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BUILD UP<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n Translated by:\u00a0\u00a0HAI DUC TRAN<\/strong><\/p>\n T\u00ecnh y\u00eau lu\u00f4n l\u00e0 \u0111\u1ec1 t\u00e0i ph\u1ed5 bi\u1ebfn, ngay c\u1ea3 ng\u00e0y nay. Ch\u00fang ta d\u00f9ng t\u1eeb r\u1ea5t ng\u1eabu nhi\u00ean, ta n\u00f3i \u201cT\u00f4i y\u00eau v\u1ee3 t\u00f4i\u201d, \u201cT\u00f4i y\u00eau con c\u00e1i t\u00f4i\u201d \u201cT\u00f4i y\u00eau Ch\u00faa t\u00f4i\u201d, \u201cT\u00f4i y\u00eau xe h\u01a1i c\u1ee7a t\u00f4i\u201d \u201cT\u00f4i y\u00eau m\u00f3n Pizza c\u1ee7a t\u00f4i\u201d ngo\u00e0i t\u1eeb \u201cY\u00eau\u201d n\u00e0y ra n\u00f3 c\u0169ng \u0111\u00e3 t\u1eebng c\u00f3 ngh\u0129a d\u1ee5c v\u1ecdng. Th\u00eam v\u00e0o n\u00f3 l\u00e0 l\u1eddi ch\u00e0o.Li\u1ec7t k\u00ea ng\u1eef ngh\u0129a c\u1ee7a n\u00f3 th\u00ec d\u00e0i v\u00f4 t\u1eadn. N\u00f3 c\u00f3 ngh\u0129a kh\u00e1c nhau \u0111\u1ed1i v\u1edbi nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c nhau. C\u0169ng c\u00f3 nhi\u1ec1u ngh\u0129a \u0111\u1ed1i v\u1edbi m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi.<\/p>\n Trong h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n Kit\u00f4, t\u00ecnh y\u00eau l\u00e0 y\u1ebfu t\u1ed1 h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n quan tr\u1ecdng nh\u1ea5t. Gi\u1ed1ng nh\u01b0 s\u1ef1 tr\u01b0\u1edfng th\u00e0nh, t\u00ecnh y\u00eau l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t qu\u00e1 tr\u00ecnh, kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i m\u1ed9t tr\u1ea1ng th\u00e1i. Trong nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u00f2i th\u1ef1c s\u1ef1 \u201cPh\u1ea3i l\u00f2ng\u201d th\u00ec h\u1ecd\u00a0 \u201cl\u1edbn trong t\u00ecnh y\u00eau\u201d nhi\u1ec1u h\u01a1n. T\u00ecnh y\u00eau g\u1ed3m c\u1ea3 cho \u0111i vui v\u1ebb v\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng mong \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c \u0111\u00e1p l\u1ea1i. Ti\u1ebfn tr\u00ecnh n\u00e0y l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t ph\u1ea7n c\u1ee7a to\u00e0n b\u1ed9 ti\u1ebfn tr\u00ecnh tr\u01b0\u1edfng th\u00e0nh.<\/p>\n M\u1ed9t \u0111\u1ee9a tr\u1ebb c\u1ea7n t\u00ecnh y\u00eau th\u01b0\u01a1ng, n\u1ebfu kh\u00f4ng n\u00f3 s\u1ebd ch\u1ebft. N\u00f3 nh\u1eadn \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c t\u00ecnh y\u00eau, nh\u01b0ng kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u00e1p l\u1ea1i. Nh\u01b0ng gi\u00e2y ph\u00fat \u00eam \u0111\u1ec1m c\u1ee7a b\u00e9 v\u00e0 ti\u1ebfng g\u00f9 g\u00f9 c\u1ee7a b\u00e9 gi\u1ea3i th\u00edch nh\u01b0 bi\u1ec3u l\u1ed9 t\u00ecnh y\u00eau. Th\u1ef1c t\u1ebf, ch\u00fang ch\u1ec9 bi\u1ec3u hi\u1ec7n b\u1eb1ng tr\u1ef1c gi\u00e1c c\u1ed1 g\u1eafng mu\u1ed1n \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c \u0103n, \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c tho\u1ea3i m\u00e1i v\u00e0 mong mu\u1ed1n t\u1ef1 l\u00e0m tho\u1ea3i m\u00e1i. Nh\u1eefng em b\u00e9 m\u1edbi sinh ch\u1ec9 bi\u1ebft y\u00eau b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n th\u00f4i. Khi em b\u00e9 l\u1edbn, d\u1ea7n d\u1ea7n hi\u1ec3u bi\u1ebft v\u1ec1 s\u1ef1 hi\u1ec7n di\u1ec7n c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c v\u00e0 h\u1ecdc c\u00e1ch y\u00eau v\u00e0 c\u00e1ch \u1ea3nh h\u01b0\u1edfng l\u1eabn nhau. Trong \u0111\u01b0\u1eddng \u0111\u1eddi \u0111\u1ea7u ti\u00ean, b\u00e9 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 y\u00eau m\u1eb9 b\u1edfi m\u1eb9 cho em \u0103n; ch\u0103m coi ; cho b\u00e9 t\u00ecnh y\u00eau th\u01b0\u01a1ng, \u0111\u00e1p \u1ee9ng m\u1ecdi th\u00fa b\u00e9 c\u1ea7n. Em c\u1ea3m nh\u1eadn \u0111\u1ef1\u01a1c b\u00e0n tay \u0111\u1ea7u ti\u00ean qua h\u00e0ng gi\u1edd sau \u0111\u00f3 v\u00e0 \u0111\u1ef1\u01a1c \u0111\u00e1nh th\u1ee9c v\u00e0 c\u1ea3m nh\u1eadn \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c s\u1ef1 quan t\u00e2m c\u1ee7a m\u1eb9.<\/p>\n Nhanh ch\u00f3ng b\u00e9 c\u1ea3m nh\u1eadn \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c b\u1ed1 m\u00ecnh, anh chi, ng\u01b0\u1eddi h\u1ecd hang, b\u00e8 b\u1ea1n v\u00e0 nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c.D\u1ea7n d\u1ea7n b\u00e9 h\u1ecdc c\u00e1ch \u0111\u00e1p l\u1ea1i t\u00ecnh y\u00eau.Ti\u1ebfn tr\u00ecnh n\u00e0y c\u1ee9 th\u1ebf cho t\u1edbi m\u1ed9t ng\u00e0y s\u1ebd g\u1eb7p ai \u0111\u00f3 v\u00e0 n\u00f3i \u201cAnh y\u00eau em\u201d<\/p>\n Ch\u00fang ta h\u00e3y d\u1eebng l\u1ea1i m\u1ed9t ch\u00fat v\u1ec1 ch\u1ee7 \u0111\u1ec1 em b\u00e9. T\u1ea5t c\u1ea3 ch\u00fang ta \u0111\u1ec1u c\u00f3 nh\u1eefng k\u00fd \u01b0\u1edbc th\u00e2n th\u01b0\u01a1ng v\u1ec1 con c\u00e1i, ch\u00e1u trai, ch\u00e1u g\u00e1i m\u00e0 ta y\u00eau th\u01b0\u01a1ng. \u0110\u00f4i khi ta tr\u1ea7m t\u01b0 v\u1ec1 nh\u1eefng thi\u00ean th\u1ea7n b\u00e9 nh\u1ecf n\u00e0y v\u00e0 th\u1ea5y ch\u00fang ch\u00ednh l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t ph\u1ea7n trong \u0111\u1eddi c\u1ee7a ta. Khi t\u00f4i ngh\u0129 v\u1ec1 hai \u0111\u1ee9a con Ramona v\u00e0 Dominic v\u00e0 t\u00ecnh y\u00eau v\u0129 \u0111\u1ea1i m\u00e0 ch\u00fang d\u00e0nh cho t\u00f4i, t\u00f4i \u0111\u00e3 vi\u1ebft nh\u1eefng suy ngh\u0129\u00a0 c\u1ee7a t\u00f4i tr\u00ean trang gi\u1ea5y n\u00e0y.<\/p>\n \u0110o\u1ea1n vi\u1ebft nh\u01b0 sau:<\/p>\n \u201cKhi t\u00f4i vi\u1ebft v\u1ec1 nh\u1eefng \u0111i\u1ec1u y\u00eau th\u00edch v\u00e0 nh\u1eefng tr\u1ea3i nghi\u1ec7m c\u1ee7a ch\u00fang, tr\u00e1i tim t\u00f4i vui s\u01b0\u1edbng b\u1ed3ng b\u1ec1nh. M\u00f3n\u00a0 qu\u00e0 vui th\u00edch v\u00e0 tr\u1ea3i nghi\u1ec7m vui v\u1ebb \u0111\u00f3 ch\u1ec9 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 c\u00f3 \u1edf nh\u1eefng\u00a0 tr\u1ebb nh\u1ecf v\u00e0 ng\u00e2y th\u01a1 th\u00f4i. Suy ngh\u0129 nhi\u1ec1u l\u1eafm, t\u00f4i quy\u1ebft \u0111\u1ecbnh d\u00f9ng t\u1eeb \u201cm\u00f3n qu\u00e0\u201d thay v\u00ec n\u00f3i l\u00e0 \u0111\u1ee9a tr\u1ebb l\u00e0m nh\u1eefng \u0111i\u1ec1u vui nh\u1ed9n v\u00e0 bu\u1ed3n c\u01b0\u1eddi. N\u00f3 th\u1ef1c s\u1ef1 l\u00e0 m\u00f3n qu\u00e0 d\u00e0nh cho ch\u00fang t\u00f4i,ng\u01b0\u1eddi cha, ng\u01b0\u1eddi m\u1eb9 v\u00e0 nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi l\u1edbn. Khi t\u00f4i ngh\u0129 v\u1ec1 n\u00f3, nh\u1eefng \u0111\u1ee9a tr\u1ebb nh\u1ecf c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 l\u00e0m \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c nh\u1eefng vi\u1ec7c nh\u1ecf t\u00ed th\u00f4i. Ch\u00fang kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u1ecdc s\u00e1ch \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c, kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 l\u00e1i xe ; kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 thi\u1ebft l\u1eadp v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 kinh c\u1ea7u,ch\u00fang ch\u1ec9 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 l\u00e0m \u0111\u1ef1oc r\u1ea5t \u00edt. Nh\u1eefng \u0111i\u1ec1u ch\u00fang c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 l\u00e0m \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c ch\u00ednh l\u00e0 b\u1ed9c l\u1ed9 ni\u1ec1m h\u00e2n hoan v\u00e0 h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac. \u0110i\u1ec1u n\u00e0y ch\u00fang th\u1ef1c hi\u1ec7n theo c\u00e1ch kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 \u0111o\u00e1n tr\u01b0\u1edbc. Ch\u00faa th\u00e2n y\u00eau \u0111\u00e3 bi\u1ebft \u0111\u1ef1\u01a1c nh\u1eefng h\u1ea1n ch\u1ebf c\u1ee7a ch\u00fang v\u00e0 Ch\u00faa cho ch\u00fang \u1edf g\u1ea7n b\u00ean tr\u00e1i\u00a0 tim Ng\u00e0i. C\u00f3 th\u1ec3 Ch\u00faa mu\u1ed1n d\u00e0nh cho ch\u00fang b\u1eb1ng b\u1ea5t c\u1ee9 gi\u00e1 n\u00e0o, v\u00e0 khi \u0111\u00f3!\u2026<\/p>\n \u201cCh\u00faa ngh\u0129: Ch\u00fang s\u1ebd tr\u1edf th\u00e0nh nh\u1eefng s\u1ee9 gi\u1ea3 c\u1ee7a ni\u1ec1m vui v\u00e0 ni\u1ec1m h\u1ea1h ph\u00fac. Ni\u1ec1m vui kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0 thu\u1ed9c t\u00ednh c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 hi\u1ec3u \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c c\u0169ng kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i c\u00e1i g\u00ec ch\u1ec9 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 bi\u1ec3u hi\u1ec7n \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c, c\u0169ng c\u00f3 nh\u1eefng thu\u1ed9c t\u00ednh kh\u00e1c. Th\u1ef1c s\u1ef1 n\u1ebfu ch\u00fang ta \u0111\u1ebfn xem, thu\u1ed9c t\u00ednh v\u1ec1 ni\u1ec1m vui ph\u1ed5 bi\u1ebfn n\u00e0y ch\u00ednh l\u00e0 m\u00f3n qu\u00e0 \u0111\u1eb7c bi\u1ec7t ch\u00e2n th\u00e0nh Ch\u00faa \u0111\u00e3 trao cho b\u1ecdn tr\u1ebb b\u1edfi ch\u00fang c\u00f2n c\u00e1ch n\u00e0o n\u1eefa \u0111\u1ec3 th\u00fac \u0111\u1ea9y ch\u00fang th\u00e0nh ng\u01b0\u1eddi l\u1edbn.<\/p>\n M\u1ed9t tr\u1ebb nh\u1ecf th\u1ef1c s\u1ef1 tranh gi\u00e0nh l\u1ea5y \u0111\u1ef1\u01a1c ph\u1ea7n \u0103n v\u00e0 nh\u1eefng y\u00eau c\u1ea7u cho cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng kh\u00e1c n\u1eefa.Nh\u1eefng g\u00ec ta ch\u1ee9ng ki\u1ebfn nh\u01b0 s\u1ef1 \u00e2u y\u1ebfm, th\u1ef1c s\u1ef1 \u0111\u00f3 l\u00e0 t\u00ednh c\u00e1ch r\u00f5 r\u1ec7t\u00a0 m\u00e0 n\u00f3i l\u00ean m\u1ed9t c\u00e1ch h\u00f9ng h\u1ed3n c\u00e1i t\u00e0i n\u0103ng thi\u00ean ph\u00fa \u0111a chi\u1ec1u c\u1ee7a Ch\u00faa m\u00e0 Ch\u00faa \u0111\u00e3 ban cho ch\u00fang. . N\u1ebfu ta suy ngh\u0129 m\u1ed9t ch\u00fat, Ch\u00faa \u0111\u00e3 suy t\u00ednh v\u00e0 thu x\u1ebfp cho ch\u00fang ta tr\u1ea3i nghi\u1ec7m m\u1ed9t tr\u1ebb nh\u1ecf m\u1ed9t ph\u01b0\u01a1ng ph\u00e1p m\u00e0 b\u1edfi \u0111\u00f3 n\u00f3 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 ki\u1ebfm s\u1ed1ng. V\u00e0 Ch\u00faa \u0111\u00e3 ngh\u0129 g\u00ec v\u1ec1 ph\u01b0\u01a1ng k\u1ebf hi\u1ec7n h\u00e0nh?- Vui l\u00ean! H\u00e3y vui l\u00ean! \u2026.<\/p>\n ..\u201cV\u00e2ng, Ch\u00faa \u0111\u00e3 thu x\u1ebfp m\u1ed9t \u0111\u1ee9a tr\u1ebb v\u1edbi kh\u1ea3 n\u0103ng mang l\u1ea1i ni\u1ec1m vui v\u00e0 ni\u1ec1m h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac nh\u01b0 ph\u01b0\u01a1ng k\u1ebf hi\u1ec7n th\u1eddi. Ch\u00faa \u0111\u00e3 thu x\u1ebfp cho ch\u00fang v\u1edbi m\u1ed9t s\u1ef1 nh\u1eadn bi\u1ebft ph\u1ed5 bi\u1ebfn v\u00e0 \u01b0\u1edbc mong ti\u1ec7n nghi. \u0110i\u1ec1u k\u00ec di\u1ec7u v\u0129 \u0111\u1ea1i l\u00e0 Ch\u00faa l\u00e0m cho ng\u01b0\u1eddi l\u1edbn c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 c\u1ea3m nh\u1eadn \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c nh\u1eefng h\u00e0nh \u0111\u1ed9ng n\u00e0y c\u1ee7a \u0111\u1ee9a tr\u1ebb v\u00e0 s\u1ef1 \u0111\u1ea5u tranh. Ch\u00fang ta hi\u1ec3u \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c nh\u1eefng h\u00e0nh \u0111\u1ed9ng, nh\u01b0ng kh\u00f4ng th\u1ef1c s\u1ef1 hi\u1ec3u n\u00f3 nh\u01b0 s\u1ef1 \u0111\u1ea5u tranh. Ch\u00fang ta gi\u1ea3i th\u00edch n\u00f3 nh\u01b0 s\u1ef1 h\u1ecdc h\u1ecfi. Ch\u00fang ta c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y \u0111\u1ee9a tr\u1ebb tinh kh\u00f4n. C\u00e1i g\u00ec l\u00e0 \u0111i\u1ec1u \u0111\u1eb7c bi\u1ec7t th\u1eadt s\u1ef1 ch\u00ednh\u00a0 c\u1ea3m gi\u00e1c n\u00e0y l\u00e0 t\u00ecnh y\u00eau, kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i l\u00f2ng th\u01b0\u01a1ng h\u1ea1i. S\u1ef1 ph\u1ed5 bi\u1ebfn m\u00e0 Ch\u00faa trao cho \u0111\u1ee9a tr\u1ebb th\u1eadt\u00a0 hi\u1ec7u qu\u1ea3 . N\u00f3 mang l\u1ea1i cho ng\u01b0\u1eddi l\u1edbn ni\u1ec1m vui, ni\u1ec1m h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac v\u00e0 l\u00e0 \u0111\u1ed9ng c\u01a1 th\u00fac \u0111\u1ea9y \u0111\u1ec3 c\u1ee9 ti\u1ebfp t\u1ee5c tr\u00f4ng nom nhu c\u1ea7u c\u1ee7a \u0111\u1ee9a tr\u1ebb ng\u00e0y qua ng\u00e0y. N\u00f3 th\u00fac \u0111\u1ea9y ph\u1ee5 huynh v\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi l\u1edbn ch\u0103m nom ch\u00fang b\u1eb1ng t\u00ecnh y\u00eau, b\u1ea5t ch\u1ea5p h\u00e0ng nhi\u1ec1u \u0111\u00eam kh\u00f4ng ng\u1ee7. Ch\u00faa \u0111\u00e3 ngh\u0129 \u0111\u1ebfn t\u1ea5t c\u1ea3 \u0111i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00f3! Ti\u1ec7n \u0111\u00e2y ch\u00fang ta ph\u1ea3i n\u00f3i r\u1eb1ng, b\u1edfi v\u00ec n\u00f3 s\u1ef1 s\u1eed d\u1ee5ng ph\u01b0\u01a1ng th\u1ee9c tuy\u1ec7t di\u1ec7u n\u00e0y \u0111\u1ec3 ki\u1ebfm s\u1ed1ng. N\u00f3 th\u1ef1c s\u1ef1 \u0111\u00f2i h\u1ecfi em b\u00e9 ho\u00e0n to\u00e0n n\u1ed7 l\u1ef1c cho v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 ngh\u1ec7 thu\u1eadt s\u1ed1ng n\u00e0y.<\/p>\n Ni\u1ec1m \u0111\u1ed9ng vi\u00ean l\u00e0 nh\u1eefng g\u00ec c\u1ea7n thi\u1ebft \u0111\u1ec3 cho s\u1ef1 n\u1ed7 l\u1ef1c c\u1ee7a b\u00e9 ti\u1ebfp t\u1ee5c. N\u00f3 ch\u00ednh l\u00e0 nh\u1eefng h\u00e0nh \u0111\u1ed9ng c\u1ee7a ni\u1ec1m vui, ni\u1ec1m h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac n\u00e0y \u0111\u1ec3 d\u1ea7n d\u1ea7n tr\u1edf th\u00e0nh nh\u1eefng h\u00e0nh \u0111\u1ed9ng c\u1ee7a t\u00ecnh y\u00eau th\u01b0\u01a1ng cho b\u00e9 l\u1edbn l\u00ean\u201d.<\/p>\n Quay l\u1ea1i v\u1edbi cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi l\u1edbn, trong nhi\u1ec1u ng\u00f4n ng\u1eef hi\u1ec7n \u0111\u1ea1i, ch\u00fang ta ch\u1ec9 c\u00f3 m\u1ed9t t\u1eeb \u0111\u1ec3 n\u00f3i v\u1ec1 nh\u1eefng di\u1ec7n m\u1ea1o c\u1ee7a t\u00ecnh y\u00eau. Tuy nhi\u00ean, c\u0169ng th\u1eadt th\u00fa v\u1ecb khi bi\u1ebft r\u1eb1ng ng\u01b0\u1eddi Hy L\u1ea1p c\u1ed5 \u0111\u00e3 s\u1eed d\u1ee5ng b\u1ed1n t\u1eeb \u0111\u1ec3 di\u1ec5n t\u1ea3 nh\u1eefng ki\u1ec3u kh\u00e1c nhau v\u1ec1 t\u00ecnh y\u00eau, ch\u00fang l\u00e0:<\/p>\n \u00c1i t\u00ecnh n\u00f3i \u0111\u1ebfn t\u00ecnh y\u00eau th\u00e2n th\u1ec3. N\u00f3 th\u01b0\u1eddng \u0111\u1ec3 b\u00e0y t\u1ecf t\u00ecnh y\u00eau t\u00ecnh d\u1ee5c. T\u1eeb \u201cg\u1ee3i t\u00ecnh\u201d (Erotic) b\u1eaft ngu\u1ed3n t\u1eeb t\u00ecnh \u00e1i (Eros)<\/p>\n B\u1eafc \u00e1i \u2013 n\u00f3i \u0111\u1ebfn h\u00ecnh th\u00e1i cao h\u01a1n c\u1ee7a t\u00ecnh y\u00eau; n\u00f3 l\u00e0 trung t\u00e2m trong tr\u00ed nh\u1edb h\u01a1n l\u00e0 th\u00e2n th\u1ec3.<\/p>\n Kinh Ng\u1ea1c \u2013 kh\u00f4ng t\u00ecm ki\u1ebfm g\u00ec cho b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n, nh\u01b0ng \u0111\u1ecbnh h\u01b0\u1edbng ch\u1ee7 y\u1ebfu l\u00e0 cho \u0111i. N\u00f3 b\u1eaft ngu\u1ed3n t\u1eeb s\u1ef1 h\u00e2n hoan khi l\u00e0m \u0111i\u1ec1u t\u1ed1t v\u00e0 trao t\u1eb7ng cho ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c. N\u00f3 c\u0169ng l\u00e0 h\u00ecnh th\u00e1i cao nh\u1ea5t c\u1ee7a t\u00ecnh y\u00eau.<\/p>\n T\u00f3m l\u1ea1i n\u00f3i c\u00f4ng phu v\u1ec1 ba h\u00ecnh th\u00e1i c\u1ee7a t\u00ecnh y\u00eau n\u00e0y c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c di\u1ec5n t\u1ea3 nh\u01b0 sau:<\/p>\n TH\u1ea6N \u00c1I T\u00ccNH:<\/p>\n \u0110\u1ec3 \u0111\u01b0a ra nh\u1eefng kh\u00e1c nhau gi\u1eefa nh\u1eefng ki\u1ec3u kh\u00e1c nhau c\u1ee7a t\u00ecnh y\u00eau, ph\u00e9p lo\u1ea1i suy v\u1ec1 th\u1ea7n \u00e1i t\u00ecnh nghe\u00a0 c\u00f3 v\u1ebb nh\u01b0 n\u00e0y: \u201cAnh y\u00eau em b\u1edfi em l\u00e0m cho anh h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac\u201d. H\u00ecnh th\u00e1i t\u00ecnh y\u00eau n\u00e0y l\u00e0 h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac v\u00ec nh\u1eefng t\u00ednh ch\u1ea5t \u0111\u1eb7c tr\u01b0ng trong c\u00e1 nh\u00e2n kh\u00e1c. Nh\u1eefng t\u00ednh c\u00e1ch \u0111\u1eb7c tr\u01b0ng n\u00e0y l\u00e0m cho ng\u01b0\u1eddi ta c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y vui v\u1ebb, v\u00ed d\u1ee5:<\/p>\n V\u1ebb \u0111\u1eb9p, v\u1ebb duy\u00ean d\u00e1ng, t\u00ednh th\u00e2n thi\u1ec7n, ng\u01b0\u1eddi h\u1ea5p d\u1eabn v\u1ec1 t\u00ecnh d\u1ee5c. N\u1ebfu v\u1ebb \u0111\u00e1ng y\u00eau t\u1ea1o ra nh\u1eefng t\u00ednh c\u00e1ch \u0111\u1eb7c tr\u01b0ng b\u1ecb lo\u1ea1i b\u1ecf v\u1edbi b\u1ea5t k\u00ec l\u00fd do n\u00e0o, ch\u1eb3ng c\u00f2n g\u00ec \u1edf l\u1ea1i, v\u00e0 h\u00ecnh th\u00e1i t\u00ecnh y\u00eau n\u00e0y ch\u1ebft. H\u00ecnh th\u00e1i n\u00e0y c\u1ee7a t\u00ecnh y\u00eau t\u00ecm ki\u1ebfm c\u0103n b\u1ea3n c\u00e1i g\u00ec m\u00e0 n\u00f3 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 nh\u1eadn. C\u00f3 th\u1ec3 n\u00f3 cho \u0111i c\u00e1i g\u00ec \u0111\u00f3 nh\u01b0ng \u0111\u1ed9ng c\u01a1 l\u1ea1i lu\u00f4n mu\u1ed1n c\u00e1i g\u00ec \u0111\u00f3 \u0111\u00e1p l\u1ea1i. N\u1ebfu ph\u1ea7n th\u01b0\u1edfng kh\u00f4ng t\u1edbi n\u01a1i, t\u00ecnh y\u00eau n\u00e0y s\u1ebd tr\u1edf n\u00ean cay \u0111\u1eafng, th\u00f9 h\u1eadn hay c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y ph\u1eabn \u1ee9c b\u1ef1c b\u1ed9i.<\/p>\n R\u1ea5t kh\u00f4ng may l\u00e0 c\u00f3 nhi\u1ec1u b\u1ea1n tr\u1ebb ch\u1ecdn b\u1ea1n \u0111\u1eddi c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh \u0111\u1ed9c nh\u1ea5t d\u1ef1a tr\u00ean t\u00ecnh \u00e1i. T\u00ecnh c\u1ea3m tr\u00f3i bu\u1ed9c d\u1ef1a tr\u00ean nh\u1eefng \u0111\u1eb7c t\u00ednh c\u01a1 th\u1ec3 d\u1eabn t\u1edbi c\u00e1i ti\u1ec1m n\u0103ng \u0111\u1ea7y \u0111\u1ee7 cho h\u1ecd r\u1ea5t nhanh v\u00e0 t\u00ednh m\u00e3nh li\u1ec7t c\u1ee7a t\u00ecnh \u00e1i l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t sai l\u1ea7m \u0111\u1ed1i v\u1edbi t\u00ecnh y\u00eau th\u1ef1c s\u1ef1. Ngay c\u1ea3 khi\u00a0 b\u1ea1n \u0111\u1eddi k\u1ebft h\u00f4n kh\u00f4ng bi\u1ebft nhi\u1ec1u v\u1ec1 nhau; h\u1ecd kh\u0103ng kh\u0103ng t\u00ecnh y\u00eau c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd l\u00e0 l\u00e2u b\u1ec1n. H\u1ecd c\u00f3 xu h\u01b0\u1edbng b\u00e0y t\u1ecf gi\u1ed1ng nh\u01b0: \u201ct\u00ecnh y\u00eau c\u1ee7a ch\u00fang t\u00f4i kh\u00f4ng bao gi\u1edd ch\u1ebft\u201d hay \u201ct\u00ecnh y\u00eau c\u1ee7a ch\u00fang t\u00f4i v\u01b0\u1ee3t qua t\u1ea5t c\u1ea3 b\u00e3o t\u00e1p\u201d. R\u1ea5t kh\u00f4ng may, \u0111i\u1ec1u n\u00e0y \u0111\u00e3 kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 x\u1ea3y ra trong h\u1ea7u h\u1ebft c\u00e1c tr\u01b0\u1eddng h\u1ee3p. N\u00f3 kh\u00f4ng ho\u1ea1t \u0111\u1ed9ng \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c v\u1edbi m\u1ed9t l\u00fd do \u0111\u01a1n gi\u1ea3n l\u00e0 v\u00ec n\u00f3 kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0 \u201ct\u00ecnh y\u00eau th\u1eadt\u201d tr\u01b0\u1edbc nh\u1ea5t. T\u00ecnh l\u00e3ng m\u1ea1n bong b\u00f3ng, n\u1ed5 tung trong gi\u00e2y ph\u00fat khi ng\u01b0\u1eddi ta nh\u1eadn ra r\u1eb1ng \u201cb\u1ea1n \u0111\u1eddi l\u00fd t\u01b0\u1edfng\u201d ch\u1eb3ng g\u1ea7n v\u1edbi l\u00fd t\u01b0\u1edfng.<\/p>\n Th\u1ef1c t\u1ebf nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi n\u00e0y ho\u00e0n to\u00e0n b\u1ecb s\u1ed1c r\u1eb1ng b\u1ea1n \u0111\u1eddi c\u00f3 m\u1ed9t b\u1ed9 s\u01b0u t\u1eadp sai l\u1ea7m gi\u1ed1ng nh\u01b0 kh\u00f4ng quan t\u00e2m t\u1edbi ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c, s\u1ef1 v\u00f4 l\u1ec5, s\u1ef1 l\u01a1 \u0111\u1ec5nh v\u00e0 th\u1ed5i ph\u1ed3ng, ngay c\u1ea3 kh\u00f4ng l\u00e3ng m\u1ea1n v\u00f4 c\u00f9ng.<\/p>\n V\u00ec b\u1ea1n \u0111\u1eddi kh\u00f4ng nh\u1eadn \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c nh\u1eefng g\u00ec h\u1ecd mong \u0111\u1ee3i, h\u1ecd s\u1ebd h\u1ea7u nh\u01b0 ch\u1eafc ch\u1eafn ti\u1ebfn t\u1edbi m\u1ed9t \u00fd t\u01b0\u1edfng \u201cl\u1ec7nh t\u1eeb b\u1ecf\u201d, v\u00e0 nhanh ch\u00f3ng m\u1ed9t cu\u1ed9c h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n kh\u00e1c s\u1ebd tham gia v\u00e0o c\u00e1i th\u00f9ng \u0111\u00e3 tr\u00e0n tr\u1ec1 v\u1ec1 nh\u1eefng\u00a0 \u0111\u1ed5 v\u00f5 h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n.<\/p>\n Vi\u1ec7c t\u01b0 v\u1ea5n v\u1ec1 ti\u1ec1n h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n l\u00e0 r\u1ea5t quan tr\u1ecdng, b\u1edfi th\u01b0\u1eddng th\u00ec nh\u1eefng v\u00f9ng r\u1eafc r\u1ed1i ch\u00ednh l\u1ea1i xu\u1ea5t hi\u1ec7n d\u01b0\u1edbi h\u00ecnh th\u1ee9c chuy\u00ean nghi\u1ec7p, \u201ccu\u1ed9c \u0111i ch\u01a1i\u201d m\u00e0 nh\u00e0 t\u01b0 v\u1ea5n s\u1ebd \u0111\u01b0a h\u1ecd qua trong nh\u1eefng h\u00ecnh th\u00e1i c\u1ee7a nh\u1eefng tr\u00f2 ch\u01a1i. Nh\u00e0 t\u01b0 v\u1ea5n n\u00ean trung th\u1ef1c v\u00e0 kh\u00e9o x\u1eed ch\u1eebng n\u00e0o c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 truy\u1ec1n \u0111\u1ea1t nh\u1eefng \u0111i\u1ec1u m\u00ecnh nh\u1eadn ra. Th\u1eadt kh\u00f3 nh\u01b0ng c\u1ea7n thi\u1ebft, b\u1edfi nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi tr\u1ebb t\u01b0 t\u01b0\u1edfng m\u1ed9t c\u00e1ch \u0111\u1ea7y \u0111\u1ee7 r\u1eb1ng t\u00ecnh y\u00eau c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd l\u00e0 t\u00ecnh y\u00eau d\u1ec7t n\u00ean ng\u00e0y k\u1ec9 ni\u1ec7m c\u01b0\u1edbi v\u00e0ng c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh. \u0110i\u1ec1u \u0111\u1eb7c bi\u1ec7t b\u1edfi l\u00fd do n\u00e0y, h\u1ecd kh\u00f4ng nh\u00ecn ra nh\u1eefng \u0111i\u1ec1u nguy hi\u1ec3m khi ai \u0111\u00f3 ch\u1ec9 cho h\u1ecd nh\u1eefng v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c. Nh\u1eefng c\u1ea3nh b\u00e1o n\u00e0y ch\u1ec9 l\u00e0m cho h\u1ecd b\u1ea5u v\u00edu \u0111\u1ea7y \u0111\u1ee7 v\u00e0o \u00fd ki\u1ebfn cho r\u1eb1ng \u201cnh\u1eefng cu\u1ed9c h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n tan v\u1ee1\u00a0 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 x\u1ea3y ra v\u1edbi nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c\u2026 nh\u1eefng \u0111i\u1ec1u t\u1ed9i nghi\u1ec7p\u2026 nh\u01b0ng trong tr\u01b0\u1eddng h\u1ee3p c\u1ee7a ch\u00fang t\u00f4i, t\u00ecnh y\u00eau l\u00e0 m\u00e3i m\u00e3i\u201d.<\/p>\n H\u1ecd l\u00e0m nhi\u1ec1u \u0111i\u1ec1u \u0111\u1ec3 l\u00e0m cho b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n m\u00ecnh h\u1ea5p d\u1eabn. H\u1ecd mua qu\u1ea7n \u00e1o m\u1edbi, thu\u1ed1c hoa, xe h\u01a1i m\u1edbi\u2026 \u0111\u00e2y l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t ki\u1ec3u th\u1ed5i ph\u1ed3ng gi\u00e1 tr\u1ecb nh\u1eb1m th\u1ecfa m\u00e3n cho t\u00ecnh \u00e1i, nhi\u1ec1u tr\u01b0\u1eddng h\u1ee3p \u0111\u00e2y ch\u00ednh l\u00e0 \u201c\u0111\u01b0\u1eddng xo\u1eafn \u1ed1c t\u00e0i ch\u00ednh\u201d hay \u201cph\u1ea3i \u0111\u01b0\u1eddng xo\u00e1y \u1ed1c \u1ea5n t\u01b0\u1ee3ng\u201d m\u00e0 n\u00f3 mang l\u1ea1i cho ch\u00ednh n\u00f3 c\u1ea5u th\u00e0nh Stress trong h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n. Sau h\u1ebft, ai c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 c\u00f3 \u0111\u1ee7 \u0111i\u1ec1u ki\u1ec7n m\u1ecdi th\u1ee9 m\u00e0 anh\/ch\u1ecb \u1ea5y c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y \u0111\u1ee7 quan tr\u1ecdng \u0111\u1ec3 l\u00e0m h\u00e0i l\u00f2ng t\u00ecnh \u00e1i? T\u00ecnh \u00e1i s\u1ebd lu\u00f4n l\u00e0m cho th\u1ea5m d\u1ea7n s\u1ef1 th\u00e8m kh\u00e1t \u201ch\u01a1n, h\u01a1n n\u1eefa v\u00e0 h\u01a1n n\u1eefa\u201d nh\u1eefng th\u1ee9c b\u1eadc c\u1ee7a t\u00ecnh \u00e1i th\u00fac \u00e9p gh\u00ea g\u1edbm \u201cone up-manship\u201d (c\u00e1ch gi\u00e0nh l\u1ee3i th\u1ebf cho m\u00ecnh)..<\/p>\n M\u1ee5c \u0111\u00edch c\u0103n b\u1ea3n c\u1ee7a t\u00ecnh \u00e1i l\u00e0 th\u00e2n th\u1ec3. Do v\u1eady, n\u00f3 c\u1ed5 v\u0169 cho \u201ctri\u1ebft l\u00fd playboy\u201d ch\u00ednh l\u00e0 \u201ct\u00ecnh \u00e1i thi h\u00e0nh nhi\u1ec7m v\u1ee5\u201d, n\u01a1i m\u00e0 c\u00f3 d\u00f2ng ch\u1eef: \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng c\u1ea7n tho\u1ea3i m\u00e1i v\u00e0 \u0111\u00e0n b\u00e0 l\u00e0 \u0111\u1ed3 ch\u01a1i t\u00ecnh d\u1ee5c.<\/p>\n Ch\u1eb3ng c\u00f3 m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 n\u00e0o l\u1ea1i x\u00e2y d\u1ef1ng ch\u1ec9 d\u1ef1a tr\u00ean c\u0103n b\u1ea3n c\u1ee7a th\u00e2n th\u1ec3, n\u00f3 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 v\u00f4 h\u1ea1n \u0111\u1ecbnh qua m\u1ed9t kho\u1ea3ng th\u1eddi gian. S\u1ef1 th\u00e8m mu\u1ed1n l\u00e0 ch\u1ee7 \u0111\u00edch \u0111\u1ec3 th\u1ecfa m\u00e3n v\u00e0 h\u1ea5p d\u1eabn s\u1ebd suy y\u1ebfu nhanh nh\u01b0 khi n\u00f3 gi\u00e0nh \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c. N\u1ebfu t\u00ecnh y\u00eau tr\u00ed tu\u1ec7 v\u00e0 tinh th\u1ea7n c\u0169ng kh\u00f4ng hi\u1ec7n di\u1ec7n th\u00ec m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 s\u1ebd tan th\u00e0nh m\u00e2y kh\u00f3i nhanh ch\u00f3ng.<\/p>\n H\u00f4n nh\u00e2n\u00a0 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c x\u00e2y d\u1ef1ng ch\u1ec9 d\u1ef1a tr\u00ean t\u00ecnh \u00e1i s\u1ebd ch\u1eafc ch\u1eafn \u0111i v\u00e0o r\u1eafc r\u1ed1i t\u1eeb khi h\u00ecnh th\u00e0nh.<\/p>\n TH\u1edcI GIAN T\u00ccM HI\u1ec2U V\u00c0 S\u1ef0 H\u1ee8A H\u00d4N L\u00c0 C\u1ea6N THI\u1ebeT \u0110\u1ec2 NU\u00d4I D\u01af\u1ee0NG T\u00ccNH Y\u00caU,TINH TH\u1ea6N V\u00c0 T\u00c2M H\u1ed2N.<\/strong><\/p>\n M\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 t\u00ecnh y\u00eau n\u00e0y l\u00e0 nh\u1eefng g\u00ec c\u1ea3 hai c\u00f9ng chung b\u01b0\u1edbc v\u00e0o h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n. Khi vi\u1ec7c n\u00e0y x\u1ea3y ra theo \u0111\u00fang c\u00e1ch th\u00ec h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n \u0111\u1ea1t \u0111\u1ebfn vinh quang nh\u1ea5t. N\u1ebfu n\u00f3 kh\u00f4ng x\u1ea3y ra nh\u01b0 tr\u00ecnh t\u1ef1 th\u00ec cu\u1ed9c h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n s\u1ebd tr\u1edf th\u00e0nh h\u1ecfng h\u00f3c c\u1ea3 m\u1ed9t chu\u1ed7i tan v\u1ee1 k\u00e9o theo m\u1ed9t chi\u1ebfn d\u1ecbch c\u1ea3nh gi\u00e1c l\u1eabn nhau.<\/p>\n H\u1ea7u h\u1ebft m\u1ecdi ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u1ec1u kh\u00f4ng \u0111i\u1ebfm x\u1ec9a g\u00ec t\u1edbi vi\u1ec7c h\u1ecd \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c d\u1ea1y d\u1ed7 th\u1ebf n\u00e0o, r\u01a1i v\u00e0o t\u00ecnh tr\u1ea1ng ho\u00e0n to\u00e0n hi\u1ec3u sai r\u1eb1ng th\u1eddi k\u1ef3 t\u00ecm hi\u1ec3u v\u00e0 s\u1ef1 h\u1ee9a h\u00f4n l\u00e0 \u0111\u1ec3 nu\u00f4i d\u01b0\u1ee1ng nh\u1eefng th\u1ecfa m\u00e3n c\u1ee7a th\u1ec3 x\u00e1c. H\u1ecd coi th\u1eddi \u0111i\u1ec3m n\u00e0y nh\u01b0 m\u1ed9t \u2018kinh nghi\u1ec7m t\u1eadp d\u01b0\u1ee3t\u2019. H\u1ecd c\u0169ng c\u00f3 m\u1ed9t ki\u1ec3u kh\u00e1c l\u00e0 \u2018th\u1eed tr\u01b0\u1edbc khi mua tri\u1ebft l\u00fd\u2019. Sau khi s\u1ef1 vi\u1ec7c c\u00f3 v\u1ebb nh\u01b0 kh\u00e1c bi\u1ec7t gi\u1eefa trai v\u00e0 g\u00e1i. \u0110\u00e0n \u00f4ng th\u01b0\u1eddng c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y ti\u1ec7n \u00edch c\u00f3 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c m\u1ed9t th\u00e2n x\u00e1c v\u1eeba l\u00f2ng c\u1ea1nh m\u00ecnh b\u1ea5t k\u00ec khi n\u00e0o. N\u1ebfu n\u00f3 c\u00f3 s\u1eb5n th\u00ec vi\u1ec7c h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n s\u1ebd kh\u00f4ng c\u00f2n c\u1ea7n thi\u1ebft. Khi \u0111\u00f3 anh ta ngh\u0129 h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n ch\u1ec9 l\u00e0 th\u1ee9 c\u00f3 s\u1eb5n th\u00ec vi\u1ec7c h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n s\u1ebd kh\u00f4ng c\u00f2n c\u1ea7n thi\u1ebft. Khi \u0111\u00f3 anh ta ngh\u0129 h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n ch\u1ec9 l\u00e0 th\u1ee7 t\u1ee5c. C\u00f2n ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef c\u00f3 l\u1ebd nh\u00ecn nh\u1eadn cu\u1ed9c h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n nh\u01b0 m\u1ed9t ph\u01b0\u01a1ng ti\u1ec7n \u0111\u1ec3 c\u01b0\u1edbi c\u00f4 ta. N\u1ebfu c\u00f4 ta kh\u00f4ng l\u00e0m, nh\u1eefng c\u00f4 g\u00e1i kh\u00e1c s\u1ebd kh\u00f4ng day d\u1ee9t \u0111\u1ed9t nh\u1eadp ngay v\u00e0 l\u00e0m cho h\u1ecd t\u1ef1 hi\u1ec7n di\u1ec7n. R\u1ed1t cu\u1ed9c, nh\u1eefng c\u1eb7p v\u1ee3 ch\u1ed3ng n\u00e0y c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 c\u00f3 m\u1ed9t cu\u1ed9c h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n ch\u00ednh th\u1ee9c. Nh\u01b0ng l\u1ea1i lu\u00f4n nghi nh\u1eadn l\u00e0 \u201canh ta kh\u00f4ng th\u1ef1c s\u1ef1 cho cu\u1ed9c h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n, ngay c\u1ea3 t\u00f4i \u0111\u00e3 h\u0103ng h\u00e1i nh\u1ea5t. \u2013 n\u00f3i ch\u00ednh x\u00e1c l\u00e0 anh ta ch\u1ec9 th\u1ec3 hi\u1ec7n b\u1ec1 ngo\u00e0i v\u00e0 \u0111\u00e3 l\u00e0m nh\u1eefng g\u00ec c\u1ea7n thi\u1ebft cho \u0111\u00e1m c\u01b0\u1edbi c\u1ee7a t\u00f4i th\u00f4i\u201d. M\u1ed9t l\u1eddi nh\u1eadn x\u00e9t nh\u01b0 v\u1eady th\u1ec3 hi\u1ec7n r\u1ea5t r\u00f5\u00a0 c\u1ed1t l\u00f5i c\u1ee7a s\u1ef1 vi\u1ec7c, n\u00f3 l\u00e0 \u0111\u00e1m c\u01b0\u1edbi cho c\u00f4 \u1ea5y nh\u01b0ng kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i \u0111\u00e1m c\u01b0\u1edbi c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd. Ki\u1ec3u h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n n\u00e0y s\u1ebd kh\u00f4ng b\u1ec1n. Ch\u00fang c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 t\u1ed3n t\u1ea1i l\u00e0 do ti\u1ebfng t\u0103m c\u1ee7a x\u00e3 h\u1ed9i, do nh\u1eefng \u0111\u1ee9a tr\u1ebb.. v.v. Tr\u1eeb khi v\u1ee3 ch\u1ed3ng c\u00f9ng vun \u0111\u1eafp nh\u1eefng chi\u1ec1u k\u00edch v\u1ec1 t\u00e2m tr\u00ed v\u00e0 tinh th\u1ea7n th\u00ec\u00a0 h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n n\u00e0y m\u1edbi tr\u00e1nh kh\u1ecfi tan v\u1ee1 v\u00ec sai l\u1ea7m. C\u1ea3n tr\u1edf l\u1edbn nh\u1ea5t c\u1ee7a ti\u1ebfn b\u1ed9 ch\u00ednh l\u00e0 nhi\u1ec1u ng\u01b0\u1eddi tin r\u1eb1n h\u1ecd \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c gi\u00e1o d\u1ee5c v\u00e0 h\u1ecd l\u00e0m ch\u1ee7 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c t\u00e2m tr\u00ed. V\u1ec1 m\u1eb7t tr\u00ed tu\u1ec7, h\u1ecd l\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi c\u00f3 n\u0103ng l\u1ef1c, v\u00e0 h\u1ecd c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 \u0111\u1ea3m tr\u00e1ch nh\u1eefng c\u00f4ng vi\u1ec7c h\u1ebft s\u1ee9c chuy\u00ean nghi\u1ec7p, nh\u01b0ng trong \u0111\u1eddi s\u1ed1ng h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n n\u00f3 l\u1ea1i l\u00e0 s\u1ef1 pha tr\u1ed9n t\u00e2m tr\u00ed v\u1edbi t\u00e2m h\u1ed3n v\u00e0 t\u00ecnh c\u1ea3m. L\u00e0 s\u1ef1 ph\u1ed1i h\u1ee3p c\u1ee7a t\u00e2m tr\u00ed, t\u00e2m h\u1ed3n v\u00e0 t\u00ecnh c\u1ea3m n\u01a1i m\u00e0 h\u1ecd b\u1ecb thi\u1ebfu \u0111i s\u1ef1 tr\u01b0\u1edfng th\u00e0nh. D\u1ea1y d\u1ed7 v\u1ec1 h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n ho\u00e0n to\u00e0n b\u1ecb lo\u1ea1i ra kh\u1ecfi h\u1ec7 th\u1ed1ng gi\u00e1o d\u1ee5c c\u1ee7a ch\u00fang ta v\u00e0 ho\u00e0n to\u00e0n ch\u1ec3nh m\u1ea3ng trong c\u00e1ch d\u1ea1y d\u1ed7 c\u1ee7a cha m\u1eb9. Trong th\u1ef1c t\u1ebf, cha m\u1eb9 kh\u00f4ng b\u1ea3o gi\u1edd d\u00e0nh th\u1eddi gian n\u00f3i chuy\u1ec7n v\u1edbi con c\u00e1i. C\u00f3 nhi\u1ec1u l\u1eddi bi\u1ec7n b\u1ea1ch nh\u01b0 n\u00e0y: \u201cch\u00fang t\u00f4i b\u1eadn b\u1ecbu ki\u1ebfm mi\u1ebfng \u0103n, ch\u00fang t\u00f4i kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 th\u1eddi gian\u201d. C\u00f3 th\u1ec3 h\u1ecd ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0m vi\u1ec7c nhi\u1ec1u, \u201cph\u1ea3i hy sinh th\u1eddi gian\u201d. Nh\u1eefng \u0111\u1ee9a tr\u1ebb n\u00e0y l\u00e0 con m\u00ecnh c\u1ea7n d\u1ea1y d\u1ed7 hay \u0111\u1ec3 ch\u00fang h\u01b0 h\u1ecfng. C\u00e2u tr\u1ea3 l\u1eddi c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n l\u00e0 g\u00ec khi t\u1edbi ng\u00e0y ph\u00e1n x\u00e9t?<\/p>\n C\u00f3 m\u1ed9t th\u1ea3m h\u1ecda ch\u00ednh kh\u00e1c x\u1ea3y ra v\u1edbi c\u00e1i \u201cth\u1eed tr\u01b0\u1edbc khi b\u1ea1n mua tri\u1ebft l\u00fd, v\u00e0 c\u01b0\u1edbi th\u1eed\u201d. B\u1ea1n c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 ngh\u0129 r\u1eb1ng m\u00ecnh th\u00f4ng minh v\u00e0 \u0111ang l\u00e0m vi\u1ec7c \u0111\u1ec3 \u0111\u01b0a ra m\u1ed9t quy\u1ebft \u0111\u1ecbnh ch\u00ednh th\u1ee9c. Th\u1ef1c s\u1ef1 bu\u1ed3n l\u00e0: m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c th\u1ef1c hi\u1ec7n tr\u00ean t\u1ed9i l\u1ed7i. T\u1ed5ng k\u1ebft l\u1ea1i t\u1ea5t c\u1ea3 c\u00e1i \u0111\u1ea1t \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c \u0111\u1ec1u c\u00f3 ngu\u1ed3n g\u1ed1c th\u00f4ng qua t\u1ed9i ngo\u1ea1i t\u00ecnh v\u00e0 hay s\u1ef1 gian d\u00e2m.<\/p>\n Gi\u00e1 tr\u1ecb v\u1ec1 ph\u00e1p l\u00fd v\u1ec1 s\u1ef1 th\u1eed nghi\u1ec7m l\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u00fang l\u00fac. H\u01a1n th\u1ebf n\u1eefa, c\u00f3 m\u1ed9t\u00a0 \u201cl\u01b0\u1ee1i c\u00e2u\u201d , l\u01b0\u1ee1i c\u00e2u \u0111\u00f3 ch\u00ednh l\u00e0 \u201cm\u1ea7m\u201d tai h\u1ecda c\u1ee7a cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n \u0111\u00e3 v\u1eeba \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c gieo. D\u00f9 n\u00f3 c\u00f3 n\u1ea3y m\u1ea7m v\u00e0 \u0111\u00e2m r\u1ec5 th\u00ec l\u1ea1i l\u00e0 chuy\u1ec7n kh\u00e1c. Ti\u1ec1m n\u0103ng th\u1ea3m h\u1ecda cho t\u01b0\u01a1ng lai, tuy nhi\u00ean, \u0111\u00e3 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c tr\u1ed3ng v\u00e0 \u0111ang che d\u1ea5u. Xin h\u00e3y \u0111\u1ecdc ch\u01b0\u01a1ng t\u1ed9i l\u1ed7i, \u0111\u1eb7c bi\u1ec7t l\u00e0 \u0111o\u1ea1n ph\u00e2n nh\u00e1nh t\u1ed9i l\u1ed7i.<\/p>\n Nhi\u1ec1u ng\u01b0\u1eddi khi \u0111\u1ecdc m\u1ed9t s\u1ed1 th\u1ee9 nh\u1eadn x\u00e9t v\u1ec1 t\u00ecnh d\u1ee5c tr\u01b0\u1edbc h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n, n\u00f3 t\u1ea1o ra hai ngu\u1ed3n ph\u1ea3n \u1ee9ng tr\u00e1i ng\u01b0\u1ee3c r\u00f5 r\u00e0ng. N\u1ebfu h\u1ecd l\u00e0 nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi ch\u01b0a c\u01b0\u1edbi v\u00e0 tr\u1ebb, h\u1ecd ngh\u0129 vi\u1ec7c n\u00e0y ch\u1eb3ng h\u1ec1 h\u1ea5n g\u00ec. N\u1ebfu cu\u1ed9c h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd g\u1eb7p kh\u00f3 kh\u0103n, h\u1ecd l\u1ea1i ngh\u0129 t\u1ea1i sao kh\u00f4ng ai n\u00f3i cho h\u1ecd nh\u1eefng vi\u1ec7c n\u00e0y t\u1eeb tr\u01b0\u1edbc? \u0110\u00e2y l\u00e0 \u0111i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00e1ng bu\u1ed3n. C\u00f3 nhi\u1ec1u s\u1ef1 \u1ea3nh h\u01b0\u1edfng l\u1edbn t\u1eeb ph\u01b0\u01a1ng ti\u1ec7n th\u00f4ng tin h\u1ed7n t\u1ea1p h\u01a1n l\u00e0 h\u1ecd ph\u1ea3i th\u00fac \u0111\u1ea9y v\u1ec1 \u0111\u1ee9c h\u1ea1nh. C\u00f3 v\u00f4 s\u1ed1 chu\u1ed7i TV tr\u00ean \u0111a k\u00eanh h\u00e0ng tu\u1ea7n h\u00e0ng n\u0103m ti\u00eau t\u1ed1n t\u1edbi 1 tri\u1ec7u \u0111\u00f4la m\u1ed7i \u0111o\u1ea1n. Nh\u1eefng \u0111o\u1ea1n c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd chi\u1ebfu v\u1ec1 nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi tr\u1ebb kh\u00f4ng k\u1ebft h\u00f4n chung ph\u00f2ng v\u00e0 \u0111ang s\u1ed1ng v\u1edbi nhau nh\u01b0 nh\u1eefng gi\u00e1o vi\u00ean ph\u1ee5 tr\u00e1ch k\u00ed t\u00fac x\u00e1. C\u00f3 v\u1ebb nh\u01b0\u00a0 tr\u00f2 \u0111\u00f9a l\u00fac n\u00e0y hay l\u00fac kh\u00e1c v\u1eady. Ch\u00fang c\u0169ng r\u1eafc r\u1ed1i m\u1ed9t ch\u00fat t\u00ecnh d\u1ee5c v\u00e0o vi\u1ec7c \u0111\u1ecbnh h\u01b0\u1edbng nh\u1eefng t\u00ednh c\u00e1ch khi nh\u1eefng chu\u1ed7i truy\u1ec1n h\u00ecnh n\u00e0y c\u1ee9 ti\u1ebfp di\u1ec5n tu\u1ea7n l\u1ea1i tu\u1ea7n, ch\u00fang d\u1eabn d\u1ea7n chuy\u1ec3n x\u00e3 h\u1ed9i v\u00e0o nh\u1eefng gi\u00e1 tr\u1ecb \u0111\u1ea1o \u0111\u1ee9c t\u1edbi \u201cs\u1ef1 ch\u1ea5p nh\u1eadn\u201d.\u00a0 Truy\u1ec1n th\u00f4ng c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 l\u00e0 d\u1ee5ng c\u1ee5 t\u1ea9y n\u00e3o hi\u1ec7u qu\u1ea3. T\u1ea5t c\u1ea3 kho\u1ea3ng th\u1eddi gian nh\u1eefng series n\u00e0y v\u00e0 nh\u1eefng h\u00ecnh th\u1ee9c th\u00f4ng tin kh\u00e1c \u0111\u1ec1u b\u00f3ng gi\u00f3 r\u1eb1ng h\u1ecd \u0111ang c\u00e1i thi\u1ec7n n\u00e2ng cao tr\u00ed tu\u1ec7, khi n\u00f3 c\u00f3 hi\u1ec7u l\u1ef1c, ch\u00fang chi\u1ebfm h\u1eefu c\u00e1i kh\u1ea3 n\u0103ng t\u1ea1o ra s\u1ef1 ngu ng\u1ed1c tr\u00ean to\u00e0n th\u1ec3 nh\u1eefng nh\u00f3m ng\u01b0\u1eddi nh\u01b0 nh\u1eefng seri truy\u1ec1n h\u00ecnh n\u00e0y \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c truy\u1ec1n b\u00e1, s\u1ef1 suy \u0111\u1ed3i \u0111ang x\u1ea3y ra trong n\u01b0\u1edbc c\u0169ng nh\u01b0 t\u1ea7m th\u1ebf gi\u1edbi. Kh\u00e1n gi\u1ea3 th\u00ec qu\u00e1 \u0111\u00f4ng, h\u1ecd ph\u1ea3i m\u1edf th\u00eam c\u00e1c \u0111\u1ea1i l\u00fd \u0111\u1ec3 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 d\u1ec5 d\u00e0ng l\u00e0m h\u00e0i l\u00f2ng kh\u00e1ch h\u00e0ng c\u1ee7a ch\u00fang \u0111\u1ec3 ki\u1ebfm \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c h\u00e0ng tri\u1ec7u \u0111\u00f4la m\u1ed7i \u0111o\u1ea1n.<\/p>\n Th\u1eadt kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 t\u01b0\u1edfng t\u01b0\u1ee3ng \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c, s\u1ef1 lan truy\u1ec1n \u0111\u1ea1t \u0111\u1ebfn m\u1ee9c \u0111\u1ed9 nh\u01b0 s\u1ef1 lan truy\u1ec1n c\u1ee7a b\u1ec7nh d\u1ecbch. Kh\u00f4ng c\u00f2n nghi ng\u1edd g\u00ec n\u1eefa, nhi\u1ec1u ng\u01b0\u1eddi s\u1ebd g\u1ee5c ng\u00e3 v\u00e0 tin r\u1eb1ng t\u00ednh sao nh\u00e3ng v\u1ec1 \u0111\u1ea1o \u0111\u1ee9c l\u00e0 \u0111i\u1ec1u b\u00ecnh th\u01b0\u1eddng c\u1ee7a cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng.<\/p>\n H\u1ea7u h\u1ebft nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi ch\u1ec9 c\u00f3 m\u1ed9t con \u0111\u01b0\u1eddng t\u00ecnh \u00e1i th\u00f4i th\u00ec \u0111\u1ec1u g\u00e1c t\u00f4n gi\u00e1o v\u00e0 Ch\u00faa qua m\u1ed9t b\u00ean. L\u01b0\u01a1ng t\u00e2m c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd l\u00e0m cho h\u1ecd r\u1eafc r\u1ed1i, do v\u1eady h\u1ecd l\u00e0m cho nh\u1eefng gi\u00e1 tr\u1ecb t\u1ed1t \u0111\u1eb9p m\u1ea5t \u0111i v\u00e0 bi\u1ec7n h\u1ed9 \u0111\u1ec3 ti\u1ebfn h\u00e0nh v\u00e0 h\u00e0i l\u00f2ng v\u1edbi t\u00ecnh \u00e1i.<\/p>\n Th\u00eam v\u00e0o cho t\u00ecnh tr\u1ea1ng suy \u0111\u1ed3i \u0111\u1ea1o \u0111\u1ee9c n\u00e0y, th\u1ef1c t\u1ebf c\u00e1i g\u1ecdi l\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi ch\u0103m s\u00f3c gi\u00e1o d\u1ee5c c\u1ee7a ch\u00fang ta \u0111\u00e3 lo\u1ea1i b\u1ecf c\u1ea5u tr\u00fac t\u00f4n gi\u00e1o v\u00e0 \u0111\u1ea1o \u0111\u1ee9c nh\u1eefng m\u00f4n h\u1ecdc c\u1ee7a nh\u00e0 tr\u01b0\u1eddng r\u1ed3i. B\u1eb1ng vi\u1ec7c l\u00e0m n\u00e0y, h\u1ecd \u0111\u00e3 t\u1ef1 nhi\u00ean c\u01b0\u1edbp \u0111i c\u1ee7a con tr\u1ebb v\u00e0 cha m\u1eb9 c\u1ee7a ch\u00fang c\u00e1i quy\u1ec1n c\u0103n b\u1ea3n v\u1ec1 gi\u00e1o d\u1ee5c v\u00e0 d\u1ea1y d\u1ed7 ho\u00e0n thi\u1ec7n v\u00e0 t\u01b0\u01a1ng lai c\u1ee7a nh\u1eefng th\u1ebf h\u1ec7 k\u1ebf t\u1ee5c. S\u1ef1 t\u1ed5n th\u1ea5t n\u00e0y sau n\u00e0y kh\u00f4ng d\u1ec5 g\u00ec c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 ho\u00e0n thi\u1ec7n \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c, ngay c\u1ea3 n\u1ebfu x\u00e3 h\u1ed9i c\u00f3 c\u1ed1 s\u1ee9c \u0111\u01b0a t\u00f4n gi\u00e1o quay l\u1ea1i trong h\u1ec7 th\u1ed1ng nh\u00e0 tr\u01b0\u1eddng, s\u1ebd kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 nh\u1eefng gi\u00e1o vi\u00ean \u201ct\u1ed1t\u201d. Nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi c\u1ed1 gi\u1ea3ng d\u1ea1y s\u1ebd kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 n\u1ec1n t\u1ea3ng \u0110\u1ee9c tin c\u0103n b\u1ea3n. Tr\u00ed tu\u1ec7 v\u00e0 s\u1ef1 uy\u00ean th\u00e2m s\u1ebd kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0 ph\u01b0\u01a1ng ti\u1ec7n \u201ctr\u1ea3 l\u1eddi\u201d hi\u1ec7p th\u00f4ng v\u1edbi \u0110\u1ee9c tin.<\/p>\n N\u1ebfu b\u1ea1n \u0111\u00e3 th\u1ef1c hi\u1ec7n nh\u1eefng sai l\u1ea7m ch\u1ebft ng\u01b0\u1eddi v\u1ec1 coi tr\u1ecdng ch\u1ec9 t\u00ecnh \u00e1i trong h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n, th\u00ec v\u1eabn c\u00f2n hy v\u1ecdng \u2013 t\u00ecnh y\u00eau c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 ph\u00e1t tri\u1ec3n! Nh\u01b0ng n\u00f3 kh\u00f4ng t\u1ef1 l\u1edbn \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c. N\u00f3 ph\u1ea3i \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c vun t\u01b0\u1edbi v\u00e0 nu\u00f4i d\u01b0\u1ee1ng. Hy v\u1ecdng duy nh\u1ea5t l\u00e0 tr\u00e8o l\u00ean m\u1ed9t chi\u1ebfc m\u00e1y bay cao h\u01a1n \u2013 \u0111\u1ec3 \u0111\u1ea1t t\u1edbi b\u1eafc \u00e1i sau \u0111\u00f3 l\u00e0 Kinh ng\u1ea1c.<\/p>\n B\u1eaeC \u00c1I:<\/p>\n B\u1eafc \u00e1i l\u00e0 m\u1ee9c \u0111\u1ed9 ti\u1ebfp theo cao h\u01a1n. N\u00f3 gi\u1ea3i quy\u1ebft t\u00e2m tr\u00ed thay v\u00ec th\u00e2n x\u00e1c. T\u00ecnh y\u00eau n\u00e0y \u0111\u1eb7t v\u00e0o c\u00e1 nh\u00e2n con ng\u01b0\u1eddi; tr\u00ed tu\u1ec7; t\u00ecnh c\u1ea3m v\u00e0 \u01b0\u1edbc nguy\u1ec7n.<\/p>\n B\u1eafc \u00e1i th\u00ec cao h\u01a1n t\u00ecnh \u00e1i, b\u1edfi n\u00f3 t\u1eadp trung v\u00e0o ni\u1ec1m hanh ph\u00fac c\u1ee7a \u201cch\u00fang t\u00f4i\u201d thay cho ni\u1ec1m h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac \u201cc\u1ee7a t\u00f4i\u201d. Th\u1eadt l\u00e0 \u00fd hay khi nh\u1eefng c\u1eb7p v\u1ee3 ch\u1ed3ng \u0111\u1ed1i x\u1eed v\u1edbi nhau nh\u01b0 b\u1ea1n b\u00e8. Tr\u01b0\u1edbc khi k\u1ebft h\u00f4n h\u1ecd c\u1ed1 g\u1eafng t\u00ecm ra h\u1ecd ch\u00e2n th\u00e0nh hay \u201cth\u00edch\u201d nhau. H\u1ecd c\u0169ng c\u1ed1 g\u1eafng t\u00ecm ra h\u1ecd th\u00edch nhau \u201cc\u00e1i g\u00ec\u201d. C\u0169ng quan tr\u1ecdng t\u01b0\u01a1ng t\u1ef1, h\u1ecd c\u1ed1 d\u00e0nh th\u1eddi gian \u0111\u1ec3 h\u1ecdc v\u1ec1 nh\u1eefng c\u00e1i l\u1ed7i nh\u1ecf, nh\u1eefng thi\u1ebfu h\u1ee5t v\u00e0 nhi\u1ec1u \u0111i\u1ec1u m\u00e0 l\u00e0m cho h\u1ecd b\u1ef1c m\u00ecnh. Th\u01b0\u1eddng th\u00ec nh\u1eefng c\u00e1i kh\u00f4ng ho\u00e0n thi\u1ec7n nho nh\u1ecf v\u00e0 t\u00ed t\u1eb9o n\u00e0y sau n\u00e0y l\u1ea1i l\u00e0 nguy\u00ean nh\u00e2n g\u00e2y ra s\u1ef1 b\u1ef1c m\u00ecnh v\u00e0 s\u1ef1 c\u0103ng th\u1eb3ng trong h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n. C\u00e1i t\u1eeb \u201cnh\u1ecf\u201d \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c quan ni\u1ec7m r\u1ea5t chu to\u00e0n. T\u1ea1i sao \u01b0? B\u1edfi nh\u1eefng l\u1ed7i l\u1ea7m l\u1edbn v\u00e0 nh\u1eefng kh\u00e1c bi\u1ec7t r\u00f5 r\u00e0ng s\u1ebd l\u00e0m cho nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi c\u00f3 li\u00ean quan ph\u1ea3i tr\u00e1nh xa ngay t\u1eeb l\u00fac kh\u1edfi \u0111\u1ea7u. Nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111ang y\u00eau cho ph\u00e9p h\u1ecd nh\u00ecn \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c nh\u1eefng \u0111i\u1ec1u nh\u1ecf b\u00e9. H\u1ecd kh\u00f4ng tin t\u01b0\u1edfng ho\u00e0n to\u00e0n r\u1eb1ng th\u1eddi gian s\u1ebd bi\u1ebfn \u0111\u1ed5i \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c ng\u01b0\u1eddi b\u1ea1n \u0111\u1eddi c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh. B\u00ean c\u1ea1nh m\u1ed9t c\u1ea3m gi\u00e1c v\u1ec1 nh\u1eefng v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 tr\u01b0\u1edfng th\u00e0nh h\u1ecd c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y n\u00f3 kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u00fang \u0111\u1ec3 ch\u00fa \u00fd m\u1ed9t c\u00e1ch th\u00e1i q\u00faa v\u00e0o nh\u1eefng \u0111i\u1ec1u nh\u1ecf nh\u1eb7t. Sau h\u1ebft nh\u1eefng l\u1ed7i nh\u1ecf l\u00e0 c\u00e1i \u0111\u1eb9p \u0111\u1ebd, h\u1ecd bi\u1ebft r\u1eb1ng kh\u00f4ng ai ho\u00e0n h\u1ea3o c\u1ea3. Nh\u01b0ng trong cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng c\u1ee7a \u0111\u1eddi s\u1ed1ng h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n h\u1ecd l\u1ea1i c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y s\u1ef1 c\u0103ng th\u1eb3ng\u00a0 t\u1eeb nh\u1eefng th\u1ee9 nh\u1ecf nhoi n\u00e0y. \u0110\u00f3 l\u00e0 t\u1ea1i sao th\u1eddi gian t\u00ecm hi\u1ec3u v\u00e0 vi\u1ec7c \u0111\u00ednh h\u00f4n l\u00e0 c\u1ea7n thi\u1ebft \u0111\u1ec3 suy ngh\u0129 c\u00e1ch \u0111\u1ed1i m\u1eb7t v\u1edbi nh\u1eefng c\u0103ng th\u1eb3ng n\u00e0y, c\u00e1i giam h\u00e3m c\u1ee7a m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 g\u1ea7n g\u0169i. \u0110\u00e2y c\u0169ng l\u00e0 l\u00fac nh\u00ecn ra c\u00e1ch \u0111i\u1ec1u h\u00e0nh gi\u1eefa \u201cl\u00fd tr\u00ed\u201d v\u00e0 \u201ct\u00ecnh c\u1ea3m\u201d.<\/p>\n Ch\u00fang ta th\u01b0\u1eddng nghe c\u00e2u th\u00e0nh ng\u1eef n\u00f3i r\u1eb1ng t\u00ecnh y\u00eau th\u00ec m\u00f9 qu\u00e1ng. Th\u1ef1c s\u1ef1 ch\u1ec9 t\u00ecnh \u00e1i m\u1edbi b\u1ecb m\u00f9 m\u1eaft th\u00f4i. T\u00ecnh \u00e1i nh\u1eafm m\u1eaft l\u1ea1i tr\u01b0\u1edbc nh\u1eefng l\u1ed7i l\u1ea7m, c\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u1ec3 xua \u0111u\u1ed5i c\u00e1i thi\u1ebfu v\u00e0 l\u00e0m cho h\u1ee3p l\u00fd h\u00f3a m\u1ecdi tr\u1edf ng\u1ea1i c\u00f3 th\u1ec3. B\u1eafc \u00e1i n\u00f3i c\u00e1ch kh\u00e1c l\u00e0 s\u1ef1 ch\u00e2n th\u1eadt v\u1ec1 nh\u1eefng g\u00ec \u0111ang hi\u1ec7n h\u1eefu v\u00e0 quy\u1ebft \u0111\u1ecbnh cho l\u00e0 n\u00f3 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 l\u00e0m cho lu m\u1edd nh\u1eefng thi\u1ebfu s\u00f3t v\u00e0 nh\u1eefng sai l\u1ea7m hay kh\u00f4ng, b\u1edfi s\u1ee9c m\u1ea1nh t\u01b0\u01a1ng ph\u1ea3n.<\/p>\n B\u1eafc \u00e1i gi\u1ea3i quy\u1ebft cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n m\u1ed9t c\u00e1ch h\u00e2n hoan v\u01b0\u1ee3t qua nh\u1eefng kh\u00f3 kh\u0103n v\u00e0 s\u1ef1 y\u1ebfu k\u00e9m c\u1ee7a s\u1ef1 \u201ccho v\u00e0 nh\u1eadn\u201d r\u1eb1ng l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t ph\u1ea7n c\u1ee7a cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng th\u01b0\u1eddng ng\u00e0y. Nhi\u1ec1u cu\u1ed9c h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c g\u1eafn cho c\u00e1i m\u00e1c h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac do x\u00e2y d\u1ef1ng d\u1ef1a tr\u00ean c\u01a1 s\u1edf c\u1ee7a b\u1eafc \u00e1i.<\/p>\n B\u1eafc \u00e1i l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t ki\u1ec3u t\u00ecnh y\u00eau n\u1eeda ch\u1eebng d\u1ef1a tr\u00ean \u201ccho m\u1ed9t \u00edt \u2013 nh\u1eadn m\u1ed9t \u00edt\u201d n\u00f3 l\u00e0 ki\u1ec3u ch\u1ea5p thu\u1eadn v\u00e0 mong \u0111\u1ee3i 50%-50%. C\u1eb7p v\u1ee3 ch\u1ed3ng c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 c\u00f3 m\u1ed9t cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n t\u1ed1t h\u01a1n mi\u1ec5n l\u00e0 m\u1ed7i b\u1ea1n \u0111\u1eddi mang l\u1ea1i h\u00e3y th\u1ef1c hi\u1ec7n vi\u1ec7c chia s\u1ebb c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh v\u00e0 gi\u1eef tr\u1ea1ng th\u00e1i c\u1ee7a cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng \u1ed5n \u0111\u1ecbnh h\u01a1n.<\/p>\n N\u1ebfu b\u1ea1n \u0111\u1eddi sai l\u1ea7m khi th\u1ef1c hi\u1ec7n s\u1ef1 chia s\u1ebb c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh hay n\u1ebfu t\u00ecnh h\u00ecnh cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng c\u0103ng th\u1eb3ng b\u1ea5t th\u01b0\u1eddng c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 x\u1ea3y ra (nh\u01b0 kh\u1ee7ng ho\u1ea3ng t\u00e0i ch\u00ednh, b\u1ec7nh hi\u1ec3m ngh\u00e8o, s\u1ef1 b\u1ea5t l\u1ef1c hay s\u1ef1 \u1ed1m y\u1ebfu k\u00e9o d\u00e0i; c\u0103ng th\u1eb3ng v\u1edbi ng\u01b0\u1eddi trong gia \u0111\u00ecnh v\u1ee3\/ch\u1ed3ng. c\u00f3 v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 v\u1ec1 t\u00ecnh d\u1ee5c, v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 v\u1edbi vi\u1ec7c nu\u00f4i d\u1ea1y con c\u00e1i\u2026 v.v. T\u00ecnh b\u1ea1n dung th\u1ee9 v\u00e0 b\u1eafc \u00e1i kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 l\u00e0m c\u0103ng th\u1eb3ng. N\u1ebfu t\u00ecnh h\u00ecnh t\u1ed3n t\u1ea1i qu\u00e1 l\u00e2u, b\u1eafc \u00e1i s\u1ebd tr\u1edf n\u00ean \u00edch k\u1ec9, h\u1ea1ch s\u00e1ch v\u00e0 t\u00ecnh b\u1ea1n tr\u1edf th\u00e0nh xung \u0111\u1ed9t.<\/p>\n Hy v\u1ecdng duy nh\u1ea5t cho cu\u1ed9c h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n b\u00ecnh an \u0111\u1ea7y \u0111\u1ee7 v\u00e0 th\u00e0nh c\u00f4ng v\u00e0 \u1ed5n \u0111\u1ecbnh th\u00ec ph\u1ea3i l\u1edbn l\u00ean trong chi\u1ebfc phi c\u01a1 cao h\u01a1n \u2013 Kinh ng\u1ea1c.<\/p>\n Kinh ng\u1ea1c:<\/p>\n Kinh ng\u1ea1c kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i t\u00ecm ki\u1ebfm s\u1ef1 tho\u1ea3i m\u00e1i nh\u01b0ng cho \u0111i m\u1ed9t c\u00e1ch vui s\u01b0\u1edbng. N\u00f3 kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c ph\u00e1t xu\u1ea5t do ph\u1ea9m h\u1ea1nh hay gi\u00e1 tr\u1ecb c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi nh\u1eadn nh\u01b0ng c\u00f3 ngu\u1ed3n g\u1ed1c t\u1eeb ch\u00ednh Ch\u00faa \u0111\u00e3 trao cho n\u00f3 c\u00e1i b\u1ea3n ch\u1ea5t t\u1ef1 nhi\u00ean. Kinh ng\u1ea1c c\u1ee9 ti\u1ebfp t\u1ee5c y\u00eau ngay c\u1ea3 k\u1ebb \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c nh\u1eadn kh\u00f4ng t\u1ecf ra s\u1ef1 bi\u1ebft \u01a1n, s\u1ef1 ch\u00fa \u00fd, v\u00e0 s\u1ef1 c\u1ea3m k\u00edch hay t\u00e0n nh\u1eabn v\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u00e1ng \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c kh\u00edch l\u1ec7 hay ch\u1eb3ng c\u00f3 ch\u00fat gi\u00e1 tr\u1ecb g\u00ec. Kinh ng\u1ea1c ch\u1ec9 mong \u01b0\u1edbc \u0111i\u1ec1u t\u1ed1t. N\u00f3 s\u1ed1ng v\u1edbi m\u1ee5c \u0111\u00edch l\u00e0 l\u00e0m cho ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac v\u00e0 tho\u1ea3i m\u00e1i, ch\u1eb3ng \u0111i\u1ebfm x\u1ec9a t\u1edbi vi\u1ec7c ph\u1ea3i hi sinh th\u1ebf n\u00e0o hay ph\u1ea3i hi sinh nh\u1eefng g\u00ec. Kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i cho \u0111i 50% v\u00e0 mu\u1ed1n nh\u1eadn l\u1ea1i 50% ng\u01b0\u1ee3c l\u1ea1i n\u00f3 cho \u0111i 100% v\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng c\u1ea7n \u0111\u00e1p tr\u1ea3. Kinh ng\u1ea1c tinh tuy\u1ec1n l\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng \u00edch k\u1ec9 v\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng t\u00ednh to\u00e1n. Tr\u01b0\u1eddng h\u1ee3p \u201ctrao m\u1ed9t \u00edt t\u00ecnh y\u00eau, nh\u1eadn m\u1ed9t \u00edt t\u00ecnh y\u00eau\u201d l\u00e0 s\u1ef1 gi\u1ea3 t\u1ea1o trong m\u1ee9c \u0111\u1ed9 c\u1ee7a Kinh ng\u1ea1c.<\/p>\n C\u00e1c b\u1ea1n h\u1ea7u nh\u01b0 ngh\u0129 r\u1eb1ng con ng\u01b0\u1eddi x\u00e1c th\u1ecbt kh\u00f4ng l\u00e0m \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c \u01b0?<\/p>\n \u0110\u00fang v\u1eady. Kh\u00f4ng ai tr\u00ean tr\u00e1i \u0111\u1ea5t r\u1ed9ng l\u1edbn n\u00e0y c\u00f3 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c c\u00e1i T\u00ecnh Kinh ng\u1ea1c tinh tuy\u1ec1n c\u1ea3 \u2013 ch\u1ec9 c\u00f3 Ch\u00faa. H\u01a1n t\u1ea5t th\u1ea3y, Ch\u00faa y\u00eau ch\u00fang ta. Nh\u01b0ng ch\u1eafc ch\u1eafn kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i v\u00ec Ch\u00faa \u1ea5n t\u01b0\u1ee3ng v\u1edbi nh\u1eefng kh\u1ea3 n\u0103ng t\u1ed1t c\u1ee7a ch\u00fang ta. Ch\u00faa y\u00eau ch\u00fang ta cho d\u00f9 t\u1ea5t c\u1ea3 nh\u1eefng l\u1ed7i l\u1ea7m, nh\u1eefng h\u00e8n k\u00e9m v\u00e0 nh\u1eefng chu\u1ed7i thi\u1ebfu s\u00f3t c\u1ee7a ch\u00fang ta, Ch\u00faa y\u00eau ch\u00fang ta v\u1edbi m\u1ed9t t\u00ecnh y\u00eau kinh ng\u1ea1c.<\/p>\n N\u1ebfu ch\u00fang ta c\u1ed1 g\u1eafng y\u00eau ai \u0111\u00f3 v\u00e0 nh\u1eefng n\u1ed7 l\u1ef1c c\u1ee7a ch\u00fang ta l\u1ea1i ng\u01b0\u1ee3c l\u1ea1i s\u1ef1 mong \u0111\u1ee3i, v\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c kh\u00f4ng y\u00eau l\u1ea1i ch\u00fang ta, ch\u00fang ta s\u1ebd c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y cay \u0111\u1eafng. \u0110\u00e2y l\u00e0 ph\u1ea7n b\u1ea3n ch\u1ea5t h\u00e8n k\u00e9m c\u1ee7a con ng\u01b0\u1eddi . To\u00e0n b\u1ed9 m\u1ee5c ti\u00eau l\u00e0 tr\u00e8o qua c\u00e1i b\u1ea3n t\u00ednh h\u00e8n k\u00e9m con ng\u01b0\u1eddi v\u00e0 sau \u0111\u00f3 l\u1edbn l\u00ean trong b\u1ea3n t\u00ednh thi\u00eang li\u00eang. L\u00e0m \u0111i\u1ec1u n\u00e0y, ch\u00fang ta c\u1ea7n ph\u1ea3i t\u1edbi s\u1ef1 gi\u00fap \u0111\u1ee1 c\u1ee7a Ch\u00faa. Tr\u00ed tu\u1ec7 c\u1ee7a ch\u00fang ta kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u1ee7. Hoa tr\u00e1i c\u1ee7a Ch\u00faa th\u00e1nh th\u1ea7n nh\u01b0 \u0111\u00e3 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c \u0111\u1ec1 c\u1eadp \u1edf trong\u00a0(Gatalians 5:22)<\/strong><\/span>\u00a0<\/strong>\u00a0c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 l\u00e0m cho ch\u00fang ta tr\u1edf th\u00e0nh m\u1ed9t con ng\u01b0\u1eddi m\u1edbi \u0111\u1ec3 ch\u00fang ta c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 y\u00eau trong c\u00e1ch cao h\u01a1n v\u00e0 cao th\u01b0\u1ee3ng h\u01a1n.<\/p>\n C\u1ea7n thi\u1ebft ph\u1ea3i n\u00f3i r\u1eb1ng ch\u00fang ta h\u00e3y m\u1edf r\u1ed9ng t\u00e2m h\u1ed3n m\u00ecnh v\u1edbi Ch\u00faa v\u00e0 cho ph\u00e9p Ch\u00faa l\u00e0m cho c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 c\u00f3 m\u1ed9t con \u0111\u01b0\u1eddng c\u1ee7a t\u00ecnh y\u00eau kinh ng\u1ea1c ti\u1ebfn t\u1edbi b\u1ea1n \u0111\u1eddi c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh. Ch\u00faa s\u1ebd d\u00f9ng s\u1ef1 quy ph\u1ee5c n\u00e0y v\u1ec1 \u01b0\u1edbc nguy\u1ec7n c\u1ee7a ch\u00fang ta \u0111\u1ec3 bi\u1ebfn \u0111\u1ed5i cu\u1ed9c h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n tan v\u1ee1 th\u00e0nh m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 k\u00ec di\u1ec7u \u2013 nh\u01b0 n\u00f3 v\u1ed1n c\u00f3.<\/p>\n \u0110\u00e2y l\u00e0 b\u1ed1n t\u1eeb m\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi Hy l\u1ea1p \u0111\u00e3 d\u00e0nh cho t\u00ecnh y\u00eau l\u00e0 Stergo. T\u1eeb n\u00e0y \u0111\u00e3 \u0111\u01b0\u01a1c d\u00f9ng \u0111\u1ec3 bi\u1ec3u th\u1ecb t\u00ecnh y\u00eau gi\u1eefa cha m\u1eb9 v\u1edbi con c\u00e1i \u0111\u00f3 l\u00e0 duy nh\u1ea5t v\u00e0 kh\u00e1c bi\u1ec7t. N\u00f3 th\u1ef1c s\u1ef1 kh\u00e1c h\u1eb3n v\u1edbi t\u00ecnh y\u00eau gi\u1eefa v\u1ee3 v\u1edbi ch\u1ed3ng hay \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng v\u1edbi ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef. Nh\u01b0 v\u1eady, Stergo gi\u1eefa cha m\u1eb9 v\u1edbi con c\u00e1i l\u00e0 \u0111i\u1ec1u g\u1ea7n g\u0169i nh\u1ea5t v\u1edbi T\u00ecnh Kinh ng\u1ea1c tr\u00ean m\u1ee9c \u0111\u1ed9 con ng\u01b0\u1eddi. Cha m\u1eb9 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 l\u00e0m m\u1ecdi th\u1ee9 \u0111\u1ec3 d\u00e0nh 100% v\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng mong \u0111\u1ec1n \u0111\u00e1p. \u00dd \u0111\u1ecbnh l\u00e0m t\u1ed1t m\u1ecdi vi\u1ec7c kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i \u0111\u1ec3 mong \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c \u0111\u00e1p tr\u1ea3, d\u00f9 n\u00f3 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c \u0111\u00e1nh gi\u00e1 cao v\u00e0 l\u00e0m cho t\u00e2m h\u1ed3n vui s\u01b0\u1edbng.<\/p>\n Stergo kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0 t\u1eeb ng\u1eef th\u00f4ng d\u1ee5ng trong ng\u00f4n ng\u1eef h\u00e0ng ng\u00e0y c\u1ee7a ch\u00fang ta, n\u00f3 l\u00e0 chi\u1ec1u k\u00edch c\u1ee7a t\u00ecnh y\u00eau, n\u00f3 kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0 \u0111\u1ec9nh cao v\u1ec1 \u201cki\u1ec3u suy ngh\u0129\u201d c\u1ee7a ch\u00fang ta. N\u00f3 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c bi\u1ebft \u0111\u1ebfn \u2013 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c hi\u1ec3u \u2013 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c th\u1ef1c h\u00e0nh \u2013 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c th\u1ea5y \u2013 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c d\u00e0nh t\u00f4n tr\u1ecdng v\u00e0 b\u1edfi s\u1ef1 thi\u1ebfu \u0111\u1ed9ng t\u1eeb d\u00e0nh cho n\u00f3 trong ng\u00f4n ng\u1eef h\u00e0ng ng\u00e0y c\u1ee7a ch\u00fang ta. N\u00f3 t\u1ed3n t\u1ea1i ngo\u00e0i qu\u00e1 tr\u00ecnh suy ngh\u0129 c\u1ee7a ch\u00fang ta. T\u1eeb n\u00e0y v\u1eafng b\u00f3ng khi c\u00f3 nh\u1eefng xung \u0111\u1ed9t x\u1ea3y ra gi\u1eefa m\u1eb9 ch\u1ed3ng v\u1edbi con d\u00e2u. Ngay c\u1ea3 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c gi\u00e1o d\u1ee5c r\u1ea5t t\u1ed1t nh\u01b0ng ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef v\u1eabn l\u00e0 n\u1ea1n nh\u00e2n c\u1ee7a s\u1ef1 thi\u1ebfu h\u1ee5t ki\u1ebfn th\u1ee9c n\u00e0y. T\u00ecnh y\u00eau c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi m\u1eb9 d\u00e0nh cho con trai m\u00ecnh kh\u00f4ng gi\u1ed1ng v\u1edbi t\u00ecnh y\u00eau c\u1ee7a m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi v\u1ee3 d\u00e0nh cho con trai c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi m\u1eb9 kia. Trong \u0111\u1ea7u c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd, c\u1ea3 hai \u0111\u1ec1u \u00fd th\u1ee9c \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c \u0111i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00f3, nh\u01b0ng trong tr\u00e1i tim c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd l\u1ea1i c\u00f3 s\u1ef1 x\u00e1o tr\u1ed9n b\u1edfi kh\u00f4ng ai c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 gi\u1ea3i th\u00edch \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c v\u1edbi h\u1ecd m\u1ed9t c\u00e1ch ch\u00ednh th\u1ee9c. Th\u00eam v\u00e0o s\u1ef1 l\u1ed9n x\u1ed9n n\u00e0y l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t y\u1ebfu t\u1ed1 \u201cghen t\u1ecb t\u1ef1 nhi\u00ean\u201d. C\u1ea3 b\u00e0 m\u1eb9 c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng v\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi v\u1ee3 c\u1ee7a \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng nh\u00ecn nhau nh\u01b0 nh\u1eefng \u0111\u1ed1i th\u1ee7 c\u1ee7a c\u00f9ng m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng. Hi\u1ec7n t\u01b0\u1ee3ng k\u00ec l\u1ea1 n\u00e0y \u0111\u1ed3ng th\u1eddi d\u1eabn chi\u1ebfu t\u1edbi nh\u01b0 \u201cs\u1ef1 ghen t\u1ef5 t\u1ef1 nhi\u00ean\u201d. H\u1ec7 th\u1ed1ng gi\u00e1o d\u1ee5c c\u1ee7a ch\u00fang ta l\u00e0 thi\u1ebfu tr\u00e1ch nhi\u1ec7m b\u1edfi tr\u1ecdng \u0111i\u1ec3m chi ph\u1ed1i t\u1ea5t c\u1ea3 nh\u1eefng ki\u1ebfm th\u1ee9c v\u1ec1 to\u00e1n h\u1ecdc v\u00e0 ng\u00f4n ng\u1eef v\u00e0 c\u00f4ng ngh\u1ec7 v\u00e0 nh\u1eefng th\u1ee9 khoa h\u1ecdc t\u1ed1t \u0111\u00f3. Nh\u01b0ng sao nh\u00e3ng nh\u1eefng chu\u1ea9n m\u1ef1c th\u00f4ng th\u01b0\u1eddng cho m\u1ed9t cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac v\u00e0 t\u01b0\u01a1i \u0111\u1eb9p. Ng\u01b0\u1eddi Hy L\u1ea1p \u0111\u00e3 l\u1ea5y t\u1eeb n\u00e0y v\u00e0 s\u1eed d\u1ee5ng n\u00f3 trong nhi\u1ec1u h\u00ecnh th\u1ee9c ph\u00f9 h\u1ee3p c\u00f3 \u00fd ngh\u0129a \u201cy\u00eau v\u1ec1 c\u00e1i\u2026\u201d v\u00ed d\u1ee5, \u201cphilostrogos\u201d \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c d\u00f9ng c\u00f3 ngh\u0129a l\u00e0 \u201chi\u1ebfn d\u00e2ng\u201d hay \u201castrogos\u201d \u0111\u1ec3 bi\u1ec3u th\u1ecb \u201ckh\u00f4ng th\u01b0\u01a1ng m\u1ebfn hay nh\u1eabn t\u00e2m\u201d. T\u1eeb Strogos ch\u00fang b\u1eaft ngu\u1ed3n t\u1eeb nh\u1eefng t\u1eeb \u0111\u1eb7c bi\u1ec7t \u0111\u1ec3 m\u00f4 t\u1ea3 t\u00ecnh y\u00eau anh em, ch\u1ecb em, con ng\u01b0\u1eddi v\u00e0 qu\u00ea h\u01b0\u01a1ng, vua Ch\u00faa v\u00e0 n\u00f4 l\u1ec7, con ng\u01b0\u1eddi v\u00e0 con v\u1eadt y\u00eau th\u00edch, con ng\u01b0\u1eddi v\u00e0 nh\u1ea1c v\u00e0 nhi\u1ec1u th\u1ee9c kh\u00e1c. \u00dd t\u01b0\u1edfng v\u1ec1 t\u00ecnh y\u00eau v\u1ec1 nh\u1eefng l\u0129nh v\u1ef1c ngo\u00e0i Eros; Philia v\u00e0 Agape v\u1eabn c\u00f2n m\u1ed1i li\u00ean quan t\u1edbi ng\u00e0y nay. Nh\u01b0ng nhi\u1ec1u ng\u00f4n ng\u1eef \u0111\u00e3 bi\u1ebfn \u0111\u1ed5i n\u00f3 nh\u01b0 nh\u1eefng g\u00ec ti\u1ebfng \u0110\u1ee9c \u0111\u00e3 m\u00f4 t\u1ea3 \u201cMaulfaul\u201d \u2013 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c d\u1ecbch l\u00e0 \u201cTr\u1ea7m l\u1eb7ng\u201d \u0111\u00e2y ch\u00ednh l\u00e0 l\u00ed do t\u1ea1i sao t\u1eeb Love \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c d\u00f9ng cho t\u1edbi t\u1eadn ng\u00e0y nay gi\u1ed1ng nh\u01b0 \u201ct\u00f4i y\u00eau em\u201d \u201ct\u00f4i y\u00eau Pizza\u201d. \u201cCh\u00e0o t\u00ecnh y\u00eau\u201d \u2026v.v<\/p>\n <\/p>\n ==============================<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n 11. \u00a0 LOVE<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n Love has always been a popular theme, including these days. We use the word very casually. We say, \u201cI love my wife\u201d, \u201cI love my children\u201d, \u201dI love my God\u201d, \u201cI love my car\u201d, \u201cI love my pizza.\u201d Apart from this ‘love\u2019 is also used to mean sex. In addition it is a greeting. The list of meanings and utilization stretches on and on. It is clear that the word obviously means many different things to many different people. It also means many different things to the same person.<\/span><\/p>\n In a Christian marriage, Love is the most important marriage ingredient. Like maturity, love is also a process and not a state. In the reality people do not, \u2018Fall in Love\u2019, Much rather they, \u2018Grow into love\u2019. Love involves cheerfully giving and wanting nothing in return. This process is part of the overall maturing process.<\/span><\/p>\n A baby needs love, otherwise it will die. It receives love, but it has none to give in return. The baby\u2019s sweet movements and cooing are often interpreted as expressions of love. They are in fact, only intuitive efforts to get food, comfort and self-gratification. Newborn babies only love themselves. As the baby grows up, it gradually becomes aware of the presence of other people and learns to love and interact. In the first line, it would be the mother he loves, because she feeds him; looks after him; gives him love, provides for all his wants. He gets first hand experience, through all the hours that he is awake and is able to feel her care.<\/span><\/p>\n Soon he becomes aware of his father, brother and sisters, relatives, friends and other people. Gradually he learns to love them in return. This process goes on and on until one day he will meet someone and he says, \u201cI Love You.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n Let us for a moment dwell on the subject of babies. All of us have very dear memories of our children or nephews, nieces, which we cherish. Sometime we ponder over these little beings that have come to stay with us and make themselves an important part of our life. When I think of our two children Ramona and Dominic and the enormous joy they brought to both of us, I unfurled my thoughts on paper.<\/span><\/p>\n The text read as follows:<\/p>\n \u201cWhen I think of all their amusing ways and experiences my heart floats high. The gift of such amusing ways and experiences are possible only with small, innocent children. It is with full thought that I have used the word, \u2018Gift\u2019 instead of saying children, do amusing things, or, have amusing ways. It is really their gift to us parents and grown-ups. When we think about it, small children can do relatively little. They cannot do book keeping, they cannot drive a bulldozer; they cannot settle business matters. Even with regard to themselves, they can do little. But, what they can do is to radiate joy and happiness. And this they do in very unpredictable manner. The dear Lord must have known their limitations and had them close to His heart. May be he wanted to give them something at all cost. And Then! —<\/p>\n \u201cHe thought: They shall become small ambassadors of Joy and Happiness. Joy is not an understood attribute, nor is it the only possible one. There could have been other attributes. Actually if we go to see, this attribute of imparting joy is a truly remarkable gift that God gave to babies, because how else can they keep on motivating us adults.<\/p>\n A small baby actually strives to earn his food and other life\u2019s requirements. What we find as cuddly is in fact a remarkable way, which speaks volumes of God\u2019s multi-faceted endowment that He bestowed on them. If we stop and think, God thought and provided the small-inexperienced baby a method by which he could earn his bread. And what did God think of as a mode of currency? – Joy! Happiness! —<\/p>\n \u201cYes, God provided the baby with the ability to bring Joy and Happiness as the mode of currency. He provided them with a universally recognizable and wished for commodity. The equally great wonder is that He enabled grown-ups to feel these baby acts and striving. We perceive the acts, but don\u2019t really consider it as striving. We interpret it as learning. We feel the baby is cute. What is truly remarkable is that these feelings are one of love, not pity. The currency that God gives to a baby is extremely effective. It brings the grown-up joy, happiness, and motivation to keep on tending to the baby\u2019s needs day after day. It motivates parents and grown-ups, to look after them, with love, in spite of all the endless number of sleepless nights. God thought of all that! In a way we have to say, Hats off to the baby, because he actually uses this wonderful method to earn his bread. It actually cost the baby quite an effort to master this art of living. Encouragement is what is needed to keep the baby\u2019s efforts up. It is these acts of joy and happiness that slowly become acts of love as the baby grows up.\u201d<\/p>\n Back to adult life, in many modern languages, we have only one word to describe the aspects of love. It is however, interesting to know that the ancient Greeks used four words to describe the different kinds of love. They are:<\/p>\n EROS \u00adrefers to body love. It is often used to express sexual love. The word ‘Erotic\u2019, is derived from the word, Eros.<\/p>\n PHILIA \u00ad refers to the next higher form of love; it centers more on the mind rather than the body.<\/p>\n AGAPE \u00ad does not seek anything for itself, but rather it is oriented towards giving. It derives pleasure in doing well and giving to others. This is also the highest form of Love.<\/p>\n Briefly the elaboration of these three forms of love can be described as:<\/p>\n In order to bring out the differences between the different kinds of love, the analogy for the Eros would sound like this: \u201cI love you because you make me happy.\u201d <\/strong>This form of love is happy because of certain characteristics in the other person. It is these characteristics, that makes one feel is nice, for example:<\/p>\n Beauty, gracefulness, hospitality, talent. If the niceness producing characteristics are removed for any reason, nothing much is left, and this form of love dies. This form of love seeks primarily what it can get. Maybe it will give something but the motive is always to get something in return. If the reward does not come, this love turns bitter, hateful or resentful.<\/p>\n Unfortunately many young people choose their life\u2019s partners almost exclusively on the basis of Eros. Emotional bindings on the basis of body properties reach their full potential very fast and the intensity of the Eros is mistaken for true love. Even when the marriage partners do not know each other so well; they insist that their love is durable. They are inclined to use statements like, \u201cOur love will never die.\u201d or, \u201cOur love will carry us through all storms.\u201d Unfortunately this does not happen in most cases. It does not work for the simple reason, that it was not \u201ctrue love\u201d in the first place. The Romantic Bubble, bursts the moment one realizes that the \u2018Ideal partner\u2019 is nowhere near ideal. In fact, these people are quite shocked that the partner has a collection of faults like thoughtlessness, rudeness, inattentiveness and to top it all, is even vastly unromantic.<\/p>\n Since neither partner got what is expected, they will most probably come by the idea to, \u201cCall it quits\u201d, and soon yet another marriage will join the already overflowing bin of broken marriages.<\/p>\n Pre-marriage counseling is very important<\/strong>, because often major problem areas surface under the professional, \u2018excursion\u2019 that a Counselor will take them through in forms of case games. The Counselor should, as honestly and as tactfully as possible convey his findings. This is difficult, but necessary, because the young people are so fully convinced that their love is one that Golden Anniversaries are made up of. It is particularly because of this reason, they do not see the pit falls. When someone makes them aware of other people\u2019s marriage problems, these cautions are taken by them with a shoulder shrug because they are so fully caught up with the idea that, \u201cMarriage breakdowns are possible for others. . . Poor things. . . But in our case our love is forever.\u201d<\/p>\n They do many things to make themselves attractive. They buy new clothes, perfumes, and a new car. . . . This is an exaggerated form of placing value to satisfy the Eros. In many cases it is this, \u2018Financial Spiral\u2019 or \u2018Must- Impress spiral\u2019 which brings on its own, stress component in the marriage. After all, can anyone afford everything that he \/ she feels is so vital to satisfy the Eros? And then, can they carry these efforts on endlessly, month after month? The Eros will always instill the craving for \u2018More, More and Still More\u2019 The Eros places tremendous pressure on, \u2018One Up-Manship\u2019.<\/p>\n Eros\u2019 prime goal is the body. So, it fosters \u2018The Play Boy philosophy\u2019 which is, \u2018Eros in Action\u2019, where the note is on: Men need pleasure and women are sex toys.<\/p>\n No relationship that is built up exclusively on the basis of the body can last indefinitely over a period of time. Body desires are subject to satisfaction and interest wanes as soon as satisfaction is attained. If the mind and spiritual love is not also present, the relationship will crumble rapidly.<\/p>\n Marriage that are built up exclusively on the bases of the Eros will in all probability, run into problems right from the start.<\/p>\n Courtship and Engagement are necessary to cultivate the mind and spiritual love<\/strong>. This bond of love is what the couple will bring with them into marriage. When it happens this way, wedding is the crowning glory. If this was not as it should be, the wedding will become a worn out link in a chain of crumbling togetherness maneuvers.<\/p>\n Most people, regardless of how well educated they are, fall into the gross misconception that Courtship and Engagement are to cultivate the body satisfactions. They use this period like a \u2018Test Ride Experience\u2019. They also have a, \u2018Try before you buy philosophy\u2019. Often the reasoning seems to differ between the male and the female. The man often feels it is handy and convenient to have body gratification close at hand when ever the urges arise. If it is available, there is no need of marriage. He then considers marriage as just a formality. The woman on the other hand looks at the arrangement as, perhaps, a means to get the man to marry her. If she doesn\u2019t, other females will have no qualms to swoop in, and make themselves available. These couples may eventually get a formal marriage but the note is always, \u201cHe was not really for it, even though I was most enthusiastic. \u2013 Technically, he just showed up and did what ever was necessary for MY wedding.\u201d A statement like this clearly reveals that in essence, it was HER wedding but not THEIR wedding. Marriages of this kind do not last. They maybe maintained for the sake of society, for the Kids etc. Unless the couple can cultivate the mind<\/strong> and the spiritual<\/strong> dimensions these marriages are doomed to failure. The biggest deterrent to advancement is that many people believe they are educated and have full mastery over matters of the mind<\/strong>. Intellectually, they are very capable people, and they can hold very qualified professional jobs, but in marriage it is the mind mixed with the heart and the emotion<\/strong>. It is with the combination<\/strong> of mind, heart and emotions, where they lack maturity. Marriage Training is a gross omission on the part of our education system and a sad omission on the part of the parental upbringing. Often due to the fact, that parents did not make time to talk with the children. There are many excuses that are made, like \u201cWe were so busy making ends meet, so we had no time.\u201d It is very possible that people work a lot, \u201cTime has to be Made.\u201d These children are yours to make or to mar \u2013 What kind of an answer will you have on judgment day?<\/p>\n There is one other major disaster with the \u2018Try before you Buy philosophy, and the Test Rides\u2019. You may think you are smart and you are working towards making an informed decision. The sad reality is: The relationship was worked upon with SIN. The sum total of all derivations was obtained through ADULTRY and\/or FORNICATION. The validity of the experimentations are improper. Furthermore, there is a \u2018hook\u2019,<\/strong> that hook is that the \u2018Seeds\u2019 of marriage disaster<\/strong> have already been sown. Whether they germinate and take root is another question. The potential for future disaster, however, has been planted and lurking. <\/strong>Please see the Chapter on SIN, especially the text on THE RAMIFICATION OF SIN.<\/p>\n Many people when they read some thing putting down pre-marital sex, it produces two entirely opposite reactions. If they are not married and young, they think this is all NONSENSE. If their marriage is on the rocks, they think why didn\u2019t some tell us all this before? This is where the sad part is. There are a lot more media influences to propagate promiscuity than there are to promote virtue. There are any number of TV series aired on multiple channels for weeks and years, raking up to 1 million dollars per episode. Their episodes show un-married young people sharing apartments and living together as housemates. It seems each has had a romp with the other at some time or the other. They also sprinkle a few same- sex oriented characters in between. When these series go on week after week, they slowly move social and moral values towards \u2018acceptance\u2019. The media can be a very effective Brain Washing Tool. All the while these series and other forms of propaganda, give the allusion that they are improving the elevations of the mind, when in effect, they possess the potential of making cretins out of whole groups of people. As these TV serials are circulated, the corruption is happening both on a national as well as an international level. The viewer-ship is so high, that ad agencies can easily convince their client to finance up to a million dollars per episode. Subtly, the spread reaches epidemic proportions. Without any doubt many will fall and be convinced that moral laxity is the norm of life.<\/p>\n Most people who follow the Eros only, have in a way, put religion and God on the back burner. Their conscience troubles them, so they rationalize good values away and make excuses to carry on and satisfy the Eros.<\/p>\n In addition, to this moral de-generation, is the fact that our so-called custodians of education have removed Religion and Moral instruction from the school curriculum. By doing this they have literally robbed children and their parents of the fundamental right to correct education, upbringing and the future of the subsequent generations. This damage is not easily correctable because later, even if society tries to bring religion back into the school system, there will not be \u2018good\u2019 teachers. The person trying to teach will not have a foundation based on faith. Intellect or academics is by no means the \u2018answer\u2019 to communicate faith.<\/p>\n If you have made the dreadful mistakes of an Eros filled marriage, there is still hope \u00ad Love can grow! But it does not grow by itself. It must be cultivated and nurtured. The only hope is to climb on to the next higher plane \u00ad to reach the Philia and then on wards to the Agape.<\/p>\n The Philia is the next higher level. It deals with the mind instead of the body<\/strong>. This love centers on the human personality; the intellect; the emotions and the will.<\/p>\n Philia is higher than the Eros, because it revolves around the, \u201cOur\u201d happiness<\/strong> instead of \u201cMy\u201d<\/strong> happiness<\/strong>. It is a good idea when the married couples behave like friends. Before marriage they try to find out whether they truly, \u2018like\u2019 each other. They also try to find out \u2018what\u2019 and, \u2018why\u2019 they like each other. Even equally important they try to spend time to learn about the small faults, shortcomings and things, which annoy them. Often it is these small and tiny imperfections that cause so much irritation and strain later in marriage. The word, \u2018small\u2019 is to be viewed very conscientiously. Why? Because big faults and glaring differences, will keep the concerned people apart, right from the start. But people in love make allowances to over look small things. They unconsciously believe that in time they will reform the partner. Besides in a sense of mature reasoning they feel it is not right to give undue attention to small things; after all small faults are petty, they know that no one is perfect. But in the routine of living a married life, they feel the strain of these, small things. That is why courtship and engagement time is necessary to consider how to cope up with these strains, in the confines of a close relationship. This is the time to see how to manage between, \u2018reasoning\u2019 and \u2018feeling\u2019.<\/p>\n We often hear the expression, Love is blind. In the reality only Eros is blind. Eros closed the eyes to faults, laughs short falls away and rationalizes every possible obstacle. Philia on the other hand is honest about what exists and decided whether it is able to overshadow the shortcomings and faults, by a contrasting strength.<\/p>\n Philia resolves to cheerfully live the marriage through, in spite of difficulties and weaknesses of the, \u201cGive and Take\u201d that is part of the everyday life. Many marriages, which people label as happy marriage are built up on the bases of the Philia.<\/p>\n Philia is a kind of a halfway love based on, \u201cGive a little – Take a little.\u201d It is a kind of 50%\u00ad 50% agreement or expectation. Couples can have a rather good marriage as long as each partner brings or does his \/ her share \u00ad and<\/span> the life’s situation remain rather stable.<\/p>\n If a partner fails to bring in his \/ her share, or if an unusually stressful life’s situation should occur (like a financial crisis, severe sickness, prolonged inability or disability; tension with the In-laws, sex problems, problems with bringing up children, etc. The friendship suffers and Philia cannot take the strain. If the situation continues for too long, Philia becomes selfish, demanding and friendship turns into conflict.<\/p>\n The only hope for a stable and successful and fully peaceful marriage is to grow into the next higher plane \u00ad The Agape.<\/p>\n The Agape does not seek pleasure for itself instead it delights in giving<\/strong>. It is not sparked on by the merit or worth of the recipient, but rather it originates from its own God given nature. Agape keeps on loving even when the recipient shows no gratitude, attention, and appreciation or is unkind and unrewarding or totally unworthy. Agape wishes only good. It lives for the purpose of making others happy and comfortable, regardless of how much it costs, or what sacrifices it has to make. It does not give 50% and expect 50% in return. On the contrary, it gives 100 % and expects nothing in return. Pure Agape is fully unselfish and uncalculating. A case \u201cGive some love, Get some love\u201d is Pseudo in Agape level.<\/p>\n You are most probably thinking, this is humanly impossible!<\/p>\n That is correct. No one in the whole wide Earth is purely Agape \u00ad only God. In all certainty, God loves us. But this is certainly is not because He is impressed with our abilities. God loves us in spite of all our faults, weakness and string of shortcoming. God loves us with an Agape love.<\/p>\n If we try to love someone and our efforts backfire, and the other person does not love us in return, we feel bitter. This is part of our fallen human nature. The whole purpose is to climb over this fallen human nature and then to grow into a divine nature. To do this, we need God\u2019s help. Our intellect is just not enough. The fruits of the Holy Spirit as mentioned in (Galatians 5:22)<\/strong><\/span> can make a new person out of us, so that we can love in a higher and nobler way.<\/p>\n It is necessary that we open our hearts to God and allow Him to enable the path of Agape love towards the partner. He will use this surrender of our Will to transform the broken marriage into a wonderful relationship\u00ad as it was meant to be.<\/p>\n There is a fourth word the Greeks had for love, is STERGO<\/strong>. This word was used to denote the love of between parents and children. This love is a category all by itself. There is a bond between a parent and child that is unique and different. It is entirely different than the love between husband and wife or man and woman. In a way, the STERGO between parent and child is the closest thing to the AGAPE on a human level. A parent may try to do everything possible to give 100% and expect nothing in return. The intent of doing well is not for good to be done in return, even though it is highly appreciated and it gladdens the heart.<\/p>\n The Stergo is not a common word in our every day language, and this dimension of love is not uppermost in our \u201cThinking Pattern.\u201d It is known \u2013 It is understood \u2013 It is practiced \u2013 It is seen \u2013 It is appreciated and yet because of its lack of verbal usage in our every day language, it remains outside our thought process. It is the absence of this word that has give rise to a lot of Mother-in-Law and Daughter-in-Law conflicts. Even very well educated women fall a victim to this knowledge deficiency. The love of a mother for her son is not the same as the love a wife has for that lady\u2019s son. In their heads they both know that, but in their hearts, there is confusion because no body explained that to them formally. Added to this confusion is the factor of \u2018Natural Jealousy\u2019. Both the Mother of the man and the wife see each other as rivals for the same man. This strange phenomena is some times referred to as \u2018Natural Jealousy\u2019. Our education system is to blame because the focus is to impart all kinds of knowledge on mathematics and language and technology and the rest of those good sciences. But it has neglected the common essentials of a good and happy life.<\/p>\n The Greeks took this word and used it in many compound forms to mean, \u201cLove of—-\u201c, for example, \u201cPhilostrogos\u201d which could be used to mean \u201cDevoted\u201d, or \u201cAstrogos\u201d is used to denote, \u201cUnloving or Heartless\u201d. From the Strogos they derived specific words to describe the love of brothers, sisters, man and his country, king and slave, man and pet, man and music and so on. The idea of love for areas other than the Eros; Philia and Agape are relevant even to day. But many languages have become what the German language has described as \u201cMaulfaul\u201d; – the translation is \u201cLazy Mouthed\u201d. This is the reason why the word LOVE is used the way it is. 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