi nh\u1eefng th\u1ea5t v\u1ecdng.<\/li>\n
                                                                                                    6. \u0110\u1eebng l\u00e0m con tr\u1edf th\u00e0nh con r\u1ed1i trong tay b\u1ea1n nh\u01b0ng h\u00e3y d\u1eady con bi\u1ebft \u0111\u01b0a ra nh\u1eefng quy\u1ebft \u0111\u1ecbnh v\u00e0 ch\u1ecbu nh\u1eefng tr\u00e1ch nhi\u1ec7m.<\/li>\n
                                                                                                    7. \u0110\u1eebng \u00e1p \u0111\u1eb7t cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n v\u00e0o con nh\u01b0ng t\u00f4n tr\u1ecdng s\u1edf th\u00edch ri\u00eang c\u1ee7a con.<\/li>\n
                                                                                                    8. \u0110\u1eebng quy t\u1ed9i ph\u1ee9c t\u1ea1p b\u1eb1ng c\u00e1ch \u0111\u1ed5 l\u1ed7i cho con th\u01b0\u1eddng xuy\u00ean, gi\u00fap con hi\u1ec3u nh\u1eefng l\u1ed7i c\u1ee7a con v\u00e0 h\u01b0\u1edbng \u0111\u1eabn con v\u01b0\u1ee3t qua \u0111i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00f3.<\/li>\n
                                                                                                    9. \u0110\u1eebng nh\u1ea1o b\u00e1ng nh\u1eefng thi\u1ebfu s\u00f3t c\u1ee7a con v\u00e0 tr\u00eau ch\u1ecdc con nh\u01b0ng d\u1ea1y con t\u00f4n tr\u1ecdng b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n \u0111\u1ec3 con c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 t\u00f4n tr\u1ecdng ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c.<\/li>\n
                                                                                                    10. \u0110\u1eebng truy\u1ec1n d\u1eabn s\u1ef1 s\u1ee3 h\u00e3i v\u00e0o con v\u00e0 nu\u00f4i d\u01b0\u1ee1ng b\u1ea1o l\u1ef1c nh\u01b0ng cho con bi\u1ebft c\u00e1ch y\u00eau b\u1ea1n v\u00e0 y\u00eau th\u01b0\u01a1ng ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c b\u1eb1ng c\u00e1ch cho \u0111i t\u00ecnh y\u00eau.<\/li>\n
                                                                                                    11. \u0110\u1eebng nghi ng\u1edd con v\u00e0 nh\u1eefng l\u00fd do c\u1ee7a con nh\u01b0ng h\u00e3y c\u00f3 l\u00f2ng tin v\u00e0o con \u0111\u1ec3 con c\u00f2n c\u00f3 l\u00f2ng tin v\u00e0o con \u0111\u1ec3 con c\u00f2n c\u00f3 l\u00f2ng tin v\u00e0o b\u1ea1n.<\/li>\n
                                                                                                    12. \u0110\u1eebng h\u00e0nh \u0111\u1ed9ng nh\u01b0 k\u1ebb \u0111\u1ed9c t\u00e0i v\u00e0 th\u1ed1ng tr\u1ecb con nh\u01b0ng h\u00e3y l\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi b\u1ea1n v\u00e0 khuy\u00ean con chia s\u1ebb nh\u1eefng r\u1eafc r\u1ed1i c\u1ee7a con v\u1edbi m\u00ecnh.<\/li>\n
                                                                                                    13. \u0110\u1eebng \u0111\u1eb7t \u00e1p l\u1ef1c qu\u00e1 \u0111\u00e1ng \u0111\u1ec3 \u0111\u1ea1t \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c th\u00e0nh c\u00f4ng xu\u1ea5t s\u1eafc trong k\u1ebft qu\u1ea3 h\u1ecdc t\u1eadp nh\u01b0ng h\u00e3y c\u1ed1 g\u1eafng kh\u00e1m ph\u00e1 kh\u1ea3 n\u0103ng th\u1ef1c c\u1ee7a con v\u00e0 khuy\u1ebfn kh\u00edch con theo \u0111u\u1ed5i.<\/li>\n
                                                                                                    14. \u0110\u1eebng cho ph\u00e9p con tr\u1edf th\u00e0nh con m\u1ecdt s\u00e1ch nh\u01b0ng gi\u00fap con ph\u00e1t tri\u1ec3n nh\u1eefng th\u00fa vui s\u1ee9c kh\u1ecfe v\u00e0 nh\u1eefng s\u1edf th\u00edch ri\u00eang.<\/li>\n
                                                                                                    15. \u0110\u1eebng cho ph\u00e9p con l\u01b0\u1eddi v\u00e0 \u0103n kh\u00f4ng ng\u1ed3i r\u1ed3i ph\u00ed th\u1eddi gian c\u1ee7a n\u00f3 nh\u01b0ng gi\u00fap con s\u1eed d\u1ee5ng th\u1eddi gian c\u00f3 \u00fd ngh\u0129a v\u00e0 tr\u1edf n\u00ean kh\u1ecfe kho\u1eafn v\u1ec1 th\u1ec3 ch\u1ea5t.<\/li>\n
                                                                                                    16. \u0110\u1eebng bu\u1ed9c ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0m theo nh\u1eefng lu\u1eadt l\u1ec7 gi\u00e1o \u0111i\u1ec1u c\u1ee9ng nh\u1eafc v\u00e0 l\u00e0m cho con ph\u1ea3i theo gi\u00e1o \u0111i\u1ec1u. \u0110\u00fang h\u01a1n l\u00e0 cho ph\u00e9p con c\u00f3 m\u1ed9t c\u00e1i nh\u00ecn r\u1ed9ng h\u01a1n.<\/li>\n
                                                                                                    17. \u0110\u1eebng b\u1ecb m\u00f9 tr\u01b0\u1edbc nh\u1eefng sai ph\u1ea1m v\u00e0 y\u1ebfu \u0111u\u1ed1i c\u1ee7a con nh\u01b0ng h\u00e3y nghi\u00eam kh\u1eafc v\u00e0 ho\u00e0n thi\u1ec7n nh\u1eefng th\u00f3i quen c\u1ee7a con tr\u01b0\u1edbc khi ch\u00fang tr\u1edf n\u00ean nh\u1eefng th\u00f3i x\u1ea5u.<\/li>\n
                                                                                                    18. \u0110\u1eebng l\u1ea9n tr\u00e1nh vi\u1ec7c tr\u00ecnh b\u00e0y cho con nh\u1eefng v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 x\u00e3 h\u1ed9i nh\u01b0ng h\u00e3y th\u1ea3o lu\u1eadn v\u00e0 l\u00e0m cho con nh\u1eadn th\u1ee9c v\u1ec1 nh\u1eefng c\u00e1i t\u1ed9i l\u1ed7i c\u1ee7a x\u00e3 h\u1ed9i v\u00e0 c\u00e1ch tr\u00e1nh xa n\u00f3.<\/li>\n
                                                                                                    19. \u0110\u1eebng cho ph\u00e9p trong gia \u0111\u00ecnh c\u00f3 cu\u1ed9c c\u00e3i v\u00e3 khi c\u00f3 m\u1eb7t con nh\u01b0ng h\u00e3y t\u1ea1o cho con m\u1ed9t \u0111\u1ea3m b\u1ea3o v\u1ec1 m\u1ed9t gia \u0111\u00ecnh h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac v\u00e0 y\u00eau th\u01b0\u01a1ng.<\/li>\n
                                                                                                    20. \u0110\u1eebng cho con th\u1ee9 g\u00ec kh\u00e1c nh\u01b0ng \u201cth\u1eddi gian\u201d c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n, h\u00e3y cho con bi\u1ebft con c\u00f3 \u00fd ngh\u0129a nh\u01b0 th\u1ebf n\u00e0o v\u1edbi m\u00ecnh khi d\u00e0nh th\u1eddi gian v\u1edbi con.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

                                                                                                      H\u00e3y nh\u1edb r\u1eb1ng ch\u1ec9 c\u00f3 b\u1ea1n m\u1edbi c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 l\u00e0m cho con c\u00e1i b\u1ea1n th\u00e0nh m\u1ed9t con ng\u01b0\u1eddi h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac v\u00e0 ho\u00e0n thi\u1ec7n.<\/p>\n

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                                                                                                      C .9.\u00a0 NH\u1eeeNG NG\u01af\u1edcI TH\u00d4NG THU\u1ed8C TRONG H\u00d4N NH\u00c2N<\/p>\n

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                                                                                                      \u0110\u1ec3 t\u1ea1o ra nh\u1eefng hi\u1ec3u bi\u1ebft t\u1ed1t h\u01a1n trong quan h\u1ec7 h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n gia \u0111\u00ecnh ph\u01b0\u1edbc t\u1ea1p. T\u1ed1t h\u01a1n \u0111\u1ecdc chu\u01a1ng 16 v\u1ec1 s\u1ef1 Ghen t\u1ef5 Trong ch\u01b0\u01a1ng \u0111\u00f3 c\u00f3 m\u1ed9t s\u1ed1 gi\u1ea3i th\u00edch li\u00ean quan tr\u1ef1c ti\u1ebfp t\u1edbi ch\u01b0\u01a1ng n\u00e0y.<\/p>\n

                                                                                                      H\u01a1n th\u1ebf, m\u1ed9t s\u1ed1 gi\u1ea3i th\u00edch l\u00fac \u0111\u1ea7u gi\u1ed1ng nh\u01b0 T\u00f4i-c\u1ee7a t\u00f4i \u0111\u00f3ng vai tr\u00f2 quan tr\u1ecdng trong ch\u1ee7 \u0111\u1ec1 n\u00e0y. Ngay c\u1ea3 \u0111\u1ed1i v\u1edbi \u0111\u1ed9c gi\u1ea3 c\u00f2n quan tr\u1ecdng h\u01a1n, n\u00ean \u0111\u1ecdc ch\u01b0\u01a1ng 16. M\u1ed9i s\u1ed1 gi\u1ea3i th\u00edch\u00a0 b\u1edfi thu\u1eadt ng\u1eef tr\u00e1i tim v\u00e0 kh\u1ed1i \u00f3c c\u00f3 v\u1ecb tr\u00ed quan tr\u1ecdng \u0111\u1eb7c bi\u1ec7t. Trong ng\u00f4n ng\u1eef b\u00ecnh d\u00e2n, ch\u00fang ta c\u00f3 xu h\u01b0\u1edbng trao \u0111\u1ed5i nh\u1eefng \u00fd ngh\u0129a v\u00e0 ch\u1ee9c n\u0103ng chi\u1ec1u k\u00edch n\u00e0y c\u1ee7a m\u1ed9t con ng\u01b0\u1eddi.<\/p>\n

                                                                                                      T\u1ea1i sao nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi trong gia \u0111\u00ecnh c\u1ee7a v\u1ee3\/ch\u1ed3ng c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 l\u00e0 trung \u00e2m ch\u00ednh c\u1ee7a nh\u1eefng r\u1eafc r\u1ed1i. L\u00fd do \u0111\u01a1n gi\u1ea3n v\u00ec h\u1ecd c\u00f3 m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 g\u1ea7n g\u0169i th\u00ec c\u00f3 c\u01a1 h\u1ed9i xung \u0111\u1ed9t(Th\u00e2n nhau l\u1eafm, c\u1eafn nhau \u0111au.). V\u00ed d\u1ee5 v\u1ec1 cu\u1ed9c h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n-T\u1ea1i sao l\u1ea1i d\u1ec5 g\u00e2y ra xung \u0111\u1ed9t, v\u00ec h\u1ecd l\u00e0 nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi g\u1ea7n g\u0169i.Cu\u1ed9c xunh \u0111\u1ed9t nghi\u00eam tr\u1ecdng v\u00e0 ph\u00e1t sinh do g\u1ea7n g\u0169i \u0111\u00e3 vi\u1ebft ra cu\u1ed1n s\u00e1ch n\u00e0y v\u00e0 nh\u1eefng s\u00e1ch kh\u00e1c n\u00f3i v\u1ec1 h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n. Ch\u00fang ta kh\u00f4ng h\u1ec1 th\u1ea5y b\u1ea5t k\u1ef3 xung \u0111\u1ed9t n\u00e0o x\u1ea3y ra v\u1edbi ngu\u1eddi \u1edf b\u1eafc c\u1ef1c, Amaz\u00f4n hay nh\u1eefng\u00a0 n\u01a1i kh\u00e1c. T\u1ed3i t\u1ec7 h\u01a1n, nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00f3 ch\u1eafc c\u0169ng c\u00f3 v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd.Nh\u01b0ng ch\u00fang ta kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 g\u00ec v\u1edbi h\u1ecd, \u0111\u01a1n gi\u1ea3n v\u00ec ch\u00fang ta kh\u00f4ng g\u1ea7n g\u0169i v\u1edbi h\u1ecd.\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 .<\/p>\n

                                                                                                      Nh\u00ecn chung, nh\u1eefng v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 gia \u0111\u00ecnh, v\u1ee3\/ch\u1ed3ng kh\u1edfi ngu\u1ed3n v\u00e0 k\u00e9o d\u00e0i m\u00e3i m\u00e3i trong khu v\u1ef1c c\u1ea3m x\u00fac h\u01a1n l\u00e0 khu v\u1ee5c l\u00fd tr\u00ed. N\u00f3i c\u00e1ch kh\u00e1c, tr\u00e1i tim ho\u1ea1t \u0111\u1ed9ng nhi\u1ec1u h\u01a1n l\u00e0 kh\u1ed1i \u00f3c. Ch\u00ednh v\u00ec th\u1ebf m\u00e0 m\u1ecdi r\u1eafc r\u1ed1i \u0111\u1ec1u \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c \u0111\u1ec1 c\u1eadp trong nhi\u1ec1u chu\u01a1ng kh\u00e1c nhau nhu Ch\u01b0\u01a1ng Ghen t\u1ef5, Chi\u1ebfm h\u1eefu; H\u1ed9i\u00a0 ch\u00fang\u00a0 T\u00f4i-C\u1ee7a\u00a0 t\u00f4i\u2019; H\u1ed9i ch\u1ee9ng y\u00eau t\u00f4i ,y\u00eau c\u1ea3 con ch\u00f3 c\u1ee7a t\u00f4i(y\u00eau t\u00f4i y\u00eau c\u1ea3 \u0111\u01b0\u1eddng \u0111i n\u1ed1i v\u1ec1).vv.c\u0169ng d\u1ec5 d\u00e0ng th\u1ec3 hi\u1ec7n \u1edf \u0111\u00e2y. Sau h\u1ebft , b\u1ea5t k\u1ef3 \u1ea3nh h\u01b0\u1edfng n\u00e0o c\u0169ng t\u00e1c \u0111\u1ed9ng \u0111\u1ebfn ch\u00fang ta.Gi\u1ed1ng nh\u01b0 nh\u1eefng cu\u1ed9c chi\u1ebfn \u0111\u1ea5u m\u00e0 ch\u00fang ta chi\u1ebfn th\u1eafng. Nh\u1eefng th\u00f3i x\u1ea5u c\u1ee7a ch\u00fang ta trong m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n s\u1ebd b\u1ed9c l\u1ed9 \u1edf \u0111\u00e2y. Quy\u1ec1n l\u00e0m ch\u1ee7 b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n kh\u00f4ng b\u1ecb h\u1ea1n ch\u1ebf, ch\u1ec9 ti\u1ebfn t\u1edbi chi\u1ebfn th\u1eafng c\u00e1i y\u1ebfu m\u1ec1m trong quan h\u1ec7 n\u00e0y. Nh\u01b0ng l\u00e0m ch\u1ee7 bao g\u1ed3m m\u1ecdi th\u1ee9 trong quan h\u1ec7, c\u00f3 c\u1ea3 ng\u01b0\u1eddi thu\u1ed9c b\u00ean v\u1ee3\/ch\u1ed3ng, b\u1ea1n b\u00e8, h\u00e0ng x\u00f3m, \u0111\u1ed3ng nghi\u1ec7p \u2026vv.<\/p>\n

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                                                                                                      \u0110\u1ec3 th\u1eed v\u00e0 hi\u1ec3u m\u1ed9t s\u1ed1 y\u1ebfu t\u1ed1 l\u00e0m ch\u00fang ta b\u1ecb t\u1ed5n thu\u01a1ng.<\/p>\n

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                                                                                                      H\u00e0nh trang t\u00e2m l\u00fd:Tr\u01b0\u1edbc khi hai b\u1ea1n k\u1ebft h\u00f4n v\u00e0 l\u1eadp gia \u0111\u00ecnh ri\u00eang, m\u1ed7i h\u1ecd l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t ph\u1ea7n c\u1ee7a gia \u0111\u00ecnh kh\u00e1c.H\u1ecd c\u00f3 cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng l\u00e2u d\u00e0i g\u1eafn b\u00f3 v\u1edbi ng\u01b0\u1eddi th\u00e2n nh\u01b0 cha m\u1eb9; anh, ch\u1ecb, em. C\u1ea3 nh\u0169ng ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c li\u00ean quan. H\u1ecd c\u00f3 c\u1ea3m gi\u00e1c g\u1eafn b\u00f3 v\u00e0 k\u1ebft giao v\u1edbi gia \u0111\u00ecnh, v\u1edbi qu\u00ea h\u01b0ong nh\u00f3m ng\u01b0\u1eddi c\u00f9ng trang l\u1ee9a. Nh\u1eefng \u1ea3nh hu\u1edfng n\u00e0y ph\u00e2n ph\u1ed1i c\u1ea5u th\u00e0nh t\u00ecnh c\u1ea3m c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd. Tr\u01b0\u1eddng h\u1ecdc, c\u00f4ng v\u1ecb\u00eac, c\u00e2u l\u1ea1c b\u1ed9 mang l\u1ea1i b\u1ed5 sung\u00a0 v\u00e0 t\u1ea1o th\u00e0nh c\u1ea5u tr\u00fac trong ti\u1ebfn tr\u00ecnh suy ngh\u0129 c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd. Nh\u1eefng y\u1ebfu t\u1ed1 n\u00e0y nh\u00e9t h\u1ebft v\u00e0o h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n. Cu\u1ed9c h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n s\u1ebd x\u1ea3y ra ho\u00e0n to\u00e0n v\u1edbi b\u1ea1n \u0111\u1eddi kh\u00f4ng b\u00e0y t\u1ecf h\u1ebft nh\u1eefng ch\u00ednh y\u1ebfu c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh. Cu\u1ed9c tranh ch\u1ea5p s\u1ebd l\u00e0:<\/p>\n

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                                                                                                      1. M\u1ed7i ng\u01b0\u1eddi mong mu\u1ed1n b\u1ea1n \u0111\u1eddi m\u00ecnh ph\u1ea3i \u0111\u00e1nh gi\u00e1 \u0111\u00fang quan \u0111i\u1ec3m v\u1ec1 gi\u00e1 tr\u1ecb c\u00f9ng c\u1ea3m gi\u00e1c..<\/li>\n
                                                                                                      2. M\u1eb7c d\u00f9 c\u00f3 nh\u1eefng n\u1ed7 l\u1ef1c v\u00e0 \u01b0\u1edbc mu\u1ed1n c\u1ee7a c\u1ea3 hai, ng\u01b0\u1eddi kia c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 c\u1ea3m gi\u00e1c h\u1ee3p quan \u0111i\u1ec3m v\u1edbi nhau. H\u1ecd cho r\u1eb1ng kh\u00f4ng c\u00f9ng \u00fd \u0111\u1ecbnh.<\/li>\n
                                                                                                      3. C\u0169ng nh\u01b0 m\u1ed9t c\u1eb7p v\u1ee3 ch\u1ed3ng \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c trang b\u1ecb v\u1ec1 ch\u00fat t\u00e2m l\u00fd nh\u1ea5t \u0111\u1ecbnh. Ng\u1eeb\u1eddi trong gia \u0111\u00ecnh th\u00f4ng gia c\u0169ng c\u00f3 nh\u1eefng g\u1eafn k\u1ebft v\u1edbi m\u1ed9t trong hai ng\u01b0\u1eddi. B\u1edfi v\u1eady, h\u1ecd c\u1ed1\u00a0 th\u1ec3 hi\u1ec7n hay duy tr\u00ec\u00a0 bi\u1ec3u l\u1ed9 t\u00ecnh y\u00eau; quan t\u00e2m; tham gia; s\u1edf h\u1eefu.vv. h\u1ecd \u0111ang c\u1ed1 t\u1eafc \u0111\u1ed9ng(c\u00f3 l\u1ebd chi\u1ebfn \u0111\u1ea5u \u0111\u1ec3 mang l\u1ea1i s\u1ef1 g\u1ea7n g\u0169i).<\/li>\n
                                                                                                      4. M\u1ed9t trong hai ng\u01b0\u1eddi c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 t\u1ecf th\u00e1i \u0111\u1ed9 r\u1eb1ng ng\u01b0\u1eddi trong gia \u0111\u00ecnh th\u00f4ng gia nh\u01b0 k\u1ebb x\u00eda v\u00e0o chuy\u1ec7n ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c nh\u01b0 s\u1ef1 \u0111e do\u1ea1;vi ph\u1ea1m v\u00e0o \u0111\u1eddi t\u01b0 c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c. Khi \u0111i\u1ec1u n\u00e0y x\u1ea3y \u0111\u1ebfn, c\u1ed7 m\u00e1y ph\u00f2ng th\u1ee7 s\u1ebd \u0111\u1eb7t trong t\u00ecnh tr\u1ea1ng ph\u00f2ng th\u1ee7. S\u1ef1 vi\u1ec7c leo thang\u00a0 tr\u1edf th\u00e0nh m\u1ed9t v\u00f2ng quay t\u00edt v\u1edbi s\u1ef1 \u0111\u1ea7u t\u01b0 t\u00e1c \u0111\u1ed9ng nhi\u1ec1u h\u01a1n-ph\u00f2ng th\u1ee7 h\u01a1n n\u1eefa- Th\u1ea5t v\u1ecdng h\u01a1n- Xung \u0111\u1ed9t h\u01a1n- O\u00e1n h\u1eadn h\u01a1n.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

                                                                                                        \u0110i\u1ec1u ti\u00eau c\u1ef1c r\u1eafc r\u1ed1i l\u1edbn nh\u1ea5t li\u00ean quan \u0111\u1ebfn gia \u0111\u00ecnh th\u00f4ng gia l\u00e0: T\u1ea1o ra nh\u01b0ng tam gi\u00e1c, tam gi\u00e1c \u0111\u00f3 \u0111\u00f3ng g\u00f3p v\u00e0o xung \u0111\u1ed9t h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n, tam gi\u00e1c \u0111\u00f3 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 l\u00e0, Ch\u1ed3ng-v\u1ee3-gia \u0111\u00ecnh th\u00f4ng gia, c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 l\u00e0, Ch\u1ed3ng- v\u1ee3-con, Ch\u1ed3ng-v\u1ee3-ngh\u1ec1 nghi\u1ec7p\u2026vv.Ch\u00fang ta \u0111\u1eb7c bi\u1ec7t\u00a0 c\u1ea3nh gi\u00e1c v\u1edbi c\u00e1i g\u1ecdi l\u00e0 h\u00ecnh th\u00e0nh nh\u1eefng tam gi\u00e1c.Ch\u1ed3ng v\u00e0 v\u1ee3 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 l\u00e0 \u201cm\u1ed9t\u201d \u0111\u1ec3 ph\u00e1 v\u1ee1 tam gi\u00e1c.B\u1eb7c \u0111\u1ea7u ti\u00ean c\u1ee7a ch\u00fang ta c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 l\u00e0 \u00edch k\u1ef7, sau \u0111\u00f3 l\u00e0 c\u00e1i T\u00f4i \u0111i\u1ec1u n\u00e0y khi\u1ebfn ta c\u00f3 th\u1eddi k\u1ef3 ph\u1ea3i v\u1ea5t v\u1ea3.<\/p>\n

                                                                                                        Xung \u0111\u1ed9t gia \u0111\u00ecnh th\u00f4ng gia gi\u1eefa ng\u01b0\u1eddi c\u00f9ng \u0111\u1ed9 tu\u1ed5i hay c\u00f9ng ho\u00e0n c\u1ea3nh trong cu\u1ed9c\u00a0 s\u1ed1ng , th\u01b0\u1eddng l\u00e0 k\u1ebft qu\u1ea3 c\u1ee7a ghen t\u1ef5 do \u0111i\u1ec1u n\u00e0y hay \u0111i\u1ec1u kh\u00e1c.<\/p>\n

                                                                                                        Xung \u0111\u1ed9t trong gia \u0111\u00ecnh th\u00f4ng gia gi\u1eefa nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00f4ng c\u00f9ng \u0111\u1ed9 tu\u1ed5i v\u00e0 kh\u00e1c nhau v\u1ec1 ho\u00e0n c\u1ea3nh, thu\u1eddng l\u00e0 do s\u1edf h\u1eefu. S\u1ef1 kh\u00e1c bi\u1ec7t l\u1edbn v\u1ec1 tu\u1ed5i t\u00e1c mang l\u1ea1i r\u1eafc r\u1ed1i kh\u00e1c bi\u1ec7t v\u1ec1 t\u01b0 t\u01b0\u1edfng . M\u1ed9t s\u1ed1 r\u1eafc r\u1ed1i s\u1ebd \u0111\u1ec1 c\u1eadp d\u01b0\u1edbi \u0111\u00e2y.<\/p>\n

                                                                                                        Kh\u00e1c b\u1ecb\u00eat v\u1ec1 t\u01b0 t\u01b0\u1edfng gi\u1eefa th\u1ebf h\u1ec7 \u0111i tr\u01b0\u1edbc v\u00e0 th\u1ebf h\u1ec7 ti\u1ebfp n\u1ed1i \u0111\u00e3 g\u00e2y ra nh\u1eefng kh\u00e1c bi\u1ec7t m\u00e0 ch\u00fang \u0111\u00f3ng vai tr\u00f2 khu\u1ebfch \u0111\u1ea1i nh\u1eefng r\u1eafc r\u1ed1i.Nhi\u1ec1u ng\u01b0\u1eddi trong gia \u0111\u00ecnh th\u00f4ng gia c\u00f3 tu\u1ed5i cao, h\u1ecd tr\u1edf n\u00ean nh\u01b0 con tr\u1ebb. \u0110i\u1ec1u n\u00e0y th\u1ec3 hi\u1ec7n trong c\u00e1ch c\u01b0 x\u1eed c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd. T\u1ea5n c\u00f4ng h\u1ecd b\u1eb1ng l\u00fd l\u1ebd v\u00e0 tranh lu\u1eadn c\u00f3 l\u1ebd h\u1ecd kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u1ea1t \u0111\u1ebfn m\u1ee9c th\u00e0nh c\u00f4ng nh\u01b0 khi h\u1ecd c\u00f2n tr\u1ebb h\u01a1n v\u00e0 c\u00f3 kh\u1ea3 n\u0103ng h\u01a1n.N\u1ebfu \u0111\u00e2y l\u00e0 r\u00e1c r\u1ed1i, h\u00e3y r\u1ed9ng l\u01b0\u1ee3ng v\u1edbi h\u1ecd trong quan \u0111i\u1ec3m c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh- T\u01b0 t\u01b0\u1edfng ph\u00f3ng kho\u00e1ng h\u01a1n. Cho h\u1ecd m\u1ed9t ch\u00fat suy ngh\u0129 th\u00f4i, m\u1ed9t ch\u00fat th\u00f4i. N\u1ebfu c\u00f3 c\u01a1 h\u1ed9i t\u1ed1t, b\u1ea1n s\u1ebd n\u00f3i v\u1edbi h\u1ecd r\u1eb1ng h\u1ecd c\u1ee9 nh\u01b0 tr\u1ebb\u00a0con.M\u1ed9t \u0111i\u1ec1u c\u1ea7n nh\u1edb, khi h\u1ecd c\u00f2n tr\u1ebb, h\u1ecd c\u0169ng n\u0103ng \u0111\u1ed9ng h\u01a1n, suy ngh\u0129 nhanh h\u01a1n, hi\u1ec7u qu\u1ea3 h\u01a1n. H\u1ecd l\u00e0 nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e3 \u0111\u1ea1t \u0111\u1ebfn \u0111i\u1ec3m \u0111\u00edch v\u00e0 g\u1eb7t h\u00e1i \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c nh\u1eefng th\u00e0nh c\u00f4ng. T\u1ea5t c\u1ea3 nh\u1eefng th\u00e0nh c\u00f4ng c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd \u0111\u00e3 x\u1ea3y ra.Nh\u01b0ng gi\u1edd h\u1ecd l\u1ea1i tr\u1edf n\u00ean nh\u01b0 con tr\u1ebb. Ch\u00fang ta c\u0169ng th\u1ea5y r\u00e0ng, h\u1ecd sa s\u00fat \u1edf m\u1ecdi m\u1eb7t \u2013 Th\u1ec3 ch\u1ea5t, tinh th\u1ea7n,t\u00ecnh c\u1ea3m \u0111\u1ed1i v\u1edbi m\u1ecdi ng\u01b0\u1eddi.V\u00e0 ngay c\u1ea3 m\u1eb7t t\u00e0i ch\u00ednh. \u0110\u1ed1i v\u1edbi nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi tr\u1ebb l\u1ea1i ngh\u0129 r\u1eb1ng\u00a0 nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi gi\u00e0 n\u00e0y \u0111\u00e3 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c tr\u1ea3 ti\u1ec1n nh\u00e0, ti\u00e8n \u0111i l\u1ea1i, \u0111\u1ea1i kh\u00e1i nh\u01b0 v\u1eady; Con c\u00e1i \u0111\u00e3 tr\u01b0\u1edfng th\u00e0nh v\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i tr\u00e1ch nhi\u1ec7m v\u1edbi con n\u1eefa. Do v\u1eady, h\u1ecd ph\u1ea3 x\u1ea3 l\u00e1ng \u0111i. V\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 \u0111\u00e1ng bu\u1ed3n l\u00e0, s\u1ee9c kho\u1ebb nh\u01b0 c\u00e1i g\u00ec \u0111\u00f3 \u0111u\u1ee3c \u0111\u1ecbnh s\u1eb5n, chi ph\u00ed thu\u1ed1c men, b\u00e1c s\u1ef9 v\u00e0 ngay c\u1ea3 ph\u1ea3i nh\u1eadp vi\u1ec7n v\u1edbi chi ph\u00ed cao. H\u1ecd th\u1ef1c t\u1ebf \u0111ang ph\u1ea3i tr\u1ea3 nh\u1eefng chi ph\u00ed c\u1eaft c\u1ed5 so v\u1edbi \u0111\u1ed3ng l\u01b0\u01a1ng ti\u1ebft ki\u1ec7m, \u0111\u1ed3ng l\u01b0\u01a1ng \u0111\u00f3 ch\u1ec9 l\u00e0 ph\u1ea7n r\u1ea5t nh\u1ecf so v\u1edbi m\u1ee9c l\u01b0\u01a1ng ng\u00e0y nay. \u0110\u01a1n gi\u1ea3n l\u00e0 ti\u1ec1n c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd l\u00fac \u0111\u00f3 kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 gi\u00e1 tr\u1ecb bu\u00f4n b\u00e1n m\u00e0 ch\u1ec9 c\u1ea5t \u0111i. Nhi\u1ec1u vi\u1ec7c v\u00e0 nhi\u1ec7m v\u1ee5 trong nh\u00e0 h\u1ecd ph\u1ea3i t\u1ef1 l\u00e0m. Trong nh\u1eefng ng\u00e0y trai tr\u1ebb c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 h\u1ecd c\u1ea7n s\u1ef1 gi\u00fap \u0111\u1ee1 c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c, g\u1ed3m nh\u1eefng chuy\u1ebfn \u0111i \u0111\u1ec3 ki\u1ebfm t\u00ecm nh\u1eefng th\u1ee9 thi\u1ebft y\u1ebfu.T\u00ecnh h\u00ecnh nh\u01b0 v\u1eady \u0111\u00f3, nh\u01b0ng \u0111\u1ea1i \u0111a s\u1ed1 c\u00e1c b\u1eadc ph\u1ee5 huynh c\u1ed1 \u0111\u1ea1t \u0111\u1ebfn m\u1ee9c \u00edch k\u1ef7 \u0111\u1ec3 \u00edt nh\u1ea5t c\u0169ng \u0111\u1ea1t \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c m\u1ed9t v\u00e0i ph\u1ea1m vi n\u00e0o \u0111\u00f3.\u00a0 H\u1ecd ph\u1ea3i \u0111\u1ed1i m\u1eb7t v\u1edbi nhi\u1ec1u th\u1ee9. Tr\u1edf th\u00e0nh ng\u01b0\u1eddi gi\u00e0 c\u1ea3 kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i \u0111i\u1ec1u d\u1ec5 d\u00e0ng. V\u00e0 ch\u00fang ta c\u0169ng ph\u1ea3i gi\u00e0. C\u00e1ch c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 di\u1ec7n v\u00e0 an to\u00e0n nh\u1ea5t l\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng t\u1ea1o th\u00eam c\u0103ng th\u1eb3g nh\u01b0ng h\u00e3y gi\u00fap \u0111\u1ee1. Nh\u01b0 nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi tr\u1ebb h\u01a1n, b\u1ea1n \u0111ang tr\u00ean \u0111\u00e0 ti\u1ebfn t\u1edbi; H\u1ecd \u0111ang tr\u00ean \u0111\u00e0 xu\u1ed1ng d\u1ed1c. Do \u0111\u00f3, nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111ang ti\u1ebfn n\u00ean c\u00f3 tr\u00e1i tim \u0111\u1ed9 l\u01b0\u1ee3ng. Th\u1ec3 hi\u1ec7n cho h\u1ecd th\u1ea5y t\u00ecnh y\u00eau th\u01b0\u01a1ng; long k\u00ednh tr\u1ecdng; s\u1ef1 kh\u00e2m ph\u1ee5c, d\u00e0nh th\u1eddi gian v\u1edbi h\u1ecd, gi\u00fap \u0111\u1ee1 h\u1ecd.<\/p>\n

                                                                                                        Nh\u1eefng c\u00e1ch th\u1ee9c c\u01b0 x\u1eed ph\u01b0\u1edbc t\u1ea1p trong quan h\u1ec7 h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n gi\u1eefa nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi trong gia \u0111\u00ecnh th\u00f4ng gia. Nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi c\u1ea3n tr\u1edf ph\u1ed5 bi\u1ebfn nh\u1ea5t ph\u1ea3i\u00a0 hi\u1ec3u r\u1eb1ng:V\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 m\u1eb9 ch\u1ed3ng n\u00e0ng d\u00e2u, r\u00fat cu\u1ed9c c\u1ea3 hai \u0111\u1ec1u c\u00f3 \u0111\u1ee7 \u0111i\u1ec1u kh\u00f4ng \u01b0a v\u00e0 b\u1ea5t \u0111\u1ed3ng theo b\u1ea3n n\u0103ng \u0111\u00e3 l\u00e0m ngu\u1eddi ch\u1ed3ng ph\u1ea3i c\u0103ng th\u1eb3ng.Anh nh\u1eadn th\u1ea5y m\u00ecnh \u0111ang \u0111\u1ee9ng gi\u1eefa cu\u1ed9c chi\u1ebfn c\u1ee7a hai ngu\u1eddi\u00a0 th\u00e2n c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh-ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef. Anh kh\u00f4ng hi\u1ec3u sao nh\u1eefng b\u1ea5t \u0111\u1ed3ng l\u1ea1i \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c h\u1ecd khu\u1ea5y \u0111\u1ed9ng\u00a0 d\u1ec5 d\u00e0ng v\u00e0 nhanh thu\u1eddng xuy\u00ean nh\u01b0 v\u1eady. Anh l\u00e0 ngu\u1eddi ch\u1ecbu \u0111au \u0111\u1edbn nhi\u1ec1u v\u00ec nh\u1eefng c\u0103ng th\u1eb3ng n\u00e0y. Nh\u1eefng \u0111i\u1ec1u anh th\u1ea5y kh\u00f3 hi\u1ec3u ch\u00ednh l\u00e0 s\u1ef1 thay \u0111\u1ed5i \u0111\u1ed9t ng\u1ed9t m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 m\u1eb9 ch\u1ed3ng n\u00e0ng d\u00e2u.Tr\u01b0\u1edbc kia, m\u1eb9 ch\u1ed3ng v\u00e0 con d\u00e2u t\u01b0\u01a1ng lai l\u00e0 nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi b\u1ea1n t\u1ed1t nh\u1ea5t. Ch\u1ec9 sau khi c\u01b0\u1edbi v\u00e0i gi\u1edd, h\u1ecd \u0111\u00e3 th\u1ec3 hi\u1ec7n s\u1ef1 \u0111\u1ed1i \u0111\u1ea7u.Ng\u01b0\u1eddi ch\u1ed3ng t\u1ed9i nghi\u1ec7p\u00a0 b\u1ecb hoang mang v\u00ec nh\u1eefng thay \u0111\u1ed5i\u00a0 b\u1ea5t th\u00ecnh l\u00ecnh. Anh th\u1ea5y h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac c\u1ee7a\u00a0 m\u00ecnh nhanh ch\u00f3ng ch\u00ecm v\u00e0o u \u00e1m v\u00e0 bu\u1ed3n kh\u1ed5. Tr\u01b0\u1edbcc khi c\u01b0\u1edbi m\u1ecdi s\u1ef1 \u0111\u1ec1u kh\u00e1c. M\u1eb9 mong con trai m\u00ecnh c\u01b0\u1edbi v\u1ee3, b\u00e0 \u0111\u00e3 th\u1ea5y v\u00e0 gi\u00fap con m\u00ecnh qua nhi\u1ec1u \u2018m\u1ed1c l\u1ecbch s\u1eed\u2019 trong \u0111\u1eddi anh nh\u01b0\u00a0 l\u00e0 khi c\u00f2n l\u00e0 \u0111\u1ee9a tr\u1ebb, v\u00e0 khi l\u00e0 \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng\u00a0 tr\u1ebb. Gi\u1edd l\u00e0 m\u1ed1c l\u1ecbch s\u1eed c\u1ee7a h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n ph\u1ea3i do b\u00e0 \u0111\u1ee5c \u0111\u1ebdo v\u00e0 s\u1eafp \u0111\u1eb7t. B\u00e0 l\u1eadp \u2018b\u1ea3ng k\u1ebf ho\u1ea1ch\u2019 trang b\u1ecb cho vi\u1ec7c n\u00e0y. V\u1edbi \u00fd th\u1ee9c tr\u00e1ch nhi\u00eam , b\u00e0 th\u1ea7m nh\u1ea9n so s\u00e1nh m\u1ecdi ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef tr\u1ebb t\u01b0\u01a1ng lai v\u1edbi s\u1ef1 t\u01b0\u1edfng t\u01b0\u1ee3ng th\u1ea5u\u00a0 \u0111\u00e1o. B\u1ea3ng li\u1ec7t k\u00ea c\u1ea7n \u0111\u1ef1\u01a1c ki\u1ec3m tra.V\u00ec l\u00e0 m\u1eb9 c\u1ee7a anh, b\u00e0 mu\u1ed1n nh\u1eefng \u0111i\u1ec1u t\u1ed1t nh\u1ea5t cho con trai m\u00ecnh. B\u00e0 h\u0103m h\u1edf \u0111\u00f2i con m\u00ecnh ph\u1ea3i \u0111\u1ef1oc chi\u1ec1u theo \u0111\u00fang c\u00e1ch c\u1ee7a n\u00f3. B\u00e0 n\u00f3i t\u1ea5t c\u1ea3 nh\u1eefng g\u00ec c\u1ea7n l\u00e0m t\u1ed1t nh\u1ea5t cho c\u1eadu con trai c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh cho con d\u00e2u t\u01b0\u01a1ng lai bi\u1ebft. \u0110i\u1ec1u b\u00e0 mong m\u1ecfi nh\u1ea5t l\u00e0 \u0111\u00e1p l\u1ea1i h\u1ebft nh\u1eefng y\u00eau c\u1ea7u c\u1ee7a b\u00e0. M\u1ee9c \u0111\u1ed9 hi\u1ec7n \u0111\u1ea1i h\u01a1n, mu\u1ed1n ti\u1ebfn t\u1edbi s\u1ef1 b\u1ea5t di\u1ec7t. C\u1ea3m gi\u00e1c n\u00e0y c\u00f3 trong m\u1ecdi ng\u01b0\u1eddi, ngay c\u1ea3 bi\u1ebft r\u1eb1ng cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng tr\u00ean tr\u1ea7n gian c\u00f3 gi\u1edbi h\u1ea1n. Theo b\u1ea3n n\u0103ng, ch\u00fang ta c\u1ed1 t\u1ea1o ra kh\u1ea3 n\u0103ng truy\u1ec1n cho th\u1ebf h\u1ec7 con ch\u00e1u ch\u00fang ta.Ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef tr\u1ebb gi\u1edd l\u00e0 nh\u00e2n t\u1ed1 \u0111\u00f3, b\u1edfi \u0111\u00f3 c\u00f4 s\u1ebd c\u00f3 nh\u1eefng \u0111\u1ee9a ch\u00e1u.<\/p>\n

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                                                                                                        Ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef tr\u1ebb c\u0169ng kh\u1eafc kho\u1ea3i kh\u00f4ng k\u00e9m \u0111\u1ec3 bi\u1ebft v\u1ec1 ng\u01b0\u1eddi ch\u1ed3ng t\u01b0\u01a1ng lai. C\u00f4 mu\u1ed1n l\u00e0m anh h\u00e0i l\u00f2ng v\u00e0 g\u00e2y \u1ea5n t\u01b0\u1ee3ng t\u1ed1t nh\u1ea5t ch\u1eebng n\u00e0o c\u00f3 th\u1ec3. C\u00f4 mu\u1ed1n bi\u1ebft to\u00e0n b\u1ed9 \u201cl\u1ecbch s\u1eed\u201d c\u1ee7a b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n anh. Ng\u01b0\u1eddi c\u00f3 ngu\u1ed3n t\u01b0 li\u1ec7u t\u1ed1t nh\u1ea5t ch\u00ednh l\u00e0 m\u1eb9 anh(Theo c\u00e1ch th\u00f4ng th\u01b0\u1eddng ch\u00ednh l\u00e0 em g\u00e1i, ch\u1ecb d\u00e2u, em h\u1ecd hay b\u1ea1n b\u00e8).<\/p>\n

                                                                                                        V\u1ec1 vi\u1ec7c n\u00e0y,c\u0103n b\u1ea3n kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 g\u00ec sai tr\u00e1i. Ng\u01b0\u1eddi ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef tr\u1ebb ch\u1ec9 mu\u1ed1n bi\u1ebft v\u1ec1 ng\u01b0\u1eddi ch\u1ed3ng t\u01b0\u01a1ng lai qua ngu\u1ed3n t\u1ed1t nh\u1ea5t c\u00f3 th\u1ec3. C\u0169ng nh\u01b0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi m\u1eb9 mu\u1ed1n bi\u1ebft \u0111\u1ec3 trang b\u1ecb cho con d\u00e2u t\u01b0\u01a1ng lai nh\u0169ng l\u1eddi khuy\u00ean c\u1ea7n thi\u1ebft \u0111\u1ec3 tr\u1edf th\u00e0nh ng\u01b0\u1eddi v\u1ee3 t\u1ed1t\u00a0 cho con trai m\u00ecnh. Do \u0111\u00f3, c\u1ea3 hai \u0111\u00e3 tr\u1edf th\u00e0nh nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi b\u1ea1n v\u0129 \u0111\u1ea1i. Ng\u01b0\u1eddi m\u1eb9 th\u00ec th\u00edch th\u00fa n\u00f3i v\u1ec1 con m\u00ecnh m\u1ed9t c\u00e1ch c\u1ef1c k\u1ef3 chi ti\u1ebft v\u00e0 ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef tr\u1ebb kia l\u00e1ng nghe v\u00e0 m\u01a1 m\u00e0ng.. Sau nhi\u00e8u c\u00e2u chuy\u1ec7n th\u1ea5u long nhau v\u00e0 nh\u1eefng c\u00f4ng th\u1ee9c n\u1ea5u \u0103n. Sau \u0111\u00f3 c\u00f4 g\u00e1i l\u1ea5y ch\u1ed3ng. \u0110\u00e2y ch\u00ednh l\u00e0 l\u00fac hai ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef \u0111\u1ea1t \u0111\u1ebfn \u0111i\u1ec3m \u201cc\u1ea3m x\u00fac si\u00eau cao\u201d. Cu\u1ed1i c\u00f9ng \u0111\u1ec9nh si\u00eau cao s\u1ebd ph\u1ea3i t\u1ee5t xu\u1ed1ng. Ch\u00ednh \u0111\u00e2y l\u00e0 c\u00e2u h\u1ecfi v\u1ec1 vi\u1ec7c \u0111i\u1ec3m n\u00e0o c\u1ee7a \u0111\u1ec9nh si\u00eau cao c\u1ea3m x\u00fac \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c ph\u00e9p t\u1ee5t xu\u1ed1ng . N\u00f3 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 r\u1ecdi v\u00e0o s\u1ef1 \u2018Hi\u1ec3u\u2019 hay c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 r\u01a1i v\u00e0o \u2018Chi\u1ebfm h\u0169u\u2019. N\u1ebfu chi\u1ebfm h\u0169u r\u01a1i v\u00e0o h\u1ed9i ch\u1ee9ng \u2018c\u1ee7a t\u00f4i\u2019,s\u1ebd c\u00f3 hi\u1ec7u l\u1ef1c.<\/p>\n

                                                                                                        Khi con trai k\u1ebft h\u00f4n, s\u1ebd c\u00f3 ba bi\u1ebfn \u0111\u1ed9ng ch\u1ee7 y\u1ebfu v\u1ec1 t\u00e2m l\u00fd x\u1ea3y ra:<\/p>\n

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                                                                                                        1. Trong th\u00e2m t\u00e2m ngu\u1eddi m\u1eb9, b\u00e0 c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y m\u1ed1i r\u00e0ng bu\u1ed9c l\u00e2u n\u0103m v\u00e0 s\u1ef1 y\u00eau th\u01b0\u01a1ng \u0111ang \u0111\u1ed5 v\u00f5.B\u00e0 c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y nh\u01b0 b\u1ecb m\u1ea5t vai tr\u00f2 v\u1edbi con trai y\u00eau c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh.C\u00f2n t\u1ec7 h\u1ea1i h\u01a1n, b\u00e0 c\u00f2n th\u1ea5y nh\u01b0 m\u00ecnh ph\u1ea3i tr\u00e1nh v\u00e0o b\u00ean \u0111\u01b0\u1eddng \u0111\u1ec3 nh\u01b0\u1eddng \u0111\u01b0\u1eddng cho m\u1ed9t ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef kh\u00e1c. Kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0 l\u00fd tr\u00ed nh\u01b0ng l\u00e0 c\u1ea3m gi\u00e1c, l\u00e0 b\u1ea3n n\u0103ng.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

                                                                                                          Trong th\u00e2m t\u00e2m con d\u00e2u, c\u00f4 c\u1ea7n t\u1ea1o d\u1ef1ng m\u1ed1i rang bu\u1ed9c.C\u00f4 th\u1ea5y c\u1ea7n \u0111\u00f2i h\u1ecfi c\u00e1i quy\u1ec1n c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh. T\u1ec7 h\u01a1n, c\u00f4\u00a0 th\u1ea5y\u00a0 m\u00ecnh ph\u1ea3i gi\u1ea3i tho\u00e1t cho ch\u1ed3ng kh\u1ecfi ng\u01b0\u1eddi ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef kh\u00e1c, \u0111\u00f3 l\u00e0 ch\u1ed3ng c\u1ee7a t\u00f4i. Kh\u00f4ng ai \u0111\u1eb7t v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1, li\u1ec7u c\u1ea3 hai ng\u01b0\u1eddi ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef \u0111\u00f3 c\u00f3 thay th\u1ebf v\u1ecb tr\u00ed cho nhau\u00a0 hay kh\u00f4ng.<\/p>\n

                                                                                                          Th\u00fa v\u1ecb l\u00e0, khi lo l\u1eafng cho con trai\/ch\u1ed3ng c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c th\u00ec c\u1ea3 hai ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef n\u00e0y \u0111\u1ed3ng \u00fd vai tr\u00f2 c\u1ee7a ngu\u1eddi m\u1eb9 kh\u00e1c v\u1edbi vai tr\u00f2 c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi v\u1ee3.Chi\u1ebfm v\u1ecb tr\u00ed tu\u01a1ng \u0111\u01b0\u01a1ng trong tr\u00e1i tim ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng. V\u00e0 v\u1eady, khi tr\u1edf th\u00e0nh con trai\/ch\u1ed3ng c\u1ee7a ch\u00ednh h\u1ecd, h\u1ecd h\u00e0nh x\u1eed kh\u00e1c h\u1eb3n. C\u00e2u h\u1ecfi \u0111\u1eb7t ra kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i\u00a0 v\u1ec1 tr\u00ed \u00f3c m\u00e0 v\u1ec1 c\u1ea3m gi\u00e1c th\u00f4.<\/p>\n

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                                                                                                          L\u00fd do ho\u00e0n to\u00e0n \u0111\u01a1n gi\u1ea3n, khi nh\u00ecn k\u1ebb kh\u00e1c b\u1eb1ng c\u00e1i \u0111\u1ea7u c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd. Khi nh\u00ecn b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n l\u1ea1i b\u1eb1ng tr\u00e1i tim. N\u00f3i c\u00e1ch kh\u00e1c, Khi \u0111\u00e3 th\u00e0nh con trai\/ch\u1ed3ng c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd th\u00ec t\u00ecnh c\u1ea3m l\u1ea5n \u00e1t l\u00fd tr\u00ed, b\u1eb1ng ng\u00f4n ng\u1eef \u0111\u01a1n gi\u1ea3n ch\u00ednh l\u00e0 s\u00e3n sang chi\u1ebfn \u0111\u1ea5u. M\u1ed7i ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u1ec1u mu\u1ed1n l\u1ed9t b\u1ecf c\u00e1i ch\u0103n \u201cc\u1ee7a t\u00f4i\u201d c\u1ee7a k\u1ebb kh\u00e1c ra v\u00e0 ch\u1ec9 c\u00f3 c\u00e1i ch\u0103n ch\u00ednh t\u00f4i l\u00e0 v\u1eefng ch\u1eafc v\u00e0 an to\u00e0n bao\u00a0 ph\u1ee7\u00a0 tr\u00ean c\u00e1i ch\u1ebfm h\u1eefu c\u1ee7a c\u00f4-ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng.<\/p>\n

                                                                                                          B\u1ecfi vi\u1ec7c s\u00e3n s\u00e0ng chi\u1ebfm h\u1eefu v\u00e0 \u0111\u1ea5u tranh c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd, v\u1ed1n c\u00f3 h\u00e0nh \u0111\u1ed9ng ph\u1ea3n th\u00e2n t\u1edbi n\u00e9t ti\u00eau bi\u1ec3u n\u00e0y, \u0111\u00f3 l\u00e0: Theo b\u1ea3n n\u0103ng, h\u1ecd \u01b0\u1edbc \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c chi\u1ebfn \u0111\u1ea5u. H\u00e0nh \u0111\u1ed9ng ph\u1ea3n th\u00e2n n\u00e0y kh\u00f4ng xoay chuy\u1ec3n b\u1ea5t ng\u1edd s\u1ef1 vi\u1ec7c nh\u01b0 k\u1ebft c\u1ee7a c\u1ee7a h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n- N\u00f3 hi\u1ec7n di\u1ec7n m\u1ecdi l\u00fac.<\/p>\n

                                                                                                          V\u00ed d\u1ee5, c\u00f3 hai g\u00e3 s\u1eb5n s\u00e0ng b\u1ee5p\u00a0 nhau t\u1ea1i s\u00e0n nh\u1ea3y v\u00ec m\u1ed9t c\u00f4 g\u00e1i. Th\u1ea3m ho\u1ea1 n\u00e0y \u0111\u01b0a c\u00f4 t\u1edbi m\u1ed9 c\u1ea3m gi\u00e1c si\u00eau cao. C\u00f4 s\u1ebd nh\u01a1 m\u00e3i s\u1ef1 vi\u1ec7c \u0111\u00f3. C\u00f4 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 ng\u0103n c\u1ea3n cu\u1ed9c \u1ea9u \u0111\u1ea3 \u0111\u00f3 m\u1ed9t c\u00e1ch b\u00ecnh th\u01b0\u1eddng, nh\u01b0ng c\u00f4 \u1ea5p \u1ee7 m\u00e3i trong t\u00e2m tr\u00ed r\u1eb1ng h\u1ecd \u0111\u00e1nh nhau v\u00ec m\u00ecnh\u2013Gi\u00e1 tr\u1ecb t\u00ecnh c\u1ea3m c\u1ee7a c\u00f4 t\u0103ng \u0111i\u1ec3m g\u1ea5p nhi\u1ec1u l\u1ea7n.C\u00f4 l\u1ea5y l\u00e0m h\u00e3nh di\u1ec7n \u201cH\u1ecd \u0111\u00e1nh nhau v\u00ec t\u00f4i!!!\u201d c\u00f4 s\u1ebd khoe khoang, \u201c\u0110\u00e0n \u00f4ng \u0111\u00e1nh nhau v\u00ec t\u00f4i\u201d v\u00e0 nh\u0169ng c\u00f4 g\u00e1i kh\u00e1c th\u00ec tr\u1ea7m tr\u1ed3 \u201cWow\u201d v\u1edbi v\u1ebb b\u1ec1 ngo\u00e0i nh\u01b0ng ghen t\u1ef5 b\u00ean trong.<\/p>\n

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                                                                                                          V\u1edbi bi\u1ec3u hi\u1ec7n b\u00ean ngo\u00e0i, c\u00f4 s\u1eb5n sang g\u00e2y g\u1ed5\u00a0 n\u00eau c\u00e1i \u201cC\u1ee7a t\u00f4i\u201d b\u1ecb l\u00e0m b\u1ebd m\u1eb7t bang b\u1ea5t k\u1ef3 c\u00e1ch n\u00e0o.C\u00e1i \u201cc\u1ee7a t\u00f4i\u201d\u00a0c\u1ee7a c\u00f4<\/strong>\u00a0c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 l\u00e0, v\u00ed d\u1ee5, ai \u0111\u00f3 n\u00f3i x\u1ea5u v\u1ec1 ch\u1ed3ng , con c\u00e1i, gia \u0111\u00ecnh, ngay c\u1ea3 gia \u0111\u00ecnh nh\u00e0 ch\u1ed3ng c\u1ee7a c\u00f4<\/strong>, tr\u01b0\u1eddng l\u1edbp\u00a0c\u1ee7a c\u00f4<\/strong>, ngay c\u1ea3 \u0111\u00e3 l\u00e2u c\u00f4 kh\u00f4ng c\u00f2n l\u00e0 sinh vi\u00ean, \u0111\u1ea5t nu\u1edbc, b\u1ea5t k\u1ef3 th\u1ee9 g\u00ec\u00a0<\/strong>c\u1ee7a c\u00f4<\/strong>.<\/p>\n

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                                                                                                          N\u1ebfu ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef s\u1eb5n l\u00f2ng hi\u1ec3u l\u1eddi gi\u00e0i th\u00edch n\u00e0y, s\u1ef1 vi\u1ec7c s\u1ebd d\u1ec5\u00a0 d\u00e0ng h\u01a1n cho h\u1ecd, cho ch\u1ed3ng,\u00a0 cho gia \u0111\u00ecnh. Nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi may m\u1eafn n\u00e0y c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 h\u01b0\u1edfng tu\u1ea7n tr\u0103ng m\u1eadt,. D\u01b0\u01a1i \u0111\u00e2y li\u1ec7t k\u00ea nh\u1eefng \u0111i\u1ec1u c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 x\u1ea3y ra:<\/p>\n

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                                                                                                          1. L\u00e3ng m\u1ea1n nh\u01b0 ng\u00e0y ngh\u1ec9 cu\u1ed1i tu\u1ea7n, d\u00e0nh cho ch\u1ed3ng m\u1edbi c\u01b0\u1edbi c\u1ea3m g\u00e1c vui v\u1ebb. S\u1edbm mu\u1ed9n g\u00ec th\u00ec tu\u1ea7n tr\u0103ng m\u1eadt c\u0169ng k\u1ebft th\u00fac, v\u00e0 cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng th\u01b0\u1eddng nh\u1eadt b\u00e1t \u0111\u1ea7u. L\u1ea1i b\u1eadn b\u1ecbu ng\u00e0y l\u1ea1i ng\u00e0y. \u00cdt nh\u1ea5t trong k\u00fd \u01b0\u00f3c c\u0169ng l\u00e0m s\u1ed1ng l\u1ea1i nh\u1eefng tr\u1ea3i nghi\u1ec7m ng\u1ecdt ng\u00e0o c\u1ee7a \u0111\u00f4i v\u1ee3 ch\u1ed3ng m\u1edbi c\u01b0\u1edbi..<\/li>\n
                                                                                                          2. L\u00e0 c\u01a1 h\u1ed9i cho ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef tr\u1ebb c\u00f3 c\u01a1 h\u1ed9i tr\u1ea3 c\u00e1i \u201cC\u1ee7a t\u00f4i\u201d c\u1ee7a c\u00f4 khi \u0111\u00f2i h\u1ecfi ch\u1ed3ng. Vi\u1ec7c v\u1eafng m\u1eb7t nh\u1eefng th\u00e0nh vi\u00ean trong gia \u0111\u00ecnh th\u00f4ng gia v\u00e0 trong khi ngh\u1ec9 c\u00f4 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 th\u01b0\u1edfng th\u1ee9c c\u1ea3m gi\u00e1c \u201cAnh \u1ea5y l\u00e0 c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh\u201d \u201cAnh \u1ea5y ch\u1ec9 l\u00e0 c\u1ee7a t\u00f4i, c\u1ee7a t\u00f4i th\u00f4i\u201d. Tu\u1ea7n tr\u0103ng m\u1eadt l\u00e0 d\u1ea5u ch\u1ec9 anh t\u00e1ch kh\u1ecfi gia \u0111\u00ecnh ngay c\u1ea3 ch\u1ec9 v\u1ebbn v\u1eb9n v\u00e0i ng\u00e0y. \u0110i\u1ec1u n\u00e0y x\u00e1c \u0111\u1ecbnh anh \u1ea5y l\u00e0 c\u1ee7a c\u00f4. Khi v\u1ec1 nh\u00e0, c\u00f4 c\u00f3 c\u1ea3m gi\u00e1c \u201canh \u1ea5y l\u00e0 c\u1ee7a t\u00f4i\u201d v\u00e0 chia s\u1ebb anh v\u1edbi m\u1ecdi ng\u01b0\u1eddi.<\/li>\n
                                                                                                          3. C\u0169ng l\u00e0 th\u1eddi gian m\u1eb9 ch\u1ed3ng ti\u1ebfn t\u1edbi s\u1ef1 ph\u00e1t tri\u1ec3n m\u1edbi v\u1edbi cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng c\u1ee7a con m\u00ecnh. B\u00e0 c\u1ea7n th\u1eddi gian n\u00e0y \u0111\u1ec3 nh\u1edb l\u1ea1i-\u0111\u00faa con b\u00e9 b\u1ecfng -c\u1eadu b\u00e9 con;\u00a0 Anh ch\u00e0ng to con; K\u1ebb c\u00f3 h\u1ecdc v\u1ea5n , c\u00e1i th\u1eddi anh v\u1ec1 nh\u00e0 v\u00e0 \u1ea5n v\u00e0o tay m\u1eb9 to\u00e0n b\u1ed9 ti\u1ec1n l\u01b0\u01a1ng \u0111\u1ea7u \u0111\u1eddi c\u1ee7a anh.Nhi\u1ec1u \u0111i\u1ec1u trong tr\u00e1i tim b\u00e0 \u0111\u1ef1\u01a1c nh\u1eb7t nh\u1ea1nh v\u00e0 xem l\u1ea1i t\u1eebng vi\u1ec7c m\u1ed9t. G\u1ecdt n\u01b0\u1edbc m\u00e1t s\u1ebd l\u0103n tr\u00ean m\u00e1 b\u00e0 v\u00e0 b\u00e0 c\u1ea7n th\u1eddi gian \u0111\u1ec3 l\u00e0m vi\u1ec7c n\u00e0y. N\u1ebfu b\u00e0 \u0111\u1ef1\u01a1c t\u1ea1o \u0111i\u1ec1u ki\u1ec7n \u0111\u1ec3 suy t\u01b0 nh\u0169ng k\u00fd \u01b0\u1edbc m\u1ed9t c\u00e1ch t\u1ed1t nh\u1ea5t, b\u00e0 s\u1ebd \u0111\u00f3n nh\u1eadn c\u00f4 con d\u00e2u m\u1ed9t c\u00e1ch \u1ea5m \u00e1p th\u1ef1c s\u1ef1 t\u1eeb tr\u00e1i tim khi \u0111i h\u01b0\u1edfng tu\u1ea7n tr\u0103ng m\u1eadt tr\u1edf v\u1ec1.M\u1ed9t s\u1ed1 ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 v\u01b0\u1ee3t qua c\u01a1n s\u1ed1c t\u00ecnh c\u1ea3m n\u00e0y m\u1ed9t c\u00e1ch d\u1ec5 d\u00e0ng. Tuy nhi\u00ean, h\u1ea7u h\u1ebft g\u1eb7p kh\u00f3 kh\u0103n. C\u0103n b\u1ea3n v\u00ec kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c \u0111\u00e0o t\u1ea1o \u0111\u1ec3 s\u00e3n l\u00f2ng kh\u00f4ng ngh\u0129 v\u1ec1 n\u00f3 n\u1eefa. Ng\u01b0\u1eddi ta kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u1ef1\u1ee3c gi\u00e1o d\u1ee5c \u0111\u1ea1t tr\u1ecdng t\u00e2m c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh n\u01a1i Ch\u00faa. Tr\u1ecdng t\u00e2m n\u00e0y gi\u1ea3i quy\u1ebft b\u1eb1ng con tim, kh\u00f4ng b\u1eb1ng l\u00fd tr\u00ed.\u0110\u1eb7c bi\u1ec7t khi hai ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e0n b\u00e0\u00a0 nh\u1eadn th\u1ea5y kh\u00f3 kh\u0103n, h\u1ecd c\u1ea7n ph\u1ea3i d\u00e2ng nh\u1eefng c\u1ea3m x\u00fac cho Ch\u00faa v\u00e0 kh\u1ea9n c\u1ea7u Ch\u00faa ng\u1ef1 v\u00e0o t\u00e2m h\u1ed3n m\u00ecnh. H\u1ecd c\u1ea7n \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c gi\u00e1o d\u1ee5c chu to\u00e0n nh\u1eefng c\u1ea3m x\u00fac ti\u00eau c\u1ef1c: Gi\u1eadn d\u1eef, ghen t\u1ef5, tham lam, cay \u0111\u1ed9c vv..cho Ch\u00faa. H\u1ecd ph\u1ea3i c\u1ea7u nguy\u1ec7n nh\u01b0:<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

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                                                                                                            1. \u201cL\u1ea1y Ch\u00faa, con c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y b\u1ef1c b\u1ed9i v\u1edbi\u2026\u2026Ch\u00faa h\u00e3y c\u1ea5t \u0111i c\u1ea3m gi\u00e1c n\u00e0y.\u201d Sau v\u00e0i l\u1ea7n ph\u1ea3n th\u00e2n tinh th\u1ea7n n\u00e0y v\u1ec1 vi\u1ec7c t\u1eeb b\u1ecf s\u1ebd tr\u1edf n\u00ean gi\u1ed1ng nh\u01b0 b\u1ea3n n\u0103ng th\u1ee9 hai v\u1edbi ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c. Qu\u00e1 tr\u00ecnh n\u00e0y s\u1ebd tr\u1edf th\u00e0nh mong mu\u1ed1n cho ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c t\u1ed1t \u0111\u1eb9p.<\/li>\n
                                                                                                            2. \u201cL\u1ea1y Ch\u00faa, con c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y \u0111\u1ed9c \u00e1c v\u1edbi \u2026.Xin Ch\u00faa c\u1ea5t \u0111i c\u1ea3m gi\u00e1c n\u00e0y. C\u1ea7u Ch\u00faa ph\u00f9 h\u1ed9 cho\u2026. V\u00e0 cho con.\u201d<\/li>\n
                                                                                                            3. \u0110\u1ea7u ti\u00ean th\u1ea5y kh\u00f3, nh\u01b0ng d\u1ea7n \u01a1n Ch\u00faa s\u1ebd gi\u00fap b\u1ea1n ho\u00e3n l\u1ea1i nh\u1eefng khuy\u1ebft\u00a0 \u0111i\u1ec3m v\u1ec1 c\u00e1i y\u1ebfu h\u00e8n c\u1ee7a ch\u00fang ta.<\/li>\n
                                                                                                            4. M\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 gi\u1eefa m\u1eb9 v\u1ee3 v\u00e0 con r\u1ec3, cu\u1ed1i c\u00f9ng s\u1ebd t\u1ed1t \u0111\u1eb9p h\u01a1n. Nh\u01b0ng \u0111\u00e2y c\u00f3 \u0111\u1ee7 b\u1eb1ng ch\u1ee9ng th\u1ec3 hi\u1ec7n m\u1eb9 v\u1ee3 c\u1ed1 g\u1eafng tr\u1edf n\u00ean t\u1ed1t h\u01a1n v\u1edbi con r\u1ec3 (v\u00e0 \u0111\u00e3 t\u1ed1t v\u1edbi con r\u1ec3 c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd) v\u00f3i m\u1ed9t s\u1ed1 l\u00fd do tr\u1edf ng\u1ea1i. Con r\u1ec3 s\u1ebd ph\u1ea3n \u00e1nh l\u1ea1i b\u1eb1ng c\u00e1ch gi\u1eef kho\u1ea3ng c\u00e1ch, th\u00e1i \u0111\u1ed9 xa l\u00e1nh, kh\u00f4ng th\u00edch v\u00e0 l\u1ea1nh nh\u1ea1t. V\u1ee3 kh\u00f4ng hi\u1ec3u \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c l\u00fd do, do \u0111\u00f3 c\u00f4 th\u01b0\u1eddng b\u0103n kho\u0103n \u201cM\u1eb9 m\u00ecnh t\u1ed1t v\u1edbi anh nh\u01b0 v\u1eady m\u00e0 anh ch\u1eb3ng t\u00f2 ra th\u00edch m\u1eb9.\u201d C\u00f4 c\u0169ng t\u1ef1 nh\u1ee7 l\u00e0m sao l\u1ea1i nh\u01b0 v\u1eady, nh\u1eefng ngu\u1eddi b\u1ea1n trai c\u00f9ng \u0111\u1ed9 tu\u1ed5i v\u1edbi ch\u1ed3ng m\u00ecnh c\u00f3 g\u1eb7p kh\u00f3 kh\u0103n trog vi\u1ec7c c\u00f3 t\u00ecnh c\u1ea3m v\u1edbi m\u1eb9 m\u00ecnh \u0111\u00e2u.<\/li>\n
                                                                                                            5. C\u00e1c m\u1eb9 v\u00e0 v\u1ee3 th\u01b0\u1eddng b\u0103n khoan t\u1ea1i sao \u00f4ng b\u1ed1 l\u1ea1i d\u1ec5 d\u00e0ng ho\u00e0 thu\u1eadn v\u00f3i con r\u1ec3 hay con d\u00e2u h\u01a1n.B\u1ed1 v\u1ee3\/ch\u1ed3ng xoay s\u1edf t\u00e0i t\u00ecnh, ngay c\u1ea3 ch\u00ednh h\u1ecd c\u00f3 l\u00fac r\u1ea5t kh\u00f3 kh\u0103n \u0111\u1ec3 t\u1ea1o \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 ho\u00e0 h\u1ee3p v\u1edbi ch\u00ecnh v\u1ee3 c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

                                                                                                              N\u00f3i chung, \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 h\u01b0\u1edbng \u201cc\u1ee7a t\u00f4i\u201d trong v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 n\u00e0y. Xem h\u1ed9i ch\u1ee9ng \u201cC\u1ee7a t\u00f4i\u201d c\u0169ng c\u00f3 trong ch\u01b0\u01a1ng Ghen T\u1ef5. V\u00ec th\u1ebf h\u1ecd \u00edt c\u00f3 t\u00ednh ch\u1ea5t chi\u1ebfm h\u1eefu h\u01a1n. Con d\u00e2u c\u0169ng nh\u01b0 con r\u1ec3 kh\u00f4ng bi\u1ebft b\u1eb1ng c\u00e1ch n\u00e0o h\u1ecd c\u1ea3m nh\u1eadn \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c \u0111i\u1ec1u n\u00e0y b\u1eb1ng b\u1ea3n n\u1eb1ng h\u01a1n l\u00e0 l\u00fd tr\u00ed. b\u1edfi v\u1eady, kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 c\u1ea3m gi\u00e1c s\u1ee3 h\u00e3i hay \u0111e\u00a0 do\u1ea1 n\u00e0o t\u1edbi b\u1ea5t k\u1ef3 ai trong m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7. Ch\u01b0ong 23 d\u00e0nh cho nh\u1eefng t\u00ecnh hu\u1ed1ng :S\u1ee3 h\u00e3i-\u0110e do\u1ea1\u201d.<\/p>\n

                                                                                                              Trong th\u1eddi gian d\u00e0i, ng\u01b0\u1eddi ta c\u1ed1 hi\u1ec3u v\u00e0 gi\u1ea3i th\u00edch c\u00e1ch c\u01b0 x\u1eed g\u00e2y ra c\u1ea3n tr\u1edf n\u00e0y. Nhi\u1ec1u h\u1ecdc thuy\u1ebft v\u00e0 l\u1eddi gi\u1ea3i ngh\u0129a \u0111u\u1ee3c \u0111\u01b0a ra. N\u1ebfu \u0111\u00e2y l\u00e0 v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1, s\u1ebd gi\u00fap s\u1ee9c \u0111\u1ec3 \u0111\u1ecdc nhi\u1ec1u h\u01a1n v\u1ec1 l\u0129nh v\u1ef1c \u0111\u1eb7c bi\u1ec7t n\u00e0y. Nh\u01b0 m\u1ed9t l\u1eddi c\u1ea3nh b\u00e1o. Kh\u00f4ng ai d\u00e1m kh\u1ea3ng \u0111\u1ecbnh vi\u1ec7c thi\u1ebfu hi\u1ec3u bi\u1ebft l\u00e0 d\u1ec5 d\u00e0ng. C\u00e1ch t\u1ed1t nh\u1eadn th\u1ef1c hi\u1ec7n v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0:<\/p>\n

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                                                                                                              1. C\u1ed1 g\u1eafng v\u00e0 hi\u1ec3u ch\u1eebng n\u00e0o c\u00f3 th\u1ec3.<\/li>\n
                                                                                                              2. H\u00e3y ch\u1ea5p nh\u1eadn m\u1ed9t s\u1ed1 l\u0129nh v\u1ef1c m\u00e0 b\u1ea1n kh\u00f3 hi\u1ec3u.<\/li>\n
                                                                                                              3. C\u1ed1 v\u00e0 c\u1ea3i thi\u1ec7n b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n b\u1eb1ng c\u00e1ch th\u1ec3 hi\u1ec7n m\u00ecnh l\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi t\u1ed1t h\u01a1n \u0111\u1ed1i v\u1edbi nh\u1eefng ngu\u1eddi trong gia \u0111\u00ecnh.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

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                                                                                                                1. A) The mother-in-law and daughter-in-law problem. By and large both parties have enough instinctive dislike and disagreement, which is a strain especially to the husband. He finds himself between two warring women, who are both his.\u00a0 \u00a0He cannot understand the reasons for the variety of disagreement that they so easily, and frequently, stir up.\u00a0 \u00a0He usually suffers a lot under the strain.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

                                                                                                                  What Husbands find difficult to understand is what switches\u00a0the\u00a0mother-in-law and daughter-in-law relationship.\u00a0 \u00a0Initially the mother-in-law-to-be and the daughter-in-law-to-be are the best of friends.\u00a0 \u00a0A wedding and a few hours later, they begin to show signs of rivalry.\u00a0 \u00a0The poor husband is bewildered at what is suddenly going wrong.\u00a0 \u00a0He also feels his happiness is rapidly turning into gloom and sadness.\u00a0 \u00a0Slowly he sinks into a state of wondering whether there is a method to their madness.\u00a0 \u00a0Before the marriage, the situation was:<\/p>\n

                                                                                                                  The boy\u2019s mother is anxious to get\u00a0her son<\/strong>\u00a0married.\u00a0 \u00a0This lady has seen and helped\u00a0her son<\/strong>\u00a0through the many \u2018Miles stones\u2019 in his life as a baby, a child and as a young man.\u00a0 \u00a0Now the milestone of marriage has to be set in place and hacked from her, \u2018TO DO LIST\u2019.\u00a0 \u00a0Armed with this, sense of duty,\u00a0she mentally compares every prospective young lady with an imaginary yet exhaustive, checklist.\u00a0 \u00a0As his mother, she wants the best for\u00a0her son.\u00a0<\/strong>\u00a0<\/strong>She is eager that\u00a0her son<\/strong>\u00a0gets his food exactly the way he likes it.\u00a0 \u00a0She tells the fianc\u00e9e-to-be all she can about\u00a0her son,<\/strong>\u00a0and is most eager to answer all her questions.<\/p>\n

                                                                                                                  On a more advanced plane, there is a feeling towards eternity.\u00a0 This feeling is in all people.\u00a0\u00a0 Even though our life on earth is limited, we instinctively try to enable continuity through our children and grand children.\u00a0 The young lady is now that factor by which she will get grand children.<\/p>\n

                                                                                                                  The young lady is equally anxious to know all about\u00a0her husband-to-be<\/strong>.\u00a0 \u00a0She wants to please him and make the best possible impression.\u00a0 \u00a0She wants to know the, \u201cWhole Story\u201d about his being.\u00a0 \u00a0The best resource person is obviously his mother.\u00a0 \u00a0(In similar ways, are his sisters, sister-in-laws, cousins, and friends).<\/p>\n

                                                                                                                  Basically, there is nothing wrong with this.\u00a0 \u00a0It is only fair that the young lady wants to know about\u00a0her future husband<\/strong>\u00a0from the best possible source.\u00a0 \u00a0It is equally fair that the mother wants to equip the future daughter-in-law with all the tips needed to be a good wife to\u00a0her son<\/strong>.<\/p>\n

                                                                                                                  So both of them go on, as, great friends.\u00a0 \u00a0The mother enjoying talking about\u00a0her son<\/strong>\u00a0in great detail and the young lady enjoys listening and daydreaming at the same time.<\/p>\n

                                                                                                                  After many stories with heart to heart talks and cooking recipes later, the young lady gets married.<\/p>\n

                                                                                                                  This is when both women reach an\u2018Emotional Super High\u2019.\u00a0<\/strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\u00a0Eventually the super high has to fall.\u00a0 \u00a0It is a question of where the emotion is allowed to fall.\u00a0 \u00a0It can fall into\u00a0\u2018understanding\u2019<\/strong>\u00a0<\/strong>or it can fall into\u00a0\u2018POSSESSIVENESS\u2019.\u00a0 \u00a0<\/strong>If possessiveness falls into place, the\u00a0MY Syndrome<\/strong>\u00a0will come into effect.<\/p>\n

                                                                                                                  When a boy marries, three major psychological upheavals result.<\/p>\n

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                                                                                                                  1)\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 In the HEART of the mother, she FEELS a long and cherished binding is breaking.\u00a0 \u00a0She feels she is forced to relinquish her hold on\u00a0her dear son<\/strong>.\u00a0 \u00a0Still worse she feels she has to side step to make way for another woman.\u00a0 \u00a0It is not reasoning, it is FEELING, it is, instinct.<\/p>\n

                                                                                                                  2)\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 In the HEART of the daughter-in-law, she FEELS\u00a0she has to<\/strong>\u00a0establish a binding.\u00a0 \u00a0She feels she is forced to assert her right of claim.\u00a0 \u00a0Still worse, she feels she has to get rid of the other woman in her husband\u2019s life.\u00a0 \u00a0It is MY husband.\u00a0 \u00a0Here too, It is not reasoning, it is FEELING, it is, instinct.<\/p>\n

                                                                                                                  3)\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 In the MIND of the husband\/son.\u00a0 \u00a0He KNOWS that his relationship with his mother is different and unique to that of his wife.\u00a0 \u00a0There is no question that either of these two women can switch places with each other.<\/p>\n

                                                                                                                  The interesting part is, that when it concerns another person\u2019s son \/ husband, both these women will agree that the mother\u2019s role is different from the wife\u2019s role even with respect to the position each will occupy in the man\u2019s heart.\u00a0 \u00a0And yet when it comes to their own son \/ husband they act differently.\u00a0 \u00a0Here again we see, it is not a question of the intellect, it is a question of raw feelings.<\/p>\n

                                                                                                                  The reason is actually quite simple, when they look at other people \u00ad they think with their HEAD.\u00a0 \u00a0When they look at themselves, they think with their HEART.\u00a0 \u00a0In other words, when it comes to their own son \/ husband EMOTIONS over ride brains.\u00a0 \u00a0In simple terms they are willing to fight.\u00a0 \u00a0Each wants to remove the other\u2019s MY BLANKET and have only her own blanket firmly and securely spread over her possession \u2013 the man.<\/p>\n

                                                                                                                  Because of their emotional possessiveness and their willingness to fight, they inherently have reflexive action to this trait, that is: They instinctively, wish to be fought about.\u00a0 \u00a0This reflexive action does not come about as a result of marriage- it was there all the time.<\/p>\n

                                                                                                                  For example two guys may be ready to come to blows at a dance because of a girl.\u00a0 \u00a0This catastrophe sends the girl into an EMOTIONAL SUPER-HIGH.\u00a0 \u00a0She will remember it for years to come.\u00a0 \u00a0She may protest the two fighting in general, but she will still cherish the remembrance because she was fought- Her emotional self worth has jumped up many points.\u00a0 \u00a0She is elated, \u201cI was fought over !!!\u201d.\u00a0 \u00a0She will brag, \u201c Men fought over me.\u201d\u00a0 \u00a0And other girls will say \u201cWow\u201d on the outside and feel jealous on the inside.<\/p>\n

                                                                                                                  By the same token she is very willing to get pugnacious if her \u201cMY\u201d is put down in any way.\u00a0 \u00a0Her MY can be, for example, some one talking bad about\u00a0her<\/strong>husband,\u00a0her<\/strong>\u00a0children,\u00a0her<\/strong>\u00a0family, everher<\/strong>\u00a0husband\u2019s family,\u00a0her<\/strong>\u00a0school, even though she is no longer a student,\u00a0her<\/strong>country,\u00a0her<\/strong>\u00a0whatever.<\/p>\n

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                                                                                                                  REASONING.<\/p>\n

                                                                                                                  If women were willing to understand this explanation, it would make things much easier for themselves, their husband and family.<\/p>\n

                                                                                                                  For those lucky ones who can go for a HONEY MOON, this is one of the best things that can happen, because:<\/p>\n

                                                                                                                  (1)\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 It is a romantic time like a holiday.\u00a0 \u00a0It gives the newly Wed couple time to feel good.\u00a0 \u00a0Sooner or later the honey moon will come to an end, and regular life will begin.\u00a0\u00a0 There will be lots of ups and downs in the normal day-to-day living.\u00a0 \u00a0At least in their memory they can re-live this nice experience of being newly wed.<\/p>\n

                                                                                                                  (2)\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 It is a time when the young lady has the chance to spread her, \u201cMY\u201d claim over her husband.\u00a0 \u00a0Being away from the in-laws and on holiday she can relish the feeling of, \u201cHe is Mine.\u201d\u00a0\u00a0 \u201cHe is Only Mine.\u201d \u00a0\u00a0The Honeymoon was a definite break away from his family, even if it was only for a few days.\u00a0 \u00a0This gives a definition that now she has him.\u00a0 When they come back, she has the feeling \u2018He is mine\u2019, and I am willing to share him with you.<\/p>\n

                                                                                                                  (3)\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 It is also supposed to be the time when the mother-in-law can come to terms with this new development in her son\u2019s life.\u00a0 \u00a0She needs this time to walk down memory lane \u00ad to remember her tiny baby; her small boy; her big scout; her graduate; the time when he came home and placed his whole first pay in her hands.\u00a0 \u00a0There are so many things in a mother\u2019s heart that she will pick up and re-look at, one by one.\u00a0 \u00a0Tears will most certainly roll down her cheeks and she needs time and quite to do just this.\u00a0 \u00a0If she is given a chance to do this emotional adjustment well, she will able to greet her daughter-in-law as they came back from the honeymoon. \u00a0with genuine warmth in her heart.<\/p>\n

                                                                                                                  Some women can survive these heart-shaking emotions well.\u00a0 \u00a0Most, however, will have difficulties.\u00a0 \u00a0The basic difficulty is the lack of training to be willing to let-go.\u00a0 \u00a0People are not trained to place their focus in God.\u00a0 \u00a0This focusing is done with the HEART not with the intellect.\u00a0 \u00a0Especially since both women find it so difficult, they need to surrender their feelings to GOD.\u00a0 \u00a0And ask God to come into their heart.\u00a0 \u00a0They have to be conscientiously trained to place each negative emotion of Anger, Jealousy, Possessiveness, Bitterness, Resentment, etc.\u00a0 \u00a0to GOD.\u00a0 \u00a0They have to say for example,<\/p>\n

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                                                                                                                  1. \u201cDear God, I am feeling resentful towards. .\u00a0 .\u00a0 .\u00a0 .\u00a0 .\u00a0 .\u00a0 .You please take this feeling.\u201d<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

                                                                                                                    After sometime, this spiritual reflex of surrender will become like second nature.<\/p>\n

                                                                                                                    The stage beyond this would be to wish the other person well, for example:<\/p>\n

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                                                                                                                    1. \u201cDear God, I am feeling bitterness towards . .\u00a0 .\u00a0 You please take this feeling.\u00a0 \u00a0Bless .\u00a0 .\u00a0 .\u00a0 .\u00a0 .\u00a0 .\u00a0 .\u00a0 .\u00a0 .\u00a0 \u00a0and bless me also.\u201d<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n
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                                                                                                                      1. a) Initially it will be very difficult, but gradually the grace of God will help you to stand over these defects of our fallen nature.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n
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                                                                                                                        1. b) The mother-in-law and son-in-law relationship is by and large, better. But even here there are more than enough evidences to show that the mother-in-law tries to be good to their son in laws, (and they are good to their son-in-laws).\u00a0 \u00a0For some baffling reason, the son-in-law responds with distance, aloofness, dislike, and coolness.\u00a0 \u00a0The wife cannot understand the reason.\u00a0 \u00a0She often wonders, \u201cMy mother is so good to him, and he does not show liking for her.\u201d\u00a0 \u00a0She also wonders how it is that other male friends of similar age or back ground as her husband have no difficulty in liking her mother.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n
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                                                                                                                          1. c) What wives and mothers sometimes wonder is how fathers seem to get along much better with their son-in-laws and daughter-in-laws. Father in law may get on very well, even though, they themselves are having such a hard time to have a harmonious relationship with their own wife.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

                                                                                                                            In general, men are not \u2019MY\u2019 oriented in these Matters, (see \u201cME-MY Syndrome\u201d \u00ad Also see Chapter on Jealousy), hence they are less possessive.\u00a0 \u00a0Both the Son-in-law as well as the Daughter-in-law somehow perceives this, more by instinct rather than by reason.\u00a0 \u00a0Consequently there are no feelings of FEAR or THREAT to any of the people concerned.\u00a0 \u00a0Chapter 23 is devoted to FEAR-THREAT Situation.<\/p>\n

                                                                                                                            For ages people are trying to understand and explain these baffling behaviors.\u00a0 \u00a0Many theories and explanations have been put forth.\u00a0 \u00a0If this is a problem, it will certainly help to read more about this special area.\u00a0 As a word of caution, one must not assume that the understanding will be easy.\u00a0 \u00a0The best way to handle the issue is to:<\/p>\n

                                                                                                                            (a) Try and understand as much as you can.<\/p>\n

                                                                                                                            (b) Accept the fact that there are areas, which are difficult to understand.<\/p>\n

                                                                                                                            (c) Try and to improve ones own self by being better in-laws to the rest of the family.<\/p>\n

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                                                                                                                            C.10.\u00a0 TU\u1ed4I T\u00c1C<\/p>\n

                                                                                                                            M\u1ed9t trong nh\u0169ng nguy\u00ean nh\u00e2n g\u00e2y ra t\u00ecnh tr\u1ea1ng bu\u1ed3n r\u1ea7u ch\u00ednh l\u00e0 tu\u1ed5i t\u00e1c. H\u01b0\u1edbng ch\u1ee7 \u0111\u1ea1o c\u1ee7a s\u00e1ch n\u00e0y nh\u1eb1m v\u00e0o h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n tr\u1ebb v\u00e0 c\u00f3 l\u1ebd nh\u1eefng g\u00ec ch\u00fang ta gi\u1edbi h\u1ea1n l\u00e0 \u201cN\u1eeda \u0111\u1ea7u c\u1ee7a h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n\u201d.Do v\u1eady, g\u1ea7n nh\u01b0 l\u00e0 v\u00f4 d\u1ee5ng khi \u0111\u01b0a nh\u0169ng t\u1eeb ng\u1eef \u0111\u00f3 v\u00e0o ch\u1ee7 \u0111\u1ec1 n\u00e0y.Nh\u01b0ng h\u00e3y xem l\u1ea1i nh\u1eefng g\u00ec ch\u00fang ta\u00a0 \u0111ang v\u00e0 s\u1ebd \u0111\u1ecdc- \u0110i\u1ebbm chung c\u1ee7a s\u00e1ch n\u00e0y l\u00e0:<\/p>\n

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                                                                                                                            1. \u0110\u1ec3 hi\u1ec3u nh\u1eefng g\u00ec trong quan h\u1ec7 h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n
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                                                                                                                              1. \u0110\u1ec3 mang l\u1ea1i c\u00e1i nh\u00ecn m\u1edbi \u0111\u1ec3 \u0111em l\u1ea1i cu\u1ed9c h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n ho\u00e0 thu\u1eadn.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

                                                                                                                                V\u1edbi hai tinh th\u1ea7n n\u00e0y trong t\u00e2m tr\u00ed, ch\u00fang ta c\u1ed1 hi\u1ec3u \u0111\u1ef1\u01a1c t\u00ecnh h\u00ecnh m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n c\u1ee7a ch\u00fang ta. M\u1ed9t m\u1eb7t \u0111\u1ec3 ta bi\u1ebft \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c nh\u1eefng g\u00ec \u0111\u00e3 x\u1ea3y ra v\u00e0 nh\u1eefng tr\u00e1ch nhi\u1ec7m qu\u00e1 kh\u1ee9 \u0111\u00e3 kh\u1eafc v\u00e0o k\u00fd \u01b0\u1edbc.V\u00e0 gi\u1edd \u0111\u00e2y, h\u1ecb\u00ean t\u1ea1i l\u00e0 ch\u00fang ta, nh\u01b0ng nh\u1eefng s\u1ef1 ki\u1ec7n n\u00e0y c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 x\u1ea3y ra trong t\u01b0\u01a1ng lai. Ch\u00fang ta kh\u00f4ng h\u1ec1 c\u00f3 kinh nghi\u1ec7m n\u00e0o v\u1ec1 t\u01b0\u01a1ng lai.Ch\u1ec9 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 d\u1ef1a v\u00e0o vi\u1ec7c quan s\u00e1t v\u1ec1 nh\u1eefng g\u00ec x\u1ea3y ra v\u1edbi ng\u01b0\u1eddi cao tu\u1ed5i h\u01a1n. B\u1eb1ng c\u00e1ch \u1ea5y, \u00edt nh\u1ea5t c\u0169ng bi\u1ebft \u0111\u1ef1oc v\u00e0i \u0111i\u1ec1u g\u00ec \u0111\u00f3 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 x\u1ea3y ra do \u0111\u1ed9 tu\u1ed5i \u0111\u00f3 mang l\u1ea1i.V\u00ec quan s\u00e1t nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi gi\u00e0 h\u01a1n, nh\u1eefng v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 c\u1ee7a \u0111\u1ed9 tu\u1ed5i \u0111\u00f3 kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i t\u1ea5t c\u1ea3 \u0111\u1ec1u xa l\u1ea1 v\u1edbi ch\u00fang ta. Ch\u00fang ta \u0111ang ti\u1ebfn t\u1edbi tu\u1ed5i \u0111\u00f3. Do v\u1eady, ch\u00fang ta c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y nh\u1eefng l\u1eddi \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c s\u1eed d\u1ee5ng v\u00e0o ch\u1ee7 \u0111\u1ec1 n\u00e0y s\u1ebd g\u00f3p ph\u1ea7n v\u00e0o s\u1ef1 ph\u00e1t tri\u1ec3n nh\u1eefng hi\u1ec3u bi\u1ebft v\u00e0 quan \u0111i\u1ec3m\u00a0 c\u1ee7a ch\u00fang ta. B\u1eb1ng c\u00e1ch \u0111\u00f3, ch\u00fang ta \u0111ang nh\u00ecn v\u00e0o b\u1ed1i c\u1ea3nh r\u1ed9ng l\u1edbn h\u01a1n v\u1ec1 t\u00ecnh h\u00ecnh h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n tr\u1ebb m\u00e0 th\u1ea5y m\u00ecnh trong \u0111\u00f3.<\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                \u0110\u1ed1i v\u1edbi m\u1ed9t s\u1ed1 vi\u1ec7c khi v\u1ec1 h\u01b0u , l\u00e0m thay \u0111\u1ed5i to\u00e0n b\u1ed9 c\u00e1ch s\u1ed1ng. L\u1eddi khuy\u00ean ch\u00e2n th\u00e0nh l\u00e0 ph\u1ea3i th\u1ea5u hi\u1ec3u t\u00ecnh h\u00ecnh tru\u00f3c \u0111\u00f3 kho\u1ea3ng 5 n\u0103m. V\u00e0 c\u1ea3 hai v\u1ee3 ch\u1ed3ng ph\u1ea3i c\u00f3 c\u00f9ng c\u00e1ch ngh\u0129 ch\u00ednh x\u00e1c. Kh\u00f4ng chu\u1ea9n b\u1ecb \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c \u0111i\u1ec1u n\u00e0y, th\u01b0\u1eddng s\u1ebd g\u1eb7p nh\u1eefng c\u00fa s\u1ed1c \u0111\u1ed9t ng\u1ed9t v\u00e0 d\u1eef d\u1ed9i. C\u0169ng v\u00f4 c\u00f9ng kh\u00f3 kh\u0103n v\u00ec \u0111\u1ed9 tu\u1ed5i \u0111\u00f3 r\u1ea5t kh\u00f3 ch\u1ea5p nh\u1eadn s\u1ef1 kh\u00f3 kh\u0103n \u0111\u00f3. C\u00e1ch ngh\u0129 kh\u00e1c, s\u1ee9c l\u1ef1c \u0111\u1ec3 thay \u0111\u1ed5i l\u1ea1i tr\u1edf n\u00ean c\u1ee9ng nh\u1eafc h\u01a1n. (Kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 lay chuy\u1ec3n). \u0110i\u1ec1u n\u00e0y mang l\u1ea1i r\u1eafc r\u1ed1i cho b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n h\u1ecd v\u00e0 nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c.<\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                Ch\u00fang ta h\u00e3y th\u1eed v\u00e0 \u0111\u01b0a ra \u00edt nh\u1ea5t hai v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 li\u00ean quan t\u1edbi tu\u1ed5i t\u00e1c. Nh\u1eefng v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 kh\u00e1c s\u1ebd xu\u1ea5t hi\u1ec7n t\u1ea1i nh\u1eefng ph\u1ea7n kh\u00e1c trong s\u00e1ch n\u00e0y.<\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                M\u1ee5c \u0111\u00edch \u0111\u1ec1 c\u1eadp d\u01b0\u1edbi \u0111\u00e2y:<\/p>\n

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                                                                                                                                1. \u0110\u1ec3 bi\u1ebft ngu\u1ed3n g\u1ed1c s\u1ef1 bu\u1ed3n r\u1ea7u t\u1ef1 nhi\u00ean n\u1ed5i l\u00ean b\u1ea5t g\u1edd trong \u0111\u1eddi s\u1ed1ng h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n.<\/li>\n
                                                                                                                                2. \u0110\u1ec3 hi\u1ec3u nh\u1eefng l\u00fd do c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 x\u1ea3y ra v\u1edbi nh\u1eefng kh\u00f3 kh\u0103n \u0111\u00f3, c\u00f3 l\u1ebd c\u1ea3 nh\u1eefng tr\u1ea3i nghi\u1ec7m n\u1ea3n long \u0111\u00e3 g\u00e2y\u00a0 cho ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c..<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

                                                                                                                                  M\u1ed9t th\u1eddi gian r\u1ea5t d\u00e0i, ch\u00fang ta \u0111\u00e3 nghe nh\u1eebng \u0111i\u1ec1u do tr\u00ed \u00f3c m\u00e1ch b\u1ea3o. Nh\u1eefng \u0111i\u1ec1u ta kh\u00f4ng quan t\u00e2m khi c\u00f2n tr\u1ebb h\u01a1n; c\u00f3 c\u00e2u nh\u01b0 \u201cc\u00e2u h\u1ecfi\u201d v\u00e0 c\u00f3 nh\u1eefng c\u00e2u nh\u01b0 \u201cb\u00e0y t\u1ecf\u201d. \u201cc\u00e2u h\u1ecfi v\u00e0 \u2018b\u00e0y t\u1ecf\u201d \u0111\u00e3 t\u00e1c \u0111\u1ed9ng m\u1ea1nh m\u1ebd v\u00e0o m\u1ed9t s\u1ed1 ng\u01b0\u1eddi. Trong khi s\u1ed1 kh\u00e1c l\u1ea1i t\u00e1c \u0111\u1ed9ng t\u1eeb t\u1eeb.\u00a0 \u201cC\u00e2u h\u1ecfi\u201d v\u00e0\u00a0 \u201cL\u1eddi b\u00ecnh\u201d nghe nh\u01b0 sau:<\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                  \u201cB\u1ea5t ng\u1edd t\u00f4i kh\u00f4ng c\u00f2n tr\u1ebb n\u1eefa!\u201d<\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                  \u201cT\u00f4i kh\u00f4ng th\u00e0nh c\u00f4ng m\u1ea5y!\u201d<\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                  \u201cKh\u00f4ng c\u00f2n th\u1eddi gian \u0111\u1ec3 theo \u0111u\u1ed5i ho\u00e0i b\u00e3o c\u1ee7a t\u00f4i n\u1eefa r\u1ed3i!\u201d<\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                  \u201cKh\u00f4ng \u0111\u1ef1\u01a1c chu c\u1ea5p \u0111\u1ea7y \u0111\u1ee7 cho tu\u1ed5i g\u00eca- Ch\u00fang t\u00f4i s\u1ebd l\u00e0m g\u00ec?<\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                  Kh\u00f4ng l\u00e0m \u0111\u1ef1\u01a1c nh\u1eefng th\u1ee9 tr\u1ee9\u01a1c kia t\u00f4i v\u1eabn l\u00e0m.<\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                  T\u00f4i kh\u00f4ng c\u00f2n c\u00f3 \u00edch<\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                  S\u1ee9c kh\u1ecfe kh\u00f4ng c\u00f2n nh\u01b0 tr\u01b0\u1edbc<\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                  Ch\u1ec9 th\u1ea5y m\u00ecnh t\u1ec7 h\u01a1n th\u00f4i<\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                  T\u00f4i th\u1ea5y v\u1eabn d\u1ec5 coi ch\u1ee9?<\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                  Anh\/Ch\u1ecb v\u1ea5n mu\u1ed1n \u0111i xem v\u1edbi t\u00f4i \u00e0?<\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                  Nh\u1eefng \u0111i\u1ec1u tr\u01b0\u1edbc kia kh\u00f4ng l\u00e0m t\u00f4i b\u1ef1c m\u00ecnh, gi\u1edd th\u1eadt kh\u1ee7ng khi\u1ebfp.<\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                  Ch\u1eb3ng c\u00f2n \u00edch l\u1ee3i g\u00ec<\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                  Ch\u1eb3ng th\u1ec3 l\u00e0m g\u00ec \u0111\u1ec3 quanh qu\u1ea9n \u1edf nh\u00e0 b\u00ean anh \u1ea5y.<\/p>\n

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                                                                                                                                  Ch\u1ec9 suy ngh\u0129 \u0111i\u1ec1u n\u00e0y khi ngh\u1ec9 ng\u01a1i hay tho\u00e1t kh\u1ecfi c\u0103ng th\u1eb3ng cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng.<\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                  Nh\u01b0ng gi\u1edd \u0111\u00e2y \u0111\u1ea7u \u00f3c kh\u00f4ng cho t\u00f4i ngh\u1ec9 v\u00e0 nh\u1eefng c\u0103ng th\u1ea3ng ch\u1ec9 l\u00e0 s\u1ef1 kh\u00e1c nhau.<\/p>\n

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                                                                                                                                  Thi\u1ebfu hay thu nh\u1eadp \u00edt do \u0111\u00f3 c\u00f3 nh\u1eefng thay \u0111\u1ed5i do hoocm\u00f4n g\u00e2y ra.Thi\u1ebfu kh\u1ea3 n\u0103ng chi\u1ee5 \u0111\u1ef1ng, \u0111\u1eb7c bi\u1ec7t do con ch\u00e1u v\u00e2y quanh. Ch\u00ednh n\u00f3 t\u1ea1o ra m\u1ec7t m\u1ecfi, m\u1ec7t m\u1ecfi g\u00e2y c\u00e1u g\u1eaft, t\u1ee9c gi\u1eadn v\u00e0 cu\u1ed1i c\u00f9ng l\u00e0 c\u1ea3m g\u00e1c t\u1ed9i l\u1ed7i x\u1ea5u xa. Qu\u00e1 tr\u00ecnh n\u00e0y c\u1ee9 ti\u1ebfp di\u1ec5n. T\u00ednh ch\u1ea5t n\u00e0y \u0111\u1ecdng m\u00e3i trong \u0111\u1ea7u nh\u01b0 s\u1ef1 th\u1ef1c v\u00e0 nh\u1eefng \u1ea3nh h\u01b0\u1edfng c\u1ee7a c\u1ea3m gi\u00e1c n\u00e0y \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c \u0111\u01b0a v\u00e0o x\u1eed s\u1ef1 trong m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 c\u00e1 nh\u00e2n. Khi tu\u1ed5i c\u00e0ng cao, con ng\u01b0\u1eddi c\u00f3 xu h\u01b0\u1edbng nh\u01b0 tr\u1ebb con; \u0110\u1ec1u n\u00e0y \u0111\u00e3 g\u00e2y ra ph\u1ea3m \u1ee9ng khi\u1ebfn h\u1ecd b\u1ecb x\u00fac ph\u1ea1m. \u0110o\u1ea1n tr\u01b0\u1edbc, ch\u00fang ta li\u1ec7t k\u00ea ra 10 y\u1ebfu t\u1ed1 g\u00e2y cho ph\u1ee5 n\u1eefa bu\u1ed3n r\u1ea7u v\u00e0 ch\u00fang ta s\u1eafp x\u1ebfp theo tr\u00ecnh t\u1ef1 quan tr\u1ecdng. N\u1ebfu s\u1eafp x\u1ebfp theo tr\u00ecnh t\u1ef1 c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi tr\u1ebb th\u00ec \u2018\u0111\u1ed9 tu\u1ed5i\u2019 c\u00f3 l\u00fd \u1edf \u0111i\u1ec3m cu\u1ed1i b\u1ea3ng \u01b0u ti\u00ean, nh\u01b0ng n\u1ebfu gi\u00e0 h\u01a1n, t\u00ecnh hu\u1ed1ng s\u1ebd kh\u00e1c. V\u00e0 s\u1ebd chi\u1ebfm\u00a0 m\u1ed9t v\u1ecb tr\u00ed cao h\u01a1n. Khi th\u1ea5y qua con m\u1eaft c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi tr\u1ebb, v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 n\u00e0y kh\u00f4ng\u00a0 c\u00f3 g\u00ec \u0111\u1eb7c bi\u1ec7t. Do v\u1eady, h\u1ecd d\u1ec5 d\u00e0ng ch\u1ea5p nh\u1eadn quan \u0111i\u1ec3m kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u00fang l\u00fac c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi gia, ng\u01b0\u1eddi gi\u00e0 c\u0169ng l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t ph\u1ea7n cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd.<\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                  N\u1ed7 l\u1ef1c c\u0103n b\u1ea3n l\u00e0 \u0111\u01b0a t\u1ea5t c\u1ea3 quan \u0111i\u1ec3m v\u00e0o b\u1ed1i c\u1ea3nh ch\u00ednh x\u00e1c. \u0110\u00e2y l\u00e0 nhi\u1ec7m v\u1ee5 l\u00e2u d\u00e0i c\u1ee7a \u0111\u1eddi ng\u01b0\u1eddi- cu\u1ed9c ch\u1ea1y \u0111ua m\u00e0 ta l\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi tham gia nh\u01b0 th\u00e1nh Phaol\u00f4 di\u1ec5n t\u1ea3:<\/p>\n

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                                                                                                                                  2 Timothy 4:7<\/strong> \u201cT\u00f4i \u0111\u00e3 thi \u0111\u1ea5u trong cu\u1ed9c \u0111\u1ea5u cao \u0111\u1eb9p, \u0111\u00e3 ch\u1ea1y h\u1ebft ch\u1ea1ng \u0111\u01b0\u1eddng, \u0111\u00e3 gi\u1eef v\u1eefng ni\u1ec1m tin\u201d<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                  \u201cI HAVE FOUGHT THE GOOD FIGHT, I HAVE FINISHED THE RACE, I HAVE KEPT THE FAITH.\u201d \u00a0\u00a0\u00a02 Timothy 4:7.<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                  Cu\u1ed9c \u0111ua ch\u00fang ta tham gia kh\u00f4ng ch\u1ed1ng l\u1ea1i tu\u1ed5i gi\u00e0 nh\u01b0ng l\u00e0m \u0111i\u1ec1u t\u1ed1t, g\u1ed3m t\u1ea1o ra quan \u0111\u1ec3m \u0111\u00fang \u0111\u1ec3 khi \u0111\u1ebfn tu\u1ed5i gi\u00e0, ch\u00fang ta c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 nh\u00ecn l\u1ea1i v\u00e0 nh\u01b0 th\u00e1nh Phaol\u00f4 n\u00f3i\u00a0<\/span>2 TIMOTHY 4:7\u00a0 \u201c\u201d<\/span><\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                  \u0110\u1ec3 ki\u1ec3m nghi\u1ec7m xem Kinh th\u00e1nh n\u00f3i g\u00ec.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                  Ch\u00fang ta h\u00e3y tr\u1edf l\u1ea1i v\u1edbi Kinh Th\u00e1nh. Th\u01b0 c\u1ee7a Th\u00e1nh\u00a0<\/span><\/span>Ph\u00ear\u00f4\u00a0<\/span>Peter 3:7<\/span><\/strong><\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/b><\/span>1 Peter.3: 7<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

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                                                                                                                                  \u201cC\u0169ng v\u1eady, anh em l\u00e0 nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi ch\u1ed3ng, trong cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng chung, anh em n\u00ean hi\u1ec3u r\u1eb1ng \u0111\u00e0n b\u00e0 thu\u1ed9c ph\u00e1i y\u1ebfu; h\u00e3y t\u1ecf l\u00f2ng qu\u00fd tr\u1ecdng v\u00ec h\u1ecd c\u0169ng \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c h\u01b0\u1edfng s\u1ef1 s\u1ed1ng l\u00e0 h\u1ed3ng \u00e2n Ch\u00faa ban. Nh\u01b0 th\u1ebf, vi\u1ec7c c\u1ea7u nguy\u1ec7n c\u1ee7a anh ch\u1ecb em s\u1ebd kh\u00f4ng b\u1ecb ng\u0103n tr\u1edf\u201d <\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                  \u201cLIKEWISE YOU HUSBANDS, DWELL WITH THEM WITH UNDERSTANDING.\u00a0 .\u00a0 .\u00a0 \u201d <\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

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                                                                                                                                  The words WITH UNDERSTANDING also implies the word \u2018KNOWLEDGE\u2019 \u00ad if you do not have knowledge, how can you effectively understand.\u00a0 \u00a0But this is a remarkable paradox.\u00a0 \u00a0God says a husband should live with his wife with understanding (and knowledge of her basic nature and needs).\u00a0 \u00a0But as we mentioned earlier most men know very little about the emotional mechanics and the make up about the female race.\u00a0 \u00a0Is that the reason why so many marriage break up?<\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                  When God says, husbands live with understanding towards your wives, it must obviously be possible, that husbands can have some idea about wives.\u00a0 \u00a0Even though this statement, seems to run contra to popular opinion.<\/p>\n

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                                                                                                                                  The second half of this verse of 1 Peter 3:7<\/span><\/strong> reads,<\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                  \u201c.\u00a0 .\u00a0 .\u00a0 \u00a0GIVING HONOR TO THE WIFE, AS TO THE WEAKER VESSEL, AND AS BEING HEIRS TOGETHER OF THE GRACE OF LIFE, THAT YOUR PRAYERS MAY NOT BE HINDERED.\u201d<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

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                                                                                                                                  Nh\u1eefng t\u1eeb ng\u1eef c\u1ea7n s\u1ef1 hi\u1ec3u bi\u1ebft c\u0169ng g\u1ee3i \u00fd nh\u1eefng \u2018ki\u1ebfn th\u1ee9c\u2019. N\u1ebfu b\u1ea1n kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 ki\u1ebfn th\u1ee9c, l\u00e0m sao hi\u1ec3u\u00a0 th\u1ea5u \u0111\u00e1o. Nh\u01b0ng\u00a0 \u0111\u00e2y l\u00e0 \u00fd ki\u1ebfn ngu\u1eddi \u0111\u1eddi \u0111\u1eb7c bi\u1ec7t. Ch\u00faa n\u00f3i con ng\u01b0\u1eddi s\u1ebd s\u1ed1ng v\u1edbi v\u1ee3 m\u00ecnh b\u1eb1ng s\u1ef1 hi\u1ec3u bi\u1ebft(Ki\u1ebfn th\u1ee9c v\u1ec1 b\u1ea3n ch\u1ea5t t\u1ef1 nhi\u00ean v\u00e0 nhu c\u1ea7u c\u1ee7a c\u00f4.).Nh\u01b0 t\u00f4i \u0111\u00e3 n\u00f3i, \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng bi\u1ebft r\u1ea5t \u00edt v\u1ec1 b\u1ed9 m\u00e1y t\u00ecnh c\u1ea3m v\u00e0 b\u1ea3n ch\u1ea5t c\u1ee7a n\u1eef gi\u1edbi. Li\u1ec7u \u0111\u00e2y c\u00f3 ph\u1ea3i l\u00fd do cho bao cu\u1ed9c h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n tan v\u1ee1?<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                  Khi Ch\u00faa ph\u00e1n ch\u1ed3ng s\u1ed1ng v\u1edbi v\u1ee3 b\u1eb1ng s\u1ef1 hi\u1ec3u bi\u1ebft.Ch\u1eafc h\u1eb3n ch\u1ed3ng ph\u1ea3i c\u00f3 v\u00e0i \u00fd t\u01b0\u1edfng v\u1ec1 v\u1ee3 m\u00ecnh . Ngay c\u1ea3 v\u1ec7c tr\u00ecnh b\u00e0y n\u00e0y c\u0169ng \u0111i ng\u01b0\u1ee3c v\u1edbi c\u00f4ng lu\u1eadn. N\u1eeda ph\u1ea7n ti\u1ebft 2 c\u1ee7a\u00a0<\/span>1 Peter 3:7<\/span><\/strong>\u00a0<\/span>H\u00e3y coi v\u1ee3 nh\u01b0 con thuy\u1ec1n \u00e2u y\u1ebfm, ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef l\u00e0 con thuy\u1ec1n y\u1ebfu h\u01a1n. Kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 ngh\u0129a y\u1ebfu v\u1ec1 tinh th\u1ea7n, \u0111\u1ea1o \u0111\u1ee9c hay ph\u1ea9m ch\u1ea5t t\u00e2m h\u1ed3n; ch\u1ec9 l\u00e0 c\u01a1 th\u1ec3. Ngay c\u1ea3 \u00edt kh\u1ea3 n\u0103ng \u1ed1m \u0111au v\u00e0 gay c\u1ea3 c\u00f3 kh\u1ea3 n\u0103ng s\u1ed1ng l\u00e2u h\u01a1n. N\u00f3i chung, h\u1ecd l\u00e0 ph\u00e1i y\u1ebfu v\u00e0 l\u00e0 gi\u1ed1ng nh\u1ecf h\u01a1n. Ch\u00faa \u0111\u00e3 t\u1ea1o ra h\u1ecd nh\u01b0 v\u1eady. Do \u0111\u00f3, k\u1ebb y\u1ebfu h\u01a1n s\u1ebd d\u1ef1a v\u00e0o k\u1ebb kho\u1ebb m\u1ea1nh,b\u1edfi v\u1ee3 l\u00e0 th\u1ee5 t\u1ea1o y\u1ebfu h\u01a1n, n\u00ean c\u00f4 ph\u1ea3i d\u1ef1a v\u00e0o ch\u1ed3ng m\u00ecnh \u0111\u1ec3 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c chu c\u1ea5p v\u00e0 b\u1ea3o v\u1ec7. Nhi\u1ec7m v\u1ee5 c\u1ee7a anh\u00a0 l\u00e0 cung c\u1ea5p th\u1ee9c \u0103n, c\u00e1i m\u1eb7c, n\u01a1i \u1edf v\u00e0 s\u1ef1 che tr\u1edf. N\u00f3i c\u00e1ch kh\u00e1c, c\u00f4 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c trang b\u1ecb m\u1ed9t c\u00e1ch l\u00fd t\u01b0\u1edfng \u0111\u1ec3 sinh con v\u00e0 cung \u1ee9ng cho n\u00f3 s\u1ef1 \u1ea5m \u00e1p v\u00e0 t\u00ecnh th\u01b0\u01a1ng. \u0110\u00e2y l\u00e0 \u0111i\u1ec1u \u0111\u1ee9a tr\u1ebb c\u1ea7n. Tuy nhi\u00ean nh\u1eefng kh\u1ea3 n\u0103ng n\u00e0y, Ch\u00faa ban cho c\u00f4 l\u00e0 \u0111\u1ec3\u00a0 th\u1ef1c hi\u1ec7n nhi\u1ec7m v\u1ee5\u00a0 nu\u00f4i d\u1ea1y con c\u00e1i m\u1ed9t c\u00e1ch hi\u1ec7u qu\u1ea3. Vi\u1ec7c t\u00ecnh c\u1edd x\u1ea3y ra v\u1ec1 khu v\u1ef1c 2, c\u00e1i y\u1ebfu \u0111u\u1ed1i- nh\u1eefng x\u00fac c\u1ea3m c\u1ee7a c\u00f4. Ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef th\u01b0\u1eddng ph\u1ea3i \u0111\u1ed1i m\u1eb7t v\u1edbi t\u00e2m t\u00ednh thay \u0111\u1ed5i b\u1ea5t ng\u1edd v\u00e0 th\u00ecnh l\u00ecnh do qu\u00e1 tr\u00ecnh ho\u1ea1t \u0111\u1ed9ng ho\u00e1 h\u1ecdc t\u1ea1o ra b\u1edfi hoocm\u00f4n trong h\u1ec7 th\u1ed1ng sinh s\u1ea3n c\u1ee7a c\u00f4. \u0110o\u1ea1n tr\u01b0\u1edbc, ch\u00fang t\u00f4i \u0111\u00e3 l\u00eau ra v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 n\u00e0y m\u1ed9t c\u00e1ch t\u01b0\u01a1ng \u0111\u1ed1i. V\u00ec t\u00ednh ch\u1ea5t t\u00ecnh c\u1ea3m d\u1ec5 b\u1ecb t\u1ed5n th\u01b0\u1eddng n\u00e0y \u0111\u00e3 khi\u1ebfn c\u00f4 c\u00f3 c\u1ea3m gi\u00e1c ph\u1ea3i d\u1ef1a v\u00e0o ng\u01b0\u1eddi ch\u1ed3ng m\u00e0 Ch\u00faa \u0111\u00e3 t\u1eb7ng cho c\u00f4. C\u0169ng nh\u01b0 khi Ch\u00faa t\u1eb7ng cho Eva . \u201c\u201d\u00a0<\/span><\/span>GENESIS 3:16<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                  C\u00f4 nh\u00ecn anh v\u1edbi kh\u00e1t v\u1ecdng t\u1eadn trong l\u00f2ng \u0111\u1ec3 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c \u0111\u00e1p \u1ee9ng nh\u1eefng \u0111\u00f2i h\u1ecfi c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh. V\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 l\u00e0 anh ta l\u00e0m th\u1ebf n\u00e0o? \u0110\u00e2y kh\u00f4ng l\u00e0 c\u00e2u h\u1ecfi\u00a0 ng\u1eabu nhi\u00ean . R\u1ea5t s\u00e2u xa b\u1edfi ch\u1ed3ng n\u00f3i r\u1eb1ng:<\/span><\/p>\n

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                                                                                                                                  \u201cNg\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e0n b\u00e0 n\u00e0y l\u00fac n\u00e0o c\u0169ng l\u00e0m t\u00f4i \u0111au \u0111\u1edbn, ngay c\u1ea3 khi t\u00f4i \u0111ang c\u1ed1 v\u00e0 s\u1eb5n long gi\u00fap c\u00f4 ta, c\u00f4 l\u00e0m t\u1ed5n th\u01b0\u01a1ng t\u00ecnh c\u1ea3m c\u1ee7a con c\u00e1i t\u00f4i, ch\u00fang v\u00f4 t\u1ed9i. Ch\u00fang \u0111\u00e3 l\u00e0m g\u00ec?…. C\u00f4 ta ngu ng\u1ed1c \u0111\u1ebfn m\u1ee9c kh\u00f4ng\u00a0 nh\u1eadn ra m\u00ecnh \u0111\u00e3 l\u00e0m cho nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi y\u00eau th\u01b0\u01a1ng\u00a0 v\u00e0 gi\u00fap \u0111\u1ee1 c\u00f4 \u0111au \u0111\u1edbn kh\u1ee7ng khi\u1ebfp ch\u1eebng n\u00e0o. B\u1ea1n l\u00e0m sao c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 gi\u00fap nh\u1eefng k\u1ebb nh\u01b0 v\u1eady?\u201d<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                  \u201cTO THE WOMAN HE SAID: I WILL GREATLY MULTIPLY YOUR SORROW AND YOUR CONCEPTION.\u00a0 \u00a0\u00a0IN PAIN YOU SHALL BRING FORTH CHILDREN; YOUR DESIRE SHALL BE FOR YOUR HUSBAND; AND HE SHALL RULE OVER YOU.\u201d \u00a0\u00a0\u00a0<\/strong>Genesis 3:16<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                  C\u00f3 l\u1ebd nhi\u1ec1u b\u00e0 v\u1ee3 kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u1ea9y ch\u1ed3ng m\u00ecnh \u0111\u1ebfn m\u1ee9c suy ngh\u0129 kh\u1ee7ng khi\u1ebfp nh\u01b0 v\u1eady, \u0111\u1ebfn m\u1ee9c h\u1ecd c\u00f3 c\u1ea3m gi\u00e1c ph\u1ea3i ch\u1ecbu \u0111\u1ef1ng nh\u01b0 m\u1ed9t k\u1ebb \u201cngu\u201d, \u201cK\u1ebb t\u1ea1o ra \u0111au kh\u1ed5\u201d, \u201cTh\u1eb1ng ng\u1ed1c\u201d. Nh\u01b0ng \u0111\u1ec3 bi\u1ebfn \u0111\u1ed5i m\u1ee9c \u0111\u1ed9, c\u00f3 c\u1ea3m gi\u00e1c nh\u1ea5n m\u1ea1nh r\u1eb1ng \u0111i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00f3 \u0111\u00fang. Ki\u1ec3u ngh\u0129 n\u00e0y c\u00f3 v\u1ebb kh\u00f4ng c\u00f4ng b\u1eb1ng d\u01b0\u1edbi con m\u1eaft ngu\u1eddi v\u1ee3. \u0110\u00fang th\u1ebf, nghe c\u00f3 v\u1ebb ho\u00e0n to\u00e0n \u2018ch\u00ednh x\u00e1c\u2019v\u1edbi c\u1ea3m gi\u00e1c c\u1ee7a \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng . \u0110\u00e2y ch\u00ednh l\u00e0 nguy\u00ean nh\u00e2n nh\u1eefng c\u1ea3m g\u00e1c \u0111\u1ed1i kh\u00e1ng v\u1edbi c\u1ea3m gi\u00e1c- C\u1ea3 hai \u0111\u1ec1u c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y h\u1ecd \u0111\u00fang. Ch\u00fang ta xem Kinh Th\u00e1nh n\u00f3i g\u00ec ,<\/span>EPHESIANS 5:25<\/span><\/strong>\u00a0<\/span><\/span>\u00a0<\/span>Ephesians 5:25,\u00a0<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                  Ch\u00faa kh\u00f4ng nh\u00ecn ch\u00fang ta v\u00e0 n\u00f3i<\/span><\/p>\n

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                                                                                                                                  \u201cN\u1ebfu h\u1ecd y\u00eau t\u00f4i v\u00e0 \u0111\u00e1nh gi\u00e1 cao t\u00f4i, t\u00f4i s\u1ebd ch\u1ebft cho h\u1ecd v\u00e0 chu\u1ed9c t\u1ed9i cho h\u1ecd\u201d <\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                  \u00a0\u201dHUSBANDS, LOVE YOUR WIVES, JUST AS CHRIST ALSO LOVED THE CHURCH AND GAVE HIMSELF FOR IT.\u201d<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                  N\u1ebfu Ch\u00faa \u0111\u1eb7t \u0111i\u1ec1u ki\u1ec7n \u0111\u00f3 cho t\u1ed9i l\u1ed7i c\u1ee7a con ng\u01b0\u1eddi th\u00ec Ch\u00faa \u0111\u00e3 kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 l\u00fd do g\u00ec \u0111\u1ec3 ch\u1ebft v\u00ec ch\u00fang ta, Ch\u00faa ch\u1ebft cho ch\u00fang ta m\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u1ebfm x\u1ec9a t\u1edbi t\u00ecnh y\u00eau hay s\u1ef1 \u0111\u00e1nh gi\u00e1 cao c\u1ee7a ch\u00fang ta.<\/span><\/p>\n

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                                                                                                                                  Ephesians 5:28 \u201c\u00a0 V\u00e0 h\u00e3y s\u1ed1ng trong t\u00ecnh b\u00e1c \u00e1i, nh\u01b0 \u0110\u1ee9c Kit\u00f4 \u0111\u00e3 y\u00eau th\u01b0\u01a1ng ch\u00fang ta, v\u00e0 v\u00ec ch\u00fang ta \u0111\u00e3 t\u1ef1 n\u1ed9p th\u01a1m ng\u00e0o ng\u1ea1t\u201d.<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                  In Ephesians 5:28, <\/strong><\/span>we read<\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                  \u201cSO HUSBANDS OUGHT TO LOVE THEIR WIVES AS THEIR OWN BODIES; HE WHO LOVES HIS WIFE LOVES HIMSELF.\u201d<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

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                                                                                                                                  Ephesians 3:16 \u201cT\u00f4i nguy\u1ec7n xin Ch\u00faa Cha, th\u1ec3 theo s\u1ef1 phong ph\u00fa c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi l\u00e0 \u0111\u1ea5ng vinh hi\u1ec3n, ban cho an hem \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c c\u1ee7ng c\u1ed1 m\u1ea1nh m\u1ebd nh\u1edd Th\u1ea7n kh\u00ed c\u1ee7a Ng\u01b0\u1eddi, \u0111\u1ec3 con ng\u01b0\u1eddi n\u1ed9i t\u00e2m n\u01a1i anh em \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c v\u1eefng v\u00e0ng.\u201d<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                  In Ephesians 5:33, <\/span><\/strong>\u00a0we read,<\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                  \u201cNEVERTHELESS LET EACH ONE OF YOU IN PARTICULAR SO LOVE HIS OWN WIFE AS HIMSELF, AND LET THE WIFE SEE THAT SHE RESPECTS HER HUSBAND.\u201d<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                  In Colossians. 3:19, <\/strong><\/span>\u00a0read,<\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                  \u201cHUSBANDS, LOVE YOUR WIVES AND DO NOT BE BITTER TOWARDS THEM.\u201d<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                  Nh\u1eefng th\u00f4ng \u0111i\u1ec7p v\u1ec1 h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n, n\u1ebfu Ch\u00faa kh\u00f4ng nh\u1eadn th\u1ee9c th\u1ea5u \u0111\u00e1o r\u1eb1ng ch\u00fang ta mang nhi\u1ec7m v\u1ee5 kh\u00f3 kh\u0103n \u0111\u1ec3 ch\u1ed1ng ch\u1ecdi, t\u1ea5t c\u1ea3 nh\u1eefng nhi\u1ec7m v\u1ee5 Ch\u00faa mu\u1ed1n ch\u00fang ta h\u1ecdc b\u00e0i h\u1ecdc kh\u00f3 kh\u0103n \u0111\u1ec3 ti\u1ebfn t\u1edbi m\u1ed9t t\u00ecnh y\u00eau kinh ng\u1ea1c. Nhi\u1ec7m v\u1ee5 \u0111\u1ea7u ti\u00ean c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi ch\u1ed3ng l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t nhi\u1ec7m v\u1ee5 kh\u00f3 kh\u0103n \u0111\u1ec3 t\u1ea1o kh\u00f4ng kh\u00ed h\u00e0i long cho nh\u1eefng nhu c\u1ea7u c\u1ee7a v\u1ee3 m\u00ecnh \u2013 trong b\u1ea7u kh\u00f4ng kh\u00ed m\u00e0 c\u00f4 ta c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 t\u1ef1 do ph\u00e1t tri\u1ec3n v\u00e0 l\u1edbn l\u00ean trong m\u1ecdi \u0111i\u1ec1u Ch\u00faa mu\u1ed1n c\u00f4\u00a0 l\u00e0m. Sau \u0111\u00f3 s\u1ef1 ph\u1ee5c t\u00f9ng c\u1ee7a c\u00f4 ta\u00a0 l\u00e0 s\u1ef1 \u0111\u00e1p tr\u1ea3 t\u1ef1 nguy\u1ec7n cho \u0111\u1ea7u t\u1ea7u y\u00eau th\u01b0\u01a1ng c\u1ee7a anh ta \u2013 t\u1eeb ch\u1ee7 ch\u1ed1t \u0111\u00e2y l\u00e0 \u201c\u0111\u00e1p tr\u1ea3\u201d. Ng\u01b0\u1eddi v\u1ee3 l\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e1p tr\u1ea3. N\u1ebfu c\u00f4 ta ch\u1ec9 nh\u1eadn \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c nh\u1eefng \u0111i\u1ec1u phi l\u00fd, b\u1ea1o l\u1ef1c, s\u1ef1 ph\u1ea3n \u0111\u1ed1i, kh\u00f4ng th\u00e2n thi\u1ec7n, kh\u00e1c bi\u1ec7t, th\u1edd \u01a1, kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u1ec1 cao v\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng y\u00eau m\u1ebfn th\u00ec c\u00f4 ta s\u1ebd ph\u1ea3n \u1ee9ng b\u1eb1ng b\u1ed9 m\u00e1y ph\u00f2ng th\u1ee7 c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh nh\u01b0: cay \u0111\u1ed9c, l\u1ea1nh nh\u1ea1t, c\u00f4ng khai kh\u00e1ng c\u1ef1, r\u1ea7y la. M\u1ed9t s\u1ed1 b\u00e0 v\u1ee3 tr\u1edf n\u00ean nghi\u1ec7n r\u01b0\u1ee3u; m\u1ed9t s\u1ed1 kh\u00e1c \u0111\u1eafm m\u00ecnh trong nh\u1eefng ho\u1ea1t \u0111\u1ed9ng x\u00e3 h\u1ed9i. N\u1ebfu c\u00f4 ta nh\u1eadn \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c\u00a0 t\u00ecnh y\u00eau th\u01b0\u01a1ng, c\u00f4 ta s\u1ebd ph\u1ea3n \u1ee9ng l\u1ea1i b\u1eb1ng t\u00ecnh y\u00eau v\u00e0 s\u1ebd ph\u00e1t tri\u1ec3n n\u00f3 th\u00e0nh m\u1ed9t ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef \u0111\u00e1ng y\u00eau nh\u1ea5t tr\u00ean h\u00e0nh tinh n\u00e0y. \u0110\u00e2y l\u00e0 \u0111i\u1ec1u th\u1ef1c s\u1ef1 ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef\u00a0 b\u00e0 c\u1ea7n tr\u1edf th\u00e0nh nh\u01b0 v\u1eady.H\u00f4n nh\u00e2n v\u00e0 gia \u0111\u00ecnh h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac, \u0111\u1ea7u ti\u00ean ph\u1ea3i ph\u1ee5 thu\u1ed9c v\u00e0o ng\u01b0\u1eddi v\u1ee3, nh\u01b0ng h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n th\u00e0nh c\u00f4ng \u0111\u1ea7u ti\u00ean ph\u1ea3i ph\u1ee5 thu\u1ed9c v\u00e0o ng\u01b0\u1eddi ch\u1ed3ng. Ch\u1ed3ng n\u00ean y\u00eau v\u1ee3 m\u00ecnh, kh\u00f4ng \u00edch k\u1ef7 ngay c\u1ea3 khi \u0111\u00f3 l\u00e0 c\u00e1i \u0111\u00edch c\u1ee7a Ch\u00faa.C\u00f4 ta c\u1ea7n nh\u1eefng h\u00e0nh \u0111\u1ed9ng c\u1ee7a t\u00ecnh y\u00eau v\u00ec c\u00f4 ta d\u1ef1a tr\u00ean s\u1ef1 \u0111\u1ea3m b\u1ea3o. B\u1ea3n ch\u1ea5t c\u1ee7a c\u00f4 ta l\u00e0 v\u1eady, c\u00f4 ta c\u0169ng mu\u1ed1n t\u00e1i \u0111\u1ea3m b\u1ea3o. V\u00e0 c\u00f4 ta c\u1ea7n \u0111i\u1ec1u n\u00e0y m\u00e3i m\u00e3i v\u1edbi m\u1ed9t l\u00fd do \u0111\u01a1n gi\u1ea3n l\u00e0 b\u1ed9 m\u00e1y t\u00e2m l\u00fd c\u1ee7a c\u00f4 ta ho\u1ea1t \u0111\u1ed9ng theo c\u00e1ch \u0111\u00f3. \u0110\u00e0n \u00f4ng th\u00ec kh\u00e1c, h\u1ecd kh\u00f4ng c\u1ea7n nhi\u1ec1u v\u1ec1 s\u1ef1 \u0111\u1ea3m b\u1ea3o, do \u0111\u00f3 h\u1ecd c\u00f3 xu h\u01b0\u1edbng \u00edt \u0111\u1ec3 \u00fd t\u1edbi \u0111i\u1ec1u n\u00e0y.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                  C\u00f4 ta c\u1ea7n \u201c\u0110\u1eb7t b\u00e0n tay gi\u00fap \u0111\u1ee1\u201d b\u1edfi n\u00f3 chuy\u1ec3n t\u1ea3i th\u00f4ng \u0111i\u1ec7p \u201canh y\u00eau em\u201d \u0111\u00f4i khi \u201canh y\u00eau em\u201d n\u00e0y th\u01b0\u1eddng ph\u1ea3i \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c bi\u1ec3u hi\u1ec7n b\u1eb1ng nh\u1eefng b\u00f4ng hoa, m\u1ed9t l\u1ecd n\u01b0\u1edbc hoa, \u0111\u00f4i khi ph\u1ea3i t\u1eeb b\u1ecf m\u1ed9t s\u1edf th\u00edch.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                  C\u00f4 c\u1ea7n nhi\u1ec1u l\u1eddi \u0111\u1ed9ng vi\u00ean. \u0110i\u1ec1u n\u00e0y tr\u1edf l\u00ean tranh c\u00e3i h\u01a1n khi b\u1ea1n \u0111\u1eddi \u0111\u1ebfn t\u1eeb nh\u1eefng khu v\u1ef1c hay c\u1ed9ng \u0111\u1ed3ng kh\u00e1c nhau. \u1ede m\u1ed9t v\u00e0i khu v\u1ef1c, qu\u1ed1c gia hay c\u1ed9ng \u0111\u1ed3ng, vi\u1ec7c khen ng\u1ee3i l\u00e0 vi\u1ec7c b\u00ecnh th\u01b0\u1eddng v\u00e0 l\u00e0 \u0111i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00fang. Nh\u01b0ng \u1edf nh\u1eefng khu v\u1ef1c kh\u00e1c hay n\u01b0\u1edbc kh\u00e1c, c\u1ed9ng \u0111\u1ed3ng kh\u00e1c vi\u1ec7c khen ng\u1ee3i th\u00ec hi\u1ebfm hoi, th\u1ef1c t\u1ebf n\u00f3 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c coi l\u00e0 \u0111i\u1ec1u t\u1ed1t. Ng\u01b0\u1ee3c l\u1ea1i n\u00f3 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c coi l\u00e0 s\u1ef1 n\u1ecbnh b\u1ee3. L\u1eddi khen ng\u1ee3i c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 coi l\u00e0 l\u1ecbch s\u1ef1 hay t\u1eb1n ti\u1ec7n n\u00f3 c\u00f2n ph\u1ee5 thu\u1ed9c v\u00e0o th\u00e2n th\u1ebf c\u00f9ng c\u1ea3m gi\u00e1c \u0111\u1eb7t cho l\u1eddi n\u00f3i bi\u1ec3u \u0111\u1ea1t l\u00f2ng y\u00eau m\u1ebfn hay s\u1ef1 y\u00eau m\u1ebfn. Nh\u1eefng l\u1eddi khen l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t ki\u1ec3u c\u1ee7a \u0111\u1ed9ng vi\u00ean. C\u1eb7p v\u1ee3 ch\u1ed3ng ph\u1ea3i hi\u1ec3u th\u1ea5u s\u1ef1 \u1ea3nh h\u01b0\u1edfng v\u1ec1 gi\u00e1o d\u1ee5c c\u1ee7a nhau. B\u1edfi s\u1ef1 kh\u00e1c bi\u1ec7t n\u00e0y c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 r\u1ea5t tr\u00e1i ng\u01b0\u1ee3c, n\u1ebfu h\u1ecd kh\u00f4ng hi\u1ec3u. \u0110\u1eb7c bi\u1ec7t n\u1ebfu ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng \u0111\u1ebfn t\u1eeb khu v\u1ef1c ti\u1ebft ki\u1ec7m l\u1eddi khen v\u00e0 c\u00f4 ta l\u1ea1i \u0111\u1ebfn t\u1eeb khu v\u1ef1c ph\u00f3ng kho\u00e1ng v\u1ec1 l\u1eddi khen. B\u00ean c\u1ea1nh vi\u1ec7c x\u1eed l\u00fd c\u01b0 x\u1eed n\u00e0y nh\u01b0 s\u1ef1 thi\u1ebfu y\u00eau th\u00edch t\u1eeb ng\u01b0\u1eddi ch\u1ed3ng c\u1ee7a c\u00f4 ta, c\u00f4 ta s\u1ebd c\u00f3 c\u1ea3m gi\u00e1c gi\u1ed1ng c\u00e1ch v\u1edbi nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi trong gia \u0111\u00ecnh nh\u00e0 ch\u1ed3ng, h\u00e0ng x\u00f3m v\u00e0 nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi xung quanh c\u00f4 ta. B\u1edfi thi\u1ebfu s\u1ef1 hi\u1ec3u bi\u1ebft c\u00f4 c\u00f3\u00a0 c\u1ea3m gi\u00e1c l\u00e0 m\u00ecnh kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c ai mong \u0111\u1ee3i \u2013 v\u00e0 \u0111\u00f3 l\u00e0 c\u00e1i c\u1ea3m gi\u00e1c kh\u00f3 kh\u0103n ph\u1ea3i \u0111\u1ed1i m\u1eb7t. Nhu c\u1ea7u c\u1ea7n l\u1eddi \u0111\u1ed9ng vi\u00ean n\u00e0y t\u1eeb ng\u01b0\u1eddi v\u1ee3 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 dai d\u1eb3ng \u0111\u1ebfn m\u1ee9c m\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi ch\u1ed3ng c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 m\u1eafc sai l\u1ea7m l\u00e0 c\u1eb1n nh\u1eb1n v\u1edbi n\u00f3. Gi\u1ed1ng nh\u01b0 m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng c\u00f3 l\u1ea7n ph\u00e2n bua: \u201cc\u00e1ch \u0111\u1ec3 t\u00f4i hi\u1ec3u v\u1ee3 t\u00f4i, ngay c\u1ea3 c\u00f4 ta s\u1ebd t\u00ecm \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c c\u00e1i c\u1edb ngay c\u1ea3 khi \u1edf tr\u00ean thi\u00ean \u0111\u01b0\u1eddng\u201d. T\u1ea1i cu\u1ed9c h\u1ecdp t\u01b0 v\u1ea5n c\u00f3 m\u1ea9u \u0111\u1ed1i tho\u1ea1i sau:<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                  V\u1ee3 : \u201cAnh ta kh\u00f4ng nghe t\u00f4i. Anh \u1ea5y kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 hi\u1ec7n m\u1ed9t d\u1ea5u hi\u1ec7u n\u00e0o v\u1ec1 t\u00ecnh y\u00eau c\u1ee7a anh \u1ea5y v\u1edbi t\u00f4i.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                  Ch\u1ed3ng: \u201ct\u00f4i n\u00ean l\u00e0m g\u00ec?\u00a0 L\u00fac n\u00e0o t\u00f4i c\u0169ng n\u00ean b\u00e1i ch\u00e0o khi t\u00f4i v\u1ec1 \u0111\u1ebfn nh\u00e0 hay h\u00e1t \u201cO-SOLO MIO\u201d d\u01b0\u1edbi ban c\u00f4ng \u00e0?\u201d
                                                                                                                                  \nV\u1ee3: \u201cEm kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 \u00fd nh\u01b0 th\u1ebf , nh\u01b0ng \u00edt nh\u1ea5t c\u0169ng c\u00f3 v\u00e0i d\u1ea5u hi\u1ec7u trong kho\u1ea3ng th\u1eddi gian \u0111\u1ec1u \u0111\u1eb7n \u0111\u1ec3 em c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y r\u1eb1ng anh y\u00eau em\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n

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                                                                                                                                  Ch\u1ed3ng: \u201c H\u1eb1ng ng\u00e0y, anh v\u1ec1 nh\u00e0 ngay nh\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0 d\u1ea5u hi\u1ec7u anh y\u00eau em \u00e0? V\u00e0 m\u1ecdi ng\u00e0y nh\u01b0 v\u1eady n\u00f3 kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u1ee7 th\u01b0\u1eddng xuy\u00ean hay sao?<\/span><\/p>\n

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                                                                                                                                  T\u1eeb m\u1ea9u \u0111\u1ed1i tho\u1ea1i n\u00e0y th\u1ea5y r\u00f5 r\u1eb1ng c\u00f4 ta \u0111ang y\u00eau c\u1ea7u ch\u00e2n th\u00e0nh v\u1ec1 m\u1ed9t nhu c\u1ea7u trong c\u00f4 ta ph\u1ea3i \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c th\u1ef1c thi. C\u00f4 ta \u0111ang tr\u00ean b\u1ee9c s\u00f3ng v\u1ec1 c\u1ea3m gi\u00e1c c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh. Anh ta c\u00e1u v\u00ec ngh\u0129a v\u1ee5 v\u1ec1 nh\u00e0 c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh, d\u01b0\u1eddng nh\u01b0 kh\u00f4ng truy\u1ec1n \u0111\u1ea1t t\u00ecnh y\u00eau c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh m\u00e0 anh ta ngh\u0129. N\u00f3 l\u00e0 d\u1ea5u hi\u1ec7u \u0111\u1ee7 v\u00e0 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 ch\u1ea5p nh\u1eadn \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c v\u1ec1 s\u1ef1 y\u00eau m\u1ebfn c\u1ee7a anh ta. Anh ta \u0111ang \u1edf b\u1ee9c s\u00f3ng Logic. N\u00f3i chung, \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng c\u00f3 suy ngh\u0129 logic. H\u1ecd c\u0169ng \u1ed5n \u0111\u1ecbnh h\u01a1n trong suy ngh\u0129 .Do v\u1eady h\u1ecd c\u00f3 xu h\u01b0\u1edbng \u00edt bi\u1ec3u hi\u1ec7n b\u1eb1ng h\u00e0nh \u0111\u1ed9ng. Trong th\u1ef1c t\u1ebf anh ta ngh\u0129 vi\u1ec7c th\u1ec3 hi\u1ec7n nhi\u1ec1u h\u01a1n l\u00e0 c\u1ea7n thi\u1ebft trong m\u1ecdi l\u00fac. H\u00e3y \u0111\u1ed1i m\u1eb7t v\u1edbi th\u1ef1c t\u1ebf :Ng\u01b0\u1eddi v\u1ee3 c\u1ea7n bi\u1ec3u \u0111\u1ea1t b\u1eb1ng h\u00e0nh \u0111\u1ed9ng nhi\u1ec1u h\u01a1n n\u1eefa \u0111\u1ec3\u00a0 th\u1ec3 hi\u1ec7n\u00a0 t\u00ecnh y\u00eau. Nh\u1eefng ngh\u00e0nh c\u00f4ng nghi\u1ec7p h\u00e0ng tri\u1ec7u \u0111\u00f4la \u0111\u00e3 nh\u1eadn ra nhu c\u1ea7u n\u00e0y v\u00e0 do v\u1eady m\u00e0 h\u1ecd \u0111\u00e3 ki\u1ebfm \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c c\u1ea3 \u0111\u1ed1ng ti\u1ec1n l\u1edbn nh\u1edd v\u00e0o vi\u1ec7c n\u00e0y . C\u00e2u n\u00f3i \u201cN\u00f3i l\u1eddi y\u00eau b\u1eb1ng nh\u1eefng b\u00f4ng hoa\u201d \u0111\u1ec3 t\u1eeb \u0111\u00e2u , n\u1ebfu kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 nhu c\u1ea7u ? V\u00e0 ai l\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi ph\u1ee5c v\u1ee5 ng\u00e0nh c\u00f4ng nghi\u1ec7p tr\u1ed3ng hoa v\u00e0 g\u00f3i qu\u00e0 : Ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef cho \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng? Hay : \u0110\u00e0n \u00f4ng cho ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef? N\u1ebfu ng\u00e0nh c\u00f4ng nghi\u1ec7p c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 nh\u1eadn ra nhu c\u1ea7u n\u00e0y v\u00e0 ki\u1ebfm \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c l\u1ee3i nhu\u1eadn t\u1eeb n\u00f3, n\u00f3 c\u0169ng l\u00e0 th\u1eddi gian cao tr\u00e0o cho ng\u01b0\u1eddi ch\u1ed3ng c\u0169ng c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 nh\u1eadn ra nhu c\u1ea7u n\u00e0y c\u1ee7a v\u1ee3 m\u00ecnh.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                  C\u00e1c b\u00e0 v\u1ee3 th\u01b0\u1eddng ph\u00e0n n\u00e0n r\u1eb1ng ch\u1ed3ng cho \u0111\u00f3 l\u00e0 \u0111i\u1ec1u d\u0129 nhi\u00ean, nh\u01b0 th\u1ec3 h\u1ecd nh\u01b0 k\u1ebb lu\u1ea9n qu\u1ea9n quanh nh\u00e0. H\u1ecd c\u1ea7n \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c \u0111\u1ec1 cao, \u0111\u1ed3ng t\u00ecnh, quan t\u00e2m, s\u1ef1 th\u1eeba nh\u1eadn v\u00e0 s\u1ef1 hi\u1ec3u bi\u1ebft. L\u00fd do v\u1ec1 vi\u1ec7c thi\u1ebfu quan t\u00e2m l\u00e0 \u1edf ch\u1ed7 ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng c\u00f3 m\u1ed9t ki\u1ec3u v\u1ec1 xu h\u01b0\u1edbng, kh\u00f4ng lo l\u1eafng v\u1ec1 nh\u1eefng \u0111i\u1ec1u m\u00e0 ch\u00fang \u0111ang ho\u1ea1t \u0111\u1ed9ng t\u1ed1t. Trong th\u1ebf gi\u1edbi c\u00f4ng vi\u1ec7c kh\u1ea3 n\u0103ng n\u00e0y l\u00e0 s\u1ef1 tr\u1ee3 gi\u00fap tuy\u1ec7t v\u1eddi. Thi\u1ebft ngh\u0129 m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i c\u00f3 tr\u00e1ch nhi\u1ec7m v\u1edbi m\u1ed9t nh\u00e0 m\u00e1y l\u1edbn hay ph\u00e2n x\u01b0\u1edfng l\u1edbn m\u00e0 anh ta ph\u1ea3i \u0111i loanh quanh lo l\u1eafng v\u1ec1 m\u1ecdi ng\u01b0\u1eddi trong ph\u1ea1m vi tr\u00e1ch nhi\u1ec7m c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh v\u00e0 v\u1ec1 ph\u1ea7n thi\u1ebft b\u1ecb v\u00e0 m\u00e1y m\u00f3c. Ch\u1eafc ch\u1eafn \u0111\u1ea7u \u00f3c anh ta s\u1ebd bung lung, l\u00fac n\u00e0o anh ta c\u0169ng b\u1ecb m\u1ee5 \u0111i.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                  \u0110\u00f4i khi \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng n\u00f3i: \u201ct\u00f4i s\u1ebd ch\u1ebft cho v\u1ee3 t\u00f4i !\u201d Nh\u01b0ng \u0111i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00f3 ch\u1eafc ch\u1eafn l\u00e0 c\u00f4 \u1ea5y kh\u00f4ng mong mu\u1ed1n, c\u00f4 \u1ea5y mu\u1ed1n r\u1eb1ng \u201cAnh \u1ea5y s\u1ed1ng cho t\u00f4i\u201d. H\u1ea7u h\u1ebft \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng th\u01b0\u1eddng kh\u00f4ng ngh\u0129 theo c\u00e1ch \u0111\u00f3.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                  C\u00f4 ta mong m\u1ecfi \u201cAnh y\u00eau em\u201d \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c bi\u1ec3u \u0111\u1ea1t b\u1eb1ng h\u00e0nh \u0111\u1ed9ng, v\u00e0 \u0111i\u1ec1u n\u00e0y th\u1eadt l\u00e0 kh\u00f3 kh\u0103n. V\u00e0 \u0111i\u1ec1u n\u00e0y c\u00f2n kh\u00f3 kh\u0103n h\u01a1n nhi\u1ec1u khi c\u00f4 \u1ea5y v\u00f4 l\u00fd v\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng bi\u1ebft \u0111i\u1ec1u.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                  S\u1ef1 hi\u1ec3u bi\u00eat v\u1ec1 t\u00ecnh y\u00eau th\u01b0\u01a1ng n\u00e0y ph\u1ea3i tr\u1ea3 nhi\u1ec1u gi\u00e1, trong th\u1ef1c t\u1ebf ph\u1ea3i tr\u1ea3 gi\u00e1 cho m\u1ecdi th\u1ee9. Th\u01b0\u1eddng c\u00f3 ngh\u0129a l\u00e0 s\u1ef1 hy sinh. \u0110\u00e2y ch\u00ednh x\u00e1c l\u00e0 nh\u1eefng g\u00ec Ch\u00faa Gi\u00ea-su ph\u1ea3i tr\u1ea3 khi Ch\u00faa ch\u1ebft tr\u00ean c\u00e2y Th\u00e1nh Gi\u00e1 \u2013 cho c\u00e1i g\u00ec? Cho t\u00ecnh y\u00eau! Cho Gi\u00e1o H\u1ed9i c\u1ee7a Ng\u00e0i! N\u1ebfu b\u1ea1n kh\u00f4ng chu\u1ea9n b\u1ecb \u0111\u1ec3 tr\u1ea3 cho c\u00e1i gi\u00e1 n\u00e0y, b\u1ea1n s\u1ebd m\u1eafc m\u1ed9t l\u1ed7i l\u1ea7m l\u1edbn tr\u01b0\u1edbc b\u00e0n th\u1edd khi b\u1ea1n th\u1ec1 h\u1ee9a.<\/span><\/p>\n

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                                                                                                                                  EPHESIANS 5:31<\/strong><\/span> ghi,<\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                  \u201cs\u00e1ch th\u00e1nh c\u00f3 l\u1eddi ch\u00e9p r\u1eb1ng: ch\u00ednh v\u00ec th\u1ebf, ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng s\u1ebd l\u00eca cha m\u1eb9 m\u00e0 g\u1eafn b\u00f3 v\u1edbi v\u1ee3 m\u00ecnh, v\u00e0 c\u1ea3 hai s\u1ebd tr\u1edf th\u00e0nh m\u1ed9t x\u01b0\u01a1ng m\u1ed9t th\u1ecbt\u201d.<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                  Ephesians 5:31,\u00a0<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                  \u201cFOR THIS REASON A MAN SHALL LEAVE HIS FATHER AND MOTHER AND BE JOINED TO HIS WIFE, AND THE TWO SHALL BECOME ONE FLESH.\u201d<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                  M\u1ed9t s\u1ed1 b\u00e0 v\u1ee3 \u00edch k\u1ef7 \u0111\u00e3 vin l\u1eddi n\u00f3i n\u00e0y gi\u1ed1ng nh\u01b0 con \u00e1t ch\u1ee7 b\u00e0i v\u00e0 \u0111\u1eb7t m\u1ea1nh m\u1ebd d\u1eabn chi\u1ebfu t\u1edbi t\u1eeb \u201d r\u1eddi b\u1ecf\u201d. Nh\u01b0ng t\u1eeb n\u00e0y c\u00f3 ngh\u0129a r\u1eb1ng t\u1eeb gi\u1edd tr\u1edf \u0111i anh ta s\u1ebd b\u1eaft \u0111\u1ea7u cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng v\u1edbi v\u1ee3 anh ta v\u00e0 l\u1eadp l\u00ean gia \u0111\u00ecnh c\u1ee7a anh \u1ea5y v\u00e0 tr\u1edf th\u00e0nh m\u1ed9t th\u1ec3 th\u1ed1ng nh\u1ea5t \u2013<\/span><\/p>\n

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                                                                                                                                  \u201cv\u00e0 h\u1ecd tr\u1edf l\u00ean m\u1ed9t th\u00e2n x\u00e1c.\u201d\u00a0 <\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                  \u201cHONOR THY FATHER AND THY MOTHER.\u201d<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                  Nh\u01b0ng kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 \u0111o\u1ea1n n\u00e0o trong Kinh Th\u00e1nh \u0111\u1ec1 c\u1eadp r\u1eb1ng anh ta s\u1ebd ch\u1ea5m d\u1ee9t y\u00eau th\u01b0\u01a1ng cha m\u1eb9 m\u00ecnh, hay kh\u00f4ng c\u00f2n t\u00f4n tr\u1ecdng h\u1ecd n\u1eefa. Kinh Th\u00e1nh kh\u00f4ng l\u1ec7nh cho anh ta ph\u1ea3i xa r\u1eddi, l\u1ea1nh nh\u1ea1t hay r\u00fat l\u1ea1i s\u1ef1 y\u00eau m\u1ebfn c\u1ee7a anh ta. L\u1eddi n\u00f3i n\u00e0y kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u1eb7t ngo\u00e0i \u0111i\u1ec1u r\u0103n th\u1ee9 b\u1ed1n l\u00e0: \u201cTh\u1ea3o k\u00ednh cha m\u1eb9\u201d. V\u00e0 c\u0169ng kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0 Kinh Th\u00e1nh T\u00e2n \u01af\u1edbc d\u1ea1y thay th\u1ebf Kinh Th\u00e1nh C\u1ef1u \u01af\u1edbc. C\u00e2u h\u1ecfi n\u00e0y \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c gi\u1ea3i quy\u1ebft khi Ch\u00faa Gi\u00ea-su n\u00f3i:<\/span><\/p>\n

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                                                                                                                                  \u201cAn hem \u0111\u1eebng ngh\u0129 r\u1eb1ng: Ta \u0111\u1ebfn \u0111\u1ec3 b\u00e3i b\u1ecf lu\u1eadt ph\u00e1p v\u00e0 l\u1eddi c\u00e1c ti\u00ean tri, Ta \u0111\u1ebfn kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i \u0111\u1ec3 b\u00e3i b\u1ecf m\u00e0 \u0111\u1ec3 ho\u00e0n th\u00e0nh\u201d. M\u00e1t Th\u00eau 5:17.<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                  \u201cDO NOT THINK THAT I CAME TO DESTROY THE LAW OF THE PROPHETS.\u00a0 \u00a0I DID NOT COME TO DESTROY BUT TO FULFILL IT.\u201d \u00a0\u00a0\u00a0<\/strong>Matthew 5:17<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

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                                                                                                                                  Khi ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng l\u1ea5y ng\u01b0\u1eddi n\u1eef l\u00e0m v\u1ee3 anh ta l\u00e0m cho c\u00f4 tr\u1edf th\u00e0nh m\u1ed9t ph\u1ea7n c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh. Do \u0111\u00f3 t\u1ea1i sao anh ta kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 t\u00e1ch c\u00f4 ra kh\u1ecfi \u0111\u1eddi m\u00ecnh. N\u1ebfu anh ta kh\u01b0\u1edbc t\u1eeb l\u1eddi r\u0103n c\u1ee7a Ch\u00faa \u1edf l\u00e3nh v\u1ef1c n\u00e0y th\u00ec s\u1ef1 cay \u0111\u1ed9c v\u00e0 s\u1ef1 o\u00e1n h\u1eadn s\u1ebd len l\u1ecfi v\u00e0o cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n. Quy\u1ec1n n\u0103ng Ch\u00faa Th\u00e1nh Th\u1ea7n v\u00e0 nh\u1eefng l\u1eddi c\u1ea7u nguy\u1ec7n s\u1ebd tr\u1eed n\u00ean k\u00e9m hi\u1ec7u qu\u1ea3. Nhi\u1ec1u v\u1ebft nh\u01a1 tinh th\u1ea7n y\u1ebfu \u0111u\u1ed1i l\u00e0 k\u1ebft qu\u1ea3 c\u1ee7a vi\u1ec7c n\u00e0y. N\u00f3 l\u00e0 cao tr\u00e0o ch\u00fang ta tu\u00e2n theo nh\u1eefng l\u1eddi r\u0103n c\u1ee7a Ch\u00faa.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                  \u0110\u00e2y l\u00e0 \u0111i\u1ec1u c\u1ef1c k\u1ef3 kh\u00f3 kh\u0103n cho ng\u01b0\u1eddi ch\u1ed3ng trong ho\u00e0n c\u1ea3nh n\u00e0y. S\u1ef1 kh\u00f3 kh\u0103n s\u1ebd t\u0103ng g\u1ea5p b\u1ed9i l\u1ea7n n\u1ebfu ng\u01b0\u1eddi v\u1ee3 l\u00e0m t\u1ed5n th\u01b0\u01a1ng c\u1ea3m x\u00fac c\u1ee7a anh ta. Ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng \u0111\u1ee9ng trong ho\u00e0n c\u1ea3nh ti\u1ebfn tho\u00e1i l\u01b0\u1ee1ng nan \u0111\u1ec3 ch\u1ea5p nh\u1eadn hay kh\u00f4ng ch\u1ea5p nh\u1eadn \u0111i\u1ec1u r\u0103n n\u00e0y c\u1ee7a Ch\u00faa. Nh\u1eefng kh\u00f3 kh\u0103n l\u00e0 r\u00f5 r\u00e0ng b\u1edfi n\u1ebfu kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 nh\u1eefng v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 g\u00ec th\u00ec d\u00f9 sao \u0111i ch\u0103ng n\u1eefa anh ta c\u0169ng ch\u1ea5p nh\u1eadn c\u00f4 ta. B\u1edfi v\u00ec anh ta c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y c\u00f3 v\u00e0i kh\u00f3 kh\u0103n, \u0111\u00f3 t\u1ea1i sao anh ta \u0111\u00e3 h\u1ea5t c\u00f4 ta ra kh\u1ecfi m\u1ed9t s\u1ed1 l\u00e3nh v\u1ef1c trong cu\u1ed9c \u0111\u1eddi m\u00ecnh.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                  C\u00e1ch duy nh\u1ea5t \u0111\u1ec3 tho\u00e1t kh\u1ecfi th\u1ebf ti\u1ebfn tho\u00e1i l\u01b0\u1ee1ng nan h\u00e3y ph\u00f3 th\u00e1c ho\u00e0n to\u00e0n v\u00e0o Ch\u00faa v\u00e0 thay \u0111\u1ed5i b\u1ed1i c\u1ea3nh t\u1eeb nh\u1eefng \u0111i\u1ec1u c\u1ee7a tr\u1ea7n gian n\u00e0y th\u00e0nh nh\u1eefng \u0111i\u1ec1u m\u00e0 l\u1ea5y Ch\u00faa l\u00e0m trung t\u00e2m v\u00e0 v\u0129nh c\u1eedu.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                  M\u1ed9t l\u1eddi d\u00e0nh cho c\u00e1c b\u00e0 v\u1ee3: H\u00e3y \u0111\u1ec3 Ch\u00faa Th\u00e1nh Th\u1ea7n th\u00fac \u0111\u1ea9y ch\u1ed3ng c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n. \u0110\u1eebng c\u1ed1 l\u00e0m nh\u1eefng c\u00f4ng vi\u1ec7c c\u1ee7a Ch\u00faa l\u00e0m cho anh ta; anh ta ho\u00e0n to\u00e0n c\u00f3 kh\u1ea3 n\u0103ng l\u00e0m c\u00f4ng vi\u1ec7c c\u1ee7a ch\u00ednh anh ta, v\u00e0 l\u00e0m n\u00f3 tr\u00ean m\u1ee9c tuy\u1ec7t v\u1eddi. N\u1ebfu b\u1ea1n c\u1ed1 g\u1eafng c\u1ea5u tr\u00fac l\u1ea1i ch\u1ed3ng m\u00ecnh th\u00ec k\u1ebft qu\u1ea3 s\u1ebd t\u1ee5t xu\u1ed1ng d\u01b0\u1edbi m\u1ee9c mong \u0111\u1ee3i c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n. B\u1ea1n c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 s\u1ebd l\u00e0m m\u1ecdi vi\u1ec7c r\u1ed1i tung l\u00ean. N\u00f3 c\u0169ng kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i nhi\u1ec7m v\u1ee5 c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n \u0111\u1ec3 nh\u1eafc nh\u1edf anh ta l\u00e0m nhi\u1ec7m v\u1ee5 c\u1ee7a ch\u00ednh anh ta. Thay v\u00ec \u0111i\u1ec1u n\u00e0y, b\u1ea1n h\u00e3y ph\u00f3 anh ta v\u00e0o tay Ch\u00faa, c\u1ea7u nguy\u1ec7n cho anh ta v\u00e0 anh ta s\u1ebd ph\u1ea3i tr\u1edf th\u00e0nh ng\u01b0\u1eddi nh\u01b0 \u00fd Ch\u00faa mu\u1ed1n.<\/span><\/p>\n

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                                                                                                                                  14. \u00a0 FOR HUSBANDS<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                  Most men find books on marriage uninteresting and skittish. This topic does not fit into masculine thinking. Quite frankly, I too belonged to that group. It was only after I had problems, I decided to get to the bottom of it. I took up this activity like a student. I was determined to win my marriage, so I did what I had to do in order to acquire the knowledge. This chapter is by a man for men. Sometimes I wonder if certain men might want to start the book at this chapter and the move back to the beginning of the book. Maybe this chapter is a better starting point for some men. This chapter can stand-alone without a strong need to read the other chapters first.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                  It is a fact that men really know very little about women. Some people may like to contest this point. Men may be inclined to say it is not true, and their spouses may say it is absolutely true, especially a wife about her husband. Other women are saying the same thing about their husbands.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                  It is a fact; men know remarkably little about how women think. It is astonishing because men have a relatively broad pallet of interests. On an average, even from childhood, we find girls take to reading far more easily than boys. Boys do not seem to have time for reading. Some where at a later age, when they see purpose, they read and mix the reading with analyzing. Their strongest motivation to read is when they can see a purpose. With a lot of interest and care they read, discuss and even take the trouble to learn about a variety of things. On the other hand if they do not see the purpose, they shun the reading. It is something like asking a boy if he finds any pleasure in learning a second language at school.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                  Many boys and men have an unspeakable drive to conquer a wider selection of knowledge. It is the \u2018Hunter\u2019 in him. In man\u2019s primitive role, man has been the hunter; he went out to get things. Maybe hunt for food. Instinctively his knowledge search is very goal oriented. Today man may not go out to hunt wild boar and buffalo, but he still goes out to hunt for the Mighty Dollar. Some go to factories, others to offices, and other places of work. In women\u2019s primitive role the woman has been the \u2018Gatherer\u2019. She gathered and maintained what she had. She looked after the home, children, aged parents, livestock, fruit trees, garden, marketing etc. Even though this era and society have showed acceptance to overlap the roles of men and women, there are still some residual and instinctive preferences. Let us side step for a minute and see what has been influential in bringing this homogenization of the roles. One major factor in recent time has been the two World Wars. Almost all the men of certain warring nations were called to fight. So, most of the men\u2019s jobs had to be taken up by women. After the war the family assets were damaged, so again women were expected to help out. There was a healthy acceptance to allow women to study. When women studied, they had the potential to contribute to the domestic and national productivity. These and many factors have contributed to changes.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                  Back to the topic:<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                  Men seem to be even interested in such seemingly insignificant things, like some tiny screw in a computer. The way they devour information about planes, rockets, football, cameras, computers, makes any one wonder how they can handle such a variety of interests. Sometimes the way they show interest in planets, comets makes you almost wonder whether they are planning an excursion there. In many ways these interests have paid off. They have invented, thought up, developed, discovered things and even traveled through the skies. While their search for knowledge in many fields is far stretching, their reading (and knowledge) about marriage, family and women\u2019s behavior is surprising absent. When we take into account topics like, \u201cwife\u201d and, \u201cmother hood\u201d we can almost safely grade their knowledge at zero. In the priority of gathering knowledge, these \u2018true woman topics\u2019, lie outside their area of interest. They are inclined to sweep away such topics with an air of irrelevance.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                  By way of explanation:<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                  It is not that men are not concerned. They are concerned, but the drive towards their concern is different. Men work with what is known as, \u201cTHE ALL IS WELL DRIVE<\/strong>\u201d. If the wife is there, the children are there, food is there, \u2018All is well\u2019. They tend to have a kind of global view that fits the \u201cALL IS WELL\u201d<\/strong>. By way of an example, if his child is in school, \u2018all is well\u2019. He may not necessarily concern himself about the micro level of things, like, are the children clothes ready, or is the homework done etc. Another example: If the household has a kitchen, he may think nothing of using the kitchen sink and counter top for his experiments. It does not really occur to him that his wife is less enthusiastic about the invasion of \u2018her\u2019 domain. If she does not say anything, \u2018All is Well\u2019. If she does, she has breeched his \u2018All is Well\u2019. In simple language she has nagged him.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                  On the other hand, some have reached the COMMUNION STAGE (see chapter 5). They have either supported the experiment or joined the experiment. Women, who could do that, have made mountains of good things out of their men. Like one lady once answered the reporters who asked her about what she thought about the new car factory her husband built, and the fact that so many cars will be rolling out every day from her husband\u2019s factories. She said, \u201cI am naturally happy about it. However, I do have the satisfaction of knowing that my husband made the first car in my back-yard\u2026. \u201cThere were times when the back-yard grew large enough to include the kitchen, the dining table, the living room and other areas of the house\u201d. (May not be the exact words), An answer like that brings tears of admiration to any man\u2019s eyes. This is, \u201cUnderstanding at the highest level\u201d. This is the epitome of a splendid wife. Today, hundreds of thousands of jobs have been created for years and years. It has brought food to the table of countless number of people. Education centers, Research centers, Hospitals and many other things have materialized. The legacy continues even years after she and her husband have passed on. A lot of good things happened because of a wife joyfully allowing an \u2018Idea\u2019 called a car, to take shape. The first car, to be built was in \u2018her\u2019 back yard, kitchen, and living room. At home the husband called her Callie. To selected people he referred to her with great affection as \u201cThe Believer\u201d. Some knew her as Clara Bryant Ford. And the world at large knew her as Mrs. Henry Ford.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                  This story did not come to me by my own reading. I overhead, some interesting wife, make the analogy of Mrs. Henry Ford\u2019s words, to her friend. It gladdened my heart immensely, and had great impact on the machines we built. I know for a fact, that the kitchens, living room, dining room, including various pieces of furniture, the roof and under the bed were all annexed into work areas. Invariably with untidiness. The person who made this analogy is known as, Mrs. Gregory Fernandez<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                  Back to the topic:<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                  By contrast girls, young women and women, in general, read more things about these marriage topics. Even their leisure choice of reading materials, is in this direction. Consequently they expect their husbands must at least have some idea and feeling of how a woman thinks. What they get instead is quite a surprise. The man is either like a boy who has just been born the other day or else they hear remarks like, \u201cI can never understand women\u201d. \u201cAre women creatures from another planet?\u201d, \u201cDo women have any capability to think at all?\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                  The main reason is that men and women think differently and there is no doubt about that. Both are triggered by different emotions. Some of these differences were touched upon in the previous chapter. In this chapter we want to try and go deeper into these differences.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                  When I think of some of the experiences I went through, they make me smile now, but at that time it was many different things ranging from surprise to annoyance, and then on to exasperation -sometimes for me and sometimes for my wife. For example, mechanical things are a part of my work and connecting these things are almost my daily occupation. Some of this work is also done at home. One day my wife asked me to connect a fresh gas bottle to the stove. I said I didn’t know how it was done. My wife could not understand this \u00ad she almost went through the roof with anger. She was fully convinced that I was being cheeky and that I just wanted to irritate her. The reality of it all, is that I have never exchanged a gas cylinder on a stove. Nowhere in my training did I have to even think of such a duty. To make matter even more unbelievable for her is the fact, that she is an expert in such household mechanics. In due course of time she realized that there was neither a joke nor malice in my behavior but just plain ignorance. Later, with amazement I found her narrating this incident to my mother.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                  With this small example I want to illustrate how ignorant I was in house hold activity and my wife was surprised. In a way, I too was surprised that she could be surprised because from the age of 8 and a half till the day I got married, I lived in boarding schools or hostels and everything was ready in the dining hall. When the food was finished, we just walked away. When I came home my mother never required me to do anything. In fact, she treated my home coming as her exclusive chance to flex her cooking muscles. Anyway, I was intrigued that Rose could be surprised, so I began to examine this subject from different angles. One angle is the religious angle which is the main orientation of this book. The full story as to how I could examine this subject from a religious angle is quite an experience; I have described that in other chapters- partly in the Prolog and partly in the Epilog. The other angle is the human angle relating to the physiology, the psychology or behavior.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                  The religious angle helps us to put our attitudes into a proper perspective with God and to get a correct relationship with our spouse.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                  The human angle helps us to understand our self, the other self and the inter- relationship between the two selves.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                  Let us also try to examine this topic from a medical, psychological and behavioral point of view.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                  A PRECESSION<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                  A wife is also a mother at the same time. In this context, it would be correct to take this aspect also into account and say a few words about this role. The skill to be a wife and a mother is really note- worthy. It is of the utmost importance for the health and vitality of our society. It is regrettable to note the lack of respect and status that today’s society gives to \u2018House Wives\u2019. Even the word ‘House Wife\u2019 is often synonymous with unfulfilled, inferior and meaningless. It is a pity. We are making a very great mistake in devaluing the role of the housewife.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                  A husband and his work impose special frustrations and tensions on the wife. We must face this fact squarely. Apart from looking after small children, which is very exhausting and irritating, it is a job for the full 365 days in a year. In this process her nerves are constantly juggled and jangled. No wonder she feels like running away from the arena, and often wonders, \u201cWhat am I doing here?\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                  Women also often encounter problems and pressures, which are less common to men. The loneliness for adult company is widespread among wives who remain at home. Often she experiences a deep, persistent yearning for adult contact. She longs for the laughter and romantic love of her younger days. Many women who have experienced this need try to reach out and communicate this to their husbands in the hope that he will be able to supply the missing ingredient. She desperately wants him to understand her yearning and frustration, but it seem as though she cannot attract his attention. Her efforts instead of attracting empathy and support are likely to be interpreted as nagging, grumbling, self-pity or hostility. When this happens most men, tune out. Either they don\u2019t hear or they go away or react negatively. This behavior seems to convey the message of, \u201cWhat kind of a problem does \u2018this\u2019 women actually have?\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                  It is certainly not the aim of this chapter to knock men on the head. There are already enough of expression to describe the husband and father with words like. Some of the expressions include: An idiot, a bigot, an exploiter, a misogynist; a football fanatic, a sex maniac and a self-centered egoist. The way some women say it, sounds as though men are lower than muck. While men undoubtedly have feelings, it is best to put them aside. Just consider these tribulations as skill and patience training. Of course, these kinds of accusations are undoubtedly exaggerated, after all, which women would have gone headlong into marrying such a character in the first place. On the other hand it is true that too many men do not understand the emotional needs of their wives. They live in vastly different worlds with ample frustrations of their own! They are either not capable of putting themselves into their wives thinking grid, to see and feel the way she does, or, they are too preoccupied, with their work or they simply don\u2019t listen. Regardless of the reasons, the fact still remains that women have needs, which men do not easily comprehend. The aim and purpose of this chapter is to illuminate this to men and to provide some insight. In a way this was also the motivation that went behind writing these pages. Because I had so little knowledge and consequently made so many mistakes, I would like to dedicate this chapter in an extra special way to my wife \u00ad Rosemarie.<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                  This chapter is not for men\u2019s eyes only; it is designed equally for the lady to read. In a way we must face certain facts squarely, and one of them is that more wives read such books than husbands. So this chapter may help the wife to communicate her needs and feeling to her husband.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                  B The Objectives<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                  Some of the objectives of this chapter are:<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                    \n
                                                                                                                                  1. Help women explain their unique need to their husbands.<\/span><\/li>\n
                                                                                                                                  2. Understanding emotional isolation.<\/span><\/li>\n
                                                                                                                                  3. Encouraging a more fulfilling motherhood.<\/span><\/li>\n
                                                                                                                                  4. Understanding depression and its solution.<\/span><\/li>\n
                                                                                                                                  5. Understanding every day irritations.<\/span><\/li>\n
                                                                                                                                  6. Motivating self-esteem.<\/span><\/li>\n
                                                                                                                                  7. Understanding how to revive romantic love.<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

                                                                                                                                    All this sounds ambitious; however it is easier to shoot straight if we know where the target is. Let us begin with a discussion of the source of depression in women.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                    DEPRESSION is experienced in any one of the following ways:<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                    Despair, discouragement, disinterest, distrust, despondency and disenchantment.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                    Both women as well as men are susceptible to depression but there are noticeable differences between them:<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                    Depression in women is a lot more frequent than in men.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                    In men depression is crisis oriented. It is brought about by a crisis like a business set backs; illness; change of life activities i.e. Retirement. In women the causes that bring about depression are vague; generalized; almost unidentifiable.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                    The impact of depression can be minimized if we understand the patterns of emotions. Every person has a cyclic emotional pattern. It consists of HIGHS followed by LOWS the pattern would look like:<\/span><\/p>\n

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                                                                                                                                    The area of HIGH and LOW would be almost equal in amplitude and frequency.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                    The amplitude as well as the frequency differs from person to person.<\/span><\/p>\n

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                                                                                                                                    A person of low amplitude would take good news and bad news with about the same calm. They would not be too excited about any thing. They will be rather dull people.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                    On the other hand people with high amplitude would have marked expression of joy but likewise equally marked expression of sorrow. They are like an emotional Yo-Yo.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                    Regardless of the amplitude. The frequency of change would differ within the same type for example.<\/span><\/p>\n

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                                                                                                                                    Low amplitude with Low amplitude with<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                    Slow change pattern frequency change pattern<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                    Likewise<\/span><\/p>\n

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                                                                                                                                    High amplitude with High amplitude with<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                    Slow change pattern frequent change pattern<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                    Within the limits, the curve characteristics of human types are not to be labeled as either ‘good or bad\u2019 \u00ad they are just patterns of differences between one person and another. This is how we have varieties of human types. Like I mentioned earlier, within reasonable limits, all these curve patterns can be considered normal. The point of care is how these human types interact. No doubt we will always like to prefer some type of curve pattern to be ideal for our spouse, perhaps another pattern for a colleague, yet another pattern for another task. It is normal that we assess people and try to assign values in relation to their activities, especially when it concerns us. Even though the characteristic curves are interesting, it is silly to try and match people or choose mates only on the basis of these curves. For one thing each person\u2019s curve is different. It is like his emotional fingerprint, besides there are complimentary advantages, if different patterns are available. With different curve patterns, there will be advantage of looking at a situation from two different angels. The trick is not matching the curves, but to understand them. <\/strong>It is important to understand ones own self, as well as the partner. The aim is to make use of both characteristics by learning how to adjust and have consideration for each other\u2019s emotional ‘ups\u2019 and ‘downs’. A part of our marriage success depends on these two words ‘Adjustment and ‘Consideration’<\/strong>. THE OTHER PART DEPENDS ON BOTH PARTNERS UNITING THEIR WILL TO THE WILL OF GOD. Marriage after all is not a bi-union it is a tri-union \u00ad GOD \u00ad HUSBAND \u00ad WIFE. <\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                    A person was once describing a situation while at a music concert. In front of him was a man who most certainly understood music well. During the first half of the concert he seemed to be in ecstasy with each piece of music. He would hold his chest, and sway. At the end of the piece he would jump up and applaud. It was almost an entertainment by itself, just to watch him.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                    After the interval, however, when the kind of music changed he seemed disgusted, everything seemed either false or full of mistakes; he fumed every now and then. And finally he jumped up and stalked out of the hall in the middle of the music. This man would be an example of person with high amplitude.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                    The reason why I have chosen to write about the types of curves is that we should know that we, all of us, have \u2018highs\u2019 followed by ‘lows’. If we know this, we will be able to manage the ‘highs\u2019 and ‘lows\u2019 better. We will also be able to judge when the change is likely to occur and we will not be caught by surprises. We can learn to adjust to our emotional rhythm and to the rhythm of the partner.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                    For example, a couple bought a house and they were absolutely thrilled with their new acquisition, they went around each room planning and visualizing and fantasizing what they will put in it and how it will be arranged etc. Both were living in a ‘High’. Fortunately, both knew about the emotional curve rhythm. One day the husband told the wife, Darling, we have been elated for a long time, our moods are bound to dip, when that happens we will just \u2018lie low\u2019 and know that at some time the \u2018Lows\u2019 will take an upward turn.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                    Right enough the \u2019low\u2019 took place in an unavoidable and cyclic way. When the ‘low\u2019 came neither was surprised and they were prepared for it. They were both aware that ‘low\u2019 would cyclically turn towards a ‘high’.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                    Since this is important I will try to itemize the purpose of the curve.<\/span><\/p>\n

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                                                                                                                                    1. To understand self.<\/span><\/li>\n
                                                                                                                                    2. To understand the partner.<\/span><\/li>\n
                                                                                                                                    3. To enable a basis to show consideration and adjustment.<\/span><\/li>\n
                                                                                                                                    4. To be able to predict and cope up with ‘Lows’.<\/span><\/li>\n
                                                                                                                                    5. To expect and look forward to ‘Highs’.<\/span><\/li>\n
                                                                                                                                    6. To avoid unnecessary getting annoyed and blaming all other people, when in most cases, the only reason is the emotional ‘low’.<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

                                                                                                                                      Psychologists are not so overly concerned about the amplitude or frequency as long as they are within reasonable limits. This they feel is only a matter of adjustment and consideration. What bothers psychologists is if the period of the emotional cycle is disturbed. For example if it occupies as unduly long period of high or low like this.<\/span><\/p>\n

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                                                                                                                                      Prolonged Low (left) \u00a0| Prolonged High (right)<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                      It is this unchanging state, which is a matter of concern.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                      If the person retains a prolonged ‘high\u2019 it is usually not bothersome to others, people may be taken up with his cheerfulness and probably ask questions like, \u201cWhat is the secret of your happiness?\u201d They will perhaps envy him. The real question is, has he \/ she learned to maintain a positive attitude towards all (or at least to many of life\u2019s changing situation? If it is \u2018attitudes\u2019<\/strong> that keep their mood high, then we should learn from them.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                      What is usually bothersome is the prolonged \u2018Low\u2019 and if a person cannot pull himself \/ herself out of the \u2018Low\u2019 this makes the person unhappy. Those who have to interact with this person will feel the strain. The progressions of prolonged ‘low\u2019 will be: low, depression, discouragement, loss of courage and \/ or will; despair; suicide. Prolonged \u2018lows\u2019 may not necessarily slide all the way down towards Suicide \u00ad it may reach an equilibrium somewhere along the gradient. Whatever is the reason for Prolonged \u2019Lows\u2019 it has potential to be self-destructing and help may become necessary. Under help I mean, prayer, the sacraments, friendly confiding, counseling, encouragement, cultivation of knowledge of self and other, cultivation of an attitude, Inner healing. Only under very extreme conditions medicines and medical techniques like psychiatry, drug treatments. As far as possible most people do not need these in the first place. They need only an attitudinal change<\/strong> to improve their outlook and insight. They need to orient themselves away from \u2018The Selfish Ego\u2019. Medical techniques generally tend to interfere with their physical and mental make up and hook people on to the drug or treatment. Withdrawal symptoms are some additional factor that the patients will have to cope up with. It also leaves a bad-stigma on them. These Stigmas are very difficulty to erase. Besides being very costly, they run the risk of running the person permanently through the grounds. As far as possible clinical psychiatry should be avoided, because in the hand of unscrupulous career criminals it has made, and kept, patients as \u2018Guiny Pigs\u2019. By its very nature, it has a legality to experiment with the patient. If anything goes wrong, the profession is not at fault. Of course we cannot turn to every professional and ask him if his methods work, because he will naturally swear by his profession \u00ad it is, after all his bread and butter.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                      In all such questions PRAYER is the NUMBER ONE solution<\/strong>. And with prayer there should be the EARNEST WISH TO SURRENDER THE PROBLEM TO GOD. <\/strong> We must be aware that God may not see it fit to take the problem away immediately, and He may expect us to wait. No doubt He will have his reasons, even though we do not comprehend them. During this time of waiting, we run the risk of getting nervous, getting jumpy and we grab the problem away from God and try to solve it ourselves. This is the human mistake we all make; we have to learn to HAVE FAITH IN GOD.<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                      While we believe and have faith in God, we should do our best for this person. For example, we could encourage the person, be a friend to them, help them to focus (and keep that focus on God \u00ad while they are in their sorrow. They are having a tough time as it is, so to maintain their focus on God is not easy. For this reason be kind, be sympathetic, and be understanding and helpful. Help them to construct an attitude; otherwise kindness and sympathy will precipitate into self-pity. Help them with knowledge.<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                      Even though I have recommended the avoidance of psychiatry, there are other areas of medicine, which I have mentioned further on, which are extremely needed supplements that the body requires. We must always remember that like all other sciences, medicine also, is a God given talent. So if there are any areas of doubt \u00ad lift up these doubts in prayer to God. We always have this ‘Hot line\u2019 to GOD open.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                      C What causes depression in women\u201a?<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                      If we categorize the causes of depression in women, we find the following:<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                        \n
                                                                                                                                      1. Low self esteem.<\/span><\/li>\n
                                                                                                                                      2. Fatigue and time pressure.<\/span><\/li>\n
                                                                                                                                      3. Loneliness, isolation, boredom.<\/span><\/li>\n
                                                                                                                                      4. Absence of romantic love.<\/span><\/li>\n
                                                                                                                                      5. Financial problems.<\/span><\/li>\n
                                                                                                                                      6. \u00a0Sexual problems in marriage.<\/span><\/li>\n
                                                                                                                                      7. Menstrual and psychological problems.<\/span><\/li>\n
                                                                                                                                      8. Problem with children.<\/span><\/li>\n
                                                                                                                                      9. Problem with in-laws.<\/span><\/li>\n
                                                                                                                                      10. Aging.<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

                                                                                                                                        Every marriage and every marriage couple will be affected by definite problems. The influences and factors that bring these problems, maybe very different, they can be different from couple to couple. They may also be different for the same couple at different times in their life. The wives ranking of above mentioned causes would depend on the situation they find themselves in.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                        As an exercise the wife could rank the 10 causes in their order of importance, assigning the number one to the most troublesome problem. She should do the ranking alone. The husband should also rank these 10 causes the way he sees it. He also should do this independently. Afterwards they should compare their ranking of the problems.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                        In this kind of an exercise there are no, \u2018Right and Wrong\u2019 answers. The purpose of this exercise is to provide an opportunity for each one to see how they have judged the situation. The result brings a two-fold service.<\/span><\/p>\n

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                                                                                                                                        1. The partners can compare the point ratings, which are similar.<\/span><\/li>\n
                                                                                                                                        2. They can have a meaningful discussion on the ratings, which they have evaluated differently.<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

                                                                                                                                          Please do this exercise before reading on further. Let us try to examine these 10 causes.<\/span><\/p>\n

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                                                                                                                                          1. LOW SELF ESTEEM<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

                                                                                                                                            In different ways and for different reasons, low self-esteem seems to be the No. 1 Problem. Even in apparently healthy and happy marriages. Even among young and well-educated people the feeling of inferiority and self-doubt cut deepest and leave the ugliest scars. In most cases this problem surfaces within 5 minutes of the interview with a marriage Counselor. What is noticeable is the feeling of inadequacy; lack of confidence \u00ad in self and \/ or others; a feeling of worthlessness, becomes a way of thinking, and, for millions of women, it is a way of despair.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                            The struggle and feelings of person who suffer from low self esteem looks some thing like this,<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                            —-She wonders why no one rings up — wonders why she doesn’t have true friends, \u00ad the kind with whom you could talk soul to soul — The feeling of what would people think about me if they knew the real me. . . The feeling of being anxious or terrified when she has to speak with a group of her colleagues, and feels like a fool once she is back home. . . It is wondering why all other people have so much more talent than her. . . It is the feeling of thinking she is ugly and sexually unattractive. It is that low esteem feeling, which make her admit that she is a failure as a mother and a wife. . . It dislikes everything about self and the wish to be someone else. . . . It is feeling bad and lonely. It is lying in bed, while the whole family is already asleep and feeling empty and longing for an unconditional love. . . . It is intense self-pity. . . It is reaching up in the darkness to wipe a tear from the corner of the eye. \u00ad It is depression!<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                            We must not imagine that depression is exclusive to women; many men can also feel insecure and worthless. Loss of job, retirement, sickness etc., can trigger feeling of low self-esteem. Low self-esteem is a threat to the harmony of the whole family. This problem can affect children; Youngsters; people in working age group, older persons; people in every socio-economic strata, every race and ethnic group. It is universal and can engulf any one who feels disrespected in the eyes of other people. A great part of our self-concept is built from what others think about us.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                            The two examples described below illustrate the point that men and women feel differently. They are stimulated differently. These are a generalization; there is any number of exceptions to the rule.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                            Men tend to get better marks in the area of mathematics abstract logic and reasoning. Women on the other hand tend to excel in verbal skills. However, if all factors are put together, neither sex has a clear advantage over the other.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                            Men tend to prefer intelligence to physical attractiveness in themselves, even though both qualities are highly desirable. For women, however, the opposite is most likely true. Beauty out rank intelligence throughout life. The opinion of psychologist on this trait is interesting. They think, the average women prefers beauty to intelligence because they instinctively know the average man can, \u201csee\u201d better than he can \u201cthink\u201d, when it comes to this subject. (Sounds funny! after all only a few sentences earlier I mentioned that men have a flair for logical reasoning etc. \u00ad However, on this point there seems to be a difference. As you read through the chapter you will see that on this subject, man is a visually oriented creature). The inner instinct of a woman simply knows that beauty will bring her more dividend than intelligence. She also knows that men instinctively try to shy away from intelligent women. If they cannot shy away from them they tend to treat them as colleagues (but no closer).<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                            In reality, low self-esteem among women may be traced to thousands of causes, most of them linked with early home life, in one way or another. The adult who feels unloved or disrespected as a child will NEVER fully forget the experience. Just as the tongue always returns to the side of the missing tooth, the human mind constantly searches and gropes for evidence of its own worthiness. This childhood inferiority imposes itself on the mental apparatus for decades to come. The pain of inferiority is incredibly intense, absolutely demanding of the attention of the sufferer. As such, more day-to-day behavior is motivated by ‘ego\u2019 needs, than by any other factor in human experience, including the power of sex. Women who feel inferior must seek help to deal with it.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                            The two most common responses today lie at opposite ends of the behavioral spectrum. The feminine reader might look for her own footprints within the description of these two divergent personality patterns,<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                            1) Withdrawal.<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                            2) Fighting.<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

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                                                                                                                                            1. WITHDRAWAL<\/strong><\/span><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

                                                                                                                                              In this case people tend to withdraw from any situation where they fear they can be ridiculed or make a mistake.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                              The painful part of withdrawal is the self-pity that almost always accompanies it. Intense personal sorrow is a constant companion of this life style, with it comes those destructive little remarks spoken to the inner chambers of the mind. Remarks like, \u201cI knew you would bungle it up.\u201d, \u201cYou never do anything right.\u201d, \u201cDidn’t you know it would back-fire on you?\u201d \u201cAnd why? Why?\u201d Even friends of the ones who pity themselves are selected for their willingness to commensurate in the tragedies of daily living.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                              Self-pity is both addictive and highly contagious. It spreads like wildfire within a family, neighborhood or church congregation. It is exhausting. It leaves its victims tired, unmotivated, bored and miserable. With the escalation of self-pity, women go into despair, then gradually into personal hatred. If no remedial measures are taken, it can go all the way to suicide.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                              All in all withdrawal is not a very successful approach to inferiority feelings. It is the most stressful and the least effective of all the ego defenses. In reality it is no defense at all. For centuries, however, withdrawal has been the most common personality pattern among women.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                               <\/p>\n

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                                                                                                                                              1. FIGHTING<\/strong><\/span><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

                                                                                                                                                While withdrawal has gone out of style among those who feel inferior, anger is its hay day. Every one who has an axe to grind is supposed to lash out at any oppressor. \u00ad Everyone is mad at somebody, and when it is all put together, we have a society in the throes of violence. Even the film world glorifies it.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                There are other patterns, but withdrawal and fighting is two of the familiar patterns. Both lie on extreme ends of the spectrum. They are both extreme in their approach to the problem. Neither is healthy. The housewife is the hub of the family. If she resorts to either tactic the whole family\u00ad (Her family!) is engulfed in a blanket of gloom. Sooner or later she may either get compartmentalized as a hopeless case; a troublemaker; someone who can only be let loose at some time or the other – but not all the time. In another cases people may just wait either to come home late, or to be away from her presence, or wait for the opportunity to vacate the house altogether, like the teen age children. The net result is that she has spent a lot of energy and efforts on this thing they call self-pity, but what has she achieved? Nothing, absolutely nothing! except driving a wedge in her very own family. The cutting satisfaction that she got is temporal, and comes back later as a miserable feeling of guilt and worthlessness.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                The better response to self-esteem would be:<\/span><\/p>\n

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                                                                                                                                                1. Women must accept the reality that God made them. He had His reasons for all these traits. Even though we are not able to see and understand these reasons. God never makes manufacturing blunders. We have to trust God’s Wisdom.<\/span><\/li>\n
                                                                                                                                                2. God has created women with a very special role, dignity and status and this is their greatest asset. Many outwardly social, pleasant, laughing women who interact well with others have some inferiority in them. They are people who give the impression that all is well with their feelings, but within their own family the lack of it finds expression in one form or another.<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

                                                                                                                                                  Even though this point of low-esteem surfaces rather quickly while confiding to a marriage counselor, it still remains as one of the best-kept secrets to the general outsider. Nevertheless wives clearly wish their husbands could comprehend this point.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                  Let us examine another area. In general women prefer to have sex in the dark, but this is even more so, when they suffer from a low self esteem. Women are also more, \u2018touch sensitive\u2019 in this aspect, whereas men are much more, \u2018Visually oriented\u2019 and hence prefer to make love with some light. This is an experience that is made all over the world. Women who have a high self-esteem about the beauty of their body are likely to tolerate their husband\u2019s need for light more easily. This point has some parallel to the point I mentioned earlier when describing the beauty and intelligence preferences between men and women.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                  Instinctively women know that men are visually oriented beings, they prefer to, see. This is the reason why women rate beauty before intelligence. Irrespective of how modern any one thinks they are, there is still some amount of instinctive \u2018fall back\u2019 in both men and women.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                  There are times or situations in life when we must help another person facing a problem concerning low self esteem. We may have to either comfort or advise such a person. Here is some advice on this very sensitive issue:<\/span><\/p>\n

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                                                                                                                                                  1. You have to do the advising the way porcupines make love \u00ad very, very carefully,<\/span><\/li>\n
                                                                                                                                                  2. The right to criticize must be earned, even if the advice is constructive in nature!<\/span><\/li>\n
                                                                                                                                                  3. Before you are entitled to tinker with another person’s self esteem, you are obligated first to demonstrate your own respect for him \/ her as a person.<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

                                                                                                                                                    This is accomplished through an atmosphere of love, kindness and human warmth. When a relationship of confidence has been carefully constructed, you will have earned the right to discuss a potentially threatening topic.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                    This principle stands in direct opposition to the current way of doing things. In this regard many so-called advisers say things and think that they are being honest. These people imagine, by walking into the person house and saying, \u201cYour house is untidy.\u201d They have been correct, because they have been honest. Or they say, \u201cOh! My dear, look at all the wrinkles you have on your face since I last saw you.\u201d This way, they actually think they are frank and correct because it is true.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                    Honesty? Sure, but what a price to pay for it! Honesty, that does not have the best interest of the hearer at heart, is a cruel form of selfishness.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                    4. It is best to offer any suggestions in very small doses.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                    5. And we must always remember that all the while some one, some where, would like to straighten out a few of our faults too \u00ad we all have faults of our own.<\/span><\/p>\n

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                                                                                                                                                    1. FATIGUE AND TIME PRESSURE<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

                                                                                                                                                      Many women rank this point as the second most common reason for depression. In one way or the other, people all over the world are faced with fatigue and time pressure. We seem to have made a life style of racing through the day and moonlighting by night. Even recreation is marked by neck breaking speed. People are becoming more and more occupied and are speeding further and faster down the road of fatigue.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                      It is not only the physical activities but also the mental activities. We have what is known as, \u2018A TO DO LIST\u2019, which keeps the head whirling and spinning. We have a list of things that we have to attend to. So we are too busy, every one can see that. But what has that to do with depression. Just this, every obligation we shirk becomes a source of guilt. When there are more commitments than we can possibly handle our self-esteem is further damaged by failure. We begin to start asking our self-questions like, \u201cAm I really such a shocking parent?\u201d \u201cAm I too tired to be a good wife?\u201d, \u201cAm I disorganized and confused?\u201d, \u201cAm I out of touch with the world around me?\u201d, \u201cDon\u2019t I have any time or ability to make real friends?\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                      The late Vince Lombardi, the Great American Football coach once said to his team \u201cFatigue makes cowards out of us all.\u201d How right he was! Physical depletion renders us less capable to cope up with the noisiness of children, the sound of the washing machine, even small irritations are unbearable. It is the same as the saying, \u201cWhen you are tired you are attacked by ideas you thought you had conquered long ago.\u201d Perhaps, this explains why women (and men) who are grossly over worked became cowards \u00ad whining, griping and biting those whom they love the most.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                      If fatigue and time pressure produces such a strain, why do we allow ourselves to become so busy? \u00ad Because, everyone thinks this hectic pace is only temporary. We reach for such phrases like, \u201cOnce the business is established I will be able to slow down.\u201d, \u201cOnce the house has been paid for, we need not work so hard.\u201d etc. But these so-called temporary phases are back to back with other temporary phases and in the end we have a long-term lifestyle.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                      No one can, \u201crace around\u201d faster than a mother of multiple pre-school aged children. Not only is she rushed up from morning to night, but she experiences an unusual kind of emotional stress as well. There are so many factors that keep her mentally and physically on the move. \u00ad It could be the constant flow of words and endless repetition of words that children indulge in without seeming to get tired; or it maybe the children\u2019s, \u2018Here and Now\u2019 attitude, which they adopt for their needs.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                      Children below the age of 5 have brains which are like unsaturated sponges. These brains are eager to soak up any and every piece of knowledge or information. So, it is common for children to have a barrage of questions. The reality of it is that it is possible to talk to a child about higher mathematics, Higher English, Einstein\u2019s theory of Relativity. Or teach them chess or music. The inhibition is not in the child\u2019s mind at all, it is in the grown ups mind that seems to impart the feeling, \u201cIf I cannot understand it, how can the child?\u201d It may be very true, the grown up may not understand the topic in question, because they had other priorities in life, but that does not alter the fact that a child can be spoken to about a far wider variety of thing, than we are willing to give children credit for. The most important ingredient that the adult must posses is patience, love for children, love for the topic and time. Time and patience is needed because the child does not have a lot of rudimentary knowledge what an older person may have acquired. Also their concentration span is less. They need to see the topic as a fun experience like another form of \u201cstory telling time\u201d. The worse thing that can happen is that another adult, whom the child respects, walks into the room and says something like, \u201cThat is far above the child\u2019s capacity.\u201d It is these detrimental individuals that bring limitations to the child. The best way is to treat the talk secession as a matter of fact discussion, between, say the father and the children. If secession needs to be interrupted, for dinner for example, then say, \u201cNow it is dinner time, so let\u2019s eat now and we can continue at some other time.\u201d This attitude give the impression that there is nothing wrong with having an enquiring mind as well as a sense of priorities, like it is time to fit something else into the time slot \u2013 like have dinner.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                      Many mothers say, \u201dWhen the baby sleeps then I also get a chance to catch up on sleep.\u201d But in most cases when one baby is asleep the other one is wide-awake and demanding full attention. Normally the wide-awake child would distribute some of its attention on the other child, but now it lavishes its full attention on the mother, and, expects a fully active participation in return. People who are well versed with maternal fatigue patterns are of the opinion that the energy level is at its lowest between 18:00 H and 21:00 H. It is good if the husbands also knew this.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                      In this hectic world of ours, we give children direct and indirect feelings of \u2018hurry’. Grand parents are a tremendous calming effect on the children, because they have time and plenty of it. They have time to answer all their questions; they have times to go for walks and observe such things like caterpillars and leaves . . . . . . . . .<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                      Why do dedicated parents have to be reminded to be sensitive to the needs of their children? Won’t that just be natural and automatic expression of love and concern? Yes it should, but mums and dads have problems of their own, they are pushed to the limit of their own, endurance by time pressures. Dad already his two jobs (or more) their crowded life produces fatigue and fatigue produces irritation and irritation produces indifference and the child will interpret indifference as lack of real affection and personal esteem. For many, this is where low self-esteem could have started. What is the hurry any way? Don\u2019t you know your children will be gone so quickly and you will have nothing but a blurred memory of these years when they needed you?<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                      Wives often wish husbands could understand female depression associated with hustle and bustle. It is said, if women would be given just three wishes in this direction they would be:<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                      1 For some strange reason, human beings and women in particular tolerate stress and pressure more easily if at least one other person knows that they are enduring it. Even if the husband does not do anything to change the situation, simply the awareness of his wife’s work, makes a world of difference. If that is coupled with admiration for which she did today, it makes it easier to repeat the assignment tomorrow. Instead, usually the opposite occurs. There are these innocent questions which the husband asks, that sends<\/strong> the wife into annoyance, like, \u201cWhat did you do all day, Dear?\u201d This question will be taken to imply besides being here and rising up at noon and watching TV and drinking endless cups of coffee, and telephoning friends here and there, have you also done anything else. There are many things to this question; it is (like in many other questions), well meant and innocent. To most men it is a cherry extension of home coming greeting. It is a husband\u2019s way of saying, \u201cHi! How are you? How are things?\u201d Much like what he would say elsewhere. It is a form of habit to greet this way. He does not want an account of how she spent her time. Nevertheless the question is un-minded and it is thoughtless because a lot of things have been done. It is plainly obvious that the child has been fed, bathed many times; the house is clean and tidy; various household chores have been done, Food is also prepared, etc.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                      It is, however, totally wrong for the wife to swear at the question or act rudely or to act in someway so as to throw cold water on the husband’s home coming. There is one good way to tackle this, that is to tell him in a nice way, what form of greeting you would prefer (this may be obvious to you, but it is certainly not obvious to him) So, tell him how you like his house coming greetings to be. Like so many new thing, he needs time to make a habit of greeting the way you want it, so help him to get into your swing of home coming greetings. Gradually he will make it his life style. You will be happy and he will be encouraged to do it more often in a natural way. The old irritating question will then become something of the past. Wouldn’t that be a more constructive way of doing things rather than fuming? It is nice to remember the old saying, \u201cWhen you smile, the world smiles WITH you; when you frown and the world frowns AT you.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                      Questions:<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                      There are a lot of so called friendly questions, meant with all good feelings by one, and taken absolutely negatively by the other.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                      For example, wives who knew their husbands are having personal problem at work tend to ask, \u201cHow did your work go today?\u201d The question is filled with loving concern, but such a question may send him into orbit. Why! What happened? Simply, this, he has come home. Home is his retreat to be away from his problem, his place to regain strength; a place to get his mind away from the problem. The question reminding him of the problem. It also has the effect of transferring him back mentally to his place of work and automatically compels him to grapple with it, all over again, right here from his place of \u2018rest\u2019 as it were. His retreat has mentally become the venue of re-hashment. He is most certainly going to react in an unpleasant way to his wife, or the one who asked the question. What was meant to be a good question brings negative results and both are unhappy. One of the most noticeable pattern with these so called, \u201cwell meant questions\u201d is that the one asking the question asks it again and again. And the one hearing it takes offense again and again. <\/strong>Why does this happen? Because the question is honestly well meant by the one Asking, she or he is not able to grasp that anything can be taken amiss. It becomes a circle because the other person is genuinely outraged with the question. The only way to break this circle is to tell her \/ him that you don\u2019t like being asked about this question, if that is how you feel about it \u00ad you should clearly state that you don\u2019t want to be asked such a question, and you should say what you feel. Say it with love so that the other person realizes how you feel.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                      On the other hand, if a colleague were to ask that question, it may be taken very differently. Because the colleague is, in his mind, a part of the \u2018PROBLEM SOLVING\u2019 <\/strong>team. His wife however is on quite another team. In his mind, she is on a much more elevated team. She is on the \u2018COMFORT TEAM\u2019<\/strong>. She is part of his REJUVINATION process. She is that place of \u2018REST\u2019 where he RE-GROUPS, RE-STRUCTURES, INVIGOURATES and comes back with WINNING MOVES. Under these expectations, it is hardly any wonder that the well meant question \u2018backfired\u2019.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                      Another thing which is annoying about these so called, well meant questions, is that they are asked the minute the husband comes home or just while he has settled down or just when he is about to put food into his mouth.<\/span> <\/strong> This trait is so widespread and universal; it crosses all national boundaries and all time boundaries, irrespective of which ever century. This takes away the charm of home\u00adcoming. He begins to feel, it is better to drop off at a restaurant, have a cup of coffee, unwind and then only come home. Or instead of coming straight home, he parks his car at some parking lot or the beach just to relax, munches his snacks, drinks his coffee and after he has unwound himself, he feels, \u201cNow I have to go home and be once again haunted,- this time from \u201cSomeone\u201d at home.\u201d If he does any of these things, it will be a clear sign that his homecoming reception does not bring him satisfaction. This is the reason why he feels it necessary to unwind elsewhere. If this happens, it is a powerful indication that the partner must become more informed of his need. Women, who discover this, are often surprised. They may honestly react with a question like, \u201cI didn\u2019t know that. You should have told me that you didn\u2019t like me asking you about what was bothering you? I was concerned, you know.\u201d There are a string of things which are true, for example, He didn\u2019t tell her, and she had no idea that she was bothering him, she was genuinely concerned.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                      This brings us to an important point. Both husband and wife need to know this: In crises, until the man can structurize the problem, he will not talk. A woman on the other hand will try to seek relief and talk, predominantly because she tries to talk the problem into a structured form. In the helplessness of the situation or because of the absence of solutions, a woman may do this talking sometimes in a vociferous manner or with tears. The roots of these behaviors are longer standing than the person. It is in fact instinctive. That is one of the main reasons why boys take longer to speak. In a way they are trying to figure out sufficient \u2018Thought Structures\u2019 <\/strong>as to \u201chow\u201d to say the thought. It is not a question of \u2018vocabulary\u2019; it is a question of putting the thought into an \u2018Acceptable Structure\u2019<\/strong>. Once he is satisfied, in his mind, then he will be willing to talk. If the adults around him show enthusiasm, praise and encourage him, he is on the road to becoming a talking human being. In a girl, the moment a thought arises in the brain; it quickly finds her tongue and off it goes. She develops proficiency more by practice, he only after sufficient analysis of \u201cHow to structure it.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                      So, Men, Break the annoying circle; tell her that the timing of the question is bothering you. Tell her in love so that she knows what you like.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                      A wife should be willing to do everything to restore normal home coming. Eventually, the absence of peaceful homecoming will drive the husband to hatred. The spin off of this is drinks, pub life, being with his buddies or finding solace with another, \u201cMore Understanding\u201d women.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                      In a way, if this behavioral pattern is not learnt, the problem will have a re-manifestation in motherhood arena of her life, and this is equally un-welcomed by the son.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                      2 Most women will agree that the daily task of running a household can be managed; it is the accumulation of chores that breaks the back. And they feel the strain of never being able to ‘catch up\u2019 with the work. That is what wears them down. It is a much better feeling when one feels the goals are achieved at the end of the day, than when they are not. There is automatically more reason to be cheerful when you feel you have accomplished something you set your sights on. Many wives are proud to have a spotless home at whatever it costs. But what is the use if she is so defeated and irritated at the end of the day, when the goals are not achieved? All husbands would prefer to have a happy home to live in, rather than a museum. This is a fact. Even if some husbands like everything to be spic and span the fact remains, if they have to choose between only one of these, the choice would, without doubt be, for a happy home. Even when some women say, my husband wants everything in order and beautiful. The honest under current of the statement is that her husband wants everything in order, but she wants everything beautiful. It is difficulty for a wife to minimize the quality. This is because she takes as much pride in her home as a man takes in his job. So she wants to perform well. She wants to bring out an excellent turnout. Men have to recognize this need in their wives and help them to strike the best possible compromise.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                      3 Husbands and wives should constantly guard against the scourge of over-commitment. We need to waste time now and then. This is something we have forgotten. We try to fill in an activity for every available moment we have. We may even go so far as to fill up our children\u2019s time with some program or the other. They need time to do nothing. It is in this period that they not only rest and gather new physical and mental strengths but it is the time when they think and reflect. A great part of our progress has been shaped by the thinking and reflection. It is thinking and reflection that gives a platform for creativity, abstract and logical movement of the mind. It is the time that helps these young people to become the artists and architects of their lives. It is a practice in learning about self and others \u00ad (school learning is limited). Men need time to potter around in the garage and women need time to pluck their eyebrows, curl their hair and do girlish things again. Things like this bring a tranquilizing effect on the body and mind. We must learn to do what young boys do all over the world, to amble around and kick stones. What we find today is unbelievable. Our societies today think that relaxing and unwinding involves taking a vacation trip and traveling thousands of miles. Have they actually achieved this? This is questionable because we often hear people saying, \u201cThere was so much to do, and it was so hectic and everything was so new and so different. The first day I got to rest was when I came back to office \u201d A statement like this sounds funny, but it is often very true.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                      Whenever a disenchanted housewife confides in others, invariably they offer the same solution to her low self-esteem. \u201cGet a job; \u00ad Have a career; \u00ad Do you own things. \u201d There are times when wives must work because of stressful financial situations but to sell the concept that every female who isn’t working is being cheated and exploited is a lie with enormous consequences.<\/span><\/p>\n

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                                                                                                                                                      1. 3. LONELINESS; ISOLATION; BOREDOM AND ABSENCE OF ROMANTIC LOVE IN MARRIAGE<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

                                                                                                                                                        The despair associated with loneliness, isolation, boredom is closely related with the absence of romantic love in marriage. During counseling the ladies say in effect:<\/span><\/p>\n

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                                                                                                                                                        1. \u00a0\u201cI do not like myself.\u201d<\/span><\/li>\n
                                                                                                                                                        2. \u00a0\u201cI do not have any meaningful relationship at home.\u201d<\/span><\/li>\n
                                                                                                                                                        3. \u00a0\u201cI am not close to the man whom I love.\u201d<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

                                                                                                                                                          These three categories seem to encompass the whole world. These young, attractive wives and mothers admitted to being emotionally isolated from all other human beings on earth! And this seems to be the greatest source of female discontentment.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                          Feelings of self worth and acceptance, which provide the basis of a healthy personality, can only be obtained from one source. (It cannot be bought or manufactured), Self esteem is only obtained from what we perceive of our reflection in the eyes of others. It is only when others respect us that we respect our self. It is only when other people find us pleasant, desirable and worthy that we come to terms with our self in our own ego. We depend on people every day for our emotional nourishment. People who are deprived of this contact year after year are certain to experience feelings of worthlessness, and its step- children are deep depression and despair.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                          The question is why do wives allow themselves to be sealed off from meaningful friendship and associations outside their homes? Why does their natural course seem to take them towards further loneliness and emotional deprivation? Experts believe there are at least seven explanations for isolation of women, these days. Besides these seven there may very well be more explanations too.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                          1) Small children isolate a mother. It is such a hassle to pack the carry\u00adcot, nappies and all the supportive paraphernalia just to go and visit a friend. Many mothers wonder if it is worth the efforts. Even then, the kids won\u2019t play by themselves and they keep the mother from enjoying the occasion anyhow. If the youngster is not well disciplined, their mother is embarrassed to take them anywhere and invitations from former friends become scarce, because they simply can’t stand her brats in their house. This is the reason why mothers of pre-school children often give up and stay at home, spending month after month with little people. There was once a situation, when the mother of pre-school children who was finally given the opportunity to get out of her house. Her husband\u2019s company had a party, and she was seated next to the Managing Director himself. She was very nervous about talking to a real alive adult again. She feared she might unconsciously revert to baby talk during the course of the evening. To her surprise however, she conversed without a flaw through the entire evening, she spoke about world events and current political situations. Everything seemed to be going on well when suddenly with dismay she realized that throughout their conversation, she had been pulling his chin in order get her point across to him. This is may be what is called a housewife\u2019s occupational hazard.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                          A rather common problem with women in such a position as mother of pre-school children is that they use a wrong choice of words and afterwards they are embarrassed about it.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                          2) Though the, \u2018avant-garde\u2019 feminist will get red, it is generally observed that women can be absolutely vicious with each other. We encounter this in work spots or anywhere where elsewhere they are put together. Sooner or later there will be some friction or the other. There is a kind of resentment that is so natural to them. As one exasperated male boss once put it: \u201cMy particular talented antagonists can stir up more trouble in one single afternoon, than I can untangle in a whole week\u201d. They could get into trouble about almost anything, like one day the whole office was in a state of incandescence because of personal deodorants and whether it should be sprayed on or rolled on. Clearly none of these technicalities were the sole reason for the fight; there was something personal to their vociferous duel. If it is not deodorants it could be about something or the other. The matter was very important and real to them. And in a way the exasperation (or amusement) was equally real to their boss. The same competitiveness and suspicion is also represented among housewives. There are many women who simply cannot stand other women! This problem is not unknown, for example, I once came across an advertisement, where a Parish announced:<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                          Vacancy for a Parish Pastor: Not only were the desired qualifications and personal characteristics of the Pastor listed, in addition even the desired personal characteristics of his wife listed. Among the list of desired points, one point read. . . His wife must be able to get along with other women. . . To one or the other this may look like a joke. But if we carefully consider the point, we will have to give this Parish full marks. This Parish has of course understood that they need a resident Pastor and that his characteristics are important for their Spiritual well being. They have also understood that, as a Parish Pastor, his wife (and children), are very much a part of the Team. And that they should function to support and improve his efforts. A Pastor\u2019s job extends far beyond conducting a few church \u00ad services and a routine travel circuit through schools, hospitals, orphanages and parish-council meetings. He has additional jobs of ministry at functions, like baptisms, marriage and deaths. Beyond all these, \u201cunderstood jobs\u201d is a vast, often-unseen service of befriending, advising, counseling of people in a variety of needs. All these needs are unique; individual attention is needed; often multiple and constant follow-up is needed and invariably they are very time consuming. A good wife is a tremendous support to the congregation if she helps out, especially in areas where people prefer to speak to a woman instead of the Pastor himself. Not all speaking involves problems; some involve get-togethers; picnics; children\u2019s parties; community or parish projects; ladies get together; senior citizens get together. These activities are where women are more actively involved. It is therefore essential that the pastor\u2019s wife have the ability to get along with (a variety of other women.)<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                          There are less aggressive individuals who are greatly threatened by feminine company. Such women will never invite the girls; over to tea before she has cleaned the house spic and span inside, outside the garden and all.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                          They will see that an extra special and super delicious cake is either made or bought, preferably made.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                          And those with nicer homes than hers will never be invited over by people with a humble dwelling. And those whose husbands have higher professions, higher paying jobs are often deeply resented by those who struggle to pay their household bills each month. The summary is that women are often pitted against the very people whom they need for mutual respect and acceptance. The result is loneliness and boredom.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                          3) Feeling of inferiority, among them, seems to isolate each other. The converse is equally true that isolation increases inferiority. These two conditions interact in a vicious circle. Spiraling ever downwards into despair and loneliness. The woman with no real friends feels too inferior to make new social contact, and the failure to make friends makes her feel even more inferior. A housewife in this predicament is a prime candidate for secret alcoholism or drug abuse or even suicide. She is desperate for meaningful contact with other people, yet her behavior is often misinterpreted by her peers as being stuck-up; cold, aloof or self-sufficient.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                          4) Women are often less successful in finding outside interests and activities than are their masculine counterparts. Men typically love sporting events and draw great enthusiasm from following the games of their favorite team, women do not. Men usually like to hunt, fish, hike the wilderness. Women stay at home and wait for them. Men like to bowl, play golf, tennis, basketball, softball etc. Women watch while yawning on the sidelines. Men like to build and fix things and work in the garage. Women remain inside washing the dishes. Men find recreation in boating and car racing and everything mechanical. Women are bored with such, Non-sense. Now obviously, these are generalizations which have innumerable exceptions, but the fact remains that men usually lack the time to pursue their varied interests, while, their wives may find it difficult to generate much genuine enthusiasm for anything. I suspect that the cultural influence of early childhood stamp certain passivity on little girls, constricting their field of interests. For whatever reasons, the world of women is typically narrower than those of men. For proof of this fact, listen to the conversation of the women as opposed to men at your next social gathering. The feminine discussion will probably center on children; cosmetics; and other people behavior. Men will talk about much greater variety of topics. It should not be surprising then, that boredom ranks high as a source of depression among women.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                          5) Fatigue and time pressure discussed in C. 2. must also serve to isolate mothers of small children. There simply isn’t enough time or energy to open the door to the outside world.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                          6) Financial limitations are a restrictive factor on housewives \u00ad this will be discussed in detail later on.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                          7) Wrong arrangement of time to be romantic. For the sake of illustration, I am going to use certain choices of words. You will see the reason and explanation at the end of this point.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                          Situation: When a man comes home he looks for rest, the place to unwind, the place to find love. In general, men will never put their expectations in words, this way. Not even to themselves. For them it is understood and they do not even entertain the thought to explain themselves. However, they are sensitive to understand that their \u201cALL IS WELL\u201d is disturbed. And they are reflexive enough to show it, sometimes by walking away from the room, sometime by picking up something else to do, sometimes by snarling. In order to bring out this point, let us examine a situation. A man is very selective with his time to watch TV. He watches TV rarely. He comes to watch his favorite TV program, which comes only once a week, for half an hour. Exactly at this time the wife decides the adjacent room needs to be vacuumed or the kitchen blender needs to be switched on. She may think all these things need to be done. She may grab on to the saying: \u2018House- work never ends\u2019. This drives the man \u2018nuts\u2019. Without even saying a word he thinks, \u201cShe had 9\u00bd hours to make all the racket she wants, while I am away. But NO, She has to make a racket after I come.\u201d; \u201cIs she trying to impress me?\u201d; \u201cIs this her way of telling me that she works and works and works—\u201d Technically, he was expecting a \u2018Loving Wife\u2019 when he comes home. He was NOT expecting the \u2018Maid\u2019 to be still around. Here is the point where husbands fail: Instead of going up to the wife, sweeping her off her feet and carrying her over to the couch and telling her: \u201cNothing in the world matters, except that you are with me and all the rest can wait for tomorrow.\u201d; Instead of saying something nice, he ignorantly keeps quite, (Lack of Communication) and wrong strategies just come into formation.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                          There is another thing too: The wife may not fully understand his lack of tolerance to the noise of gadgetry like kitchen blender, vacuum cleaners and other domestic appliances. On the other hand she knows he works in a factory or other places with machinery, which makes even more noise. So she wonders, what is bothering him here? Is it me? Maybe she thinks, \u201cScowl Face is back, give him time to become human again.\u201d The answer is simple: The sound he hears in factory or his work spot, no matter how noisy or monotonous, becomes synonymous, IN HIS MIND, with a sense of Well being, Income, Medical benefits, Retirement plan, Vacation bonus, Shared profit, Occupation, Promotion, Growth, Personal progress for him and his family, Educational possibilities for the children, Face of usefulness, Job security and a lot more. In short this is the sound of music; it is the sound of \u2018ALL IS WELL\u2019. The sound of the vacuum cleaner and kitchen blender did exactly the opposite\u2026Given a proper explanation a wife may grasp his point well, and understand why those factory.noises are OK. She may even communicate the fact that he is proud of his job, his designs, his circuits, the sounds that keep his jets flying, By the very same token she too feel a sense of pride about her home. The home is her spot to feel accomplished. The sounds of kitchen blender is the sound of her meals become tastier,- for her husband and her children. The sound of the vacuum cleaner is the sounds that keep her place \u2018Spic and Span.\u2019 these are the sounds that keep her jets flying. Men understand the words quickly, they are not dim wits. He mumbles something to the four winds and goes about his business again. So it did not work. The way to get this point across is for the wife to grab his hand and put it around her shoulders and tell him that she is proud to be his good wife, good mother, good home maker and the home is her place of accomplishment. If words are just spoken on this subject, it goes quickly in through one ear and the straight out of the other ear. FAST. He hears a number of these types of suggestions by the ear full every single hour of the day. In order NOT to get befuddled, he instinctively develops that tactic: \u2018In one Ear and Out of the other, FAST.\u2019<\/strong> In fact it is crucial that he become efficient in it. What sets the wife and a child apart is the \u201cTOUCH FACTOR\u201d<\/strong>. Others cannot really do this. Others can use \u2018Words\u201d but the wife and children can use the more powerful combination of \u2018Words and Touch\u2019<\/strong>. This is where the difference is. This is also where the effectiveness is. Children just know how to do this and adults sometimes have to re-capture these \u2018lost\u2019 skills.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                          There is yet another point: His day to day time outside the home will bring him into contact with various other women. They women are all over, in his work spot, cafeterias, and any other spots on regular basis. These women may be attractive, charming and have all other desirable attributes. In his mind, however he knows, these are colleagues, they may be \u2018friends who he can introduce to his parents, wife or children without any smear of guilt\u2019. This is as far as things can go. NO FURTHER. When this is the fidelity of the husband, his romantic needs have only one place to go – that is to his wife. Isn\u2019t that reason enough for the wife to switch the \u2018House work OFF\u2019 and switch the \u2018Loving Wife\u2019 ON?. The truth of the matter is all men would rather prefer a \u2018Loving Wife\u2019 over the \u2018House Maid\u2019. So really, if romance is important for a wife, she needs to ask herself, when he is around, Should she be \u2018wife\u2019 or \u2018maid\u2019? Now women may think, he should be more romantic. Deep down, he is<\/strong>, there is no question about that. What fails to surface is, \u2018DEMONSTRATION\u2019. There are no educational- classes on this subject. Sons will certainly not entertain their mothers talking to them on this subject. Many cultures ignore this \u2018aspect\u2019 fully; in fact they may even look down upon the demonstration aspect in a cultural sense. The few books that deal with the topic of: \u201cHOW TO BE ROMANTIC \u2013 FOR MEN\u201d have all their pages blank.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                          When I started point 7, I said for illustration I will use certain choices of words. I used words like \u201cMAID\u201d; \u201cSCROWL FACE\u201d. It is very easy for us to pick up these and similar words. We can also be tempted to apply them. If we do not dismiss the thought right away, it remains in our mind. It begins to grow by itself, in our mind, and reinforces the statements like \u201cMAID\u201d; \u201cSCROWL FACE\u2019 etc. It happens without our efforts. Imperceptibly our viewpoint changes, We begin to see less and less of \u201cSWEET HEART\u201d but more and more of \u201cSOMETHING NEGATIVE\u201d. Similarly, the wife may see less and less of \u201cHUSBAND\u201d and more and more of \u201cSCROWL FACE\u201d. We begin to eventually think less lovingly and consequently behave less lovingly. A \u2018Ping Pong\u2019 exchange of bad pushes lovingness further and further away. This can become a vicious circle of \u2018Whispers to Your Mind.\u2019 The remedy is: Each one has to break their own vicious circle of the \u2018Whispers to the Mind\u2019. The spouse can help but the spouse cannot break it. The spouse can pray. You have to break it yourself with God\u2019s help. The Sacrament of Confession<\/strong> is the most powerful source of grace<\/strong> to break the fetters.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                          So ladies, on a lighter note, I guess, the only recommendation is: \u201cIf you want romance, you have to be romantic yourself.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n

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                                                                                                                                                          1. \u00a0EMOTIONAL DIFFERENCES BETWEEN MEN AND WOMEN<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

                                                                                                                                                            Whereas men and women have the same need for self worth and belonging, they typically satisfy those needs differently. A man derives his sense of worth primarily from the reputation he earns in his job or profession. He draws emotional satisfaction from achieving in his job business, becoming financially independent, developing a highly respected craft or skill, supervising others, becoming \u2018boss\u2019 or by being loved and appreciated by patients, clients or fellow businessmen. The man who is successful in these areas does not depend on his wife as his primary shield against inferiority. Certainly she plays an important role as his companion and lover, but she isn’t essential to his day by day self-respect.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                            By contract, a housewife approaches her marriage from a totally different perspective. She does not have access to ‘other\u2019 sources of self-esteem commonly available to her husband. This is the reason why she becomes more dependent on her husband to provide these needs.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                            To oversimplify the situation, Men derive self-esteem from being RESPECTED \u00ad Women feel worth when they are LOVED. This statement is the most important personal difference between the sexes.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                            A man can be content with a kind of a business partnership in marriage \u00ad food, sexual privileges and no nagging can satisfy him. The romantic element is nice, but not essential. However, this surface relationship drives his wife utterly wild with frustration. She must have something more meaningful. Women yearn to be the special sweet heart of their men; they want to be respected, appreciated and loved with tenderness. This is why a housewife often thinks about her husband and eagerly awaits his arrival home. It explains why their wedding anniversary is more important to her and why he gets clobbered when he forgets it. It explains why she is constantly reaching for him and trying to pull him out of the newspaper or TV. It explains why absence of romance is rated so high with her and so low with him.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                            Let’s face one fact, even though this book is written by a man, the percentage of men who will read it are likely to be only about 20 %. It is usually the woman who tries to build up the relationship again (and again). So the plight of a woman whose husband ‘ought to but does not\u2019 is very real. Some tips are therefore necessary if she has to communicate her feelings to her husband.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                            A verbal barrage at the end of a workday is not what I mean by communication. This tactic will only produce a snarl. And nagging shuts down communication with amazing efficiency. By contrast communication is a matter of TIMING, SETTING and MANNER. The proper use of these three factors will not only help to avoid a snarl, but will get him first of all to hear, and, then to consider what you are saying. This is the proper purpose of communication. What is the use if you have good things to say and he is not willing to listen? And what is the use of your good suggestions, if he is not willing to consider them? For a while you must remember you are alone in your efforts \u00ad the husband is in his castle, he wants his peace and rest and he has pulled up the drawbridge. Your efforts are like a threat to his peace of mind, so he has closed his ears and switched his brain to a different frequency. All men sooner or later develop a remarkable ability to tune-out when their wives begin to nag. So his receptiveness and willingness is directly proportional to your success. If you do this successfully, you have the added advantage that he will seek your communication more and more. So work towards these three points.<\/span><\/p>\n

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                                                                                                                                                            1. TIMING: Select the moment when your husband is typically more responsive and pleasant. This has to be found out. It is different and unique to every husband. One of the ways to find out the, \u2018When\u2019 is by observing two reactions:<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

                                                                                                                                                              (I) If a certain time and location produces a snarl \u00ad then this is to be considered as un-favorable. Take this reaction as a valuable clue.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                              (ii) If by contrast another time and location produces favorable response, you have managed to solve the problem.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                              If you have struck the right timing to talk your problems to him, this is a real reason to be happy. So be happy. We all need these moments of joy to strengthen and encourage us. Don\u2019t forget the husband, let some of you joy rub-off on him also \u00ad He also must feel good in order to be more good to you. It gives both of you the stamina to go on and to improve. The ability to achieve this result is a God given talent that every wife has.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                              Armed with the knowledge that success is within the reach of a wife, you can go all out with heart and soul to win your husband over. Slowly he will switch to your wavelength. His innermost thoughts are in the castle of his mind and closed with a ‘drawbridge\u2019, as it were. He will lower the drawbridge, maybe just a wee-bit. He needs time. Men are rigid in their thinking. They are not stubborn \u00ad just rigid. This is the factor that enables them to keep at a job, in their difficult and ever challenging professional world. If they did not produce this ability to be rigid when things got rough, you would find husbands coming home crying and refusing to face work everyday. So the fact that he has begun to listen is an enormous achievement. Now you can build up.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                              1 Tell him in a loving way that you are seeking to understand him and trying to find out when it bothers him least so that you can talk about difficult subjects. He will be flattered with the first half of the statement and he will promptly tell you that he is always bothered when you want to accost him with difficult subjects. If you smile sweetly, you will disarm his defenses.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                              2 After you have achieved some success. Encourage him; tell him, I found it very nice that we could speak about this difficult subject. . . . I am happy that you showed interest. . . I am thankful because it makes me feel easier. . . Even though we didn’t solve everything, this beginning is very encouraging.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                              3 You can ask him, would it be OK if we choose the same time and location to speak about any other difficult topic? It is an honest question he will also answer it with equal honesty and respect. An honest question like this helps him to lower the \u2018drawbridge\u2019. It is, at the same time, that you will slowly be considered worthwhile to \u2018come into his castle\u2019. \u00ad you will gradually be taken off the \u2018Intruder List\u2019, and be put on to the \u2018Welcome List\u2019, and, eventually granted the status to be his peaceful and well meaning \u2018Companion\u2019. Many women may think the wedding ring has given them that status automatically. The reality is the wedding ring only gives them the privilege to \u2018Try and Establish\u2019 that status. This problem becomes even more of a challenge for those married to an only child. These men have lived like \u2018Lone Rangers\u2019; they have never had any one to let into their life, so they don\u2019t know what it is to allow people into their inner sanctuary. Those who also grew up in Boarding schools and hostels learn to build up even tighter defenses. As a woman you have some instinctive skills to reach a man’s heart. As a wife you have the right license to be his only sweet heart and \u2018Win him over\u2019. This is wonderful. After all, before you learned how to become accepted into his \u2018Castle\u2019, you were fighting and raging outside, doing all kinds of mistakes, and being shutout as a troublesome interference. Now you have reached the stage where you can enter with honor.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                              Remember you have only entered his castle. But inside this castle you must find ‘Him’. There is a labyrinth in this castle, which has been formed by age; experience upbringing, schooling, and time pressure and many other influencing factors. You will have to find \u201cHim\u201d.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                              From this point onwards you need not be alone anymore. Now you can ask him ‘How\u2019 ‘When\u2019 and ‘the Best way\u2019 you could bring up difficult subjects. He will tell you ‘How’, \u2018When\u2019 and ‘the best way\u2019, to communicate to him. You will then have the blue print of success right out of the horse’s mouth. What else can any wife want?<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                              What is important is the way your ATTITUDE is set:<\/span><\/p>\n

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                                                                                                                                                              1. Your focus should be not on ‘yourself\u2019 but on ‘him\u2019 After all\u2019 you want to find out WHEN you can best reach him.<\/span><\/li>\n
                                                                                                                                                              2. Beyond all doubt, you will have made many mistakes to find the right time. And then when you think you have found it, you may find that is not really convenient in all cases. These mis-indications are not a blunder, they are valuable indications telling you what times and locations are to be eliminated from your list of probabilities. You are learning more about your husband’s complex ways. It is in a way similar, to the observation made by a research scientist \u00ad a cool head; the will to find and perseverance are the keys to success.<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

                                                                                                                                                                If we look at the above, I suggest first to, find the \u2018TIME\u2019 and THEN ask him if the time suitable. Doing it in the reverse order often does not help because a man will structure this meeting some where in his schedule. They are usually well versed in the art of fitting meetings into a time-frame (they have to be, if they want to succeed in the hectic business world). He will simply feel forced to award you some kind of a schedule \u00ad he will give you a hasty time slot, at some moment which is inconvenient for you to open you heart comfortably, and he will sit through the meeting exuding impatience, or else he will give you a time slot at a time when he has tuned out from active mental participation. He will truly give you the impression that there is nothing to discuss. He just wants all the points itemize and presented precisely and intelligently, so that he can hack each point off with a ‘Yes\u2019, \u2018No\u2019 \u2018Maybe\u2019 or ‘Later’. Wooliness or lack of coherence in the presentation will irritate him.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                Women are by nature more easily adaptable to ad-hoc situations. Men are not. They are rigid. Women often tend to react to a situation on the \u201cHERE and NOW\u201d<\/strong> basis. Men try to structure it into a time frame \u00ad Men prefer to bring things into a routine bordered by a time and place. After all this is how he gets his job done in the working world. It is not that there are no problems or ad-hoc situations there. There are mountains of them everyday. Many of these Ad-hoc problems require far reaching and soul-searching solutions. He learns sooner or later to adopt the ‘HOW AND WHEN\u2019<\/strong> technique.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                The following example will help to illustrate the \u2018HERE AND NOW\u2019<\/strong> reaction and the ‘HOW AND WHEN\u2019<\/strong> patterns:<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                If, the wife unleashes her anger, frustrations and complains into his ears, as soon as the husband comes home, this will be an adult kind of \u2019Here and Now\u2019 reaction. (Unfortunately, it happens often). But this is definitely not in tune with his ‘How and When\u2019 thinking. Nobody likes to be unpleasantly surprised, and men in particular will react with irritation and impatience. That is why it is extremely tactful to have a day and a time set apart for difficult subjects, like for Example, Tuesdays between the 20:00 H \u00ad 21:00 H. It may sound stupid, but consider the advantages. This is a methodical approach, but then man made success is based on methods. Methods are one of the most important components in a project. We would all agree that methods are necessary, if a dam had to be built or an Aircraft had to be made or any other project for that matter. Marriage is also a project! It needs constant attention. Without a method, whims and fancies would take over, and this would certainly not be correct for a union as important and complex as marriage. We would, after all, not like it if our trains gave up the timetable method and worked on whims and fancies. So methods can be successfully employed to build and run a marriage. It also becomes a more natural way to appeal to his ‘How and When\u2019 thinking. So fix a day and a time and a location. If there are no problems to discuss, you don\u2019t have to fabricate any, just use the time for something else.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                Another important point is to provide the partner with the topic on your mind, so that the unpleasantness of surprise is not another factor to be coped up with during the session. Surprises of this nature automatically switch the other person’s defense mechanisms \u00ad ON (we all have them!). The first reaction will be, I must defend myself; the second will be to create as much distance as possible, and that will be either to fight for time or close the door. The need of the moment will switch to defense, and the defense mechanism will decree that the thing to be attacked is not, the problem but \u2018You\u2019. This is how proper communication suffers. In the business world we would not like to be called for a meeting without some form of an agenda being provided. We would like to go prepared to give our best performance and preparedness \u00ad wouldn’t we?<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                One of the basic reasons why these techniques are not practiced by couples is because of some false sense of inhibition towards the concept of freedom. People want to give themselves the notion of being free. If they stop and think they are still free. They have only organized their freedom. That is the freedom of expression, the freedom from surprises; the freedom to improve their relationship. . .<\/span><\/p>\n

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                                                                                                                                                                1. SETTING: Setting is also important. This fortunately does not involve so much observation and intuition as ‘timing\u2019 requires. Ask him in a loving way where he prefers to discuss these difficult subjects. If it is agreeable to both of you then the venue is an easy matter. Setting is important because both need to feel free to talk without interruption or being over heard and still more important to be misquoted by a third person.<\/span><\/li>\n
                                                                                                                                                                2. MANNER: It is extremely important that your husband does not view your conversation as a personal attack. Like I said earlier, we are all equipped with emotional defenses that rise to our rescue when we are being vilified. Don\u2019t trigger those defensive mechanisms. Instead, your manner should be warm, loving and supportive as possible under the circumstances. Let it be known that you are attempting to interpret your need and desires, not his inadequacies and shortcomings. Further more you should take his emotional state into consideration as well. Postpone the conversation if he is under unusual stress or has been recently stung by events.<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

                                                                                                                                                                  A successful wife teaches her husband about her feelings and desires, while doing her best to meet his unique needs.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                  There is an axiom that is particularly relevant in romantic matters and has probably influenced your love life too!<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                  \u201cWe value that which we are fortunate to get; we discredit that with which we are stuck! We lust for the very thing which is beyond our grasp; we disdain that it item when it becomes a permanent possession.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                  There are many syndromes in life\u2019s relationships. I will mention just a few.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                  I am not going through how a syndrome is handled, because each syndrome has many shades and hues. The shades and hues are unique and different for each couple. The handling of a syndrome will require an equally unique and different approach. This is an area, which has a strong interplay with emotions. I would just like to mention a few of them so that one is aware of their existence and recognizes at least what is happening in their marriage and to their partner.<\/span><\/p>\n

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                                                                                                                                                                  1. THE TRAPPED SYNDROME<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                  It appears like this, \u201cI am not getting any younger. Do I want to spend the rest of my life with this man \/ woman?\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                  2. \u201cLOVE ME \u00ad LOVE MY DOG SYNDROME\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                  In general women tend to fall more easily and intensively into this syndrome. It works somewhat like this. For example if there are problems with the in-laws. A partner may see reason to maintain a good relationship with his wife but he has little or no regard for her people. He simply adopts the attitude, I married you. So I have to be good to you \u00ad I didn’t marry them. His wife takes his love for her as an understood right and she is not in conflict with it, she may even be thankful that she is not the article of contention, but she just can\u2019t stand the fact that her husband does not love or show sufficient interest in her people. His coolness, aloofness or indifference drives her into rage. She usually retorts, \u201cYou did not wish my relatives Good Evening yesterday.\u201d, \u201cYou didn’t notice my mother’s new dress. . . \u201d<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                  The reasons need not only be relatives or in-laws. It can be friends, country, religion, and profession occupation. It is not a generalization of land, religion etc. The stress is on what she considers or implies as \u201cMY\u201d. \u00ad My brother for example.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                  III. THE ‘ME \u00ad ‘MY SYNDROME.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                  A man tends to tend towards the \u2018ME\u2019 part of the syndrome, whereas women tends more towards the \u2018MY\u2019 aspect of the syndrome. Both the ‘ME and ‘MY can be traced as extensions of the ‘I\u2019 \u00ad the ego.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                  A typical, male assertment sounds like this:<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                  \u201cBecause of ‘ME\u2019 you have these things.\u201d \u201cBecause of ME you do not have to go out and work.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                  A typical female assertment may sound like this:<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                  \u201cBecause of MY prayers you are where you are. \u201d \u201cYou are where you are because MY father helped you.\u201d, \u201cIf it were not for MY friends this deal would not have gone through. \u201dNote she could also have said because of ‘ME\u2019 but she more naturally tends to resort to ‘MY\u2019 line of approach.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                  The male with his ‘ME\u2019 tend to take an individualistic approach \u00ad he is naturally prone towards asserting. The woman recourses to ‘MY\u2019 as a form of drawing support \u00ad Her more naturally need is support.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                  Both men and women have a common ground that is the \u2018I\u2019 – It sounds like this: \u201cI am working all day.\u201d \u201cI am doing all the house work.\u201d; \u201cI am tending to the children.\u201d etc.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                  Right from early times the role of the primitive man was that of a hunter who brought game home like a deer for instance \u00ad (food), but once he reached his home he dumped it there. From then on it was his wife\u2019s business what happened to it. From then it became her job and correspondingly it was, \u201cMY\u201d husband brought deer home, to feed \u201cMY\u201d children and \u201cME\u201d. . .<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                  Everything need not be bad about this \u2018ME \u2013\u00ad MY\u2019 relationship. If she shows genuine admiration, he will be spurred on to greater heights, to swim broader seas and bring home bigger game. In a way the modern man is no different. The office or the factory is his present day hunting ground. If he has a traveling job he tends to bring home souvenirs from different places. Like the primitive man, the finality of his mission ends by dumping it at home. It then becomes his wife mission to find a place for it; to perhaps re-arrange things to make a place for it etc.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                  The \u2019ME\u2019 is a very spot like term, where the boundaries are clear to the event, or the acquisition or the conquest. The, MY, on the other hand is a very broad term which is used like a blanket to cover any and everything which she can accept, including his achievements, promotions, business success etc. She does not mind his little ‘ME\u2019 bragging as long as she can cover it with her ‘MY\u2019. Here are some typical examples:<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                  \u201cMy husband’s promotion. . . \u201d \u201d My children\u2019s excellent scholastic results. . . . . ,\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                  The \u2019ME could be proud. But the \u2019MY\u2019 is jealous, possessive and very selfish, if threatened. There is no conflict if he indulges in his ‘ME\u2019 provided she can cover it up with her ‘MY’.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                  In most cases where there are strong role tendencies, like a typical male ‘ME\u2019 or a typical female ‘MY’. There is no conflict if each one conforms to their role. The conflict starts when one or the other plays the wrong role. This is immediately taken as an intrusion or violation. For example. If the wife starts saying things like, because of \u2018ME\u2019 you have your job; because of ‘ME\u2019 your shirts are ironed and you look smart. Even without realizing why, instinctively he feels resentful. Maybe he has not noticed the word ‘ME’, but he knows something does not ‘sound\u2019 correct to his emotional make-up. In the same way if a man says things like, my money. . . My factory. . . . . ,;, My house . . . . . ,. Instinctively she begins to resent it. On the other hand if he said, this house is made by me. . . \u201d Or, \u201cI made this factory. . . \u201d this is more acceptable.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                  Under some very special circumstances, she allows the husband some liberty of using ‘MY\u2019 freely; those are known as the \u2018MY-in-MY\u2019 situations. For example:<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                    \n
                                                                                                                                                                  1. For some things that are of no major significance to her ego, like he can by all means say. \u201cMy new shaver is. . . \u201c. Besides not being a threat to her ego, the new Shaver is an instrument in her eyes that makes \u201cMY\u201d husband look good.<\/span><\/li>\n
                                                                                                                                                                  2. \u00a0He is allowed to use the ‘MY\u2019 if she can cover it with a ‘MY\u2019 of her own. He is freely allowed to say, \u201cMY boss was pleased with my report.\u201d This, she simply views as ‘MY\u2019 husband\u2019s boss. In this case She has simply extended the ‘MY BLANKET\u2019 over the husband’s boss as well.<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

                                                                                                                                                                    This is one of the main reasons for the conflict between mother-in-law and wife. Both want to spread their \u2018MY\u2019 Blanket over the man. And we must not forget \u2018MY\u2019 is possessive and jealous, and reacts badly if there is a threat of encroachment. The course of reaction can range over a variety of alternatives like hatred, resentment, discouragement, despair, frustration, fighting, coldness, malice, selfishness, destruction etc. The mother undisputedly had her ‘MY\u2019 Blanket over the son. Now a wife has come on the scene and is trying to remove<\/strong> that blanket so that she can spread her own ‘MY blanket’. This is the reason why two women each vying for the same person can use arguments which sound like this, \u201cHe is my husband. . . \u201d and the mother-in-law counteracts with a statement like, \u201cTrue, but who was your husband before you’ll got married? He was my Son!\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                    This is the explanation as to why women are subjective; especially when there is some one or some thing of theirs is involved. The man on the other hand has a totally different focus he is on the outside; he is therefore inclined to be more objective.<\/span><\/p>\n

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                                                                                                                                                                    1. ‘THE RULE OR RUIN SYNDROME’.<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

                                                                                                                                                                      All syndromes are bad for a marriage and most syndromes are some how interwoven at least to some extent with another syndrome.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                      ‘The Rule or Ruin Syndrome\u2019 is particularly dangerous because it has the potential for ruin, as the name implies. It works like this. If the demands are not acceded to, the person demanding something says, \u201cYou wait, and I\u2019ll show you what I will do. . . I’ll see that your business collapses. . . I\u2019ll see that you get into trouble. . . \u201d Note I used the word demand<\/strong>, people who are extremely insecure, use such syndromes or jealous or selfishness or malicious or destructiveness or over frustration. They are people who are beyond the state of requesting. They are beyond seeing the other person’s point of view or even willing to view things from a long-range point of view. For them \u2018The Here and Now\u2019 is extremely predominant. The ego leaves no room for better judgment.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                      At least two-fold danger is possible with this syndrome.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                      A If the demand cannot or will not be acceded to, and he \/ she cannot withstand the pressure, he \/ she will fall into despair and ruin may result through lack of will. Ultimately both may lose because the one who has the skill to run the show is damaged beyond repair and the other does not have either the skill or the ability to carry on. Most of the people who instigate the demands of the \u2018Rule or Ruin Syndrome\u2019 are themselves incapable of ruling! It is just a manifestation of \u2018ego\u2019 wanting to have its own way.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                      B The other way may also take place that the person from whom demands are made, is psychologically so strong or successful that he \/ she will not or need not accede to the demands. In that case the one making the demands is eaten up in frustration. The frustration is further escalated, if trust, solace and the remaining embers are transferred to another place, person, cause or thing.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                      Neither A or B is better, because the end of either leads to ruin, unless proper corrective attitude is established.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                      Even once proper corrective attitudes are established, it is a steep up hill task to re-win the partners trust. There are at least two difficulties to re-win trust.<\/span><\/p>\n

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                                                                                                                                                                      1. The other person is not sure that they can trust the other person.<\/span><\/li>\n
                                                                                                                                                                      2. The other person simply does not want to trust. They have shut the door and they are not willing to open it. They may be friendly. They can be very helpful. The moment the spouse or any one else suggests, \u2019a come back\u2019, they clamp up and walk away. They won\u2019t argue, they won\u2019t fight, they won\u2019t explain, they won\u2019t reason, they won\u2019t listen, the most they may say is,\u201d I have to go now, Bye.\u201d<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

                                                                                                                                                                        These two points bring out the differences between males and females. Point (a), is typical of females, where as point (b) is very typically a male trait.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                        By way of illustration, I would like to bring an illustration and an explanation here.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                        On different occasions I have come across this difficulty with others. For example I once knew a family very well and for years. I knew every one in that family \u2013 the parents on either side, the brothers and sister and a wide array of their relatives and friends. They divorced after I went back to India; Later at a business trip I met them. When I spoke with her, she said he was most helpful; she could ring him up at any time if her car broke down. He would be under the car, under the hood and everywhere. He would go to the shop and get the part and make sure the car was fit again. He is not a car mechanic or in the automobile profession in any way. He just knows what to do. The same was for any other situation \u2013 technical or non-technical. When everything was done he would simply say, \u201cLet me know if any thing goes wrong.\u201d He would not come up for a tea or coffee or anything. Not even to wash his hands. If she brought any thing to him at the work spot, he drank it there, munched on any food she brought just like a person on duty and off he went. The moment she suggested that he could come up or maybe chat a little, he would make ready to go. In fact there came a time just to try and keep him a little longer she had to willfully not bring up this subject but rather talk on everything under the sun, but not dare to talk about getting together.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                        I met him too; we were like old classmates once again. It was so easy to talk with him. It was as though we never went away. We were traveling together in a car when I brought up the subject of them coming back, he just clamped up. Quite frankly, I lost him. Where he went I didn\u2019t know, physically he was in the car. Just this one suggestion sent him in an emotional abyss, a kind of a \u201cBlack hole\u201d where everything is lost and nothing emits from there. Slowly, by talking about all other things, as well as asking him for suggestion regarding technical matters and planning my trip through Europe I was able to get him back. It looked as though he was making sure that \u201cthe coast is clear\u201d before venturing to come back again. If there was even a hint of going back to their \u2018come back\u2019, it would have driven him back into the vortex. All the while we were traveling in the confines of a car, traveling down the Autobahn with unlimited speed possibilities.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                        The point here is that emotions are complex. – Very Complex. It is not that men are blunt, feeling-less or heartless. They have in all probability they same intensities as women. The difference is they don\u2019t show it quite as often as women. If a woman cries, even in public, no great depreciation of self worth is assigned to her. And really women to cry for a lot of reasons and far more frequently as compared to men, Men, right from the stage of boyhood are not expected to cry. If they do, they are quickly labeled as \u2019cry-boobies\u2019, \u2019skits\u2019 and all other things. Society in general tells them that they are not supposed to cry. Strictly on a comparative basis it maybe reasonable to assume that, \u201dwomen can cry for anything, but if a man cries \u2013 Deep hurt is involved- Very deep hurt. \u201d This is even more so, if it is done in the open. In fact, some times hurt is so deep, it reaches in men, a \u201cTears-out\u201d situation. Similar to what a \u201cBlack-out\u201d would be in an accident, or a \u201cWhite-out\u201d at an examination. Everything goes blank. Just like Blackout and Whiteout go beyond the mind, Tears-out also goes beyond the mind. Tears-out reaches so far down the emotional barrel, where there are not even tears to bring relief. The depth of this emotion is similar, in a way to \u201cGrief\u201d when a loved one dies. \u201cGrief\u201d and \u201cSorry\u201d is not the same thing. They are in the same direction but the intensity levels are far different. For example. I am SORRY, I have a cold and my nose is running. Deep down, I know, one day I will be Ok. So it is the inconvenience I have to put up with for some time. Or a Lady is SORRY because her son is going to study in another country. Deep down she knows, in 8 months the major holidays will come and her son will come home. Deep down she knows I will miss him for 8 months and after that he will be back. She will find ways to console her self by the fact that her son is advancing in his personality and academically. Maybe she will busy herself in re-doing his room to make it more attractive. Grief on the other hand has an element of finality in it. When a loved one dies, that is it for the rest of our life here on earth. We as Christians believe we will meet again in heaven, but for the rest of our pilgrimage on earth, we will never see this person again.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                        When people divorce and perhaps re-marry. There is a component of \u201cGrief\u201d associated. It is like a point of no return. The re-marriage of the spouse has sealed the fate irrevocably and reinforced it with a Legal Document. Regardless of what people may pretend to say, the fact is that both die an un-describable bit, emotionally. It is the same emotional pain as an amputation. Life is going on but a part of you is lost forever. No where has this point been put more concisely and precisely as in the Bible.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                        \u201c\u2026AND THE TWO SHALL BECOME ONE FLESH.\u201d <\/strong>Mathew 19:5<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                        \u201e …und die zwei werden ein Fleisch sein<\/strong>.\u201c <\/strong>Mathew 19:5<\/strong><\/span><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

                                                                                                                                                                        These are not the words of the Apostles or Disciples; these are the Words of the Lord Jesus Himself.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                        Two people in marriage are one flesh. It is interesting to note the choice of words. Jesus did not say they are of the same meat or that are the same species or even for that matter belonging to one another. He used the word Flesh, which is LIVING meat. They are \u201cone\u201d with Bi-presence. God is of course \u201cOmni\u201d present. A somewhat similar, though not quite the same analogy, would be the Eyes. People have two eyes, but the organ is still one.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                        Marriage is a commitment, a very deep commitment, it need a high level of maturity just to have a reasonably good marriage. That is why instinctively any society, any religion, any nation; any era of time expects people to have some minimum age prescription for the people getting married. Every one has agreed that this minimum age goes beyond the physical and mental maturity ages.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                        Tears -out is not the same as the situation when a love one dies, some of the loved ones cannot cry. Tears come only afterwards. This happens because of a psychological \u201cnumbness\u201d. This is a very merciful phase that some people go through, especially those people who are entrusted or take upon themselves to see that everything is attended to. It is a phase where Grief, Sorrow and other factors are \u201cput on the Back Burner\u201d; to leave the person or persons time to get things done. Once everything is done and over and their responsibilities are over, and they are by themselves, and they let down their \u2018duties\u2019. That is when they can allow Grief into their life.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                        In a similar way, though not quite exactly the same is Fainting. Fainting is the composite body\u2019s way of Body – Mind- Heart and Soul of SWITCHING \u2013OFF. There are many reasons for fainting. It would take medical books to explain this subject. The purpose it is mentioned here is only to examine a fraction of these phenomena in this context. For example, fainting come about because of an element of shock. The person saw some thing terribly shocking, an accident for example. Or, heard some bad news, like the death of some one near. Fainting acts as a nature\u2019s protective way of saying, \u201cEnough, you don\u2019t have to see any more. You have seen enough. Or you don\u2019t have to hear any more. \u201d Fainting take upon itself to knock the person down, by doing so the body is brought to a horizontal position. The physical heart has no downtime or stop-time ever, as long as we are alive. The only rest it has is by having to pump horizontally when we lie down or sleep as opposed to vertically when we stand. Running and sport are examples of putting the physical heart into an accelerated pace. Without doubt all living being have a number of these kinds of survival necessary capabilities.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                        Back again to the \u201cRule or Ruin Syndrome\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                        People who are self employed in New Ventures, Small or Tiny businesses, are particularly vulnerable to the adverse effects of this syndrome. They are vulnerable because they are alone, and their spouse is generally the only other person they HAVE whom they are willing to rely on. The road of a new entrepreneur is a very lonely road, with very little money, very little direct experience, no markets in place, and no track record. The only thing they have is their DREAMS. Dreams can become things, all things that have materialized, have come from dreams, but all dreams do not become things. So, there are RISKS and FRUSTRATIONS in abundant measures. Wives can be a source of tremendous support and encouragement or they can be apart of the stress.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                        All wives start off very positively in their husband\u2019s dreams, and they are willing to stand by them through thick and thin. It is the constant humdrum of very little money, lack of flourishing success, for prolonged periods of time. The in ability to secure a foot hold in the market, living on the edge of risk, living with frustrations as a constant every day factor and many other problems, that wears a wife down. It is Stress for her, it is stress for him. The fact is that an entrepreneur is a pioneer. There are challenges of very complex kinds. The Capitan and Moguls of the business world all had this difficult road.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                        While we are on the topic of emotions let us see what psychological research has to say on Stress.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                        The most stressful situations in life are ranked as:<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                        Rank Life Situation<\/span><\/p>\n

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                                                                                                                                                                        1. Death of a Spouse<\/span><\/li>\n
                                                                                                                                                                        2. Divorce<\/span><\/li>\n
                                                                                                                                                                        3. Marital separation<\/span><\/li>\n
                                                                                                                                                                        4. Prison sentence<\/span><\/li>\n
                                                                                                                                                                        5. Death of a near family member<\/span><\/li>\n
                                                                                                                                                                        6. Personal injuries or sickness<\/span><\/li>\n
                                                                                                                                                                        7. Marriage<\/span><\/li>\n
                                                                                                                                                                        8. Retrenchment from employment<\/span><\/li>\n
                                                                                                                                                                        9. Marriage re-union<\/span><\/li>\n
                                                                                                                                                                        10. Retirement<\/span><\/li>\n
                                                                                                                                                                        11. Change of health condition in a family member<\/span><\/li>\n
                                                                                                                                                                        12. Pregnancy<\/span><\/li>\n
                                                                                                                                                                        13. Sexual difficulties<\/span><\/li>\n
                                                                                                                                                                        14. Arrival of a new family member<\/span><\/li>\n
                                                                                                                                                                        15. New job<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

                                                                                                                                                                          Dr. T. Holmes and Dr. R. H Rahne conducted this research and published it under the title of Modern maturity.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                          When we talk of stress and emotion, there is a to and fro inter-play between the HEART and the MIND.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                          In order to understand EMOTIONAL STRESS LEVELS we could examine a case situation, but before that, let us explain two terms:<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                          DATUM: The datum would correspond to what we could consider, normal. This context takes into account various factors like our age; background; political situation; economic situations, etc. The datum can be used to convey two kinds of references.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                            \n
                                                                                                                                                                          1. A kind of a Zero level from which all references are taken.<\/span><\/li>\n
                                                                                                                                                                          2. Above this datum line things rate positively and below the datum, things rate negatively. Mathematicians, Engineers and many other professionals use more complex graphical representation with more than one datum.<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

                                                                                                                                                                            OFF-SET: The off-set the intensity of how far, the emotion has taken us away from the datum on an arbitrary point scale.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                            Both the Datum and the offset are arbitrary, we can assign a numeric value but quantifiably we cannot measure it. We can, however, compare the levels against other events and assign a point scale.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                            For the sake of illustration let us take a series of events in Jack’s life within a time frame of one month. A point scale of 1 to 5 is used where 1 is the least stressful and 5 the most stress.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n
                                                                                                                                                                            Intensity Event No.<\/span><\/td>\nEvent<\/span><\/td>\nExperienced<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                            By Jack<\/span><\/td>\n<\/tr>\n

                                                                                                                                                                            A<\/span><\/td>\nGot a promotion in the office<\/span><\/td>\n4<\/span><\/td>\n<\/tr>\n
                                                                                                                                                                            B<\/span><\/td>\nSon got admission into college<\/span><\/td>\n5<\/span><\/td>\n<\/tr>\n
                                                                                                                                                                            C<\/span><\/td>\nCar got scraped during parking<\/span><\/td>\n2<\/span><\/td>\n<\/tr>\n
                                                                                                                                                                            D<\/span><\/td>\nDog got fever<\/span><\/td>\n1<\/span><\/td>\n<\/tr>\n
                                                                                                                                                                            E<\/span><\/td>\nWon $ 1,000,000<\/span><\/td>\n5<\/span><\/td>\n<\/tr>\n
                                                                                                                                                                            F<\/span><\/td>\nProject fell through<\/span><\/td>\n3<\/span><\/td>\n<\/tr>\n<\/tbody>\n<\/table>\n

                                                                                                                                                                            The emotional graph<\/strong> would look like:<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                            \"image016\"<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                            The EMOTION is from the HEART.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                            The emotions show intensity. It gives you a FEELING. The intensity of this FEELING gives you an idea how far away Jack is from the normal feeling that you have assigned as, NOT GOOD \u00ad NOT BAD or the Datum.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                            The question of whether the off-set is GOOD and should evoke, HAPPINESS\u201d or BAD and should evoke, SADNESS\u201d is done by the MIND. There is an on-going inter-play between the heart and the mind. If we take the mind also into account, the above graph would look like:<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                            EMOTION \u00ad MIND GRAPH<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                            \"image018\"<\/span><\/p>\n

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                                                                                                                                                                            1. 5. Financial Difficulties<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

                                                                                                                                                                              The numbers of marriages that are troubled because of financial difficulties are many. It is not only large because money is scarce, but also because of:<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                              (a) Many people are discontented in spite of having enough; in spite of being well off or even when they are rich.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                              (b) Many people just do not know how to live within their means. Others just want to have what the Jones has. Little realizing that before they are able to catch up with the Jones, the Jones have refinanced and acquired more and better things.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                              WHAT IS LISTED AS (A) IS NOT A REAL FINANCE PROBLEM; IT IS RATHER AN ATTITUDE PROBLEM.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                              THE MAIN REASON FOR (B) IS ALSO AN ATTITUDE PROBLEM,<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                              But this problem tries to acquire at the risk of being a slave to the financiers. The problem is usually a mixture of:<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                              (I) Not being able to handle money.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                              (ii) And much more a question of prestige needs.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                              There are undoubtedly a string of practical cases, like sickness, retrenchment, business recessions, and death of a breadwinner, war etc. All these reasons need special directives because it does not only have to deal with the reason but also with whatever measures are necessary to alleviate the problem. Each case is different and unique.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                              Finance problems are relatively easy for the couple to identify. There are a number of books written on this subject. Useful tips and guidance is relatively easy to come by. In Chapter MONEY I will try to bring a Biblical insight to this topic.<\/span><\/p>\n

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                                                                                                                                                                              1. 6. SEXUAL PROBLEMS IN MARRIAGE<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                Many books are written on this subject but in keeping with the theme of this book I’ll just mention two issues, which women most wished their husbands understood.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                1 The critical differences between Men and Women. In spite of the efforts of radical feminist who vigorously (and foolishly assert) that the only distinction between the sexes is environmentally and culturally produced. The truth is: Males and females differ bio-chemically, anatomically and emotionally. They are in fact different in every call of their body because men and women carry different chromosome patterns. There is considerable evidence to indicate that the Hypothalamic region, located just above the pituitary gland in the mid-brain, is \u201cwired\u201d very uniquely for each of the sexes. Thus the hypothalamus, (known as the seat of the emotional interface between the, \u201cMind\u201d and the, \u201cHeart\u201d. It provides women with a different psychological frame of reference than that of men. Further, female sexual desires tend to be somewhat cyclical correlated with the menstrual calendar, whereas men are Acyclic. These and other features account for the undeniable fact that masculine and feminine expressions of sexuality are far from identical. Failure to understand this uniqueness can produce a continual source of marital frustration and guilt. Two of the more consequential differences in sexual appetite are worthy of particular \u00ad notes.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                First, men are primarily excited by visual stimulation. They are turned \u00ad on by feminine nudity or glimpses of semi-nudity. Women by contrast, are much less visually oriented than men. Sure, they are interested in attractive masculine bodies, but their physiological mechanism of sex is not triggered typically by what they see; women are stimulated primarily by the sense of touch. Thus we encounter the first sense of disagreement in the bedroom: he wants her to appear unclothed in a lighted room and she wants him to caress her in the dark. Second. (And more important), men are not very discriminating in regard to the person living within an exciting body. A man can walk down a street and be stimulated by a scantly clad female who shimmers past him, even though he knows nothing about her personality or values or mental capabilities. Her body itself attracts him. Likewise, he can become almost as excited over a photograph of an unknown nude model as he can in a face-to-face encounter with someone he loves. In essence, the sheer biological power of sexual desire in a male is largely focused on the physical body of an attractive female. Hence, there is some validity to the complaint by women that they have been seen as ‘Sex objects\u2019 by men. This explains why female prostitutes out number males by a wide margin and why few women try to rape men. It explains why a roomful of toothless old man can get a large charge from watching a strip-tease dancer ‘take it all off’. It reflects the fact that masculine self-esteem is more motivated by a desire to ‘conquer a woman\u2019 than in becoming the object of her romantic love. These are not very flattering characteristics of male sexuality, but they are well documented in professional literature. All of these factors stem from a basic difference in sexual appetite of male and females.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                Women are much more discriminating in their sexual interests. A photograph less commonly excites them, their desire is usually focused on a particular individual whom they admire and respect. A woman is stimulated by the romantic aura that surrounds her man, and by his character and personality. She yields to the man who appeals to her emotionally as well as physically. Sex for men is a more physical thing; Sex for women is a deeply emotional experience.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                A problem in marriage can arise because the woman does not feel certain closeness to her husband. Take for instance, a man comes home from work in a bad mood, spends every minute slaving over his desk at home, goes through the meals in a preoccupied mind, watches the late news in silence and finally goes to bed without a word. The moment he sees his wife in a nightgown, it is enough to throw some switches and his sexual desire is ON. The fact that he and his wife had no tender moment the entire evening does not inhibit his sexual desire significantly. But his wife is not so easily moved. She waited for him the whole day and when he came home he hardly even greeted her, she felt disappointed and rejected. His continual coolness and pre-occupation puts a padlock on her desires. This is the reason why she may find it impossible to respond to him at night. To take the point a little further, in the absence of closeness she feels like a prostitute. The inability to explain this frustration is, I believe, a continual source of agitation to women.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                The Variability in Desire\u201a<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                Men and women also differ significantly in their manifestation of sexual desire. Researchers seem to indicate that the interest of pleasure and excitation at the time of orgasm in women and ejaculation in men is about the same for both sexes, although the pathways to that excitement take different routes. Most men can become excited more quickly than women. Men may reach the point of finality before the mate gets their mind off the evening meal or what the kids will be wearing tomorrow. It is a wise man that recognizes this feminine inertia and brings his wife along at her own pace.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                It is also obvious that men hunger for sexual release more consistently than women do. Many women are amazed at how regularly their husbands desire sexual intercourse. In this instance, there is a matter that husbands wished their wives know about men. When sexual response is blocked, males experience an accumulating physiological pressure, which demands release. The gland, containing semen, gradually fills to capacity; as it reaches this maximum level, hormonal influences sensitize the man to sexual stimuli. Whereas a particular woman would be of little interest to him when he is satisfied, he may be eroticized just to be in her presence when he is in a state of deprivation. A wife may find it difficult to comprehend this accumulated aspect of her husband\u2019s sexual appetite, since her needs are typically less urgent and pressing. Thus she should recognize that definite biochemical forces dictate his desire within his body, and if she loves him, she will seek to satisfy these as meaningfully and as regularly as possible.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                On the question of variability in sexual appetite, men and women differ. The enormous differences occur between women ranging from Low – Inhibited \u00ad Average \u00ad Excited \u00ad High. It requires a lot of sensitiveness to first of all understand this, and then to help them towards a satisfying experience. This is particularly unfamiliar terrain for the man because men are not built with such an extensive diversity.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                We must also be aware that a wife can often have difficulties in playing three unique roles expected of her. Actually she is in a \u2018Three Ring Circus\u2019 all the time. She must be a wife, a mother and a mistress. A loving wife who is looking after the home and caring for the children is unlikely to feel like a seductive mistress who tempts her husband into the bedroom. Likewise, the requirements of motherhood are at times incompatible with the alternate roles of wife and mistress. Though these assignments seem contradictory, a woman is often asked to switch from one to another at short notice. Her husband can help by getting her away from the wife and mother responsibilities when it is time for her to be his mistress.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                Physical exhaustion plays a significant part in a woman\u2019s ability (or inability) to respond sexually. A mother can quite easily have a 24-hour day when she has a small child (or children). When she finally falls into bed, sex can represent an obligation rather, than a pleasure. It is the last item on the \u2018to do list\u2019 for the day. Meaningful sexual relations utilize great quantity of body energy and are seriously hampered when those resources have already been expended.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                There is a strong connection between self-worth and the ability to respond to sexual stimuli. Any ridicule, even in fun, like the size of breast or buttocks will make her self conscious and uncomfortable and any disrespect, which he may reveal for her as a person, are almost certain to crop up in their physical relationship, as well.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                Notions of the uninformed seem to suggest that most marital problems are caused by sexual difficulties but actually the opposite is true, that most sexual problems are caused by marital difficulties. Women have greater constitutional vitality, perhaps because of the chromosome difference. Normally, she outlives man by 3 \u00ad 6 years. The sexes differ in their basic metabolism \u00ad that of women very normally lower than that of a man. They differ in skeletal structure; woman having a shorter head, broader face, chinless protruding, shorter legs and longer trunk. The first finger of a woman’s hand is usually longer than the third; with men the reverse is true. Boy\u2019s teeth last longer than do those of girls. Woman has a larger stomach, kidneys, liver and appendix, smaller lungs.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                In function, women have several very important areas totally lacking in man \u00ad menstruation, pregnancy, and lactation. All these influence behavior and feelings. She has more and different hormones than a man does. The same gland behaves differently in the two sexes, thus woman\u2019s thyroid is larger and more active \u00ad it enlarges during pregnancy also during menstruations it makes her more prone to goiter, provides resistance to cold, is associated with the smooth skin, relatively hairless body, and thin layer of subcutaneous fat which are important elements in the concept of personal beauty. It also contributes to emotional instability \u00ad she laughs and cries more easily. It also explains why girls giggle more easily. Woman’s blood contains more water, 70 % fewer red cells. Since these supply oxygen to the body cells, she tires more easily, is more prone to faint. Her constitutional viability is therefore strictly a long-range matter. When the working day in British factories, under wartime conditions, was increased from 10 to 12 hours, accidents of women increased 150 % in men not at all. In brute strength, men are 50 % above women. Woman’s heart beats more rapidly (80 vs. 72 for men); blood pressure 10 points lower than man and varies from minute to minute; but she has much less tendency to high blood pressure \u00ad at least until after the menopause. Her volume capacity for breathing power is lower in the ratio of 7:10.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                She stands high temperature better than does man; metabolism slows down less.<\/span><\/p>\n

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                                                                                                                                                                                1. 7. Menstrual and Physiological Problems<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                  Menstrual Problems bring physical and emotional deterioration in some women. This can come on suddenly and last until a proper treatment is given. The only advice is to see a doctor, because the right professional diagnosis treatment is the only resort. Frankly you need a doctor who is an expert on the subject because the normal run of the mill tests reveal no disorder and the general verdict is pronounced as, \u201cYou are OK\u201d \u00ad, \u201cPut up your chin \u00ad look on the brighter side of life and your marriage\u201d \u201c\u00adThink of your beautiful children etc.\u201d It is not just and outlook of life attitude it is a real medical<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                  problem that is driving her (and her whole family) through hell. Weight loss, trauma, paranoid feelings, depression despair and the opposite reaction to tranquilizers are not just out-look problems. Besides expert medical knowledge the Doctor must have enormous amount of understanding. The point is to find a good gynecologist. Generally hormone induced stress are more difficult to identify. They also tend to change for reasons that are not unduly provoked by environment reasons. One of the basic human nature is to assign a reason for things, which are not obvious \u00ad, the outlook in this case is to either blame someone or something or even ones self. Hormonal problem quite easily fall into the category of, undetected disorder. A word of extreme caution should be mentioned here: A particular medicine has to be found to suit a particular person; yet, the same prescription for another woman with apparently identical symptoms may produce entirely different reactions.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                  There is a relationship between the estrogen level and the emotional stability in woman. It is surprising how uninformed many medical practitioners are, particularly those where work does not involve gynecology.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                  Approximately twenty-two specific ailments can be triggered by estrogen deprival, although few women experience them all.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                  Emotional Symptoms<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                  1 Extreme depression, perhaps lasting for months without relief.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                  2 Extremely low self-esteem, bringing feelings of utter worthlessness and lack of interest in living.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                  3 Extremely low frustration tolerance, giving rise to outburst of temper and emotional ventilation.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                  4 Inappropriate emotional responses producing tears when things are not sad and depressing during relatively good times.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                  5 Low tolerance to noise. Even the sound of a radio or the usual responses of children can be extremely irritating. Ringing in the ears is also common.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                  6 Great need for proof of love is demanded, and in their absence, suspicion of a rival may be hurled at the husband.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                  7 Interferences with sleep patterns.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                  8 Inability to concentrate and difficulty in remembering.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                  Physical Symptoms<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                  1 Gastro intestinal disorders, interfering with digestion and appetite.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                  2 ‘Hot flushes\u2019 which burn in various parts of the body for a few seconds.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                  3 Vertigo (dizziness)<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                  4 Constipation<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                  5 Trembling<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                  6 Hands and feet tingle and ‘go to sleep’.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                  7 Dryness of the skin, especially in specific patches in various places, and loss of elasticity.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                  8 Dryness of mucous membranes, especially in the vagina, making intercourse painful or impossible.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                  Greatly reduced libido (sexual desire).<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                  10 Pain in various parts of the body, shifting from place to place (neuralgia, myalgia, arthralgia.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                  11 Tachicardia (accelerated or racing heartbeat and palpitation).<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                  12 Headaches.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                  13 Dark, gloomy circles around the eyes. This is the symptom which doctors have found most useful in preliminary diagnosis.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                  4 Loss of weight.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                  (The accuracy of these symptoms is verified in a recording produced for professionals by Ayerst Laboratories, featuring the voice of Dr. Herbert Kupperman, Professor of Obstetrics and Gynecology, NY University).<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                  The plight of the situation is that even though the husband and children (or even the extended family circle are sympathetic, they have no\u201a ability to help by their kind efforts alone \u00ad A hormone imbalance cannot be made up by sympathy or kindness.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                  In C. 4. We came across some typical marriage syndromes. Now we will discuss a typical clinical syndrome.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                  \u201cTHE FALLING DOWN HANDS SYNDROME\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                  The patient tends to drop the hand or arms in a gesture to mean, I cannot go on any more, If someone were to ask her where is the problem she is likely to say, \u201cEverywhere.\u201d If she is asked about specific areas like, \u201cAre your arms paining?\u201d she will say, \u201cYes.\u201d If asked if her stomach feels bloated, she will say, \u201cYes.\u201d If asked if she has cramps in the feet she will say, \u201cYes.\u201d She gives you the impression everything is out of order with her. \u00ad Sort of, \u201cYou name it. I have it.\u201d When dealing with one such patient the nurse was so exasperated with all the, \u201cYes.\u201d answers she was getting, so she finally asked the patient, \u201cDo your teeth itch?” To her shock the patient answered, \u201cYes.\u201d An answer like this is not stupidity, it is a syndrome.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                  Most of the points mentioned above relate more to women during menopause because of the change in estrogen level. Let us now discuss the emotional problems common to younger women during the menstrual cycle, itself.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                  First, I would like to stress a fact understood by very few women. Self-esteem is directly related to estrogen level; hence, it fluctuates predictably through the twenty-eight day cycle.<\/span><\/p>\n

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                                                                                                                                                                                  Normal Hormone levels and mood. The purpose of this graph is only to draw attention to the possibilities of using graphic illustration.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                  Moods change with the fluctuating hormone levels. Women feel the greatest self-esteem, and the least anxiety and hostility, at mid cycle. It is also the time of the greatest emotional optimism and self-confidence. Another hormone, progesterone, is produced during the second half of the cycle, bringing with it increasing tension, anxiety and aggressiveness. Finally, the two-hormone decrease during the premenstrual period, reducing the mood to its lowest point again. This is true for neurotic, psychotic and normal women alike. The premenstrual phase is associated with feelings of helplessness, anxiety, hostility and yearning for love. At menstruation, this tension and<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                  Irritability eases, but depression often accompany the relief, and lingers until the estrogen level increases.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                  On a typical graph like the one shown above, professionals can superimpose various other pieces of information, like for instance the \u2018Mood Curve\u2019. This way, it is possible to create a method by which some of the mood trends can be predicted. Similarly curves for other entities can be added to make other types of estimations, like a curve to help those who are planning to have (or not to have) a child.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                  For those people who are active is solving their problem, it would be advisable for them to make their own observations and plot these values on a chart themselves. After all, the 28 day cycle can vary from woman to woman. Similarly the mood swings can be superimposed. After doing these charts a few months, you may be able to predict the pattern by yourself. If some thing is erratic, these charts can be used to explain yourself to a professional in a better way. It will also help the professional, to suggest a quicker and better method because of the data on hand.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                  The information provided above can be invaluable to a woman who wants to understand her own body and to impact on her emotions. Most important, she should interpret her feelings. If she can remember that the despair and sense of worthlessness are hormonally induced and have nothing to do with reality, she can withstand the psychological nosedive more easily. She should give herself a little pep talk like, Even though I feel inadequate and inferior, I refuse to believe it. My real problem is physical, not emotional and it will improve! Women certainly wish their husbands understood these physiological factors, which play such an important role in the female body. The problem is that culturally these things are never brought up in conversation to boys or to men. Further the riddles of the internal mechanism of woman are seldom if ever a matter of curiosity in a man \u00ad So he is not prone to seek out knowledge of these subjects, on the other hand, the riddles of science, astronomy etc.. may take him through the known lengths and breadths of the subject.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                  Never having had a period he, it is difficult for him to comprehend the bloated, sluggish feeling which motivates his wife’s snappy remarks and irritability. It would be extremely helpful if a husband would some how come to know about this subject and also learn to anticipate his wife\u2019s menstrual period recognizing the emotional changes, which will probably accompany it. Of particular importance will be a need for affection and tenderness during this period, even though she may be rather unlovable. He should avoid discussion on financial problems or other earth shaking topics until the internal storm has passed. A sympathetic and understanding husband can satisfy the yearning for love, someone who cares and understands enough to support his wife during the periodic pressures days.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                  Technically speaking many engineering products also have, what is commonly known as \u2018Characteristic Curves\u2019. These curves are charted based on observation of the product. These charts help to determine expected character behaviour of the product at various ranges of usage. Most common products have a fixed or definite logic pattern. In the study of \u2018Artificial Intelligence\u2019 the additional step beyond fixed logic is called FUZZY LOGIC. Millions of dollars is put every year into the study of Fuzzy Logic. Fuzzy logic controls will gain ever-increasing ground in the products of tomorrow. Some washing machine companies claim to be using it in the family cloth washing programs. Washing family clothes can often contain a wide assortment of fabrics like cotton; wool; linen etc. If people are willing to wash their clothes in several batches, a simple selector switch will do the job. If on the other hand the company wants to offer a superior model they could offer a mixed batch machine with more advanced intelligence to take the guess- work out of the washing process. These decisions are similar to what the housewife would have made if she had to wash a mixed batch of clothes. Cooking a meal also involves a fair amount of Fuzzy Logic on the part of the wife when she knows who is coming for dinner. The same dish cooked for different guest may be different at different times. For example, less onions if the father in law is coming and more salt if her mother is coming; extra bland for the husband and more vinegar for the aunt. . Etc. Some decisions are made, they cannot be exactly describes, they are just done, sometimes this way and sometimes another way. This is also a type of Fuzzy Logic. So, men try and understand there could be Characteristic Curves and Fuzzy Logic even in areas of marriage, wives and mood swings. After all, our technical systems were not entirely dreamt up, they are derivatives of observing nature. Technically, there is a subject called BIONICS, whose main thrust is to observe nature and translate the inferences to make technical products.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                  While we are on the subject we sometimes hear the question of whether there is a comparable ‘Male menopause’.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                  This is a question with strong cultural overtones, which have clouded the truth. This question has been flag waved by feminist movement who apparently fear that female menopause will be used as an excuse to withhold positions of leadership from middle-aged women. While men do experience a level of change, which has sometimes been referred to as menopausal, it is very different in original impact from that experienced by women. For men, the changes are not so related to hormonal alterations but are more psychological in nature. It is difficult for a man to face the fact that he will never reach the occupational goals he has set for himself. His youth is rapidly vanishing. . . That he will soon be unattractive to the opposite sex. . . That his early dreams of power and glory will never be realized. Some men who have achieved less than they hoped are devastated by the realization that life is slipping away from them. This, primarily, is the male menopause.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                  Some individuals respond to it by seeking an affair with a young girl to prove their continued virility; other work harder and longer to overcome the inevitable; others become alcoholics; other enter into dramatic period of depression.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                  But even when the emotional impact is extreme, it is usually motivated by the man’s evaluation of his outside world. These same influences agitate a woman, but she has an additional hormonal turmoil undermining her security from within. Other things being equal, the feminine variety is more difficult to endure, particularly if it remains untreated.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                  Now and then a question is asked why do some women make it through menopause without the need of exogenous estrogen. No body knows for sure what estrogen does to the feminine neurological apparatus. At this point of time physicians really know too little about the chemistry of the brain and the substances, which are necessary for its proper functioning. The only guide for treatment is the clinical signs and symptoms, which the physician observes. In answer to the question it may therefore be that the ovaries or the adrenal glands emit sufficient estrogen to satisfy the need of less vulnerable individuals.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                  Incidentally, the human female is the only member of the animal kingdom who outlives her reproductive capacity. All other die when their ability to bear young ones has ended. The twenty or thirty additional years typically granted to a woman can be the most meaningful and fulfilling in life, if her body is maintained and the proper attitudes are fostered. Proper attitude is not fostered by efforts of the mind alone. It involves the body mind, heart and soul. That is why prayer is so important just as much as exercise, mental stimulation and love. Under mental stimulation I do not mean the \u2018Soap-Operas\u2019 or prolonged hour in front of the TV. I mean getting involved in the community, social activities, good books, good films, taking courses in interesting subjects, hobbies, enjoying the Grandchildren and goal oriented activities.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                  Most men, no matter how sympathetic and well intentioned are baffled by the following behavior in their wives. That is, when their wife is going through their premenstrual-<\/span>tension and become irritable and short tempered, they try to console them and tell them that everything will soon be all right and that it isn’t as bad as it seems. This tends to make the wife even more furious and unbearable. The poor husband feels like an idiot for even trying to be understanding and kind. The reason why this approach fails miserably is that her need during this phase is different. She is not looking for an explanation to what happens during a premenstrual phase. She has plenty of such phases before she got married. And, who is he anyway to offer an explanation. How many periods has he had, to talk. She is not looking for consolation either. What she is really looking for is understanding <\/strong>and in some cases agreement<\/strong>. He has no clue as to what understanding is on this subject is about. If he does not understand what is actually going on, how can he agree? The remedy, simple as it may seem, is just to tell him that he needs a different approach. This is exactly where she cannot tell him that. She may be very capable, to explain the advice to others, even to another man. She may be very capable to counsel another man, regarding that man\u2019s wife\u2019s behaviour. But she cannot explain it to her husband. It is something like giving a Sex Education class to children. If the class is for other children, it is perhaps awkwardly possible. If your own children are in the class, it is difficult for both the teacher as well as her child. This problem is even more so, if the child happens to be a son. The undertone however, is different. In the case of holding the class with your child in it, has a component of being uncomfortable and an embarrassment \u2013 on your side as well as what your child will feel. The question and answer part of the lesson is uncomfortable, to say the least. In the case of the husband, she feels frustrated and irritated, \u201cDo I have to tell him these things -I can\u2019t explain these things to him\u201d. She feels frustrated because she knows he really does not know and she cannot open up herself. Furthermore, she does not consider him stupid, and in spite of it, she cannot communicate this point to him. So, the man keeps making his mistaken approach, and she keeps getting frustrated with his hopeless approach. This situation is much the same way as we saw earlier, about the man who is having a frustrating time at work. He comes home from work, not wanting to be asked how his day at work was. In her concern, she asks him the same question, day after day. The point is he will not tell her straight out, \u201cDon\u2019t ask me that question again. Because it drives me back to my work spot\u201d. Furthermore he really knows her question is out of genuine concern, yet, in spite of this he cannot communicate the feeling to her. He will be able to explain it to another colleague\u2019s wife very effectively, but to his own wife his attitude is, \u201cDo I have to explain why I am bothered with her question?\u201d Frankly, he has just extricated himself from his work spot, so that he can have some peace. Now she has put him right back there. So instead of explaining it, he snarls. It has nothing to do with his wife; His frustration or irritation is purely an outside matter.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                  Back to woman\u2019s reaction and the husband\u2019s surprise:<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                  FIRST of all, she does not realize that her despair is related to her hormonal calendar.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                  SECONDLY, attempts to console her only causes greater frustration and make her try to prove, how terrible things are in her life. So much so, she is almost insulted by the husband (or anyone else for that matter) emphasizing the positive. Her NEED is not that she is seeking, \u2018ANSWERS\u2019, her need is \u2018ASSURANCE\u2019, that at least one human being on earth understands what she is going through. She wants the husband to comprehend how tough it is. Pacifying remarks undermine this need; it forces her to prove that she is suffering worse than the husband thinks she is. An \u2018ACCEPTING ATMOSPHERE\u2019 in this situation is more needed than an \u2018EXPLANATION\u2019. Help is to give her an atmosphere in which she can ventilate her bottled up frustrations.<\/span><\/p>\n

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                                                                                                                                                                                  1. 8. Problems with the children<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                    In bringing up a child, both the masculine and the feminine personalities are needed. There is no question that both role models are needed. While one role model helps the child to develop the other helps the child to understand. Each gender makes its own contribution to the development of their children\u2019s little minds, and a mother knows she is not equipped to play both parts. There\u2019s no doubt about it, raising children as a \u2019Single parent\u2019 whether married or not is the loneliest job in the world. Yet it is surprising how often in a conflict one or the other parent selfishly claims the custody of the children. These strains show up in the child in so many different ways, causing all kinds of complications at different levels of childhood and later in adulthood. Good parenthood is extremely vital for children. Besides the effects of strained parental relationship, there are various socio-economic factors, for instance many husbands are faced with the problem of long hours of work robbing them of meal time togetherness; evenings; lack of weekends because of out station trips; entertaining; community obligations etc. Fathers rarely get enough time even under reasonable circumstances. Problems of this nature are becoming more widespread and common.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                    The nature of the problem may take various forms depending on the age of the child; the circumstances they live in; the locality; the amount of pocket money they may have or not have.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                    Time spent with the children, is time well invested both for you and them beyond value. In our adult sense of values, we often try to make them excel in some activity or the other. While this is good, the time to just walk around and, \u2018kick stones\u2019 with them is perhaps more useful, because that is when their creative questions and abilities have a \u2018time\u2019 to emerge. They need that. It has a tremendous impact on the rest of their lives. These so called, \u2018Waste of Time Moments\u2019 are perhaps the richest investment you can give them for life. \u00ad Here is where creativity and originality develops. Children cannot hold interest in any activity for long; so frequent changes are necessary, otherwise they will get bored and lose their interest. Your children will be with you for a few brief years and the obligations you now shoulder will be nothing more than swirling memories. Enjoy every moment of these days, \u00adeven the difficult times, and enjoy your satisfaction of having done an essential job, right.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                    A divorce or separation is a terrible trauma for a Child, they usually learn to cope with their situations in one way or another, but the emotional impact will never, be completely forgotten.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                    One day I happened to have a visitor to my office. He is a free-lance person who has made it his life\u2019s mission to help young people to stay away from smoking, alcohol and drugs. Among the many points, which we discussed, one area was related to the relationship between Parents and Children. He showed me a beautiful collection of 20 points. Parents do play the most vital role in the life of their children. I would like to share these 20 points with you:<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                    YOU AND YOUR CHILD<\/span><\/p>\n

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                                                                                                                                                                                    1. Do not say, \u201cNo without saying Why\u201d \u00ad but\u201a help him to understand himself and build his self-esteem.<\/span><\/li>\n
                                                                                                                                                                                    2. Do not force him to act obediently but\u201a motivate him by practicing what you preach.<\/span><\/li>\n
                                                                                                                                                                                    3. Do not over-discipline him and cramp his personality but\u201a give him the freedom to learn from his mistakes.<\/span><\/li>\n
                                                                                                                                                                                    4. Do not be over-protective and shield him from others but \u201a encourage him to fight his own battles.<\/span><\/li>\n
                                                                                                                                                                                    5. Do not pamper him and make him weak-willed but\u201a allow him to know his weaknesses and face disappointments.<\/span><\/li>\n
                                                                                                                                                                                    6. Do not make him a puppet in your hands but\u201a let him learn to make decisions and handle responsibilities.<\/span><\/li>\n
                                                                                                                                                                                    7. Do not try to live your own life through him but\u201a respect his individuality.<\/span><\/li>\n
                                                                                                                                                                                    8. Do not give him a guilt-complex by blaming him always but\u201a help him to understand his faults and guide him to overcome them.<\/span><\/li>\n
                                                                                                                                                                                    9. Do not ridicule his shortcomings and make fun of him but\u201a teach him to respect himself so that he can respect others.<\/span><\/li>\n
                                                                                                                                                                                    10. \u00a0Do not instill fear in him and breed violence but\u201a show him how to love you and others by giving love.<\/span><\/li>\n
                                                                                                                                                                                    11. Do not be suspicious of him and his motives but\u201a have faith in him so that he can have faith in you.<\/span><\/li>\n
                                                                                                                                                                                    12. Do not behave like a dictator and rule him but\u201a be a friend and encourage him to share his problems with you.<\/span><\/li>\n
                                                                                                                                                                                    13. Do not put undue pressure to achieve brilliant results in studies but\u201a try to discover his real aptitude and encourage him to follow.<\/span><\/li>\n
                                                                                                                                                                                    14. Do not allow him to become a bookworm but\u201a help him to develop healthy interests and hobbies.<\/span><\/li>\n
                                                                                                                                                                                    15. Do not allow him to be lazy and idle away his time but\u201a help him to use his energy meaningfully and become physically strong.<\/span><\/li>\n
                                                                                                                                                                                    16. Do not enforce dogmatic rigid rules and make him dogmatic. Rather, allow him to have a broad vision.<\/span><\/li>\n
                                                                                                                                                                                    17. \u00a0Do not be blind to his faults and weaknesses but\u201a be strict and correct his habits before they become bad ones.<\/span><\/li>\n
                                                                                                                                                                                    18. Do not avoid exposing him to social problems but\u201a discuss and make him aware of social evils and how to avoid them.<\/span><\/li>\n
                                                                                                                                                                                    19. \u00a0Do not indulge in family quarrels in his presence but\u201a give him the security of a happy and loving home.<\/span><\/li>\n
                                                                                                                                                                                    20. \u00a0Do not give him everything else but your \u2018time\u2019 but\u201a let him to know how much he means to you by spending time with him.<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                      Remember ONLY YOU can make your child a happy and complete person.<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

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                                                                                                                                                                                      1. IN \u00ad LAWS<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                        In order to get a better understanding of the complexity of the in-law relationship problems, it would be better to read Chapter No. 16, on JEALOUSY additionally. There are some terms there that have been explained, which have a direct bearing to this topic. Furthermore some syndromes are explained earlier, like the, ME-MY Syndrome, these play a vital part in this topic.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                        For the even more serious reader, it is advisable to read Chapter 6, SOME EXPLANATIONS because terms like MIND and HEART have a direct and specific meaning. In our normal language, we tend to exchange meanings and functions of these two dimensions of a human being.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                        The reason why in-laws can be a major area of problem is for the simple reason that they are closely connected with the couple. Where closeness is, is also the chance of conflict. Take for instance marriage \u00ad the reason why it is conflict susceptible, is because of the closeness. It is this conflict stemming and arising out of closeness that has brought this book and many other books on marriage into formation. We do not have any conflict with the person who lives on the Artic or the Amazon Jungles, or even the other end of the town. Those people may have problems among themselves, but we have no problem with them, simply because we have no close contact.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                        By and large, all in-law problems originate, and are perpetuated in the area of our EMOTIONS rather than the area of our INTELLECT. In other words, the HEART is more at work than the HEAD. This is the reason why many of the problems mentioned in various chapters like jealousy; possessiveness; \u2018ME-MY syndrome\u2019; \u2018Love me love my dog syndrome\u2019 etc. , are easy to show up here too. After all, any of these influences can affect us. The same struggles, which we have towards overcoming, our personal flaws in our relationship with our spouse will show up here also. Mastery over self is not confined only towards overcoming weaknesses with a marital relationship, but with an over all mastery, in all relationships, including in-laws; friends; neighbors, colleagues etc.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                        Let us try and understand some of the factors that make us susceptible.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                        The psychological baggage: Before the couple got married and formed their own family, each of them, were a part of another family. They had life long bindings to people like their parents; brothers; sisters. Including other people associated with them. They also had feeling of associations and attachments with their home, their hometown, and peer group. All these influences contributed to their emotional make-up. Schooling, work life; clubs brought in additional and formative structures in their thinking process. All these factors are brought into marriage. Quite often marriage will happen with a partner who has not had an identical exposure. The struggles show up as:<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                        (a) Each partner wanting the other partner to appreciate the points of value. With the same feelings.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                        (b) In spite of all the wishes and efforts of the spouse, the other partner may not feel these points are of value. They certainly do not assign the same intensity.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                        (c) Just like the couple has a certain amount of psychological baggage. The in-laws also have attachment bindings to one of the partners. Because of this, they may try to show, or maintain expressions of love; concern; attachment; possessiveness etc. In effect they are trying (or perhaps struggling to maintain closeness.)<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                        (d) One of the partners may view the in-laws as an interference; as a threat; an infringement on ones personal territory. The moment such feelings come, it sets the defense mechanisms to switch ON. The escalation turns out to be a circle with more investment in efforts- more defense -more frustration \u00ad more conflict \u00ad more resentment.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                        The most destructive of all IN-LAW related problems are: THE FORMATION OF TRIANGLES. Just like there are many other triangular formations that contribute to marital conflict. The triangle could be, Husband \u00ad Wife \u00ad In-laws, It could be, Husband \u00ad Wife \u00ad Children, or, Husband \u00ad Wife\u00ad Career etc. We should be particularly careful of these so-called triangular formations. Husband and wife should be \u2018one\u2019, in order to break the triangle. In the first line, it is our selfishness, and then our egos, that give us a hard time.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                        In-law conflicts between people of the same age or state in life are usually a result of JEALOUSY of some kind or another.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                        In-law conflicts between people of different age groups or state in life are usually a result of POSSESSIVENESS. Vast age differences bring the generation gap complications. Some of which are mentioned below.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                        Generation gap induced differences play a part in amplifying the complications. Many in-laws by virtue of their age become childish. This shows up in their behavior. To pound them with heavy reasoning and arguments, would not have the same degree of success as when they were younger or more able. If you feel that this is a problem, be generous in your attitude \u00ad be big-minded. Give them a wide margin. Little if any good will come out to tell them that they are childish. One thing we should also remember, when they were young, they were more capable, more efficient, and quicker minded. They were in a position of accomplish goals and achieve success. All their success happened, while today’s grown-ups were babies. We should realize that they are declining on virtually every front, – physically, mentally, emotionally, for most people even financially. Sometimes younger people think that these older people have their house paid up; the car also paid up, like wise; their children are grown up and are, no longer a responsibility of theirs. So, their finances must be dandy. The sad reality however is that for many, health problems are likely to set in. The cost of medicines; doctor\u2019s visits and may be even hospitalization can be very expensive. They are practically paying today\u2019s top prices with their savings when their salaries were only a fraction of today\u2019s salary rates. Their money simply does not have the same purchasing power it had while they were earning and saving it up. More over the tasks and chores that they did themselves in their younger days may need the help of someone else, including trips to get the essentials. Under these circumstances, it is all but likely, even for the best of parents to strive towards possessiveness, to some extent at least. They have a lot to cope up with. Growing old is not easy. AND WE OURSELVES WILL GROW OLD. The safest and most honorable way, is not to add to their strains but to help them. As the younger person, you are ascending, while they are descending. So it is for the one who is ascending to be big-hearted. Show them love; show them respect; show them admiration, spend some of your time; help them.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                        In the complex behavioral patterns of in-law relationships the most universally baffling ones to understand are:<\/span><\/p>\n

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                                                                                                                                                                                        1. The mother-in-law and daughter-in-law problem. By and large both parties have enough instinctive dislike and disagreement, which is a strain especially to the husband. He finds himself between two warring women, who are both his. He cannot understand the reasons for the variety of disagreement that they so easily, and frequently, stir up. He usually suffers a lot under the strain.<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                          What Husbands find difficult to understand is what switches the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law relationship. Initially the mother-in-law-to-be and the daughter-in-law-to-be are the best of friends. A wedding and a few hours later, they begin to show signs of rivalry. The poor husband is bewildered at what is suddenly going wrong. He also feels his happiness is rapidly turning into gloom and sadness. Slowly he sinks into a state of wondering whether there is a method to their madness. Before the marriage, the situation was:<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                          The boy\u2019s mother is anxious to get her son<\/strong> married. This lady has seen and helped her son<\/strong> through the many \u2018Miles stones\u2019 in his life as a baby, a child and as a young man. Now the milestone of marriage has to be set in place and hacked from her, \u2018TO DO LIST\u2019. Armed with this, sense of duty, she mentally compares every prospective young lady with an imaginary yet exhaustive, checklist. As his mother, she wants the best for her son. <\/strong>She is eager that her son<\/strong> gets his food exactly the way he likes it. She tells the fianc\u00e9e-to-be all she can about her son,<\/strong> and is most eager to answer all her questions.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                          On a more advanced plane, there is a feeling towards eternity. This feeling is in all people. Even though our life on earth is limited, we instinctively try to enable continuity through our children and grand children. The young lady is now that factor by which she will get grand children.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                          The young lady is equally anxious to know all about her husband-to-be<\/strong>. She wants to please him and make the best possible impression. She wants to know the, \u201cWhole Story\u201d about his being. The best resource person is obviously his mother. (In similar ways, are his sisters, sister-in-laws, cousins, and friends).<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                          Basically, there is nothing wrong with this. It is only fair that the young lady wants to know about her future husband<\/strong> from the best possible source. It is equally fair that the mother wants to equip the future daughter-in-law with all the tips needed to be a good wife to her son<\/strong>.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                          So both of them go on, as, great friends. The mother enjoying talking about her son<\/strong> in great detail and the young lady enjoys listening and daydreaming at the same time.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                          After many stories with heart to heart talks and cooking recipes later, the young lady gets married.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                          This is when both women reach an \u2018Emotional Super High’. <\/strong> Eventually the super high has to fall. It is a question of where the emotion is allowed to fall. It can fall into ‘understanding\u2019 <\/strong>or it can fall into ‘POSSESSIVENESS’. <\/strong>If possessiveness falls into place, the MY Syndrome<\/strong> will come into effect.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                          When a boy marries, three major psychological upheavals result.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                          1) In the HEART of the mother, she FEELS a long and cherished binding is breaking. She feels she is forced to relinquish her hold on her dear son<\/strong>. Still worse she feels she has to side step to make way for another woman. It is not reasoning, it is FEELING, it is, instinct.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                          2) In the HEART of the daughter-in-law, she FEELS she has to<\/strong> establish a binding. She feels she is forced to assert her right of claim. Still worse, she feels she has to get rid of the other woman in her husband\u2019s life. It is MY husband. Here too, It is not reasoning, it is FEELING, it is, instinct.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                          3) In the MIND of the husband\/son. He KNOWS that his relationship with his mother is different and unique to that of his wife. There is no question that either of these two women can switch places with each other.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                          The interesting part is, that when it concerns another person\u2019s son \/ husband, both these women will agree that the mother\u2019s role is different from the wife\u2019s role even with respect to the position each will occupy in the man\u2019s heart. And yet when it comes to their own son \/ husband they act differently. Here again we see, it is not a question of the intellect, it is a question of raw feelings.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                          The reason is actually quite simple, when they look at other people \u00ad they think with their HEAD. When they look at themselves, they think with their HEART. In other words, when it comes to their own son \/ husband EMOTIONS over ride brains. In simple terms they are willing to fight. Each wants to remove the other\u2019s MY BLANKET and have only her own blanket firmly and securely spread over her possession \u2013 the man.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                          Because of their emotional possessiveness and their willingness to fight, they inherently have reflexive action to this trait, that is: They instinctively, wish to be fought about. This reflexive action does not come about as a result of marriage- it was there all the time.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                          For example two guys may be ready to come to blows at a dance because of a girl. This catastrophe sends the girl into an EMOTIONAL SUPER-HIGH. She will remember it for years to come. She may protest the two fighting in general, but she will still cherish the remembrance because she was fought- Her emotional self worth has jumped up many points. She is elated, \u201cI was fought over !!!\u201d. She will brag, \u201c Men fought over me.\u201d And other girls will say \u201cWow\u201d on the outside and feel jealous on the inside.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                          By the same token she is very willing to get pugnacious if her “MY” is put down in any way. Her MY can be, for example, some one talking bad about her<\/strong> husband, her<\/strong> children, her<\/strong> family, ever her<\/strong> husband\u2019s family, her<\/strong> school, even though she is no longer a student, her <\/strong>country, her<\/strong> whatever.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                          REASONING.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                          If women were willing to understand this explanation, it would make things much easier for themselves, their husband and family.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                          For those lucky ones who can go for a HONEY MOON, this is one of the best things that can happen, because:<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                          (1) It is a romantic time like a holiday. It gives the newly Wed couple time to feel good. Sooner or later the honey moon will come to an end, and regular life will begin. There will be lots of ups and downs in the normal day-to-day living. At least in their memory they can re-live this nice experience of being newly wed.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                          (2) It is a time when the young lady has the chance to spread her, \u201cMY\u201d claim over her husband. Being away from the in-laws and on holiday she can relish the feeling of, “He is Mine.\u201d \u201cHe is Only Mine.\u201d The Honeymoon was a definite break away from his family, even if it was only for a few days. This gives a definition that now she has him. When they come back, she has the feeling \u2018He is mine\u2019, and I am willing to share him with you.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                          (3) It is also supposed to be the time when the mother-in-law can come to terms with this new development in her son\u2019s life. She needs this time to walk down memory lane \u00ad to remember her tiny baby; her small boy; her big scout; her graduate; the time when he came home and placed his whole first pay in her hands. There are so many things in a mother’s heart that she will pick up and re-look at, one by one. Tears will most certainly roll down her cheeks and she needs time and quite to do just this. If she is given a chance to do this emotional adjustment well, she will able to greet her daughter-in-law as they came back from the honeymoon. with genuine warmth in her heart.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                          Some women can survive these heart-shaking emotions well. Most, however, will have difficulties. The basic difficulty is the lack of training to be willing to let-go. People are not trained to place their focus in God. This focusing is done with the HEART not with the intellect. Especially since both women find it so difficult, they need to surrender their feelings to GOD. And ask God to come into their heart. They have to be conscientiously trained to place each negative emotion of Anger, Jealousy, Possessiveness, Bitterness, Resentment, etc. to GOD. They have to say for example,<\/span><\/p>\n

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                                                                                                                                                                                          1. \u201cDear God, I am feeling resentful towards. . . . . . . .You please take this feeling.\u201d<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                            After sometime, this spiritual reflex of surrender will become like second nature.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                            The stage beyond this would be to wish the other person well, for example:<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                            \u201cDear God, I am feeling bitterness towards . . . You please take this feeling. Bless . . . . . . . . . and bless me also.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                            a) Initially it will be very difficult, but gradually the grace of God will help you to stand over these defects of our fallen nature.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                            b) The mother-in-law and son-in-law relationship is by and large, better. But even here there are more than enough evidences to show that the mother-in-law tries to be good to their son in laws, (and they are good to their son-in-laws). For some baffling reason, the son-in-law responds with distance, aloofness, dislike, and coolness. The wife cannot understand the reason. She often wonders, \u201cMy mother is so good to him, and he does not show liking for her.\u201d She also wonders how it is that other male friends of similar age or back ground as her husband have no difficulty in liking her mother.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                            c) What wives and mothers sometimes wonder is how fathers seem to get along much better with their son-in-laws and daughter-in-laws. Father in law may get on very well, even though, they themselves are having such a hard time to have a harmonious relationship with their own wife.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                            In general, men are not \u2019MY\u2019 oriented in these Matters, (see \u201cME-MY Syndrome\u201d \u00ad Also see Chapter on Jealousy), hence they are less possessive. Both the Son-in-law as well as the Daughter-in-law somehow perceives this, more by instinct rather than by reason. Consequently there are no feelings of FEAR or THREAT to any of the people concerned. Chapter 23 is devoted to FEAR-THREAT Situation.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                            For ages people are trying to understand and explain these baffling behaviors. Many theories and explanations have been put forth. If this is a problem, it will certainly help to read more about this special area. As a word of caution, one must not assume that the understanding will be easy. The best way to handle the issue is to:<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                            (a) Try and understand as much as you can.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                            (b) Accept the fact that there are areas, which are difficult to understand.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                            (c) Try and to improve ones own self by being better in-laws to the rest of the family.<\/span><\/p>\n

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                                                                                                                                                                                            1. 10. AGEING<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                              One of the causes of depression is associated with age. The main orientation of this book is tuned towards young marriage, and with what we may perhaps term as the \u2018first half time\u2019 of marriage. So initially it may seem superfluous to spend words on this topic, but let us pause for a while, and re-look at what we have been reading all the while \u00ad the tone of this book has been:<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                              (a) To understand what happens in a marital relationship.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                              (b) To bring our attitude towards achieving marital harmony.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                              With these two aspirations in mind, we have tried to understand our position in a marriage relationship. On one side, we know what happened, because the past experiences are etched in our memory. The present is with us right now. But for the eventualities of the future we have no experience of our own. We can only rely on our observances of what happens to older people and thereby at least know some of the probabilities that age brings. Because of observing people who are older than us, the problems of age are not totally alien to us. We must also realize that we are heading towards aging with each passing year. So I feel the words spent on this topic will contribute towards our understanding and attitude development. In a way, eventually we are looking at the wider context beyond the young marriage situation, that we may presently find ourselves in.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                              For one thing Retirement is a total change in life style. One of the soundest pieces of advice is to get hold of a book at least 5 years before retirement, and both partners bring themselves into the correct frame of mind. People who do not do this usually find themselves confronted with a rude and rough shock. It is also particularly difficult because, at that age, the abilities to accept changes are very difficult. Other attitudes, and the strength, to execute these changes have become more inflexible. This brings problems of coping up both for themselves as well as for others.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                              Let us try and apprise our self of at least some of the problems associated with age. Some of these points have and will appear again in different sections of this book.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                              The thrust mention here is:<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                              A) To understand the source of depressions that are likely to crop up in our life.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                              B) To understand the probable reasons for those difficult, perhaps also frustrating experiences we make with others.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                              With age, we tend to listen to some things our mind says to us. things that we didn’t care about when we were younger. Some are \u2018Questions\u2019, others are ,Statements\u2019. These \u2018Statements\u2019 or \u2018Questions\u2019 hit some people with an impact, while it just grows gradually in others. Some of these questions and statements could sound like this:<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                              Suddenly I am not young anymore!<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                              I have not achieved enough!<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                              There is no time to catch up with all my expectations!<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                              I have not provided adequately for my \/ our old age \u00adwhat shall we do?<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                              I cannot do the things I did before.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                              I am not useful.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                              My health is not the same anymore.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                              I am just deteriorating.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                              Am I still good-looking?<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                              Does he \/ she still like to be seen with me?<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                              Things that never bothered me before, are now assuming frightening importance.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                              I am just not use to doing nothing.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                              I am just not use to having him around at home during the day.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                              I thought this was going to be a time of rest and freedom from the tensions of life. But now I find my mind keeps me away from rest. And the tensions are only different.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                              Lack or less of financial income.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                              Hormonal changes.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                              Lack of stamina especially when the grand children are around. This creates fatigue and fatigue creates irritation, anger and subsequently a bad feeling of guilt.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                              This list can go on and on. The point to keep in mind, is that these feelings are real and that the effects of these feelings are bound to come into play with our inter- and intra personal relationship. As age goes on further, people tend to get childish; this brings reactions, which are often hurting to them.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                              Earlier we had listed a set of 10 points which were factors causing female depression and which you were asked to rank in an order of importance. If you did this ranking as a young person, \u2019Age\u2019 would have perhaps been right at the end of your priority list, but if you are older, the circumstances are different, and it occupies a higher ranking. When seen through the eyes of younger people these problems are of no significance, so they could quite easily adopt an improper attitude to the older people, who are a part of their life. The key struggle, which we have, is to put all our attitudes into a correct perspective. This is a life long task \u00ad this is the race we run. As St. Paul puts it:<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                              \u201cI HAVE FOUGHT THE GOOD FIGHT, I HAVE FINISHED THE RACE, I HAVE KEPT THE FAITH.\u201d 2 Timothy 4:7.<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                              7 \u201eIch habe den guten Kampf gek\u00e4mpft, den Lauf vollendet, die Treue gehalten.\u201c <\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                              2 Timotheus 4:7<\/strong><\/span><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                              The race that we run is not against age, but it is about doing a lot of good things, including shaping a good attitude, so that when age has brought us up to the point when we can look back, we also can look back and say the same words as St. Paul in 2 Tim 4:7.<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                              LET US NOW EXAMINE WHAT THE BIBLE HAS TO SAY<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                              Now let us turn back to the Bible. In 1 Peter.3: 7<\/span>, <\/strong>1 Petrus 3:7, <\/strong><\/span>we read,<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                              \u201cLIKEWISE YOU HUSBANDS, DWELL WITH THEM WITH UNDERSTANDING. . . \u201d <\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                              7 \u201eEbenso sollt ihr M\u00e4nner im Umgang mit euren Frauen r\u00fccksichtsvoll sein,- – –<\/strong>\u201c<\/strong><\/span><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                              The words WITH UNDERSTANDING also implies the word \u2018KNOWLEDGE\u2019 \u00ad if you do not have knowledge, how can you effectively understand. But this is a remarkable paradox. God says a husband should live with his wife with understanding (and knowledge of her basic nature and needs). But as we mentioned earlier most men know very little about the emotional mechanics and the make up about the female race. Is that the reason why so many marriage break up?<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                              When God says, husbands live with understanding towards your wives, it must obviously be possible, that husbands can have some idea about wives. Even though this statement, seems to run contra to popular opinion.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                              The second half of this verse of 1 Peter 3:7<\/strong><\/span> 1 Petrus 3:7<\/span>, <\/strong>reads,<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                              \u201c. . . GIVING HONOR TO THE WIFE, AS TO THE WEAKER VESSEL, AND AS BEING HEIRS TOGETHER OF THE GRACE OF LIFE, THAT YOUR PRAYERS MAY NOT BE HINDERED.\u201d<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                              \u201e- – – – denn sie sind der schw\u00e4chere Teil; ehrt sie, denn auch sie sind Erben der Gnade des Lebens. So wird euren Gebeten nichts mehr im Weg stehen.\u201c<\/strong><\/span><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                              Give honor to the wife as to the weaker vessel. Women are the weaker vessel. It does not mean that they are mentally, morally or spiritually inferior, only just physically. Even though they are less prone to sickness and even though they have a longer life span, they are generally weaker and smaller made. God made them so. So that, the weaker, will depend on the stronger. Because the wife is of weaker stature, she is dependent on her husband to provide and protect her. His task is to provide food, clothing, shelter and protection.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                              She on the other hand is ideally equipped to bare children and to provide them with warmth and love. This is some thing that children especially babies need. However, it is exactly this faculty, which God provided her with, to perform this task effectively, happens to be the second area of her weakness \u00ad Her emotions. A woman must often struggle with the sudden and unexpected mood swings. These are a result of the chemical actions produced by the hormones in her reproductive system. Earlier in this chapter we have touched on this point with a fair amount of explanation.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                              It is exactly these emotional vulnerabilities that make her feel the need to be extremely dependent on the man God gave her, as her husband. It seem to be the underlining idea that God gave to Eve,<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                              \u201cTO THE WOMAN HE SAID: I WILL GREATLY MULTIPLY YOUR SORROW AND YOUR CONCEPTION. IN PAIN YOU SHALL BRING FORTH CHILDREN; YOUR DESIRE SHALL BE FOR YOUR HUSBAND; AND HE SHALL RULE OVER YOU.\u201d <\/strong>Genesis 3:16<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                              16 \u201eZur Frau sprach er: Viel M\u00fchsal bereite ich dir, sooft du schwanger wirst. \/ Unter Schmerzen gebierst du Kinder. \/ Du hast Verlangen nach deinem Mann; \/ er aber wird \u00fcber dich herrschen.\u201c 1 Mose 3:16<\/strong><\/span><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                              She looks to him with an inner longing to meet these basic needs for her.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                              The question is how can a man do this? It is not a casual question for a husband, it is very deep. It is deep because the husband is trying to say, \u201cThis woman hurts me every time, Even when I am trying and willing to help her. . . She hurts my children\u2019s feeling, they are innocent. What have they done? . . . She is so stupid she doesn\u2019t even realize how intensely she is hurting the very people who love her, and, who are willing to help her. How can you ever help such a person?\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                              Maybe most wives do not drive their husbands to such extreme thinking, so as to make them feel that they, have to put up with ‘a stupid\u2019, \u2018A hurt producer\u2019 or ‘an idiot’. But to varying degrees there is an underlining feeling that this is plausible.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                              This kind of thinking sounds terribly unfair in the eyes of the wife. Yet it sounds like absolutely ‘Spot-On\u2019 to their feelings of the man. This is a case where it is FEELINGS Vs. FEELINGS \u00ad both have reasons to feel that they are correct because they feel that way.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                              Let’s see what the Bible says:<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                              In Ephesians 5:25<\/span>, Epheser 5:25<\/span><\/strong> we read,<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                              \u201dHUSBANDS, LOVE YOUR WIVES, JUST AS CHRIST ALSO LOVED THE CHURCH AND GAVE HIMSELF FOR IT.\u201d<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                              25 \u201eIhr M\u00e4nner, liebt eure Frauen, wie Christus die Kirche geliebt und sich f\u00fcr sie hingegeben hat,\u201c<\/strong><\/span><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                              Christ didn\u2019t look at us and say, \u201cIf they love me and appreciate me, I will be prepared to die for them and buy them redemption.\u201d If Jesus had to put that condition on sinful humanity he would have no reason to die for us. He died for us regardless of our love or appreciation. This is why we say God’s love is UNCONDITIONAL. GOD loves us with an AGAPE Love.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                              In Ephesians 5:28,<\/span> Epheser 5:28<\/span><\/strong> we read,<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                              \u201cSO HUSBANDS OUGHT TO LOVE THEIR WIVES AS THEIR OWN BODIES; HE WHO LOVES HIS WIFE LOVES HIMSELF.\u201d<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                              28 \u201eDarum sind die M\u00e4nner verpflichtet, ihre Frauen so zu lieben wie ihren eigenen Leib. Wer seine Frau liebt, liebt sich selbst.\u201c<\/strong><\/span><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                              In Ephesians 5:33<\/span>, Epheser 5:33<\/span><\/strong> we read,<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                              \u201cNEVERTHELESS LET EACH ONE OF YOU IN PARTICULAR SO LOVE HIS OWN WIFE AS HIMSELF, AND LET THE WIFE SEE THAT SHE RESPECTS HER HUSBAND.\u201d<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                              33 \u201eWas euch angeht, so liebe jeder von euch seine Frau wie sich selbst, die Frau aber ehre den Mann.\u201c<\/strong><\/span><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                              In Colossians. 3:19, <\/strong><\/span> Kolosser 3:19<\/strong><\/span>we read,<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                              \u201cHUSBANDS, LOVE YOUR WIVES AND DO NOT BE BITTER TOWARDS THEM.\u201d<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                              19 \u201eIhr M\u00e4nner, liebt eure Frauen und seid nicht aufgebracht gegen sie!\u201c<\/strong><\/span><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                              We must realize the Bible would not convey so many messages on marriage, if God were not aware that we would have difficult tasks to struggle against. All these tasks are there because God wanted us to learn the difficult lessons towards AGAPE love.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                              The husband’s headship is a serious duty, to create an atmosphere that satisfies the basic needs of his wife \u00ad in an atmosphere where she is free to grow and develop in everything what God wants her to be. Her submission will then be a voluntary response to his loving headship. The keyword here is ‘Response’. The wife is the responder. If she gets only irrationalities, criticism, disapproval, unfriendliness, indifference, un-appreciation and no affection, she will react with her defense mechanisms like bitterness, coolness, defiance or nagging. Some wives turn to drinking; others immerse themselves in social activities. IF SHE GETS LOVE, SHE WILL REACT WITH LOVE AND WILL DEVELOP INTO ONE OF THE LOVELIEST PEOPLE ON EARTH THIS IS ACTUALLY WHAT GOD WANTED HER TO BECOME. A happy marriage and home depends primarily on a wife but a successful marriage depends primarily on the husband. <\/strong> The husband should love her unselfishly even if it seems to be only for God’s sake.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                              She needs acts of love because she depends on assurance. Her nature is such that she also needs reassurance. And she may need this over and over again for the simple reason her psychological mechanism works that way. Men are different they need far less assurance, so they are inclined to be less attentive to this need.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                              She needs a ‘helping hand\u2019 because it serves to convey the message ‘I love you’. Sometimes this ‘I love you\u2019 is often required to be demonstrated \u00ad flowers, a bottle of perfume, even giving up a hobby sometimes.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                              She needs enormous amount of encouragement. This point becomes all the more critical when the partners come from different regions or communities. In some regions or countries or communities, paying compliments is common and the right things to do, whereas in other regions or countries or communities compliments are rare, in fact it may not be seen in good taste. On the contrary, it maybe regarded as flattery. Just as complementing may either be generous or thrifty depending on people from a certain background, the same sense applies to words of endearment or the showing of affection. Compliments are a kind of encouragement. The couple should be aware of each other\u2019s upbringing influences, because these differences can be very contrasting, if they are not understood. Especially if the man comes from a compliment thrifty region and she comes from a region of lavish compliments. Besides treating this behavior as lack of affection, from her husband, she may feel the same way about her in-laws, neighbors and other people around her. Because of lack of understanding she may feel she is not wanted \u00ad and that is a very hard feeling to cope up with.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                              This need for encouragement from a wife can be so persistent, that the husband may mistake it for grumbling. Like one man once complained, \u201cThe way I know my wife, she would even find something to grumble about in heaven.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                              At a counseling session the conversation went like this:<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                              Wife: \u201cHe does not compliment me. He does not give me any sign of his love for me.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                              Husband: \u201cWhat should I do? Should I genuflect every time I came home or sing ‘O-Solo-Mio\u2019 under the balcony?\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                              Wife: \u201cI do not mean that, but at least some sign, at a regular interval, so that I feel that you love me.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                              Husband: \u201cEvery day I come here home directly from work. Is that not a sign that I love you? And is every day not regular enough?\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                              From this conversation, it is clear that she is honestly asking for a need in her to be fulfilled. She is on the wavelength of her feelings. He on the other hand is exasperated because all his dutiful homecoming does not seem to convey his love, which he assumes, is acceptable and adequate sign of his affection. He is on the wavelength of Logic. Men generally tend to think logically, they are also more stable in their thoughts, so they tend to be less demonstrative. In fact he does even consider demonstration necessary most of the time. Let’s face the fact; wives need more demonstrative displays of love. Multi-million dollar industries have recognized this need, and they literally make big money because of this. \u00ad Where would a saying like \u201cSay it with flowers\u201d come from, if there were no need? And who does the gift and florist industry cater to: Women to Man? Or: Men to Woman? If the industry can recognize this need, and profit from it, it is high time husbands also recognized this need in their wives.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                              Often wives complain that husbands take them for granted, as if they were maids around the house. They need appreciation, approval, attention, recognition and understanding. The reason for this lack of concern is that men have a kind of a tendency, not to worry about things that work well. In the working world, this ability is of tremendous help. Suppose a man were in-charge of a large factory or plant and he went around worrying about every person in his charge and about every piece of equipment and machinery, he would have his brain cluttered up. He would be befuddled all the time.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                              Sometimes men say, “I would die for my wife!\u201d But that is really not what she would wants, she wants that, \u201cHe live for her.\u201d Most often the man does not think of it in this way.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                              She looks and longs for the \u2018I LOVE YOU\u2019 to be demonstrated, and here is the difficulty. And this is even more difficult when she is irrational and unreasonable.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                              This loving understanding costs a lot, in fact it costs everything. It often means self-sacrifice. This is exactly what it cost Jesus when he died on the Cross \u00ad for what? For love! For His Church! If you are not prepared to pay this price, you made a big mistake on the altar when you made your vows.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                              Ephesians 5:31<\/span>, <\/strong>Epheser<\/strong> 5:31<\/strong><\/span> states,<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                              \u201cFOR THIS REASON A MAN SHALL LEAVE HIS FATHER AND MOTHER AND BE JOINED TO HIS WIFE, AND THE TWO SHALL BECOME ONE FLESH.\u201d<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                              31 \u201eDarum wird der Mann Vater und Mutter verlassen und sich an seine Frau binden und die zwei werden ein Fleisch sein.\u201c<\/strong><\/span><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                              Some wives in their selfishness hold this saying high like a trump card and place strong references to the word ‘leave’. But this word leave means that from now on he shall start life with his wife and establish his family and become one entity \u00ad \u201cAnd they shall become one flesh.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                              But nowhere does the Bible mention that he should stop loving his parents, or give them no respect. It does not command him to be aloof, cold or withdraw his affection. This saying does not push the forth Commandment aside which says,<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                              \u201cHONOR THY FATHER AND THY MOTHER.\u201d<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                              \u201eEhre deinen Vater und deine Mutter.\u201c<\/strong><\/span><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                              And it is not that the New Testament teaching displaces the Old Testament. This question was settled when Jesus said,<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                              \u201cDO NOT THINK THAT I CAME TO DESTROY THE LAW OF THE PROPHETS. I DID NOT COME TO DESTROY BUT TO FULFILL IT.\u201d <\/strong>Matthew 5:17<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                              \u201eDenkt nicht, ich sei gekommen, um das Gesetz und die Propheten aufzuheben. Ich bin nicht gekommen, um aufzuheben, sondern um zu erf\u00fcllen.\u201c <\/strong>Matth\u00e4us 5:17<\/strong><\/span><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                              When a man takes a woman to be his wife, he makes her a part of himself, that is why he cannot shut her out of his life. If he refused God’s Commandment in this area BITTERNESS AND RESENTMENT WILL CREEP INTO THE MARRIAGE. SPIRITUAL POWER WILL DISAPPEAR AND PRAYERS WILL BECOME LESS EFFECTIVE. Many spiritual weak-spots are a result of this. It would be high time we followed God’s Commandments.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                              This is extremely difficult for the husband under the best of circumstances. This difficulty multiplies many more times if his wife hurts his feelings. A man stands in dilemma to accept or not to accept this commandment. The difficulties are obvious because if there were no problems, he would have included her in anyhow. It is because he feels some difficulties, that is why he is shutting her out, of some areas of his life.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                              The only way to get out of the dilemma is to trust God completely and shift your perspective from the things of this world to the things, which are God centered and eternal.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                                                                                                                                                                              A word to the wives: Let the indwelling of the Holy Spirit motivate your husband. Do not try to do God\u2019s work for Him; He is quite capable of doing His own work, and doing it exceedingly well. If you try to re-structure your husband the results will fall for short of your expectations. You may even make a mess of things. It is also not your duty to remind him of his duties. Instead you should leave him in the hands of the Lord. Pray for him and be the person God expects him to be.<\/span><\/p>\n

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